The SERVANT takes the MONEY: the double-edge of hypergamy 

Because of their hypergamous tendencies, women generally mate and date for gain -- and they typically have no qualms about passing over men who are not in a position to provide benefit. However, in every culture on the planet, it is the servant who takes the money. The servant is the one who is paid. One of the most over-looked consequences of hypergamy is the creation of a relational indebtedness that was historically discharged in domestic service. This does not interest most modern women; however, they are also not interested in disabusing themselves of their hypergamous tendencies. As might be expected, this creates problems in the economy of the sexual marketplace. Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WrXBzQ2HDEQ.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: ru-vid.com/show-UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #dating #relationship

That was the most clinical and sophisticated way of saying women want to have their cake and eat it too that I have ever heard.🙂

This man deserves protection at all costs.

Any threat to my peace of mind is an unacceptable loss.

This is why it's so important for men to stop being simps. Like please have some self respect and don't lower your value just to please women.

I burst laughing when just right after his most controversial line in this video about modern relationships being a form of prostitution, he proceeded to say, "if you like what you're hearing..." That was just too funny to watch 🤣🤣

Hypergamy doesn't care. The market favours women until they hit the wall. Unless men collectively don't simp nothing will change. And that's not going to happen.

I do not mind women wanting hypergamy, but I do mind women wanting hypergamy *without working* for it~

Unfortunately, in too many marriages, the man is paying for sex he’s not getting.

I'm 26 and I'm so glad I'm learning this stuff now...don't want to end up destroying my life...Salute to all the men who had to deal with women without this knowledge..must have felt like a landmine 😰

The juice isn’t worth the squeeze is perhaps the best description of modern relationships.

Orion: "So you have a choice ladies, you can either be the boss, or you can get a paycheck. But you can't have it both ways" Western W0men: "Hold my beer!"

My ex actually wanted to share the financial costs and chores equally, however, that caused a problem when she decided it was time for me to make huge compromises. They want things to be equal but can't even remain attracted in that scenario 😂

The cost gets higher while the value of the purchase/hire gets lower

As a 40+ yo educated man living in US, your content is 100% spot-on for the majority of male to female relationships that I have experienced. Cheers!

If a man marries a woman of equal stature (money, ambition) the marriage may start off okay, but will quickly deteriorate once she gets what she wants within the marriage (kids for example). After that, there is little reason for her to service her husband. This happened to me. It also happens with a lot of Hollywood marriages because technically, neither person *needs the other person's resources. They can afford to do it on their own.

My divorce cost everything I had earned up until that point in life. Happened after a catastrophic auto accident, I was left with no assets, homeless while I was relearning to walk

As a middle aged man of limited money and status- I just can’t get excited about middle aged women. So I just stay single.

'Women' s status decreases and a man's status increases as a function of time' Except women don't think that way. For one thing, they believe their SMV remains fixed through life at its highest point of 23 years old, and middle aged single mothers in low paid part time jobs think they're higher status than a childless man in a respectable career of the same age or older. The deulu is off the scale.

Our ancestors got not only domestic services as a reward but also a women's youth and purity. Now we get Chad's used goods.

This was the nicest way of a man to prove modern relationships are a kind of prostitution in their basis .. whatever best I heard lately

That’s kinda the problem a lot of modern women are having nowadays, as the playing fields more equaled out, the average man becomes less attractive as a prospect because they can’t provide more than the woman can provide for themselves. Essentially, women have now ruled out most men as unfit for sexual reproduction. I wonder how this will play out as time progress.

This is one of your best Doc. Well thought out, well structured, and well delivered. Logical argument all the way through, without inflammatory emotional tone. You are a good model.

This is so well said. I wish I would have heard this about 15 years ago. Would have saved me a lot of money 😂

Modern professional women: "My money is my money and your money is our money"

I think it's cheaper to rent than to buy. This changes the way i view the transaction.

All men pay. The John in the parked car pays a lot lizard. The married man pays his wife with a diamond ring, house, alimony, and child support. In fact, married men pay a lot more than The John. The issue is, women no longer need men now they've jobs and divorce can keep the woman paid but without the headache of the man.

We have washing machines, dishwashers,clothes dryers , and microwave meals. These used to be the woman's job. So the court system needs to catch up with things that got invented 100+ years ago.

Allowing the argument that hypergamy is a natural instinct and therefore to be accepted is precisely equivalent to failing to hold women accountable for their actions. We all have base instincts and desires. The difference is that society demands men to control or even repress these, but women are largely given a free pass, if not outright encouraged to follow their base instincts and desires.

Facts! When women complain about Cheesecake Factory and demand men make 6 figures how isn’t that pr*stitution?

