Humans are social animals, yet somehow it can be really hard to make friends. Especially as an adult when you and everyone you know is working and busy with their own lives, it gets really difficult to make strong connections outside of liking each other social media posts...
@@unterhau1102 If there's internet and mail service I'm sure he'd be fine. Not all of us like or need the physical company of humans. I'd rather adopt a bunch of furry friends
I had a friendly random stranger moment when I was in Nara - I only had 2000 yen bills on me, and the vending machine only took 1000 and below and it was HOT outside. A middle aged Japanese couple noticed I was savaging my bag for smaller denominations and offered to trade me 2000 for 2 1000. I even got to practice some of my Japanese with them. They were so kind, but it was extremely unexpected of them. I certainly didn't expect them to approach me about it at all. I hope they are well.
I’m sorry aside from the nice wholesome experience…..you traded a 2000¥ bill?!?! Like a 2000yen note? Where did you even find them! Sorry I can’t help but be shocked you’d give them away!
@@sevens525 the atm I used in Tokyo surprisingly gave me quite a few. I also got some from my local bank before I came too I still have one each of my original bills from when I went. I only traded one of them lol
@CyberNET 2000 yen bills are rare in Japan. Seven doesn't mean they got scammed but they mean that "you traded a rare bill for a very common 1000 bill!" (two 1000 bills)
How about don't talk to them? Where I'm at you're lambasted or simply discouraged to talk to others. Not to mention the people here are shit regardless, not talking to any of them makes me feel leagues better, honestly I don't see any complaints with loneliness it feels more like a freedom in this case...
This story overall shows how loneliness can affect a person. So a reminder to always be nice to people, because you never know what someone else is going through. And I know that’s not the case for everyone to be excused of doing things like this.
It's really sad how many ppl experience loneliness nowadays. Even outside Japen, in the western world, there are lots of ppl who feel lonely. Which is ironic cuz we live in a world full of apps to meet ppl. I wish everyone a loved one. Joey, I'm in a LDR rn myself. About 19 months now. It's really hard but we've met twice and one day we'll live together. So I'm glad to hear u felt lonely as well in ldr but still had a happy ending :)
Don't worry about it. People scoff at LDR because they don't trust themselves to be loyal, while people who experienced it had very good chance surviving at least 10 years of marriage.
@@victoriazero8869Not really. Having a connection online is objectively harder than a real life connection. It’s even harder when your relationship moves from in person to LDR. Most fail within a week to a few months, successful relationships with LDR is about as likely as getting into a good university lol. The chance is there of course but most of the time it’s just not gonna work out. For meeting friends it’s a lot easier and less difficult since the bond is based off of playing games and humor which is already mostly online, while a real social relationship is mostly based irl and through outings
@@victoriazero8869My parents met through instant messenger back then and they’re probably the most toxic married couple I’ve seen 😭 Hopefully it doesn’t end up the same for OP
I can understand how loneliness can make someone do something like this. Getting a letter or a card in the mail is soooo nice. My boss sent me a Christmas card. It was the only piece of mail I received that year that wasn't a bill or bank statement. And it is just such a nice feeling... even though it was from my boss.
My heart breaks for this man. I think he stole those cards in order to pretend those strangers were 'friends' who took time to send him a card.. To temporarily fill that hole in his heart and receive that ray of sunshine he longs having in his life. This might sound a bit creepy, but I wish I could give him a tight hug! 😪 I really wish he receives the mental attention he deserves and finds a special someone to create beautiful memories!
i has that feeling tho in some situations where i just wish i could give a stramger a hug and say "bro i gotcha back ya can call me if ya wanna hang out"
Joey, for what it's worth I don't think you were sappy at the end at all. It's an important point and well made. I volunteer for a charity here in the UK that receives phone calls and emails from people and I'd say that many, many of the people that communicate with us, amongst other problems and issues, are lonely. And loneliness can affect anyone of any age, social standing or whatever. It's also a killer. People don't feel heard, listened to, as though anyone else cares about them, or even loved and it's a horrible feeling - you can feel lonely in a roomful of people too, even if you know the majority of them. We'll probably never know the true meaning why the man in the news article you read stole all those cards, but it's gained him a load of attention, even though it's the wrong sort.
Am i the only one that noticed that Joey said 'A lot of people go back to their families to spend the first couple of years of the New Year'???? I make these mistakes like that all the time so its nice to see I am not the only one 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm guilty of overthinking and becoming recluse when it comes to interacting with people who I know I don't respond back for a long time and I feel really bad about it. I know I have to do better I at least try.
Why is there another article recommended at the bottom titled "Hyogo man arrested for stealing 13 tiny fish valued at 52,000 yen"? Is "Hyogo Man" the "Florida Man" of Japan?
