The struggles of Kenyans in Diaspora and the pressure they get from people at home | Lynn Ngugi 

The worst is the wooyeii story

I think to me is not strange otherwise evn people in rural or ushaggis believes that those in cities especially Nairobi are gold dealers.. They keep on asking for money whereas live in cities especially Nairobi is not easy evn sometimes. If class advances to diaspora the more they expect. I think what we dnt know is bigger than us. People should renew their minds by thinking out of the box the comforting zone.

Still it depends on how we represent ourselves when visiting home. Let's not show off by creating a certain class otherwise the more you create expectations in their minds.

Correction... Not all Kenyans are beggers... I've no relative abroad & I work hard too selling boiled eggs in Ngong... A broad people should also humble and help respectful no one is forcing them... The can also choose not to communicate if they can😠

I appreciate this conversation. Its not a Kenyan problem but Africa as a whole and other 3rd world countries. One question am always asked " Why is it that Africans work so hard,double and triple shifts but are always broke?" Sometimes its our own who let us down. One has to draw the line and hardened their heart if they want to make something out of their lives while abroad. Don't neglect your parents and siblings but draw healthy boundaries. Its sad when family members don't care about your wellbeing and the day you see " Hi my sister" the next thing is " Nna shida kiasi"..." Nimefungiwa nyumba"...etc There is a devil called "Credit Cards" - by the time you get to understand how they actually operate,you are deep in debt.

That is the exact truth , with minimum pay job, you can never survive with one job.

@@WILMA_ heheee

Thank you,that was me then,am now In a position to think about myself

Am glad that God has touched this lady 2 air such topics. Oh my oh my.

​@@noemipius1574 True nilichoka nikakata mawasiliano 😊

All Africans

Ba zed kuno 🔊

Thank you so much for supporting our queen.

Same for Zimbabweans and many others not just Kenyans

Fellow zambian here living in Belgium 🇧🇪

Please add volume 🙏 thanks for saying that..

But that is your mum, she gives you more than ever, and she take care of you before herself. *Remember that*

​​@@Som-Hanoolaato aaaiii....sasa ani nyonge,just send her money to buy food,100 dollars is enough

don't let her chock you plss

In Uganda it is worse than in Kenya. Things in Uganda under Dictatorship of M7 movement is a threat to most lives of citizens of Uganda. Please do your own investigation and see how young people are suffering in Uganda, one African country where people are followed by Gun and Machete culture of M7 movement regime.

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@@carolinembithe4544 hugs right back at you my namesake. Thank you.

Are you writing my story? God will see u through

sending you love ! me too i experienced this

Came to Canada as an international student too life was really hard , I struggled so much imagn after all that struggle my brother and father keep on telling me how useless I am , how I can’t help my family like other people in the diaspora yet I’ve been supporting them financially whenever I could but it’s never enough they say someone abroad should be sending lots of money , build houses for parents etc, the insults I get and the humiliation from my brother is insane to a point we no longer talk.

😂that’s so true there’s credit to demand not even ask because it’s always an act, after receiving, no thank you no credit no network, diaspora is like a prison outside a prison we are on a clock ⏰ every minute counts. Lynn sending u ❤from 🇮🇸✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

Make sure you establish boundaries otherwise you will be the sufferer. When it's too much then it's financial abuse.

I hope the house is in your name so you and your children can inherit it when your mother is gone.

​@@blessedwachera7133 exactly

But why Nairobi

Do something about it

They will never understand unless you tell them that categorically and stand your ground

@@MyJOSE2013 Sometimes I let it fall on dull ears, I just ignore it coz it's too much , they never believe unaweza kosa.

We do understand our diaspora brothers and sisters, the hard work you put and the misunderstanding you get back home

Any vacancy please?

Am one of them and am Happy to do me i go to kenya silent Coz everyone wants money (Empty my basket/ Milk the cow ) that they never grassed its annoying.

You can't compare that with working abroad. It's different.

😂 Hii ni kali Waah stay strong 💪

Hahaha hawajui ni shamba la mawe

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True. They forget you have your own financial issues. Growing a thick skin is the way to go. When they finally leave that village n start working watakuelewa.

Diaspora 😂😂😂 mimi hapa Nairobi nafanya cleaner I only earn 15k buutt 😩😩😩,I think one day I will wake up Dead😢😢😢😢

ALL AFRICANS MY DEAR

Not only Nigeria my dear all over Africa uts always the same and it hurts 😢 how our family treats us

Kenyans too

​@@kaninamargaret8025 Jamaican too.🇯🇲🇯🇲

Please don’t leave my fellow Rwandans behind , this behavior is very sickening😩😩😩😩

Waaao waaao wiseness reloaded

This is exactly what I want to do from now. Disappear for a while and love myself build up .

😂😂you really meant business

​@Lang And I do not feel guilty. My siblings do not even ask. They have their own jobs. They got the memo through my actions. I do not owe anyone anything.

Thats the right antidote .Even Warren Buffet a very very rich billionaire worth more than $100b said he'd never leave all his wealth to his kids bcuz they will never learn to work hard.

