The Oversexualization of Teens and Children on TikTok  

dude!! I'm 14 as well and think exactly the same :(

Finally, people understand me ☺( I'm also 14 )

I am currently 18 and i still consider myself a child. I don’t have a sense of style,my make up skills are below average and I am definitely not good at being elegant. I embrace it and I enjoy it as well ! I am growing and becoming better at being a woman everyday,and that is what matters ! I haven’t been able to change to look more ‘mature’ because I always felt uncomfortable to do that but now i am grateful because now that i never felt comfortable to do that before. This year i just started to change a little as in i started to walk straighter and dress a bit out of my comfort zone but not too much that i get anxiety. It’s a slow process for me and i feel like slow is what helps you become more comfortable and confident in yourself ! Baby steps is what helped me be more content with myself and i wish that everybody will get there in time. Take your time and enjoy your life to the max ! 🤍

I’m 13 and same :(( it makes me feel so behind everyone because I wanna fit in but I also don’t wanna be an asult

i’m 23 and this makes me so sad. tap into your child/teen self without shame no matter what

I think there's a fine line between teenagers experimenting with what they like and sexualizing. Like makeup is fine but trying to imitate adults is not. Dressing up is fine but again imitating adults it's not. And when you try to tell teens what to do it won't work. It's not necessarily how they dress but how they act nowadays that's scary.

@@sun4500 wdym imitate adult's makeup ☠️

@@Jensiferss the way i see it things like harsh contouring and overlining lips too much etc or just wearing makeup to look way older but it's just my opinion 🤷‍♀️

Be fr some of y’all are, for example the comments about loren grey, mula, danielle cronh. They were accused all the time of looking like adults. But you go back and look at them and they looked like little girls.

that's a huge range between 12 and 17 though, 17 is almost an adult and 12 is still a child

Me too but I am still 15

And I feel left out cause I don't understand anything that they r talking

I was the opposite. I looked way older at school because of my height, but now that I am 21 I get also told that I look like a teen. So yeah I also take this as a win.🤣

You and I are the same age. I’m sure you remember when social media took a huge leap. I wasn’t allowed on social media, and I wasn’t allowed to watch MTV so I wasn’t exposed to as much adult content as my peers. My classmates would all dress like the Kardashians or the Jersey Shore cast. They’d party over the weekend and a lot of them got caught smoking or drinking either outside of school or behind school. My 3 friends and I all dressed pretty casually and were decked out in anime merch. We were bullied a lot but by the 8th grade, we became used to it because our peers couldn’t come up with any new insults. Now at 24, I see the same classmates who would bully us for liking Disney and Nickelodeon start watching those shows and sober up. They really buried that part of their childhood so it’s nice to see them explore all of that without judgement

It sure is a win, congrats!

Btw these girls looking older than they are are doing nothing wrong. Just wanted to specify I don’t see them in a negative light

​@@penncil6374Teenagers should act like teenagers. IT IS normal. Acting older than your age is the weird thing.

It is completely normal for a 15 year old to look like child. Stay calm. You are supposed to look like a child because that's what you are. What is right is not popular. This world is upside-down.

You were normal. They were the weird ones.

@@causal_internetuserI mean, some people develop earlier than others so maybe not necessarily (talking about facial structure and stuff) I’m 15 and still have a very similar face to the one I had at 10, but other people look completely different in those 4-5 years

RIGHT?? idk when this started happening but i think at least with us 2005 babies, most of us had a normal preteen phase

Literally, idk what it is with people older than 2005. Maybe its like a mix of a special social climate that made them grow up that way, but there are whole Sophomores in my school looking like they could be in college…

i’m 14 and i had an awkward phase and i have to keep reminding myself that i was a child and that it was ok for me at that age if someone’s gonna judge a child for acting like a child that’s just wrong they’re crucial years. for me i was in an abusive situation so it caused me to grow up mentally very quick but physically not as fast and that was really hard for me accepting that, but now i’m catching up with that and i only look on my younger self with sympathy because i was a child in need of help. i’m still a child and i’m confident with the way i look. i don’t put on too much makeup just like mascara blush and concealer and i don’t wear revealing clothes and i’m happy with myself. there’s no need to look like an adult at such a young age and i’m glad i don’t.

Yooo same, 2005 teen here toooo. I look at my juniors and many look “older” than me. Even my friends and other ppl will assume that I’m younger than them because everyone looks so grownup now. It’s wild out here😂

05 liner here, my juniors also seem to act or appear way older than me. Good for them for being confident and happy with themselves but sometimes I feel like I'm transitioning into adulthood so much slower than them.

What tf does act 15? Mean .

Playing with dirt at 15 is not normal but I do agree with her on the dressing up too grown these girls be overdoing it with the makeup.

@@staceywilbur6041 Its normal depending on where you grew up. But it get it. I also wasn't necessarily saying that you had to be playing in dirt at 15 but it's all a part go growing up. I'm west African and some of our daily games included playing in dirt.

@@Mariam_barrie now that’s understandable

@Jon S i don’t think it’s victim blaming. it’s not their fault, it’s the parents fault. the girls who don’t act too grown for their age are the ones that are seen as weird and “outcasts”. so i don’t really blame them for wanting to look a certain way. i think the bigger issue lies with these social media platforms that profit off of young girls dancing in bikinis. like she said, tik tok will delete videos on human rights but turn a blind eye when it comes to underage girls. i don’t think the preteen era would’ve ended if it weren’t for social media. it’s sad because kids should be kids and they’re feeling this constant pressure to look a certain way. it’s their parents job to educate and protect them from acting like that. they’ll thank their parents when they’re older.

