The Perks of Being an ENFP (Hint: You Rule!) 

I'm hosting an event for ENFPs in Europe this summer (2022). There will be 15 of us in total. It is a great way to break out of a rut and make a big change. You can watch the video about it here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-OaeCtaeSV5E.html or read more about it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/Prague2022/

As an ENFP what’s really disappointing to us is when people we believed in let us down just by their lack of depth in character. We as an ENFP believe there’s always something more to a situation, a person, their character . We try to understand their story and where they are coming from , we are naturally empathetic that’s why we always try to make people happy and believe in the good in people. We are really forgiving and see the potential in people. Sometimes it’s hurtful when people judge us for the silliest things , when we have been soo accepting of them throughout.

"We wouldn't wanna be a politician, that would be disgusting" I laughed really loudly, yes mate this is the truth! Great vid!

The worst feeling in life for me as an ENFP is feeling like I am trapped. Stuck in a job I cannot leave and in a cycle I cannot break. I sometimes feel like life is fading away and all my many dreams and aspirations are being chained down by my present circumstances. I desire nothing more than to be free, to feel the breeze on my skin and to explore life. To experience new cultures and people, to see all that I can and make a difference with this life until it's no more. But alas it's 12 A.M and I must get to work in the morning lol. Sigh.

I think we all ENFP should gather and create something focused on people!! hahaha

My best friend is an ENFP and she's so charming. She can walk into a room and make everyone happy just by being herself and at the same time she's modest and kind. She's very warm-hearted and want people to have a good time. If she can cheer someone up she will make it her mission! In terms of faults she tends to overanalyze things people say and do, which can be a bit annoying (because she will talk with me for hours on the phone about something that made her ponder). Also she's very sensitive and need constant reassurance and validation. But she's the best person I know! I look up to her a lot.

We are a Jack of all trades but a master of none

I am an ENFP and I am starting a company that will bring to light and fund projects that help the planet and humanity! Go ENFP!!

My dad always says I’m like a bubble of energy because life just excites me so much!! I also ask the most random questions all the time but it’s just because my brain works so quickly to process the information, sometimes I forget that other people don’t do this and it can be frustrating to have to explain it to people but hey that’s just me. I love being an enfp ❤️

I found out two weeks ago that I am an enfp. I struggle so hard in the last 6 months what I want from life... because I just want it all. I have to much hobbies and dreams. I play sax and violin, I love drawing and painting, sport, I want to see the world and I am interested in all kind of other stuff. but I am always thinking about what to do first and end up doing everything half hearted :) i m just stuck in that "what can be" mindset... it's kind of sucks. but anyway thx for your videos. it's good to know that I am not alone with this XD greeting from Austria

I think we ENFPs have way more impact on the people around us than we think! The more i work on myself the more people wanna spend their freetime with me and asking me for life advice (even completly strangers). We are very good in pushing people out of their shells and changing their thinking at least for a short time in conversation.

I am so proud to be an ENFP! I survived suicide because of who I am. How I always choose to be positive and look for solutions. Eventually, I work hand in hand with my therapist and succeeded in discovering myself a little bit more and find a cure to my depression!

The way you described our (ENFP’s) way of having a million ambitions made me think of one of my favorite Sylvia Plath quotes, from The Bell Jar: “I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.” I wonder if she was an ENFP too...🤔

can you talk about how tiring it is when you're an ENFP and you give yourself endlessly and cheer up everyone? I literally find my self exhausted after meeting friends I truly love because I'm temporary empty from excitement, happiness or not anymore cheerful...

I have actually seen that enfp's do make good politicians because of the desire to help the wider community (ie the whole world lol) however i imagine because most of us actively seek knowledge we know the corruption behind the politics we wouldn't morally be able to go there. 'Ideally' we'd probably prefer a government full of ENFP's...Peace, love and equality for all....but who will deal with the execution of it all lolol

So true! "Let's do this! I don't know what I'm doing but I'll figure it out!" My famous words.

