it’s so damn relatable im in a trio and whenever the teacher says “pick a partner” they immediately choose eachother and honestly it breaks me apart because im always the therapist friend, they dump all their stress on me and leave it there, they only talk to me when they need something and they act like they don’t like me… every trio has a duo. edit: yall to everyone who relates to this im rlly sorry and hope u get better n find better friends
I cannot relate more this is literally the exact same story for me always leaving us out and give us all of THEIR stress it’s just sad. The worst part is.. they don’t notice
I hope u end up finding better friends and remember people come and go from our lives we need to move on them by crushing our feelings. Not everyone is important to keep in touch with
I’m in a group of four, I treat everyone with respect, and somehow, they only admire one person, it’s just not fair, everyone says “trios never work” but in reality everything never works.
Gosh, I can relate to this too much as well. I do have a trio, sometimes a quad, but I treat everyone as kind as I can, with as much respect as possible. I never say shut up to them or anything or just tell them to not talk. But everyone out of the quad has said shut up to me probably at least over 5 times I've been with them. I haven't said that to them once. And that's only one out of many other things.
Come on, trios do work, and so do quartets, your quartet is simply dysfunctional. It's best to fight your inner thoughts and always strike up the conversation among the four of you. If they all admire one person, maybe try have a talk with that person to not feel left out anymore. Maybe that person has suffered the same as you. That's what I do, whenever I envy somebody.
Exactly! I don’t like to curse because I like to have a positive outlook on life and also that’s how I was raised. I rarely insult my “friends” and I’m always kind to everyone but I’m always the go to laughing stock or the one that people make fun of
ISTG I just had a fight with my friends and we’re in a group of trio and they kept hanging out without me or call without me and I just had a test and a bad day and when I checked my phone they were calling privately without me in Roblox and we had a fight and since both of them are a year younger than me they went off without me… sometimes I just needed someone to listen to me but I guess odd numbers are unfair
Mine calls me werido, lesbian, and smaller, they called me werido because I was different from there theme, I like cool stuff like things that boys tend to like, and they called me lesbian becuase I act Werid around girls, when in reality that’s how I act to every girl, I act different around boys cause I don’t want them to think I like them, and they called me small becuase my mom was small, although my dad was 5,10. I didn’t get those genes.. they also are mean, and none of them I can trust to tell my secrets to, ones that I want them to help me with, if I feel insecure about something and I don’t wanna tell my parents, and they even threaten to kick me out of the group, and it’s four kids to, including me. They knew each other since kindergarten, they didn’t meet me since 2nd grade,
The fact that I waited for them twice. We were we decided to meet after class. And they just leave me there instead waisting my time hoping that they r waiting for me but they aren't. They've had sleepovers. Meetouts but never invite me It hurts too in trios. My last trio group worked out well, but this?!
this happened to me all this week. my hamster just passed away and people don’t realize it but that absolutely CRUSHED me. she meant the world to me. i needed my friends to be there for me but they were too busy laughing, talking, and whispering for me to even tell them what happened. i don’t consider them friends anymore. i sit alone at lunch and they don’t notice. they don’t care that i’m alone. they don’t care that i’m not okay. they DONT CARE. for class projects, bus seats, games, everything, they’re together. but not with me. i used to love doing stuff together during school but now i ask to work independently. why? because no one wants to work with me. i had the absolutely worst week of my life. i felt like i couldn’t go on, couldn’t get up in the morning, i couldnt bring myself to eat. i cried for hours everyday. i miss the old me.
Don’t worry, I miss the old me two.. I used to have so much joy and happiness but now I’m just “the quiet kid” or the insecure one. I’m so sorry for your loss and how your friends treated you and everything, I hope you find your people soon. GL..