I'm 21 and I have a collection of plush toys. It think that the features of an adult are more responsibility, the ability to take care of yourself, etc. And things you like don't depend on your age.

I still played with barbies at 14, no regrets.

SAME LOL

i feel the exact same way and i'm 16 like

Dude i’m 22 and I still watch My Little Pony and have a collection of plushies. These feelings you are having are the plain and simple result of comparison. Stopping comparison = Freedom Way easier said than done for some people, though.

Maaaal nací en el 2000 y las mozas en los restaurantes piensan que soy una menor

half of the people in my college are under the age of 18 but look like their 21 or something.

As a muslim and Pakistani, I am also so grateful for the way I was raised but seeing today’s generation is concerning

Fax!!! I can't believe I'm already this far into the future! To the point were people half a decade younger than me look way older than me! I'm a 19 year old who looks 12 btw. Dang, I can't describe how weird I feel knowing this, it makes me feel old & young at the same time!!!....

I am 15 and muslim too but I live in Germany and u can’t get those problems out of the way…I got Snapchat at 13 and instagram at 15 which is pretty late.Still we have to grow up really fast or else u will be left behind

Same I'm a Muslim X3

Barbie rules dude!

that's such bullshit, i'm so sorry that your sister gets bullied for this. she still has her whole life to do all this adult stufff while her childhood will never come back. i think that many people who grew up too fast regret it when they are older and wish they would've enjoyed being a child for longer.

lol those other girls will regret it soon wishing they could go back a few years , growing up is the worst part. i’m sorry for ur sister

Well to be fair 14 is the age that childhood is far past the deadline, (in other words ends)

SAME IM 12

@@divine555 you are still a child at 14 it is still a childhood, there is no to be fair for bullying someone either for not growing up too fast or at the rate other girls are growing at

It’s disturbing as a grown person seeing young girls act like how you are describing. Just ignore them their opinion isn’t important or worth your time. Enjoy being a kid in school before you grow up

@@sparklight0964 Thank you

@@muffinman4544 You're definitely right as I'm already seeing some of them become insecure or angry because they are just seen as a pass around for guys our year and it really makes me sad for them

please be careful on the internet ❤ im so glad that you realize that the way theyre acting is not okay but sometimes social media influences us without us noticing it! enjoy being young dear

I totally agree w/ you as ive yet to turn 13 either, and even when i was 9 and such my classmates had talked about s*x, and as you said wanting to get r*iled. I see girls w/ stanleys all the time as well as full-face make-up, which kind of brings up the point of wanting to look/act older than they are. I just wish they could realize that it isnt cool and stuff to do so, especially since they act like theyre better than others since theyre more 'mature', as said in their own words.

Also, every time I feel bad about going through my awkward phase, I think of the actor who played Neville Longbottom and his glow up and I think “that’ll be me one day, just gotta go with the flow”.

That woman was being a good mom, she wasn’t going to let her daughter wear crop tops and skintight jeans, she wasn’t going to let her get sexualized, but people are shaming her for it? I have respect for girls like JoJo Siwa and Billie Eilish for not sexualizing themselves as teenagers, now every girl wants to grow up so fast that their preteen years don’t even happen. I’m 16, but I don’t look like an adult, I do wish I had clearer skin and a flatter stomach, but honestly, I’m personally glad I’m into things like anime and Tim Burton movies than TikTok, heavy makeup and tight clothes. (I’m autistic and tight clothes are a sensory issue to me)

@@EphemeralGloom same, i think of how no one talked about his looks until he became an adult and i compare that to tom felton, who peaked at like 16, 17 and then as an adult aged a lot more.

@@lovelycloudyskies I agree, it also has a lot to do with growth, parents and peers. Some girls grow very tall at a younger age, and when you pair that with makeup, it makes them look so much more older. Some parents are more lenient with their children's dress sense, whilst others are more controlling. And some classmates and even friends the same age as you look a lot older and are considered the "cool" kids, so people try to fit in so they get integrated into that group. Some thing in real life that kinda relates to this, is what bag people take to school. I'm 14, and I take a backpack to school, yet I see 12 year olds take handbags to school. There is nothing wrong with handbags, except for the fact that mostly adult women use handbags, so it seems like they want to grow faster.

@@torquoise9456 Well, handbags are a pass for me because girls have to take them to the bathroom to change their pads. It makes it more accessible.

LMFAOO same here 💀 my sisters and I are around those ages exactly and I'd slap the sense back into them if they acted like that.

Same, it almost makes me feel old, 'cause they're LITERALLY nearly half a decade younger than me, & I'm a 19 year old who looks 12! While seeing 15 year old celebrities look 25... 💀 Man, it's hard to believe I'm already this far into the future, I feel old, while at the same time, I feel young! I just don't know how to explain how I feel right now bro!... 😱💀💀💀

Yeah I did the gross face scrunch when I did that. Like jfc no wonder parents are going through their kids phones like crazy.

