The Most Unattractive Trait 

it's difficult to be hard working when you don't feel passionately about something but this really inspires me to work hard and find my passion one step at a time. thanks arden!

Passionate and hardworking person =nigahiga

i feel called out

When you laying down with laptop on your chest with your double chin and feel guilty.

I totally agree with all this! Great video!

This is actually the problem that I had two years ago. I'm (still) stuck in business school with a concentration in marketing while my passion lay elsewhere and I've always thought "well I don't have the opportunity, I can't do it, no one is teaching me the stuff I want to be taught." I was so fed up with feeling shitty that I told myself "That's it, I'm done feeling sorry for myself, it's time to start working on something that actually matters to me." So I started to write this book and I actually finished it earlier this year. I don't actually want to publish it (it's my first ever finished work, of course it sucks), but it makes me feel better knowing that against all of these invisible hurdles, I did it anyway and I've taken a step forward.

A lot of time, money is a dreamkiller especially when it comes to schools 😢

Omg, the little stumble Arden had in the beginning was so cute

I love Adren, she's down to earth and really smart. Among all the bigger Hollywood stars, she's a real role model. Love her ❤❤❤

I seriously can't have enough of these Arden talks... Haha thank you! Your talks are motivating and challenge me to think about things that I don't think about on the norm.

R u saying that if someone is ugly and socially awkward but really hard working, they can be successful in the film industry?

I feel like you're calling me out personally...

i am studying for my test (and of course procrastinating, what else?) but this video made me not want to be lazy anymore, I'm so motivated to continue now, thanks arden! lololl

I really needed this message. Thanks so much Arden

To be honest, I've always prefer the phrase "All the best" instead of "good luck" because luck dont even exist unless i know how to work in the opportunity ive been given and when people wishing me all the best it somehow bring up my spirit to work hard.

Sometimes I feel like I'm in a slump and I hate work. Then I look around and realize that I'm born and living in Hawaii. I'm living and working in paradise. That's more than enough for me.

I always get super guilty and defensive when the topic of hard work is brought up, I'm one of those people who try things and when they get hard or look impossible, I give it all up and start the depressing "I don't know where my life is going thing all over again. Loved the video

thanks for being so honest and rooting us back to whats important. investing in ourselves. loving others.

SERIOUSLY I feel this video so much. Learning the value of hard work is so so so important! :)

Great video, Arden! You always pick good topics to talk about! This is a great reminder to not be lazy and always work hard, continue to learn, and grow as a person.

Arden you’re so sweet and sincere about it and I agree with you 100%!!!

I live away from family and for some reason Arden's pep talk video always make me feel less homesick

Can I just say that you're actually such an inspirational and motivational person? I love how you generally have some sort of moral in your videos that could encourage your viewers to better themselves, and that's always a brilliant thing. You're an amazing person and don't ever forget that

See, I'm the type of person that likes doing work and staying busy and doing tangible thing to reach my goals, and most people around me are always wondering why, and this is it. This is why I love working and reaching my goals, because they're the ones that really mean a lot: the ones I had to work really hard for. It's always really confusing when people are saying, "I'll just do the bare minimum to get by" or "I'll just cheat" because as much as I understand that some work is hard and just not fun, it also doesn't make sense to miss out on something amazing because your work wasn't the absolute best it could have been. Show off your talents and show off what you're good at! It's so rewarding to really push yourself and have fun while doing work! Love you, Arden, this is exactly the kind of message that needs to go out in the world of fast fame that we live in.

I love the way you speak. You inspire me so much, thank you! Hard work will never disappoint! And even if it does, you'll always learn from it. :)

ARDEN, I needed to hear this. Thank you!

Money is very important but it's not everything. Being loved and to love is really the best thing life can get.

I don't normally hit the like button on videos, but Arden really made me reflect on this one and she was encouraging throughout the video, reminding us to always push ourselves as much as we can in order to succeed. Thanks for creating a motivational and inspiring video, Arden!!! 😊🤗

You are so honest, Arden! I really feel like you said things you believe in and that youre genuinely trying to send us a message! Thank you! for trying to give a hand to your followers and people that stop by your channel. I felt like I just talked to a close friend. Stay well! ✌

Stumbled upon this tonight while in a work-avoiding mood. Your words were a wake-up call of sorts, and I just wanted to thank you for the indirect encouragement! :)

Lying on my bed in pjs while watching this Quick! I must be hardworking for Arden!

