@@rio.mizu716 This is also an act of respect to the Girl parents, since mostly or sometimes the guy is going to girl house to fetch or visit the girl.
I think "Ligaw" (including asking the parent's permission) culture exists because there's a mindset behind that "you date to marry." Meaning, "The purpose of dating someone is to eventually marry them." It's like, "Why would you date someone if you're not planning to marry them someday?" Filipinos are also very family-oriented (I think this is one of the major factor); family is the number one priority in their lives. So that's why families need to be involved in this kind of "serious" commitment haha. But seriously, this culture isn't as strict nowadays; you can make ligaw na without asking your gf/bf's parents permission. But you’ll need to introduce yourself to their parents eventually, especially once you’re in a relationship.
For me date is just getting to know, build up relationship trust but it is not panliligaw because you can go date more than one you are the one holding your strainer who fits your criteria
Pinoy ako, pero I sometimes update my girlfriend & now wife with proof, not an obligation or a culture thing, she is doing the same din after I did that, it's a mutual thing so she wont worry too much where i am and who i am hanging out with.
same thing with me, I always update my gf now my wife..not a requirement though but it is something that will make her at peace,its the same when she is out also she do the same..
It’s just not asking for parents’ permission but to also win the parents favor. If you win the parents trust and love it’s much easier to win the girl’s love and trust.
You two are delightful to watch and listen.You discover good things about yourselves that reflect us about Pinoy culture I usually overlook or unnoticed. It makes me feel good that the country gave you much beautiful moments.
its not really like a permission but more on introduction to the parents to let them know who you are with. You know you don't want your parents to worry about and worry about who you are with.
Do you know what crazy? Courting can even takes few years before you became official if the guy is really sincere he doesn't mind the wait because usually people in here would like to pursue their study first or dream before taking the next step and as the guy who are really sincere he would wait until you are ready Also meeting the other party parents is to show you can be trusted with their daughter and your serious about the relationship between you two I think personally it's sweet how determined they are to show they are serious about it Makes you feel more relief and secure about picking this person.
Filipina here, the photo thing is not really a requirement. But my husband does it because maybe he just wants me to feel assured. Because he does it so I do it too. But it really depends on you both. But it is always appreciated 😊
8:53 for me as a filipina (who recently was in a relationship with a filipino who migrated and kinda grew up in the US), i dont require my partner to send a selfie, like what juwonee said, just an update because we do it with friends and family too. sometimes its more of who is my partner with, like if i know them or theyre my friends too, makes me feel excited, happy they're hanging out, makes me feel included, not left out kinda way
the perks I would say about asking family permission is when you got their approval, expect that filipino family will somehow considers to invite you on any occasions gathering. Something like that.
The reason why there is LIGAW in the Philippines is to show ur real intention sometimes or most of the time u have to introduce the guy to ur parents and the guy need to meet them to prove that the guy intention is pure thats why sometimes when they have family outing its an extended family outing because they include their bf and gf... For what i know korean use mbti and vlood type for compatibility i just dont get how they base it on it... Coz sometimes opposite attracts 😂😂
I think the "ligaw" part when a guy ask his girlfriend's family for permission is like showing sincerity and respect to them specially if the girl is still living with her parents.. its like saying their child is in a good hands.
I would listen to the entire 49 minutes and all the other questions you had prepared😊. So much fun to watch. But I have to admit, I have to enter the dating scene again after 9 years and I'm terrified. I dont know what to expect.
I didn't expect there to be more episodes of the podcast with Juwonee 😆Yehey. Juwonee is truly 'Pinay na Pinay.' The courtship she describes is the traditional one here in the Philippines. Gen Z or some liberated girls living in Manila usually don't go through the courting stages. They are more open with their feelings and don't want to prolong the 'LIGAW' stages, or they just do the 'LIGAW' through text or messenger..😄😆 The challenging part is asking permission from the parents to court their daughter. In the CALABARZON area, you can only make 'LIGAW' at the girl's house, where you bring her gifts and gifts for her dad (usually wine or roosters for sabong). The trick is to win over her parents to help you win her heart
I think it would help to add a camera for the cameraman, and quickly switch over to him when he talks, so that it doesn't look like guests are talking to a friendly ghost. Just an idea. Anyway, this is a good interview. In fact, I think it's so good that people would enjoy watching the full conversation, even if it lasts for more than 397 hours.
The "asking parents for permission" is very tradional way that was used by the older generation of filipinos to show sincerity of the guy to the girl he is courting. But in todays generation it is not really a requirement and it is rarely use. But it is a great way to show your sincerty to a girl because it takes guts and effort to even ask permission to her parents.