Bitch I'm 18 and I don't look like her at 10 wtf

@@aestheticcat8976 I was 26 and a solan lady freaked out when she found out my age she says I look 14 👁👁 I almost tears up seeing this clips of 15 year old

Easier said than done when kids can just lie about their ages. I know I sure did when I was younger.

​@@marstothestars33 cant lie if theres verification. blame the parents & tech companies, it is absolutely possible

I agree to a certain extent, but it all starts with the parents and guardians of the children. I wasn't allowed to have a phone til I could pay for the phone and the bill at 18 years old. I was on the internet well before that, but I was playing neopets at 14 and not trying to go out clubbing.

agreed

​​@@cczsus6513 sorry, but RU-vid is a video sharing platform. Not social media. All accounts here are practically anonymous.. we're not here browsing each other's accounts looking at pics , getting updated at every aspect 9f other people's lives. Google Classroom (well the name itself is self-explanatory). You're not the smartarse you think you are. When the OP says social media, it's obvious they're talking about the likes of instagram, facebook etc.

I will

Very wise words

I am so afraid of aging and growing up I can't stop thinking about it, it consumes and eats away at my mind every day, I mean I'm not being sexualized or anything but I don't wanna lose my "innocence" because its so precious, I can't believe I will have to lose it one day and it feels as if my life would be worse off without it, and its even worse that I'm turning 18 in only 1 month so people are going to start calling me a "grown ass adult" when first of all I feel nothing like an adult and second of all I don't WANT to, Ide honestly rather die young than lose my childhood 😭😭

This is so valid, due to me having a similar experience. My style as an adult is very much cottage core and with bows in my hair to help get a bit of "lost years" of being a child back.

​@@tedhynes5297exactly

That sounds awful! I hope you are healing and doing well now! Nobody should ever have to experience that!

Sorry to hear that, I was also in that boat too, I was pressured to be a woman at a young age and I hated my mom for doing that to me. I'm more of a boy's peer due to having 5 brothers and I was the rebellious and free-spirited child. Everything was so simple until one day, my mom became abusive out of nowhere and it scares me a lot. She wasn't there in my emotional times back then but the people who were in my life were my male friends who cares for someone like a loner wolf like me. They were the people party in my life, my childhood days were nothing but melancholy, it was just a boring, depressing, and miserable life. When they came into my life, I was kinda surprised, nobody ever treated me with respect and compassion, those two friends let me love myself, and I regret moving to a new primary school, I was so sad and depressed, I lock myself in my room for years to cope it up. I had no hope for my present life and I was completely desperate to grow up and find people like them. In the end, there was no luck and I went back to my nihilistic lifestyle I went through verbal, emotional, and narcissistic abuse from my mother, I wish nothing for her except death. She deserves the consequences, I do care if she redeems herself but she didn't so I'm not giving her the compassion my male friends did to me Thanks to her, I became a cruel, terrifying sadistic person, someone with demonic possession (I have bipolar disorder), and adhd. She dares to call me hyperactive and does not look the outside of the box she conflicted me with. People also saw how distant I am and more like a delinquent person, I can't even take their gratitude or gifts for not saying "thank you". With just a simple word, I struggle to say it out loud My "friends" I currently have is also toxic, I couldn't stand being in that group and being treated like a nobody It was years of pain and suffering, I understand what you mean, about no longer having the time to be a child or becoming a teen. I'm 17 years old now, I thought about quitting school since I have hypothyroidism (my symptoms are getting worst) and I hate to worsen them. I try my best to survive and recover from traumatic past events, it might take a while or a year to do so

i feel u. same happened to me.

I experienced the same things at 13-16, and honestly I watch these tv shows and movies that show happy, awkward, dorky preteens and I get so depressed that I never got to experience that. I had to grow up so young, and I will forever grieve that fact, yet these kids are in such a rush to grow up and it’s so upsetting to me.

As a teen survivor as well, I'm glad this vid was made since too many groomers not only look at kids, but also talk to them online which is a huge problem nowadays (sorry to all the survivors here btw)💜

THIS!!

It’s also important to get to know what cloths you like etc. It’s a time for experiments

It's worse I think. You know people are saving and archiving these videos. No matter what career these children go into, there will be pages and pages of these videos in porn sites. They will have to grow up knowing anyone could google their name or former user names and find this stuff. The internet is a terrifying place and these kids don't realize that.

YESSS it made me learn who i am now and i still have traits of when i was an awkward preteen and still use some of the same styles just in a different way, now preteens are going straight to trying to be pretty and doing what’s on trend not what they want

As a teen, I think a large part of why we're skipping the pre-teen phase because we're bullied out of it. We don't have time to be cringe, wear bad makeup, have my little pony clothes, have a first kiss, learn to grow up normally. We are literally bullied out of that phase so quickly, so we skip all that stuff and go straight to trying to look adult and seems mature to avoid looking cringe.