ENFP people are generally optimistic people. We try to find the best in people and situations. People come to us for advice because we find the positive in situations. We naturally build people up.

Actually main problem is lots of goals at a same time

We ENFP's are warm and affectionate people. We are very charming. We make great managers and leaders, and there is a difference between the 2. I work in management and have met other ENFP's who do as well. We make good leaders and managers because we don't make others feel like we are a boss, even when we are. People respond nicely to this. We have the ability to connect to almost everyone at some level.

I am also an ENFP, and I always feel that everything is somehow connected, one of the things that i m always thinking about is peoples behaviour around me, and how there behaviour is influenced by there family, culture, education, I even sometimes compare myself with other people and question how someone can be smarter then me, how does that person have more friends or a girlfriend, why are people so attracted to that particular person or why does that guy always gets invited to parties /road trips....and yes, this overthinking and curiosity does cause a lot of depression and sometimes jealousy of others.

I'm an ENFP and I love to consider myself a mad hatter. I used to question my own sanity, because my questions, ideas and thoughts were unique and only of my own understanding. It used to frustrate me because a lot of conversations felt shallow and honestly, a bit boring to me. Now I love my insane thoughts! I find that the way I put my ideas out there has an awakening affect on people. I open up what may start off as boring conversations with thought provoking questions. I do this is a childish, fun, curious manner, which helps people not be so defensive to my open minded questions. It makes people think. It entices curiosity. And even if the encounter is short lived, I've had people randomly reach out to me expressing how one idea or conversation changed their perspectives and how I've stuck around like a little mad hatter in the back of their minds. If I noticed one thing about me is that if around me too long, I'll can get you to think for yourself. It's okay to be a bit mad in such a sane world.

smart, resilient, relentless, work hard, great leaders, down to earth, approachable, great at anything we are interested in, loyal, defender..i'm sure there's heaps more lol. Happy camper ENFP here :)

You are a true enfp. I can see you make this video because someone's comment. We enfp can't take critics, because we take that personally. Anyway, it's a good video! Keep it up!

I am constantly imagining helping. Single Moms, children at school who are bullied, the hungry, foster kids, the list goes on and on. The world brings me pain and sometimes I shut down but only in private. I find that I am scattered and want to do it all. I also can walk in a room where I know no one and everyone at the same time. I have very little fear and no filters. That’s a good and bad thing. At 60 I am finding myself. I cut off my forever long hair, spiked it, and dyed it purple. Good luck ENFP children! By the way, I did not talk to people until I was 20. Not sure why? I was so painfully shy that I would hide if the doorbell rang. Go figure.

I’m ENFP and just found out about my personality type and thank you for the videos coz it made me understand myself. I’m 35 n always thought I’m different, too enthusiastic, and little crazy for others, always felt lonely coz of that. Now I know that’s just a personality type and that other people out there are like me, it makes my life easier n the burden lighter or gone. ENFPs let’s get together n change the world :))

Where my ENFP Sagittariuses at

We’re naturally friendly but only when others are welcome for us.

ENFP: I've connected the two dots! Any other type: You didn't connect shit... ENFP: I'VE CONNECTED THEM!

My mom is an ENFP and I'm an INFJ... She has always been the only person that I can REALLY weird out with... She reminds me to be silly and just let loose sometimes. We definitely can butt heads and know each other's buttons well... But we can't stay mad at each other forever. 😊

I read people really fast, I use this to my advantage to boost people and make them feel comfortable, that is how I make friends easy and partners easy. But I can feel very easy bored if the thing I do dont have any purpose or if I dont get any result fast enough, that is what people to. If those I meet dont have any depth, dreams, goals, not outgoing and are insecure I get bored of them quick, that is a con and makes me hard to keep me to one person in a longer term.

