I really feel like "potential for trauma" needs to be more recognised as itself a form of trauma tbh. Like sure, nothing technically happened beyond just 'hurt feelings' (it feels very minimising to phrase it that way but yk what I mean), but I can't imagine she didn't at some point wonder what the 'next level' might be, at how far they might have to go before her boyfriend would intervene. Her body would have been in fight or flight mode for sure, in a situation where she can't really do either. That's traumatising, even over 'nothing'.
That poor girl in the toilet story! I have bathroom anxiety and trauma from being assaulted very young while using a public bathroom. When I first started staying with my current fiancé, he thought it wasn’t a big deal to walk in on me in the bathroom. As soon as I told him why I got so upset over it, he hugged me and apologized and had defended and protected me over it ever since. I left a doctors office bawling once because they needed to drug test me and needed to watch me pee, and when I explained my discomfort, and asked if there was another way, they got angry about it. When I came out crying, my fiancé was so furious that he marched into the office and threw a bunch of medical laws at them. The next time I went to pick up my files to go to a different doctor, I noticed that they had a notice posted where they changed the rules to offer oral testing if circumstances allowed. It meant so much to me that he cared so much and supported me like that. I couldn’t imagine being with someone like that asshole in the story! I hope she can heal because NO part of that situation was AT ALL ok. ❤
That is wonderful, and he is an example for many people to follow, making a positive change in the world, and you are very strong too. You told someone about it and were vulnerable with him, and sometimes that is the scariest thing to do. I wish you both lots of happiness.
Sounds like he is a keeper. He has empathy and that is huge!!! My mother is a narcissist,sociopath.we were not allowed to lock the bathroom door and she would walk in on you all the time and then she got a see through shower curtain so she could watch you shower. My sister and dad have/had Stockholm syndrome. Me more like PTSD. ( I'm very extroverted and oppositional and confrontational) My sister died in 2021 and I found out from a coworker a week later. Stay strong and don't let who ever did you wrong in your head. ❤❤❤
Fun fact, depending on how the wood was processed (that was used to make the sawdust) it can contain trace amounts or arsenic and other DEADLY substances. So he was poisoning her.
Yeah, that was a lot of what I was thinking when that was mentioned was where the sawdust came from and what type of wood. Pressure-treated wood isn't supposed to be burned with any human being nearby as inhaling the fumes is carcinogenic. I couldn't remember if the treatments would be orally absorbed to the same level, but it doesn't really matter because even if he's harvesting wood from an organic, controlled forest and then producing the sawdust himself he's still feeding her trees.
it'll never cease to amaze me that OPs of stories like "AITA for torturing the entire population of a small armenian town" are often more justified than ones like "AITA for trying to help an elderly woman across the street"
I feel like it's because the a holes are trying to make themselves seem better and the non a holes feel like they are in the wrong so it comes through in their writing
@@david4rancibia34 "I'm helping my gf lose weight" indeed sounds nicer than "I'm feeding my gf poison". I always wonder if they're actually that stupid to believe their words, or just think others are too stupid to catch on.
That's because "AITA for torturing the entire population of a small Armenian town?" usually amounts to "I organised a showing of 'Twilight' at the local cinema and invited the whole village" - certainly a war crime, but one in which the participants had a choice, while "AITA for trying to help an elderly woman across the street?" tends to be more along the lines of "I drugged an old lady and performed non-consensual surgery to turn her into Optimus Prime" - the pool of victims is much smaller, but nobody volunteered for that particular atrocity.
Considering a lot of lumber is treated with chemicals, any sawdust would also have the chemicals. He is definitely "poisoning" her. Creepy, I hope she gets away from him.
That toilet story…..Listening with my husband and he paused it and looked me in the eyes and said “I don’t care if I knew my friends from second grade, if anybody walked in on you during your private time a woman or not, I would be in jail. I would knock them all out.” Violence wouldn’t be necessary but I’m glad to know he’d have my back. YOUR PARTNER SHOULD ALWAYS BE YOUR BIGGEST ADVOCATE.
@@astridhannestad8323nah seriously, i was at a house party in high school and i went to see if the bathroom was open n as i knocked n heard nothing, i opened the door and some girl was drunk to the point of being almost passed out standing up, and a guy was tryna touch on her. i dragged the guy outside the house and me n my buddy’s had a field day w him, women are off limits no matter what
@@panskibinski1434 them playing Mario party is more fun and games, they get game angry, not real angry. This show, while it does have funny moments, is overall more serious
@@hafafatimasalam4230trust me when I say that, just because people are adults, does not always mean that they will act like adults (not talking about these guys, but proponents general)
The bathroom story was horrifying. That would 100% be a deal breaker for me, IDC if he was drunk or if he apologized after he was sober I would not be able to trust him after that. The biggest issue for me is the humiliation and the huge invasion of privacy. It's really weird that any of them(drunk or high or not) thought that was an okay thing to do, like are they 5? That whole situation is just awful.
they were high to the point of it actively caused braindamage(which is why they can't remember any of it) the only one who was genuinely a horrid person in that situation was the chick, she remember it all so she was lucid enough to know what she was doing
A lot of the commententors are talking about how shrooms and lsd don't make you forget but completely forget (or don't mention) that alcohol is involved, which 100% can and does impair memory. This, of course, does not absolve him of being accountable for his actions, but I know how alcohol alone can greatly alter people's personality. Everyone has different boundaries and understanding with people who cross them, and I personally believe that this was a learning experience for him and that if she is comfortable with it, not an end of the line for their relationship. Could I see it being the end for other people? Definitely, but I think that you can't project your personal private boundaries onto others and realize that this is indeed (based on the info provided) an acceptable outcome. They had a one on one conversation. They set boundaries of hey this was not ok and this will not be ok in the future. And it sounds like they have adhered to it.
After the story about the girl who was exposed infront of the group, I felt so gross and like crying. It's a reality for a lot of women to not be taken seriously (even by male friends or family). To be looked at as "just a girl that can't take jokes" makes you feel so powerless and vulnerable if you don't know how to handle it yet
Clearly you never had siblings. Grow up. Grow thicker skin. Sometimes life embarrasses you. You women try so hard to never be embarrassed that when it finally happens you collapse like a house of cards. Men embarrass themselves, humble themselves, try things they might fail at, become tough enough to weather the embarrassment and rejection of life. Sounds like you live in a bubble where you think you can go through life never failing never acting incorrectly and never being embarrassed. Newsflash. You can't. And you can't "learn to handle it" without it actually happening to you. Grow up princess. You're just as embarrassing as the rest of us.
Her scenario has happened twice to me. I don't hold a grudge at the people who went out of their way to laugh at me (i just don't have the energy when "can't take a joke" comments are a dime a dozen), but it's definitely the reason why i actively avoid using the restroom around others or in public.
