The New Science of Romantic Love: What You Understand, You Can Shape

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The New Science of Romantic Love: What You Understand, You Can Shape
Presenter: Dr. Sue Johnson
Description:
This presentation outlines the theory and practice of emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT), a tested-potent approach not only to modifying conflict and restoring satisfaction, but also to shaping secure lasting bonds between partners. The presentation will offer an overview of love as an attachment bond and the EFT model of intervention, a model that now represents the gold standard in empirical validation in the couple field. Topics to be addressed include dealing with affairs, forgiveness, escalating couples and co-morbid mental health problems.
The presenter has prepared a handout that is available by clicking on the link below:
Learning Objectives:
At the conclusion of this lecture, attendees will be able to:
• Outline the key tenets of attachment and the experiential model of change used in EFT
• Describe the key change events in EFT and how they shape secure bonds
• Pinpoint key moments of disconnection, injury and repair
Bio:
Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, popular speaker and a leading innovator in the field of couple therapy. Dr. Johnson is the primary developer of emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in more than 25 years of peer-reviewed clinical research.
As author of the best-selling book Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Sue Johnson has created for the general public a self-help version of her groundbreaking research about relationships-how to enhance them, how to repair them and how to keep them. Her most recent book, Love Sense, The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships, outlines the new understanding of why and how we love, based on recent scientific evidence and cutting-edge research. Explaining that romantic love is based on an attachment bond, Dr. Johnson shows how to develop our “love sense”-our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.
Dr. Johnson’s best known professional books include The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors.
Dr. Johnson is founding director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, distinguished research professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California and professor emeritus, clinical psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. She trains counselors in EFT worldwide and consults to the 35 international institutes and affiliated centers who practice EFT.
Dr. Johnson lives in Ottawa with her husband. She adores Gilbert and Sullivan, Monty Python, Argentine tango and kayaking on Canada’s northern lakes. For more information about Dr. Johnson, her training, appearances, books and videos, please visit www.drsuejohnson.com.
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@fadyaalbakry7093 7 лет назад

"Nothing grows people like love"

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

There are a lot of things

@josephinewliu 2 года назад

27:15 fights are always and only about one question." are you there for me? do i matter for you?" her talk is about one hour. the other half an hour is Q&A

@killerqueen1974 5 лет назад

One of the most interesting and eye opening lectures I have ever heard. It explains basically all my relationship challenges:)

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

If you listen to people such as this you'll never get through any relationship. There's going to be unforseen challenges. You may not be able to meet them all but you move on. You can't go through any relationship thinking about the next challenge. It will destroy you and your relationship. People need to stop watching these people they'll ruin you.There are no rules or books to follow. Every relationship is built on different things . We are not robots and can't be programed. This is one of the best parts if a relationship learning as you move on.

@JayKay-ht8rg Год назад

What are even the most hardened and deadliest prison inmates most afraid of? That’s right. Solitary Confinement. Connection with others is a basic human need.

@Laurel_Kay 5 лет назад

Amen! Science is catching up to the word of God! Loved it, thanks Dr. Johnson 💕

@TheRumpelstinskin 3 года назад

lol

@kseke25 2 года назад

Nonsense.

@reginadroll7285 4 года назад

Love this revolutionary research and wisdom. I am completely captivated.

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

Well considering nobody can research what's good or bad for a relationship. What are you studying maybe 100, 1000 couples. Every single one of these are different. And how long are these so called studies. These people also know they're under the microscope. It's also proven that studies cannot be trusted.

@bethalenam8699 4 года назад

LOVE IS CORE, no doubt

@laural1845 2 года назад

Absolutely beautiful!! I Love Love!! Thank You 😁

@gabrielakessler5116 8 лет назад

Thank you very much for this veryy helpful contribution!

@johnhall5773 6 лет назад

thanks

@HenockTesfaye 6 лет назад

Gold

@latinaalma1947 Год назад

27:00 Are you there for me? 31:00 More secure connection strengthens attachment 37:00 Reach etc.

@latinaalma1947 Год назад

Excellent! Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychology professor

@bobbyc.1111 7 лет назад

thank you !!!

@gulie8 7 лет назад

So good-amazing!

@legacytrainer4242 2 года назад

Any know how to find that article in the journal she referred to?

