THE PRONOUN UPDATE IS OUT FOR THE SIMS 4 

Fair point :D

I agree, pronouns has always been a normal everyday thing and I like that its almost as if they patched a "normal game and QoL feature that we only got the chance to add now" and not make it some sort of trendy and glorified personality shtick marketed for pride month.

If they waited until pride month, I wouldn't have any problems just because in my mind June is a month to spread awareness and educate others about LGBTQ issues, as well as celebrate the community. But I definitely appreciate that they didn't wait since I know it's a month that's kind of taken advantage of by big brands. It shows that they really do care and want us to feel more comfortable as soon as possible

i dont, im suprised the fuckers didnt make this feature part of a paid kit 💀

They were like yeah we should have had that our bad

Lmao

exactly thiss!!

fr!! I love kayla

@@Foxhound94 ???????

Hell yeah! As a Trans sims player this update really makes me excited for where the sims is going!

No comments ?! ight bet. You described the vibe perfectly! So ditto ig

She’s the sweetest person ever. Like she will LITERALLY LITERALLY go straight to heaven.

I’m friends with a transphobe and am knitting her a blanket. Me and my genderfluid friend prefer to avoid her, but it’s hard to me when she has contact with my mutual friend who moved away.

It’s stupid.

@@PandyDaize what does that have to do with this comment?

Wendy, I have the same problem. I found practicing talking about them to my husband helps! I also found that referring to most everyone using they/them also helps as well. It is widely accepted even by cis people because we have always heard it being used in a sentence. That is how I have been teaching myself the last few years. I am 46. ;)

I'm 58 with a trans niece. The struggle is real. In my case it's just saying she with everyone but my Mom and her husband, aged 80 and 66, but it gets confusing at times. In the 80s, I learned the phrase, I'm straight but not narrow, when a few of my friends ended up with AIDS and didn't make it to our 10 year reunion. I've been an ally for a long time and I love the normalcy Kayla brings to the subject!

@@khowler I was just taking to my husband about how important it is to have transgender and no binary representation in the media and with influencers. They teach me daily and I get to practice changing my language in a private, stress free environment. Representation matters for everyone.

@@andreahale6999 very true. You never know who may be non binary and may not be comfortable telling you. I am very open about being an ally. I have lots of friends of all the community. I still have a problem with pronouns but my friends know if I mess up it's not out of mallace or anything like that.

i love u

YES! I immediately thought of Blake

Who is Blake?

@@lucyngo87 A sim in her youtube legacy challenge

That’s some unfortunate irony, poor Blake 😢

RIP, at least it wasnt the killer rabbits 😂

i'm so proud to say she's been my fave yter since she started

Lmao

She’s a queen, periodtt 💅

@@Foxhound94 what's funny?

shes the queen we needed

This comment made me so happy... I wish there were more people like you. Lotsss and lots of love

Same here Amy!

OMG 😭 I love how understanding you are. You are the kind of person that will actually listen and try to understand people. There aren't a lot of people out there who want to listen and it's sad.

And some teenagers can’t consume the fact that people have preferences

Your our mom now

thanks for speaking up :)

😂😂😂

I love it when they do that, as if it's normal (and it is) instead of making a big announcement about it.

@@dumbledorf5029 exactly. It´s normal. Your username is not however, love it :D

@@purplexninjamom aww thank you.(and I do love your pfp)

Lmao

@@karleychilders6908 Why do you think it was distasteful?

Yeah it even hurt my feelings a bit when she said you’re no longer welcome here even though I fully respect the Lgbtq+ community. Idk I’m sensitive most of the time 😭

@Karley Childers trans people are constantly discriminated against not only online but through big things like changes in law that don't let us live our lives safely, kayla unequivocally stating her support for trans people is definitely disgusting, stating that she, and her other sims content creator friends, do not welcome people who purposely disrespect and hurt other people is not disgusting

