7-12-2024: We take a look into the dangers of entering the stepdad trap. We explain. ☎️ Join Our Patreon: / thebusinessbroadcast 🌍 Support Tonight's program: 🔑PayPal: handlethebusiness@yahoo.com 🔑Venmo: @JasonBlackTBA
A childhood friend of mine adopted 2 kids that his wife had previously. She ended up cheating on him with the kids original father, divorced him and went back to their original father. Now he is paying child support for both of the kids he adopted while she is back with the kid's dad. I told him that he brought this on himself.
@@rj8457 The worse part is that the original father was never in the kid's lives and the ex wife went back to him. My friend is really close to the kids still and they love him.
I knew at a *VERY* young age that I would never allow myself to be a stepfather. I was raised by a single mother, so I know the contempt I had for any man that tried to be a part of our lives. In my young mind, he was a stranger, and he wasn't my father, so I didn't want him around. He wasn't welcome. At a young age, I knew I never wanted to be that guy.
Black Men never ever take on a Baby mama, she's not yours its just your turn and that means she, not yours...she waiting for someone worse than her baby daddy to take the spotlight!!!!
It’s good that more and more black men are waking up. It wasn’t that long ago that BW told BM that they have no choice but to be a stepfather because so many of them have these Pookie kids.
I played that step-dad role, but, i had a very good reason. MY SON was 14 and playing dad to his 2 year old half-sister. I wanted MY SON to be a child/teenager. That's the only reason I stepped in. His mothèr and I were divorced. And no, we had no sexual relationship. At 16, MY SON'S sister said the words, loud and clear.....You Ain't My Daddy. And that was the end of me giving 1 more F#@k.😅😮
Instead of stepping in.. you should have pulled your son out and took him to outings more often. That would have forced her hand to take care of her child. What happened to your son when he turned 16 and you stopped, did he take over again?
@@DavidHudgins-pi9nt I'm glad that part worked out for you and your son. How's your sons relationship with his mom n sis? How's y'all's's's relationship going??
The delusional part is that there’s no such thing as a step-anything. Society has coined a term that has dudes putting themselves in subservient situations for access to the mum’s body. The biggest issue with brothers is their lack of standards and lust.
No amount of money will ever convince me to be a “father” of a child that didn’t come from me. Fellas, that is an open bear trap that you can easily afford. And no, those who step in that role shouldn’t be applauded!!
I feel like the days of marriage and/or having child(ren) for men to build a legacy are over. It's open season on men and it's too cutthroat as is. Men, this is why men need to have each other's backs. If it wasn't for JB, I would have gone crazy a long time ago.
When I hear them especially from our community, BC say "yall don't have standards' yeah the hell I do, I am not dealing with this situation go get Boyce or Umar for that..even some Sistas including mama told their sons to create their own family
The Jamaican caller with a sixteen year old daughter and three other baby mothers was an interesting call. JB really broke it down there! Also being a step dad is membership without benefits. All the cons of having a kid, but without any of the pros!
He just a 304 in the male version,,, he probably will have some more baby mommas, he just reckless with his seed, now he feeling some type of way he isn't getting respect from his daughter Hold that L my Guy , hold it now!!!
Jay-Z did that with Nas.. He went and hollod at Nas daughter mom, Well after Nas and her had broken up.. ? Nas had moved on.. Hmmm? That's something else sick for real...smh.
I was in my wife’s son life for 14yrs now. He started calling me dad the day we got married. I’ll say this, when everything is cool around the house he’s our son. When I get on his ass to be a better man this it’s her son. I know the world isn’t going to hand a man anything so I try make sure he knows that. Depending on how the child is raised when you meet them, it can be a blessing or a curse.
I definitely believe that as well. All how those children are raised and their morals. I can’t even factor in age, because I’ve seen older children give their step father much respect. It’s really on how the mothers are raising their kids… I’m sure *sometimes* you can already tell what you’ll deal with just dealing with the mother. Definitely can be a blessing or a curse.
Thats because your the second option just your tern in her mind. She don't want you putting beta in her son believe it or not. You opposite of first one she chose?