RIP sweet mama. I tell you me sijawai tuma and I will never send let them talk I care less.I can not trade my peace of mind and hard earned cent with anyone aki siezi.

May mama rest in peace, ❤

Wow bless your mum May she rest in peace. My mother is my warrior, exactly the same to this day. This show was amazing

Ukweli

Hii Minnesota Niko tuna struggle kabisa? Oooh I did not know. Well I love it here. Not sure why your friend felt the need to put us all in one basket but kama ulikuwa umeturn omba omba she probably had to tell you that to get you off her neck.

@@joannejames2855 you misunderstood me,she was telling me how relatives and friends don't understand her.

@@Kasweetie_254 she needs to cut communication and live her life. We can’t please everyone.

Lynn thanks for the discussion, people back home will never call unless they want money. Message is usually "hi tuma kitu"

That is not your family wow

Hello

Very true

😂hilarious!

@@LynnNgugi For real Sis😟😪am throwing this on our family WhatsApp group 🙃

@@WanjiruMuya that’s the reason they milk you. Stay away from those groups and focus your life where you’re right now.

@@WanjiruMuyaME TOOOOO!!!!! EVERYDAY NI PESA TUUUUUU!!!! MAFIA MBAYAAAAAA

Black tax yet inflation is worldwide. Everything is expensive

You can say that again, it's the best place to be

Kwani huna memo hadi wazazi wanakula pesa?

Pole sana. I advise people to “keep your money” in a bank account in Kenya, that is, if you’re planning to go back before a retirement age. Otherwise, the temptation on them and the risk on our side is too high. For them to waste all that hard earned money, and to sever the relationship between the relatives. It’s a sad affair. Pole sana dear. I hope Mungu akuonekanie.

Very true....true indeed

Hau ni hega

🤣🤣🤣🤣the sad truth.

Naked truth

true ooh

You are lucky. People only call me when you they need something.

Yup and your family must be wealthy they don’t need your money

Wow!! So humbling for real! What a blessing!!

Thank you on behalf of our CEO Sir.Eric

yes I say every conversation how hard-earned the money is in the West...they don't believe it...

Yaasss! Me too. It's amazing how when you put your foot down, your phone goes quiet and they then start talking nasty about you back in Kenya.

Amen! Sister. I know how it feels.

Amen! I just worked 10 hours without a break.

Daycare is expensive here, last year I paid $15,890 for a 1 year 6 month old baby. Not easy at all and when you have more than one child then it is a struggle

true

The love of a whole village for free and it actually humbles kids and make them appreciate the world more than our western spoiled rotten kids we are raising in America 🇺🇸

I got off social media

Put yourself first

Hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Keep Shinning Dear ...God Will Carry You

Let's build africa from within

Yes, you can by first learning how to love yourself and to work on your low self-esteem and low sense of self-worth. If you work on these, then you will learn how to say NO. You should not waste your resources on others without considering yourself and your husband. You need to address these so that your next marriage will be successful. Above all, consider building a relationship with Jesus, Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please consider inviting Jesus into your life as your Lord and personal Saviour♥️

I live in Canada & faced same issue. I choose to put my life first ‘ when they call me I don’t answer I text them after. Let’s help but not be fooled

​@@nura1150 talk of setting boundaries. I usually text too.

ADAK, choose who to help. Parents first, that's all.

Choose you. You have invested enough in them. Give strength and power to your own spirit. You will see how when you switch off your phone, their lives will go on without you. Tell them , "You are in recovery." And this time, ask them for money. Probably they will not offer anything, and will start avoiding you. Invest in yourself, please. When you thrive soon they will too. Love the others as you love yourself. Love yourself so you can love them.

True, my friends have a life in Kenya, while I in diaspora I don't even have social life I can 6 months without a phone call from anyone unless I make a call its draining

Well said🌍💪🏽✊🏽😊

If you are a friend, or a relative, love them for who they are, not how much you think they have. You could be doing way better than them

Those who worship those in the diaspora are themselves not in their right minds. I think there are some in the diaspora/a select few, who go in their villages and hold themselves in a higher place than their villagers, friends, relatives. The truth is, we in the diaspora, I.e, Uganda, South Africa, Rwanda, Botswana, US, China, etc, as much as there are more opportunities out here, we are you and you’re us. We still bleed the same. We get hurt the same way. Personally,sijagongwa vile, and I have to admit that the schooling for my kids through college out here, has been a blessing more than if I would have been in Kenya, I have to appreciate. With that said, hapo kwa kutuma pesa, wacha tu. Sometimes when we come out here, given the circumstances we left back home, we tend to think that sending money, and more monies, is a way of getting them out of poverty/elevating them. We sympathize too much and not empathize and before we know it, we’re taken advantage of. I personally came to realize that it cannot be forever. I used to feel bad for everybody. My friends, family, nk. Over time, I learnt, and I drew those lines. I decided to take care of me and my immediate family! I realized that I can spread the love, more love by loving myself first, immensely!