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

Does it really matter. It's a fact even from people who do studies. They are not to be trusted. It's just a kind of roundabout

@asalane20 6 лет назад

What if a person seeks connection via a rambling social life rather than an intimate connection? Is attachment defined by intimacy and partnering?

@lukaszurb3452 2 года назад

Evil

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

Absolutely nobody could possibly answer this except the person

@marinav4591 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing this lecture. Is there a list of research articles that Dr. Johnson referred to? Thank you

@berniek85 6 лет назад

Apply for the training in emotional focused therapy happening in February 2019 in Zurich and benefit from the early bird discount! More Information on eft-paartherapie.ch/weiterbildu…/externship-zuerich/

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

Why waste your money. It's all fraudulent

@legacytrainer4242 Год назад

Is this a course taught at CalSouthern?

@tommac21 7 месяцев назад

Why it's totally bogus

@icysnow57cold64 2 года назад

I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.

@ashleycbla 2 года назад

If you spend enough time around and with a platonic best friend, you will have disagreements/fights. You’re describing a more distance or maybe Internet platonic best friend. A lot of relationships start from platonic friends and they break up when they become more than friends 9/10 times because while being platonic friends you created this perfect fantasy about him/her but then once you become more one or the other realizes that they are an imperfect human just like you and then they/you move on/breakup/divorce.

@icysnow57cold64 2 года назад

@@ashleycbla There are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships. Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot.And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends. Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone. Also, you're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse. So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is. Why do you think the word "best friend" has the term "best" in it, while words like "boyfriend", girlfriend" "husband", and "wife" don't have the word "best" in them?

@ashleycbla 2 года назад

@@icysnow57cold64 What is toxic to you? Having a disagreement/argument is not toxic unless it includes being manipulative. You’re going to have disagreements/arguments if you spend every moment with your platonic best friend because we are human. Your spouse actually is your best friend, this person sees you in your most vulnerable state more so than your platonic best friend unless you don’t draw a line with your platonic best friend outside of your spouse. There are things that my platonic best friend would never tell me because I’m not as close to them as their spouse. You actually don’t really know a platonic best friend until you’ve spent a lot of time with them, you will find out things you don’t like about them because we are all human and have quirks. You can actually have a platonic best friend who is abusive and uses you, say they are your platonic best friend but then behind your back say otherwise (which happens a lot). You can definitely find real love with a spouse and when you do that person is going to look out for you way more than any platonic friend because that person will know you a lot better due to more time spent and being open and honest as long as you reciprocate the same.

@icysnow57cold64 2 года назад

@@ashleycbla Platonic relationships and romantic relationships may be two entirely different things, but that doesn't mean they are equal when it comes to the amount of love given in them. The love in platonic relationships seems to be way stronger than the love in romantic relationships are since platonic relationships are not fragile like romantic relationships are. Also, platonic relationships also seem to be a lot more intimate and comfortable than romantic relationships are. Platonic love is one of the most purest forms of love there is, while romantic love is one of the least purest forms of love there is. Most people seem to be a lot more comfortable around their platonic best friends than they are around their romantic partners or spouses. A platonic best friend is one of the best things you could ever have. A platonic best friend can be someone you trust the most, and they can be your confidant and coach. People tend to trust their platonic best friends more than their romantic partners, and that's a fact.

@icysnow57cold64 2 года назад

@@ashleycbla There are a lot more risks and dangers to romantic relationships than they are to platonic relationships. Why do you think most fathers don't act the same way towards their daughter's platonic male friends as they do towards a potential boyfriend? It's because they know there's a much higher chance someone could potentially get hurt in a romantic relationship compared to a platonic relationship. No matter what, a lot of fathers seem to hate it whenever their daughter has a boyfriend (even if he is a good guy). There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING". There's also a lot of other shirts and merchandise made for fathers that say stuff like "Rules for dating my daughter: #1. You can't!" or "Before you date my daughter, know this: I'm a dad with a shotgun, a shovel, and a backyard." Most fathers don't want their daughters to have anything to do with boys outside of being friends. Many fathers won't allow their daughters to date when they are in high school or still living with them. I have also heard many fathers on the internet say that they hate the idea of their daughter having a boyfriend someday, and are completely against it. So it seems to me that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to date and be in a romantic relationship with a guy.