I feel you 💔 This has happened to me too. It's like I don't fit anywhere. Like I try SO HARD to fit in, to be happy to be likable. But I don't think my friends like me, I feel alone most of the time . At home, at school, everywhere I go I feel that LONELINESS sometimes. But, I believe someday I will have real friends and even if I don't.. it doesn't matter because I will be successful. I will become who I want to be. I will prove myself. So, I think you can believe in yourself too. You can find real friends in your life. You can be HAPPY ❤❤. Sending hopes and lots of virtual hugs ❤❤❤
Bro i remember being in a trio andwhen the teacher said "pick a partner", we would often be disappointed and would play rock paper scissor to see who would be the left out 😭
Sometimes, trios can work with the right people and sometimes you just end up with the wrong friends. I’m in a trio and I try to treat my friends equally, if you’re not in the “duo” of your trio. I hope you find the right friends soon.
Its sorta the same in my trio,but some times different people get left out and its fine,but i usually get left out more because i have a rlly short attention span.my twin is in the trio but it always works out in the end because we rarely see our bff trio all together and we just do it somehow.
i was the friend in the trio that didn’t answer texts often but that was just bc i was going through a hard time, but they told me it made me a bad friend and dropped me so just don’t make ur friend feel bad for not answering bc it’s a shitty feeling 😭
The worst part is when they say they don't pick sides but at the same time they can't three minuts without each other. Then you can't even say they do that in an argument because they say "well you're always there" or "we do talk to you we talked yesterday" and we can't forget "well you looked like you were having fun" and "why didn't you just say so".
This is so relatable 😥😭😭 Worst week of my life, them talking about me behind my back, telling me they hate me, left alone that week- Then the next day they act like nothing happened...i felt so worthless.
OMG this is so me! This happened to me last week! They treat me like I don’t exist! They always ask if your okay and you just like HAVE to say yeah I’m fine but really on the inside your like crying! I hate my ex bestie she really abandoned me and talked behind my back. Edit: tysm for 11 likes that’s my most 👹👹👹
My bff’s do this to me at least 2 times a week, it’s a horrible feeling. We used to hang out ALL the time, but now, we always get in fights. And I sometimes I just don’t wanna be friends with them anymore. It’s the worst feeling ever. Sometimes at recess, I either go do stuff with my other friends, or I just sit there, and watch them laugh and have a fun time without me. Sometimes after recess, I go to the bathroom and sit in a stall and cry. I don’t do that often but when I do, I don’t stop. ❤️❤️💔💔
As someone currently stuck in a trio with my “best of friends”, don’t even try risk it with your friends. Just cause it seemed like a good idea doesn’t mean it will be.
Ok yea I’m dealing with this too,I understand you.idk why it’s so hard to just leave them and get a fresh start. A lot of people would just say “leave them” but it’s not that easy:) I hope your friendship gets better or atleast you can leave them for good
Not all trios go badly i have a trio and we always treat the others same and we never ignore anyone even one of our frind is sick or cant play then like me i live in a hostel so when i go back to my hostel the stop playing until i come back (sorry for the bad English cuz i dont live in a English speaking country)
This is so true, this happened to me last year. Who wants a story time? Edit: ok so this happened around September 2022 maybe (I can’t really recall) but anyways I had these 2 friends I’ll call them a and b, so basically I used to hang out with a and b all the time and during recess I’ll always talk to them and follow them to the school library and stuff, but one day b messaged me and sent me a screenshot of a conversation between her and a and the screenshot literally said “I don’t really like [my name] cuz she’s kinda annoying and clingy”. I was kinda surprised cuz A didn’t say anything about this before. B said that she felt like she needed to tell me. A few days earlier, I went to A’s birthday party so I asked B why she invited me if she thought I was annoying, and b sent me another screenshot of a saying “I invited her cuz I thought she changed but apparently she didn’t”. The next day I tried to be less “clingy” and “annoying” in school and avoided A a bit. I forgot how the fight started, but basically A started arguing with me and saying I was leaving out our other friends cuz I’d always hang out with A and B and not so much with my other friends, but I wasn’t mean to them in any way, I just hung out with A and B more. I told A