The Philippines' Problem With Exploitative Relationships 

When you say NO to someone your saying YES to yourself 👍🏻

This is for good hearted guys, you can't save the world. 🇺🇸🗽

Hey Paul, I spent the last 8 mos. in the Philippines and me and a good friend were just joking about the exploitation you described going to the whynot. We call it being "the Mark" and noticed it's not exclusive to foreigners. We had dinner one night at a nicer restaurant and a table of about 18-20 locals came in to celebrate an infants birthday and we identified the older filapino gentleman at the end of the table as "the Mark" sure enough when they were all done he got the bill for 28K pesos and squawked about it as nobody else made any contribution or even offered to contribute whatsoever.

I used to volunteer at a facility for old age veterans and there were a couple of 100% disabled veterans getting the equivalent of at least a thousand $ a wk, tax free, who send virtually their whole checks to these ladies in the Philippines. One i still run into, has never even met her and estimates he has already sent a half a million $, despite social workers and his sister trying to get guardianship. It seems that she is his motivation to keep him going, so maybe it is not so bad after all .

One of the first words a child learns and says is No! Don’t be afraid to say no, if they are truly into you it will show her not to ask you for things like the $100 usd handbag and if she leaves you then it shows her true side.

Setting boundaries is almost always a good idea. If the women doesn't except your boundaries it's a good idea to move on.

The Philippines explotation is more honest with the pay as you go plan versus getting cremated in a divorce in the USA 🇺🇸

After the first house scenario he wasn’t being exploited he was actively embracing it

The word no sometimes is the only way to earn respect. Without respect there can be no love or even friendship. They just go hand in hand .

I kept waiting for Paul to get to the guy buying Paul a house! 😆

I think the girls informed each other about this guy. It does not only happen in the movies. 🇺🇸🗽

sometimes being exploited is about as good as it will ever get. Like your only choice is to be exploited because that is all you have got to offer. there are lots of guys like that...maybe they are ugly or completely friendless and all they can hope for is the attention of someone who will exploit them. But the thing is they know it too.

Good point Paul, with how you actually look "foolish" by overspending. I remember your story about how when you and Baby were still a new thing and she showed you that she could cook your favorite american breakfast with coffee that you liked from the restaurant. And she did it for a fractiin of the price. She is such selfless person ❤️

Being here in Vietnam you here the same stories, some of the guys here lost everything and had to return to their home country with nothing...

Hi Paul, so my LDR that I actually met in the Philippines is also on tic-toc and in a chat group was told that I probably wasn’t the right guy for her because my flight back to the Philippines stopped in Manila and that I probably had another woman there. I told her that that that’s where the flight ends! And to book a flight to Bohol while in the Philippines would save me hundreds of dollars. Social media ain’t so social. I ain’t on social media and I keep finding reasons to not be!!! Thanks for another no nonsense video filled with straight goods.

Thank you Paul. Another excellent video on a much needed topic. Your presentation of both expats being exploited and local woman being exploited was refreshing. As scamee (one who was scammed a few times -- but never for a house 😅), I can say from experience exploiters and scammers exist in all parts of the world (and, yes even in the dear old USA). But, I allowed myself to be taken advantage of .... shame on me. The thing that hit me was the level of poverty, especially in Mindanao. I knew the poverty level was above 45% but I didn't understand the impact until I arrived. It is a harsh life, but filipinos are resilent. Fantastic and informative video (as always).

Hi Paul, I met a guy in Dumaguette last year who told me a similar story about building a Filipina a house and then getting ghosted. Your friend wasn't from Sweden was he. Anyway I am coming to Dumaguette later this year and would love to buy you a cup of coffee when I am in town.

From what I saw in north america, women do it legally

Hi Paul ! Thank you for the great stories that I love to hear ! You're looking young and handsome . Keep up the great vlog !

Mr. Paul in this situation I always use the bathroom excuse and take off. I don't want to listen to people's mistakes. 🇺🇸🗽

Great points...Without respect and the man not leading the relationship.. Any thing is possible 🙆. No is very important a word..for setting boundaries.

Paul I enjoyed this video Thank you for your insight.

Baby Mae takes nice pictures. My doctor says that I am getting better, but I don't think 🤔 I can handle too much adventure 😔.

Wow. That is crazy

Paul .. in their eyes …you are hero …. They think white man so handsome so wealthy.. my Filipino wife stills loves it .. when I pay for her friends …once in while …that’s Filipina way … don’t fight it … go with it …ole Mae will love you more …love your show ..love your interviews … juddeye

Well said wise sage!!!

Great job uncle Paulie , it’s not just settling boundaries for her most guys need to set boundaries for themselves.🎉

Thanks for your insightful and very useful information.

You know Paul you tell a great story but you have a very evil laugh. I like it. Keep the the evil laugh. 😀😀😀

MINE JUST TREATS ME AS A STATIONARY ATM THANK GOD ! 😂 🤣 😂

The one that comes to mind is play stupid games and win stupid prizes. And the games will continue. Thanks Paul for the brutal truth. I hope it will enlighten the willing love ya brother. God bless all your family peace out brother 🙏

One of your best ever down to earth vids Paul! Cheers!

