the rise of PRINCESS TREATMENT - from tiktok trend to a women’s movement 

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My fiancé has told me that him communicating with me, respecting my space, and providing for me IS the bare minimum. And that loving me is a privilege he gets to indulge in, not a chore.🥺 He knows I don’t enjoy jewelry (I have autistic sensory issues against metal) but I really enjoy physical touch, and boy does he provide physical touch! He pets my hair, cracks my back, gives me massages and cuddles, and always makes downtime for me. We go on sensory-friendly “quiet dates” to libraries, art galleries, and museums. He often compares me to Venus or Aphrodite.💖💗💕✨ Sisters, save your precious time and space for a man that loves you how *you* want to be loved! This is princess treatment💖👑✨

I can't trust men anymore, so I'm giving myself the princess treatment. Thanks bestie!

Ladies, don't be afraid of demanding respect in every one of your relationships. If people value you, they will respect you

You can tell how much a woman loves herself by seeing the partner she chooses for herself. 💯

One of the most protective things you can do for your girlfriends is to treat them like princesses. A woman who is treated well by her community is less likely to allow a sub-par male to access her.

I recently met a guy who gives me princess treatment ♡. He even cares about my health and paid for a blood analysis that I couldn't afford. He's empathic and very masculine at the same time. Before that I was voluntarily single for 4 years and didn't even know men like him exist ♡♡ I'm super blessed and grateful and it's true: those men are rare and like a status symbol.

"I got a good man* because I'm an amazing woman" 🚫 "We're all amazing so we all deserve amazing men*" ✔️ *Or whichever partner you choose!

Because of you I’m no longer afraid to admit I want a cushy lifestyle. I want to be taken care of and not have kids. I want to pursue hobbies and travel and have fun in life. And I want to do that with someone.

just today i saw i license plate cover that said “blessed by God, spoiled by my husband” and it actually gave me hope that there are spoiled girlies (young and old) out there 😭

Here to brag about my bf for a second 💅🏼 went out for a special dinner at a very fancy restaurant with my family and this man got to the restaurant early to put his card in to pick up the tab. I’ve never seen my dad so confused as he’s very successful and no one has ever thought twice about giving him the bill. This is coming off an ex fiancé that only worked part time and had me convinced on not only a 50/50 life, but basically a 70/30 life. Being cared for in a relationship has also given me even more time to kick ass at my job and my charity organizations. I hope all women find out you CAN have it all ❤

Another absolute sermon. Ladies, we must stand united to reject men's treatment of us as a status symbol. How a man treats you shows HIS worthiness, not yours! WE are the prize! Every guy is just some guy. The LEAST he can do is treat you like the queen you are!

My boyfriend took years and didn't manage to propose and I am fed up with it. Today I told him I will leave and rent a new apartment for the next few weeks. Now I am home and seeing this. Thanks bestie!

The bar is so low that the princess treatment looks like a dream, I was so used to the emotional abused from my ex that when my now partner started to treatment like a human being it felt sooo nice, and now that he treats me like a real princess I cant compute going back to a mediocre man, I gave so much for that asshole, acting like an ant and begging for leftovers of love

I am loving the nuance here - women are still the prize even when there’s a current shortage of men who realize that and who are prepared to respond appropriately. Don’t budge until the boys wake up too!

How he treats you represents him, but if you accept that treatment and are with him- give him access to you on a regular- that is on you.

"The better you get at pattern recognition, the better you'll get at breaking dysfunctional patterns." 👏🏾 That's a word! I love that you always bring in discernment as well 🙏🏾

As a spoiled girlie I enjoy these conversations but many of these statistics need nuances themselves. As a black woman married to a korean man we’ve learned to “chew the meat and spit out the fat” with statistics. I’ve also experienced not as many are happy to see a spoiled girly who is black married outside of her race. Just some nuance to think about. Also, it’s important to note that it’s not women who “make these choices” with family/work….its our misogynistic government that leaves some with no choice. This is why it’s important for women to support each other no matter the lifestyle.

i’m glad women are understanding the power they hold.

