One of the things that gave me the retrospect to know I have autism is what my mom tells me about being just 1 year old and solving complex puzzles with ease. Having conversations that covered concepts that grown adults struggled with when I was 2. In grades 1-3 I was taken out of mathematics class to pursue computer programming learning. It's really obvious my brain had some very early on development that surpassed my peers. While at the same time, I also struggled to have meaningful friendships, I was always the odd duck. Challenging the morality of teachers actions in the 4th grade, refusing to participate in science class (still doing the tests to keep up, but not doing the work for assignments) in grade 8 so I could work on a theoretical paper outlining why the big bang is simply not possible given the things we did know in 1990. Yes, looking back, it was pretty obvious. I feel like my schools and parents failed to identify autism in me and help me get diagnosed so I could understand my situation. For all the things I understood without breaking a sweat, my own self was one that went right over my head.
I have to say that what you have experienced isn't the same, but similar. I get challenging authority (and didn't understand why I did it, until it was recently found at age 46, that I am Autistic). That makes so much sense to me now. Your theoretical paper's topic is intriguing to me - what an exceptional mind. My heart breaks at the last line you wrote. I feel for you and that is exactly how I felt my whole life.
I'm 30 years old, and am undiagnosed. I'm just now learning I've been struggling to keep friends and jobs because of this disorder. It's hard for me to describe how my brain is different to people and I'm nervous about getting my diagnosis because of this. I took the AQ test from your older video and got 39/50. And I don't want to be homeless because I can't keep a job, so I plan on getting my diagnosis and some kind of income support. I have a friend helping me, but this channel is helping a lot too. Thanks.
Today I watched "Autism from the inside's" 63 traits video, and I have 54 of the 63. I also called 20 offices looking for a psychologist, and I think I found one. Still have no idea how I'll pay for treatment..
I have two sons with Asperger's. The oldest is 19 and just got his BS in Biology. He has been fascinated his whole life with cryptozoology and rare or endangered species. My other son is 11 and he has had many interests. Reading, space, googology, geography, languages, etc. He will learn everything he can about a topic and then move on to the next one. Both of my sons taught themselves how to read before they were out of diapers, don't like small vegetables like peas and corn, and they cover their ears when they flush the toilet. They both have high IQs and no real friends. They are 8 years apart and tend to annoy each other. They are the most amazing people I know and I'm sure they will have great achievements in life. I just worry about them being lonely or depressed as adults. They tend to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.
As an undiagnosed 30 year old who is just now learning about the disorder that has made my life so unnecessarily difficult, I can tell you that just being supportive of their interests and warning them of the difficulties they may have ahead of time will help a lot. My parents were probably both undiagnosed and they grew up in a time when mental disorders were talked about less. So they had no idea how to help me growing up and I didn't know what kind of help I needed. Despite my above average IQ, I've always struggled with holding a job and have been homeless a few times. If not for a new friend helping me with rent and to get disability or some kind of income assistance, I'd be homeless right now. I wish I could give you better advice, but just being supportive goes a long way. I hope your children live full, safe and comfortable lives.
I got my Asperger's diagnos last summer, now I'm doing my adhd/add investigation(!? Don't know if that is the right word)and I'm getting the result in the end of this month. I hope Elvanse will be the right medicine. I'm 46 years, i had to go undiagnosed half my life, maybe even longer, it depends on how old I get. Thanks Dan for your help ❤
That's the first I've heard of 'heat' being a sensory issue. I hadn't considered that, but it's definitely something I struggle with. I'm just glad I live in the north of Scotland and don't have to deal with it so often! 😄
This is also the first time I have heard it mentioned and I feel this terribly. I get Super hot easily and break out and horrible sweats and I feel like I need to either jump in water immediately or take off everything. It feels like a heat flash but isn’t just a flash, keeps getting stronger. Never new it could be related to that.
