My ex husband admitted to me that he has never felt anything…he said his whole life he watched others and learned how to act empathetic but he could never feel empathy. Hence the “ex” husband. My marriage counselor told me to “jump off the Titanic”before I went down with the ship. This video describes him. He is very handsome and charming, yet cruel, always the victim, and a self-proclaimed pathological liar. When people tell you who they are, believe them. I learned the hard way.
My ex-husband is the same. Unfortunately, we had a child, and once he couldn't successfully antagonize me, he turned his attention to our child. It was an 18-year nightmare compounded by a family court system that he manipulated to his advantage. We've been no contact with him for a year, and both of us are in intense therapy. When we were dating, he told me he wanted to have the light in my eyes. At the time, I interpreted that as him wanting to have the light, too. I later realized he meant he wanted to take my light. He didn't succeed, but he came close.
Ohhh! You just described my ex too! Admitted to being a Pathological liar and was proud of how stubborn he was. "No one is more stubborn than I am!" And Chuckles. Loved being Passive Aggressive. It is such a relief to find out it's not you and getting control back in your life. Realizing my lack of Healthy Boundaries was drawing narcissists and discovering my deal breakers for my own Healthy Boundaries is empowering! Hallelujah! GOD bless you! Life of discovery is a journey so worth taking!
@@luper432 Yes! Man, himself! GOD gave Free will to do Good or evil. None of us have to read the Bible to know what the consequences will be! It is innate. 💌
that is true ! my mother was always so happy whenever i was sick or having a hard time! she would tell oders "my poor daughter was so sick in hospital" and you could literally see her mouth water with a certain smile as she said it. being a mother of 2 that is something i still can not understand
I told my brother once when I was dating a malignant narcissist, that if I ever talk to her again slap the shit out of me I never got slapped so I went back and I’m telling you this is not the life you want. I had years of pain and stress but I’m a little better now pray for me.🙏🏿
Run away as fast as you can and never look back. Don’t try to save others, it won’t work and it will only make your life worse. Everyone has to learn their own lessons and a narcissist will teach you an essential one. People only ‘get it’ when they experience it first hand. Be there to support them on the end of it. That’s when they’ll need you the most and they’ll be ready to hear your wisdom as they begin their recovery. The funny thing about narcissism is that people in their orbit won’t believe anything negative about the narcissist and they truly believe they will be the exception… until it’s their turn. No one is ever safe.
Yes. It’s a crushing weight. My grown children blame me For his treatment, but love him and despise me. I’m strong and got away, but my adult children think he’s a god.
@@TyndalicMy adult children have been completely brainwashed by their Father and his many criminal co-conspirators. They told me that they would never believe me, until he and others start being arrested for the many crimes/frauds they have committed against me and against the United States. It has been heartbreaking but I have to stay strong and remember that he and his many criminal co-conspirators have no conscience, no empathy and must be arrested and prosecuted, to the fullest extent of the law. I try to keep in mind at all times that my children have been brainwashed, since their birth, to believe things that I discovered are not true. I will choose to love my children through it all, despite how hateful they act towards me because I clearly can see what is coming and how they have been manipulated, controlled and used against me throughout the years. I will fully love and support my children to let them know that I am always emotionally available for them to love them unconditionally, which I think is and will be helpful. I will put up strong boundaries to protect myself from hurtful insults, etc., while still loving them and letting them know that when they need me, I will be available to love them. I won't be anyone's doormat. It is so hard when the Narcissist uses your children as their pawns to hurt you and retaliate against you.
@@Godcomes1 I am sorry that she didn't believe you. Unfortunately, until she experiences such evil for herself, she probably won't believe you. It is such a hard thing to wrap one's mind around that such evil people exist just to cause unnecessary pain and suffering. But they do, in fact, exist and I do believe you, for whatever it's worth. I wish you well on your healing journey.
Satan and 1/3 of his followers were thrown out of Heaven for rebellion against GOD! They were thrown down to earth, and here is where they roam, seeking whom they may destroy.