I think the best thing about being an ENFP is taking the initiative and doing "your thing" the way you want. I like to have options and to create options. And as you said, we can feel the room, or the situation and just see the opportunities. We just want to live free, masters of our life. :))

For the majority of my life I didn't even know about the Myers-Briggs behavioral types. As time went on however, I began to notice that the work I did in the computer industry (QA Engineer) was extremely easy for me to do, to the consternation of my peers. I always felt as if I was outside not just of the box but of the world around me. Then I began to notice as well as the people that worked with me, that I could predict things or seem to know things that were beyond intellectual extrapolation. I began to predict where Software and Hardware issues were with such great effectiveness and accuracy, that many termed my skills as being that of a Jedi. It was only then that a co-worker recommended that I investigate the Myers-Briggs behavioral types. He predicted that I would be intuitive and perceptive but was unsure of the rest. After taking the test I found out that I was an ENFP however Thinking and Feeling were equal. I would find out later from a brain scan that apparently I have the ability to look at a problem simultaneously from both a scientific and artistic perspective. I think this is why I did so well and calculus I used to look at the equations from and artistic point of view and see the three dimensional graphs in my head. Anyway I just wanted to thank you for your channel and this video in helping us explore our hidden abilities.

ENFP Cancer here, all the feely feels!

"Can read people in a situation better than anyone else" OMG yes, it's always been easy for me to read my friends. I once figured who out someone I'd literally just met had a crush (I knew the crush and she hadn't said anything) on and he hadn't said anything just from his face and the things he was talking about indicated someone was on his mind.

ENFP Aries!!

i’m an enfp and i’d love to be in the legal system, mainly in the court, because it’s so interesting and complex and putting together evidence and ideas is just so fun!

This is true lol I learned binary code in two days just cause I wanted to then guitar and drawing and video games the cycle never ends

I’m an ENFP. Yeah We are good at reading people and We can make people happy and comfortable and connect at an emotional level . We do light up the energy of the room and very positive . We are the best companion on an adventure trip . Always spontaneous and curious . We are good at leadership and taking charge of things . We are just happy people and we wanna see people happy . Also ENFP s are very generous and charitable .

Thanks for reminding me how awesome we ENFPs are :) But seriously, I am at a point where I am (again) choosing which career path I should take. I need to remember to take into consideration my strengths and what will make me happy and fulfilled. I do always try to see the good in people and love to help them get to their potential. This is super helpful!

Thanks for sharing! Also an ENFP and I can attest to the jack of all trades comment. In the past 7 years I’ve had careers in Marketing, Operations, Project Management and Account Management and now Web Development. I was successful in all roles but not happy. Happy to report that I’ve fallen in love with development. Just because we aren’t listed as a more “technical, concerned with the small details type” it doesn’t mean we aren’t capable. I really do think we can excel at almost anything. Honestly, I think some more technical roles turn out to be great fits since we are able to add a different perspective while developing our ability to be more methodical. I’m now in my early 30s but wondering if this is common for other ENFPs as they get older. They learn how to harness their strengths, but it takes time and giving themselves the chance to try a few careers and explore! Thanks for the great videos and helping us focus on our strengths and conquer our weaknesses!

ENFP Aries here! This channel has given me so much support. I am still confused about where I am going because I want to pursue a lot of things. Now, I'm slowly trying to figure things out and I am just optimistic about the things that are about to happen. Being an ENFP is hard and it may take time to fully understand ourselves.

Dan - get your self into Marcus Buckingham’s books on Strengths based approaches to management. Turns out we waste far too much time as coaches on trying to fix shortcomings / weaknesses. His view, and I subscribe to them, is concentrate only on your strengths ALL of the time. As a coach I began my job attempting to “fix” weaknesses of my players. Reflecting on those years I see massive inefficiency in that redundant approach. Recently I had the pleasure of coaching a poorly performing team. So bad were their weaknesses they had never qualified for the top level national division one championships. I was resource poor and time limited. The only path forward was concentrate 1000% on their strengths - and they had many in equal quality and quantity to their weaknesses. Guess what...we qualified for Div 1 where our goal was NOT to come last in a competition of 12 teams. We came 11th. Twelve months latter under our strengths based approach we came 7th narrowly missing out on the semifinals. Strengths based approach is the way bro...but you know this.