Heat flusters me like nothing else. It's worse than noise. I also have fibromyalgia so I can't really say what the heat intolerance is attributed to, bit it's there and it's really overwhelming
Didn’t know it was considered sod but I definitely have that! As a child I had great sensitivity to noise and fabrics but nowadays what bothers me the most is heat. Even in days when most people feel chill, I can feel hot once or twice a day and have an anxiety attack about it
I can in no way do eye contact, it makes me anxious to a degree that I may throw up, I don't prefer socializing, I love playing puzzles and strategy games, I am very sensitive to hot weather, loud noises, people making sounds while eating is the worst it makes me bliw up, I zone out while people are talking around me and take myself to my secure spot..I was never diagnosed but I ultimately understood this very late
For me, there is a block from being able to process a situation. I'm lucky as all my friends know to initiate a conversation with me and to forgive the odd interruption. It's as if there's an invisible connection between NT people that I'm not plugged into. Honestly, if an alien spaceship landed and said they were here to rescue me, I would run straight to them and feel liberated. I'm still learning what certain complex emotions feel like too - Only last year I felt the weight of guilt when I missed a friend's wedding because of my poor planning skills. I was in my early 30's when I learned that heart palpitations and a feeling of dread is anxiety. I wish a manual on "how to be an adult" would hurry up and be written.
I worry myself sick when someone doesn't reply to texts or answer calls. I know people have lives, but i don't care. I can't process that people get busy.
Thank you for this one. I've been following your channel for a while now, and have used it as a source to help my loved ones understand why I am the way I am. As I'm sure a lot of individuals who are on the autism spectrum have also experienced, there are a lot of ignorant people out there who will mock us for our short comings. I recently had this as well in the comment section of another video/channel. The person made an intelligible comment (in reference to my comment) about being autistic. I politely asked for clarification. The reply was simply "No." Once again I tried to explain my rationale and then I was accused of feeling the need to "win". I will admit that, at this point I did get a little snarky, having lost interest in the troglodyte's original comment.
My 9 year old’s special interest is gaming, he can’t get enough of Minecraft and Fortnite especially. He also has SPD, in particular around clothing textures and labels, plus others but to a lesser extent.
I remember from a paper I wrote for a social work class that you can distinguish between aspergers and autism with radiography. One reason I objected whe APA collapsed aspergers into ASD.
Oh it's a very cool thing (I want a scan of my brain) I am happy and lucky to have done the Asperger diagnostic this year. Without that I would not be considered disable (I really suffer from sensory). Officially I have Asperger (got 90% at the diagnosis) and not Autism (I scored 43 to the Autism questionnary for girls, whereas we have to score 44 or more) 🤣 In France. I think the best should be that the person pass all the diagnostics : Asperger, Autism for girl and Autism for boys... all the tests. It will be fun to see if I score better for the diagnostic for boys.
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes I discovered, by taking the adult aspergers test test while doing a paper on the connection between being ASD and the transgender community. I since have had a full battery of tests. This after I retired, would have been nice to know growing up...
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzeshi Elodie I've commented on another one of your posts I believe. Ditto I was diagnosed as Asperger's under the ICD but the clinician said I didn't meet the threshold for autism (I don't struggle with social nuances/social understanding). I don't score on the standardised tests either but similar to neurotypical men on the RAADS but I doubt it's validity.
@@Tified967 Yes, I saw them^^ Diagnoses are strange, we correspond to Asperger but not to Autism. Whereas we know Asperger = Autism too. Asperger we suffer as much as Autistics. It's the reason why I can't/avoid to go outside, nervous system too sensitive, and surely senses more developed or sensitives. I hope all of these diagnoses will be better soon in the future.
I think i only figured out my ASD in my 30s because my mom was an excellent teacher of social cues and expectations while i was a child. She didnt tolerate anti-social behaviour, and made sure that i learned early how to behave appropriately. I struggle with being hot, and she gave up on that pretty quickly. Also i cannot handle baked beans. The texture is revolting. She thought i was being picky and refused to accommodate it; 30 years later and i STILL refuse to eat it. But she modeled and actively taught proper social behaviour. Also encouraged me to love reading and i gained a LOT of insight into expectations amd sitiational responses from that.