My three-year-old niece does too 😢

Im a gen alpha but i got my ipad at 6-7- BUT WHY AT 4 YEARS-

𝕀 𝕙𝕒𝕕 𝕒 𝕗𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕 𝕎𝕙𝕠 𝕨𝕒𝕤 𝕠𝕟𝕝𝕪 𝟡 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕎𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕨𝕖𝕒𝕣 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕧𝕪 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕦𝕡 𝕔𝕣𝕠𝕡 𝕥𝕠𝕡𝕤 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕔𝕒𝕝𝕝 𝕞𝕖 𝕦𝕘𝕝𝕪 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕀 𝕕𝕚𝕕𝕟'𝕥 𝕕𝕠 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕥𝕪𝕡𝕖 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕊𝕦𝕣𝕖, 𝕀 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖 𝕤𝕙𝕠𝕣𝕥 𝕤𝕜𝕚𝕣𝕥𝕤, 𝕓𝕦𝕥 𝕀 𝕕𝕚𝕕𝕟'𝕥 𝕨𝕖𝕒𝕣 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕞𝕦𝕔𝕙 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕦𝕡. ℕ𝕠𝕨, 𝕀'𝕞 𝕨𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕦𝕡 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕤𝕙𝕖 𝕞𝕒𝕕𝕖 𝕞𝕖 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕖𝕔𝕦𝕣𝕖, 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕞𝕪 𝕘𝕚𝕣𝕝𝕗𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕 𝕝𝕠𝕤𝕥 𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕧 𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕕 𝕒𝕥 𝟠 𝕪𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕤 𝕠𝕝𝕕. 𝕎𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕙𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕖𝕟𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕠 𝕤𝕠𝕔𝕚𝕖𝕥𝕪?

Same I'm 15 and don't try to look grown but so many people asked me if I was a college student ever since 13

Fr people think I’m innocent, and I don’t know about “dirty” things or have any interest in them. Just because I’m autistic, childish, don’t swear, don’t wear make up, revealing clothing, etc. The truth is that I’m not innocent I just don’t have very much interested things like a weed or sex.

I'm also a young teen and I only have discord (close friends) and youtube as social media, i'm not even in any discord groups! I always felt weird because my sister was 2 years older than me and already acting like this but now that i'm seeing more about this i'm starting to realize that it's okay for me to not act like that and it's actually better! (Idk if I should add this but I am gonna be diagnosed with ADHD maybe thats why I never found interest in those things)

Someone told me I'm pure for being a virgin at 15, hello????

Thank you for saying this!! I’m trying to figure out why so many people seem to be blaming the kids for this??

exactly its so hypocritical and sad

things like euphoria are the cause of that, it makes them think that this is how they should look like and act

Exactly, I think it's good that more people point out how bad it is, but NO ONE should EVER blame those children for it. It's not the individuals fault, they are just trying to fit into a world that is already toxic. I know girls that are way younger than me who now want to experiment with make up. I didn't shame them for it, I tried to guide them in a way that is more age appropriate.

I did get robbed of a chapter of my life. It’s not fair.

Man I did not have my own social media until I was 18, and I am thankful for my parents for being strict,because i did not lose my innocence to social media so early .

For a second I thought I made this comment lmaoo

@@nnana88 yo wtf me what are you doing here

@@k0rnluvr I'm hunting down my clones and you are next 😈

what if.....you're the clone!?!?!@@nnana88

​@@nnana88 Anomaly dancing girl fan spotted

fr😭 like will glow-ups be a thing in the future?!?!

@@ToniBryanneTV probably not lol 🤣🤣

It's kinda part gr00ming on the internet,,,

they are skipping that phase because yall are admittedly calling it ugly...that's why they are doing this. because they want to be perceived as a beautiful.

That was the best faze you get to know what you like and don’t like, and the cringe is the best

yep. kinda random but kpop stans LOVE doing this and it’s gets on my fuckin nerves.

@@ABC-sz7rd khm new jeans khm

it's not weird until you make it look weird

@@nickiminaj0882 A kid should act their age.. if someone says sum abt it thats what yall are gonna say? Aight

@@Dinosaurs580 no one owes you anything

Indeed boys and men tend to have more freedom, but that doesn't mean they don't make mistakes or are not held accountable.

lol they are adults, still sus tho.

Don’t forget 19 year olds because a teen is a teen. Until you turn 20/21+

Not to mention: being conservative/modest is now considered rebellion.

@@yarigarcia7628 thats so sad but true. As a student myself, I'd say just remind your students about the dangers. A reminder can really go a long way and encourage conversations about these topics. Being understanding and patient to these kids please, thank you so much

@@yarigarcia7628 Same. Im conservative, and christian. Im a furry and a quadrobist, ive gotten over the hate. Its not fair.

@@ILoveTheWeasleyTwins24 sorry to break the tone a bit but I'm also a fellow quadrobist! it's not very common to find one in a comment section so hello! Tbh I don't even know why people hate on quadrobics, furries, therians, and not exclusive to that sort of stuff at all, like just why?

@@rainbowfox1075 Exactly!!! Its great to meet a fellow quadrobist!! (: I agree, they all deserve more respect!!

@Mikayla W Take up a hobby that consumes your time and attention in a creative, positive way. There are many crafts out there. If needs be take classes and or join a club. Fitness training combined with a sports activity is another possibility. Doing that will reward you with better health, good discipline and real world, socialising skills. Perhaps consider doing community work, volunteering. Helping the aged, youth work, helping those who are less fortunate than ourselves physically/mentally. There is also the possibility of doing things to better your environment. The opportunities are endless. Your future is bright. But it's down to you to identify and seize those opportunities. Don't expect them to come to you. You have to seek them! There is always room for social media; just in moderation and preferably if it relates to one's real world interests. All the best Mikayla. 😊👍

What are you doing here on RU-vid? 😂

yesss i’ve thought about it so many times, social media is just so toxic, but the only thing that kept me from deleting all social media apps are my friends ..., i mean how can i keep contact with them and stay in touch if i cant write them anymore... how do you do that?