Thank you for reminding me to reach out to my friends. It's not that I don't have the time to do it.. I just get so focused on just getting through the day, that I don't really think of much other than survival.
Is there any way you can find this guy, and people like him? If he could read and write English... I'd write to him, or others. I'm a 42 year old woman in Upstate NY, and I don't really deal with my bio family. The holidays get a little depressing for me, so I understand how this guy might feel. I'd be down in being a pen pal ( ◜‿◝ )♡
The irony being, if he just put out a message on SM that he was lonely and wanted people to send him cards, people from around the World would have sent them. Sometimes you have to SHARE what you need to find happiness. I I know he's not the only one feeling this way. Sharing this could have opened him up to others that are in the same boat, he could have made friends, maybe even found a partner. But instead, probably due to shame and embarrassment, he went this way and now....well, it's all pretty sad.
Uh... Does anyone else notice his name is Bizinger now? 😟 Was his name always Bizinger (You know, in real life)? I'm only asking because I don't watch his videos too often, so I don't know his full name.
True most people don't make the time for others even when those other friends/family reach out to them from time to time. Side question, what kinda lenses you got on them glasses just regular blue light?
Really nice video. You really emphasized how important mental health is. But after such a heartfelt ending I just started laughing out loud seeing the channel picture just come up in the middle of my screen. It was probably not meant that way, but boi that was some comedic timing😅
I feel very lonely. Been alone for the past year, no friends and left home since October due to my father emotionally abusing me and made me feel as if am not worth enough to anyone. My college advisor was kind enough to get me in the dorms and live here ( have no place to return to after I finish school) I tried making friends, but they all do weed and I don't feel any connection. I even asked a girl I had a little crush on, in a date and bailed on me. I starting to think am destined to be alone. Heck even online when am trying to strike up a conversation on Discord, etc. I often get ignored and whatnot. I really don't have much going on for me. I don't have my documents (since they are back home) and am limited to do anything. Everyday I grow indifferent towards things and I don't see the value of having people to talk to. I desire not to have human connection/friendships and what not. The world is against me. I wish to cease to exist.
Hear for you life shouldnt be this lonely and cruel. whoever you are your not alone i feel alone everyday and sometimes it makes me question the point of going on everyday. but something in me i guess my goddess Diana tells me to have hope in myself an other. i have hope ffor you friend and i pray for you and all of us to find the peace and connnection we desire.
Honestly, I can completely understand this guys motive. Sadly enough I get it, being so desperate to alleviate the pain of being lonely or depressed and feeling so tired you’re willing to try anything just to feel better again. Using some type of crutch to get you through the day whether that’s video games, food, work, driving or just anything to distract yourself so you don’t have to be alone with yourself again. I’ve been battling that fight with depression the past 6 or so years. It’s sad to see this guy resorted to criminal acts but that does happen. I do hope he gets the help he needs and finds the light in this world.
I recently went through a really hard time...only one person reached out to me. They don't know how much it meant, but it really did mean the world just for them to check in and ask how things were. The weren't great, but I didn't unload it all on them, it just made me feel like I wasn't alone after all. Check on even your strong friends.
Kinda ironic coming from Joey. Saw the post from reddit of someone who bought nonsense stuff and decided to post there to gain some traction to get THEM (Joey's people) to provide an update on shipping stuff.
Japan not acknowledging depression and mental health issues as a major concern is probably the reason why there are many people who threw their own lives away.
@@Disorder2312 you're disagreeing or not? Idk what country solve depression, but that doesn't change the fact that Japan's treatment to mental iklness is very bad
@@voltaicangelo Well, i'm just saying that there is nothing special about that. No one can solve someone's depression. But when you say about mental illness in general, there are many different mental illnesses, so i guess Japan kinda is bad in that regard. But nothing special about depression in particular. I would even say that it should be the opposite, because Japan is such a beautiful country, that it should be harder to get depressed in here, regardless of the hardships. At least for me. But i'm strongly depressed in my own country.
Man i would love to treat that guy to a Jollibee meal, ive always been the guy that gets left behind by friends so id really appreciate anyone who would eat Jollibee with me
Random comment to hopefully give a chuckle, but I'm sitting here eating a poké bowl from a local sushi place and I chose to add Kewpie mayo to it. It's my first time having it and whoamygoodness, it's declious! Gonna have to find a way to get some more here in the States 😅
Is there no system in place for lonely people so that they can get introduced to others. Where I’m from they do that to bring the loneliness statistics down
Sounds like The Grinch trying to steal New Year's. All joking aside, mental health is a very tough subject for Japan as a whole. If he really did steal the cards because of loneliness, that's such a sad situation.