"we don't overthink things" now I'm really questioning my ENFP identity.

As an ENFP I'd say our most exciting trait is our creativity and our willingness to learn, I love to find something interesting, learn everything I can about it, and then move on to something else! I have explored basically everything I could find on Dinosaurs, Mythology, Video Games, Science, Movies, TV Shows, and so on! And I love to use what I learn in my creations! I like to come up with little worlds and whatever and try to use everything I know! My weakest trait I would have to say is how I overthink every situation, someone says something, or even worse, tells me there is something to know doesn't say anything about it, that's the worst! I keep coming up with worst case scenarios and I am like "What is it they're not telling me?" "Why won't they tell me?" like literally one day my girlfriend just forgot to tell me something, but told someone else and I freaked out because I kept thinking "what if she doesn't love me?" and stuff like that until she told me what it was and that she thought she had told me and probably just simply forgot... I hate the fact that I can't just think of the simple solution and always has to think deeper and stuff! I constantly think "what if people don't like me?" "what if they think I am annoying but they're just too polite to say anything about it?" and so on... However, our best trait has to be our ability to form connections and care about others, I strongly value loyalty and sincerity! If anyone tells me they've had a bad day, or are in a bad mood, or anything like that, I always want to try my best to help as much as possible! I want to make my friends' lives better, because they've made mine so much better already!

I just found out about the personality types and it’s explaining so much. There isn’t a place where I want to settle down. I want to be everywhere all the time.

ENFP leo here! I agree with this video. And yes.. WE RULE!

As a male ENFP. My Christmas list is just to spend time with my family. I don't want any more gifts I just want a chance to see them. When I was in the Navy I went 6 long years. without seeing people on the holidays.

Our ability to see the best in people and optimism that bad situations can work out in the end also opens us up to bad people and wasted years if we aren't careful. Boundaries are our friends!

Enfp capricorn here ! 🔥

Hey man thanks, you're cool! Rock on ENFPs!

Great video! Positives I might add: the ability to keep options open and navigate possibilities as deadlines approach (more intentional than procrastinating lol), being able to make deep connections quickly, seasoning conversations with humor. I relate a lot to the "chaos" bit. I've been told I stay incredibly calm in crises and as a soon-to-be art teacher that'll come in handy. :)

I feel so lonely caus i don't know any enfps. I wish I can have a soul mate whose just as crazy as me

Thank you for spreading so much positivity.

Thanks for the positive message in this allowing us to realize and embody our strengths confidently

Great video for watching whilst at work in a mundane 9-5 with a hangover lol. I am moving into freelance graphic design career, but my background is contact centre management. I always did exceptionally well in those roles because I could think on my feet, flourished in crisis and 100% agree with being a very natural people manager. I also get told quite a lot that I am charismatic - I think this is definitely another strong ENFP trait.

Ah this made my heart warm!! Needed this as having a bit of negative feedback from work which is making me fall into that ugly mode of self pity. But this experience brought me right back out!! Hehe thanks, you're awesome :D

Enfp-Making people feel good makes you feel good. Linking unrelated things into something plausible. The energy you get from being on stage and making people laugh. Making it your mission to understand others.

I can relate to alot of your videos, Its kinda refreshing to know there are people similar to me. (especially since I live in the middle of nowhere kansas)

SPOT ON with regard to ENFPs and their ability to lead and manage in chaos, combat, ambiguity, and austere or dynamic situations. You hut most all others as well.

Hi! I am a social worker and when we have to visit new client's homes they always bring me because I can read the clients and their parents face expressions when I meet them. So I know how to treat them and make them feel comfortable. I could only bring this up 'cause of your first point. However I think the comfortable in chaos point is not too relatable for me. Maybe this only goes if you work your dream job where you kind of have structure already? Hope someone can help me out :) (BTW: I read that the best jobs for ENFP's are mostly in the social, psychological, creative and research side and not commercial)

Thanks for all of those videos, since I realize about I'm an ENFP some of my stress levels have descended because I thought all the crazy things that my mind creates were just unique. Now I'm realized that I'm not alone, the emotions breakdowns are not because I'm a brat is because I'm connected with them.

