You have to create some drama for self importance, otherwise life gets too dull, and face it, when you don’t put in some effort to evolve and stick with growing up, what is there to contribute.. Spoken by every self-absorbed coddled man/woman-child.
this is such a healthy and respectful discussion about this issue. I’m so sick of the red pill manosphere podcasts where is just an argument between entitled men and women that seem to fundamentally dislike eachother
Stella is so sound to listen to! Thank you all three of you. Life or dating or love is no performance. We are no "things" to be used, or perform between each others.
I think the biggest problem I've found with dating apps, is that in 10 years of using them ....I've not once had a conversation, let alone a date out of them ......Where to go if you wish to lose all self esteem . Avoid them apps
I like Stella a lot, but she will never understand why some women want to be protected by their man. She does not have children, nor did she give birth to children. Non of the people in this video have children or have given birth to one.
I think non of them woman had broke down in thousand pieces and had to pick themselves up. Had a broken body, deu to to much hard work, being sick dayly to survive. And be miserable by doing everything on your own. Especially if you have children. Its so hard for woman , its like 2 job extra. I understand totally. I talked to many woman. They have such a hard time on their own. Really. But so less people understand it nowadays what it means for a woman to give birth to a man his child. The enormus gift she give him. 9 monts carrying, her body ripes open, changed forever, broken her skin. And then menn just dump there mother of baby for younger woman. Or do nasty and dont give her the care and respect she deserve. They act like a baby is like baking a cookie.
Loved the conversation and the different perspectives and it is definetely a topic that could be explored further. Some of the views were very black or white in my personal opinion. Yes a woman can work full time, absolutely contribute financialy and still want (and receive) protection and support from a man, especialy when children are in the picture. It doesn’t have to be “all traditional” or “all modern”, there certainly is a middle ground of compromise, sharing responsibility, mutual love and support. Just with the right person 🙂. Never been on Tinder and am not too keen on it but don’t quite see what the big difference is between setting up a date on a dating app and someone sliding into your dms after looking at your business IG where you are “selling” your image just as much but it’s for your business. It seems to me it’s just the labelling of the app that’s different, you’re still seeing someone online for the first time and encountering an avatar. Congratulations Richard on your new knowledge of Croatian, “šporka drolja” might certainly prove useful in some consentual role-play some day, Stella is teaching you well 😂😂😂
Just to ad a tact of difference, a womance body is not build for 5 days hard work. She will lose her feminine energy, she is bleeding. Emotional. She will fall ill or emotional drained after years doing this. Her time is shorter than a menn by half. Feminine movement is just to stop childbirth. If a woman works a manly job, she will become more jang. Woman start to feel its not the best situation. They long to be soft again .
I agree. And ESPECIALLY if she has kids already. That is W.O.R.K. Imo that’s the hardest job on the planet…Mom. It’s everything 24/7 and many times unappreciated and a thankless job. So if she tries to do that and work and everything else, she’s def gonna get either exhausted and burnt out or sick or bitter and resentful or all of the above.
Dear Stella, when you give birth to a child or children, and then God forbid have a sick child, we will see how you gonna handle that. How you will pull off working full time and take care of kids. No difference in chores still? What about hormones and the fact, that someone has to be there for the kids. It’s not always black and white. “Just cos I gave you a child, then I deserve this and that…” It’s not about deserving. It’s about being able to acknowledge, that we are different and can provide different things in life. As you said it your self, but at the same time you contradict your self.