My Philippina wife is the only female partner who has contributed more to the relationship than she has got out financially. When I pass on, she will be very comfortable though. I am truely blessed to have met this wonderful woman.

Great video Paul. It’s funny how a lot of guys (more so those who haven’t traveled a lot) will put more research into buying a car than into researching young Philipino female culture. I’m not just talking about tiktok, Instagram, etc, but the responsibility they hold to their family. My girlfriend is Filipino and is the oldest daughter. She has spent her life paying for her family. I can understand these girls who scammed the guy in the beginning of the video. I certainly don’t condone it. But we have to take on 100% of responsibility for our own intentions in order to be able to understand 10% of the intentions of some girls when it comes to dating. Thanks for sharing.

Hello Paul & Baby Mae ... I believe that for the most part both parties satisfy each others wants/needs; notwithstanding those cases of where there is wanton abuse

I agree with your remark, that hardly any YTer talks about exploitation of Filipinas by foreigners (maybe I haven't scanned YT enough). En vogue now seems to be these uploads from foreigners, who "warn" other foreigners of all the "poor and treacherous" Filipinas, as if this is typical for only this country. This is another way to skew the view, mostly out of misunderstanding the culture and mentality here. Or because of arrogance, since "we are so rich compared to them moneywise". In this case, they deserve to be stripped.

I understand the guys frustration of building a house for his girl and then she boots him, but he must have thought something wrong, but maybe not. I would have bulldozed the house. But by the third time you would have thought he’d learned his lesson. Best advise is don’t open your wallet and please these girls everyday. They soon learn.

There is an old saying….”First time shame on you, second time shame on me!” If I allow it to happen to me twice, I deserve what happens to me. I can understand a guy who reaches retirement age, is lonely, miserable and misses female companionship. He probably feels life is hopeless so he goes to the Philippines and all of a sudden, is getting attention that he has not seen in decades. But at some point common sense has to avail itself to these guys and no matter how great she makes him feel, he has to learn to set some limits.

You are a wonderful storyteller and have pithy insight into the human condition

Hey Paul… Another great video and subject… Your night out with the girls reminded me of the party’s we have had. We invite people to come, thinking it’s going to be husband and wife with maybe a kid or two. Upon arriving at the party you notice that the wife brought a sister or two and maybe their husbands or maybe an auntie or other relative or neighbor. A much larger group than you invited. We were always gracious to our guests, but over time, had to tell the people we had invited that they were the invited guests and we we’re trying to keep it a small party…

Yep. My experience. If it’s not her it’s her relatives. Within an hour of meeting her someone asks for money. I’m not rich. But I said I have very little left until my pension sometime next week. They do not believe. And continue to pressure. I do the only thing I can and walk away. No one has ever given me a nickel. But everyone wants money from me.

It's 100 percent the same here in Thailand, stupid with money = Buffalo. Smart with money = respect (That's different than being cheap and trying to take advantage of people). If a guy wants to show me pics of a girl I know he's new and still in tourist mode. If a guy want's to talk about food, where to get stuff from back home and how to get things done he's in expat mode. haha

In my opinion, Baby Mae is 'a diamond 💍 in the rough '. At a glance you may overlook it, but if you pay attention you will go 😲 wow, look at what I found. YOU ARE A LUCKY MAN PAUL 😊.

Paul, if the guy leads with his wallet, even the nicest woman will be tempted to get what they can. I think boundaries especially financial ones have to be adhered to. Indeed tough to do, when the prettiest thing you've ever see is right next to you but some not all, of these girls have very real financial needs of their own, if a guy easily presents a solution to them, once again even the nicest woman will be tempted to capitalize on it.

Sage advice!

There's no such a thing as LDR if You had not face to face relationship with each other before spending time in other countries or even other islands. You are just getting to know each other and during this time You are the sponsor of Her bills, nothing more, nothing less, get that thru in your brain guys.

Thanks for another informative vlog

Great story, glad you did not burned too bad, but it is pretty nervy for the girls to be inviting a group of friends to take advantage of you like that, even if it was not a great deal of money.

The great Paul with the wisdom! Legend bro!

Great message. I met more Filipinas exploited than expats. Great point. That’s exactly what I tell men, look in the mirror and practice saying “No!” I appreciate your honestly and clarity. So much more helpful than so many other vloggers who promote dating sites and speak vaguely of other’s experiences and seductive stories not acknowledging it’s misleading men and ultimately causing harm. One such video was out today. Sad. Keep up the great work

Regardless of where we are born, most people are just trying to do the best they can with what they've got. I've met a few eccentric expats in the Philippines and a few sketchy Filipino citizens, but the evil ones are very rare in both camps, I think. And the poor are often the most generous.

Hi Paul. Would you consider doing an episode about "Catfishing" in the Philippines? I know a viewer of your channel that is in the beginning stages of being victimized by it. He may listen to you more than he's listening to me. Thanks.

Everyone of thise girls probably knew each other and were passing him around. ALWAYS get a 25 year lease with right of way to the house before building a house.