That was a heartbreaking story. It's so disgusting that bf got away with it, and all he lost was the one girl friend that it seems like no one liked to begin with.
An added note about the woman who left her boyfriend's trip early, his stated excuse was that he did not remember the incident. However, his girlfriend left the situation in obviously severe distress. He's known her for two years and somehow still does not trust her assessment of the situation enough to believe that she had a reason for leaving that was valid. Instead he has to be informed by his friends and female friend that something went down (who somehow they didn't know was awful even though they'd known her 14 years), and he has the idiotic gall to get angry at her for "putting a damper on his trip". His very upset girlfriend who BOOKED A NEW FLIGHT wasn't enough to convince him that something had gone wrong, it was only when his friends got involved that he cared/respected/believed enough to try and figure out what happened.
I disagree with most of the opinions just saying “dump him” on this particular story. What he and his friends did was shitty but he specifically says in the story that he only took LSD, the others took LSD and shrooms/mixed it with alcohol. While everyone is right that shrooms and alcohol don’t really change the way you behave, LSD does and has a different set of effects that come with it. It seemed like a genuine mistake on his part and he and his girlfriend seem happier after they sorted everything out.
@@WrottJackson Have done LSD before and I understand what you are saying. But there's no excuse for how he behaved after the trip is over. Surely, any person would be worried if their partner left in the middle of a trip. She literally left on a plane, not an uber or walk. For her to put that much money and effort to get out of the situation, he should have known that something bad happened. His memory may have been altered to make him think that she's the unreasonable one, but he should have at least checked in on her later instead of getting mad.
@@hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426 I agree with that, either way the dude did a really stupid thing but I don’t think it’s something that can’t be worked through and clearly their relationship seems to be better now. I wish the best for them both.
Damien is absolutely 100% correct after the first story. We HAVE to advocate for ourselves, or nothing will ever change. If you get fired for standing up for yourself, then that job didn't deserve you and you probably have a case. Never stop looking for work and for something better, and always advocate for yourself and your coworkers.
i agree but sometimes you just need a job bro and like esp when your that young like you cant rlly afford to leave and if you need those connections as well,,,, idk i understand why OP didn't say anything
Yeah, nah. That's an incredibly privileged way to see things. In an ideal world, sure that is true. However, we live far away from an ideal world. There are many valid reasons as to why people do not or can not advocate for themselves. If you can advocate for yourself, please do. If you see someone being taken advantage of and are in a situation where you can advocate for them, speak out. If you are trapped in a situation, do what you need to for your safety, acknowledge that you don't deserve what you're dealing with, and find better alternatives.
I think its clear this office needs an HR or something. The point of those resources is to help advocate for yourself while, ideally, making it so the boss or whoever cant punish you for it. I think she would've gone to HR if they had it by how she mentioned them not having it
That's exactly what I thought out of that story too. He was concerned she was becoming a " big old fat ass" disgusting person he is because man he is not
I know like how do you continue a relationship after that? Even if the bf was on drugs if I was OP I wouldn’t be able to look at him or his friends without remembering such a traumatizing experience, and I would also be mad that they took drugs without me knowing. What did they expect would happen? That she wouldn’t know why they were acting strange and she’d also feel very left out.
Trevor's theory that the most screwed up stories have the most innocent sounding titles is proven more and more right with each of these videos. "AITA for trying to help my girlfriend without hurting her feelings? ...So yeah I put sawdust in her food without her knowledge"
And sometimes the stories with the awful sounding titles are completely justified, like the one ordering more expensive meals because they were splitting the bill
Exactly and I think it’s be the ppl who know they aren’t right put more effort into trying to sound good with the titles. Whereas the ppl who are truly trying to figure out if they messed up are honest with their titles
I think because on some level they know it's an awful thing to do, but they don't care and want people to validate their choices, so they sugarcoat it in hopes that people won't pay attention to the finer details. Which is hopeless if you're posting on reddit, we're all detail oriented drama lords lmao
Hearing a guy with Shayne's physique say 100% that weight/BMI is not an accurate measurement of health is honestly such a relief. It's good to hear people like me say it, too, but to know that the knowledge isn't isolated to people actually first-hand experiencing the stigma around fatness is great.
Yeah especially because it's physical circumferential measurements that are more indicative of health. If one has a large circumference around their stomach and thighs that's actually indicative of health compared to someone of the same weight and height who has a large muscle mass from working out and their arms and legs are stacked with muscles. There are also people who have various hormonal and medical issues that cause obesity also, so it's not always a poor diet (or lack of exercise) that's the main factor.
@@HouseMDaddictmy weight gain was caused by medication. i got off that medication, but kept the weight, because of other conditions. but the weight gain led to doctors ignoring the other conditions!!! if i can treat and manage my other conditions (they are incurable, but they can be managed to reduce symptoms) i couldn’t probably lose the weight, but if it does happen it’ll just be a side effect of being able to change my lifestyle, not the goal.
My fiancé is beautiful and shapely, she’s very bottom heavy, with thick legs and hips mostly consisting of muscle, and a thinner waist than me as a 6’ 170 pound guy. She literally falls right under obese on the overweight section of the bmi index. And her dumbass doctors tell her as much. I’ve told her there’s no way to know your actual bmi without a professional water weight tests, because your legs and thighs have so much muscle. It shocks me doctors are so fucking stupid and toxic. It is a general rule of thumb with a bell curve only accurately accounting for 70% of people or so at best.
There's always a number that'll make you feel bad about yourself You try to measure up Try to measure up to somebody else Numbers are out to get you Numbers are out to get you Numbers, ooh
With the pooping embarrassment story, she glossed over the fact that LONG after he was no longer on shrooms and LSD, he STILL was blaming her and not apologizing over text and call. She definitely deserves better
She deserves better than a guy she loves who made one single mistake during one single awkward situation. Omg totally girl. Dump everybody the very first time a problem arises! That’s how relationships work! Makes so much sense why 60% of marriages fail now. The modern day mentality is worthless trash.
@@TanwollyThe mentality is not to settle for people who don't add value to your life. Otherwise you end up with people miserable for their entire life trying to "make it work"
i also want to point out the fact that all of his friends were the same way... i get that people are different from their friends, but the types of people someone associates themselves with can say a lot about their character. if a person has one or two friends with questionable character out of many friends, i'd be inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt. but the fact that all of the friends whom he takes on these trips are awful, imo, is a solid indicator of who he is. that's a pretty decent sample size to take into account.
@@Tanwollyno that’s not what we’re saying. Make a mistake make a few mistakes. That’s not the problem. Watching somebody on the toilet when they don’t want that is a crime. Making your girlfriend feel bad because she’s crying over being assaulted and not apologising for it is not an itsybitsy problem. It’s huge. It’s the utter lack of respect for her body, her privacy, and her body functions that is concerning and nobody should stay in a relationship where your partner allows their friends to execute illegal actions against you.