Women like her want to act like they are better than the rest when really they are basic and nothing more. Please. 😂 She doesn’t realise how basic she sounds. Her answers are just typical answers that most women would’ve given when trying to pander to men and for ma|e validation. I’m not sure why women are worried about other women’s standards or the requirements that other women have for themselves? 😂 When are they going to understand that it does not matter what THEY or men think. It’s about that individuals personal choice? When are these basic chicks going to get it? 😂😂
This is sooo interesting how people perceive things differently, regardless of gender. I feel suffocated and admittedly sometimes angry if a guy asks me out then later announces “this is not a date” and “we’re just friends”. To me, a friend is a much more intimate title that has to be earned through building trust. It’s not a given. Dating is a much more casual term in my mind for an open ended intention to explore romance and/or sexual activity that may or may not lead to a long term commitment and/or friendship. If a man makes it clear something is not a date I think either he’s gay (prefers men) or else he’s already in a committed relationship as far as romance/sex is concerned. Why waste my time asking me out if he’s not interested in pursuing our connection as a date that may lead to friendship and/or romance? Now if someone wants to go out solely for business purposes, this is different. In that case, it’s to be expected that “asking me out” is not a date, especially if it’s during normal business hours and it’s stated ahead of time that it’s only for business. As for apps like Tinder, etc. these greatly disadvantage men, because women fall in love with someone’s heart, not their looks. Men fall in love first through sight, with some exceptions. But the way men can showcase their inner assets with women (heterosexual women who may be interested in them) is not addressed in these apps, so this is why most men cannot find dates using these apps. What women fall in love with isn’t readily obvious or on display to vet properly.
@@movement2contact Yes and no, depending on the context. Giving and sharing my heart with a man in the context of friendship or romance is much more intimate for me than giving him my body. Ideally, they go hand in hand. I prefer friendship with romance, and sex with a shared heartspace any day of the week over straight sex. Sex is shallow without aligned hearts to honor its sacredness.
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
@@AmandaWech no but it literally does... 🫤 Think about it. It pushes "successful profiles" and just what do you think that means? Yup. Sharks. I hate it sooo much.
YES, yes, YESSS.. all of it!! 🤯❤️💪 I LOVE THIS ENTIRE CONVERSATION!! I agree!!! Thank you all for your time and thoughts!! Your all fantastic humans 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️💪💪💪☯️☯️☯️🖖🖖🖖☮️☮️☮️🦋🦋🦋
I can explain something to stella about energy difference with menn and woman. (However i love stella, she could be my best friend) but.. i think.. She obvious did not have 4 burnouts and is a very strong woman. We woman. above 30 in this world get too tired. its basically done. She started well with the fact that menn and woman are so different but later claims they should do the same. Just work. Thats the isseu, it destroys the woman to do the same. We can but there is a but. The cost is high. That not a lot people nowadays understand. Its the chakra energy. Its different. I experenced myself. There is a menn and a woman.. they are made for eachother, to work and support eachother. Dont try to be the same.
Sadguru says that people pick up genetic information when they have sex. If you bond to many people they say, in Ayurveda that you pick up Runanabhunda. The outcome is that it makes it hard for you to feel joy. Western studies show it's easier to stay happy/successful in marriage if you have zero or very few partners before your spouse.
There are valid scientific studies proving that many sex partners alters the woman's DNA . Do a search on the adverse effects of multiple sex partners for women.
I would take everything that Sandguru says with a grain of salt.It's a energetic information like a thumbprint,it stays on you and what a phone screen looks like at the end of a day? Luckily you can get yourself energetically,just like the phone, clean.I actually quite enjoyed the "have a distance and don't shake hands 😉"that we had to follow for 3 years- quite a lot of people did actually. And the study's,I would like to see what kind of people they questioned- specially the one's with only one sexual partner.If I have stayed with my first one I would have been a very unhappy person.Sure that's my personal opinion but I noticed that many people stay with the first who they come across out of fear=religion wise (what would other people think of me)and their life is a living hell - most of my family members
I don't really believe that we can get any clear studies on this because religious women are less likely to admit they are unhappy in their marriage. We also can't go on divorce rates because again religious groups don't believe in divorce.
@@justmeiam4996 its basically proven sciense, that they can find the dna of menn a woman slept with.. beside the energetically effect which you basically can feel. Or you have to be a narc or robot.