Your little talk at the end convinced me to reach out to a friend I havent talked with in a while so thanks Joey! I've been putting off starting up conversation due to a lot of reasons but that really was the push I needed.. no more excuses. Great video!
People in Modern society are lonely, and sometimes those who aren't simply stayed in toxic relationships just to avoid loneliness or to meet social expectations. We have twisted the moral values of the world, where we prioritize efficiency and productivity over simple humanity. I think its more obvious in Japan because the culture is uniform, unlike in the rest of the world, where society is made out of a mix of cultures with different traditions. Alone on Christmas? Just go to a Chinese restaurant. Nobody to talk? Walk into a bar and some drunk stranger is probably going to start a conversation. But at the end of the day, everyone is stuck on the grind to own stuff to be happy because according to modern society, consumerism is the key to happiness. n_n Diogenes found a solution for that long ago, but cynicism is frowned upon by the collective.
And some people wonder how Bocchi the Rock became such a hit. There are more Bocchis in the world than ever. In a world of hyperconnectivity, some people have been left behind and rendered invisible.
this is a very good post.........i have very few friends.....and I use the internet to have "FAKE FRIENDS".....like you and Chris.....i received only 1 Christmas Card......usually that is it....
Well, when the authorities put him in jail they can make sure he is in general population and is slated to get double meals. So he's covered for loneliness AND for the gatcha groceries. Everybody Wins! P.S. Maybe he can be the cellmate for the guy in the next article who stole the expensive fish.
"He stole over 1,000 greeting cards..." Oh, so he just shoplifted some cards? That's sad, but not that bad. "... from people's mailboxes." *_U N F O R G I V A B L E ._*
A nitpicky correction 1:29 This image is not Japanese New Year greeting cards, it's 百人一首(Hyakunin Issyu), a Japanese traditional cardgame where the cards have the latter half of certain traditional poems written on them and are placed on the floor. And as the third person recites one of those poems, you have to find the right card, the poem on which matches the poem the person is reciting, before you opponent finds it.
Hold up! I almost shared this story until that part about gacha... XD True, it's sad but... Anyway I hope that guy alleviates that loneliness... if it's actually even there.
For the people who think this is funny, please understand that loneliness in the leading cause of depression and often makes people contemplate suicide. He was a 38 year old man with possibly no friends or family who he had a connection with. At that age or even starting at early 30s, it becomes very hard to meet new people and create lasting relationships. You're not in school or working part-time somewhere anymore where you can develop new relationships, it's hard to make connections, i'm guessing this man knew what he was doing was wrong but was just so tired of being alone that he would be satisfied with pretending that people cared about his well-being.
The only letter I’ve ever received was a break up letter, so I wouldn’t know what it’s like to get something that says your cared bout. Wow typing that really makes me sound quite pathetic huh anyway point is I get where he was coming from. My issue is when I do call or txt my 2 remaining friends it goes to voicemail or no response 😂 anyway I’m now gonna stop embarrassing myself an shut up 😂
So you don’t think it’s appropriate to laugh at a guy like this but you think it’s hilarious when a teenage girl has her items ruined from a guy defecting on them. Incredibly telling what kind of person you’ve become.
Personally I think no matter how lonely or sad you can get there's no excuse to crime or bringing other people down with you. Everyone has their struggles but it doesn't mean you can go steal things. Shooters are all lonely and life dealt them a bad hand which made those individual people go on murder sprees. But there's no excuse for their crimes. Crime is crime. You can still come out being good people no matter how lonely you can be and impact the world in positive ways, not steal shit.
I guess I’m Japanese which is ironic because people tell me I look Asian and made fun of me for looking Asian because of how I dress and my face of course but Im Mexican
I absolutely love this channel Joey, I appreciate you for educating me I actually use some of your lessons in my college classes, I appreciate you for speaking up on mental health issues, you my boyiii ❤
Same reaction, to me, My loneliness is the feeling of having no contacts to help me in time of need. I recently learned that family was really worried about me and told me that they have my back, that I shouldn't suffer alone. I thought nobody cared about me and I slowly shunned away people who were close to me because of my erroneus thoughts but I now know that isn't the case and I just went with worst case scenario logic fallacy. I hope other people can find out that they are not alone and that there are people out there who genuinely want to reach out to and help you in need, please don't give up and keep on living!
Here in US there are many men like myself whom have just given up on dating after many years of bad experiences. We have decided that loneliness is less damaging than dating here .
This is sad... the hard part about being social, I realized it's more easier to socialize when everyone is in the same place at the same time everyday like at school. But as an adult, everyone has their own schedules and generally busy so it can become harder to form close relationships or even get into a relationship/get married (especially with demanding job schedules).