This means a lot Arden you don't even know, thankyou!

I needed to hear this so bad. . Thank you Arden for this video, and for any of your other videos that you upload for that matter. Thank you ❤❤❤

It's all about focus. Like ignoring the A/C and keeping a great talk going LOL! And a hilarious close! Way to be Arden!

This video is something I came across at 6am and also being adopted from Korea, You are amazing and I am so glad to have come across your channel. I have always known I will become someone someday and this is the exact video I needed to see to get to that next step, Thank you 🙏🏻

And for people who are struggling to take initiative (due to financial limitations, mental illness, disability, unsupportive environments, or any other reason): it's okay to be scared, and struggle, and need help. A big part of being resilient is accepting that you will make some mistakes and experience failure along the way; none of that means you should give up. It's also never too late to find your path and take the first steps. I was on one path for six years, then found a different calling and found myself suddenly racing along a new path for the last two years. It's been exciting, stressful and scary, and a lot of the time it feels like I'm all alone, but I never really am and nothing can actually stop me from achieving my goals. P.S. It also turned out that I needed those six years in a rut to work and slooooooooowly save up money to make my new path possible, so I completely get it if just trying to survive now is preventing you from investing in your future. It's really hard and there are no easy answers.

Arden, your recent videos have been motivating me. It's so relatable and it makes me think about things in a different perspective. Thank you so much!

This video just activated my third eye! Just found your channel and i have to say that it is clear that you are reaaaally smart and interesting. Your tips are very inspiring and down to earth and your voice is really pleasent to hear

I know what I want to do with my life, but I'm always making excuses for myself about why I can't/shouldn't do it. But this has really inspired me and I'm going to try and work harder in order to accomplish what I really want in life :) thank you so much!

LUCK = Labour Under Correct Knowledge

the beginning of this video just made my afternoon :)

Thanks Arden! This video is still motivation after years.

I don' think that is exactly true. I think today people have a misunderstanding of "hard work." like you might think of youtubers who made it big, or people who made apps and made it big, but hey i live in the SF bay area and personally have a few friends who made it big. hard workers? only 1 of them lol. the rest? lucky... copied an idea that was already out there, it got popular by chance, a bigger company bought them out, they got multi-millions. hard workers? how about doctors who spend 8 years after high school broke and studying then the next few years 80 hour work weeks? ph.ds who advance humanity that simply don't sleep and always have bags under their eyes doing research and conducting experiments? they work 10 times harder than the people you are probably imagining... but get no glory. even worse is those who work just as hard if not harder than these people, the guy in high school who had no parents but 3 siblings he had to care for, working 50 hours under the table and getting in trouble for falling asleep in class but never opened his mouth because he was afraid to get in legal trouble. finally graduating to work 2 - 3 construction sites at any given time. people glorify and celebritize entrepreneurs, but really a lot of it is luck or sly tactics. steve jobs was not liked by his deisgn and programing team, he worked them to the point of abuse and took all the credit because he was the face of the company at the time. facebook - back stab friend for idea, alibaba - use family and friend money to basically copy ebay software and move it to China where the government made a man-made vacuum of online services, Jack Ma literaly got rich because he was Chinese and because ebay and amazon had just become well established in the USA, and he was of the right age when it happened, and that his parents gave him like a million USD and his friends threw in more and he turns around and says "if you are 30 and still not rich, you are lazy" I mean i personally know people of all these backgrounds listed, and when it comes to "hard work" the people that you are bringing up, are not "lazy" but they are definitely not the hardest working. EDIT: with that said, the dude smoking pot all day is 100% not going to be a success. I guess it is like buying a lotto ticket. some buy countless tickets and never win, some buy one and win, but in the end you need to get off your butt and buy at least one to have a shot. So by all means, get off your butt and work hard. but don't glorify those who got lucky or shame those who didn't.

Hey Arden! This couldn't have come at a better time for me. Currently struggling with my Master's thesis. I feel like this video was a gift to get me to really REALLY focus. Keep doing awesome videos.

Rewatched the intro for soooooo many times! Arden being Arden😂😂 luv ya!!!!!!!

