I started calling myself in sick once I got to senior years and very very quickly understood why my mom hated doing it. They were rude af. I should be grateful though, they taught me to stop giving a shit and not take their crap. A quick "I'm off sick today, nope, it's none of your business, I'll be back when i'm back" is really all that's needed.
Oooh you should have been malicous compliance and pretended that you r sick. Diahrrea? Groan, fart sounds and slop something chunky into the toilet. Flu? Dry heave and pour in quickly some water into toilet. Cold, talk like your sinus is clogged
I got in trouble for calling myself out 😅 Vice principal said I had been “forging” a signature. I said “nope thats my signature sir, for myself” But apparently high schoolers cant excuse themselves no matter their age. Probably because of funding rather than legality
@@Heywhatshouldmynamebelol in my country that's illegal. As in, not letting students over 18 sign their own paperwork is illegal. As soon as you're 18 in my country it would be against the law for an educational institution of any kind to communicate with your parents without your permission or require your parents involvement in anything without your permission. I feel sorry for you mate.
@@kaboomsihal1164Same where I'm from. I remember my teacher even sitting down with us to talk about that stuff because technically our parents are still in charge BUT we're whole legal adults, so mommy can't do anything about you not coming to class
when i was living with my aunt to help out (she had stage iv colon cancer), she would call me out of school if she felt super sick, after chemo treatment, or if i just needed a break. one of the receptionists actually asked if i’d come down with “what my aunt had”, and i remember sitting at the kitchen table hearing her say, “no, he definitely didn’t catch cancer”.
God, no! That’s horrible. I used to accompany my mom to her chemo treatment because she was getting weaker. She had no one and I used to take hours out of work for that. At the time, my manager was fine but my coworkers were just gossiping about me going shopping or in cafe avoiding work; all having fun. I mean, I’d happily work if you’ll take my mom’s cancer? Once, I dared to get a Starbucks as I was so tired, lacking sleep and the stall was in the hospital. I was chewed alive. My boss had to question me about it!! I hated that working place. I actually told my boss that I am fine reducing working hours because I have my mum as my priority and she get so tired and sick, she can’t walk or balance herself. I can’t just leave her in the house alone .. it’s dangerous. Not to mention, she throws up a lot and would be so weak and down after it all. She used to cry a lot during that time. I moved her in with me and I remember when I discovered it. She’d wake in the middle of the night and just cry because she wet herself or couldn’t even leave bed and didn’t want to call for me. It breaks my heart that some people have no dignity and compassion. I was an adult and it hurts me a lot. Can’t imagine how it felt for you when you were much much younger and to have kids your age say it is expected but an adult? God. How awful
School receptionists also get cussed out pretty much every day and have parents there as ten physical harm. They have to deal with parents threatening to attack other children. They have e to explain that they are not food delivery services. They have to stop guardians without custody from taking children. They have to deal with medical emergencies. They have to call parents who forget about their young children. They have to calm down and figure out what to do with parents that show up to schoool drunk or high. They have to separate parents who come in about an issue regarding their child and then get violent/confrontational with each other….. And the list goes on. Their just b is harder/more complex than y’all realize!
@@juliekennedy9891 if their job is so stressful to them that they cant manage to speak to an adult with respect and not a patronising tone, FIND. A. NEW. JOB!!!!
@@GizmoGremlinDog I agree that they should be professional. I also think that people come to them with an attitude-and sometimes feel as if they are experiencing one in return, even if that isn’t happening. Or the most common one I have seen my friends experience-they are following school policy ( which they have no part in creating) and the parents are incredibly rude to them-so the secretary responds with firmness and the parents complain about the secretary. So, to me, many of the negative “attitudes” ( including patronizing ones) that parents feel they experience from school secretaries come from the parents’ own behavior and attitudes. I have even seen secretaries be full on sweet and apologetic to parents-while parents walk out calling them rude and such. As a teacher, it is hard to see the way that they are treated by parents. Many parents would NEVER treat me that way-and I think it is because secretaries tend to have less education-so parents just respect them less. Not cool.