@@elsa2143 phone number??????

I still have social media but only use it to view cooking recipes,skin care tips,fashion tips,etc the only one I’m on daily is discord lol

Wait isn't it normal for teens to do all of those things? (except for dreesing like an adult thing) or is it like a western thing to not let your kids anywhere when you cant hover over them

@@gustavus0013 My dad was the same way with me. I don’t think it’s about being able to “hover” over your kids. I’m assuming you aren’t in / from America because of your western comment. I don’t know how things are where you’re from, but here there is A LOT of stuff that goes on at parties and when your kids are just out and about that are not or should not be normal for teenagers. Such as drug use (including being drugged unknowingly), rape, shootings, etc. I think makeup is okay at a certain point in being a teenager but even then you don’t need to wear make up like an adult would for the same reasons you wouldn’t wear the same clothes that an adult would. Not sure how old you are or how you were raised either but I think this is something that people who were raised this way realize when they become much more mature and you can think deeper than this just being your parents wanting to control you

Neither did my mom. I just hid it from her 🤷‍♀️

@@cmilla2013 holy shit, the more i learn the more america seems like a nightmare country. Im so sorry but what, ontop off everything u have to be scared off shootings aswell 😢

@@anujinnnnnnn I live in France and it's exactly the same thing there, except for guns. During parties, teenagers are used to get drugs, alcohol and sex. That's exactly the reason why I don't want to go to parties. I'd rather chill with some friends than doing parties. Sometimes I feel like I'm weird for not being interesting by all of this, or because I still feel like I'm a child (especially in comparison to other girls who are my age) I feel like when we are 12-13 we want to act like 16-17 and when we are 16-17 we want to act like 20-25 💀 (sorry if I made some mistakes 😬)

Thank you so much!!! Yes appreciate being 16, life does get more difficult, BUT it also gets even better through the lessons and as you mature! It's all a learning process, but don't rush that process! Growing up is a beautiful thing!

@@ToniBryanneTV yes yes💗

Girl shut up . What is acting 16? Even our parents in the 90s and in the 2000s wore grown shit too

@Ming Tings Eeeeee I’m so sorry I didn’t see your comment! But thank you and yes I agree with you 100%😋

@@0nly.bhadbby40 girl don’t take your bad day out on me. I just act how I feel like I should no one is telling you, you gotta act like me or anyone else. Calm your a$$ down. Okay cool that was in the 90’s I’m sure as hell they didn’t dream of being strippers or pornstars or dressing like them either at damn 16🥱 I mean hey if you wanna argue and waste your time go ahead and ask for my snap or some we don’t need anymore of your negativity on this girls post.

I go to a British school, so uniforms are just default but it's unbelieveable what people get away with wearing. There's girls wearing skirts so short you can see half their ass and I get shouted at for wear a hood. They'll only be 12 to 17 as well.

Leni keep that mindset PLEASE!!! Being grown is NOT fun. I always wish I can be young again

Same. I wanna stay young for ever. Never wish to grow up. Enjoy your life as it is now. Be a kid. Being a kid is wonderful.

@@remigal899 I am at the same age range that Leni referenced and I am being pressured to ‘act like a lady’, because as soon as you start puberty you’re a young lady. At least that’s how it is where I’m from.

@@idontknowwhatimdoinghere Yea I understand. It’s pretty weird that 11-14 year olds are considered to act older, which you don’t have to. I like being a kid. I am in that age range as well. No matter what those have to say around you, do make mistakes and learn from them. Be free and enjoy yourself. Be corny and cringe and etc. That’s what being a kid is. I wish I could stay a kid forever. Don’t let those around you take away your childhood because it will never come back.

@@larae6885 the teens that want to grow up seem to only want the things that come with it such as drinking, driving, clubbing, etc yet they seem to forget about the responsibilities that come with it like paying the bills, taxes, having to get a job

exactly, this is why i never wear revealing clothes, or act in a sexual way in tiktok.. creeps me out.

Well it is sad, not to mention that many girls do that because they were either raised in a toxic household, or with parents that neglected them. They did not come from normal families.

These girls are gonna learn their lesson once they decide to hook up with guys...

Ur mom just strict crop tops at 14 is normal

Yeah literally there's a few girls. Specifically goth girls that dress provocatively. There's this one girl that's a goth/sluttyish,she's always wearing provocative clothing most of the time,she has a boyfriend and literally it was the end of the school year and we were waiting for the regents testing when the boyfriend was literally kissing her neck. Right in the lunch room. I had to look away. What's even more sad was that my friend was right there and she didn't even seem to care at all. Really none of their friends seemed to care and they were all tomboy/goth.

When I was your age, not wearing make-up meant that I WAS secure & happy with myself. In fact, I didn't even care about make-up. Natural beauty. I hope you can feel the same way too if you're not already! :) You are already complete!

Those girls dressing like that are the insecure ones ignore them they aren’t worth your time

Dang, you made me just realize that now people my age are going to COLLEGE, lol I feel like I just graduated High School, & no way am I ready for COLLEGE! I already just turned 19 btw, but yes, I absolutely agree with you!...

wise words AMEN!