❤ i love your videos, I'm amazed at how you can put things into words. I can't do that well. But i was unable to finish this video because of the background music.😮
I panic to the point of feeling acutely stressed when I have to meet members of family or family friends where kissing both cheeks is the mode; I become very skittish and want to flee.
Glad to see continued content, didnt know what was going on for a while you had a lull where you were posting just pictures with messages which were contemplative… ❤
The high and low frequencies associated with some music. Strong smells such as perfumes, chemical cleaners and such. I feel the wrinkles in the sheets when I sleep! So annoying! All of these and plenty more are in my autism store! 🦋
Thanks for your vids! Been super interesting learning about this recently. Helping explain a lot… a lot. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 40 and Asperger’s at 41… and man do textures and lighting get to me. And proprioception issues. I’m pretty sure I had some sort of cast on a limb for more than half my childhood summers. Unfortunately I did not get the amazing memory or math skills but I’m above average in other ways - mostly in the visual realm. So now I’m a photographer because I can dive deep into technical detail plus I have , let’s say, very strong feelings about light. Weirdly I have no problem making eye contact but apparently I don’t always know when to stop… which can be alluring or off putting depending… and absolutely zero sense of time. Like, time is a sci-fi idea to me. I just decided to believe others that that can tell the difference between 5 min and 25 min… which feels basically like a magic trick to me. Anyway just putting this out there incase there’s anyone else going “how can I be on the spectrum if I’m not a memory person and I don’t mind eye contact?” So many people told me I wasn’t because of those two things. Or empathy. Just incase it’s not clear - It’s a myth that autism spectrum is a lack-of-empathy-thing … it’s just that empathy is communicated, and if the translator isn’t tuned, it can seem like we don’t have it or have it at the wrong time. Just a matter of spending time and being open to learning what the other person means instead of imposing meaning onto their actions. (This works both ways 😅. Asking is a wonderful life hack… ok I can tell my meds wore off because I’m going on and on. Have a great night!
@@DanniBby no they help organize, so I can speak more succinctly, or rather, much less succinctly, when they wear off... just for 40-60 min or so I get quite brain foggy. The usual tell is I start going on and on. (Which is not the same thing as meds make me speak less)
I'm pretty sure that my daughter has aspergurs based on social interactions, hyper focus, emotional disregulation and more. At school she's been tested for all sorts of things and currently is in a dyslexia class and gifted and talented. Is it common to have both aspergers and adhd or do they have cross over symptoms? And the biggest thing in my mind is helping my daughter with this all without her feeling down. Anyway, I'm so glad to find videos like this so I can understand and help her a little better. thanks!
I remember things from my childhood till now clearly , i know what they were wearing but in colour blind. I know how people talk,walk, speak , react etc but if you ask me to draw them ,suddenly i become blank.i can't draw people, imitate people but i know them deeply .
I'm now 60, didn't get diagnosis till I was 43. I've Always found 'Socialising' Extreamely difficult, now given up. Can't stand heat even 18c sometimes. If a Car hoots I nearly jump out of my skin. Funnily enough I used to enjoy Going to Football, Concerts and Cinema.
Yes to me and both my daughters one is diagnosed the other going to be tested. I just thinking about it but i know i am as teachers wanted me tested all my school life when my child was tested the psychologist said of course you are on the spectrum it is very obvious. Without being tested.
I am in a rock band like you and have had this from day one but only just realised I have it. I also have PTSD and OCD. I am highly creative , song writing and sound recording as well as an artist in oil painting. Like my dad I just get on with life.....
Something you might want to talk about is Casandra Syndrome. It's what happens to the spouses of aspies like us :) I had no idea what it was until my wife found out about it
@@HannahRainbow88 That’s cute. I’m still looking for someone special myself. Also have Asperger’s. It can be quite a struggle to connect with some people. But some I just mesh with.
After reading the 1st symptom mentioned that is the symptom i relate the most and yet sadly by my experience it is the most ignored or misunderstood. I don't know when can i reply to a continous talk as i wait for my moment to response, then there is the fact that when someone tells me to what i should learn about something that is about to happen and they make a long list of things I'm trying to process in order to piece together which is hard because the more they keep adding a new detail the more I'm puzzled and confused with what the person says.