@@karleychilders6908 it's alright to be mean to transphobes

😂😂 you are out of your mind

Hopefully we can advocate for one more drop down bar with options for masculine terms(brother, dad, uncle, etc), feminine terms(sister, mom, aunt, etc), or neutral terms(sibling, parent, auncle, etc)

i so agree!! she worded everything so well

Tbh I hate when people use "educated" as a synonym for "agrees with my viewpoint". That being said, simsie's the best and I'm happy for this update :)

@@Erin-ho9hj I'm confused. Pronouns aren't a viewpoint its part of a language

@@melodyf2828 Okay so I'm bi, but I wouldn't say people who are against gay marriage are uneducated because they don't agree with my views. Obviously I'm not talking about syntax. Just a trend I'm noticing that I think divides people more, and makes it harder for opposite sides to have conversations about different viewpoints :)

@@Erin-ho9hj well actually they said "educated on this topic". No where did they imply that anyone who doesn't agree with trans rights is uneducated.

I’m really Interested to know how this update works in the game.

@@yuhhbiscuit me toooo!!!

@@yuhhbiscuit Me to!

Love it vids ,I'm so happy they added pronouns!!!!!!

Pin this to the top!

same, honestly. like i was meh about it all but then i actually played with it and wow. it felt really good edit: i was meh because im depressed and tired of this world 😅 not bc its not impactful

neopronouns are so dumb

Disgusting 🤢

Second that one mate

Kayla standing up to Transphobes just made my day so much better.

@@yuhhbiscuit same. I'm a bi cisgender but still it makes me so happy! :)

@@Nina-ho3qi same

Respect and solidarity are not a one-way street. Kayla insults people she doesn't know, before anyone even had time to complain about the update. To show the respect and to live solidarity yourself the way you expect others to do would be truly spectacular. Otherwise it's just a lived double standard resp. hypocrisy.

Which makes it sad we didn't get it too

So Plumbella is really on point with her "Hey Hens" for y'all ❤️

I think you will soon... Let's hope the US is the beta trial run.

Oh cool, I'm learning Swedish but I didn't know this. What's the equivalent of honom/henne?

its similar in french with “iel” being “they” and it is only used as a gender neutral pronoun

same!!!

Lmao

@@Foxhound94 weird

She does it the way all teachers should have to do it in school!

@@ibuprofriends lmao this dude is in every comment saying the same thing "lmao" don't give them the attention.

Oh no your cereal! Was there much left? Did it make a mess? Is your floor ok?!?!

@@blueberryy4702 I was sitting on my bed so it could have gone sooo badly but I managed to save most of it, dont worry haha 😆

"Dislike" and "Unsubscribe" So easy. XD

That went too far for my taste. I'm ftm and I gave my family a full 6 years! to understand and become accepting and understanding of me. It's a process. Telling someone off like that will only make them spiteful and not wanting to check out the links to educate themselves at all. I have to absolutely commend Kayla for anything else she said, though!

​@@fynnh5459 she's saying it to people who already don't want to learn though. if they're choosing to not even *try* to learn i think its pretty understandable to say they're not welcome you make a good point though!!

More people should be idiots ?? Is that what you are saying?

@@note8proxiomi664 clearly

im a she/they and really like it, i dont really mind what pronouns people give me which is always funny when people try to misgender or mispronoun me because anything goes lol (im afab)

😂😂😂

Try it if you want! You can always change your mind 💕

@@Kytti-not-kitty when people try misgender me they always call me ‘she’ and say ‘ur a girl, stop tryna change ur gender’ And I’m just like ‘why you assuming I was even born a girl?’

🥰

It makes me so happy too, I’m so glad that I get to use They/Them/She pronouns on my sim Jax. I started crying when I heard about it.

It's really not though but I suppose it is still a game of make-believe weather it's irl or in the sims so there's that

@@yuhhbiscuit same! my legacy heir is non binary and I'm so happy the game will stop misgendering them now!😁

@@austinthesecuritygaurd7630 Check the video at 3:37 :)

@@austinthesecuritygaurd7630 what are you even doing here if you don't care about this update

I can finally remake my self sim using the male body type with actual female pronouns instead of having to use the female body type

I MADE MY SIM GO BY THEY/SHE SO THE GAME WOULDN’T MISGENDER THEM IM SO EXCITED AND I LOVE SEEING OTHWR PEOPLE WXCIYED TOO

I can finally make my friend in TS4 without having the game constantly misgender them! :)

@@tankedwarthog6424 you could already do that tho

SCREAMING!!! AHHH GO CRAZY AHHH GO STUPID !!

