The Narcissist And The “Future Fake” 

The whole relationship is based on how much you overlook

Just because you miss someone doesn’t mean you need them back in your life. Missing is just a part of moving on.

“A paranoid way to live is with a mf narcissist” real af 🔥

Narcissists only regret what you could have continued to provide for them not love, respect, joy or genuine sincerity. Their mental torture and regrets are not based on any genuine feelings they had for us only what could be provided for them. They miss the better circumstances not the person.

It’s not what someone says it’s what they Do

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." -- MayaAngelou Be safe y'all! 🙏🙏

The fantasy is the trap. When you stay aligned with lies and delusions KNOWING deep within that it's all lies, you pay karma and lose out on blessings.

Listen! I have been future faked for 12 years off and on! Every time he comes back, he tells me exactly what I want to hear and shows the good side for no more than 3 months and BOOM!! He is back to his true self. I got dumped again about 2 weeks ago because I called him out on his bs once again…then I became the blame and was labeled insecure, negative and didn’t trust him. I have to laugh because it’s truly sad how these people are. I think hope and being a good hearted person has kept me stuck for a very long time. Some of the things I’ve put up with, I am ashamed to even mention because I’m worth so much more than what I’ve allowed. This year I decided to focus on self love, God and my business. I know God has so much more for me than the mediocre I’ve settled for all these years. I have nothing to show for it but broken promises and future plans that NEVER came to fruition. It’s quite pathetic if you ask me. I’m taking it day by day. Please pray for me because I want to stay on track. I’m glad I found your channel.

LORD that future FAKING Is a cold GAME ....HE took it extremely too far.

I wish I knew the ex narc husband was future faking with me, my family and friends from the day we met. Now he realizes by future faking his raggedly wagon is no longer attached to my golden chariot.😂😂

The narcissist's mind is so sick and convoluted. I've given up trying to wrap my mind around understanding their twisted behavior. It's too difficult to make sense of. But this video has helped me understand why the narc once said, "You don't like me, you just like the IDEA of me." I hope I never ever end up dealing up close with anyone like this ever again.

We base them off what we want them to be in the future not what they are in the present.

OMG this storyline brings back flashbacks. Narc sets the stage,then it flips the script as soon as you except it. These Narcissist are disgusting.

A lot of times, they are selling you a fantasy and 5 other people the same fantasy. It doesn't matter if you've been in a relationship with them 8 years or 5 months. They have no sense of your invested time or energy in the relationship. Everybody is the same to them and their is no loyalty if you call them out on the false promises and lopsidedness of the relationship.

Love how you call her “that lady” 🤣

This is my 4th week of no contact and she has reached out through various means every single day. Today I received an email from her at my work email address promising that if I go back she will be the woman she refused to be in our relationship for years. Not gonna lie - it took a lot not to write back. Just got off work and decided to check RU-vid, saw this video, and had to thank you! The worst part is she literally repeated all the things I asked for during the relationship damn near word for word. This let me know that not only was she listening but actively refusing to address any of my wants and needs the whole time. Insane that you dropped this video today! The Creator knows what he is doing. Thank You, Brother!

✍️ write down everything bad? 👏🏾🤣 That mental torture. I just THANK GOD HE RESCUED ME🙏🏾🕊️🌿

You will look for me in others but you will never find me I'm a diamond in the rough. That's their Karma ☺️❤️😂

So happy to be at PEACE ✌🏽

That’s the kind of games they love to play…meanwhile she probably showed people the text of the ring and acted like YOU were the one pressed for marriage. This is the twisted shit they do.

The narcissist is the devil in disguise as the woman of your dreams

God won’t let anyone who messes around stay with me! Just understand that

They will never change..... If you know your dealing with a NARC; leave and count your loses.... You'll be blessed in the future. You'll become a therapist when dealing with these narcs.... Ain't no fun when rabbit gots the gun! Run.