Damn….. isn’t Damien the smartest person I’ve seen on this channel. Just the way his brain works and the angles he looks at the stories in are so freaking smart but they’re right there and everyone just misses it till he points it out and then it’s so obvious. Every time he shares an opinion i get so much more impressed
Shayne, Damien and Ian are my favorite participants on here because they all bring such a variety of perspectives imho. Shayne is always very grounded and knowledgeable with his psych degree, meanwhile Damien showcases great understanding for others and a willingness to advocate for people to stand up for themselves while also acknowledging those hardships and Ian is so forgiving and kind in his goofy way, and they each showcase a different response to the same story so you feel like you get every perspective
I agree. Shayne tends to be right in the middle whereas Damien leans more toward empathizing with the victim of the story whereas Ian is always looking for reasoning and wondering what might have been going on with the "villain" of the story and wanting to play what-if. It's honestly a good mix of sorting out the stories.
I automatically tend to play devil’s advocate even when there’s a person clearly in the wrong, so I love that Ian voices a lot of my own thoughts and considers giving the benefit of the doubt while still clearly having sympathy for the victims. Hearing Damien’s sensitive approach always brings me back to how messed up a situation can be ofc and why it’s important to learn and do your best, regardless of intention, and I like how Shayne tries to breakdown details for everyone so they can say what SPECIFICALLY was messed up, what was debatable, etc… They are definitely one of my favorite trios when it comes to getting perspective across!
I often find myself siding with Ian. Like him, I often find myself very detached, much so to a degree that people often confuse me as being apathetic, when in reality, I'm just not expressive with emotions. This tends to result in being very forgiving of others and putting up with shit, like how Ian managed to cruise through the DEFY drama. Whereas, Damien reminds me that you could do something about what you're experiencing instead of enduring it. These perspectives are really important because although Damien makes sufficiently kind and healthy points, Ian's seemingly stoic outlook also teaches us the benefit of the doubt. It makes sense that people often view Damien's POV as very "angelic" while Ian has a more "devil's advocate" quality to it.
Yeah, especially with Ian who seems to really get into the scenario as if he were in the offending party's shoes. Probably because he's been in a few uh-oh situations before where he genuinely was in the moment
That woman from the camera story is so interesting. Shes so attentive to the details and is clearly uncomfortable but chooses not to say anything. Also, her friends are weird for telling her its not a big deal
My heart goes out to the woman who was humiliated. I have a very strong core memory of my sister picking the bathroom door lock while the neighborhood kids were over and opening the door for everyone to see me and laugh. It hurt me so badly I can never forget it and when I mentioned it to her again (about 20 years later) she said that never happened. Like... bruh you traumatized me. It happened.
We had a huge 4th of July party at my house when I was like 5 or 6. Us kids were running around and I ran into my dads lit cigarette and the cherry fell down my romper. He immediately tore off my romper to get the cherry out and I was mortified that people saw me semi naked and all around traumatized by the whole ordeal that had just taken place. I wasn’t burned, just embarrassed. I can remember it like it was yesterday and this was 35 years ago. Some things just stay with you. Oh, and he doesn’t remember this happening at all 😂
@@bish_puddin Thanks for sharing this. Sometimes the situation seems silly giving we were so young but those are core memories that stay with you for life. Im glad I'm not alone in that sentiment!
8:54 I love how Damien spoke directly to the audience because the OP mentioned that their friends and they love Smosh. He's like "You call that NORMAL? All right... let's talk. You are super irresponsible for trying to play that off." And then he has the vibe of "If OP gets hurt in ANY way I will come 'talk with you personally." Like damn, he's so protective of people he doesn't even know, I fucking love this guy. He's also so emotionally mature and tries to look at most things with so much empathy and compassion. He's just great. Last thing, does anyone else think it's really cool how he'll be in an episode with a story where he wasn't on the couch and he'll (usually) be like "OH!! THAT ONE! Gimme the update, cuz I'm as invested as everyone else." 😂❤️ It's weirdly adorable to me how he watches every Smosh Reddit video (he's said so multiple times)
I gotta say, as a person with social anxiety, I can definitely see part of that also just being the impulse of "these guys will tell me if I'm saying something stupid, right?" 😅
as a fellow 'neurospicy' person I find it more impressive than sweet tbh I'm personally guaranteed to be way more attentive if I'm not looking at people while talking to them, I just stare glass-eyed at nothing or I get too hyper-aware of my own body language and lose focus completely
Thank you Damien for bringing up the power dynamic and the dangers of being female amd the fear that can bring. Or outright risk if you ignore warming signs. It was so loud in my head.
I really liked the point Shayne made about American Christianity not even being real Christianity anymore. It feels like even the mainstream conservative Christian groups are so far detached from what Christianity was originally meant to be, to the point that it really heavily stigmatizes the entire religion.
This is why the Bible say "show me your faith without works and I'll show you my faith by works". Our actions show if we are true Christians or just Christian by name
Well, who gets to decide what a true Christian is? For a while it was the Orthodox and their five patriarchs, until of course the Pope got brighter ideas and split off to form a church headed by himself. Each of these groups view themselves as "True Christians." But their views aren't very compatible. Then you have the reformation, Lutherans, Calvinists, Anglicans. And even before that you have the Hussites, Lollards, and Bogomilists which predate the reformation. Are all of these true Christians? Are some of them true Christians? Are none of them true Christians? Again, who decides this? The bible is a big book, and it can be interpreted a lot of ways. If I wanted to, I could find evidence that God wanted slavery, decided that pedophilia is actually ok, and being gay really isn't a sin. Which is the problem, people can interpret the book how they desire. So, those "Modern mainstream Christian Conservatives" are probably just living how they were taught. Based on the interpretation they were given. Would you call them true Christians? False Christians? Or just misguided? At that, you'll often find these people don't care what you do. So long as you aren't pushing it on them or their children. Which, might I add is a tolerance the bible doesn't, in my interpretation, call for. Seriously, have a normal, civilized conversation with one. After all, "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger." If you go in heated, and looking for or expecting a fight, or argument. Rather than an actual debate or even just conversation on these topics. It's going to turn into one. Self-fulfilling prophecy and all that. You're both humans, you both know this.
I think all religions are a disgustingly deplorable execution on humanity's behalf on what each respect religion is supposed to be like, let alone religion as a whole.
Yes def but he does seem liie he always overthinks about what he is gonna say cause he doesnt wanna ofend anyonem idk seems a bit too kind and uncomfortable
@markojovanovic5901 this actually became a roasting point for Damien in his Funeral Roast. Being too PC is a thing and it was hilarious to watch everyone roast him about it. Great watch, and its understandable to say being too overthinking about everyone is bad.
