You are very right I was in SA but left back to EA after the abuse got to much and I lied I was seeing my Aunt I just left with my son's clinic bag, that's Just a short story but don't say when you done n going 😢😢😢may her soul rest in peace..
Am very scared of south africans, i had a business trip to south Africa in joburg i met a guy after 2 months of dating he became a control freak , i ran back to Zambia. Thank God am still alive it was hell.
Thank you for video. I'm glad that man's family came through and helped Nolovuyo's family. There is way too many people covering up for their own and not helping resolve crimes........So it's such a breath of fresh air that they came through with the bathtub suspicion...
@@shaneezmimie3222 it's very easy to do for as long as you leave the first time it happens....it only becomes harder the longer you stay and the more you tolerate
Guys watch how a man speaks to you from the moment he speaks to you throughout your dating life. If he ever disrespects you or does not respect what you have to say. Baleka!!! If he says he loves you within a week of meeting you or talking to you, please just run. These are abusive tendencies. So baleka tuuu please!!! After all how can he love you when he does not even know you. Never tolerate a man who dismisses what you have to say even if it seems like a small thing. This just means he does not care to invest in you emotionally
My dad worked with this lady's dad, my sister knew the dad and because close with him after this ordeal, my aister says this ruined the dad on so many levels... its sad
I'm now even scared of my own hubby though he is very sweet, kind, loving, peaceful. Never had any form of abuse from him but I'm just scared just because I read all these sickening stories about men. Kya Sabisa nje
South African police like to fed information and not investigate the actual crime area or involved houses/ people. Had the kids never enquired about the bathtub this poor lady’s family would still not know how she lost her life. May he get the harshest punishment for this terrible act he did to the mother of his kids and for playing mind games with her family😢.
The bones under my flesh are shaking!!! I can't take hearing these details. The sheer evil and brutality of it all. Reminds me of the Francis Rasuge case. RIP Noluvuyo! Your life matters, even on the other side.
This is so heartbreaking, that beautiful woman that was trying her best for her family and her life just cut short like that. May Almighty God rest her soul 🙏🏽
😔SMH..It really troubles my heart and infuriates me inside as a black man that adores all of my sistas out there to see some of my our own kind, killing off our own black women in huge numbers like this. Every time I see things like this on the Fatal Attraction series or on #BlackWomenUnlost. I have NO words for this inexcusable and sickening behaviour. p.s. Thanks 4 sharing QUEEN👑🙏🏾
This excuse that an abuser is given countless chances for the children's sake is outdated,he mistreats you once pack your things and go you have family members,friends and colleagues out there,this forgiving lets work it out leads to one thing and 1 thing only DEATH because the impression they get from you ladies is that you dependent on them they own you.,let's change things it's starts with you making and taking an early wise decision
@@MsXtines yes, for what? The lady is speaking English. Please specify which piece you Lucia, missed, and while at it, be grateful for having a free video to watch.
When living an abusive partner, don't say anything. Whatever bag you're using for work, pack a shirt or two everyday take something that belongs to you make sure that you give them to a trusted friend or family member. Leave as if you're going to work.
I experienced coercive control it's a form of abuse, I remember when I wnted to leave I was so paranoid about him killing me. He's never hit me but he would threaten to kill me and intimidated me with the threat of violence. I left him when I was sure he couldn't follow me from eastern cape(his home) to North West(my home) due to work. My therapist told me that I wasn't paranoid, most emotional abuse victims think that they are not in danger but they are in as much danger as physical abuse.
@@kingj7034 it's not just bravery, I left everything behind. My job, my furniture, left my son with his parents. I wanted him to have no reason or justification of pursuing me. He got married last year and I am finally at peace. I feel sorry for his wife but I'm just glad it's not me.
Mhsrip. Our elders used to forbid 🚫 marriages with unknown families for good reasons, you don't know that person's upbringing, their vulture and values to human life. We have allowed globalization and desire to meet new pple cloud our judgement to the nature of human. An animal first. Then the upbringing, family culture and values shape them as they grow into humans being. Let's raise our kids to be human beings. Let's create an environment conducive for kids to grow to be real mean and woman. We have so many broken families where kids are raised by a single parent. Most will turn out okay but not all.
Can’t believe there wasn’t a time where he was a suspect in this whole thing, they should have searched the house for clues a long time ago but ke this is SA🚮
I'm not surprised that he buried her in the home that they shared. He seems like the type that has severe separation anxiety as well as abusive ways and refuses to let her go in any way shape or form! That's why she was buried in the home in a place of the home where he would have to visit daily to use the bathroom 🪥 🚽🪠 where he can reminisce about his wife!!! It's sick to me!!! 🤷🏽♀️😔
Staying in an abusive relationship is dangerous, leaving an abusive relationship us dangerous. Just don't get into a relationship when you see red flags cos they're always there.
I think the police did a bit of a shoddy job there. . . Why didn't they conduct a search pertaining to the fact that he was the last person recorded to have seen her... ? Anyway shoddy police work is everywhere in the world worse in the West, there it's blatant shoddy especially when it involves a black woman
So u tell me that he did that all alone and not in one point did he realise that he is takings it too far. He is a monster on note and does not belong in the community
Honestly speaking, this mentality of "Men are all the same" or "Men are dogs" is just very inaccurate. Not all men are monstrous, the problem with most women is that they just don't want to admit that they are just meeting bad men and that alone makes them paint all men as monsters. They are a lot of good men out there who will go to extreme lengths to support their opposite gender partners to succeed in their lives. Even when there are arguments in that particular relationship or whatsoever, they'll try their best to fix it without any means of physical altercations. So I still believe such men do exist out there, you just can't easily find them nje.
The guy abuses you physically and you forgive them hoping fir your kids to grow in a happy family…when you’re not happy??? You fall pregnant thinking that will help? Crazy how people get trapped in these vicious cycles and never stick to their guns when someone gets through to them and get them to lay charges
The police useless as usual, how did they never get a search warrant to search the house right at the beginning! It is a fact, in cases like this be it a man or woman that’s missing, their partner or spouse becomes the first person of interest or suspect!!! Useless SAPS domkop police!!!
I'm also not satisfied with the way the police dealt with case. I mean everyone knew how abusive this man was towards Noluvuyo. So their home was supposed to be the first place they went to look for her. 💔 It's heartbreaking honestly
I find it very difficult to understand why a beautiful woman from a loving family will remain in an abusive relationship AND HER FAMILY LET HER STAY THERE! Now they have lost her to the monster in whose care they left their precious daughter and sister. Rest in Peace lovely lady. I thank God for giving the cousins courage to speak up about the bathtub.
Interesting fact, the family got the lead of where she was buried from our Bishop Dr Mncibi from Gubhuza at Sambulo Church. He told them exactly where the husband buried her.
If a man beats u for the first time, you become a recovering victim. BUT if you get back with him u become a lifetime victim. At every disagreement he will beat you up and be sorry. It becomes a vicious circle until u lose your life. I don't care if he drags u behind his car or it's just a slap across ur beautiful face. I will not tolerate even a near miss. A guy during my salad days beat me once. To date, he regrets it. I left him. I deleted him in every aspect. This was the promise I had made with my conscient and made sure to communicate it to him. The fool tried me 6years into the relationship and I dumped him. Oh boy this is one thing I will never negotiate. I am currently in a very loving marriage but "the principle of no beating or else" remains firm.