In short, modern women believe they are the boss, and their money is their money, and your money is their personal ATM machine. They are only loyal to their feelings, not you. There's a high risk they will leave you for a man with more money. The only service you will see with them is the service you receive at the restaurant you take them to, and they won't have anything to do with you if you can't afford to take them to that restaurant. ........gosh, gee? Where do I sign up for this deal?

Another problem is that the majority women don't even know how the economic system works. Inflation is making young men to appreciate their money even more, which leads to a lack of desire to be in a relationship since is getting expensive out here. If they take some of their time to learn how the system works, instead of worrying about who can provide the most, they'll definitely increase their chance of spotting a high value man.

I’d rather be happy being a servant and getting paid by the man I love wholeheartedly than doing the same for a random man (my boss) by performing meaningless tasks like 95% of the jobs imply. There is no guarantee your marriage will be happy and long-lasting but at least there is hope.

"You can either be the boss, or you can get a paycheck. You cant have it both ways." Damn that hits HARD

Fucking Hell. I never swear but this one takes the cake. Well done, Orion.

If men actually mated per acceptable loss, it would spell the end of marriage. The short-term loss is nothing compared to the long-term loss. Historically the short-term loss had been the driving factor, but more & more the long-term loss is being considered.

Women like money and profit. The water is wet. More news at eleven.

You're a star; not many people can explain such topics in such a captivating manner as you have been able to do!

If shes selected for fem in ism, shes opted out of any sort of successful relationship. That is the debt she aquires.

As a man who makes over 100k, i only date non career women. The problem is that even if a woman makes 40k, she still believes she's entitled to half of everything while only contributing a fraction of the combined income. I'd prefer a woman who can hold down the house and support me in other ways. Women who make 100k+? Wouldn't even consider it beyond a hookup. Couldn't imagine the attitude that comes with it.

Well put: an equal trade in 30 will not remain an equal trade in 50. As a 50something man, I date increasingly younger women since my early 30s. The reason why I don't buy so called "equal relationships" with women of my age is a simple one. No matter how mature and successful a woman is you still has to pay. And I choose rather to pay for something tangible, namely for youth and beauty. As strange as it may sound, the paycheck a 20something attractive woman expects to get from you is often lower than requirements of a mature and successful woman of the same level of physical attractiveness.

It's narcissistic solipsism that makes a woman want to get paid and be the boss.

Expecting women would understand this is naivety.

People act as if female hypergamy is the norm in human society, but for the overwhelming majority of human history, women weren't choosing at all. Marriage was arranged by families and/or societies, sometimes before the women were even born.

Very neatly explained. It is an issue of double standards. Please put out more videos on modern relationship problems and how to deal with them.

EXACTLY WHY I DIDN'T GET MARRIED. Shordy wants tradition but only when it benefits her. Which is understandable cause we're humans but I'll do the same. Optimize

What's actually happening is that the most educated women are basically dropping out/delaying being in long term relationships, so the cohorts below them are moving into dating the men they woukd date

This chap intellectually expresses what many other men have said. I have in mind CGA, Tomasi, Cooper and BB and many others. I'm glad he has done this (on this particular point) because his moderate intellectual style is very persuasive. This means many more people (from the middle ground) will hear and hopefully accept the point that modern dating is akin to prostitution.

The man can't FIRE the servant without having to give her the money anyway.

I never learnt this when I was a kid, instead I watch my mother and father fight over money issues to a point where it let to a divorce when I was 16. Here I am at age 35 still learning new but basic things.

Well, historically brides used to come with a dowry. That system actually lasted until the mid 18th century.

"The juice is not worth the squeeze" sums it very well, ask divorcees who have been taken to the cleaners.

“Women treat men the way men treat jobs”. This should be a T-shirt.

I made the right choice at 18.....Never Marry. 58 now and life has never been better. I enjoy women....but never take them seriously. 🤣

Love this episode - thanks Dr Taraban, that closing thought about the balance of value changing over time and it's impact on the relationship is huge

"I don't know what else to call it but modern prostitution. Now before I go any firther If you're liking what you're hearing please consider sending this episode to someone who might benefit from its message" 😂😂😂

I've been watching vlogs of a matchmaker in China about Chinese women's absurdly high requirements for their ideal partner while they themselves have very little to offer in a relationship. I'd say your theories work worldwide.

Brilliant analysis! My guess is that you receive lots hate messages from modern women unable to solve this riddle in their mind and seeing their SMV going down everyday.

As amid-70's male, I can state that my experiences and observations over the years have reflected exactly what you state in this podcast.

It’s annoyingly ignorant when men ask a women for the behaviors befitting the traditional role that they are designed for (cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, supportiveness, cooperation, etc), they all mouth off about them not being a man’s maid/ mother But they don’t mind a man being their “father” (paying bills, providing shelter, protection, food and other resources)… It’s an annoyingly ignorant retort

And thus there is the rub - women aren't offering the services men want on a level that occured in the past.

Doc, I cannot overstate how much I appreciate the new analogies. These are gold. We do not take them for granted.

