Wanted to add on to my stance about looking through your partners phone. It wouldn’t be something I do often, but I’d ask her to let me check it. If she hesitates/doesn’t let me, that says everything. Checking your partners phone once isn’t a big deal & has little to do with trust issues. It’s more about testing that your partner is loyal. & tests are only a big deal if you think you can’t pass them.
just curious - why would you feel the need to test loyalty? for me its a given in a relationship until proven otherwise. but then again ive only dated girls who are "lower" on the ladder so to speak so it might be different if you're dating these girls who have instagram and people DMing them and stuff. im still young and trying to learn. thanks guys
@@FIGHTER_mlbb testing loyalty is never a bad thing if anything I feel like it’s beneficial for both people. Strengthens trust when you both open up to eachother, sure it’s forceful but it still opens you up
right thats a weird response, i have photos and videos from my ex (although it was an ex from several years ago, not the relationship i was in before my current one) and theyre there just bc i never went through and deleted them... because i dont delete things. i'd assume someone with 14k photos doesn't either.
@@barbrothers2 exactly, and its not like she had just happened to have them on her phone still.. she SPECIFICALLY said it was because they were memories she wanted to keep.. vids of her in bed with her ex. thats a huuuuge red flag
@@guitarandrums it was never about that.. of course you'll have good memeories of your ex, especially if its someone you once loved. But having videos of you and that person naked in bed holding hands IN YOUR PHONE while you're in an entirely different realtionship is a sign you aren't over that ex. how would you feel if your girlfriend kept videos like that and watched them from time to time while claiming to love you?
@@guitarandrums no one is saying it's bad to have memories of good times with an ex. if it's there bc she's the type that doesn't sort lots of files would be somewhat understandable. however, she's actively keeping them bc she wants them still around based on what she said as mentioned in the other replies, all while being in a relationship with someone else. it's as though she never moved past the relationship and is still caring about it rather than truly appreciating the relationship she has with the guy here. The way Scott Pilgrim hasn't fully moved on from his past relationship with Natalie/Envy Adams even while he is dating Knives Chau in the movie is a similar example to help make the case here understandable. and the way she behaves as the Cut video is reaching its end gives the impression she feels little shame and doesn't care much about how he feels. behaving as if what her phone reveals isn't as bad as it is.
the only relationship out of these 3 that was gerat was the old people. The couple with the simp man was terrible honestly, he looked way too emotionaly hurt. And the interviewer dude made everything worse by saying "did you love him?" Well yeah of course she did its her ex. Both of them felt pretty off with each other the whole time and they obviously don't trust each other, and she's a red flag.
@@johnlanes5425 actually I used to be like him lmao😂 but now I never actually value any woman more than myself except my family : / unless it a marriage in the future than yeah I will place my wife and my daughter first
@JoAnna Edssay EXACTLY I thought the same thing. She looks like she likes using him at the moment and he looks like someone you can play with. Thats the problem. Tbh I wasn’t surprised when he said his last cheated on him because he kinda enabled it to happen. ALSO he stayed after that so Im guessing that eventually will happen again.
The way she said it was a red flag... Although, I still keep a couple of photos of me and my ex. I only keep them to remind me of what I went through. Either good or bad memories. I am who I am today because of what I went through with other people. Not just with my ex but with other people as well. But I would not be keeping kissing and naked photos if was to enter in another relationship. That would just be weird and a huge 🚩.
at 9:59 where you call him a pussy broke my heart ngl. that dude was trying to find love and its really hard to see the girl/boy that you love loving someone else
Homie probably watching that kinky weird kind too. Horse and girl stuff. Some midget and tall people porn. Like when a you stick your whole hand in a girl baby hole. Than she talk and you pretend she is a human puppet.
@Dispirited Soul x2 I'm gonna fuck your mom if you don't stop this bot shit and fuck your sister and your dad and brother and grandpa and grandma and your entire family tree
6:29 pancho you’re absolutely right. Pron causes brain damage too, it also causes a lot of relationship damage. What I tell myself is that if u wouldn’t watch something in front of ur parent/priest/teacher whatever, u shouldn’t be watching it. I mean, there are exceptions, like I wouldn’t watch all of pancho’s vids in front of my parents but the point still stands Pron ruins a lot of lives. It won’t have u going anywhere except a downwards spiral
@@RocksBlaster "Research has shown that pornography use is correlated with with physical changes in the brain. The visual stimulus of pornography hijacks the brain's reward system and overwhelms it with unnatural prolonged dopamine levels. The result is the brain physically deteriorating in shape, size, and chemical balance." Not my words, this is a quote from NCOSE.