@@VivienVarga-ki3sdnot really more like he is afraid of being wrong , like his answers seem very politically worded. Like his use cis gender and stuff like that , it kinda grosses me out.
the thing that gets me the absolute most about the sawdust story is that its so clear hes more concerned about her being upset that hes less attracted to her when shes fatter and not about her being upset that hes feeding her SAWDUUUUUUUUST
i love that damien got so protective of the women who posted the stories, he's absolutely the guy that girls ask to watch their drink at a party or to walk them home, all of the smosh guys pass the vibe check lmao
Yes and why the hell is no one talking about the messages he left her??? Assuming he didn't really remember what happened, he's still assuming she's being a b or overreacting and attacking her . Unacceptable.
@@gurgleblurgle7345the messages were sent whilst he was still high not after the fact, she's the one who read them the next day, it doesn't excuse his behavior completely but it explains why she forgave him
Guys, that one woman whose husband cheated on her with her best friend has made 2 updates since the original story was read (in the episode with Courtney and Trevor)
That second story is a masterclass in manipulation. His word choice, constant reference to her "mental health", painting her as helpless, that bringing up sensitive topics will "damage her mentally"? He's using every trick in the book to present her as fragile to defend himself. I'm sure he's used the same tricks on her before. Her "mental health" is the perfect defense against anything he wants to do, from isolating her to destroying her self esteem. This guy is incredibly adept at manipulation, and that story is only a few steps away from making her feel useless and unwanted, and feeding her the lie that he's the only one who really cares about her. Makes me sick.
I was honestly waiting for someone to point out the likelihood that the state of her mental health makes her gain weight, _not_ the other way around. Because if someone is depressed because they're not at their goal weight I pretty much guarantee the depression isn't going to disappear once they hit the number they want or their body looks how they thought they wanted it to. There's usually something deeper going on. In this case it's a boyfriend 8 years older than her who first started dating when she was 21 and her mental health was sweet honey iced tea. He already said she was trying to lose weight at the time, and THEN said that now that she hit her goal weight but is "starting to put weight back on" that he's losing attraction to her? So what tf was going on when he first started dating her and she was bigger than she is now? He wasn't attracted to her then, but still started a relationship? It sounds like he saw her as an investment. Predatory from a maturity and mental health standpoint yes, but ALSO he seemed to be counting on "she's losing weight so she'll be thin soon, I don't want the current her but if I date her now I'll get her _then"_ and yo that reads really scummy to me...
@@baydiac You've really just summed up everything I thought about that story. It's nice to see it written out so clearly. Hopefully comments like yours help some people recognize dynamics like this when they come across them
frankly im wondering whether shes actually struggling mentally of if thats that just a figment of his imagination in order to justify forcing her to be thinner. because its very clear to me he just doesnt like how she gained weight.
In regards with the girl who left early, so the guy "didn't remember" what happened and his first thought was to accuse and berate his girlfriend because she left? He didn't even ask what happened? Yeah, no. He definitely remembers and they just realized that he's going to lose her, so they made up an excuse and "apologized"
As someone with IBS and an absolute extreme anxiety reaction to embarrassment m, the bathroom embarrassment story really hits home for me. I would never see that man or any of his awful childish friends again
Totally can understand that. Damn mate if that happened to me I would die of embarrassment and anger towards my bf at the same time. Seriously like wtf??
so many of these are just like "aita for not forgiving my boyfriend after he punched me in the stomach as a joke" or "aita for teaching my girlfriend a lesson" and he's systematically annihilating her dna
@@joc9370 Huge overshare but I wanna give some perspective I've been in one relationship so far and I'm pretty sure it's only gonna go uphill from there hahaha. That relationship was really hard to end because I was extremely emotionally dependent on them and they used that. About halfway through this relationship, they got me to the point where I couldn't imagine being happy without them because I was in such a bad mental state. I wish someone had sat me down and told me that I would survive breaking up with them. There was barely any love left, just guilt and shame, but I'd been trained to think that's what love was and that I had to keep up my end of the deal indefinitely while they were breaking promises and lying as much as they wanted to. So yes, it's so important to stand up for yourself and remember that you're allowed to end any relationship. Looking back I can't even put myself into my past self's shoes, it seems so obvious now
As someone who was bullied for my appearance at school (hair colour, the size of my nose, how skinny I was, etc), the ONLY place I was getting positive reinforcement about my looks was my family. Whether or not I was ugly wasn't really the point. The point was that my self-esteem was plummeting regardless of anything else about me being praised, because the things that WERE being picked on were things I couldn't control or change. And you know, I still smile when my Mama or Dad say I'm pretty. I know now that it might not actually be true, but it makes my heart warm to know that they care enough about me to want me to hear nice things about myself still.
Agreed! My parents let me be myself and told me I was enough even when I struggled to believe it myself and I know I wouldn’t have made it if it weren’t for them. (Also accidentally hit the wrong thumb when trying to like your comment but fixed it, sorry).
The girlfriend who was embarrassed on the group trip was probably the best discussion about a story so far on this show. Also just a heartbreaking story.
Dammit Damien is so quick-witted, I can't believe he just blurts out these hilarious, cerebral, layered one-liners out of thin air in a matter of seconds. "Praise to the most high" Damn. And the teddy bear one. Who does he think he is?? How dare he be this funny! Hahaha Love him to bits. Also, the rest of his serious takes are intelligent and speaks so much of his capacity for empathy.
as someone who has done both LSD & shrooms, I couldn’t even imagine doing both, along with alcohol and then not telling the only sober person in the room. it’s very obvious that boyfriend lacks real respect for his partner. i’m glad she was able to find an outcome she wanted, but i hope that haunts her boyfriend for a loooong time.
Yeah that shits crazy, especially claiming he didn’t remember his actions the night before (as well as all of his friends: which makes the story so much more unbelievable)
@@borke42I'm not the person you're asking, but it seems very unlikely to me all 5 people would black out. Especially since LSD and shrooms don't cause blackouts the way alcohol does, as far as I know.
@@afckingegg7585we only know that she thought her bf had 4 beers by the time she left, we don’t know if they continued drinking and/or doing more drugs after she left. They could’ve started downing drinks after she left to get back in a “party” mood. This doesn’t excuse what happened, I just don’t understand why people are so adamant that they couldn’t have had any memory loss, especially when everyone reacts differently with not just alcohol, but mixing alcohol with 1 or more drugs. I know some people(grown men even) that can blackout on just 4 beers alone 🤷🏼♀️
The story about the guy who was calling his niece ugly, the bit where Shane brought up that it hurts to have your family members back up what other bullies are saying really hit home for me. I struggle with my weight and have for pretty much all my life, but I'll never forget the moment my dad said to me, "You know Adele right? " (talking about how I want to be a singer some day) "She's a big girl, but she's really talented, so it doesn't matter. If you want to get to the same level, you're going to have to work to be more healthy." It hurt cause not only was he telling me I was overweight and needed to fix it, but also said I wasn't talented enough by myself, so I needed to have my looks help me out.