Brilliant! This video should be the required homework for all Sex Ed courses around the world! I enjoyed the engaging conversation that you created RG, as Mohamed and Stella beautifully articulated the missing pieces of the puzzle in the dating battleground. Clearly, there’s massive confusion around the structure of male and female core values. “What’s going on”, exclaimed Stella! Right? I hear you loud and clear, Stella. Hey, it’s great to put a face on the mystery man, Mohamed- what an intelligent man and such a pleasure to hear his perspective, too! Oh… btw, Omar’s wiener size is totally overrated! All I could think about during that part was, “OUCH! No thanks!” 😅
I agree Stella. It does hurt a lot when your partner has been with lots of other people. And your pixie girlfriend is my spirit animal Richard 🤣🤣🤣that was the greatest story ever!! 😂😂👏👏 And I agree, online dating is gross, and every one feels entitled to instant sex or romance on tinder. No one takes time to really get to know any one and it’s like they all just go through the steps of conversation to get to the “dick pic” part, so they can rub one out. Most have zero interest in even meeting in person for coffee, or driving any where. It’s yucky It’s all perverted and dirty… not even in a fun way. Hehe I agree also that if a man doesn’t have balls to approach and ask out a woman, he does not deserve sex, and should go get some therapy until his balls drop….and I’d tell the same thing to my own sons
Why does it hurt? They're with you. Do you feel they are committed to you? Do you doubt them because they have had many partners? Can you talk with them about your feelings? How does it actually hurt you? Maybe it hurts them more than it hurts you? Maybe they have had a long learning curve. If you love them maybe you can forgive them? They had not met you before. How can their past hurt you?
@@uyouhaveyou good questions. I had to think about it for a min. I think it’s like how Stella said, …or did Richard say 🤔🤔🤔 not sure who said it, but any way, because we take them into our selves and we technically “absorb their orgasm” and that energy that comes with it, it makes us feel bound to our sexual partner. Sounds messed up, I know..but it’s kind of how it is. I think how ever high that number is, is also energy from those other people we feel and take into our selves. It’s a number of people who all felt the same way about that man, at one point, and was also taking him into them selves….assumably hoping it would lead to love and “life long blissful happiness and sex”, at on point The higher the number, I’ve found, the higher the persons ego, and higher chance of them being some one who is unable to commit long term, and higher the “insecurity” it instills in people…because “players only love you when they’re playing” 🤷🏻♀️ I think any people with high number counts need to have exceptionally good reciprocal communication, trust, respect, kindness and consideration for their partners..and agree to the terms, conditions, and boundaries of the relationship they both want and are working towards, if they want it to work long term.
@@uyouhaveyou maybe when we take a man into us, we feel the shame and guilt or the insecurities of any past women left in his wake, that he may have made to feel “not good enough” by not staying or loving them?? 😳🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ idk…why does any one feel any thing…and why the hell have we all not been desensitized into emotionless little greys by now…and how much does a lobotomy cost? Is my questions in life now 😳😳😳😳😳🤣🤣🤣🤷🏻♀️
@@pickle9753 Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I absolutely agree that good communication is the key, from the heart. That's essential. Many men are very reluctant to start talking and sharing - they don't open up the box for, perhaps, their own guilt and shame. I had a partner who many times said to me "all men are dirty bastards". He told me at the start of the relationship that he would not like other men around me. I didn't know what the implications of that were until we got deeper into relationship and were living together, and experienced abuse myself for his fixation on dynamics he feared would occur. And i wonder now if there isn't truth in what he's saying - that there is a lot of chaotic behaviour out there. I could share a lot.. I will say that i've had to look back and acknowledge that my first experience of sex was not consensual. I said no. He was drunk.. I was under age too. I'm an adult now, and i know that the word no is really important. To hold out on this is not always easy if you feel passionate interest in someone and they are feeding you things that you hope to hear. I don't drink or use drugs, but i would acknowledge the intoxication that can occur when connected with someone - chemistry i think they call it. I had near on a decade not having sex with anyone, though i met people, and then i got swept up and believed some fantasy and ignored reg flags and hoped too far. How do i feel? Not good. How does he feel? I think he hates himself. He had told me he was single, and then he back tracked on this. This is not the first time in my life. I had a relationship for over a year with someone who pretended they were not involved with anyone, when he was still with his previous partner - she knew nothing about me. How could this occur? Honestly, how? There is such a lot of poor behaviour in men and it's such a shame women have to be so very guarded. I wonder, perhaps we do. I feel the utter sadness of this.