that she never made an effort to include them either so she can’t get mad at me for “leaving them out”. A then accused me of “changing the topic”. Later, I decided to apologise to A and B, so I messaged them saying I was sorry for leaving out our other friends and being clingy. When B said she would think about forgiving me, A interjected and said not to bc I was trying to “pity” them when I was not even trying to make them feel sorry for me. I was just trying to apologise. After that, no matter how much I tried to apologise, they didn’t forgive me cuz they said what I did was unforgivable. A then told me to stay away from her and B in school. At that moment, I felt like I had no friends, but remembered that I still had my other friends (that I didn’t hang out with much, but was still nice to). So I said “well, at least I can still be friends with [my other friends’ names]”. Then, A and B went to go talk to my other friends and told them to stop talking to me and stop being my friend cuz I’m “mean” and a “bully” and I “leave them out”. My other friends, seeing who was clearly “winning” in the argument just decided to stop being friends with me. The next day in school I was completely “friendless” and my eyes were literally puffy from crying all night the previous day. After school (on day 2) a and b texted me and said “you looked so lonely today” then I said “yeah cuz I had no one to talk to, no one wanted to talk to me”. So like any helpless person I tried to apologise to a and b again and I said “I’m truly very sorry I didn’t even realise what I was doing until you told me I promise I’ll be inclusive of all our friends next time”. A then said “we are not going to forgive you and stop apologising cuz it sounds pathetic and annoying. Clearly you’re just trying to get us back” and B proceeded to call me a bitch. After a month, A and B decided to forgive me and we became friends again but truth be told, they aren’t good friends at all and I don’t trust them to help me when I really need it. If you read the whole thing, thank you so much lmaoo :D if something similar happened to u tell me in the comments I will read everyone’s paragraphs I promise 🤞🤞
I have a part 2 btw another thing happened that happened this year, but b wasn’t involved, only A and her boyfriend. If you want to hear the story just like this comment :D also btw tysm to whoever read that long paragraph I wrote
true but i don’t wanna tell them bc they won’t understand but there not bad friends there probably the best but they just don’t see it’s not that easy for me and i’m the oldest of the friends group so i try to act strong but i’m really not and i’m actually really emotional but i don’t wanna act like a crybaby and i don’t want anyone knowing
i wouldnt call this a vent but im just saying i agree but if u wanna read what i said thx i can actually relate heavily to this my friends ditched me and went with someone else-i became emotional as crap and cried over everything lol worst period of my life so far.ik that friend hates me but i still try to be friendly when they talk to me. and when i looked like i was, they thought they was slick and whispered "cries for anything" i took it to heart and thought of it replaying in my head for days. eventually i let the past go. we have the same classes together but i realize they purposely stand infront of me talking as if nothing happened to make me jealous- one day i ignored them, and thats what ended it for sure but now i joke about it to my new healthy friendship :) ok maybe that smile was creepy
I want you to know that I hear you and anyone in this situation. Feeling left out, especially within a close-knit trio, can be really tough. Trust me, I was in 3 trios so I would know. It's clear that you're hurting, and it's okay to feel that way. True friends should make you feel included and valued, and it sounds like you're not getting that attention that you deserve. You are an amazing person who needs friends that appreciate and respect you for who you are. While it might be hard right now, this experience can be a chance to reevaluate your friendships and prioritize those that truly uplift and support you. Remember, you are worthy of genuine connections and friendships that make you feel loved and included. Also, if you need someone to vent to, you can talk to me anytime, even though it might take me a while to respond. Make sure you stay strong, and know that you're not alone, I love you stranger
What’s the feeling called when you realize you’re the problem and they weren’t (that) toxic and you really really really really miss the feeling of having them no matter how rude she was at some point she was pretty awesome and you hate the way you hated her and talked crap about her and now you feel horrible and what to apologize but they all hate you. And you want to apologize and you did apologize but you’re blocked on everything.