This "exploitation" isn't a forte of philippine women, it exists worldwide. And it can be true of men as well. There are exploiters and exploitees everywhere and one place to easily find them is bars or anywhere people use to hook up. Both physical and online.

I think I would have said “Sorry. I’ve got to feed the cat.”

Great video,so much my story

It would seem to me that the Ph must have some court that will compensate a foreigner who puts that much money and effort into a house or business with a filipina. Did this guy talk to a lawyer?

"wheres picture number four"? hahahaha

Great advice old dog.

I think the first girl just kept sending him girls 😂 knowing how he was already 😅

The bar Bogarts story I would have just got up and left. when I saw that happening

Just say no. I do. Very peaceful.

Not all Filipinas want to exploit the guy. My Wife had plenty of opportunities to exploit me, if she had it in mind. Instead, she educated me on the ways of the Philippines, and has been my teacher, looking out for my best interests. It would be easy to be exploited, for many, until they're educated in the ways of the Philippines. Or they never learn... as they use the wrong head, and build another house...😂🤣

Interesting stories with important lessons. I might point out that the lonelier and more down on himself a man feels, the more likely he is to be easily exploited. So, don't start out immediately searching for the love of your life. Give yourself time to heal, and develop the ability to tell your self "no, she will not work out in the long run." Also remember that money will not buy love and respect.

I had friends🙄invite me to a big dinner at one of their house. When i got there i realized i was the one paying for the full dinner for 15 and several of the woman would do the cooking. I told my friend who invited me to the house that they all got me this time but there will never be another time. I said i dont mind contributing to the meal but im not paying for everyone and i said i thought that was a chicken shit move last time. He apologized and promised that it wont happen again and it hasn't. I decided to help out a really poor family and i bought them 50lbs of rice and bought the six children each a couple of outfits and paid for school lunches for all of them for a month. So two weeks later the oldest child knocks on my door and said her parents want their allowance lol 😂only in the PI. Needless to say that wasn't happening. Then being a sucker still, i paid for a neighbor who has 5 children and the husband is killing himself trying to provide but he is a trike driver and leaves at dark and doesn't get home until dark. So i notice they have no electricity or water. So stupid is as stupid does. I pay for their water and electricity bill that both were 4 months behind. Well i told them to keep it quite and not tell a soul. So about 3 days go by and here comes the first of many many neighbors all holding up electric and water bills expecting me to pay their bills. no act of kindeness goes unpunished. So many neighbors no longer even speak to me, because i tried to explain, i did it for the children and many of these neighbors only have one maybe two children and some couples didnt have any. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

He probably complained incessantly to the second and third girls about what the first and second girls did to him, to the point where he gave them the blueprint for how to screw him.

Sounds like the house contractor guy would flunk an IQ test.

I love your stories. Thanks for sharing!

I hope to laugh with you in person someday 😂

Great video..

Well said. You can't say it too often.

Another brilliant video - thank you, Paul. Setting boundaries is key…

Losing a half million in the Philippines is a different type of crazy.

Great video filled with a lot of powerful and very wise information, thank you so much.

The guy should have taken much longer to build the houses.......

"desperate people do desperate things". Desperate lonely men and desperately poor women are a tit for tat

amazing

Best advice i got, slow down , from your videos. Girl I'm dating in Cebu won't let me pay for her taxi home. She walks from Ayala after being on her feet all day i the shop she works in

No. Hell no. F no. Absolutely not! If a Filipina and her family can't financially sustain themselves without your money, DON'T GET INVOLVED!!!!!!!!!! DO NOT lend money under any circumstances and refer them to a bank with a straight face!!!!!!!!!!

Good morning po! No one deserves to be exploited by others, always love!

No they won't. They're all so virtuous and honest.

Love the bird watching over your shoulder lol

Thanks for sharing Paul, I have the same values.

Always take heed from the wisdom of a wise man - thanks Paul.

all exploit each other..

Great video Paul, I can almost picture this guy. I've seen his personality type many times. Did he smoke a cigar & slicked back hair?. 😀😁😆

Some feel that you are supposed to share your wealth to everyone. If you don't then they think you are cheap, called a tihik in bisaya. I was called that one night while drinking with the fiance's family and friends. Once of the family friends said, I heard you are a tihik. I said thank you, its my money and its up to me to spend it how I want. I have not seen anyone buy me anything. That topic ended but thought to myself interesting how some view me, but oh well.

Americans in particular have a ‘savior complex’ which is at the root of these problems

Online yes they will!

I love being used but only in the Philippines

Sounds like you were describing Quazimoto.

If your Filipina doesn't exploit you, you know there must be a problem.

Scott sure takes advantage 😂

With all due respect it’s the girls to blame.

wow

Good one Paul

That sounded like a Bill Burr, “Two LADIES…”😂

How many guys watch this video just to see BABY MAE???😂😂😂

I wouldn’t mind fully retiring on the cheap in year long warm weather in Asia or in the Philippines someday. Lots of beautiful White Asian women in the world to pick from. 😃