@@marcus8786 Red Pill is a harshly logical perspective based on psychological evolution and our real needs and strategies. What RP experts mess is giving harmful solutions.
me and my significant other both have very very little experience with the bedroom and it makes our relationship so much easier and fun because were the only source of eachothers fulfillment in that area and i dont as the female perspective think of leaving the relationship and we both want to do everything we can to make it work. were not that religious but our values around sex align and theres such an amount of trust we both have for eachother which is so rare now a days. im glad i waited for the person im with now because its well worth it in my opinion
Intelligence and honesty, a lovely experience! 🙂 Thank you for sharing this illuminating conversation and for everything you share, since it’s so valuable!
Women have a right to be attracted to who they want. I will say however that dating and attracting the opposite sex can much harder for most men than women. Its just how it is, and you must overcome your inexperience and lack of confidence by facing your fears.of rejection and interacting with women you are attracted to, especially if you already had negative subconscious beliefs about your own worthiness and attractiveness to.women already. I think dating apps have made many men feel completely unseen by women and it is a lot rarer now.for women to show interest to the average man, I think social status has become even more important for a man now when it comes to dating, the pandemic didnt help either. It honestly took me years to get my confidence up with women and I wasnt particularly physically unnatractive, I just had a horrible self image and toxic shame at my core where I would feel such an inferiority complex and imposter syndrome just show any interest or talking to women I found attractive. I think men really need to invest time facing their fears of talking to women if they are struggling, staying at home and doing nothing will yeild very few results.
Approaching a woman somewhere out on the street is a lot more superficial than meeting on a dating app. Even just those few photos and a couple of sentences in the bio are enough to get some idea of what kind of person you're looking at and whether you have something in common. When a woman is approached in public, the only thing the guy knows about her is how she looks. How is that better? You don't know if the guy is a good match until you sit down for a coffee or a meal but if it turns out you're just two completely different people, which is very likely considering you don't know anything about each other, you've already wasted your time. With the dating apps you can filter out the people you have nothing in common with before you meet them in person. Also I don't see an issue with women picking what they like from both traditional and modern relationships. If they can find a guy who is on the same page, they can do whatever they want.
I feel these people on this video are women who hang with women and men who hang with men, i grew up with guys as friends and women as friends, and we could network in freind experiences, to experience cooking as friends, camping as friends, swimming at the beach as friends, then picking of those a romance is easy, when theres a group of women ,then a group of men, that only meet as romantic experiences is unnatural i.m.o.
I totally agree we are so different men and women think differently on all levels and I for one don’t want to compete with a man we look and think very differently
I’m really angry that a woman would bait her current lover into seeing the cock of her past lover. That’s emotional abuse in my book. I see it as disrespecting her responsibility to honor her current partner. With that said, I think she did that because she was the one who felt inadequate to handle her former lover’s cock, and she wanted her current partner to share in the misery of this. What crap💩! Everyone deserves a partner who cherishes them.
Why are people so obsessed with penis size? It's a stupid stupid thing. It really is. I think people need to get over themselves. It's not an issue for me. Again it's just so stupid, such a stupid obsession and you have to see things in context. Having a sense of humour in life is vital. Anyone who chooses to compare themselves with the man with the biggest penis in the UK is not thinking all that straight, and from the sound of the scenario this woman was not trying to shame anyone and i doubt Richard went home and cried over what he had in his pants cause he has a sense of the funny side of life. I think? And we all need more of that, cause life is challenging and we are all different and can celebrate this.
