"It's Nkoka's mom, I know you're doing well, your mom is also doing well, but I miss you, mom miss you, your mom wants to come see you but she's busy with school, your mom must learn, study, write and pass, when the year ends you'll see me, I'll buy you juice, danone, and a bicycle, tell them to show you a bicycle, you will see when I return, mama loves you, but can not come back soon because she goes to school like you, mom's school is far, mom has to stay at school until she finishes then she'll come back to see Nkoka, Love you"
This story make me cry... My the lord continue to comfort you and your family.... May u keep on take gud care of your grandchild I'm very sorry for your loss
"7 years of studying to be a doctor and only practicing for two weeks" That brought tears to my eyes. This lady was driven and wanted the best life for her and her child, only for it to be snatched away by someone who also has 24hr in a day but chose to be a bum. Jealousy is what drove him to kill her.
Yes, unfortunately. He impregnated her first hoping she will give up then he noticed she has a very supportive family well he tried to break that also.
Gents the moment you make peace with the fact that you own no one (yes, even your wife) and can control no one, is the day you will have emotional intelligence.
This realization liberates us from unrealistic expectations and fosters a healthier understanding of relationships. We learn to appreciate others for who they are, rather than seeking to mold them according to our desires.
Sad story, she did not even see her 1st salary. The only doctor in a village killed by a bum (he probably did not even finish high school) 😢. This is painful.
I did only 3 years at Varsity, i also got my 1st job (internship) just 2 weeks after writing my final exam, i started working 3 months before the graduation ceremony so I relate with this girl on many levels, I got my 1st salary 2 weeks after i started working cos it was December & in December salaries are payed early. I wish she atleast got to feel & experience and taste her 1st salary cos I know from experience its the best feeling but that useless boy robbed her that opportunity. May she rest in peace
Parents out there teach your daughters not to ignore signs of abuse, teach your daughters that once a partner bullies you,even if they do not lay a hand on you, you leave such a person asap, because it is just a matter of time before the do the worst.
As a father, I will not let my daughter date a boy who is doing nothing with his life yet my child is going to be a doctor. A boy like that will be easily threatened by his lady’s success and will want to control her and bring her down to his level. Parents must encourage their children to focus on studies and leave dating to after studies are over. It helped me and was the best decision I ever made for myself. Relationships distract you from achieving your goals especially if the person you are dating is not doing something productive with their life.
My dad and grandmother would tell me to start dating after I finished university and to only to focus on my studies and now I am grateful that they told me that. Now I am done and working a proper job.
@@bongiwezaca2721 He did the best he can but he could have done more. The problem is he accepted this boy very early and encouraged the relationship. This is why the boy lost respect for the father and even said that the father was interfering in the relationship with the girl. The boy had not even paid lobola or was working or studying. He was just a useless Mahlalela. The father should have very early discouraged the relationship very early and told the girl focus on his studies even if it meant taking tough actions. Being friends with your daughter’s boyfriend was very wrong,
As parents we wish it was that easy, but the more you try to stop it is the more they continue 😢. The best you can do is to advise and pray for your kids 💔🙏🏼🙏🏼
Mmmh guys do you know how hard medical school is , even for the brightest minds it’s a lot of work I remember visiting my sister at Cumpus and her roommate who was in med school would be pulling allnighters daily keeping her feet in a bucket so she doesn’t sleep and this was a daily thing , for her to get through it and even go through pregnancy in the process get to the end and not get to enjoy the fruits of her hard work is beyond heart breaking 💔💔💔💔🕊️🕊️🕊️
This honestly probably could’ve been me 😢 I’m also studying medicine & i also have a son with the person who felt threatened by me studying Medicine. Luckily i had to move away & i broke up with him over text. He still wants us to go back but i said no. I wanted to say people must date people in their league but even the educated ones can be monsters, and basically there’s no winning 😢💔
In this life, there are many choices but choosing a life partner is the greatest choice you can ever make in your lifetime. Many people who had great success are not here today because of the wrong choice of a partner. With so much exposure that we have to social media platforms like these, we ought to take heed of the trends and behaviors of the people we are dating to recognize the red flags and the possible outcomes. And if you really love your life you will baleka and I mean run with your life.
