The Style Mistake You CAN'T Avoid | Men's Fashion Faux Pas

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Learning the ropes of men's style and cultivating and developing your own personal style is a journey. And we're all on that journey. Some are just beginning (welcome!), some have mastered the basics, and some have graduated to PhD-level sartorialism. The thing is, along that journey, you're going to make some mistakes. No two ways around it. It's going to happen.
There is one mistake, however, that I rarely (if ever) hear people talk about. While articles and videos love listing things off with more or less easy remedies, the style mistake I'm talking about never really comes up. Why? Well, first of all, it's kind of hard to but into a neat box. And second of all, it's not so easily remedied. The thing I can most definitely guarantee though is that you cannot avoid this mistake during your style journey.
I can hear you now: "WHAT IS IT?!" Well, that's what I'm talking about in this video. AND I'm giving you some effective ways to deal with the root causes. Enjoy!
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@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Have you been there? Tell us about it?

@Boo34C 4 года назад

Mine was thankfully in High School! Moved across the country, so none of my adult-friends have ever witnessed my awkward phase.

@jamesm1424 4 года назад

Great video. I can definitely relate. Thankfully I had some friends who knew what they were doing and helped me tone it down. On another note, do you happen to remember where those honey coloured glasses are from? I've been looking for a pair just like them for a while!

@brettpeters8444 4 года назад

I feel like I hold myself back from using some items I have, simply because I'm afraid of trying too hard 🤔

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks for chiming in!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

That's awesome. Great friends. They're the Cran by TBD Eyewear.

@robertgiaimo8935 4 года назад

I think the proper approach to good style is not to try and stand out by exaggeration, but by good fit, interesting texture combinations and color choices.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Well said. Thank you for sharing that.

@donntontolo802 4 года назад

Absolutely!!!!

@drewbranch7700 4 года назад

Hear,hear!👊🏽

@jeremyemilio9378 4 года назад

What about emerald green trousers with mint green shirt and matching orangish-brown belt and shoes,or burgundy pants and light blue shirt with chocolate brown suede shoes and matching belt?

@orlandoy311 3 года назад

@@jeremyemilio9378 swag

@supersonique001 3 года назад

Could not agree more! “All it takes are a few simple outfits. And there's one secret - The Simpler, The Better” - Cary Grant said.

@franks.1454 Год назад

not mentioned: Cary Grant only had the best available clothes of the western world.

@KenShelton 4 года назад

Simple and critical advice. "Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication." Nice work on this video!!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Many thanks, Ken. Appreciate the comment and support!

@briteppr62 4 года назад

Ditto!

@georgelush1998 4 года назад

We tend to define elegant as dignified and graceful. But another definition is uncomplicated and neat.

@CooLT0531 4 года назад

In my opinion this phenomenon occurs to most men, if not all men who recently began their journey in style, is because it's tightly connected to men's behaviour and general way of thinking. We are problem solvers and very driven in this aspect, and we like seeing results relatively quickly. Trying too hard is the result of us trying to jump from our former selves, the dude with lesser style to the man with wow-inducing style in a short period of time. Yet it's not so simple, and trial and error will accompany us on our way, but that's not a bad thing: it shows we're stepping out of our former comfort zone and are willing to experiment. I too was guilty of this and was caught way over-dressed in a few situations, the kind where my friends poked fun at me saying "Are you going to a wedding after this or you're coming from one?". Still, going over-dressed is way better than going under-dressed ;)

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Exactly as I said. Thank you for the comment and the continued support!

@joseph_alonzo Год назад

I wouldn’t even call this a mistake, but rather a crucial stepping stone in the process of discovering your preferences. You don’t know if you like something until you try it, and the easiest way to overcome that fear is believing you’re well within your comfort. Then you take a step back later and realize that it either was or was not something you like to do.

@hespokestyle Год назад

That's exactly right.

@andreabro654 3 года назад

"Less is More." I totally agree with that. This is a great video. I appreciate your balanced opinions and suggestions. I look forward to your next video.

@tjs5770 4 года назад

100%. I so did this near the end of college, dressing up way too much for a college student.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks for sharing, Theodore!

@philiptoups5501 2 года назад

Thank you! Points well taken. You can never fail with a classic look. As an interior decorator, I totally agree with your fashion advice. A classic home never goes out of style. Same with menswear. Your videos are great. Keep up the good work!

@christophernewman5027 10 месяцев назад

Another good style quote, this one from Hardy Amies. "A man should look as if he has bought his clothes with intelligence, put them on with care and then forgotten all about them."