You forgot the colour in our flag- just saying! =)

They're not attacking anyone. They only want to protect children from 1st to 3rd grade.

@@user-ww2wr6ku5xThat's literally just false. They're not protecting kids from anything, they're just priming them for @buse.

@@user-ww2wr6ku5x It isn't just kids grade 1-3. its literally high schoolers too. High Schools in Ohio are going to start looking at kids genitalia if there's even so much as a QUESTION of if they're trans. Same with Middle Schoolers. It isn't about protecting anyone. It's harassment.

@@hayday2917 Do you play Hay Day? 😃

@Iflyfree always Look up "Paradox of Tolerance"

@Iflyfree always yes we discriminate against hateful people who wish ill will to others.

@Iflyfree always erm, I am confused by your comment? I was agreeing with Kayla that all pronouns and all lives matter and it doesn’t take a lot to call someone a pronoun they ask to be called? One of my best friends is a trans man

@Iflyfree always It's not discrimination, she's saying that no hate is welcome here. If you can't respect who people are and how they want to be addressed then you are a close minded bigot with a lot of issues. Who exactly is she discriminating against? Transphobes? Homophobes? Who do you think she's excluding?

@@barkergirl33 *whispers* I am so confused 🫤

Same ❤️ I always loved how she used they/them pronouns for them and now it’s even more exciting

Me too. As a person who uses they/them, it always bothered me that the game misgendered Blake and I'm glad they can have their correct pronouns in game now!!!

@@trainchomp6184 such a huge gameplay change...

i’m smiling so big rn over it :)

kinda sad that it came out just after blake died lol

Yes this is also something I could get behind

Why?

@@iheartdelrey because people want to be represented?

I hadn't even thought about this, but that would be so awesome!!

Yes! I love my blind, prosthetic and ASD mods but I'd love them to be in the game by default

Exciting stuff!

Lmao

I've been using custom pronouns for that and unfortunately having to pick and choose a pronoun for each one, but hopefully they'll add options for that in another update or "add another pronoun set" in custom pronouns.

Probably because pop up’s have to be reworded

Lmaoo I wheezed

my nigga

Fact

i wish that were the case, but a lot of the game with the updated pronouns still has incorrect grammar

i did learn it, without it....

I’m also non-binary and I’m really excited to make a sim of myself without the game misgendering me!

Can you guys kinda explain what non-binary is? I’m a straight cis girl yet a lot of my friends are trans non-binary etc and I don’t really know/understand what non-binary is? Edit: thanks for all the info, I’ll make sure to remember 😊

@@saintshrooms9424 non-binary means you are neither a man or a woman. identifying as a man or a woman would be called a binary gender. anything else is under the non-binary umbrella, aka genders that exist outside the binary. some genders under the umbrella include genderfluid, genderqueer, demiboy/girl, agender, genderflux, etc :) hope this helps!

@@saintshrooms9424 non binary is basically a spectrum of genders where someones not male or female exclusively. its the in between of the two binary genders, if that makes sense

@@saintshrooms9424 nonbinary means that you identify as something other than a boy or a girl

Fingers crossed we get them in TS5

You are valid. Never ever forget that!

Lmao

sending you lots of love. i can’t image how hard it must be to be in your situation. you are valid friend ❤️

What is non binary exactly?

@@Esilasaram455 Non Binary is an umbrella term that refers to persons who don't identify solely as a man or woman.

Turkish? :)

@@jessicahanden yes :)

I also realised that. The discussion surrounding pronouns isn’t possible in every single language

Turkish?

@@fr1ed716 yes!

