I deal with vitamin deficiencies very low iron levels. I have 0 energy and it really messes with my anxiety and depression. Cleaning is the last thing I have energy to do . Sometimes something as simple as taking a shower becomes very difficult. I have to push myself to do little things so things don't get out of hand . Bless you 🙏 ♥️
Me too..your not alone i have.just enough energy to get up go 2 work ( 2 jobs 1 ft 1 pt) and i hv 2 force myself to shower and clean up..its weird bcuz i use exercise as a distraction. But im def feeling dwn. Praying helps 💪❤️🙏
@@sabreecarpenter4285 thank you!! & meee too we can join hands in prayer in our hearts, the bible says that when two or more come together in prayer anything they ask shall be answered...Matthew 18:19-21. I want to be healed cause this aint it!!
You understand mental health and disabilities so well and you are the first person that explains the connection between cleaning and depression, cleaning and disabilities, on tictok. It’s a lot of cleaning videos but nothing like yours, Godspeed.
I have severe adhd and I feel like you completely described my situation. For all these year I thought I was just lazy but now I feel validated and even motivated. Thank you so much!
Have you been tested for autism ? I’m just curious because I was recently diagnosed at THIRTY TWO with severe adhd and autism type 1 . My whole life makes sense now
@@gabriellesirois3236 hello fellow AuDHDer! I was diagnosed at 32 after a few years of therapy. Starting last year at 36, I realized I no longer wanted to kill myself, and I haven't had a bout of depression that has kept me in bed since! Still working to get my home in order (having 2 going children helps keep it chaotic), but every time I find a functional home for an item, it feels like a massive win!!
This is the exact cycle I feel stuck in. I try to give myself 2-3 cleaning goals a day. Some days I reach my goals and some days I do not. But I keep trying each day. Never give up! The struggle is real and it is heartwarming to hear someone talk about it in such a real fashion. Thank you
omg that's the most refreshing thing I e ever heard I've suffered with bi polar severe anxiety and add since I was 14 and I've been judged by nearly every person from every agency that got involved the amount of shame I was made to feel I'm positive hindered any recovery's I've had and the biggest cause of relapses or making you give up taking your meds. But what you said that stood out was " if you can't relate consider yourself lucky" I'm not saying feel sorry for us just keep thoughts like that to yourself you have no idea of the impact ❤
Yes asking for help is the hardest thing. Sometimes even if you have the money to pay for services you just don't want people in your house to see your mess because you don't know those people, you don't know if they're going to judge you, if they going to talk behind your back. So you keep your mess in silence. I went through depression and I know what a messy house looks like because I had one and no matter how much I wanted to call cleaning services I just was too embarrassed to let anyone into my house. So you are 100% right when you say "You are happy that they come talk to you and it's a first step" it is definitely is!!!
I love your videos. I struggle with mental and physical health issues myself and can totally relate to the struggle. When your energy is nonexistent and the tasks pile up it’s very overwhelming. A clean house is a godsend, thank you for doing what you do.
I have chronic fatigue, pain, migraines, as well as major depression, anxiety, and bpd. Usually I’m pretty good at keeping my spaces clean and I’m very lucky for that, but you’re totally right - sometimes it’s just. So hard. Sometimes just staying alive is all you can do. My heart goes out to everyone who might be struggling. If you’re still here, that’s worth celebrating
This made me tear up, as someone who's struggled with depression (even though I'm a teen), my room has been the defention of recked, and seeing people help out those that need it, FOR FREE, always makes me happy, especially if the person they're helping has it worse than I happen to
It's hard when you struggle with any health..physical or mental. Physical decline has me unable to keep my house to my former standards and it's embarrassing to ask for help. You are so awesome for doing this. It really hits your self esteem and mental health when you have to change your standards. I would add, don't judge someone for their bodily cleanliness either. Until you are physically or mentally challenged,you have no idea how hard it is to just complete needed physical hygiene.
100%! I was neglected and s*xually abused in my childhood home. there were days where I was stinking and other kids made fun of me. I developed extreme anxiety about having a clean body. not all people in this world can change their situation, I as a child couldn't and wished others would have helped instead of shamed.