I find all of this quite relatable. My obsessions are based on films, tv series, games and franchises. They change monthly. I know they’ve been called fixations but I like calling them “Crazes” and “Enthusiasms”
I’m also AuADHD…Fun times indeed. Love ur channel. Have u got any videos on how to improve executive function? Edit: I have misophonia. And as far as “special interests” I started teaching myself video editing abt 2yrs ago and I’m actually quite good at it now❤
I am undiagnosed Autistic/Asperger and I can say I am sensory overloaded and cannot help myself. I need my own time and space but lack them. I live with father who complains and spend most time indoor. He is still talking or strolling around flat, making stupid remarks on everything and everybody. I also got brother. Both try to control me. I wish I have enough money one day and live on my own. I need a calm space and no prople around to spy me for what I am doing. I am 32 and I don't think I shall confess what I spent my money for or whom I talked on messenger to.😢
Hey Bro, can you turn either the music down or your speech volume up. And maybe get music that doesn't align with your tone of voice. It's kinda like the music and your voice melts together. Wonder if I'm the only one or does anybody else has trouble listening to what being said?
Hey, I think you should check your hematocrit. People with low hematocrit tend to feel cold even when it’s hot (my father and friend both have low hematocrit)
I think girls are not interested in me because im not addicted to social media. I think its weird women feel me non attractive when i am good at remember details on different things. And i have a good memory.
You had a girl on with white blonde hair on that described what I thought was severe stage fright, but is selective mutism. Not so voluntary and it didn't need to be on stage for it to happen to me. I actually figured out that I've got this from watching The Behavior Panel when they analyzed Elon Musk's body language in an interview. I recognized things my gma does and Ido as well ,when he catches the reporter in a lie. I looked up what it looks like and found your channel. The first thing I saw was when you said, looking into people's eyes feels like someone can reach in and touch your soul. I agree 100%but I didnt display all the symptoms you were talking about, and I talked myself out of it until I saw the one you did with her. I really researched it and read the DSM5 and there's No doubt in mind now. I read a study from 2019 in Australia that Really got m bc I have a near iedetic or filmographic memery. Basically I can remember back to 6mo old. I've confirmed by giving detailed descriptions of things I couldn't know unless I remembered. I didn't even think in words yet, but shapes and colors. I got my first migraine at 4yrs old. I was bad about rocking as a child, and taught myself to read before 1st grade by watching educational kids shows and grabbing my parents finger making them point to what they were reading. Freaked my teacher out by reading the flyer to take home to mom. . They wanted to bump me up a few grades but socially I was already 1yr behind cuz I'm a June baby and I seemed to be behind really behind socially. They put me in college prep in 2ndgrade, and iI masked my ADHD and some unknown disorder similar to dyslexia is the closest explanation I can give. The sensory processing overload can be crippling. It's crazy bc I can clearly remember being 12 and wondering if there was medical info about people who felt magnified sensation, so much so it turns to pain. I have a very high threshold for pain as a result. Certain meds like Morphine and Propefall (Whtvr Michael Jackson used) s no effect on me. I'm extremely hard to sedate, and even woke up 3x during surgery. Iread somewhere that is common in people with aspergers. Sometimes it feels like I'm speaking a different language than everyone else. I'm always the last one to realize I've missed some invisible cue everyone got the manual for except me. I have a hard time recognizing a face , even if I've just seen or been introduced to. It feels like my brain just seizes p. Like theres too much data and it's hard to actively enaits for me to screw up again. Knowing my grandma; who's 85might finally have the answer is incredibleUnfortunately . she was misdiagnosed 34 yrs ago by a quack that diagnosed her with bipolar and severe depression and prescribed her LIGHTS! I've no doubt I get this from