“Ligaw” or courtship is a practice that has been in the Philippines for centuries. Courtship is (YES) a permission and a respect to the woman & her family. Asking permission to court the daughter from her parents is a form of respect & also your introduction & proof that YOU have the means & the full package to be in a relationship & to be the husband that the daughter is looking for. Naiba na lang ang tingin sa “Ligaw” because we’re embracing the western idea of dating, we’re becoming liberal. But I really like the old ways of courtship, where the man have to fill the buckets with water from the well with 20 minutes walk from the girl’s house to the well, chop the woods, and ofcourse serenade.
Rio you're so funny. Poor Rio , if you go to your home country, go up to people, make eye contact, smile and ask "What's your name?" you would freak them out. I can't imagine you avoiding eye contact and not smiling. I think your love language is caring - you make people feel comfortable by showing a sincere, genuine interest in them and truly wanting to hear their story. And in interviews, so many times you "rescue" others from embarrassment or feeling awkward by switching attention to you by being cute or acting silly, and then move on to something else. 💚💚💚💚
It’s a tradition!!meaning if you ask permission of the parents to court the girl is a must if the feelings and intentions is pure and real..a guy like that is a green flag ❤❤
Had fun watching this, it was nice to know what you and juwon think about Philippines dating culture 😄 The casino part was funny as well, you definitely got scammed 😂😂
6:30 Filipina born in the Philippines but grew up in the US and married a Filipino who is born and raise in the Philippines. Regarding taking pictures of your ganap and location is for the safety of your love one to let them know who they with and where they are Incase of emergency. I learned this from my boyfriend then and husband now. 9:50 Growing up in the States. Dating is more of a to hookup with someone. it can be a fling, something just for fun or something for more serious relationship. Me being a Filipina. I’m not dating to just have a fling and have fun, but to be in a serious relationship and have fun. So I make sure if the guy that wants to date me is also serious about me is to pay respect to my parent and to show them their real intentions to their daughter.
It's not an obligation to send photo but we do it ..with our own decision because we love selfie...we do it not only for bf/ gf but to family and friend also...
As a girl, for me, it is not required to send a photo just to update your partner. It's just that, my partner just want me to feel secure that he is with his friends enjoying time. We just don't practice dictating what we should but as a Filipino, we do appreciate sending an updates every time we go out on our personal time with friends and even families. :)
This is so much fun to watch.🤗🤗🤗😍😍😍😊💚 Regarding the picture thing, for me, it's not needed for a guy and a girl to send pictures of who they're with. 😂😂😂😂 Can still send pictures but not obligated to since it's more of both of them want to share how their day went. 💚 The "ligaw thing" is one of the Filipino dating culture 💚 that's where the guy make ligaw to the girl he likes to prove his intentions to the girl. Most of the time the "meeting the family stage" comes after the girl decides to go out with the guy officially since most filipino families respect the girl's decision on who she dates. 😊😊💚 And it's not like the family members will be the ones the guy would date 😂😂😂😂
That sending a photo is a funny stereotype 😂 Filipinos don't have to do that. But it is something you do for the other party's peace of mind. You went through courtship stages and so on, that's just like a proper courtesy. Not an obligation. It's just we, as Filipinos, do it for exclusivity.
In a world of social media, sending a pic is just an extension of getting your partner or friend ‘involved’. That’s me. But if your partner is the jealous type, you’d know too.
this is the first vid of u that i've watched and u guys are so cute and funny LOL, lucky that i've got curious and now, u gotta upload a lot of vids so that i could watch, bring it on 😆
You are both so cute!!! Kinikilig ako sa inyong dalawa. 🎉 also love how I get an insight of korean and japanese cultures. I hope you will do more intervieqs like this! Love listening to all of you! 🌷
Hi @Rio Mizu its my first time to have watch your channel. I am a Pilipina married in Japan and a vlogger too. I am very happy to have bump in your channel. Your conversation w/ Juwonee is very omoshiroi. I just love it! Keep it up!👍
It's not realy a dating thing only. It's a general relationship thing. Even with parents or friends, most Filos send updates. Like if you're going out with friends, you send a pic to your fam. It's like a security, and trust type of action.
I'm Filipino living here in Japan for almost 7years. Wish that I could meet japanese people with same energy as rio. It would be much more interesting to have friends from other countries that has tge same vibes of a Filipino
These are the times my algorithm hits the mark. The Korean girl that grew up in the Philippines and the she's a 10 guy getting suggested to me is a pleasant surprise. 😊
Thank you Korean and Japanese people who learned the culture and family ties of Filipino. Love for God and Love neighbors as yourself is the very culture we have. Also ,very hospitable the Filipinos because we believe that entertaining the strangers that might we welcome the angels of God.