As someone who had severe bathroom anxiety as a child and still do to minor extent as an adult, that would set me back by years. I held my bowels for WEEKS as a child and only went an average of once a month. I only started going in public about a year ago and have really come far. It’s liberating and I can only imagine what this would do to me. I really feel for her.
Man, thats something thats super hard to overcome, I hope this doesn't come across as insincere, but its fantastic that you got over that fear to that extent. The people in that story are INCREDIBLY childish, and anybody making fun of people like that needs to become a decent fucking human being. This goes beyond growing up, I know 10 year olds that are more decent than that. Edit: paused right before the update and commented this, now watched the update. Wtf lmao, these reddit stories are wild
If that happened to me I simply would never poop again. I still have those nightmares of people walking in on me changing/going to the bathroom. Truly the worst :(
11:48 Shane: “….so I started adding small amounts of sawdust to her food…” Me: haha! Good one Shane! That would be really crazy if that happened! Shane: *keeps reading* Me: what?
Yeah especially sawdust, because of what it can do to your digestive tract. you can get staff infections and all kinds of illnesses. It can kill you so- its literally attempted murder
I'm positive you can't be charged with attempted murder unless you actually attempt murder. Let's not get carried away. This was a matter of utter stupidity, not malicious intent.
The restaurant story: This one struck a nerve with me. When I was in my early 20's I was dating this guy for about a month. Unknowing it was his birthday. He said we were going to dinner with his friends. It turned out to be a high-end steak house where the dinner plates were $100 plus. I ordered soup and water. I knew being recently laid off I couldn't afford anything more. When the bill came his BFF announced to the group we all had to pay $350 each to cover his meal as well as split everything evenly. Alcohol was also included in this bill. I had to explain I would only have enough to pay for my own as I wasn't prepared for this and only had so much money on me. They were all mad because their bill increased. Then they left for a club and I came with the birthday guy this was a time before Uber existed and lived over an hour away and was stuck. I told him I needed to get to my vehicle and go so he could get to the club. He refused and took me to the club where everyone was waiting. I sat there with water all evening while they all spent hundreds more on vodka bottles and told him he should break up with me for being too selfish to pay my share and screwing over his friends. I broke it off so he didn't have to. I would have declined to go if I had known this.
The birthday story is such a culture clash for me (not shock because I already knew that was the case in the US). In the European country where I'm from, the one who has their birthday would be expected to pay for the guests, not the other way around. Their "reimbursement" so to say would be the gifts they receive from the guests. So if you want to celebrate your birthday in my country, you either make a party (you pay) or invite people to a dinner/restaurant (you pay). It's basically the one who invites, pays. It's weird for me that the birthday child is choosing the restaurant and expects the rest of the people to pay for him.
“Is their assholery exceeding their stupidity? Which one is leading the charge?” That’s gotta be one of my favourite things that Shayne has ever said 😂👏🏼
I love this duo of Ian and Damien so much and I love that for the one about the bathroom and OP forgiving her boyfriend, I think it’s very refreshing that although Ian and Damien kind of had different takes in the situation, they both talked through their perspectives and came to a consensus. It’s just very nice to see and it’s why I enjoy this series so much
same same! it was fun to consider my own opinion with both perspectives. it was nice how they explained and dived into their thought process without even edging on being "im more right" too. so nice to see such respectful conversation :)
@@Svol09Im kind of thinking that even tho he says he has no problems with people doing drugs, that's not actually the case. Just seemed like he was making it a huge deal and how he kept making it out to be a super dangerous situation. It's a valid opinion to have I just think he only said he didn't have a problem with them cause he knows people in the room probably do psychedelics. All assumptions obviously I don't know him or the rest of the cast/crew
I love Damien so much (in as much of a non paradoxical way as I can), because he legitimately restores my faith in humanity. His reactions of abject horror to these things is so validating. All three of their responses to the plot twist in the second story was everything!
ikr, all the smosh men genuinely make me feel so safe, these three especially. ik i don’t know them as people, but still. whenever i feel shit about living in this world or just gross in general, i come back and watch them react to reddit stories. bc while the stories aren’t reassuring at all, their reactions and advice always are. it feels cleansing.
The camera story actually helped me gain the confidence to report the man, who was old enough to be my father, who had been verbally, and recently, physically harassing me for months. I'm now a much less miserable person, and significantly less terrified of going to work. Edit: Not to be that person, but thanks for the kind words everyone. It genuinely means a lot to me, who upon talking about it was only met with "You should have said something sooner." Don't get me wrong, my situation was handled great, and I'm incredibly grateful for how understanding everyone has been, but it's nice to hear congratulations instead of a lecture on standing up for myself; because I did just that, it only took me a little while to get there. :) Wishing everyone the happiness they deserve
🎉🎉🎉 yess I'm so glad you were able to stand up for yourself!!! And are reaping the benefits. When you dont speak up your truest self knows you are betraying yourself and you will never truly trust yourself.
That's true but it is important to understand even if you are physiologically pretty healthy despite having a lot of fat (including joints arteries etc), it greatly increases the risk of any surgery you might need to go through as a result of an unrelated issue, and the difficulty of calculating effective and safe medication doses. This might be so severe that surgeons refuse to operate and medications are dangerous and ineffective as they fail to calculate minimum effective dosage/maximum safe dosage. So it can still pose an indirect health risk, it's a bit like that saying "It's best not to break the law while you're breaking the law", it increases the risk posed by anything else going wrong.
@@tiredrabbit6776 I know people with vastly differing weights of similar stature, put it down to tissue density, water retention or whatever. I understand that your mass doesn't necessarily exactly follow your levels of body fat/obesity. Normally however when someone is referring to weight in a context like this they mean obesity. I just wanted to make the point that there are tertiary issues with weight in a medical sense that aren't related to the base health of an individual or the effects that their weight could have on them.
I never understood the concept of "splitting the bill" between a group of people. Why would that ever make more sense than everyone just paying their own bill?
Well me and my friend do it every once in a while (we're high schoolers) but that's because we share most of the food we order so that only makes sense but to split the bill when everyone ate something different? To me you're either paying for what you bought or 1 person covers it
I've been out with friends who would order more then they could afford because we have a rich friend that sometimes pays. Last time the rich friend didn't offer to pay and my other friend just started crying at the table about how they couldn't afford what they got even after I gave them 40 dollars. At Red Robin 💀
I think there’s one detail about the bathroom story everyone skipped over. They said the girl only took LSD so she knew what was happening etc. meanwhile didnt OPs bf also say he only took LSD? To me this screams blaming that female friend to save his own ass. Im 100% certain he knew what was happening and didn’t forget. OP should’ve broken up with him. How can you trust someone like that
I kind of think no one was on LSD OR shrooms. Those drugs make you more empathetic, not less. The whole story sounds like an excuse they made up, and it's not a very good one
Can we just say props to the brother by saying tell her or I will, however I'd have said NOW tell her NOW or I will. Also, hope she sees a doctor as soon as she finds out.