Learning about this stuff over the past couple days has been crazy! Being ENFP has helped me a lot in sales. When we do trade shows I am absolutely in my element, put me in front of a group and I’ll make sure everyone has a good time. The ego I’ve developed aside, we are kind the best personality right?!!!! Keep up the videos, I’m learning a lot!

This is literally the most accurate overview of us!!! Lol thank you for this

I think your other video about our shortcomings was great and very helpful for me!!! The only way to get better is to acknowledge your weaknesses and how to work around them.

It's crazy the level of relatedness I am in!

I love being an ENFP 💓 I took like four personality quizzes and got the same results over and over, so yaayyy

thank you so much for these videos, they really help us understand what’s going on inside our minds! :)

Good stuff! Thank you, Dan! :D

Hi Dan, Great video! I'm not sure if it's an enfp thing but I think what you said towards the end about loving yourself is a great thing. I see a lot of people around me who are so down on themselves, and speak so horribly about themselves. Don't get me wrong I frustrate the crap out of myself quite regularly 😉 but I would never say I hate myself. So I think perhaps we can also see the good in ourselves as well as in others. I think that's important. Also I think that although we often struggle with focus we can actually be very focused and a powerful force for good in the world when we find something that aligns with our passions and values because we genuinely want to make the world a better place. Really we're just awesome 😎 Oh and I actually took a whole day off today!

You're great!! You're all great 😁 thanks for being!

Spot on! Whenever any of my friends have a problem with their phone or anything they always ask me to figure it out. I am also very social but the thing alotta people can't understand is after a few social outings I HAVE to have some alone time!

Very good info dreams around the world!!!! Thank you! ;)

All of this was soooo relatable, thanks for sharing!!

ENFP Libra here.

as an enfp sounds like i chose the right career path as an aspiring social worker! i love seeing the potential in ppl :)

ENFP Pisces here!!

I love creating! It dosnt matter what it is

I find I as an ENFP have the ability to shed positive light on other people’s situation… maybe largely due to the ability to “translate“ from person to person, like you mentioned in another video. My therapist also told me I was better at understanding other people and what was happening in their world and in their emotions than in my own….. good, bad, or otherwise

thank you for this, it gave me a boost for the day!!!!!, people tell me these things about myself a lot and I don't always notice it or think about it. it feels good to be reminded

Im an ENFP and I remember in college certain asignments that was last minute back against the wall moments I got high grades. I don't know if its the adrenalin rush, working in high pressure situations, working better where your pushed because it seems if we are in situations that are too laid back sometimes we get lazy.

Yeehaw! Excellent video!

I'm not a typical ENFP. I fit a lot of the descriptions, but you wouldn't guess I was an ENFP at first sight.

Enfp here. Thank you very much. I can relate to a lot. I don't have a christmas list, but a bucketlist. I have travel a lot. I share my life with a lovely Intj. My strugle is to find balans in my life. I want to learn, have fun, be a good mother, perform at my work, develop myself( personal growth) and so on. Maybe you can make a video for the Enfp parents. I will always give the best. But somtimes that mean that i have to take care of myself first. I didn' t figur it out yet. But i wil keep trying. Knowing that i am an Enfp and knowing more about the traits, has given me more insight and power to rock. Have a nice day!☺️

My sister is an ENFP and she is really positive and energizing to others, she always follows what she likes and what she is interested and does not let "normal" way of living or thinking stop her. She follows her dreams and makes them come true even it seems impossible and that is something I really admire about her. She is usually the one who is talking and sharing her life and passion and want others to do it too, she is a good listener and she keeps being true to herself. And yes she has a lot of interested in things and has many many unfinished books, haha and new ones are coming (I feel that one as an INFP too)

love the video. One trait that's positive is even if someone doesn't trust you (ENFP) cause you come across flaky or extroverted, you can win just about anyone over. and if you don't, you accept it easily cause you see that person as someone not worth winning over anyway. not taken personally and you don't hate that other person , cause they are just being themselves...we just moooove on. probably make a joke about it but follow up with a respect sentence, stating that you are ok with it. ~love, an ENFP

That's right though, I'm the easiest to find gifts for, lol!! Art supplies, books, unique things, jewelry (not so much anymore), organization tools, gadgets, house supplies etc Everything!!!