I know him.😈.. cut it completely off when he left 'for a while'. I was waiting patiently. Everyone said he wouldn't leave. Then one day, he made up a lie so he could sleep around and then come back. I changed the locks the VERY next day. Waited until he picked a fight with me, tactic used by narcs giving them a reason/justification to cheat. I ended that insult with a 'do not contact me ever again in life' reply. I never responded after that. Blocked, no returned messages/emails, nothing! 🤞to them all. Not a harem woman, definitely not stupid... and sucks he spent his 💰 getting attention thinking he was going to come back and retire on me and my hard work; after running around, dropping it low and spreading them wide!! 🤣😂 NO NOT HAPPENING!
When you come in contact with such a personality, and you make it through the trauma, know that God has plans for you. Your character will be forged in the fires of hell!!! 🙏🏼🔥💪🏾 🌱
İ believe i am really special person. İ survived 2 of the same type at once. İ still cant believe how I got my self in such a condition.. but I survived
@@userofyoutube123 if you have these experiences behind you, then you have accomplished much more than just "survive"!!! I am still in a fog and have good days and bad days. It has been 2 and a half years since police intervened. I loved my wife with all my heart (or dilusion of wife) and it probably would have ended in something far more serious. I am grateful it did not. Userofyoutube, I am very grateful for your message, your strength and your courage. Thank-you. 🙏🏼🔥💪🏾 🌱🎅
@@xoxo-vp7ww I promise you, on my soul, if you have traveled (or presently traveling) through this experience, and you have learned that you were born a miracle, you will live in a reality no narcissist will ever attain. You were born "light"......that is why you attracted "darkness". YOU ARE THE LIGHT!!! Never forget that! 🙏🏼🔥💪🏾 🌱
@@xoxo-vp7ww this hurts me the most.. because is someone asks why did they do it then. My answer is for nothing or i dont know or they are sick. For people who doesnt know anything about narsists its abnormal. Most of the time they think you are very weak and thats why you telling it like it was horrible :/
You do need to leave.. The damage of rhe stress in dealing with them hurts our brains, heart, liver and more... Get out ASAP. Stay as calm as possible.
Both of my parents were narcissist, my daughter is a narcissist, and my last two relationships were with narcissists. The last one was a malignant narcissist. Not only did I go to hell and back with this narcissist, but a judge whom he had court with even told him that he was unfit for society. The things that he did and said, (I thought), could only come from the mouth of a demon. 😈 Now I am in recovery & therapy...healing slowly one day at a time
@@FloraandYuna not always true! My husband of 13 years comes from two narc patents. They are truly horrific ppl. My husband is a beautiful person that has spent his life healing from them.
Narcissism is a cause of childhood trauma. If your daughter is truly a narc, that's concerning to hear coming from the person who raised her... Being the enabling parent is probably the best case scenario in that case. Seeking healing and therapy is admirable, but maybe broadcasting that you raised a narc should be set aside for now. Introspection is never a bad thing either.
My mom is a malignant narcissist. After I became sick with ms, she started telling everyone the most horrible straight up lies about me. I had no idea, until now that’s she’s in a nursing home, people are telling me what they were told for years about me. I’m devastated. I can’t imagine why a mother would trash her daughter who’s sick like that. Has anybody gone through this?
Sorry for you. I had same type Of so called Mother. Which Is too good of a name for her. She tried many times to Ruin my life, both mentally And physically . Hopefully She is out of your life .