Toxic people are sick. Take good care of yourself always. You deserve to be treated w kindness❤ Much love and light sent your way❤

This morning you were on 6.9k now you're on 7.2k amazing your content is definitely good 👍🏽 👌🏽 👏🏽

That lady not only manipulated you into buying a ring, but then she gaslighted you like you were crazy.

It’s the games they play they know they ain’t worth nothin so they do this push and pull never again for me

I was future faked tonight. He talked about his goals and us owing a business together which is something that he knows I’m passionate about. The funny thing is I know him and know damn well he can’t get approved for a loan for a car let alone a business loan and I called him on his bs. I got called insecure and bitter. It’s hilarious because I know who he is and what he’s all about. I hope he find some new supply soon so he can leave me alone.

After leaving the narc I realized all his ex’s has told him the same shit I use to say during and after the relationship like damn I would get tired of hearing I’m a piece of shit from everybody including friends (who would say it jokingly)

Was dealing with a narcissistic fellow for four years, it's not easy, but you can escape, it truly gets better day by day, week by week, month by month... Just keep going... It's addictive, but you can break that addiction... Four years in, four months clean... I'm good now, and you will be as well😘

Man, your cadence is poetic on how you convey the Narc message. The biggest alert I noticed with my Narc were the cruel and unusual punishments I received for small infractions. That power and control for a Narc is their bread butter.

You Teaching Good Coach Terell,You Teaching Good!🙏

#Mirroring In the beginning they get you to fall in love with a simulacrum of the best version of yourself. Gratitude for your service🙌🏾

That's a fact the slightest little sliver of Hope as what it makes you hold on to try to find the person that you once thought existed

Yep. He always thought I was lying and I wasn't. I was trying to prove to him that I could be trusted. Living uneasy wondering when he was gonna accuse me of some more shit. When in reality, he is the one who could not be trusted

There will come a time when you can laugh again😅😂😅😅 as you build a NEW LIFE movin forward and keeping it moving. 🛐🛐 Stay safe

My ex narc discarded me 5 years ago and haven’t heard from him since…UNTIL..he started messaging me on thanksgiving. I was getting messages with all these friendly greetings, then I got more on Christmas and more on New years. I’ve never responded. He tried joking, being sentimental, love bombing, teasing me, being serious and then getting upset and threatening me. I never responded. He went through all these emotions on his own because I wouldn’t take the Hoover. The Hoover is real guys. You’re on the back burner and it can even happen 5 YEARS LATER like mine did. Do not respond to them. They will try every trick they know to get you to respond but stay strong and hold your ground. P.S. I had this person blocked on my old phone. Got a new phone, new phone number not even in my name and they literally got my NEW number somehow. It’s shocking. Idek how that’s possible. They’re blocked now on the new phone. Stay strong. Everything you miss and love about the narcissist is everything you love about yourself-because they were just mirroring your behavior. So do yourself a favor and do not engage with the ex narc. The cycle will just continue over and over and over, much to their pleasure and your dismay. ❤

I treated him so good and sacrificed so much of who I was and he deserved NONE OF IT

I don’t think they’re smart enough to know the psychology of what we’ve been through. Maybe I’m wrong but most I’ve known aren’t smart.

Sometimes I'm thinking we are all dating the same person/ have the same ex

Facts! Their actions will ALWAYS tell you the real deal! Another great video!

Future faking omg I wish I'd seen this sooner x

Yes, he painted a picture where all his exes cheated on him. But really he was the cheater

I love the way you speak.. you keep things real. It’s like listening to an older brother give me advice. I definitely felt everything you was saying. My ex narc promised commitment, living together and trips…. Then my ex narc started a fight out of no where on thanksgiving day to go see someone else. I’m like dang… you promising romantic trips, but can’t even commit to eating turkey with me on a simple holiday… 😅 Congratulations on your growth 💯💯💯🙏🏽

All the guys reading this hear me, NEVER argue with a woman! It will save you lots of trouble. I’m ready to bounce once it gets disrespectful. From my experience a narc also like to future fake when they feel like you about to discard them. God bless bro 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

OMGOODNESS I have definitely been down that road! That's so hurtful, but in the end, I won. He won't EVER find another me!!