Since when was “just so you’re aware” attitude lol? They’re probably trying to tell you something that’s school policy, aka they literally have to tell you bc it’s their job. They’re not doing it for fun!
Never had to go to school if i didnt want to and never had to do homework (never did). I was second best in my year aftr years of almost failing just because I found my inner Motivation.
Oh … wow… I’ve never had a school receptionist talk to me like this. So grateful to have kind, respectful and supportive staff at my kids school. I’ll have to get them EOY gifts now, I feel extra grateful for them!
The school office workers knew my mom's phone number by heart and the moment they saw it they were already writing that one of us would be absent. We had very weak immune systems as kids so bad that every other week it was always something. We got sent to school several times while sick but the teachers would notice and move us to another room entirely if we could be contagious. We only got sent because of the laws surrounding absence. My principal was so familiar with me that she had a cot in her office for me because it was always a 70% chance I'd need it from either passing out or being in pain from sickness. Bless them because it took me getting horribly ill and a surgery to get my immune system fixed.
My high school always demanded a doctors note when sick. Who if they're trying to get well is traipsing off to the doctor. Abuse of power. I got so sick of it.
I rarely got called out sick. I did get sent home once for punching a boy but he was being a twat to me about my sexuality and bullying me and my queer friends. I didn't get in any trouble though. I was sick often but I never got to stay home because I would normally be ill over the weekend and be well enough for school on Monday.
@@eleanorcooke7136 I'm so sorry ya went through that what a fuckin asshole I had dhs or dyfus or whatever they call it in Jersey called on me because I'm not sure how old you are lol but I'm old and there used to be this thing called the party boy dance from jackass I think and this kids locker was above mine and did it to me with his balls and dick in my face so I took my lock and slammed it Into his balls lol
I once phoned in genuinely sick and they said can't you get in we're really short staffed, I said I'll get an ambulance to get me in if you want. I got a verbal warning for cheeking the manager. 🤣
Here in Sweden we have an absolutely amazing app where you can just mark your child as absent (for whatever reason, no questions asked) so we don’t have to talk to anyone, it’s the best thing ever
WOW! Here in BC, Canada, the school receptionists are the nastiest people you have even met! They are protected by their union ( and unions in BC are super powerful) so they can be MEAN with zero repercussions!
@@heidibonjour we don’t even have receptionists in schools, it sounds like such a strange thing to me, I first heard of it through my boyfriend who lives in England
I swear they care more about our attendance than out wellbeing like we could be dieing on the side of the road and they'd be like well her attendance is quite poor already so are you sure you don't want to bring them in
...you do know "school" is just free daycare and literally the only thing a college degree proves is that you can pay to show up somewhere. School teaches memorization not logic nor curiosity.
Don't forget school are just like one big petri dish. It's like pass the parcel one child gets ill, then another child gets ill and sends it home then they get ill..
One day I was like super sick and one of the first people in school to get this bug we had going around and the woman that answered the phone tried to convince my mom that i was faking when i was literally throwing up in the bathroom!😂
As an American who’s spent a substantial portion of their childhood in the UK school system you don’t realize how many memories you’re unlocking for me
😂 You're so good at this. I soooo don't like your receptionist 😅 I mean, I do. I love her. But only coz it's you and she's not actually real. People like this are the personality version of nails on a chalk board, if you know what I mean.
I would have said well i didn't have time to call when waiting in line at the hospital, or sorry i forgot, she just regained consciousness 1 hour ago. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I LOVE dealing with people like this over the phone - they're so used to people obliging their every question and it makes my heart soar to hear them hesitate when they realise the conversation is ending about 600 years before they plan on it 🤣
If it was your 20th time answering a call in sick over the phone for a day I’d love to see you be chipper. It’s literally the exact same script every day.