I grew up that way and I'm so happy I did bc now that I'm in my 20s I feel so much mature seeing girls in high school getting pregnant sophomore year. It's crazy being a girl in a world that makes you wanna grow up so fast and act a certain way, but I promise you once hit a certain age and actually have to do adult things you're gonna be so happy you took the time to go as a child, preteen, teen, into a young lady and finally a women. 🥰

I felt like a teenager when i turned eleven, but it came naturally to me(due to a neglectful environment) It was isolating, even now i can't relate to my classmates.

This. I’m 17 and I just act like a teen girl. I feel no rush to get into adult things that I’m not ready for and it makes me feel bad for just growing normally.

I moved schools and made friends with people and I was shocked to realise how innocent they were. There are people who are like that that exist. It depends on your environment.

This is tragically known as childhood "corn" (porn)

good on you for being yourself despite the pressure people put on you. embrace your youth and spend it how _you_ want to. no child should be so concerned about their looks and especially not their sex appeal.

im pretty sure crop tops doesnt make u look like a adult...its normal really

@@katiebennett1360 no if you are like 13 years old it kind of fits with you becuase you are not too young but defiantly not too old. But yeah some other stuff isn’t very appropriate for 13 years old .

I hope that your parents are and tell you how proud of you they are because of your mindset. If they don’t, then I’m proud of you for not surrender to peer pressure.

Crop tops and skirts dont make you an adult lmaooo.

This I'm am 04 aswell. It's so bizarre to me, that these girls 'behaviour' are the expectation of mine. Just to please the male gaze. I'm just 18 and because of law that I'm legal that doesn't mean I'm supposed to out here acting like 28 just to be taken seriously. I remembered just the other day I went and bought a cat ear headphones something that I've always wanted since I was like 16. I remember purchasing it and this girl who is probably around the same age as me was looking at me funny. I didn't care because it's my money spending, I've bought and been so happy since.

Then some girls and woman that lived in my community saw me with them and asking me 'What are doing with that isn't that for kids?" I said, 'Well I rather have this than the actual child' because these young girls especially in my country are already mothers and they don't look a day over 20. It's so bizarre.

@@aleyahgarvey8207 Good for you! I personally would like spider-man headphones but they're only sized for kids 😂😂😂 And yeah, my cousin is only 20 (about to be 21) but she already has two children. My aunt (her mother) had her first child when she was 15. That's why I'm so against girls growing up too quickly -- I've seen the consequences. Everyone, including the future child (if there even is a pregnancy, not everyone is the same after all), suffer.

As a tomboy who never fit with guys or girls, this problem is a behavior born into girls. Since four years old I observed this in my pre-k class. 2004. I HAD to "leave" thier company because it was sooo boring. Standing around, gossiping, following around the most 'mature', weathly, popular girl, the games we did play together had too many rules and whining about having to put effort into playing more mindless games. Like playing freeze tag. 😑You know like "going crazy going stupid". When I played by myself, one girl named Esmeralda would play with me. She had to live a "double life" having fun with me on occasion, and ultimately returning with the rest. I would see that her face would fall, she would start to be self conscious of herself, and promptly leave me without another word. When we got different homerooms the next year, it made me sad that she might never play again.

Hey I'm 18 and watch cartoons too ^^!

kids twerking should be illigal

REAL. Like of course it’s normal for teens to explore their body/sexuality but PLEASE KEEP IT TO YOURSELF

I'm sorry if this sounds like a goofy question! but what counts as growing up too fast? Like, I have a part time job and have a drivers license but I still feel and act like my age.

Literally me too, but I’m 15

try looking like a teen when your twenty.

They're literally teens, they shouldn't be praising them for acting grown. You're only 20, it's great that you're not rushing to act crazy out here. And the fact that teens really think being grown is what makes them cool just shows how backwards these people are.

hey just be yourself and do what you love don’t worry about their nonsense! ✌️

Please am 20 myself and am just vibing, am not an adult or a kid anymore, am just being myself… SOMETIMES sexy, SOMETIMES cute, seing my animes 😊 etc, i dress like i want.

I'm sorry if this sounds like a goofy question! but what counts as growing up too fast? Like, I have a part time job and have a drivers license but I still feel and act like my age.

SAME.i fricking hate it

@Eli Ellington bitchy coment

@Eli Ellington Clealry you enjoy seeing this stuff because you’re a grown man atrás yes to teenagers. Ew.

@Eli Ellington no babe

@Eli Ellington maybe you are since that's where you mind went others like project their own issues on others I'm sorry you feel that way and find happiness in you life

Lol, same! As a "2003 kid" I look, feel, & dress young for my age!!! I'm 19 I definitely don't look or feel 19!... I look 12, & feel like I'm 14/15-ish, & dress like how a 12-14 year old would dress, lol!

neither did I I wasn’t allowed to wear stuff like how I can now at 15 despite only being 15 I’m shocked at how ppl are dressing now 💀

Until you were for 14?! Yall 2007 kids are so old now

@@saraha.1336 😭 t h a n k s

​@@jacobquiroga626 I feel that- I still look twelve as well and I'll be sixteen soon.