OH MY GOD PEOPLE I CANT BELIEVE IM READING A DIARY HERE! ENFP GATHER UP LETS HAVE A GROUP HUG!!! *IMAGINING MY HANDS GROW LONGER TO REACH EVERYONE*

I also tried sales in my youth....door to door....did telemarketing....and hated those. I worked as a sales assistant for a small company and enjoyed that until too much drama began to unfold. I do so like your suggestions and will continue to watch your videos. Thank you.

"When ENFP leads, they can see endless possibilities and potential to its people." That's struck me realllyyy really hard!!!! So true men. But that's unintentional, I don't know why I'm like that? or I'm just too exaggerated?

Man i love that painting back there....

ENFP here. One of our common traits I most enjoy is being able to connect with people from all age groups and cultural backgrounds and life experiences. I can always find a way to connect.

I love watching your videos I don’t feel alone and I feel like it’s peeking into my brain

Being calm in crisis and handling them well is definitely something I notice most of the time. When accidents happened, I usually don't get panicked and I automatically analyze what was happening and spotted the root cause right away.

When a leader has an ENFP on the team, the sky's the limit. It's mind boggling that so many "bosses" are instead determined to beat them into silence.

Interesting that you mentioned about our curiosity level. It took me years to understand why people would wonder about something, but they never took the time or effort to research the answers to their questions. For instance, when I hear people say something like, “I’ve always wondered why___________ “ fill in the blank. Personally, if I “wonder” about something, the first thing I’m going to do is look for the answer. Why someone would “wonder” about something for years, yet they never bother to figure out the answer always baffled me. 😂

this vedio really helped! I must admit..I often feel bad abt being an enfp, and vedio's like this remind me how awesome I really am 😎

I’m an ENFP and man I struggle! They say ENFP’s are social and stuff which I think I am but when the environment is off for me it can get very lonely. Mostly I prefer being alone and doing things alone because no one wants to do the out of the blue things I wanna do, or talk about the crazy things I wanna talk about. So it comes down to me and my own thoughts, so I go to concerts alone I go hunting for interesting places alone I learn and search about new things alone. It’s so lonely but I find that it’s better to be with myself and do the 1001+ different things I wanna do than sit with a group of people who just don’t seem to enjoy my company or the things I wanna do. Is that normal for an ENFP ?! I mean I am social but only when I feel comfortable I guess this comes down to the intuition thing we have ?

Good performers and actors read peoples energy - and best ones can change it (for the better hopefully).

I totally agree with you and with riniam nabam. I also see a possibility that this is also a kind of "natural selection" like, *all* type have some boundary which is uncomfortable to recognize, and even more cumbersome to surpass. I don't think we enfp's are _naturally_ forgiving and empathetic but because we had the exact same germ layers, upbringing, social environment, or even trauma, what makes _tendencies_ that make us "enfp"s. But the real hard work starts in rewriting your fixed habits that was coded in you 'til your age 7, and that is only possible with repetition. We also put such a hard work in forgiving others because we empathize with them, but our personal mission I guess is to draw a damn strong boundary with saying *no* , or _logically_ and respectfully remind the other one to the consequences they cause, rather than play a victim role. As my dear friend said, a goal just to 'help' ppl is bullsh*t, but to share your understanding based on experience is magic. So we eventually helping ppl with setting our self respect as a prior, instead of anyone else's business. Just like U do 🤍! ~ _a curious enfp_

I ADORE being thrown into Choas!!