@@Sian660 I used to answer phones for a pizza place. Same script over and over, FAR MORE than 20 times a shift. I was expected to sound so cheerful you could hear the smile in my voice ALWAYS. Didn't matter if the job was repetitive, didn't matter if the customers were extremely sh!tty and made me so mad I could picture three ways to murder them in less than five seconds every time one of them pissed me off. If my sweet cheerfulness wasn't making people barf it wasn't good enough. If a school receptionist can't put in even half the effort to sound polite that I had to put in for a crappy minimum wage paying pizza place, then they shouldn't be a receptionist at that school.
they always act like they hate their job and are annoyed by all of the tasks required of them due to their position. but like… didn’t you APPLY for this job and you haven’t quit yet so… don’t get annoyed with ppl for just asking you to do your job 😭 ps: ik she’s just acting but like this is directed at the ppl who are actually like this at any job honestly
I'm seven months into remission from cancer and would have to call up frequently when going through immunotherapy for my own child (which I still feel guilt for) and was not only bed ridden with pain but struggled with depression and had experienced a needlessly judgemental interaction would have had me in tears. I'm incredibly lucky the school is supportive and even offered to chauffeur me to and from medical appointments.
Haha lol! I remember a part time job during college working in a callcenter. I worked through a sinusitis but after a few weeks it got so bad I needed two life threatening surgeries (brain got affected by the bacteria). My best friend and coworker told our supervisor what happend and he literally asked her: "Will she be in tomorrow?" Its been 12 years. Im not bitter at all.
Hell I'd be bitter too! xD I once called in sick at work cuz I was puking and stuff, my manager responded with a loud and annoyed "Ugh". Like what do you want me to do? Come in puking? I literally work with food and people! Lok
My boss called me the day after I got out of the hospital following a planned abdominal surgery that he KNEW was going to keep me away from work for at least 2 weeks (if it was simple) and possibly much longer. He asked me when I was coming back to work and said "Just because the doctor signed you off, that doesn't mean you can't come to work." Yes. Yes, it does mean that, in fact. It means that I am not fit to work, and I've literally just had abdominal surgery and I can't even sit up right now without being in agony. Do you really think I should be travelling 1.5 - 2.5 hours each way to work on public transport, walk a mile at one end and half a mile at the other end, and also do a full work day in between while I am like that? No. That's not how it works.
"Juuust so you're awarrree, you are suppose to report your child poorly, um, before half past 8. It is quarter to 9...." 🤣👏 It's the slight stab insinuating poor parenting every opportunity that arises for me! 🤣😑
I had to deal with a school receptionist that was a real piece of work. Not only did she suggest that my kid was faking, she also told me "parents really shouldn't make false reports" I had issues with this woman for a few years due to her rudeness and this was the final straw. I drove to the school and met the school resource officer at the door. I explained what happened and that I had the note from the Dr saying my kid is to stay home. He walked me to the receptionist's desk to have her make a copy. Cue petty revenge, I asked for a copy of each and every policy of the entire district. I then asked for a copy of the dress codes and code of ethics. By the time she was finished 1½ hours later the stack of papers was thicker than a 90's phone book. I smiled and said thank you, I dropped all the copies, all of it, in the trash can by the door and left.
I had a receptionist say something similar to me, but she hurried up and ended the phone call. 10 minutes later I get a call from an apologetic assistant principal letting me know he heard what she said and she was being disciplined.
When asked what the health issue was, I would simply say, "That's not information that I'm comfortable sharing with you, as it is none of your business."
Seeing stuff like this and knowing I was a VERY frequently ill kid, it makes me wonder if my mam ever had to deal with school being snarky down the phone 😂 the amount of bloody times I’d end up staying home
Every time I went to the nurse with a MEDICALLY DIAGNOSED MIGRAINE, the nurse would roll her eyes, take my temperature, and ask if I wanted to call my mom. Then she'd take the phone and be like "yeaahhh, so they did just come from PE, is what they told me.. so.." I had meds in the office too, but I always limited myself on how many I took because insurance only covered 9 a month. I had 3 for my mom's, 3 for my dad's, and 3 for school. This nurse ended up retiring my junior year of high school, and her replacement was SO nice. She gave me advice on easing the pain, let me borrow an ice pack, and said as long as she sees a text from mom, I can go home if I needed.
Lol this is spot on. I'd never tell the receptionist what medical issue my child had, a simple 'it's a personal matter' will do. Unless they're rude, In which case it's 'mind your own business'.