I have discovered that my Mother is a Malignant Narcissist/Sociopath, along with my ex and others. They are getting great pleasure out of hurting me. They literally stole my life from me, stole my identity, committed massive crimes and frauds, using my stolen identity and forced me into filing bankruptcy, without me knowing what they had done to me and/or were doing to me. They also cost me my children, my home, my pension, my health and overall well-being and my freedom of movement, without legal justification and/or cause. They have made multiple attempts against my life, thus far. They have been and still are human trafficking me for their personal and/or financial gains, since I was around 2 years old. I am now 64 years old and I am still, to this very day, being human trafficked as an unwilling domestic servant (slave)/unwilling tax deduction, against my will. I literally have significant internal injuries from my head to my toes and everywhere in between that have never been properly treated. They have the assets. They have the money. They have my children, which are all grown now, but wasn't when they were ILLEGALLY taken from me. They have brainwashed my children against me, souch so, that my children refuse to acknowledge me anymore. I am talking about millions of dollars in money and/or assets, not some small amount of money, confirmed as actual fact by multiple Federal Agencies. Yet, I am still being punished and I am still being Deprived of My Rights, Under Color of Law, by their many Corrupt Co-Conspirators. I am being tortured for reporting what I discovered, giving actual, undeniable, hard evidence. I am a woman who has never, in my entire life, experienced true freedom. I have been stalked and oppressed, since my birth, 64 years now. For over 42 years now, they have been stealing my identity and committing massive crimes and frauds. If I had ever had the money and/or assets that they claimed that I had, I could have had an extraordinary life and excellent health, which I haven't had. Instead, I have been forced, against my will, into a life of total and complete poverty, poor health and extreme misery, against my will. I have been punished for being born to a Mother who never wanted me to begin with. I am pro-choice on Abortion Rights. I wish that my Mother would have had the option to abort me instead of being forced, against her will, into giving birth to me, just so she could human traffick me and torture me literally to death. While it is true that my parents could have put me up for adoption, they would never have done such a thing because it would have tarnished their good reputation. I have literally seen hundreds of photos of my birth sister throughout the years, which was a planned pregnancy. I have literally seen 1 photo of me as a baby, just 1. In that 1 photo, I was upside down, with my dress half over my head and my diaper being changed, so you really can't see much of me in that 1 photo. In fact, when I had a child that looked just like me, I didn't know she looked like me, until she was older, because I had never seen a photo of myself as a baby. All of my children were planned pregnancies. I have always wanted to be a Mother, since I was a very young child. I parented my children completely differently than my parents did to me. God blessed me with 3 beautiful, healthy children and a very real worldwide organized crime group illegally took them from me. I am so sorry that you have experienced such tragedy. Your Mother deserves to rot in a prison cell, instead of a nursing home, for her abuse of you. I hope you now have all of the love and support that you need. It is important that you have love, respect and support for your health and well-being to improve. I hope your health and life improves and people will see that your Mother has lied about you.
Not alone. In my aunts words, my mom paints me as an oager to everyone in my family. Why? I have no idea. The things I could say about her and I don’t.
They can't be delivered, they are wired backwards, imagine if someone tried to deliver you from Jesus. If you show them love, they feel disgust. If they hurt someone, it brings them joy. They are very dangerous and only a miracle from God could change them.
Ruining our lives is what gives their lives pleasure and meaning. They are their own victim, but only if the scapegoat goes no-contact. It may take a lifetime for their evil to catch up with them, but if the scapegoat escapes, the narcissist is finally accountable for their actions.
That is why they refuse to allow the scapegoat to escape. They are terrified of being held accountable for their wrongful, criminal actions towards the scapegoat and shamed as a result of their criminal behaviors being brought to light.
All 3 she described is my baby father…. Literally. For example I lost my parents on my birthday and all he said was “I’m sorry” and proceeded to abuse me and then kicked me out of our home. Another example is I became pregnant and lost our baby and he didn’t have any remorse, he proceeded to cheat and mentally abuse me. Told me I’ll get you a dog instead…. I was so young and unguided back then. Gracefully I gained the wisdom to move forward and have a lil contact with him as possible to barely none at all
I am married to one such malignant and violent narc, 8 years of unbelievable abuse, violence and manipulation. I was not talking to my entire family for 5 years, he wanted to migrate to Canada with me, somehow I stopped the immigration, as I dreaded living so far away from my family, even if they were not talking to me. Last year I started to learn about narcissistic personalities and with 8 years of data with me i knew it has to end. Got my family back, with their support filed for a domestic violence and got a restraining order, got a job and am in process of reclaiming and rebuilding my life. I faced a lot of backlash from people around me, but I'm happy.
That's the type I divorced....22 years ago, and he is still trying to make our adult kids abuse my life...and he called my husband last year to 'stir the pot'....to get between me and my husband. He's like something that came from hell....he loves to be destructive.
Yes, me. I'd rather be kind & loving to a real animal than to be turned into a doormat again by 1 more fake friend, fake lover, or fake relationship. I'll just deal with the real animals bcuz they don't lie.
Im dealing wit it with my mother 😰 she almost drove me to my death bed but i started doing my research on narcissistic personalities. Now i try to ignore her while she torments me but she ends up doing something that will make me blow up everytime.