In just about any relationship I have been in I have always been the provider so much so that I used to spend up to 70% of my income just on bills so that my partner could save up money for us to build a future and it turns out he never wanted to build a future with me in the first place he ended up kicking me out and let his guy friends stay with him. Provider men are essential in a woman's survival because otherwise men are malicious enough to leave you with nothing and take everything you have

In my 40s, I’ve noticed a significant shift in attitudes surrounding post-secondary education over the past few decades. I wonder if the fact that it’s become a female-dominated space plays a role in that? It’s an interesting consideration.

"Provider men are the bare minimum" will make it a daily reminder on my phone 😭😭😂😂😂😂.

I'm currently in my princess era...just lost my job and my husband says it's not a big deal whatsoever, he can provide for us

Girls do not settle for bare minimum. Find yourself a good man and then grow together as a couple to new heights. ❤

Tbh princess treatment is just being loved and appreciated.

You know I'm in final year of engineering, and I'm like so stressed because I have to find a job, but your voice is sooo sweetz I listen to you while studying✨✨

I will not accept a life I do not deserve!

14 years in a relationship where I was the main caretaker. Literally acting as a stand-in MOM for my ex. We're talking cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, etc. And we both worked 40hrs a week. Now I found a man who treats me right, who does his best for me, who buys me flowers and thanks me when I end up cooking a bit more often that he does.

I'm outearning the average man my age so much even though I started my career late I Almost feel sorry for them. To me how much a man earns doesn't matter as long as he isn't a bum. The true deficit is the emotional deficit. Men that see women as people, men that are emotionally intelligent, men willing to work on their issues rather than building resentment for not being given things, men willing to make their partner feel special.

"how he treats you is a reflection of him, not you..." best take away here!

Of he doesnt treat you right its a reflection of him but also how he feels about you

It 's so sad how many women didn't grow up with the princess treatment from their dad :(

I watch u very frequently and u have made me realize that its very important for women to say no to things they dont want to do

Take care, bestie! ❤

I think the scientists forgot to mention that men are below women intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. And until they don’t catch up, we will remain uninterested.

The past week I've been thinking that there's no regular degular men around me and I got so sad about that. So now I'll just continue focus in myself and if I find a worthy partner through my journey, that's good! If I don't, well, I prefer aging with dignity and peace. Being accompanied with good people or being alone with peace are two choices that sounds good to me. Thank you Ell, for spread awareness and taught us discernment, we love you so much!!! 💗💗💗

Women who are being taken care of financially need to use their position of power to take care of other women who aren’t as fortunate - start a business and hire them, donate as much as you can to women’s causes and shelters - showing off on Instagram isn’t do anyone any good. Do some actual good for women in need with your new status. You don’t need the 5 carat diamond, that donation could fund an entire women’s shelter for a good period of time! Spread the wealth. Create economic empowerment for other women so they can level up and avoid men* and provide for themselves until they find (or don’t, everyone’s choice) someone who can take care of them the way they deserve

My BFF dated and then married down. I was not happy for her. I see his reactionary effort now, and applaud her. He rose to the occasion of her love and has since become a provider man. Doubling his income and becoming independent when they were dating, doubling it again when she set the bar for marriage at buying a home, and by +25% when she agreed to have his child. She really is the prize.

just realised Maddy Perez fell for Nate's princess treatment and stayed for the ab*se

But why is it always 'Why do you have such bad choice in men' while it's the men who chose to be awful???

My standards are astronomical and my husband meets them every day. I met him when I was in a place where I could give or take a relationship, ladies I'm telling you it makes all the difference when they know you arent hinging everything about your entire life on them.

I WAS LITTERALLYYYY LISTENING TO ANOTHER EPISODE ON SPOTIFY WHEN I DECIDED “Let me see my bestie’s beautiful face “ AND I SAW YOU POSTED ANOTHER EPISODE! GIRL ILY

I'm so early!! Elle could please make a video on exactly how we can know when a man has provider mindset, and also the immediate red flags that could be recognised in early stages? I love your videos sm! 💕

I am glad more people are valuing themselves, no matter what whether he is wealthy or not if he wants to he would.

Based off the numbers and trends, we need to start encouraging young women to save and invest heavily in their early career. We also really need to value the work of women dominated fields, especially in the care sectors, and pay appropriately for that work. I went to school for early childhood education (infant - preschool) but when I tried to get a job in the field I quickly realized it paid less than retail, even with a degree! Forget living wage, I couldn't even afford childcare for my kid on what I was paid.