I feel like he must have known his brother was an asshole to be so quick about it, too. It seems like there were other things and this was just another one where he was like NO THIS NEEDS TO STOP NOW NO EXPLANATIONS OR BS
i love damien’s no bullshit. like it’s not that hard to be a good person. sure we make mistakes but sometimes it really is black & white between being shitty and not being shitty. youre not being “unforgiving” by not recovering from shitty behavior, youre setting clear boundaries and refusing to suffer from that behavior
As someone who's always had a super unhealthy relationship with food, the sawdust story was genuinely so uncomfortable to listen to. But I can't express how much it comforted me to hear shayne bring up the point that weight is not an accurate measure of health. It's such an important point that people don't often advocate for, so I was shocked and surprised ❤
Weight is a *factor* in proper health. It is *not* a measure of health in and of itself. If weight is taken out of context of the whole patient, it is worthless, just like any other factor.
@@proteaoaxaca5204 That’s the best way to word it, for sure. He has the worst white knight complex I’ve ever seen and it gets EXTREMELY tiring after awhile.
As a woman, I find his point of view extremely refreshing and I also appreciate it greatly. The fact that he is so consistent for how he stands up for women and the lgbtq+ community, including those of both categories that are BIPOC, is a big plus to me. He does not have a “white knight complex”, he is just an individual who makes it a point to state the inequalities in our society and that’s awesome! He also makes it clear (in the more grey areas) that it is his opinion even though he often makes many, many good points. The frustrating thing is that if more people were as aware and knowledgeable as him (as well as the whole shmosh cast & crew!) he wouldn’t have to be as vocal about the things he stands for. He has rarely, if at all, incorrectly brought up a point that made sense or justly defended a group more marginalized group of people. We should all be super thankful that he is a voice that supports those groups and individuals who need support, especially on a channel as popular as this. If it makes you uncomfortable there is a reason.
I love the Ian and Damian story time pairing. Especially during the readings when they both react in absolute horror but different ways. During the sawdust story, Damian looked like he needed a nap and Ian looked like he needed to do a few laps around the studio before reacting.
Damian’s face at “adding sawdust” is the face of a man in pure shock and disbelief. He wasn’t even able to make a joking reaction or comeback like Ian, just total serious processing.😂 He had some solid hang time mentally before he could process a joke. He just heard ringing and saw red.😅
GURL SAME Damien is that dude you take to the bar to vibe check the place and the first sense of something going wrong, he's going to pick you up like foot ball and jump out the window just to keep you safe
The fact that they were saying they felt seen and starstruck from being mentioned in a Reddit story just shows how humble and great of people these guys are!
What gets me about the sawdust guy was how he thought talking it out with his gf "would devolve into asking whether or not I'm attracted to her"......he literally chose the sawdust over telling his girlfriend how he feels about her Edit: "ive noticed shes been putting on weight again and its been affecting her mental health" is a HUGE red flag i forgot to notice first time. Trying my hardest to ignore the sawdust when i say this, but instead of trying to help her mental health by being openly supportive for her, he decided that making her skinnier would somehow force her into a better mental spot? Like the weight caused it??? This guy absolutely equates his gf's moral integrity with her weight and it SHOWS
Maybe i’m just an untrusting person, but on the toilet story, if I was the girlfriend I’d have to also consider that maybe these guys weren’t actually on drugs at all, and that’s just an excuse they came up with after to make their inexcusable drunk behaviour seem more normal. That’s the only reason I could think of as to why he wouldn’t tell her about the group’s ‘plan’ to take hallucinogens beforehand; because there wasn’t one and they didn’t.
he had been great with her for 2 years before that and has been great with her for one year after that. he cut the girl out of his life (a 14-year friendship) and he and all his friends have apologized to OP's face. he has upholded his promise to be honest with her since it happened and they're thinking about moving in together. maybe, just MAYBE, it's not that deep? not everything is a conspiracy, y'know
@@highdefinition450 But he makes a valid point though, OP should have been more critical about the whole situation when they talked. But idk maybe we're just too untrusting.
Damian is a walking greenflag! I always agree to him in every point he makes and think he's one of the most open-minded and sensible when they discuss about relationships dynamics and that stuff. Love these videos guys!
29:49 In regards to this story-- I've never done drugs, but I HAVE made my partner uncomfortable and it was the worst feeling of my life. All I did was jump out and scare her as a "joke" but the look of genuine terror on her face made me shrink up into a ball of self-loathing for the next several days as I apologized and promised never to do that again. I still feel awful about doing that. I do think that people can make mistakes in a relationship and learn from them and grow. However... DUDE GOT HIGH and LAUGHED at his girlfriend along with ALL FOUR OF HIS FRIENDS. I don't give a shit if he was drunk or high-- that should be a relationship ender there.
yeah. Or at the very least, he REALLY needs to work on himself. More than three (?) months of rekindled love would provide him. So it feels to me like, rather than working through the incident, they are just ignoring it :/
I've not done drugs but I do find it weird how he reacted very aggressively to her, even over that night and I think the coming days? Would being on lsd make him say "where the fuck are you going?" Or make him blame her and say she was overreacting and stuff? It sounds very weird. Edit: also this is the first time she has been with him and all his friends. Maybe he is just like this with his friends and was trying to look cool in front of them or smth, idk.
I've taken lsd before and mixed lsd with alcohol before. Depending on how strong it is and how much was taken then yes memory can get skewed. Whenever ive tried thinking back to my hallucinations i find it very hard to remember much of it. Especially seeing as it's a hallucinogenic. It affects the mind. Meaning they can't tell the difference between what's real or not especially as the people in this story mixed two separately different hallucinogens with alcohol. The aggressiveness comes from the alcohol and lsd and shrooms mixing im assuming. I'm not saying it excuses it but it's common for these types of drugs ,especially mixed, to change your entire behaviour drastically while under the influence of it. End of the day the female friend only being on shrooms does make her the one in the wrong. When on shrooms alone you can tell whats real and what isn't. The bf is just an idiot for not telling his gf before hand. But his behaviour under the influence of 3 intoxicants (while still inexcusable) ,all three of which affect the mind, is not his fault. He should have told his gf. But the guy probably didn't even know if what he was seeing is real. The fact he went after her the very next day and him and his friends apologised profusely shows that this is what happened and that they are taking accountability. When on lsd if everyone's laughing you dont usually want to seem like the weird one or the odd one out so if one laughs everyone will laugh (mob mentality). It's a very weird thing but if you've done hallucinogens then you will know this is very possible. People who haven't done these types of drugs will not understand and think that this is making excuses but again if you've not done it then you will find it difficult to understand it.