I understand, I was in a trio friend group in 4th grade. The other 2 girls in the friend group were basically best friends and always left me out. And whenever my teacher said to “pick a partner” for an assignment, the 2 other girls would pick each other immediately and leave to partner up with someone I didn’t like or didn’t know we’ll. This one girl in my trio friend group, who we’ll call D, would always pick on me. She would say rude things to me like, “no one likes you” and “you’re ugly” and then say it was a joke. The other girl in the friend group, who we’ll call A, was a bit nicer than D. She would notice that I was being left out and tried to hang out with me, but D just dragged A somewhere else with her, leaving me by myself. I know it’s really hard..
That one mf in the class who just love to be alone is the happiest I dont know why people often think being alone is not okay but being alone or in loneliness is awesome the thing that people forget is the people who pushed them into loneliness through malice and grudge
This is why I hate stereotypes. People take them too far. I get it if YOU’VE experienced bad experiences in trios, but not all are like this. I’m in the best trio ever, no one’s left out. If you still need help understanding, think of your gender(s) (if you have one). So, say you’re male. If you’re kind and considerate, wouldn’t it be frustrating to see everyone all over the world hating you for being controlling and mean? Maybe even evil?
@@tanjiro12187 as an open-minded person, I can confirm there’s no one who feels left out. There was one at one point, but we talked about it and it came through well.
This happend to me a few weeks ago,my friends abandoned me😢 But now its the past and i feel lonely,luckily one of my friends from that trio group still wants to talk to me and play games with and im happy that i finally have ppl who like me again❤❤❤❤
I used to be in a trio and one of my friends would choose either me or the other girl each day and the other would feel left out so me and the other girl just ended up playing by ourselves
Sometimes, this happens. I don't think they really noticed. I felt ignored. My cousin is my class, so I just started talking to her and her best friend. Eventually, we all got together. Even in the past, I originally formed our trio, even though I ultimately got third wheeled most often. I helped make this one, too. I figured out a way to always have *someone.* I hope everyone struggling out there can figure it out like I did. You got this!
I relate to this too much I used to be in a friend group like this they were just god awful one of theme told me to shut up whenever I talked to him and the other one bullied my interest but then 1 day they literally just left me without telling me I had to be by my self for 2 months but then as I was literally crying wishing I literally had a fricking friend this one girl asked me if I was alright and I told her what happened and she literally wanted to be my friend and turns out we basically almost have everything in common I’m so thankful for that day
As a former member of the left out trio friend this is my advice: just tell them. Tell them you don’t want to be the one who’s achievement’s are laughed off or being ignored. I did this and I got teary eyes but they understood and from that day on I felt more confident when I fell left out I would jump in if I didn’t now what they we’re talking about is try and make a new conversation. Btw I did this when me and my friends were like 10 so it might not work for like middle to high schoolers and if they keep ignoring you and don’t change the way they are that’s my sign to find new friends. Anyway hopefully that helped (sorry that was pretty long)
When we were playing a game i lost then they laugh and i said i dont wanna play anymore and left i was so sad when i was sick they just l-laugh they said ur just being fake sick when i go to my gc they started making fun of me somebody cared. For me
I feel so lucky. I'm in a trio and there's no sighs of us three ever stopping being friends. Almost no times where someone is left behind! I love mah bff's :)
It’s so relatable, the two friends in my trio are right now having a beach day. I’m stuck at my house. They could’ve invited me and they had choice but they didn’t low-key pissed off right now
Me and my trio always beg to be in the same group at first it’s a no, but give it 2 minutes and we’re still working together, give it five though, we ain’t focusing at all, we bully each other and be mean to others❤ we are SISTERS, we must do everything TOGTEHER!!!
This is so true l am in trio and when we needed partners my other friends would left me in the dark being alone 😔 I have a bff in the trio but the other one she would make my bff forget about me...
Ok this is so real i told my Friends that i dont like trios because then someone is going to be left out and talked about behind there backs and this is how one of my bffs is gone so what I’m saying is she is no longer my Friend but i am still bffs with one that stayed and this is exactley what I’m talking about.😢😮❤. Who agrees 👇.