Im 13 and record tiktoks bit for God's sake I would never do that

yeah that was cool to see

Even about to be 16 even seems scary like I’m considered a child cause I am. I think because society view 18 year olds as children BUT they should act older and a woman. And 18 is like a red flag because of society, 50 yea olds can go after them(I wish it was illegal but it’s just frowned upon), they can do all these things but it’s eighTEEN for a reason. Still children that just go onto another faze of schooling and faze of life(if you really wanna call it that). I feel like I’m scared to be 18 but at that point , even 19 should be considered a child compared to how many years of life there is.

I'm in my 40s and my mom is still my go-to when I need support! NO ONE thinks it's childish; in fact many friends and peers have said they wish they had a relationship like that with their moms. If you're lucky enough to have an amazing mom, they are there for you for life! I feel so bad for your generation; I was bullied when I was younger and it left emotional scars I still deal with. That was before the evils of social media; I can't even imagine what it must be like now! Stay tough and ALWAYS be true to yourself! ❤

YES. You are naturally acting as you are. Which is right. "Teen" is still in the name of those ages.

Fr. It’s super creepy when people say “legal is legal” like dawg that 18 year old is no different than a 15 year old mentally.

I'm sorry if this sounds like a goofy question! but what counts as growing up too fast? Like, I have a part time job and have a drivers license but I still feel and act like my age.

We all need to limit our use for sure

On the other end, as someone who rarely ever follow social media, I'm being constantly told that I have to use social media. Honestly, I don't need to look at others' made up good life and feel depressed from it and I don't need to show everything in my life to stangers so why do they have to care?

While you don’t need to look like your 20s just be healthy and take care of your kids

@@skye387 yeah for real. I deleted all of my social except for youtube and I only have it on my laptop. I'm so much happier with less socials- because I have a real social life😄

unfollow the moms that are toxic. It will be better for you❤

2004 too

Agreed.

'04 here too, and I'm afraid I have to agree.

I’m a 2011 and I agree, I actually also grew up at 10, I didn’t wear makeup but I wore crop tops and lipgloss, I cussed (still do but less), I actually love my preteen years ITS SO FUN

I’m 05 and as a 18 year old boy it actually blows my mind that this is the world we live in boys and girls both have been degraded at such a young age because of social media it’s sad to see

i’m 16,and i also feel the same,all my friends are growing up so fast.

i agree! you still have your whole life to be an adult, while your childhood will never come back. i always looked younger than i am, i'm in my mid twenties and still get mistaken for a minor a lot of times and i really hated it when i was a teenager. to compensate my insecurity about this i kind of rushed myself to grow up and tried to act older and stopped doing stuff my classmates declared as childish. now that i'm an adult i really regret that i haven't enjoyed my childhood for longer.

Same that’s why I deleted tiktok cuz there’s just so many girls I compare myself too like “how is she only 15 but looks like this?” it’s just so toxic and destructive

@@nadineh4767 same,i deleted tiktok cause it’s just so unrealistic,how can you be 15 and look so much better than me,i can’t just take it

@@nadineh4767 young girls want to look like 22 and many 20 year olds insult 40 year old women

no, you can't see it this one dimensional. Society is to shamed here, not individuals!

@@pastelqueenwudel yea society is to blame but if your parent don’t teach you or raise you right then of course they will let friends or watever pressure them into doing these things. A lot of parents let them do these things and also join them into doing these things. Tik tok isn’t the problem bc they are just giving them the platform. If parent took their kids off of tik tok they wouldn’t be making the money they are making now. I mean they are only a few years away from onlyfans so if a parent isn’t parenting of course a kid is gonna do watever they want. When I was that young I definitely didn’t wear makeup nor dress like how they now but that’s also bc my mom made sure I acted my age. There’s just not many parents out here anymore they are being friends

@@pastelqueenwudel Parents have responsibility. They don’t get to run away from the shame because of many other people doing the same thing.

Yes and no. Because you can raise your child how you want at the end of the day there’s outside influence, like imagine your child being bullied for not looking like ig model, they’re gonna start doing it behind your back. Because once they turn 10, they spend more time at school and friends becomes a big part of their life. I think we need to mal school a more appropriate place, while still respecting self expression but not encouraging sexualisation.

Same but I'm 15

Same. I’m around your age. I’ve done that since my early highschool year a few years ago. It’s just.. sad. It should not be this way. We girls deserve better.

I was in 7th and 8th grade and I would wear stuff from the preteen section at Target and sometimes Children's Place and I once had a friend tell me "No offense, but you wear kid's clothes." And i was just like, "Yeah. These ARE kids clothes." I have no idea why that was such an issue to them. Like, how's my Finding Dory dress hurting you? But yeah, i didn't want to grow up. I was scared of all the responsibility. And now that I'm 18 almost 19, I do dress with crop tops and shorts but I don't sexualize myself and I definitely never wear heavy makeup still. On the other hand my cousin is 14 and she has lash extensions and wears extra long acrylics nails and goes to homecoming in a short dress. Like girl, you're too little for that.

Same here, but it's mostly because of my parents knowing how to raise me well. They talked about all these stuff and taught me how to handle changes. I have further taught my sister this as well. It's been going on for generations in our family, and the main reason we never got into this 'grown stuff at an young age' mess

I'm only 13 all i wear is baggy hoodies and sweat pants/ pajama pants

The over sexualization of young girls, maybe because there are also women who are encouraging them to dress like this, because they were already burdened themselves with their exploitation. They are bad and they don't care about the girls...