@@anakinfox9372 Never done hallucinogenics, but I have this friend who forgets everything if she drinks a lot of alcohol. I personally remember everything very clearly, she remembers like a few seconds between minutes at best when she's drunk. That dude in the comments being like "Well **I** don't forget things when doing LSD so the bf is LYING" looks kinda stupid. People react differently to substances.
Yeah he probably lied about not remembering. And he put it all on the girl who at least was honest about being a bitch afterwards. The guys just blamed the drug amnesia. Like bro no. U took drugs, lied to ur girlfriend about it... she shoulda dumped him.
Well I don't think it would be good for their physical and mental health to just sitting there reading us reddit and commenting for 3 hours though. Although I can think of making multiple shoot with the later one picks up where the previous one is at and vice versa, but it would drain both the creators and the audience's interest after like, 1 episode of that as well so I don't know 😅
@@totoro-chan7700 great points! It would be cool to maybe have a ‘special’ where maybe they get snuggly and Shayne reads and they swap out cast members every 20 mins. As much as I love Shayne reading them, you could even swap him out if he didn’t want to sit through that. But I agree, def not a long term thing that should happen.
having damien in these videos is like therapy. he was written by a woman ig. he is always saying exactly what i’m thinking and it feels like justice. and im also an adult who doesn’t drink and it’s nice to hear that perspective casually without people thinking it’s wacky !!!
It’s so refreshing to hear Damien on these episodes (and Shayne). I rarely meet men who are so self aware, understand boundaries, communication, the experience of women, analyzing what is toxic and unhealthy behavior, etc. I wish more men were so open, thoughtful, and would go to therapy and encourage others to work on mindfulness, emotional regulation, etc ❤
He really is so emotionally intelligent and so open and respectful about it. You can tell he's very self-reflective and aware and deeply caring. Just what we see of him in these videos makes me believe he is an immensely kind human being.
@@powerfullpummel6417 this isn't a participation trophy. It's okay to acknowledge something that resonates with you and it absolutely does not take away from Ian's value as a person to acknowledge good traits in Damien. Ian has his own wonderful qualities too.
@@lcoq19 oh no I absolutely don’t mean any offense I was just making a joke,obviously people can acknowledge someone doing something noteworthy and not feel the need to randomly throw in another person. I was just mentioning how I found it funny how everyone but ian was mentioned because hes mr bummer from smosh.
Idk why, maybe it’s just me, but it always comes across as being a little fake and forced. He is a nice smart guy with a great memory, and it always comes across as exactly what you’re SUPPOSE to say. I think I prefer Ian keeping it real and not being afraid if everyone in the room disagrees. (It is very good for the video’s sake to have this range of opinions between the 3 of them) Edit: I take it back, Damien’s huge ears comment changed my mind. 1:04:13
@@VivienVarga-ki3sd Normies? Wtf. As someone with autism and ADHD, Damien comes across as VERY neurotypical, or at least EXTREMELY high functioning. I don’t claim him. He’s on a different spectrum.
@@VivienVarga-ki3sd Sorry my bad, only doctors (and you, via RU-vid comments) are allowed to diagnose people, but whatever makes you feel special. I also wouldn’t say that heavily language policing yourself is a form of Justice. Being open-minded is nice though, so good for him.
@@VivienVarga-ki3sd Well you started out by calling me a normie and we’re arguing on RU-vid so that’s obviously not the case for either of us. So maybe your intuition isn’t as good as you think it is. We live in a culture where people are competing to see who can be the most empathetic, so I wouldn’t put it passed anybody (especially people in the spotlight) to hide what they may actually believe.
These stories were such a rollercoaster. They legit went; "Boss had a hidden camera in my office." "I secretly fed my girlfriend sawdust so she'd lose weight." "I got high at a stranger's wedding." "My bf and his friends publicly shamed me and laughed at my expense." "My friend tried to use me for free expensive food." "My niece is hideous." "...My pants fell down."
My heart breaks for that man whose pants fell down. As someone who's been in a similar situation, that's tough to get past, but I have faith that he will. If you read this, keep on truckin, Pants King. ✊😔
I was thinking the same thing he really listens and can really take in all the information then can explain his explain his position so clearly in ways others may not see it and he’s really empathetic and can see other perspectives that are not his own
Damien is my favorite participant in Reddit stories. He’s such a pure, kind soul and I love hearing his perspectives while also being respectful of others. He’s like a protective big brother with emotional depth and maturity 😭💕 and his facial expressions are gold, his dead silent mouth hanging agape look at the sawdust sentence had me dying 😂
These guys get it and as a woman its so uplifting. Their takes aren't always perfectly 360 and they sometimes miss points that feel big, but man to hear a coupe, chill dudes be like "believe women, stand up, take action" is like, thank you guys.
Honestly, after watching all of these Reddit Story videos with Damien, it shows just how much of a genuinely good and honest person he truly is. This extends to the entire Smosh cast as well. These videos show that they are more than just actors being goofy online; rather they are genuinely good people. ❤
sometimes he's a little annoying because i don't think he is very forgiving lol, he's empathetic to one party but then also very harsh to the other even if they made up in the end and i don't love that personally
I'm new to Smosh (yes at 25 years old) and instantly I'm warmed and refreshed by everyone's empathy and understanding, especially the passion and genuine care Damien exudes
Ian's threshold for forgiveness/understanding is crazy high bro, it's both incredible yet also concerning. Explains why he put up with shit with DEFY when Anthony could not, and also why he was the first person to be open to re-establish his and Anthony's friendship despite not being the one to walk away from it in the first place. Also, his uncomfortable laughter is too relatable.
because forgiveness is the cornerstone to all relationships. If you couldn't forgive, you couldn't have society. Nobody is perfect. You can't ACT without risking making a mistake. So your wife/husband makes 1 mistake, INSTANT divorce? death penalty? You'd never be able to do anything because you'd be so scared of the consequences that'd you just live live as a perpetual scared cat on its hind legs, so terrified of ever making a mistake that you don't act in the first place. Sometimes it's just better to deal with consequences AFTER than try to prevent every single bad thing from happening ever. And then learn from those consequences. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. We are all as humans learning to the day we die. Forgive people for not being perfect. Because you're not perfect either.