@@StillAlive-t8e From my experience, the best thing you can is what’s called “grey rock”, take your power back by not fuelling them with your ~emotions~. The less emotion the less they have to feed off of you. They’re what’s known as “energy vampires” and they will suck you dry if YOU ALLOW it. Don’t forget, you hold the power, the energy, the light. Take it back. From a higher perspective, you’re being taught over and over again - bc indeed it’s a cycle, to set boundaries and through the cycles, you only learn to set stronger boundaries. Be forgiving and compassionate with yourself because they know how to trigger you and most likely it will continue to happen until you learn their tricks and your own triggers & how to heal them. It time to be your own mother. I send you love, light & strength. 🙏🏼❤️
I was with a malignant narcissist for 2 years until 3 months ago. I will never understand how I allowed this devil to infiltrate my soul. Their only treatment is death imo. There is literally nothing else that can work, and they literally break and destroy every person they touch.
My family member has a child with one of these people. Very abusive, controlling manipulative a whole damn mess and that family is the same way. No one sees it as a problem except for me and my family.i stay in prayer because im concerned about that baby and my family member.thanks for the clarity when i comes to this type of personality disorder.
I know this well. It’s painful and the lack of empathy hurts even more. Cruel and sadistic outbursts and words. Abuse on all levels and never realizes or admits their blind rage and how one is beaten down by their actions. They actually blame you and tell everyone you are a liar. They immobilize you and enjoy to see you suffer or they neglect you. They have no clue that they have hated you and wanted nothing to do with you besides have control over you and get off on it. Constant love/hate relationship that increases one’s stress levels and debilitates you. By the time they leave you are ruined, drained and exhausted to the core through and through.
I was married to this person for 40 years He died 7 years ago. Thru therapy I'm trying to find me But after all most my life I don't know know who I am.
Wow this is proof God never leaves us, I'm finding out this is what my children and I dealt with for 10 years and by God's Grace we made it through the 10 years were released and we are healing and moving on. Praise God all Glory be to God
@@dorib.3367 when he ghosted 1 of the several times I made the decision it was LAST time and changed locks on the house and locked him out of my life. The only communication is our daughter and I keep that very strict. It was the hardest decision I feel I've made but it needed to be done. Sending you Love, Strength and Prayers Thank You for your kindness 💕
@@dorib.3367 I didn't work in 12 years and within 1 month of him being gone God Blessed me with 2 great jobs and friends. He left 4/20 I was hired 5/20 and I am probably the healthiest physically than I've ever been, emotionally, mentally and spiritually I am relieved, still healing BUT at peace and happiness. I am praying for you and sending you so much love and strength Friend 💕💞🙏
My sisters took my mother 'out', so they are in this ball of wax! Now the second sister is suing the rest of us for my mother's house. Denied us access and been enjoying it for the past 7 years with her family. Going no contact has been the peace I have been seeking all my life! Still healing but loving my life now! So grateful I didn't waste my life with the flying monkeys, smearing, and drama! Hallelujah! 🥳
This is the one I dated. He lied about everything to get what he wanted, cheated repeatedly, tried to control not only me but anyone that got near him, stole from my mother, paid his decent children minimal attention (except the one that was just like him), kept a string of ex’s in his harem, blamed me for everything that went wrong, would storm out of public places if I said anything he didn’t like, was manipulative (didn’t speak to me for 3 days because I ate a bbq pork sandwich in front of him and he didn’t eat meat. Yes this is a grown man), tried to start his own religion he said God gave him and believed this was going to make him rich, always talked about the importance of honoring others when he was incapable himself, believed he had to give others “tough love” which included him staring at me blankly when I cried (said empathy was useless as he never experienced it), could not hold a job because he couldn’t get along with others, and this is just the beginning. Yes, we are nc for 7 years now. Best thing I ever did was get away from him.