Thanks for the wisdom. I've removed myself from the Western dating market because I'm not looking for prostitution. When I want a relationship the only solution is to look out of country.

Your videos are always the best💯 I do receive a notification each time you post a new video.. We'll have regrets for things we did not participate in...Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life.

Clear, concise, and well stated. Thank you.

I've always had these niggling feelings and thoughts in the back of my head but I'm not eloquent enough to put it into words. This guy is speaking truth!!!

A solution you alluded to, Dr. Taraban, was for the ladies to, "find your dark horse." Something my mother used to say was quite similar, "find someone to, "join forces with."

I came to the same conclusion and it’s nice to hear my suspicions confirmed thank you very much young man keep up the good work

Thanks! Great video! Really helps to explain the modern relationship conundrum! Your work is much appreciated 🙏

Looking back to my own life experiences, you make a lot of sense. Liked and Subscribed.👍👍

THANK YOU. I've been thinking this way for months, believing I was crazy. Good to know that my thought process is grounded in reality.

Man is always on point like a decimal!!! Your channel is a treasure trove.

You misunderstand. They've raised their value. They're ALL 10's now. So they discharged any "debt" owed simply by deigning to be in a relationship with your average billionaire. *Wedges tongue firmly in cheek* I wish I was joking btw.

Dude, you give considerable energy to creating these episodes

Thanks! I’m very glad you explain this concept that many, if not most, men understand on some level, in an easily digestible, scientific manner.

As always, you hit the bullseye. The succinctly combined several past videos, so I think I will actually play this for folks next time I get in a convo about hypergamy.

Dr T this was absolute gold. You're always hitting it hard but the girls won't heed. They will continue to need!

This video is powerfully logical. It's also a rational exploration of women's nature.

I've never hear someone explain modern dating and it's problems so clearly. Thank you

I love this channel is tears down the under lying concepts in relationships

This was brilliant and articulate. Thanks for a great presentation!

There's so much to unpack here. A challenge is that men can see the logic presented here, but men are kinda hardwired to think of relationships in old school ways or men's ability to apply logic to choices is blinded by biological urges to copulate, especially during times that precede their peak SMV. Women might be indifferent to the logic presented and are less likely to adjust their decision making as they more consistently think, dare I say "emotionally" and either overplay their hand in the SMP, or think the heck with the rules as I've got the goods to get everything I want because courts are on my side and men are very gullible.

You are doing very good work at explaining these things in such definitive sociological and economic terms. You speak with great aplomb and are doing more than justice to these topics, much more than anyone else is. Thank you for your valuable contribution to the manosphere.

You have logically and fairly engaged with a subject that is fraught with feminist ideology, and sexual politics. Some women will be extremely defensive around these topics and thus most (if not nearly all) men will simply not even engage with such matters. They will often be dismissed as simply misogynistic without any real dispassionate, logical, and fair discussion. I would argue that both sides often do themselves a disservice by lazy, stereotypical arguments. Dr Taraban is not one of them. Well done

You have a very smooth way of telling the truth.

I always like every episode. You have such a wise approach to these controversial issues

Thank you Dr. Orion! I've sent your videos to my sister in law in the past. I hope she uses them fruitfullly bc they are on point.

Please post more videos where you break down early or currently reputable feminist ideologies and how they play out in modern dating

Wow what an amazing video thank you for this breakdown. The longer I live on this planet and deal with people the more I realize how much of people's actions are explained by economic incentives. It really is such an important lens to view things through

This is so profound that I need to listen a second time to ensure I understand it correctly.

Clearly articulated. Tough facts for all

Men like women for who they are. Women only like men for what men give them. Even if a man wins the game and becomes a rich CEO, the woman still only likes what she gets from the man, never the man for who he is.

Orion is saving men from emotional pain and financial loss. Preach Bro!

This is the most interesting explanation I've ever heard for current intersexual dynamics.

Part of what had made this natural part of the Human Condition much more aggravated is how Consumerist Western Societies have become. We now measure the value of all things in terms of profit, loss, leverage and disadvantage. The more that Humans measure all existential value this way, the more Machiavellian women will openly become....and they are just nasty with this trait already

I thought this same thing over a woman complaning in hoe_math video about how men are financially equal (literally) and that she and other women wants financially superior men to date yet they can't find such men to satiete themselves. I know she sounds irrational and emotional because you should'nt find superior people when you want strict equality, yet this is a reality for modern women it seems. A net benefit value trade, is uınfair for one of the parties. Therefore this video is so spot on and needed.

This was the clearest and best video you’ve ever made.

Fascinating episode. These are some higher level concepts. Love it. 🎉

This is such a simple presentation that oddly, will create an issue if you present it to the other side.

Everything works out as intended. It just takes a long time with a lot of suffering. Minimising this as best one can is the goal.