Princess treatment is so scarce that influencers who cosplay this gets a lot of views, just like watching a luxury house tour

Girlies I’m finally with a man who DOES not expect S from me and will get me everything I want and surprised me with gifts 😭 Honestly watching her and realizing how BUMs legit let you THE WOMEN pay for things and in some cases alll and so much more! But LISTEN girly the whole world already knows your independent but you do not have to show these males you are one of themmm! You deserve to relax and get spoiled!

Pressed that like 1 second into the video because I already know how good this is going to be 👌👌👌

@15:38 - "Only men who give you princess treatment can access you" 🎯 💯

Your videos made me realise so many things about myself and what I want and how I feel, I had many discussions with my partner about all of that, and that made our relationship so much better. I never imagined anyone would give me princess treatment, but back then he heard me and now princess treatment is all I get - nothing less. Our relationship mutually has developed into something so precious and beautiful.

I don’t know I just want a guy to show up before I think of princess treatment 😂🤦🏼‍♀️😑 I’ve been stood up where before I can even think of princess treatment I need a guy to not cancel last minute on a date

I like to think to myself that I've found a man who worships me, and i worship him. We spend our lives loving and serving each other with equal fervor and i think more people should think from this perspective.

Thank you! Princess Treatment for all girlies!

Love you girl, you changed me. ❤

Would love a video about differentiating between love bombing (a form of manipulation by an ab*ser) versus true princess treatment because I think a lot of people miss the red flags ❤

Do Ballerina Farm!

YES!!! In addition to sometimes needing a bad example, you are ATTRACTIVE. You attract EVERYONE. You GET to decide who gets the privilege of staying.

Idk why but I do know why At the end of this video I just busted out in tears. I am am happy you made this channel girly. I am so glad I found it

“Instead of exclude, we should include…” I swear I love your channel so f much. It feels like someone putting all my thoughts into order and preaching goodness. Everyone should watch this. I love the goal of including all women, instead of making this another fight inbetween us.

Ok, here's one for you all. My 20 year old nephew is dating a very abusive (physically and mentally) woman. All of us, his friends and family, have encouraged him to break it off with her. And we've also expressed our concern that he thinks he deserves that kind of treatment. He admits that he thinks he deserves the bad treatment and that's why he attracted her. We've expressed the fact that she treats him like his mother treated him (alcoholic) and that he may be addicted to this type of treatment (dopamine hits). He says that he will probably addict to every girl he dates. My question is, what do you do when the person is fully aware of what they are doing but still do it anyway and it's hurting them? I'm concerned that he will get his heart trampled on and try to harm himself.

I don't know if I'm raising my standarts or just being delulu, 'cause once I stopped accepting bellow-the-minimun-men, I never had anyone by my side again

I'd like to know about your opinion of the Ballerine farm Case , Thanks Manifestelle for all your work and videos

Ohkay but girls don't forget to be your own provider, hope for the best (and obviously you can manifest anything, litreally anything out of thin air) still don't forget to have a good backup by yourself. Get that degree, masters,PhD, buy that course, learn that skill, be market ready, better than these men, get that job, earn for your present, save and invest for your future, get all that financial wisdom, treat you little self like a princess as she's, Don't be miserable and wait for your prince Charming, be better, better than him cause you already are. I love you all girlies, bless you may you be guided to your best self and best interests.💞💞💞🙏🥺

Really needed this today, thank you so much

I mean as a person who dates women this is ridiculous! This isn’t "princess treatment" this is how people act when they’re IN LOVE. I literally got my ex gf gifts and flowers daily!!! (Flowers once a week, little snacks and drinks daily) and I was 17! Straight couples are crazy.

I’m honestly so grateful to be bisexual. After my divorce I was so traumatized and afraid of men, I just couldn’t date them at all or even really be friends with new men. So I focused on myself and my healing, then after a few years I just started dating other genders. I’m so much happier surrounded by women and queer people. Being friends with so many queer men also helped heal a lot of that trauma and fear of men. I’m open to dating men but only if they’re queer too. Of course queer dating can be toxic too, but my experiences have been overwhelmingly positive, whereas being with cishet men was an overwhelmingly negative experience even before my marriage. Women and queer people are typically so much more loving, empathic, caring, good at communicating, love serving others, more in tune with their emotions, open to therapy, etc. Regardless, I refuse to settle for less than I deserve bc some queer folks can be ain’t sh*t too 😂