Thanx voor helping those who need it! I was thankful that my best friend who lives 3 hours away understood my cry for help. Even if I didn't want to bother her she asked a friend to bring her to me and came and helped me clean my house and gave me the feeling to be worthy ❤
I keep watching these videos and when you describe the people you are helping, I can relate. This is how I feel and it's why I don't get much of anything done in a day. My house is messy but it's not as messy as this. I wish there was someone around my area who understands this and does what you do. I could use the help.
I’ve been ashamed of my house for the last 7 years, it was NEVER clean enough and I was so depressed. But the past few weeks I’ve kicked myself into gear and it’s starting to get there. My first step was hiring a skip and being absolutely ruthless, throwing away pretty much everything. Going one room at a time, jotting down things I need to purchase still so things can go in certain places. My mental health has seemed to be improving just by my atmosphere. My house was not insanely filthy but I have 3 kids under 7 and stay at home pretty much everyday so you can guess the level of messy it can get when you don’t pick up stuff everyday and when depression mode kicks in for weeks at a time. I’m so thankful that my mental health as started getting better and my kids are still thriving!
I remember last year, final school year... I was working 80 hours a week to be able to get my exam .... No need to say i wasnt proud of my flat .... Taking care of a house/a flat can be so freaking hard sometimes it s even hard to imagine.... Thanks for what you are doing ❤️
This message & the fact that it was a bathroom you were cleaning, wow! God really does work through others 🙏🏼❤️ THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! It’s literally thee message i needed to hear at this very moment ❤️❤️❤️ you are amazing!
I learned how to clean when I'm working full-time, caring for a child, and depressed. I do something every day. Today, I cleaned my son's room. Yesterday, I cleared clutter in my kitchen. Tomorrow, I plan to clean my room. It takes maybe 20 minutes and it helps us live in a calm environment.
I can attest to everything you just said!!! I'm physically disabled with mental issues sprinkled in... and what you said is VERY true!! We stay in a state of survival mode, yet it's difficult to do basic tasks. I struggle to walk, much less stand. So to do basics like laundry or dishes feels like I'm running a marathon!! Thank you for all you do for those in need!! I know they truly appreciate all you do for them!! I appreciate all you do for them!! You don't know how much weight is lifted off the shoulders of those of us who can't do these things for ourselves... it truly means the world!! So thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of those you help!!💜💜
Seeing your videos has helped motivate me to clean up around shared areas when I do have the energy, and its turned into less of a mess if I do things little by little thinking of making things easier for those who also live in my house. Thank you for being so kind
I wish there was someone like you in my area. Recovering from trauma and finding many days are harder than others. Thank you for helping make people’s lives better instead of tearing them down.
I think what you do is a beautiful thing! Mental health is something that needs more focus in our society. Thank you for bringing this issue to the forefront and helping people that are struggling. We really need more people like you in this world. You are a beautiful human being.
Your videos motivate me more to clean my space up. I can't really do that at the moment since I lack the proper storage mechanisms, but I'm working on it. It's definitely not easy to take care of things when I'm so used to seeing it one way, I acknowledge that I need it cleaned, but it's still so hard. Thank you for doing what you do 🫶
you are god sent, i always feel so ashamed when i feel like i can't do anything and on top of it my family making me feel worse about it, you always make me feel a little better and have more encouragement thank you
I really appreciate you doing these. I struggle with adhd and depression and asthma on top of a physical disability, and I feel so judged and down on myself for the way that I can never keep up. I dream of having an aesthetic Victorian styled apartment and love doing diys and crafts, but all I can really do is try to decorate around my terrible clutter. My energy didn’t used to be this low, and now I realize how much even I took that for granted. Even when it was the adhd and disability, when I had more energy I could do more of a task at once. Now I’m having to pace myself, and it makes me so much more aware of how many steps are actually involved in any kind of task or cleaning project, and how if you run out of energy halfway through and have to stop, it can cause even more problems. Now that I can’t binge clean anymore, I see how big of an undertaking it really can be. So to anyone thinking along the lines of ‘why don’t you just pick up as you go’, I’ll ask you to consider that. What if you had to choose between pushing through to finish scrubbing the bath, and eating dinner? Or between putting away all the cleaning supplies and washing your face? What if your energy was so low that putting things away or cleaning an area meant you’d have to skip your basic self care? Then what would YOU do?
I am impressed by your insight and kindness. I know I have written before but I just want to say you DO have a positive effect and what you do and say have a bigger impact on the world than you know. Thank - you.