I think this is how my toxic friend feels even though she stopped hanging out with us to be with the popular kids and we try to stop hanging out with her bc she hurts us physically and doesn’t apologize
This made me cry i just realised that i am like that in school always feeling left out i cry so much because of it that i have dark under eyes and i just let myself go i was going to a trip and i needed to be in a group and i was just there when they were all talking i always always feel left out this made me cry so much this is so sad
I FEEL THIS. it was originaly her trying to leave out one of my friends and now shes leaving me out for him. she also thinks im her "emotional support person" and keeps grabbing onto me even though im mentally in a hurricane all the time from being extremely anxious and dealing with a past extremely toxic relationship :/
here's a little storytime. for a while, i've been in a trio with a duo. in that trio, the duo would belittle me, make fun of my insecurities, and use me for my intelligence. i thought it was just tough love. but they started excluding me and using me as their emotional punching bag. so i had to split with them. i'm much happier now without them, and i'm so glad i moved on.
The fact how relatable this is is crazy. Back a few weeks ago I had just gone through a really stressful time (long story short, my grandfather is a pedo and S/A me and my female cousins when we were younger) and me and my cousins went to watch his get arrested. I understand he’s a bad person, but it just tore me up since I used to love him as a part of the family. Anyway, the next day at school my friend (fake name) Bailey was acting weird and not talking to me. (Ok so the trio was me, Bailey, and Zoey “all fake names btw for privacy”) and Zoey was always nice to me and never left me out. But Bailey started telling some things about me I think. They didn’t talk to me that whole week. When it was time for partners, I asked Bailey if we could be partners, (to see if our friendship could grow back together) and she said, “nah I’m partners with Zoey. Sorry” and walks away. I was honestly balling my eyes out the whole week. I confronted them about it at gym. (I’m just gonna type what I mostly said to them) Me: yall have been ignoring me and it’s getting in my nerves. Bailey: wdym? We did nothing Zoey: … Me: don’t act like you don’t know Bailey. you do this ALL THE TIME just ignoring me And pretending I DONT EXIST. IM TIRED OF ALL THESE DUMB EXCUSES! STOP THE BULLS**T AND JUST TELL ME. WHY DO U ACT LIKE THIS. IM SERIOUS! IVE HAD *I started crying* THE HARDEST WEEK OF MY LIFE AND ITS LIKE YALL DONT EVEN CARE. THROWING ME TO THE CURB LIKE IM SOME PEICE OF- TRASH?! Bailey: … Zoey: .. Bailey: I uh- Me: you know what never mind. Yall are literally the worst. *I walk away* And that was the last time I talked to Bailey :D Anyways, after that Zoey came up apologizing and apologizing over and over saying that Bailey told her some lies about me and she started crying. I understood how Bailey was so I forgave her. me and Zoey started ignoring Bailey till she got new friends. Now we’re about to be in high school and Bailey is switching schools! ^^ Me and Zoey are good friends now lol. Better than we were before
I had the same situation with my trio, at it was just me and my best friend then we both became friends with “the new girl” and she became one of my best friends me and my original best friend had been friends for over 5 years and over time right before every single school break we would argue, then it escalated to where she would say we weren’t friends anymore but after break it would be like nothing happened. Over time it felt like we were drifting apart and our other friend and her were a duo and I was just an extra but our other friend would still include me in things. After Christmas break me and my best friend got in a huge argument and I told her I was done. What really broke me was the fact that my other friend didn’t stick up for me even tho she was on my side on everything else. Now it’s about 5-6 months after all of this happened and I’m much happier now and I didn’t realize how unhappy I was in my trio. The other two friend are still best friends and act like nothing happened which kinda hurts but the other friend still talks to me but my exbestie acts like I’m not human and won’t even sit near me. I have a better friend group now and idk t won’t something like that to ever happen to anyone
Relatable asf. Once me and my two friends were cycling and they were talking and all and I felt really left out. I cycled a bit ahead of them and I heard one of them talk ill about me and the other agreeing. I have no idea why I'm still friends with them, but i hope they'll change.