Pure jealously from a low life who did not even bother to develop himself…when someone does not take time to develop themselves in a relationship , please leave because they will always be spiteful of your success and bring you down…. Your reporting skills are top notch💫💫
As a young black female who is also a Dr, this story was a little too close to home. I can only imagine how trapped ahe felt and thus could not leave him. He was very deliberate in impregnating her. What a heartbreaking end to this young lady's life. 😞
He got her pregnant hoping she would have to drop out and be a bum like him and have her dreams shattered. But when that plan didnt work he was furious that her family supported her by taking care of their son and allowed her to continue with her studies. Thats why the abuse escalated after the son. He felt he now owned her. What a wicked animal. I hope his parents know they raised an animal
To someone who is useless in life.......ouch choice of words. This is a very sad story, I asked 2 of my boys, If your wife says he doesnt like you anymore what would you do. The youngest said I will take my gun and (showed hand shooting gesture) ........ he is 7! This left me shocked and this is not something he has seen or been exposed to so why is he thinking like this. Where am going with this is we need to work hard on teaching our male kids that violence is not only a solution but totally unacceptable.
I get you but as a man, I want to assure you that some of us are not that controlling. We actually adore and respect women. If it was me with a partner doing better than myself, I would work harder at something so I can also be able to provide. The woman did not deserve this. She loved him even though she was doing better than him.
This story is very close to home. The killer was my classmate in 2014 when doing matric in Muhluri Combinsd School , the guy had alot of anger issues little did we know that Shilumane was a ticking time bomb and he used to boost about dating a medical student in that year😢💔I still can't believe it even today😢
Then When he saw a threat of being left to be the nobody who he was…. He became an Animal.. even with him beating & controlling her it was to exercise his power…. So annoyed by this guy🤬
I will never stop telling young ones never to tolerate abuse, NEVER! Forgive once, 2nd attempt RUN because your life matters. I blame us (the parent generation), we were brought up in times where a woman should be strong and take abuse and it was normalized. If one would dare to run away some parents would chase back the woman because it is normal to fight, have disagreements, be tolerant because running away was a sign of weakness. I told mine that a "an alive divorced child is better than a dead child" Dont abuse your ather half and NEVER tolerate abuse! on the other hand we may put everything in order but at the end of the day it's a personal decision that only the one entangled MUST make for themselves....RIP, kiddo. Strongz to the parent. Love from Namibia
Aaargh man this is so sad!!! She had such a bright future ahead of her.. Also that video of her speaking to her son is bittersweet because as much as he will have a video of his mom forever, she never got the chance to do everything she said she is going to do because of his father💔💔
This is so painful because it's like as women we can't win. We get frown upon for having high standards and choosing to date rich men, but then when we decide to date men with nothing, their egos almost always ruin things. You can't tell me that this man wasn't jealous of her. Him saying that he always had control of their relationship says volume. He really thought he hit the jackpot with her, which is why he probably decided to trap her with a kid. But because the father wanted better for his daughter and he knew she had more options than him, he decided to end her life. Typical narcissist. I feel so sorry for the kid who has to grow up with no parents, smh
The poor baby is the one that suffered the most. Imagine losing your mom in the hands of your father and he can't even raise you because he is behind bars. What a tragic incident. Poor baby 😢
Ladies, please be very careful, especially if you have plans to enter further education and embark on a professional career. Some men sniff out such women for the sole purpose of breaking her down or “humbling” her. They will deliberately get the woman pregnant just to make her path more difficult. They know exactly what they’re doing. They don’t love you, they are dèadly jealous of you. If he doesn’t unalive you, he will leave you to raise his children alone. This is nothing new. It’s been happening for centuries. Please stay safe and focus on your studies and future. Don’t allow society to condition you into thinking you need to be in a relationship ❤
Yes. I am 39, single and child-free. I thank God everyday that I never allowed myself to be pressured to breed or to get married. I always said I would do it if I met a healthy partner, but every man I dated was emotionally abusive so I would simply shrug and walk away pretty early on in the dating phase.