I used to hate cleaning and in my 20’s I basically lived like a hoarder lol. But as I got older I realized that cleaning actually helped my mental health a lot. When I’m feeling anxious or life is spiraling, cleaning or organizing is something I can control. It’s something i can accomplish. It doesn’t take a lot of brain power but getting something done makes me feel like I can control something when I feel like things are out of my control. It’s weird. But it works for me. Like if I’m really angry or something I rage clean and it calms me down. If I’m nervous, it takes my mind to a calmer place. Etc. Your environment really does affect your state of mind and sometimes forcing yourself to even do small tasks can help get you out of that funk.
U R AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING ! I understand completely. I suffer from all kinds of physical and mental health issues. It gets so bad I can't even do simple things like make phone calls, or appointments, or even get an identification, ect. But on my good days I LOVE TO CLEAN ! I love to organize, and make things beautiful. My favorite things in the world to do is just be normal and be able to shower, clean my house, and spend quality time with my family. It actually drives me insane when things are out of place and makes me more depressed, especially when I can't do anything about it because my mind is a fog. It's like when a computer crashes. But I've cleaned others houses before also. I can't get a job doing it because I have so many bad days and never know when I'm going to be able to function. I wish I had someone that could help me when I'm down and vice-versa. Having physical and mental health issues that prevent u from living a normal life is awful. U feel so alone. I think about suicide almost everyday of my life because I feel so useless. Honestly the only reason I haven't is because of my children. I don't want to cause them pain. So God bless u for being the kind beautiful human being that u are. The kind of person we all should be to each other.
You really inspired me. I have a friend, her home would be a candidate for your help. I stepped in, brought your energy in (no judgement, everything can be cleaned and anything unsavable has to go). We did it all in 5 days, and her home is a home again. I just wanted to let you know that you're making waves, making a difference!
You keep making me cry. Your advice is precious. I don't feel useless and lazy anymore. Im struggling a lot like the people you help that you describe. Thank you for helping them. X🇬🇧
Thank you for understanding. It's even harder when you have Chronic intractable pain, fatigue, anxiety & depression. It's so hard to get motivated when you're starting off already severely fatigued. Your cleaning is incredible. Sending love & light ✨️ from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤
Hi-I am 1-of your new viewers. I want to thank you for your kindness, understanding,incredibly giving heart & for sharing what you’ve learned. Especially about the correlation between mental health & cleaning. Your decision to choose to be non-judgemental & sharing the many reasons why is super insightful . TY🙏💕
I really needed help from someone like yourself recently. I’m physically disabled and clinically depressed, paralyzed by anxiety, unmedicated, recently out of prison, etc. I ended up having to do it myself and although I felt like I did a pretty good job cleaning and throwing away literally every last thing, I still got kicked out of my apartment and it ended up ruining the few remaining relationships I had with people. Neurotypical folks really just don’t understand most of the time. I’ve been called lazy and disgusting by family my entire life but im really not and hate that I struggle with it. It’s very embarrassing and overwhelming. You’re a total blessing for the service you provide and your understanding of people’s underlying psychological conditions ❤
"Your worth is never dependant on the cleanliness of your home." I needed that today. My house is a disaster area after having spinal fusion surgery in Sept of last year and still struggling to do ANYTHING for more than 10 to 15 minutes. My depression is back full force because of it. I get so tired of hearing how lazy I am because my house is not spotless. Thank you for not judging people and their homes.
Thank you so much for your understanding and compassion. Ppl without mental health issues....just have no idea how getting out of bed in the morning can be so monumental...so debilitating.
I just came across your page and have quickly gone down that rabbit hole!!. You don't know how much this is stepping on my feet right now. My home isn't no where near the homes you clean but it definitely affects you mentally when you can't find that motivation to even clean your own space sometimes. I'm seeing this first hand, when you get down, its can be extremely hard to pull yourself back up. Especially when you're doing it alone. I'm seeing this first hand. Thank you
I think you are amazing!!!! You are an angel, helping the silent sufferers who have the courage to ask for help!!! Thank-you for making life better for those you help and in so doing, make this world a better place for everyone!!!! ❤
You speak 1000% the truth. I’m in that spot and it’s just so hard to do anything with anxiety. If one has never experienced that, you definitely cannot relate, but understanding is helpful. Ty for all you do.