I have known this kid since we were 1 year old we have known eachother for 11 years now. And all of a sudden he met this other kid. We all became a trio. And all of a sudden they just forgot about me. During all of the field trips they partnered up, for literaly every partner thing they partnered up. And all of a sudden they started going to like the movies or to like water parks together. And they just never invited me. Eventually they stopped inviting me to their birthday party’s. And the only time that they actually realized I was there was when they needed something from me. And like whenever I noticed they were sad I would comfort them and stuff. But the crazy thing is I’ve known that kid since we were 1 year old. We were best friends for years. And it’s just crazy how fast things can turn around. And now I just don’t hang out with them at all. And if my mom ever brings up their name I just walk up to my room because I don’t want to listen. Honestly now I feel like I never knew them. if anyone else has gone through something like this I hope it works out for u. And I hope u live a happy life Have a good day everyone ❤️
when ppl ask “whose ur fave person in the trio” and they pick eachother it honestly tears me. ive known one of them longer and it completely breaks my heart to see them appreciate eachother without me ..
Basically for me; I was best friends with my girlfriend before she picked up a new bestie and brought them in (they are non binary so if you are going to reply please use their preferred pronouns) at first it was good, but this person just kept hogging my gf. They always made me the bad guy with situations I just couldn’t control. Eventually my girlfriend and them just left me out. My girlfriend and I were besties since second grade and we only started dating recently but she does have a habit of doing this. (On accident.) but it’s not like she’s completely gone, we still text but I rarely ever get to spend time with her and when I do she always says “I wish was here.”
real honestly, trios never work out, I'm always drained and left out when i try to be in a trio, then people get mad at me for having a dou friendship and its just too mentally draining knowing my own friends didn't like me at the time
That's so relatable. I had a trio friend group and my "FRIENDS" Would just leave me out of everything and sometimes ignore me. We'll call them mia and Sophia. So it wasbecause their dating and whenever were all at a playdate the whole time I'm there their just kissing or doing something romantic. But they said "were not doing anything weird. Friends can do it too" I'm just sick of it. Mia's parents say that they can't be dating Anyone because their not old enough too.. But Mia just says "ugh I hate my parents I wish they would die." I'm still with them. I also used to date Mia but the Sophia was sad because she lIKeD MiA fOr A VeRy lOnG tImE. She said she was depressed. But then both of my friends started private calling and chatting.. It felt like they didn't care about me anymore. I felt so stressed and kept thinking that Mia was cheating on me.. So one day I decided to break up with her... Than I thought everything would get better.. But then one of Sophia's friends we'll call her Lizzy. Lizzy told me that Sophia and her were trying to get me to break up with Mia so that Sophia could secretly get with Mia. Or try to just get Mia to cheat on me with her. Lizzy said that she told me because she felt guilty for helping Sophia. So when me and Mia broke up Sophia asked Mia too date her. And of course Mia said yes. I got invited to a sleepover with them and one of Mia's friend we'll call her Avery. So I went to the sleepover because I thought everything and everyone would be normal because Avery was there. At first I thought it was really fun but then they started kissing and doing weird things again. And Mia and Sophia were just ignoring me and Avery. Lucky Avery talked to me and was a good friend?but suddenly I got upset. And started to tear up but I hid my face and started to pretend that I was just playing something on my phone. But I texted my mom if she could pick me up and use an excuse. Mia's mom played along and told my so called "Friends" that I had a change of plan. I haven't talked to them since.
That’s why I at one point felt like I had depression, that’s why I’m known as the emo kid although I’m really not emo I just don’t have anyone to talk to because my friends left me for each other, that’s why I’m made fun of and always the one to blame, that’s why all the popular kids get everything, I’m sure that you understand that not all people are popular and mainly just weak people who act strong