Yep. He said he wanted us to be like his parents. Still together old. But he was cheating on me

The devil is the author of confusion, chaos, and lies so don't fall for it like this gentleman said and if you're still in it PLEASE get out and listen because its the truth. Shout out to my fellow NARC demon 🤡 slayers and hopefully future ones🙌🏽. Terrell A Blessings and Appreciation 🙏🏽.

I kept all the sneaky text messages and pics from my ex that he was sending to other women. He was doing the same thing he did to me. The love bombing! Lying and blowing up his character traits. Future faking! etc. I kept them so I could look at when he would hoover back and try to ask me to forgive his behavior. We argued about his behavior all the time and he couldnt stand that I held a mirror up to his face and made him look at his actions and to deal with the consequences. He never liked it lol oh well! He did it to himself!

I remain single right now to this day because if a guy cannot show me with his actions then he can keep it moving. I will no longer go by what you're saying out of your mouth. Actions always speaks louder.

She was future faking herself marriage was what she wanted not you. A true future faker finds out what the other person wants and then speaks on that.

I caught my baby mom aka narcissist butt naked with another man and I end up in jail with her lies then went to court with another man different from the one I found her sleeping with YET I got lock up still fighting charges now I'm doin my best to fight temptation she let the guy she showed with at court today threatened to kill me in front of my son and I can't even see my son because the court have me in home monitor I'm definitely BEING tested but I definitely stop smoked weed and follow these law because I need a prayer

Just want he did to me, promised me heaven and gave me hell, i don't kow how i ever allow someone to treat me like that, but i needed that lesson...standards raised and access denied.

What's amazing about all of this is that so many ppl have these same characteristics/personality so this is factually a condition that so many ppl have yet so few actually can nor will ever admit that they are indeed a fxx#!N& NARCISSIST lol

I just out lol "Naw it's a wrestling ring." My question is how does these people learn their tactics. Same tactics in California the same in North Carolina. Everything he said is 100% accurate.

Future faking is the worst form of manipulation because they give you false hope. A narc is poetic as hell with their false promises, almost like a damn Shakespearean soliloquy, only resulting in broken dreams. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. These are sick people that play off of your hearts desires and insecurities. May the power of Christ compel their dumb asses. Protect your heart and energy

I was bamboozled with marriage to. Wish I was aware of a narcissist..

"All ties in" days big. That's why when I talk about this , Is like a long story!!!

I’m so happy to see you blow up. Great knowledge and presenting well. Thank you for helping us ❤

I'm glad I don't want marriage or any kids. I'm complete being single. No more narcs in my life.

We never dated...it was in my head...now the tables have turned...it's in their head now.

They have no feelings its vampires

This is the TRUTH 💯💯

Gangsta of the streets!! They be running scared when we pass by them.

New follower here! I love your content!! My ex recently came back after being separated for 4 years… talking about he ready to settle down and get married and be a family since we shared a child… mind you this man dragged me thru the mud several occasions… he came back giving me the ultimatum that I need to say Yes to him so we can start over and get married, and he’ll drop her and if I didn’t he was gonna continue on with the new relationship he currently in.🙄 like I needed to forget all the horrible shit he’s done and just say yeah I’ll marry you… I told him there’s no way I would ever jump into a marriage with anyone let alone with you again when he ain’t shown no new behavior or actions OR even EFFORT… He say well I’m telling you I’ve changed 🙄 NO SIR… I don’t go off words anymore… You gonna have to show me! I sent him back to the new supply she can have him. Besides that, he ain’t changed because he already done cheated on her and for him to think my eyes and mind don’t work!😂. Never go back, it’ll be 10x worse than the last it always do!!! I’m in Houston too 🤟🏾stay blessed Sir!!