(Being a NoNuance Nelly and commenting w/o finishing the vid yet) a HUGE problem for women who do want to marry and have a family is that now after accomplishing more than previous generations of women in terms of education, earnings and career, there's an expectation that men will rise from previous gens of men to meet women in terms of emotional and domestic support.....But they generally haven't. It's clear to see how this makes relationship to men a lot less attractive. And it's very harmful to women - for example - women who go into starting a family with a man under the impression that they are "life partners" and care deeply about the mental, physical and spiritual health of each other, then the woman is put in the vulnerable position of being pregnant and a new mom to a baby and often men fall really short in their expected role of deep care for the new mom. And since all new moms NEED deep care, and it's assumed she will get it from her husband instead of other women/family/"the village", she's isolated and in a way kicked when she's down. This hurts the kid to, so of course the loving feeling she had for him is damaged after he chooses selfishness in a time where he should be selfless.....We need more PSAs to women, such as "If he abandoned his other kid/s, he WILL abandon yours too!" A BIG problem when you get down to it is women assuming the men they're with are as compassionate, caring and loving as they are. I still think men can be those things, but it's often much less and more fickle than women, and even for the best men it's still different. To realize this helps women accept higher standards and more help from men, since how they love and help us is different (and more fickle). The big sister advice I needed was that only entertain good men (because him being cute and fun simply isn't enough of a benefit given the risks) and even the best men are different than you - they think, care and love differently and it benefits everyone - including them! - to be useful, striving and helpful (especially in terms of them working hard and being financially generous!). They don't burn out as easily as we do and they flounder without work and a selfless purpose - so LET them (don't make them) and support others!

They pay women less because they value women less, the same way you would pay more for Dior than Flower Knows.

Wow you really blew me away with just the intro!! It was so well thought out & articulated 🙀🧠 (pretty wild that was all in only the first 11 seconds??) Thanks bestie !! 🥰

Me and my husband we are both doctors. He is also a chef and cooks every day and does the dishes because chefs clean their station. Now, I'm fat, my self esteem is on the floor, and I don't manifest... But I always refused to keep a man who's gonna treat me badly because I already have my father for that. The point is if I could so can you

11:00 I totally understand the nuance of what you're saying, but just as an anecdote, when I worked at my first job at a fast food place, I found out that after a year of being shift lead, my male coworkers who had just started were making more than me. Same was true for my other female coworker that was similar to my age

I cry Every. Single. Time. She says "bestie, wake up". I feel the love burn ❤

I'm 42. I feel like this is just b the cycle. The fashion has cycles from 80', 90's then 2000's. I graduated in 2000. In the 2000's it was cool to have a sugar daddy. Fashion was sparkly, and most things came with rhinestones. Halloween costumes began all coming with thigh highs. It's now new, it's just time.

Comparing my relationship to the ones online is what helped me realize i am being seriously abused. And i dont have any family to talk to about it so finding out another way wouldve been difficult, theres no one to back me up that what im going through isnt okay. Bc ofc im being gaslit to believe IM the problem for my reaction to everything! I say that to say that comparing your relationship to the ones online isnt always bad. I still love watching couple videos bc i know im deserving of genuine love and when i watch those i feel more connected to the possibility, almost like i believe itll help me manifest a way out of this or something :(

I’m aware that I have to get a membership before getting direct messages but I thought it’d be such a beautiful idea to discuss not only discernment for the type of people we bring into our lives but the discernment to introspect and becoming the person that enables the lives we wish for; if there’s anyone here that can push this suggestion that’d be nice 🥹 I recently got into an argument fully convinced the other person was in the wrong (he was but besides the point) it could’ve been handled in a different way if I communicated my thoughts more frankly without fear of confrontation which made me realize that sometimes I really have to check myself because the road to hell could really be paved by virtue lol

Oh honey.. did you skip corporate America? In my corporation women make 30% less on average for similar roles. We have very few women leading teams. Maybe one or 2 As opposed to 20+ males. It’s a global corp.

I'd love to see an analysis of Jia Song('s behaviour) on the Korean dating series Singles Inferno !

I’m 34, and your videos make me SO happy to see a real girl’s girl. Keep it up ❤

I listen to you while I work out and it find myself working harder while I do.