There is no easy path to success. I wish I had these tools when I was growing up. I've been working on music for the last 2 years. Yeah. It is hard work. Great video, Arden.

My mom's amazing. She came from nothing, but she worked so hard, taking care of her younger siblings, and studied to be a nurse. Now she makes sure my brother and I have what we need. I feel so blessed, but I find myself so lazy. So shook with your video lol. Idk, I feel like I've been just getting by too. But hey, I'm still surviving nursing school and is gonna graduate by the end of the year (hopefully 🙏🏼🙌🏼). I have moments when I'm super motivated and work hard, then I get comfortable and lose that motivation. I'm so frustrated with myself. 😩😩

I like the equation "preparation + opportunity = luck" Although there is just straight blind luck. Your overall message of working hard is great. I heard recently that there is a strong undercurrent these days of only doing what you like to do. While doing what you're passionate is awesome sometimes there's certain tasks that aren't the greatest, they are just things that will benefit you even though you aren't super enthusiastic about doing them. For example, working out is sometimes not the most fun for some but after they do it they feel great. Or sometimes like reading the Bible can be seen as a chore but after one spends time in it, then they may come away with some more insight. The other thing that popped into my head is balance and self care. The Japanese culture in Japan is super hard working but the happiness over there is questionable because the suicide rate is increasing. So it is really good to reflect on what your definition of success is. Some people chase a strong bank account. And some people invest in strong relationships with family and friends. There's only so much time and is a limited resource. Life is also short. So balancing career time with relational time is good whether it's with family, friends, or a significant other. Self care is also important especially in industries or lines of work that make people burn out. Some people need more recharging than others but we all need some sort of recharge to keep pursuing what we want to pursue.

Completely agree on what you said about luck. It's hard work that puts you in the position to take advantage of opportunities that come along.

Just because someone has the talent and potential but doesnt take an opportunity that comes their way, it could mean they just like the comfort zone that theyre in and that should totally be fine. Perhaps in the entertainment industry, you have to be the type A, go-getter, passionate about [fill in the blank], but i think it's totally okay to just want a comfortable life and enjoy the enough that they have. This society is always praising characters that are always super hardworking, work work work, but you know what, i think it should totally be fine and attractive to just want to work enough so you have enough time to enjoy other things in life that may seem smaller, but just as important!

I used to be so lazy, but I've recently decided to change that and work towards my dreams. Comparing myself to who I was a year ago, I feel way happier now when I'm working hard at something worthwhile rather than wasting all of my time binge watching shows and playing games lol Thanks, Arden, for making me look back at how much I've grown! :D

Love this video. I have gone to a few work seminars that talk about procrastination but not really just laying it out there. I needed this video right now. Thanks and love your singing by the way.

Couldn't agree more! This video was really awesome and inspiring ✨💕

Definetly. As a boy, i find that girls always go to the boys if they are hardworking. They dont just sit around doing nothing, so they are able to get into a relationshiop. They are happy because they earned it and they deserve it. And you most definetly deserve it. You're so hard working and you do so many thing. You deserve it more than most people. And we will stand by you and help you whenever you need us to.

Yes! I agree! I will say that I also think there are people who really are satisfied with what they have and don't have that ambition--the types of people who would never complain that they didn't "make it" because they weren't trying to. And I have a lot of respect for people who are content with much less, too. I'm definitely always desperately trying to get as much and as good as I can, but I understand that other people might just not want that.

Great message! Thank you for reminding us to go for it in life.

I admit, that I can be one of those lazy people at times, especially when I want to go out somewhere, but just don't feel motivated to do it. It's a habit and for me personally, it comes from other factors too. But, sometimes, it takes another person or that something to motivate you to do things. No one's perfect, I and everyone else has flaws that they don't like, but like anything else, it takes prayer or just finding things that you love to do. Anyways, I totally agree where you are coming from and I respect that you are an honest person. God Bless!! ✌💜💜