her. She can remember back to 2yrs and so could her great gma. The quack put her on 4 different anti psychotics and many others for symptoms caused by the mixture of meds. Plus Ativan and Ritalin and more. Same cocktail?that woman that strangled her 3 kids them jumped from the 2nd story is on. Three damage has been done. She started with dementia but now had full blown alsheimers and is schizophrenic with a pychosis element. I'm offended for her. The drugs are the cause of the hallucinations. Hey mistake was trusting a bad Dr and being naive. Can she still get a diagnosis even with the alsheimers ? When I told her about having this she instantly became clear headed and knew exactly who I was. She said she knew I was right. And always this connection. We share it with my 2yr old niece I think. People call us psychic bc or subconscious will pick up on important details and zeroe in on it, rapidly. I see patterns and details no one else sees. If I smell orange creamsicles or Gap's Angel perfume instant migraine. Idk if it's just me but I would wake up from a dead sleep to watch the Downy Bear Snuggles. I thought he was real and I can't explain how I yearned for this taking bear. I'm trying to get in for an assessment but the soonest I can find is 3wks to a few months away. Do you know anywhere online that I don't have to wait for 4 months? Thank you so much for putting yourself out there like this, bc I never would've known what's been preventing me from having any type of life. Just having validation is indescribable. I can't explain what it will mean to my 85yr old gma if they can diagnose it still with the Alsheimers? My obsession is actually Serial Killers/True Crime or Psychology . I can talk you to death about it. I've REALLY gotten help watching The Behavior Panel. I think there's another person like me cuz he said he didn't understand those normies. They are the top 4 body language analysists in the world and break down serial killers and people like Alex Murtaugh. It's been a game changer. Sorry this is so long. I'm 37 n this means slot to me bc I've played stupid to fit in, until now.
Wondered why the couldn't sedate me doing my pin in my leg 20 years ago woke up half threw.aspergers diagnosed last week hsd fybromyalgia CFS 26 years all autism sod child undiagnosed
What if you don’t have any sensory issues?😅 or don’t have any noticeable reactions to stuff like occasionally my ears may hurt but i don’t feel overwhelmed by sound🤔 i don’t know 🤷♀️
I wonder if it is possible to have Autism, ADHD and Tourette’s all at the same time. I know Autism and Tourette’s can coexist, as suggested by Ackroyd’s life experiences. I also know many autistics have what we would call tics, but does it have anything to do with Tourette’s ?
@@randomperson22789 In this case I may say I have multiples conditions, just like another guy called Dan from The Aspie World Channel, even though he does not have Tourette’s officially speaking. I am not saying I have Tourette’s. I know I have signs typical of Autism and ADHD, but no psychiatrist has ever suggested I had Tourette’s, only one patient from a mental hospital suggested it after noticing I had tics. I do have some OCDs though
I’ve become friends with a guy from my college who has Asperger’s. I’ve known him now for about a year. I enjoy speaking to him about politics, philosophy and abstract topics as a whole. However I am now at a crossroads with him. I try very hard to accommodate for his needs. But the truth is sometimes he just acts like a dick who’s no fun to be around. At first I would ignore his crude remarks, after about a month I started telling him that I wasn’t ok with how he spoke to me. He would usually protest my reactions and explain to me why I shouldn’t be offended, and then apologize after I explained my feelings in a logical manner. However the more familiar we became, the more he would insult me, degrade my achievements, criticize my friends and the women I was seeing. Despite my attempts to construct healthy boundaries he consistently violates them. Not to mention doesn’t thank me when I help him out, like paying for his taxi home after a night out, or letting him crash in mine etc. these are all little things but they consistently chip away at my desire to remain friends. I think that he may just be an insecure young adult, struggling with his ego who also has Asperger’s. Idk I was hoping someone could give me some insight here, because I’m beginning to distance myself.