@@uyouhaveyou. Yes. It is not just stupid, but it is vulgar. This type of thing is not ok to discuss and it cheapens everyone. These people have been brainwashed by Hollywood.
I am hugely romantic, so Tinder is anathema to me - I think for some people they are perhaps more utilitarian, or even it gets to a point of desperation - must find partner now, that's the 'quickest' way to do it
Modern life is rubbish. Modern dating is definitely rubbish ! I have always met people the old fashioned way, but these days I do not date at all. Great discussion guys. Richards final point is something that I have been pondering on a lot lately.
Yes Richard, please, do an entire video about your sexual perversions and naughtiness 😂😂😂😂🖖 Is there a “patrion” or something I need to join to hear those conversations??? 😳😳😳😂😂
Interesting and lighthearted take on dating. But let's clarify( and I know it’s well intended) women's rights aren't about longing for oppressive times. It's about so much more than that-voting rights, education, inheritance, and beyond. Don't confuse genuine struggles with the actions of a few opportunists or outliers. Last year, three women were brutally murdered in public in Egypt, UAE, and Jordan. There's still work to be done for the way women are perceived, leave alone rights. You live in a very rich region, it would be great to learn more about it, the best of it and the challenges faced. Peace, and continue these important convos.
Dare i say, with the exception of the critique of internet dating, i found this a shallow and condemnatory discussion. There are so very many men that have issues and it's hard to know anything about these things until you become intimate. Where on earth to begin. I can't. But i feel the condemnation of myself for no longer being a virgin - i'm really sorry about this. Women who are not virgins are mentally ill? I find this a horrible ideology, not least of all after I've had a committed relationship with someone who was obsessed with the idea i'd had lots of men "go through" me and i suffered a lot of (absurd) abuse from him on point of this notion he carried. Men want virgins. That's why they go for me - because, although now in my 40s, i am still petite and fit and i have an idea that the men i attract like to hope i am virginal and don't like that i've lived. So let me just say, this obsession with the virgin woman, it's also a sickness.
It’s only different if you become a mom. lol. Then that’s the hardest job ever if you’re dedicated to your kids and doing it right. Idk what they think tho Bcuz about the only thing I have any beef with is that the woman who cleans and cooks and raises kids IS likely working harder than anyone else is. And really all she wants is for that to be respected and appreciated as much as bringing home the money is respected and appreciated. And money is needed. Kids are very expensive to raise. To me working a job was kind of a picnic compared to motherhood. And also I think some women are more on that feminine wanting a male provider track Bcuz in some cultures what we have is the woman doing it ALL. The man sitting there and she’s raising the kids, cooking the food AND paying the bills. To me that’s just not cool tho. So for moms with kids it’s basically work when you can and if you can. But a mom can’t always do that in the middle of certain parts of motherhood. I think most guys know that tho (like just don’t be a bum or don’t be a dead beat dad and just live off of a woman or pretend your kids don’t exist or don’t go hoeing about making a bunch of babies and leave a bunch of girls AND your own kids hanging etc)….but some still do that anyways and some women still let them. Idk if “deserve” is the right word but our female biology presents very real risks for us that a man will never have to face. And if a girl winds up knocked up, she’s gonna need some support….including financial. And if he wants to poke his thing all around town then he should at least be responsible enough to do his part with birth control efforts. Just like ya know. It’s pay to play Bcuz everything changes when a child is brought into this world. And that risk is imminent any time virile people have sex. And kids can’t be fed and cared for on love and hope and wishes alone. That’s gonna take some money. And Bcuz it’s not just for her. It’s for the kids. They need somebody. They usually need TWO somebodies both doing their parts to help the unit and esp to help those kids who cannot do for themselves. Once kids are in the picture I see it more like the husband holding up the wife (Aka support) who is currently using all she has within her to hold up the kids. Does she deserve it? Idk but I know she needs it. And so do the kids. So in a big way, women are “at risk” more than men are and that needs to be factored into all considerations. I used to resent scripture that said “women as the weaker sex” but now I think I know what was meant by that. Just Bcuz pregnancy and all that comes with it is a vulnerable state to be in. And we def aren’t built with “brawn” and so on. And as was so brilliantly said “Men can’t get pregnant.” Lol. And if it was caveman days, what’s she gonna do? Both her and the little infant are gonna need protecting by someone. And if that man helped her make the infant then it is his duty to do just that. And to see to finding provisions. Back then they didn’t have birth control and formula and government assistance etc, so if mama doesn’t get fed then that baby’s very life is also in jeopardy, not just hers. But I’m just over here living my celibate, asexual life now and I really love it. Lol.