Seeing literal CHILDREN attempt to be sexy is so cringe like where are the parents?!?!?

@@ToniBryanneTV right? like parents need to be teaching them and stepping in explaining to them that this isn’t how they should be acting when they’re a literal minor. children have brains yes, but not enough brains to understand this is bad especially when it’s now being normalised.

Agree

I'm sorry if this sounds like a goofy question! but what counts as growing up too fast? Like, I have a part time job and have a drivers license but I still feel and act like my age.

I heavily agree. I see it so much that I feel like I should be the ssme way too cause that's what's considered the "teen experience". Likr Why do I feel bad for not doing weed or drinking? Not having sex yet? Not dressing like I'm older than I actually am? Because that's what's considered to be for teens now, and I don't fit that :/

These teens are gonna regret the time they have for themselves now when they grow up. Because if they do grow older, they won't even have the time to remember.

Dang that's crazy!!! I can't believe I'm this far into the future!... To the point were kids more than half a decade younger than me look & act older than me! 😳 (I'm 19 btw) I look, feel, & act young for my age, lol! I feel old & young at the same time!!! 😱 I've never felt this way before... 💀

My parents made me stop playing with dolls at nine, but I’m 13 now and my friends look 17 ngl they bully me for my skin and body when I don’t look 17 (I have a skin condition and I’m not exactly the standard) ist bad

I wonder if you had your first "look back", I had mine at 18 and later on at 20. 23 rn. It is the moment your brain is in adult mode and you reflect back on your past self. I can say you will feel cringe, shame, disgust, and overall its an eye opening experience. Your brain feels like it can see clearer, and your emotional, naive, angry, short sighted view on the world now is more long term and you know what you want. But that is what I experienced, who knows how it will be like for you. 🤷 Just wanted to give you a heads up. 👍 The adults around me didn't tell me about this, so I wanted to share some knowledge about my experience to anyone who cares enough.

I’m 12 and I’ve done the same things lol, but not everything

@@simplysahara1098nah, I know a 13 year old who already has a child, which was her choice she didn’t get raped

Same

I’m currently 25 and when I was 15 I was in the time when everyone was getting a cell phone. My parents didn’t get me a phone until I was 17 (my nose was always in a book , they were so more exciting than people at the time 😂) and honestly I look back at that and I’m so grateful. A certain level of sheltering by parents allows children to develop a stronger moral character , sense of self, helps foster individual creativity and innovation, and form respect for having your own preferences!!! Your beautiful and I’m sure you have brains to match it 💕 stay true to yourself!

Same! My parents don’t let me have social media(expect for RU-vid but idk if that counts) but the people at my school look more mature, however they don’t have any emotional maturity. I’m 2009 btw

I know. I'm within that range 12-15 too and literally it was my freshmen year in high school,one of the girls that I saw walking into the lunchroom because I was lunch time had a lot of make-up on and I thought she was one of the adults that worked there.

And the grooming too. My future children are gonna hate me too for a while.

That should be absolutely done. My parents look out for me as well. They have caught me nearly being groomed and Im glad they did. Nowadays I don't use social media much, being humbled by the true world out here. But I can't imagine how many parents are unaware of their kids being in the same position as I was a few years ago..

I’m sorry you had to go through that, that really sucks

Indeed that is just the worst... I'm honestly sorry...💔

​@@tedhynes5297yes

If only the guys could be more disciplined. Social media is constantly focusing on women as being sex toys but no one wants to emphasize the problem that men need to be disciplined. Plain straight and simple.

Same but that's crazy a five year old

5?? Wow

Okay but thats a whole other thing.. When I was five I loved to paint nails even other peoples nails ..because its pretty its like a 8 year old being fascinated by their moms makeup

Nails aren't really sexual though- I beat she was one of the girls really into the girly aesthetic and probably got the nail job as a treat or something

@@weirdnerdygoat fr like its a little girl..obvoisly they think painting nails will look pretty

i'm 16 and get hated on for acting older even though i do that unintentionally. Like, i'm sorry that i come off as older, i was forced to grow up fast and now that i'm 16 it's a bit too late to try to fix it in my life anyways, not to mention all my life i felt older, because when i'd talk to ppl i would just have this connection that nobody else had and i have always been extremely insightful

@@shaynabraatz3653 I'm so sorry to hear that, it's sad that what happened in the past can't change. Thank you for your opinion and reply.

@@arianagrenade1 I'm about to turn 14 too and thank you for sharing your story and your feedback :] ( if i have time i still like to create roleplays and scenarios with toys and dolls )

I'm 13 too, sure i might act older as in being mature (partly bc of that oldest daughter complex) but i do some rly childish stuff

@@Goofyguy23709 Ty for sharing your story/ opinion on this . Have a nice day or night :]

I just can’t bear to be on social media at all, I pretty much plan on deleting some apps involving social media, it just saddens me because I have nephews and some nieces that try to dress like they’re adults, acting like they’re all that when they just turned 14 and 15. It makes me mad that some of my in-laws and my oldest siblings aren’t doing anything about it.😤

Same

Girl it’s crazy because these girls are also getting younger and younger!!

link me to your research bae bc I'm trying to do a report for this topic for my ap research class lmaoo

@@jocelyncolon2318 You can message me on Twitter i'll give you some links