The Most Important Question of Your Life - Mark Manson 

Thank you for the wise words. I'm happy to struggle through another one anytime!

bro, this is ligit the best advice I've ever gotten after being in the self-help and self-improvement for most of my teens. 90% of the people get into so much complicated shit in this self-help space, that thy never get the basics right. really appreciate your work 🙌

It’s nice seeing you on this channel Mark, you’re an inspiration

Great vid and thank you Mark for the mindshare!

Reading your book again right now. It helps give me focus on what I actually give a F**k about.

Absolutely!

Spiritual growth. Becoming the best version of yourself is not a struggle, nor is it painful. What is painful is the lack of growth--- it feeds on your enthusiasm for new experiences. This is a deep-rooted existential pain that leads to addiction of one sort or another. This is not the uncomfortable experience of delayed gratification, but like a cancer slowly eating away at your dreams. Envy is one of these diseases.

Damn. This one hit me 🙏🏼

​@@carefulcarpenterThe birth of the new, requires the death of the old. Though for you it may be pain-free, for me, and most, it is challenging, including physical and/or emotional pain. It is the suffering, the thoughts ABOUT the pain, which could be: heartache, gut-wrenching, something one cannot swallow (difficulty swallowing), pressure, stabbing, burning. Spirituality (Buddhism) made this distintion clear for me, yet it, along with many truths, requires systematic and well-guided practice. I suppose, apropos to this video and Mark's message, Spirituality could be "the willingness to experience pain, and fail in many ways (there are many pitfalls, yes?), and hopefully experience a Transformation/Transcendence along the search for TRUTH." Just my thoughts, which come both from my experiences and reading. I also have had the grand experience of realizing my former Spiritual Bypass. It seems that for some, the call comes from the pain and suffering, while others, perhaps yourself, "slip into enlightenment." Maybe not literally.

Real talk

My favourite thing is to plant trees, and I do that on every day of suitable weather (big garden). To me there is nothing better than to find a bird's nest snuggled in a tree I planted a few years ago.

Struggle is about restriction and imprisonment, not about the challenges involved with spiritual growth and personal success. Poorly chosen word:struggle.

​@@carefulcarpenterOh no what will we do????

I don't get the idea of being defined by ... well... anything.. What does it mean to be defined by something? Who is doing the defining? ourselves?

@@eyesears2046 Yes--- that is why I question how language(words) are being redefined to suit new contexts.

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Absolutely not.

@@KrwiomoczBogurodzicy absolutely yes. It is weak and cowardly to look for answers from a guru or in an organization or a crowd. At best you can hope for some useful advice.

@@creed22solar123, It's naive and arrogant to look within for answers.

@@creed22solar123 The answers on how we live our lives does not come from within, it's dictated by other powers, genetics, etc. Nobodies saying a guru will tell you anything of use, however one must recognize there are extrinsic guidelines on what you should do with your life.

What is it that you want most? Can you achieve such, will it make your life better or more enjoyable. Willingness to keep going even if only incremental improvements towards the goal is what's needed. -this is how I'm approaching what I want most, land with a creek and to build my own small home for two. I am 48 wasted so much time and money, but I can do this because I've decided it's certainly worth it.

@@surfside75 One piece of advice I'd give is assuming you have a partner, clarify and compromise since you may want different things. Furthermore may I ask why (presumingly) you have no children?

@@Anonymoose66G Thanks for the advice as I agree. One child, previous relationship. Grown and successful. I'm now 48 in a relationship that will lead to marriage. She's 32 and wants her first child. I'm 15 years older so I feel that it is my obligation to do so.

@@surfside75 No problem, fair enough, do what you want to of course. I'm not entirely sure why I assumed you had no children probably because of tunnel vision and unconscious bias. 32's definitely later than most so I assume she thinks she can't put it off indefinitely and it's been on her mind awhile. Must be quite nerve wracking especially because of a higher risk of complications after 30 (usually) shouldn't be an issue however. Then medical bills if you live in The USA which is most likely because the original creator is American. If you are American, do you have child benefit over there? I know you don't have legally required paid maternity leave.

If you're feeling OK where you are, and it's not hurting you much. Stay! You might change in the future. No rush to get the achievement award lol

Nobody even gets impressed 😂. The people luxurious vehicles attract are people you want to steer clear from, usually excessive expenditure is due to an intrinsic insecurity and it can help people feel confident, feel like they've succeeded and like their the boss, just as putting on a nice watch, nice suit and looking nice does.

@@ChipMunkz-uh2oy We don't just like things though, there's an inherent reason why we like or dislike something. So why do you like nice clothing? Is it of superior quality and more comfortable? Probably, same with expensive cars however you don't need to buy the brand for quality, you just need to buy the quality.

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Sorry for your losses. If someone want to self-sacrifice for others, that one wants to self-sacrifice for others. I tell that to myself.

@@mailoservivo Either a person cares about others or they don't! I'm not a person that kicks people to the curb! That's the easy way out! Thanks!

I disagree. Your life is not dictated by chance, as there are no coincidences. Regardless of the external factors, you always have the power of choice to create the life you want and to grow or adjust no matter what the circumstances are.