I'm a lazy person. I do what I enjoy and take opportunities as they come. I became a business owner a few months ago because the opportunity came up to take over for my boss. I looked at it and said, 'running a business is hard and there is a lot that I don't know'... then I looked at the work I've been doing there for almost three years and decided that a little extra work to keep doing a job that I enjoy should be fine. Now I own the business and I'm still learning some of the basics of running it... but it hasn't really made my job much harder. If anything, now instead of struggling to find filler things to do while on shift, I can change things that I've always wanted to change but my boss was refusing. I also get to talk about the product with more customers now. I look back and recognize that I've always been lazy. Worked for my parents while growing up, then worked in a high volume warehouse for almost 30 months... then worked in a low volume warehouse for roughly a couple years... then worked in a moderate volume warehouse for a couple years... then worked for an online retailer for I think 3-4 years... and now I own it. Even the most brutal of those jobs (the first warehouse) was something I enjoyed, so even when I was working hard it felt like I was being lazy. I also don't believe in luck the same way as others. Luck can't be made, but it also doesn't control everything. My first warehouse job, I literally went to the warehouse that hires anyone. My second was 'luck' that a friend met a guy who then called my friend to try and hire him... and I happened to be there when he called. The third wasn't luck as my brother was already working there - so I was hired with 'if I was half as good as my brother then I'd be great' (which I was half as good - hard to keep up with my brother). Where I am now, it could be considered 'luck' that my boss started going to my church and then needed someone good with computers to help out. Looking back, one could call it 'luck' that things went how they did... but if they had gone differently then I'd still looking back on how things went and contemplating 'luck'. To me, such events in my life are not luck. Luck to me is when I have a night where I roll awesome every time... or horribly every time. (My poor D&D character going back and forth between high win rate and high fail rate.) Luck to me is spotting a black car with their headlights off pulling out in front of me on an unlit road in the dead of night and having enough time to stop. Luck to me is reaching into a bag or box to grab something and realizing later that someone had put a sharp knife in there and I somehow didn't cut myself on it. But then, I read those all over... and are they really luck? Looking back, everything I went through led me to where I am... and where I am is leading to where I'll be. Maybe I won't have an awesome life and I'll just get by... but maybe with that life, I'll unknowingly help someone else to have a better life. Maybe I am exactly where I need to be to help someone else have a better life. And then I remember that I don't have a wife and I sigh. If you want luck... try finding someone you can get along with for the rest of your life. At this point, if there is a woman that would be compatible with me... she is the type that I would never meet.

Do you like prepare for these kind of videos? Because girl you can actually talk

Its just a twist on saying that the most attractive thing is success. And that in and of itself is unattractive. Just my humble opinion.

Awesome video! Especially that part about luck... I always had a passion for design and I thought that train left the station many years ago after working in a different industry for many years. Many years later, a miraculous opportunity came by at the perfect time and now I am working full time in the design work that I always dreamt about. Sometimes I would think I was lucky for the opportunity to pursue my dream, but realized it was hard work and taking action when no one else around me would that made the dream into a reality. Just had to trust God always had a path for me and to have the courage to take it when it was time.

watching your recent videos is like having a 1 on 1 seminar talk! haha i am enjoying this~

Arden, I'm always encouraged by your videos and it does give me great points of reflection. I hope you keep up the hard work and will always stay passionate about what you do in life. -Fan

I love the message you put out there, everything comes from hard work even if it starts somewhere small and you slowly keep at putting yourself out there with the opportunities given until you get to where you want to, love your videos, always cute, and I hope you have a great day.

Thank you for your advise Arden! I like your videos. Hope to see you soon on small and big screens. ☺

Arden is so inspirational. Love it

Just want to put in a little reminder to all the exhausted and overworked people out there! You are NOT being lazy! You are taking care of yourself so you can focus on the important stuff! Don't stress youself! God bless!

You know what? I'm just 14, and I'm not even from any english country, I'm from Spain. I found your channel by chance and I really loved it since the first second I saw your video. And now I have realised that you are a very good youtuber, but at the same time you are a better person and I think this is the most important thing that a person have to had. And the videos like this makes me see that you are completely amazing. Thank you so much for trying to influence people like this, because I think that all the important youtubers like you that have the power of influencing should try to do it correctly just like you do! I just can say thank you. And I'll love to continue telling you my opinion of all the greats things you do but I'll never finish. Love u. One of your little fans.

