The Straights Ask LGBT+ Questions 

I really hate that a lot of people say asexuals aren't LGBT

I'm a trans man, and I would be upset if someone thought of me as a woman. I think if he recognizes that his friend is a man, then there's nothing wrong with how he feels. Sexuality is fluid and there's always exceptions. The important point is that he doesn't view friend as a woman.

As a non binary person who likes fun hair, the "blue haired non binary snowflake" stereotype annoys me to no end

I've always found the "being lgbt" is trendy/a fad thing really frustrating just because of how dismissive of the struggle both I and lot of people I know have gone through when it came to accepting who we are. Transitioning for me was never about being cool or different, I did it so I could feel comfortable in my own skin and being told I'm just following a trend is incredibly insulting and displays a total lack of understanding or empathy for lgbt people.

I'm not trans but I am a queer girl. I get really irritated/uncomfortable when straight people automatically assume that a queer person has feelings for them. This happened with a girl in my art class who found out I was into girls. For the rest of the time I was in that class she would always ask me questions about if I was attracted to her, gave me random compliments about my appearance in the middle of an otherwise normal conversation, and would gush about her boyfriend and how she could never understand being attracted to someone of the same gender.

I stopped coming out and just act like it's normal that I'm gay. Because it is. So I don't say "OH, I'm gay." It's more like when we talk about relationships It's natural for me to say "I'd like to have a girlfriend that had xyz values." etc. and then people get it quite fast. 😅

To the person feeling a little hurt by being the last to know (or anyone like them) I am openly bisexual and my husband and I have made it clear to our kids that sexuality isn't an issue. It still took my son about 9 months to tell me because he was slightly embaressed by HOW he came to realize he was omnisexual. It wasn't bad, jst something he wanted to be able to articulate better than just 'I saw this video and..." He wasn't ashamed, he told me he knew it would be fine, but it was about HIM being comfortable. and I 100% agree. Take a breath and just show your support. You never know the details of why they waited, but in the end that won't matter as long as you show up for them from here on out

As an asexual it's always hard to have the LGBTQA+ community exclude us. Especially if we are in a heteroromantic relationship. I get it a lot at Pride festivals and it's always confused me to be excluded from a community that's so openly accepting of others. I know bisexuals get this a lot too and they are in the original alphabet! So sad and kind of annoying. But thank you for doing videos about us too! It always means a lot to me to see them.

The stereotypes that really annoy me are the ones that erase spectrums. Bisexuality exists and is a whole umbrella. There are many ways to be transgender. Intersex people exist. Asexual, aromantic, and demisexual people exist. And so on. As long as the stereotype isn't based on ignoring groups, I'm usually able to shrug it off.

As the one (openly) LGBTQ+ person in my friend group, I can confirm that it feels people treat you slightly differently. It sometimes feels as though they are too aware that I’m queer, and end up making me feel alien in attempts to make me feel excepted. It doesn’t help that I’m currently living in a more conservative area.

The trans stereotype that drives me nuts is the assumption that I'm going to be super agressive or sensitive. That I can't take a well meaning joke, that I'll fly into a rage at any accidental misgendering, or be super offended by an honest question.

as a pansexual, the stereotype that bi/pan/poly people are more likely to cheat (read: absolutely will cheat) drives me up the damn wall. sexual orientation has no bearing on how faithful someone will be (or not be) in a relationship.

For the "cisgender" question, I love to use an analogy with the Deaf community. In the US, uppercase-d Deaf means you're a part of the Deaf community, while lowercase-d deaf just means you're medically or legally deaf. Deaf culture is unique and different from mainstream/hearing culture, the same way queer culture is from cishet culture. I asked one of my sign language teachers once, does anyone ever use uppercase-h "Hearing", and they said no, because hearing people don't think of themselves as hearing, just as being "normal". There isn't an identity or culture attached to being hearing because in most societies hearing people are the vast majority, so they don't even have to think about it. It's the same with cisgender people. The reason we might feel weird about it is because we don't consider ourselves to have any unique cisgender-specific culture or identity, so how could we be given a label for it? But it this case it's just a descriptor - it's not uppercase-c Cisgender, just lowercase-c cisgender. We're a vast majority that doesn't have to think about how we're cisgender, and that's a privilege we

I think it's worth noting that cisgender is just a very convenient word to have, as simply saying "not trans" will also include some nonbinary/agender/etc people who don't identify as trans.

The stereotypes that annoy me the most are the “all gay guys are feminine” and “all lesbians are masculine”

How on earth did you tell that person to read books about being trans and NOT plug your own book? That is some serious restraint right there.

“LGBTQ stereotypes that annoy you” I personally really hate when fandoms/communities give characters/people sexualities depending on their personality. Like bubbly people are pan, mean women are lesbians, mean guys are cished, etc. That makes it feel like there is a choice or rather that it’s depending on your personality what you are attracted to and how you identify

I'm homoromantic ace, and to the point where I've removed all mention of my being associated with the LGBT+ community from my social media due to the sheer level of hate we get.

A stereotype that I’m pretty sure is something that all lgbtq+ people hear is that the way we are is a choice, which is simple not true. I myself am asexual and when trying to talk to people about it there is an initial belief on their part that it’s just something I have chosen to call myself because I’m scared or whatever. And then there is the typical “you just haven’t met the right one yet”, that I absolutely hate. I got that from my mom when I was trying to come out to her and I live in a very progressive country so it was a bit of a surprise. Luckily after slowly explaining things to her and using analogies to help her understand, she seems to have accepted me.

I see you as a role model, I'm a nonbinary adult and seeing trans people older than me living happy lives gives me so much hope.