@@Kalond_irlanda not if you're born in North Korea

@@Kalond_irlandaI dissagree with both you and the previous response, life is balancing the random chance and agency (choices you make). While it is true that you cant determine your starting point and feature, and you can control a lot of how to plan your path. There is no guarantee that you can succeed in the current attempt. The facts are, life is unpredictable by nature even with a strategy. You cannot dismiss random chance as a non factor to how your events are shaped as it does play a part. It isnt the sole part.

Very well put. Life should not be struggled through to reach your dreams. This is the Field of Dreams. Truly. If you are struggling--- change positions.

That as a cat you cannot exist as a dog , nice!

Who else is a cat?

@@noelmwavu9838 I feel like I might be a dog. Should I start taking pussy blockers? I’m 8. In human years.

until a bomb falls on your house, your family gets murdered and you lose all your limbs. Then you can't paint, throw balls into holes anymore, whatever. How would you go on without your precious creative endeavors? What if you went to prison and they threw you in solitary confinement? You'd just evaporate if you couldn't make that rap album or get that Hollywood role pretending to be a cowboy! Or put a ball into a hoop! It's all just vanity and ego, bud. Man's way of pumping up his own pride, doing useless sh!t and patting himself on the back for it. Some of us have achieved greatness and look back and think 'that was nice, but in the end it doesn't really matter.'

I hope we'll get to read your book/s someday soon 😊

Thanks for the encouragement@@anxiouscucumber9

Thankyou, you just helped me too and also gave me perspective 🙏

This is a tremendous sentiment 👍

Likewise @trueguesser Would love to see you succeed in the field of writing!

The good kind of freedom though. Not the kind of freedom to do whatever someone wants to rape, kill, destroy, steal, etc. Those are all bad freedoms which would just make things more chaotic and just as bad as a zombie apocalypse.

@@VYMQGSOH that's not freedom and nobody with a functioning brain thinks that it is

Don't be optimistic, be realistic.

@@Anonymoose66G realism helps keep you grounded. optimism can help you through your darkest hour sir

@@belfastbuddha2237 I don't agree, realism helps you through dark times far better than optimism, if your optimistic bubble crashes at any moment your doomed. However maintaining a realistic viewpoint allows you to actually accept what has happened and how you can persevere.

@@Anonymoose66G I won the Optimists Award in high school which granted me a small scholarship for college. Optimism got my wife and I through 44 years when the legal system was bent on breaking us. After a 7-year battle in an unlawful foreclosure, I witness the corruption first-hand, whereas, the Bank was betting on the decline of our marriage. I witnessed how cheating and delaying works against most skeptics. Realism surely would depend on knowing how it was going to turn out. Even our attorneys were speechless after the ruling. Facing our darkest fears with courage trumps a corrupt judicial system. I have evidence to absolutely prove our case. The problem becomes extremely complicated. The skeptic will feel proven right; though the optimist learns the truth. There is a significant difference. 44-year marriages are built on trust and finances--- one gets to choose. You likely will not have both.

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The trick is to work on finding your goals, what truly elevates you. And then invest some time every day to cultivate desire. Intent is the major factor for success, and by cultivating that intent every day, you practically get pulled towards your goals rather than having to push all the time. Because life comes at you either way, and there's often a good argument as to why "pushing today just won't work for me".

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I feel like I'm your future self.. I'm a DJ and a mallcop.. I choose to have a shitty job to pay the bills because despite how much I hate the job it allows me to focus on what I want. I still play smaller underground party's all the time because I enjoy them and I know they lead to bigger things like major festivals and being support to world class djs . I'm not at the top of my game, because I don't really want it, I am happy where I'm at. If I play half a dozen solid events a year, it makes that shitty mall cop job really worth it. Things improve, you just need to know what your struggling for and that is a marathon, not a sprint. Shit, I even met my wife at a DJ gig :)

Dont work construction.

@@youknowkbbabyI run heavy equipment

I agree. The youth are also all 'trained' to aspire to only the material and aesthetic things in life. The combination of that and the deflection from pain and struggle is a recipe for disaster.

Then learn to cheat

​@Tom-qv2jglol you know it ❤

​@Tom-qv2jgSelf aggrandizing bs.

Thank you, Ralph!

no its not

​@@tofonaz8338 So courteous and productive of you to soil another person's enjoyment, especially with such a dull and unsupported claim. You must be the pride of your hometown.

Great takeaway!:)👌

Good bot!

❤Thanks

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The last sentence man! ☝️👌👌👌

Yeah some people just fluidly enjoy the process of what they're doing. But how do you find something that allows you to feel that way? The only thing for me personally that made me feel that way was gaming. There was always fluidity to it everyday (I understand they are addicting so that makes sense), but Video Editing for example I found a fun process to struggle for. Then it came to a point where I wasn't enjoying it anymore. This is pretty much how every endeavor I go on turns to out to be. How does one become content or financially secure if this is all they ever face?

@@renjiaow3742 Same. Keep trying different things that are close to what you already like. Something might click.