@@RocksBlaster there have been thousands of studies and research sessions done that prove so, and not one (legitimate) case has proven that pron *isn't* bad for your brain; you just tryna cope
Thank you. Now if only guys understood that. The guy is stressed about his ex because women instantly freak out about any little text even if it's old. I kinda understand why the guy would be a little hurt cause it's her not willing to move on.
I've been with my girlfriend for 14 years. I genuinely have never looked through her phone. Im of the belief that if she starts giving me such vibes or feelings that I feel like I need to then there's immediate trust issues. If you don't trust someone enough to not look through their phone, computer etc then it's always going to be something you do. Then if your partner ever finds out you have been/are then they will think you don't trust them and it's all downhill from there. If people want a relationship they will commit. If they don't want a relationship and are just playing the field they won't. If you think they're playing games so much that you need to look through their personal stuff then you are probably not ready for the relationship.
Sounds like this person is avoiding an issue due to being scared of potential consequences by assuring themselves that people who think different are the weird ones. You are going to have to deal with reality if something arises. Hopefully she hids her secrets well or there are none and you picked a keeper. People can get so scared of checking under a rug until it gets pulled right from under you. OR this person hiding a lot of dirt themselves and is scared for being judged by their partner and other potential consequences that arises.
4:32 I think she's saying he used to be an alcoholic, it is to understand to not wanna be with a person who is influenced by alcohol most of the time and can't control that addiction
Oh but he did quit that could be his first time drinking then he quit after that. His girlfriend said that she has never seen him drunk so Pancho was still right
"Why do you still have all these pictures?" Cause they're not over them or they are still with them in secret. In this day and age, it's usually cause they're still with them
that’s an immature belief. I have pics of my ex (non-intimate) and me in my phone… does that mean i still have feelings for her? no. we broke up for a reason and i dont miss her in that way. life is more complicated and people have pasts. if you want happiness with another, you need to learn to let go of that attachment and let people exist as they are.
@@based_dragon_0110 I mean id agree with you if she didn't straight up say she keeps them beacuse they where "good memories" lol. I could not imagine myself thinking im in the right if I had half naked pictures of my ex still on my phone in general but "good memories" is a straight red flag.
Pancho: "I don't let any of my girlfriends look through my phone, that's fucking crazy!" Also Pancho: "If I ask her if I could look through her phone and she is hesitant, that's a red flag"
@Floppa The Based So you'd like to see videos of yo girl getting her cheeks clapped by her recent ex bf? You wanna see that progress in her life??? Do you wanna see her and her ex chat logs from only a 2 months ago???
@Floppa The Based I see your point but you can also just remember that in your memories if u have a significant other their is no point in having pictures or contact with your ex...
I can see both sides of the spectrum. Some people like to reminisce on old times with the photos of their phone and others want it gone. I personally am deleting stuff with people I am no longer associated with, but its not a huge thing imo
@@carterskindle7086 I avoid people like this, why keep memories of something that didn't work? Don't you wanna move on and do something better with ME? makes no sense
I think it's okay to keep things from your partner as long as it wouldn't really affect the relationship if they found out, and if you feel the need to look through their phone either you have problems, they have problems or neither person should be in a serious relationship with each other.
I feel bad for the guy who's simping for that girl,i mean I've been there too,been played like an idiot,u definitely learn a lot from these type of relationships.
I feel like some people are mature enough to break up with their ex and still be friends but it would prolly make most future partners uncomfortable. I'd guess that most people would be too insecure and not approve of you still being friends with your ex. Obviously applies only to monogamous relationships.
Insecure? Maybe you don't know how to build a relationship because after starting one all ex's should disappear instantly from the ecuation, for both sides. If you want to be friend with your ex, You can stay single or make the relationship just a hook-up/casual one without commitments.
@Prodivestment Lol we are really calling ppl insecure for not wanting their partner to be friends with the ex? Im sorry to break it to you but some people just have boundaries.
honestly respect pancho a lot for not watch p*rn bc that stuff is real unhealthy and I think can have a bad impact in a relationship so bro rlly got my respect
I once left my phone unlocked with my ex in a room. And after i came back she was like “why do you have so many pictures of burned corpses” I was really confused, because i would’ve never keep incriminating evidences on my phone like that