I was literally just thinking about the future faking. It was always making things official and marriage. Two weeks ago he said he wanted to pick a wedding date. The way I froze let me know something was wrong. Plus, I was like can we become an official couple FIRST? Now that we aren't together, I'm starting to see that the relationship was narcissistic. Even down to me doing more to show him where I stood. Maaaaan, Terrell I'm glad I found your videos. The way you break it down makes it sooooo clear.

INTEGRITY!!! You said it! Not even in their wheel house. No depth of character. Great advice to write it down in the order... thank you, friend.

Wow this just revealed another layer to me that I didn't consider that it happened much sooner than I thought

They want to know everything about you and your past, but tell you nothing of theirs. The darkness of their past is evident. You ever marry a narc, you will have married the devil. A life of being used and abused. Professional victims.

It’s the Charlie Brown thing with Lucy holding that football and promising she won’t lift it at the last moment 😊He kept believing every time this was a cartoon and as we all learned they are a cartoon character .Time to live in reality and cut them off.The most troubling thing is the way people get self esteem is from others likes..No self esteem comes from your struggles in life yourself how you go through adversity That is why it’s called self esteem .

My narcissist hit me up today after 3 days of no contact. As you said they always come back. I am keeping my distance however and staying on my Nipsey ( The marathon continues). Keep up the GOD work my brother 🙏 💪🏾

You are a super Solid Man! Thank you soo much for sharing! Dropping straight Gems! #VivaLaFro

Crazy shit. The Narc even had the future names of our kids, where we will live, where will we get married, as early as less than a yr of our "relationship" 🤦‍♂️🤣

Wow spot on..the bread crumbing my god the worst thing I’ve ever experienced.

Mine bought a wedding ring set after 1 month. Lots of passive aggressive behaviour…

Omg I wish I heard this 6 years ago... this is so therapeutic! ThankYou

When you are grade A supply you have to live like this!! Evidence!!

Thank you for helping me I'm starting to understand . I'm 64 years old and I feel like life is over . This man I thought I would spend the rest of my life with because I know I'm a good woman I got your back . Why do men take advantage of that instead love you back and we can pull together.

Thanks for doing this great work and sharing your experience.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

I just was going through this I've only known them for 4 months but dealing with them an his games felt like years I'm glad I got out of it.. it was very scary an almost damaging.

They aren't used to word as bond . Smh . Too good for them

Excellent Performance. So Correct. Narcissists bread Crumbs aren’t worth having. Thank You 🙏

So a narcissist is a mean, low-down, & dirty person...🤔💭

"I need receipts!" Wish I would have had that a decade ago.

Well said once again

This shit was so on point I'm screaming!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯

You sound good. And thats no future faking.

Always wanted your kids to have moms.and a Dada. Just like me .Boy you've been through it. Uve healed and are healing. My applause ." Been there done that", is one reason I listen to u!. Youre good teacher !/ coach!!

I'm so glad that I found this channel!💓

I gave up proving to people. When you do that you become their puppet and they in control

Narsarastic abuse is over. Rover

I’m in the midst of detaching myself from what I truly believe is a narcissist! I just came across your videos and subscribed and every word you’re speaking is my actual reality with this manipulative condescending verbal abusive and one sided man! I’m leaving and it’s now. Thank you best wishes to everyone

YOU REALLY HELPED ME😭

I’ve been future faked for 17 years waiting on marriage and children and now I’m probably too old for children because I waited for him!!! He kept telling me I’m not patient and his famous phrase “it’s coming”

They play so many games , it’s not funny

You are spot on Brother

Nailed it as usual. Thank you, Terrell.

Bravo big bro 👏 old school 65

I’m going to support you as I can because this is like how to overcome a narcissist matrix style!! I know Judo now!! Lol!! As I can I will. We all know how expensive a therapist is!! I’ve been playing your videos at least twice to retain it. I’m so grateful I found your channel!”