Actually it depends on the situation if your in the relationship or with ur family. If Family I'll just send photos so they will feel that they are together too and if BF/GF I just tell him or her where I am , whose w/ me or what time I'm going home for safety purposes especially if nighttime but not requirements 😊❤
our culture specially the ligaw phase, we adopt that from Spain. Spainiards are very strict to their daughters because for them, daughters are weak then sons.
In my point of view as a still mostly conservative Pinoy, 9:40 - Its a law of nature... even animals have their own style to win their mates. Its an exciting stage for both parties actually. So don't miss and don't waste those precious moments. It's where good memories thrive. 10:00 Its part of respect to the parents, You should also win their hearts to prove your sincerity. Their approval and blessings does make make it more meaningful and special. You know, Filo parents grieve also on their kids failed relationship... That's how it is here. More commonly in the provinces and country side but I don't think its still common in Manila....
sending a photo is not a requirement or not part of the culture here in the philippines... maybe its just an assurance to someone who have a trust issue or sometimes the guy or the girl just want to update with a picture... because in now generation loves taking pictures and show it to many people example me, im in a relationship i really love updating my bf regarding hows my day to have a conversation with him, so i message him with a picture just to share my day instead of posting it to social media.
Very fun and interesting interactive conversation topic! You and Juwonee have the same vibe to the point that I think you can be a couple… hmmm I grew up in the Philippines and went to migrate in the US as a young adult so basically I am well aware of the dating culture in the Philippines and the US. In the Philippines there is the introduction, courtship, confirmation stages. The introduction is where one gauge on how you feel the first time you see someone then if you don’t either of you feel positively attracted the same way then it is a no go. When you pass the intro stage you move to courtship / ligaw stage. Pinoys has a closed family orientation so in the process of the guy proving his sincerity to how he felt to the girl plus it is a casual situation given that the guy is not bringing his own parents to ask permission to make ligaw. It is just a guy being brave and honest asking the girl’s parents permission and most likely the girl already told her parents about the guy and how she felt about him. During the confirmation stage both the girl and guy need to be definitive about each other feelings. If the guy realized that he’s feeling for her is less than before the ligaw, then he can tell the girl but the guy will need to accept the risk that there is no going back. In the US, basically the dating culture is the same as in the Philippines minus the parents permission but the only added important factor is the compatibility in personality and sexually. If one of these factors is not met in compatibility then it is hard to move forward with a relationship. Again, you and Juwonee can make great couple because both of your screen presence jive neatly with each other. I will be your first loveteam fan. Painting!
I find MBTI the most accurate compared to blood type and zodiacs since theres an actual test where you choose your preference. It summarize your personality and the other person can have an idea about you. An INTJ here 👋
It's not a duty of a gf or bf to send photo, that's actually not common I don't know where did that come from? BUT, usually you'll send one to your GUARDIAN.
6:47 It was actually not a duty to send your partner a picture when you hanging out with your friends. It was just Filipinos love taking a picture when getting together then sharing it with you partner is kinda sweet or thoughtful for us. BUT it was not a DUTY or a responsibility to the relationship. Sometimes saying who’s with you is enough.
Pinoy ako but I usually do that kind of things like sending picture update who i am with and where not because i feel obligated to my bf/husband. It is because gusto ko lang malaman ng jowa ko na safe ako nakarating sa pinuntahan ko at sino yung mga kasama ko. Kayo lang atang mga lalake ang ayaw nyan kasi pakiramdam nyo ino-obliga kayo o sinasakal kayo sa relationship nyo.
As you know, Filipinos are family oriented. It's normal for us to have boyfriends and girlfriend to go on outings, hangout in the house, etc. When you present someone as your boyfriend, it doesn't mean to get married right away. It's more of giving a sign of respect to the family. They have to also trust you. Coz on dating you will have late nights out. Being together alone. The family should know that you are someone trustworthy to be with their daughter and you are not out to take advantage. It is more of sincerity. Good intentions. 😊
Believe it or not...I only send a message once a week. When we meet face to face, still goods. As long as we know our boundaries and our duty to the relationship, as long as there is an assurance...everything is goods. Don't need to txt by the minute, by the hour....that's creepy.
10:17 the ask permission is actually really sweet, it shows that he's really into you! and the parents will feel secured that their daughter is with a good guy.