I used to work with someone with Aspergers who was difficult to work alongside. He used to constantly complain that i didn't follow his way of doing things. Shame, because he sometimes was actually ok, but was very temperamental. Not sure if this is true for everyone? I found working with ADHD was easier and a lot more fun
Heya, female with Asperger's here who's also a mental health professional. In all honesty he sounds like a selfish you know what; the fact you've spelled out to him in black & white that what he's doing is not acceptable & he still doesn't acquiesce isn't a two sided friendship. Ask yourself, what are you really getting out of this relationship? I don't think this has anything to do with being on the spectrum but rather just being rude & inconsiderate in general; that just crosses an unspoken line if he's criticising your girlfriends. You sound like a person with a lot of empathy, most people wouldn't have stuck around; I had the same issue with a neurotypical female who I eventually dropped as she was just so egocentric - even other people pointed out how she'd talk to me like rubbish. I'd have a very firm conversation with him (or text if he's happier with that medium/whether you feel you'll get a more genuine response) about the nature of your relationship. Staying at your flat, paying for taxis etc...manners cost nothing, that's applicable to all of us. If he isn't receptive then move on to more rewarding relationships 😊
Idk I'm just going along with it I just don't like the word because it is confusing lol that's why I say autism also the stereotypes like sheldon from big bang I find that really cringy
@@gracekim25 i know people still use it, just the fact that the word was created by nazis to distinguish between "useful autistics" and "useless autistics" so seeing it in a recent video by an aspie caught me off guard
@@Mae-TGDi was diagnosed Aspergers and will always live under that diagnosis, it’s a label which specifically indicates the nature of my differences, not an ‘omage to nazis.
Hey Dan, I just went and got my upper teeth pulled so I can get a new grill. Let's just say anorexia/bulimia did a number on my teeth, plus having 2 kids. I wish they would've knocked me out, but the nitrous helped some. I have severe sensory issues, plus a dentist hurt me once so I don't like them. Is there anyway to school these dentists on autism and sensory disorders?
I just recently made appointments to look into an actual diagnosis. I was hoping someone on here would be able to give me some information on what to expect. I have two days scheduled for testing, but I have no clue what testing involves. Can anyone from the US (specifically ohio) help me out?
@KrystalDawn85 The place I am going is Kenneth A De Luca & Associates Inc. I called yesterday to schedule appointments and was able to schedule three appointments in July, and one in August. Their main office is in North Ridgeville, Ohio, but I believe my appointments are for their satellite office in Sheffield Village, Ohio.
just wanted to say that i hope you know that asperger's isnt really a term autistic people like nor want to use. i very well know it's still a diagnosis in the icd 10 but not in icd 11 which is the new and updated version which most countries should have taken into effect. it might take some years for it to fully be implemented but those with aspergers as a diagnosis will change to ASD. a simple google search will tell you all about why asperger's is not a term that is loved anymore. if you are diagnosed with asperger's you are autistic. aspergers is fused into ASD for many good reasons. same with functioning labels like high functioning and low functioning. it's better to use low support needs or high support needs. it's not like you're more functioning with aspergers and low functioning with autism. it's a reason it's called a spectrum which is not linear.
Yes well said I personally don't like the names all of them like come on that was 10 years ago any videos I see with the name aspergers in it and like even saying he has aspergers instead of autism if that continues I won't be watching I just don't like the word
This came up on my diagnosis assessment, and also in the post-diagnosis therapy sessions I attended, and yes. It counts as self stimulation (known as stimming). I do it when I'm relaxing and I try and make geometric shapes and patterns. My partner sometimes asks me to stop as it can be annoying. Have you tried some of the toys for this? Fidget spinners are awesome for this and you can get some silent ones too which don't seem to create a distraction to others (in my experience).
@@gracekim25 what i meant was , for exemple i dont have any particular issues with hearing or touch or cold heat ect.. but my social skills , way of thinking, special Interest, not getting Jokes, flapping to me was enough to set me on the spectrum, i am not diagnosed this is why i am asking if the flapping enters the sensory issue category
It could be because they are more open to talk about it , but i have seen quite a few in fact . Tho , sexuality could be ok for People on the spectrum with experience and learning how to read your partner and communicate
you've lost me at the start with the letters sounds of subscribing Fakebook Instagram and TikTok adds. I hoped to get some information from ths video but it was bombed the first seconds. Don't want to watch it 3 times to get what you have to say. sorry but this is not working for me