@@TomassHole appeal to extremes much? Of course we cant function without forgiveness but forgiveness isnt warranted in every situation, especially from someone who is being taken advantage of or hurt by someone. MANY people (myself included) have to unlearn apologizing for EVERYTHING because toxic or abusive people made us feel that if we DIDNT forgive, we'd be doing harm. Like everything in life, theres balance, and its all situational. And just because someone would forgive something doesnt mean its deserving, and vis versa. Having relationships with others wont ever be simple or easy.
In all fairness, nobody definitively ended the friendship. They just grew apart and stopped communicating with each other. That said, I agree with everything else.
I think especially on something like reddit stories it makes perfect sense to approach it with understanding. I mean for any of these situations we are hearing one small part of the story and don't know ANY context, and it does happen often that there could be SOMETHING that changes the assessment, which is all he's trying to offer to the discussion.
Thanks to Smosh, my Reddit addiction is under control. I used to stay on Reddit all day, until Smosh created the “Reddit Stories” series - When Smosh created this series, they showed me that, in moderation, Reddit can be a healthy and great thing! Since switching to ONLY Smosh Reddit Stories, my quivers have stopped, my ass acne cleared, my itchy eyelid stopped itching, and that odd rash on my neck went away - Thanks Smosh! You saved my life ❤
Damien breaks these stories down to the rawest, deepest, most logical way to see it, form. I adore when he's here (and any of his videos in general) please be on more often. The way he just says things to make it so completely clear that things are not okay is so helpful for so many people. Keep up the good work man!! 💜
@@clartblart3266 "crying" doesn't suddenly mean you are correct and everybody else is incorrect. Crying doesn't magically make your opinions correct. It really was not that big a deal. So they laughed at you. Big whoop. Everybody gets laughed at. Everybody gets embarrassed. Grow up. Laugh it off. We all poop
@@TomassHole I would never laugh in the face of a crying person. It doesn’t matter who’s “right”. If someone is upset you uh… stop? It isn’t that hard.
Damian being honest about his weight and body issues in this episode really spoke to me. I was also really skinny due to illness in my early 20's and people used to think I looked "good". Looking back it was clear that it was pretty messed up and I'm in a better place mentally now because of it.
I kept getting comments that I looked good and healthy when I lost weight. Then I lost a little too much weight and that changed to concern. I'm hyperthyroid, but it took so long to notice because I didn't realise I'd gotten so skinny cos I see myself everyday and everyone else was saying I looked great. I was wildly underweight, 5'6 and 6 stone. Wasn't til I was hospitalised with another illness that they checked that. I was never a big one for weighing myself as an adult because it was pushed on me so much as a child and teenager, I constantly had people saying I was overweight (doctors and family/friends) even when I wasn't. Giving people a complex about food and weight young will affect them later in life... If I'd never had my weight and diet scrutinised unfairly I wouldn't be so afraid to get on the scales as an adult and I would have caught the issue before it became deadly.
@@BRBonGiediPrime Thanks, but I'm more of a sloppy bear now lol. Got into my 30's and stopped caring about what others thought and now wear comfy clothes and live life with a smile. :)
About the pooping story, i find it hard to believe that OP was in the same cabin, they are were under the same room, and at no point noticed that everyone else got high. Wouldn’t you notice when everyone else suddenly disappear and act differently after. Maybe they came up with a an excuse together and threw the only other woman under the bus. So many red flags. Loved Damien’s reaction to the update he’s so real for that
It’s sus but if everyone was drinking and they we’re only going off one or two at a time I can see it. It’s like the Superman/Clark Kent disguise logic. If you’re looking for it it’s obvious, if you aren’t your mind doesn’t go there.
but she did notice they were acting differently. her bf especially, she says this is very unlike him for the 2 years she's known him. she mentions the girl who walked into the bathroom was also acting weird. you also have to remember that she does not know these people very well so a change in behavior is really not that noticeable if you're not paying attention.
The brother in Story 2 should’ve just gone to the girlfriend the moment he found out OP was putting sawdust in her food because we all know he won’t tell her.
@@averytheloftierI agree, but not when it comes to actual sawdust that is incredibly dangerous, no. Fuck that dude, the brother should have immediately told the girlfriend.
@@xXCoCaGirlXx the only way this matters is if you think the boyfriend was gonna lie and keep putting the sawdust, which ig is totally possible, but the actual risk to her health at that point was really low.
I agree. I'd want someone to tell me *immediately* if someone was putting sawdust or anything in my food that I didn't know about. There shouldn't even be a debate IMO. Nobody should be sitting around like...'maybe the risk to her health is low right now so I'll let it ride' and wait and see *if* he tells her while she's actively eating freaking sawdust. That is so crazy. Its so wrong that her health is being controlled and damaged (possibly long term) against her will and she doesn't even know, but nah, give him a chance to own up to it in the meanwhile. Idk the bf or his brother but they prrrooobably wouldn't want this happening to them and then not being told asap. Insane.
Bro, we legit just talked about that whole. Don't assume malice where stupidity may be involved. Thing in my psychology class like I just got out of there and you're blowing my mind here, Damien.
I've noticed the age gap thing from these stories too but it seems to be a problem the closer one of them is to their early 20s. An age gap where one is 35 and the other is 51 really isn't an issue. But if it's one where someone is (usually the dude) is 32 and the girl is 22 that tends to be problematic. Now that I'm older I see how people in their early 20s are still figuring themselves out and got a little bit of a child left in them. It's just a very bad power dynamic the closer one of them is to 20.
Because in reality, age gaps are whatever. *Maturity gaps* are the problem. Like, 35 with even a 60 year old, who cares?? Still unorthodox, but if it's fine, it's fine. 25 with a 19, uh no. Weird. 19 with 17. Concerning. 11 with 7. Very, very concerning.
Or if the guy is 34 and his mistress is 17....😂😂 yeah that'd be my ex😂😂 that there is just NASTYYYY I'm 30 and my new man is 42, that's alot more acceptable I'm sure than the previously stated😂
I love when somebody cracks Shane up and he ends up totally red and doing this high pitched hyena-like laughter! 😂😂 It's just one of those things where someone is so genuinely amused that they lose control and sounds you never expect to hear from them come out! 💚🤣
Them putting so much emphasis on trusting your gut in the workplace really hit me. A few months ago, I had to report a manager at my job to our GM for consistently flirting with my 16 year old coworker. It was terrifying because I love my job and my work environment, but I knew that I wouldn’t be able to work there in good conscience if nothing was done after I reported it. Thankfully, my GM took it seriously and fired that manager. People deserve to be heard at their workplace.
Lol, my manager propositioned me when I was 16 along with many of the other underage employees. I and a few others told the GM, and they didn’t fire him or discipline him, just made the rule that he “couldn’t” interact with the girls at work. By the time I left there no girls that knew about him were left so I assume it when right back to how it was before. I do regret not taking the issue further up the command chain to the RM or something, but I was a child at the time