As a man, I want to assure you that some of us are not controlling. We actually adore and respect women. If it was me with a partner doing better than myself, I would work harder at something so I can also be able to provide. There are men out there with no degrees but have started successful businesses and are thriving. This guy is a total loser. Imagine a lady so kind as this even giving birth for you. He could have worked at something to provide for the child. The woman did not deserve this. She loved him even though she was doing better than him. The video of her talking to her son was heartwarming.
Yhoo after the devil fear men. How dare he say he felt Shongi’s father was interfering in their relationship. He had not even paid lobola. He did not try to make anything of his life now he goes and kills someone’s daughter. A true psycho. I hope he stays in jail for a lifetime and May her family find healing. Too sad
Another case of a woman dating down. This is never a good idea. Women, don't marry or date down. Chances are, your partner silently resents you or is jealous of you. Be with a man who is doing well for himself. That's just nature and we cannot fight it. Men have an ego and women are naturally understanding. Therefore we put ourselves in these kind of situations where we love a man even though he's a bum. Just because we come from afar and we're high-school sweethearts. If she was busy with school, he was suppose to be doing something with his life as well. But instead, he was just chilling doing nothing. A man must be busy. He must be making means to provide. Because that's what we're doing as women today. We are working. We are busy. We are going to school and working. Come on ladies, do not date down.
What a sad story 😭😭😭😭My heart is torn into pieces.... Indeed we are leaving amongst evil 😭😭😭may her beautiful soul rest in peace.... I pray that monster rots in jail
He definitely failed her 💔. He should have handled the matter more aggressively considering that we have a high GBV rate in this country. Yoh mina I wasnt going to sleep the day I find out that someone is abusing my daughter. I was going to do everything in my power to ensure that shes out of that manipulative boys life. Dad should have handled this man to man and deal with that boy. Unfortunately his calmness made him lose his princess
😭😭😭 yooh ngaze ngakhala that was really sad though i can imagine loosing a child when she was about to become a recognized doctor yazi if this young lady left him during her 4th year kungaze kube kanje cause the changes started masenomntwana
There was another Dr I know ,also she was killed by her stupid boyfriend who was not working and doing nothing for his own life .she was also an intern and breadwinner 🥺.
This makes me so angry! Don't have a boyfriend from so young, esp. a useless bastard. Her poor family working hard to get her to pursue her talent. What a waste of life! My blood runs cold.
Yho he is so cruel hay, to abuse and eventually kill someone he claimed to love and the mother of his child. She lost her life that she was fighting to better for her son, so unfair on both of them all because he was jealous of the fact she was making something with her life without him. May her soul RIP
Since I discovered this channel I've been watching almost every documentary 😢😢 people are so wicked cheeiiiiii , this is the most straight forward and detailed channel I've come across, much love from Kenya ❤
Eish. This story is so heart breaking man. Daaaamn. Imagine 7 years of sleepless nights only to have your life taken by a jealous and psychotic man with a life devoid of any direction and purpose. Fusek my guy. I repeat "FUSEK" 😢
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭yooooooooo...I have watched most of your videos this one cut deep😭😭😭😭😭😭😭....May God heal her parents, son and the village at large...so sorry 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
God😢😢😢 may her soul rest in peace. I pray for her father to be consoled & her mother to have strength 🙏 may God bless her child & protect him. That animal may he gets whatever that's coming to him.
This was not suppose to have happened, sad, sad, sad! Once a partner bullies you and especially lay a hand on you, even if its once, you leave that person alone, they will kill you one day. Leave them, you have one life.