I just went through the “stepdad” thing. It’s all good when you doing for the child nd providing but when it comes to correcting any negative behaviors then you have no rights whatsoever to say or do anything . Never again! I have one child nd that’s all I’m providing for.
Fathers, it is so important to stay active, consistent, and reliable in your child's life. Especially the little girls. I longed to have that relationship! Shout out to the great dads who are giving it their all! ❤ Biggest dilemma when I got married, walk with step dad or bio dad. Perhaps as daughters we want that connection with the bio dad so badly, it's very hard to choose. It's biology, not logic I guess.
That is the norm there believe it or not. Next time Jason Black should ask if the four baby mothers are black because over 50% of black men are dating white over here. It’s a mess. He’s not paying child support unless he was married it’s not set up for that over here unless you were/are married or seeking custody. If you don’t fall into those two camps and choose not to pay towards your child’s upbringing you don’t contribute. That’s why the attitude is I’ll squeeze you in kids with my leftover time. That’s why the daughter is reacting like that.
in the UK it’s called CSA and I pay each month. It’s not the states it’s the UK. Where many women gain benefits for any little thing. I was at work on a night shift when I called in. And yeah they all black women. Thank you for your summary. Can I ask if your are a male or female?
@@doubler477 I’m in the U.K. the CSA ran from 1993 until 2012. You pay because the mother of the two daughters made a new benefit claim in one of those years otherwise you wouldn’t be paying monthly. The CSA was designed to reduce the benefit bill and any money you paid would be deducted from her benefits. If she hadn’t claimed benefits the CSA wouldn’t be involved as they weren’t interested. It’s not remotely similar to the US system. If you were in 2024 you would be paying child maintenance monthly because there’s no CSA just a body that mainly deals with arrangements made in the timespan I refer to. Female, always worked including nights, have two children, never been on benefits, no child maintenance etc. Have two children by one deadbeat one a solicitor the other a teacher. His firstborn son changed his surname to his stepdad’s because it was him who put the work in on a daily basis. He done that as an adult(not my son). The man has 5 children by 3 mothers none claimed any benefit or child support. If a man hasn’t got the decency to give nothing or leftovers after making children by 3 different women let him. He’ll get his alarm call later. A lot of black men were happy their baby mothers were on benefits until they were asked to share the bill only then was it a problem. Jason treated you nice. A female with 5 by 4 may have got rougher treatment. Must be the accent
@@doubler477 CSA ran from 1993-2012. Your children’s mother made a NEW benefit claim during that time and so you were pursued. If she wasn’t claiming benefits CSA wouldn’t have bothered. Her benefit was reduced by the amount you pay. She didn’t pocket the money you were paying the government does. The CSA didn’t bother pursue fathers when the mother wasn’t claiming as it was designed to reduce the taxpayer burden. It was not about supporting children. Those who were already on benefits before 1993 those men didn’t get pursued either. You used that term because in the US setting it’s loaded. The woman working or not can go to the courthouse to get child support. If you are not married there’s no equivalent set up here. Child maintenance is usually dealt with as part of divorce proceedings. You paid child maintenance for the other three every month from day one. Let me tell you what you done. I can’t give you because child 2 and 3 the CSA is x amount. However you guys have no problem leaving the state to pay you have no problem with women claiming every benefit going until the government said your children you pay. Then a women being on benefit was a problem People who understand what it is to be a responsible parent don’t have four “baby mothers”. Once you start doing that nonsense you by definition can’t do the job. At best you pass through throwing leftovers here and there
If blood is not involved then all you have is air between each other because that's all what feelings are , and like air the direction of the flow can change .
Ciara got that “yeah I know he’s a punk” look on her face in every picture with Russell 😂 Witchcraft is real my brothers. They all practice it at different strains
if only i could get your attention to make you understand how...randomly, coincidentally ON TIME AND ON POINT THIS is for me as an individual right now. i mean i can dodge bullets on my own i'm a BEAST, but nevertheless if there is a higher power not to sound conceited but he is talking to me thru you right now. wow. with a capital WOW.
Tom Brady did what Jason Black said couldn’t be done. He went 10+ plus years in between Super Bowl wins. He won 3 in the early 2000’s and then won 3 from 2014 to 2019.