My ex was a textbook malignant narcissist. I was in danger, but I didn’t know it until later. The abuse was in one had insidious, and on the other hand overt… and I was always confused about if it was abuse or not. Others saw it. I didn’t. I look back and think… how could I have not known? But he was just that good. I went for help to a therapist to help me sort out why I was confused about leaving him, or him throwing me to the curb, and my therapist explained to me over a couple of sessions what I had and was dealing with. Then she sent a referral for me to see a therapist at a woman’s shelter. The whole thing was surreal, and I remember the look on the therapist’s face when I told her I didn’t understand why I was talking to her or why I was there. The understanding did come as everything I experienced was explained in a way that finally made sense. I got it. And for the first time since I’d met my narcissist… I didn’t feel crazy. You’re so right. Malignant narcissists are dangerous, and looking back it chills me to know that what I endured could’ve been much worse had I stayed.
I totally agree that the Machiavellian part of the disorder is extremely dangerous. End justifies means type of remorseless approach. Straight from hell.
I could definitely see that with police but for some reason my experience thus far with lawyers and judges has been that they were very understanding and helpful for some reason.
2 Timothy 3 "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them." Even Jesus has disowned these reprobate hypocrites who's only aim is to lie, steal and destroy.
Yes, they need a miracle. These types are wired backwards, to their way of thinking Jesus would be equal to satan. If you try to show them love, they feel disgust.
His mind and heart were flooded with extraordinary light; all torment, all doubt, all anxieties were relieved at once, resolved in a kind of lofty calm, full of serene, harmonious joy and hope, full of understanding and the knowledge of the ultimate cause of things.
Got one in my family, she refused Christmas invite then told use everyone else was sick. I was cooking dinner. I called the so called sick ppl. No one sick. Christmas did not get stolen by the Grinch 😌
As absolutely horrible as they are and how much suffering their victims have to endure, it’s actually quite sad and devastating they have no feelings. It’s not even necessarily their own fault. I have no contact with my violent narcissistic “dad”. I stopped being ok with having him in my life because I felt scared and unsafe in his presence. He had a horrible childhood. His mother, my “grandmother” was extremely abusive and didn’t give her 3 sons any love whatsoever. I can’t relate thankfully at all, I personally couldn’t keep my hands off my son when he was a baby and throughout his childhood. Imagine someone so evil and wicked that they don’t love their own baby. I feel sorry for my “dad” but he is responsible for his own actions. He’s in his 70’s and still takes no responsibility for the abuse he inflicted, by blaming his childhood.
Mine was so turned on by my distress. And I mean turned on. Pawing and grabbing at me while small coos of comfort. I stopped crying for YEARS. Hid,drove somewhere I could scream.
I’m sure that’s my ex husband. He tied to kill me more than once. He’d mock me while I was crying in his viscous attacks. He knows I’m allergic to all tree nuts & would contaminate my food & watch me. He admitted once and he was always matter of fact when I asked him & he admitted it. As tho I was an experiment.
@@tinyproject6388 omg mine too was a murderer. I’m anaphylactic allergy to Tree nuts. He admitted putting walnut powder in my food more than once. He also held a gun to my head in 2006, he attacked me with a screw driver -
I have known two of these. One was far worse than the other- tried to kill me and was a financial criminal. The other was fortunately an incompetent buffoon.
Distance! It's hard and cold but these people will continue to hurt you until the day they die. You can't expect them to let love or feel empathy. They cannot. Run for your mental health. I did and I live right next door. Just shut him out saying hello that's all He was cruel and vindictive. He died without us reconciling. I'm good.Be blessed.
@@savoyaepps646 my older brother is the Golden child of whom mother made the executor of my inheritance trust fund labelling me 14 yrs ago as "Special Needs"... Her goal is to have me bleed internally from her attack's. SUICIDE is also welcome bc 45 years ago as a teen I was found out to be suicidal & @ the end of 3 full hours counseling I was told I was cured by my now deceased father.
I tried to save a narcissist person from homelessness something a person should never do. I would go to work in the morning and he would bring drug addicts to my home and do drugs. He felt he had the 'right' to do this. I lost my place and told my older brother what had happened and my older brother went to find him. And when my brother found him he took care of any future visits from the narcissist.
@@StillAlive-t8eit's because narsists don't feel guilt, regret etc. They throw their dust on others so they relief and love longer as if they have a wonderful life...