If I understood the second to last phrase correctly, I think I can explain it within reason. It's that person's gameplay it won't effect anyone else's if they choose to be a transphobe you don't have to know about it. The game is for everyone to play whether you are apart of the lgbtqia+ community, or you are disabled, or even if you are a transphobe. The game was made for everyone to enjoy. Also just because a person may not except pronouns does not make them homophobic. Its a new concept that maybe they don't understand while they still support those in the community. My mum is bisexual and she herself does not understand the concept of pronouns, so it's irrelevant in this case to being homophobic.

@@lucierussell337 Since you don't seem to know, you aren't talking about homophobia. You are talking about transphobia. Homophobia is a hate, fear, or aversion of homosexuality, which is not what being trans is. Transgender is the term for anyone who does not feel like they fully identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. Transphobia is the fear, hate, or aversion against trans people. The issue here is, if someone has an aversion to neopronoun or using gender neutral pronouns, that is an aversion meaning phobia. It is an aspect of being trans that one refuses to understand or accept. Either one understands it, accepts it, or is phobic of it. We have heard these statements of empty allyship before. "I 'accept' you, but I'm not going to do the thing (that makes you feel safe in your skin) because it's (insert shitty excuse)." It's another thing if you are trying, and make a slip up ever so often, but then immediately rectify it when you notice, that's okay. It's just like slipping up and calling someone the wrong name, but you apologized and keep moving on, trying to do it less often. Eventually it will become habit and easy to do. There is no excuse to refuse respecting other people.

I just thought it more options in my case. More options never hurt nobody. The only issue I have is when people keep getting mad when I used the "wrong pronoun". They act like I just murder somebody. Make me wanna be diabolical and hurt their feeling.

@@DaiMie most people won’t have a problem if you correct yourself, apologise and just move on If they act really dramatic about it, they probably had to use the wrong pronouns for quite a while

@@DaiMie if someone is actually draging about it, it must mean that you are not first to misgender them and they get it often, really annoying when that happens, just apologize again and don't do it again. i hope you understand this, a lot of people are misgendered or use pronouns that they feel uncomfortable with, cause of the transphobes, but if someone is actually dramatic for attention, move on them, find someone new to talk. i recommend to meet with someone new, most of us don't really drag it, even with experience of transphobic ppl in our life, but some are making a drama just to make u seem bad, that's kinda of common sense but hope i helped :)

@@DaiMie the majority of us try to be patient with people as long as they are trying. My mum often uses the wrong pronouns or name, but I don't usually get angry because I know she's trying. As another person said, the anger is usually out of frustration when it's been frequent and/or purposeful by others. Also try to keep in mind, a lot of us have been told that our identities are invalid and we can often get immediately defensive as an impulse, even if we know we're in a safe place with a safe person.

@@JustJoe10 Nah. That just make me wanna be more devious.

Can I ask a (genuine) question? This is not the first time I've heard of xe/xem pronouns, though I never actually met someone who uses them. But where do they come from? I kinda get how they/them pronouns started to be recognized as pronouns for a singular person, probably also because I got in the habit of using they/them (in English) if I don't know someone's gender. That habit established itself before I was even aware that some people don't feel comfortable with their pronouns assigned at birth. But xe/xem? I don't know where these pronouns come from and I would like to learn (:

@@demiguise6208 so neo pronouns are not "technically" recognized in the english language, so where most people automatically use they/them for people, neo pronouns are a little different. some people change their name, because they feel like a different name represents them better. that's why i changed my name. names are a word we use to represent people, and when they don't fit, we change them. pronouns are also words used to describe people. imagine the only names that existed were emily, mark, and jasper. you might not feel like any of those names describe you. so instead you make your own name, let's say Henry. some people get really confused because they've never used Henry as someone's name, and it's not one of the three names, but it fits you, so you made it up and want people to use it. someone else might hear that you use the name Henry and feel like that fits them too, and start using it. i don't know exactly how xe/xem pronouns started, but when i heard about them, i thought they fit me, so i started using them. i don't know how much that answers your question, and id have to do more research to find out where they originated, but i hope this helps some

Glad to see another Unus Annus loving they/them in the comments

right!! I straight up cried during that part

That would make it even better but if you stick them into the different slots it works

I'm sorry that no one shows you the basic respect you deserve but I'm so glad you can be represented properly!