17:30 🙄girl bye. 😂 It’s got nothing to do with deserving something because of giving birth but everything to do with preference and standards. If one woman doesn’t want what you will settle for. Why does that bother you? Stop pandering. 😂😴🚮
I’ve been thinking about what was said regarding humanity’s perception of gender roles and the transgender humans we share this planet with. It takes more courage for transgender people to exist than any other group. Their suicide rate is much higher than any other group due to bullying. Did you know that 82% of transgender individuals have considered killing themselves and 40% have attempted suicide? Why use humor to maul them if they are just being themselves? What right does anyone have to hack up their dignity?
So funny that so many women are claiming to be traditional all of a sudden when there is a housing crisis and bad ecomony. Anthropologists must be cracking up. 😅
Some younger men need to have the "i don't really give a shit mindset".... when it comes to talking to women... and when a man stuff his head up a woman ass it's showing her that he's number 2.... and despite for attention... it's a mindset and the energy that men can give off and women can take advantage of that...
Omar story 😱😂. That girl was red flags galore. Imagine a man doing this to a girlfriend, introducing her to his ex who had amazing tits, and saying 'show her your tits!' It would never happen, for obvious reasons. Only a woman could pull something like this. Richard, you should've told her dad, but then again she probably never had one.
12:00 For a woman to procreate, there needs to be a man. For optimal child development that man and that woman needs to dedicate a significant portion of their life to that child In theory, when woman is not fertile anymore and kids have left the nest, a man would have to either leave that woman or somehow manage a household with multiple wives. Technically, if cards fall right and if we assume 20years for one 'cycle', a man would have ~3 cycles, a woman would have only one and would be in very insecure position from the get go I understand where Richard is coming from, but the direction where this leads is.. harems or however that thing is called with multiple wives Looking back at historical examples.. Been there, done that, have we learned any lessons? As in,could we, humans, men and women together, find a solution to such arrangement that all parties not only would consent, but would be eager and strive to create families, even if that means household of more than 2 adults? Let's not forget that the new 'woomb' would be the youngest person in such situation. Potentially different generation At some point, that man would have to procreate with the equivalent of his own daughter (age wise). That's quite uncomfortable to think about tbh, but I'm a woman, so 🤷♀️
Men have always competed. 75% of men historically, wouldn't pass their genes on. I watched a woman's vid on her take on how consensual seggs can still be non-consensual because she was groomed early and had a shitty first experience. So, a yes can still be grapes. Yikes. Now, I have gotten weird sketch vibes from a chick that wanted it rough. It's like she had a victim program and I had to be the bad guy. No thanks. Married men are getting destroyed. Roninman channel talked about women destroying the family. They go for the win/lose.
I love old skool falling in love at first sight My ex narcissist was on all dating platforms like tinder/hinge chasing women also including grinder under a false name however I met him at a gym and we were together for 4 years. For me it was love at first sight because it’s what I was used too. It’s the worst out here at atm however my cousin met her husband on tinder but I had no luck on dating sites ever tbh men now have no skills like that 😢 I only started dating 4 years ago (hence the narcissist) as I met someone at 23 and we were together for 12 years (my sons father) and it was beautiful unfortunately things ended however the new age dating scene is tragic. I am single now and enjoying my son who’s about to hit the big 10 ❤