It is heavily critical to state parents must tell the school before 8am. It is almost an hour before normal registration time at school. The deadline set at 8:45 would be ideal for parents with sick children.
Not every parent knows their child won't be able to come that early. Having a chronic illness (a pain and immune disorder), we tried to wait until the latest possible time just in case I could rally to go to school. Not every child is trying to get out of something. Some kids really want to go to school when they can't.
@@JoraAustin Literally! It's so frustrating when you actually want to go to school for once and then you feel like you're gonna throw up. There's so much pressure on kids to never be ill even if the teachers are gone every other week
Here in California at my sons school you can leave a message on an answering machine. However I no longer do that because last time I did they didn’t even check it and I didn’t get a call till like 10am saying he was missing. I was like are you kidding? So now I call like at 7:45am as school starts at 8 am
My daughter high-school had an answerphone saying if you're calling about absence press 1, then you left a message including your name, your child's name and class, and the reason for the absence, and that was it. It was the same system for the staff. Nobody was interrupted, no one made snarky comments, all done with the minimum of fuss. Brilliant.
Omg I don't even have kids but this pissed me off 🤣🤦🏻♀️ when I was a kid all we had to do is bring a slip from a parent before or after day/lesson explaining it. My twin sister and I became very good at copying my mom's signature -it was her idea though 🙈
My school told me off for taking off 2 weeks. I loved the receptionists’ faces as I told them I had a temperature of 41.5C, threw up almost every hour, and couldn’t physically bring myself to stand up for a week. Yay.
Good Lord it's nobody's business. This reminds me of a co-worker I had years ago she was such a funny woman. These were the years where there wasn't PTO time... You had to give an explanation of why you were out. We had the rudest most of noxious boss ever. She told me I fixed his butt I just told him I'm bleeding like a stuck pig. 😂. He never asked another woman again! Rest in peace Liz.
I have memories of my mum launching herself over the phone in a protective manner at the rather rude receptionists questioning my health. I was often sick a lot (I’m now 36, & I’ve been diagnosed with 2 chronic genetic health conditions which come with a whole host of health issues, so of course looking back on my younger years it’s like slotting the puzzle pieces together). I had some nice receptionists, but some were incredibly rude & if you knew my mum.. she took no prisoners, very old school & called a spade a spade lol (I was the last of 4 kids, she was 40 & my dad was 41 when I was born, my eldest sibling is nearly 17 years my senior! So I was a surprise, & the only girl lol) - I lost my mum suddenly in January. This made me smile remembering how embarrassed I was over those phone calls but as an adult, I completely respected what she did for me back then (& I’d do exactly the same for my kids had I been blessed). X
@@rebeccasuhok4610 I’m so sorry Rebecca, first Christmas here too without her. It’s hard, isn’t it? You can never express the pain of losing a parent to others. I lost my brother in October very suddenly too, & it’s brought up all of the grief I never dealt with regarding Mum’s sudden passing, so it’s not been the best few weeks. I’m sending you so many blessings, hugs & love at this difficult time. If you kept any cards she gave you over the years, set them out, that’s what I’ll be doing, with a candle, snuggled in her favourite blanket xx
“Α sickness can come from anywhere besides school and it’s none of your business on what they have or why” is literally what one of my friends parents told them. (My friend told me what happened)
I remember when I was younger. I was sick all the time. So one time mom called me in. The lady gave her such an attitude. My mom was like. How about you come over and take care of my daughter since you know everything. Lady was never rude again. Lol.
Mine just says “So your daughter is sick, oh okay we’ll if she has a fever of 100 or over within the rest of the day she can’t come to school tomorrow either. Ok, ok, thank you tell her to feel better!”
I walked into school after an early appointment about 9 am and the receptionist looked at me with a really condescending look and just went “and why are you late?” Like bitch I had a fucking orthodontist appointment but I bet if I’d arrived 45 mins later you wouldn’t have looked at me like that would you. You should be glad I’m even here today smh
This is sooooooooo true! I hate calling in for my kids when they truly are sick bc I always get the “uh huh sure they are” feeling from the receptionist!