Hey, screw everyone else. Here on Kayla’s channel you are loved and wanted and accepted!!!

I'm from the Deep South and use they/them, too (and also he/him) 😊 It sucks that our culture / society doesn't accept us (yet). I know it's kinda cheesy to say, but just know that you're not alone ❤️ I sincerely hope things get better for you! Maybe one day we'll be able to not only survive but THRIVE down here

Same with French, they have don't have gender neutral pronouns so I wonder if they'll add the "group" version such as on/ons when referring to they/them since using on/ons to describe a singular person is grammatically incorrect in French. Very hopeful they'll figure something out though

@@squiddlebeans it seems that this is a recurring problem with every Latin lenguage, same goes to Spanish and Italian

@@EloimMBueto yea, hopefully it gets fixed soon!

That’s where talking to nonbinary people who speak those languages come in!

@@UczuciaTM it's kinda difficult, in Brazil for example it's still a taboo, people around here have these variations but they're only used on the internet, not only that but theses pronouns are considered slangs so they can also change depending on the state you're in so there isn't an accurate way to Adress someone who is gender neutral in Brazil and to make things worse the lenguage itself is based on gender, basically every adjective used in Portuguese will change depending on the gender

That's good! I wish more languages were like that. A lot that do were added by speakers of that language because they didn't have one at first and it makes me so sad

It's the same for Swedish (hen).

Same for Turkish! (O)

HAH

i love this

an absolutely beautiful idea

Heyo, fellow they/he person here 👋 It'd be awesome if one day we could have multiple pronouns! That'll probably be a long ways away tho, if it ever happens. Maybe after it's released in other languages first 🤞

Exactly. So do I.

It's literally a life simulator of course they're trying to make it as relatable as possible to people

And Thank you 🥲

😂

Happy pride month to you too!🏳️‍🌈

Pathetic, no wonder society is declining.

I’m so happy for you!

wooooo!!!

Congratulations cutieee!! Love youuu

Congratulations! That's so good to hear. 🧡

Yes

theres definitely been more major updates

said no one

It’s truly unbelievable I’m so happy rn, I use She/Her pronouns and I’m so glad that the sims updated the game with this.

DEFINITELY

same here :)

I’m super excited to finally make a sim that feels like me :) !! It’s so exciting !!

Didn’t you just come out if you have identified yourself as trans?

@@marcjsolis i assume they’re not out irl

@@marcjsolis that is true, I’m just not out to friends and family in real life :)

Same

@@karleychilders6908 No reason to be kind to people who genuinely choose not to understand and actively choosing to be assholes. Lets not give pity to willfully ignorant and hateful people now.

@@karleychilders6908 the commenter said Kayla kindly explained pronouns for those who are genuinely confused and want to know... nothing about the ones who go out of their way to be ignorant towards trans people.. 🙂

@@karleychilders6908 just say you’re a bitter and rude person and move on. Jesus.

@@karleychilders6908 Good. As it should be. As Kayla said, if people still choose to be ignorant and hateful, we should not be kind to them.

@@karleychilders6908 girl give it up. Liking your own comments and insisting we need to be kind to bigots who willfully discriminate and are intolerant is NOT the move. You are wrong. Time to admit it and move on.

@@BusyBusyPanda What she basically said was that if even after her explanations and her attemps to educate, people still decide (keyword) not to listen and remain disrespectful , then they are the ones that are hated. Not because they dont understand, but because they choose to not even try.

@@BusyBusyPanda She literally preceded that statement with “if you are intentionally transphobic” She is not talking about everyone who’s new to understanding pronouns when she talked about who Simmers hate

@@BusyBusyPanda not what she said.

and she does it so seamlessly 🥺 truly a beautiful human being running such a welcoming community

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I can imagine 😂 I work as a Product Owner

😂😂😂