I just love you and your perspective. I have battled mental health issues my whole life. Cleaning is the last thing on my list when sometimes just getting out of bed takes everything I've got. I've been called lazy my whole life and no matter how many times I tried to get help or explain what was going on with me, it never made a difference. So thank you, for seeing more than laziness in people who desperately need help and understanding. ❤❤❤
I deal with ocd and anxiety and depression. So it's so hard for me to get it done cause when I do it I get overwhelmed having to have it done a certain way. I wish I had help like this. We love you for the love you share with others. Thank you
Sometimes cleaning is the hardest thing I make myself do, but the weight of NOT doing it is so heavy on me, I know that not cleaning is the actual source of my the bigger party of my anxiety, so once I just do it, it’s like healing to my soul.
In which case you have never experienced the deep depths of severe depression. There is a considerable difference between feeling low / ‘depressed’, to suffering with depression / mental health. They are not one and the same. One is often circumstantial & hormonal, the other is a chemical imbalance. When your life is all consumed by every which way you’d rather unalive yourself, the very last thing you wish to do is clean.
I literally cried when I heard this. This is everything I'm going through my house is not up to my husband's expectations it stays cluttered with 3 messy kids I try my best but I do procrastinate. I'm tired I'm depressed I'm a full time mom with anxiety. Its hard for me sometimes just to sit down and catch a breath. Very relatable I've thought about asking for help but maby I'm embarrassed or don't want my husband to think less of me..
I’ve been there as a binge drinking alcoholic. My now hubby never judged me in the beginning when we were just friends and that helped me take the steps I needed to change, I’m a healthy stepmom of three living my best life now thanks to him being nonjudgmental
You're so kind, as someone with bad mental issues and chronic fatigue your words help a lot. In good news well listening to your videos i got my storage closet cleaned out and organized :)
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for understanding and not blaming and shaming. It’s so hard sometimes to always justify why your home isn’t the way you truly want it to be. Every reason just sounds like an excuse.
"Sometimes people just need a helping hand". I agree! I've found that sooner or later, in one way or another, most of will need the help of another person no matter how self-sufficient we try to be.
I appreciate so much that you destigmatize mental disorders, and that you suggest others be compassionate instead of judgemental!!!! There's so much judgement everywhere. It's nice to see someone who actually gets it. ❤
I began to notice when I wasn't even a preteen yet, that the kindest people I knew tended to have the messiest and most cluttered houses. For a while I wondered why.. but now I realize a good bit of it is the humility and compassion for others that people who are quietly suffering have. I didn't realize that the reason these people were so kind was they knew of their own shortcomings and sadness, and while unable to alleviate their own struggles, they knew they could at least spread kindness to the people around them.
Thank you for doing these, and for treating people who need this help with kindness and understanding. I deal with multiple disabilities and mental health issues and living through this kind of situation can feel so dehumanizing. Especially when we are shamed for it.
I absolutely LOVE your videos and the service you provide to others. I struggled with post partum depression horribly. The only reason my house did not get to this level is bc I had a friend who recognized and came and cleaned for me to get my house back on track. I will never forget the overwhelming amount of gratitude I had for that kind act!
I have helped my friend deep clean her house probably over 5 times now in the past 6 years. I know it makes her and her mom feel better but I hope one day they will be able to keep it clean. I'll keep doing it with them as many times as it takes, but they need to learn a routine and do something they can stick with
I love your work, ive been dealing with depression for years and although im lucky that my family is able to help me with the house and so i never reached the level of some of the houses you clean, your videos help me to find the will to clean on my own and for that im grateful.
honestly i love these videos so much. i struggle with a variety of mental health problems and it's been getting harder to take care of myself or clean and my room and bathrooms definitely aren't the best so seeing you do these makes me happy
I love how thoughtful you are about the state of mind for people who can't bring themselves to clean their environment in a way most people would typically expect. I don't struggle with not cleaning and organizing that much, but I know people who do, and of course their lives would probably be better if they cleaned and/or organized more, for a variety of reasons, but at the end of the day, judgment won't help them, and maybe encouragement and a helping hand every now and then is enough to help them know there are people who care about them and they're not going through life alone. And even if people who don't clean/organize enough don't get better, I'd rather they at least can feel cared about from time to time. It's good of you to reach out a helping hand.