Once when I was having extreme period cramps my mum said I should stay of so she called my school and they said I wasn’t allowed to stay off and I should get a shower and come into school. Also the receptionist was also female so meand my mum thought she would of understood the problem.
I overheard my mom once calling me in sick and I guess she got a similar ‘nobody else in school has called sick so she must be lying’ because she told the lady “if you want me to pass you to my daughter so you can hear her throwing up I gladly will” I was sitting on the bathroom floor thinking my mom was bad ass
fortunately, my school has an amazing receptionist (shout out to peggy) but most of the rest of the staff absolutely sucks. unfortunately the nurses are awful and one time didn’t believe me when i said i was about to pass out (then promptly went unconscious for a bit in the nurses office) and then called my mom and let me go home after being in there for about an hour. american school systems suck.
skiving school was me being rebellious against the shit education I was being given. I learnt a lot more history and science from watching documentaries on youtube at home pretending to be ill than I ever did actually in school
I hate how schools tell you not to come to school if your sick but then I’ve literally failed a semester class because it was put in as ua every time and so everyday I was absent for being sick (which was quite often considering my family kept passing things around and we had Covid for 2 weeks) I got a 0/4 for participation, I tried to tell the school but they said it was “too late to change” because the grades had already been submitted for the semester🙄like whatever I know damn well they could’ve changed it just decided they’re too lazy to🤚
She is so good at these characters... its so true.. these sorts of people become so attached to their job because they are boring people with nothing else going on in their lives.
For here, you need a reason later. As in not the day of, just whenever you come back or even later than them at you give a note from a parent or doctor. Otherwise it’s just an unexcused absence. But needing to call in before a certain time? Weird
@@terra_the_nightingale135 it’s for the convenience of the office so they can add everyone’s absences and let teachers know before hand when they look at the system and wonder why people are missing from their lesson and so they can start working after that
I've been out of school for almost 18 years but we just stayed home. Either the school would call our parents (home or work) or our parents would call the school at whatever point. No time had to be done by. Teachers would take roll call during class and just figure the kid was sick if they weren't there.
Never happened in my school or my kids. They just tell me they hope they feel better and that they will make sure the teacher knows. So shout out to all those great school secretaries.
In reality the parents are sometimes calling in and pretending their poorly when they are actually going on holiday or smth lmao and the “ if the teacher asks you were poorly” or the “ don’t you dare tell anyone you went on holiday “
Crazy. I was allowed to stay home whenever I was too tired, which wasnt very often, school just needed to know by the end of the semester if the parents were ok with it, and bam done. No callibg, no fines, no explaining parental decisions.
I'm so grateful my sons schools have always been fine with this. Their Infants school especially. Sent him in not knowing if he was actually ill or not (he's a master of deception and has caught me out several times), they were lovely, laughed and said they'd keep an eye on him. They're all mums so completely got it.
Literally that's exactly right. You have done that very well. The obnoxiousnous of the school receptionist is just rediculous. It's like if I say my child is unwell then they are unwell.
I once needed to call in myself because my parents were working and I couldn't reach them. The principal answered and he was so nice and even asked if they need to send anyone over since I was alone and couldn't reach my parents.
As a parent, the tude is so accurate and it's with ALL receptionists! School, doctors office, therapy (my kiddo gets speech/physical etc). All the receptionists seem personally offended you're daring to call them 😂 like sorry I'm making you do part of your job duties girlfriend
My sons primary school was great, I sent a text. The lady who dealt with absences was always lovely and polite via text, email or phone, and when he finished primary at the end of year, she even emailed to wish him well at high school, and to say she had enjoyed our friendly banter. My son had a fair amount of time off due to allergies and blood noses. High school has a text line too. Thankfully. School office ladies are always so intimidating, starts as a kid yourself, continues when you have kids at school.
I was literally in a hospital bed, hooked up to all sorts and the receptionist rang my mother to say she’s going to “report her to social services” (which is obviously absolutely ridiculous). The audacity, my school was extremely ableist.