Yesssss my son has turned into a evil narcissist his girlfriend is I believe a witch Her vibe and her evio smirk and she very quiet with that fake quiet voice like I see right trew her 👿
First one is my mother been no contact 3 mo second my 23 year old son which been out my house 2 years now 3rd my 20 year old daughter like for my Peace I think she needs to go but like she doesn't want to clean are do anything thing what should I do
@@humbull Everyone has traits of narcissm, but a narcissist is a compulsive liar. Trump has been telling us truth, but people won't believe it. Nothing but lies from the Biden admin and left wing media
After being in any relationship with a real narc; we now have ptsd from it and even the slightest sign of narcissism from someone/anyone, will trigger it. Listen to your gut. ♥️
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣I DONT THINK ANYONE KNOWS THEM MORE THAN ME I HAVE 51 YEARS EXPERIENCE WITH NARCS THE MOST HIGH RANKING ONE IS JEZEBEL AND AM PREPARED AS ELIJAH FOR JEZEBELS AND MY BACKING IS GOD
This is how the Narcissists in my life act. I wish I would have been able to figure this out about a parent & all his manipulating people he chooses to keep around him.😓
My mom is one! So cruel and unrelentingly self centered. She became an administrator for the county juvenile lock up and her coworkers nick named her Mengele.
Oh my goodness, oh my God I seriously thought it was all in my head! She had the windows my self-esteem so low to where I thought it was just me and my fault😢😢😢
My ex girlfriend put naked pictures on Facebook and told me I'm doing it somehow. But I never did anything like that. It was saying that at me out of left field
My mother. Abusive and neglectful. She is the center of her universe. Even carried it over to her grandchildren. I had to go no contact because she is SO toxic. Killed two of my younger siblings and got away with it. Your description of her personality is spot on. She is 89 with dementia and has to be medicated because she has gotten very combative. Her conduct has made it necessary
My mother. Manipulated other family members knowing her plan to destroy me would come to a head after she died. What a huge mess she made built on lies she created. I try not to hate, but pray for her instead.
My question is that that if someone had a toxic narcissist living with you and they are gone and out of your life. And you found out some things are missing from your house how would you confess to the narcissist that they stoled it from you. I let my ex girlfriend and I let her borrow my DVD player and when she returned it back to me it was damage. But she had said to me go to Walmart and buy you a new one and when it you come back home and switched it out and take it back to Walmart for a refund and you get your money back. It's that simple. No I didn't do that to step down to her level.. she was getting out of getting me a new one.
A bought lesson is better than a learned lesson. Walk away, you got off easy. Take that lesson with you. These Narcs are dangerous. She left, that's a WIN! 🏆
Happy to say that God saved me from such a person. Once, he looked me in the eye, told me that someone I cared about was involved in a horrible car accident, he didn't flinch, watched to see my reaction since he led me to believe that the person was either dead or in a bad way. Then, when I started crying, he smiled and said, "Not to worry, he's fine, just needs to get checked out by a doctor".
Describes my nextdoor neighbor she has manifested aggression, violent temper, contempt and verbally, emotionally abused, exploited me and my family we have police reports, she lies to police, fabricated situations, stalks, monitors me, comes back to abuse more and has no remorse and conscience.
THAT IS MY EX WIFE! She put me and my kids through hell and she was always the "victim". My son is 22 now. When he was in kindergarten he had a really bad stomach ache. The school nurse said he needed to go home early. He asked the nurse to call dad, and she did. I picked up my son from school and brought him home. I sent my ex a text to her explaining what happened and I told her i would bring him to her when she got off work. She called me screaming the it was HER time with the kids, she came and got my son, took him to daycare and went back to work!
The difference between one of these narcissists and an asshole is light years. Asshole is not the same thing as a narcissist. You have a lot to learn or you are one yourself
There's no excuse for them. The one I know has been trying to kill me for 4 months. He told his strange prostitute girl friend he would hurt me bad for her. He hires people to do stuff to me but that won't can't do it. He even started sleeping w my room mate. I don't do anything to him. So I've been texting him nonstop for a. Week. Calling him eberyname in the book. He's a coward. No common sense. He acts like my life don't matter. So I flipped the script. I'm getting him fired and getting him evicted. And I'm getting r.o. And pressing charges. He's tried 3 attempts on my life The people don't do it. This guy is the worst person I ever met.