Elle, I love how you say "so annoying" :) You are like perfect anime girl, but in live action

I noticed a pattern in my life. I have motivation, goals, plans, I'm inspired, creative, I have a schedule, a general idea of a few years ahead. I'll be eating healthy, working out, doing the best I can in everything and reaping the rewards. And then alongggg comes a spider, a new friend always Christian, always. She'll see I'm single, that's a problem. It'll start small maybe my hair, maybe something about the way I look or talk, dress, the way I talk or interact with people. They just creep on in, and I'm a strong person and it's not weeks, it's months, years. They'll try to get me to date "good" guys and talk down one's I actually like (I am very resistant to this and haven't dated any of these forced men, luckily). One day I'll wake up depressed, I don't feel myself, my plans are lost, I feel self-conscious and like a failure and these friends will be sitting there telling me how capable I am, what happened, "you can do anything". I attract the worst possible friends who feed off me to benefit their own lives. They will be building their lives and homes from the bricks they stole from mine. Run, the ick warned me this time, and I feel like I cracked a code!

You’re a whole movement, Manifestelle! I’m older than you and I learn from you every single time… you’re a true thought leader!

The gatekeeping of status symbols is interesting to me. A former coworker tormented the whole workplace with her relationship. Lording her man over everyone, with nonstop bragging and PDA. Acting like she was so ABOVE everyone there who was single and trying to rub their faces in it. Imagining others were jealous to make herself feel better. If she noticed anyone around her having chemistry with someone, she would say something to spoil it. She had her status symbol and didn't want anyone else to have it or something like it. Her man was good to her, but she treated him terribly. I'm all for princess treatment. But when the reward for princess treatment is abuse, it's more like slavery.

These videos have been so inspirational to me I told my therapist. It's really waking me up to the brainwashing of toxic , jealous friends and jealous loser men that secretly hate women and blame them for all of their problems. It solidified the need for me to walk away permanently from left/ right modern standards for women.

Thank goodness my dad gave me princess treatment to me since birth. That's why i do not accept being disrespected by sub-par men ❤

Bestie, we need your take on the newest Ballerina Farm situation

Loved it so much!!! Can you please have a podcast on how signing a prenup from your perspective can be and advantage or disadvantage from women? I love your content so much!! Your really helped me look at the world from a mature perspective ❤

This video came at such good timing for me, holy moly...

💯💯💯 It’s not you attracting the wrong people. It’s you attracting and then, it’s you discerning.

I have been giving myself the princess treatment because there aren’t wealthy guys out there for everyone. I am getting older in my 30’s and I can’t find anyone that would treatment me like a princess.

I started watching Manifestelle a few months ago. I wasn’t even looking for a partner, but I haven’t opened a door, paid for my nails or a meal since ⭐️ influencing the baddies for the better

punitive doesn’t mean purported, if that’s what you were thinking of. it means ‘punishing”, meaning that women have suffered in some ways with their success

I love your content. So many women think they don't deserve to be treated well.

This one is kinda... disappointing. It still center men (which is not what women supposed to do) ie. Goldenretriver men. Looking at these men as...sigh...the prize.

I was So happy to see your newest post. Holy s**t, sis. Thank you. I shall share this class with my little sis, so she and I can hopefully Wake Up❤

My boyfriend is so nice to me and he says nice things and he is consistent with his generosity. Almost no red flag except that sometimes he says harsh things because he is used to being in a boy group. He almost has no girl friends and though he loves his mom and sis, he is not a mamas boy. I am only afraid of the test he took where he has a low eq score but he seems so nice. I am so scared actually

There are too many poor caliber men, on a global scale,which will lead to social unrest and that makes the politicians extremely nervous. Watch for a war to get started just to reduce their numbers

Wake up babe manifestelle just posted

A point of confusion: It sounded like this argument was being prefaced by the fact that there are statistically less economically viable long term male partners than there were previously. (Speaking within the confines of heterosexual relationships) Yet with this, it's expected that a given male partners ability to financially provide for their partners is supposed to scale up and "trickle down" to the masses? How is this the case, don't these points completely contradict?

Tnx a lot for this video. I recently had this happen to me. I dated a guy, he didn't wanted to provide and then his best MALE friend told me to lower my standards to get a man. Get real...