Omg, I needed this! for the past few weeks, I've been purposely late for school & other activities because I was kinda lazy and too distracted to take action then I honestly thought to myself few hours ago that I have to stop so this vid of yours was like a push for me, Thank you so muuuch! Haha 💕🙆

This really helped a lot. Thank you, Arden! Beautiful as always :)

Inspiring video! I really needed that pep talk... Thank you Arden, I appreciate you!

thanks for this encouragement arden! I feel like I needed to hear this!

Great video, it really made me think. I'm at that volatile stage where small decisions can impact my future and it can be daunting to follow my passion because I always think what happens if I don't make it. Uni has been really difficult for me but your videos are so refreshing.

I really liked this video! So inspirational & I felt like I really needed to hear these words. It's hard to find the motivation to do something you want when you're tired everyday from doing things you don't particularly enjoy but have to do though so I'm always in conflict with myself :l

I really agree with this and feel the same way Arden! Good to see yourself being proud of your success. I myself was never envious of people who were given success, but I admired ppl who earned it themselves! By the way I saw you at Yucheon Nangmyun about a month ago! You were wearing a baby blue hoodie & a cap. Hehe. Sorry I kept staring. I wasn’t sure if it was you or not. :)

I love your voice so much! Have you tried voice acting or podcast? Whenever I watch your videos, I put earphones on and just listen; it's just so soothing and you always talk about interesting and intelligent things that makes me focused.

Agreed!! Laziness is the biggest killer and can destroy anything.

This video is great! Thanks for making this video!! Love you Arden!

Was totally not expecting this, but so true. Can't agree more!

Different people have different traits, all which can be good or bad. Im sure someone who is naturally "lazy" has created some amazing things from not wanting to do something. Think outside the box. All the technology created is due to humans being lazy. Perhaps what you mean is being able to have the commitment to set forth with the things you want...and that is a whole other beast. Humans are complicated why label anything?

your videos are always so inspiring arden, i love youuu

Some people don't realize this but most hard things are accomplished by completing small increments towards your goal everyday. Nothing happens over night. Set a goal, works towards it everyday and don't give up. There's gonna be days where you don't feel like doing it but in the end it always pays off.

Thank you so much Arden, I felt like this is something I needed to hear :)

I do admire hardworking people as long as they’re humble. It is likewise unattractive (and pretty common) when some busy ambitious people look down on or judge others who are satisfied with less.

I don't know what I am really passionate about . I just try to make the right choice when the time comes even when I hadn't figured out properly about what I have passion in. Took medicine. It's more difficult than it sounds. Had all my family and some really close friends back me up. There's no going back. I just have to keep going on.

As a person born with bad health i think people with normal or even strong health is the one who's lucky. Pulling all nighter or sleeping late makes my body sick, kidneys problems, vertigo, etc. So i always try to manage my time and delegate tasks. I always envy people who can sleep for 3-4hours a day. Good health is wealth.

I 100% agree with you, but what if some NOT ALL but some don't have the motivation to work hard or have no reason to? I think that is what I am stuck in so I always take your videos to heart so you will still be my inspiration and motivation so thank you for this video thank that you for always being there. Thank you Arden ♥️♥️

I really appreciate the video Arden! It was really encouraging :D Thank you!

my baby! ugh I would love to be your friend you are such genuine person, and you put such a smile on my face I love you so much, keep up the good work!

This is really motivating, thank you Arden!

thankful for all these honest videos, arden. xx

thank your arden :) I love the real talks that you have with us

Hey Arden, I just found out about your channel and thanks for the inspirational video! As an entrepreneur, I don't think passion or hard work is something I lack, but have you experienced working so hard for so long, and pushing with as much passion as you can, and yet not see the kind of results you want? It gets discouraging after a while. But your video is a reminder to continue going for it, and to be kind and positive to myself. Thanks again and you've earned another subscriber :)

The laziest people are the most successful. They find the easiest way to do things, and thus achieve more.

Thank you for making this video, this topic hits me so hard ❤️ can you make a video about confident and self-love plz, I struggle so much with confidence, I couldn't show people who I am because I'm just too held back. Love you 😘

have goals in life, be passionate about something - doesn't matter what! Awesome video - you are very talented in what you do

This was very inspiring!! Thanks Arden!!

Thanks for these inspiring /honest talks!!

Arden this is so true! ur awesome and hardworking!

"Yo girl! I ain't got time for you, 'couse I be working all day!" Best pick up line ever. A complet turn on. Never fails.