@juliancamilleri2257 4 года назад

One of the most practical style videos on your channel and on youtube. Thanks!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks, Julian! Share it with people who need the advice!

@GingaOnFire 4 года назад

I used to make this exact mistake, trying way too hard and going too far. But now I have learned less is more and abide by this. I did use to approach my wardrobe by wanting to add colour as you mentioned. I also made the mistake of wanting people to know and wanting to show people that I was into style. I have now rectified this all thanks to your inspiration.

@qarhsi 4 года назад

Brian, great video. Once again, proof that your content is of good quality and sets your channel apart from the sea of youtube style channels. I really like the glasses and shirt you have on! Cheers!

@ryanopfer9367 3 года назад

This hit home. Thank you before I spent too much on stuff I don’t need or end up never putting on!

@daz-guitarmetalvideos7843 4 года назад

great video for beginners. thanks Brian!

@bradsmith4875 3 года назад

"You don't need every color of the rainbow" Agree. No one told me that but I figured that out on my own by wasting money on clothes I thought I would wear and never did. I do like red and my favorite color is a darker green, but beyond those, I now stick to the basics. I'm still learning and did have some try too hard moments. One was getting all decked out in a suit with accessories for Thanksgiving with the family. Ended up with dog hair on some of my best clothes.

@hespokestyle 3 года назад

We’ve all been there.

@CS-ww3bs 2 года назад

A hopsack plum is pretty nice. Kind of looks like a burgundy

@williamkazak469 2 года назад

Interesting how I eventually grew into my style by experimenting and learning more through sartorial discussions. Realizing where you live and the weather and where you go and what you currently need is interesting when adapting a style that works. I have picked up a few things while thrifting. It can be a good way to try different shirt and sweater colors and styles. Thank you for the video.

@DebmalyaSinha 2 года назад

What a wonderful video. It is like playing wonderwall in guitar for the beginners or taking macro photographs of flowers after buying a DSLRs!

@jeffagosi5646 3 года назад

Im glad and found this channel of tours regarding men’s fashion, just like you i am in the forties 😉 (proud of it). Keep it up and make more videos. Another fulfilled subscriber here.

@ogeekrural4872 4 года назад

Great Great video! Thanks a lot! I'm starting know and I can see me in lot of you saying thanks and it's a great learning lesson, keep it classic and simple 👏💪

@abrahamgarcia2985 4 года назад

We are all at one point or another guilty of this. Always best to recognize it, learn from it, and improve from it! Great content as always!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Well said! Thanks, Abraham.

@aidanboychanel Месяц назад

I’m such a fan of your style. I watched your ‘mistakes’ vid and was thinking what has this creator evolved into; it’s flawless now. I love peacocks too but sometimes I’d wish they stop at flamboyance. Also I don’t know if this is cocky, I never felt I made a style mistake. In my cliques I’ve often heard of people going like how fashionable and stylish I am but it’s great advise you dish. 😊

@jerrelncbg6240 Год назад

I'm realizing this which brought me to this video. Thanks for your insights!

@westfield90 4 года назад

Great photos on your wall of great stylish men of a great stylish classy generation

@dgunn4408 Год назад

That shade of green (the tie at 7:55) killed me last year! My Samsung S22, notebooks, a handful of shirts and sweaters, and half my hair scrunchies all ended up that colour lol. Now I'm on to more rose gold and champagne tones for that accessory stuff, but the green is definitely still present.

@atomtamamoto6930 4 года назад

I made the exact same mistake you mentioned in your video: wore a three-piece suit to meet my buddy...at the mall. He was wearing a tee and sweats and judged the heck out of me hahaha. Still have much to learn but thankfully you're here to teach me. I think I'm getting the hang of this 'less is more' stuff...

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Classic! Thanks for the comment, Atom.

@wadebolderman3250 4 года назад

Exactly right! Style has nothing to do with being flamboyant or garish in any way. Know what you’re doing and stop copying others. Be your own man. Trying too hard always speaks too loud to others that you’re being a peacock or dandyish. A little goes a long way, whether you’re sporting a navy blazer or a Glen plaid suit.

@Menapho 4 года назад

Haaaaaaa, perfect!! So, so, true. Especially for those who think they look great doing it. I’m so lucky to have wonderful mentors and those I subscribe to here. You being a recent addition. Thank you.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Appreciate the comment and the support. Glad to have you!

@thenamesemil 4 года назад

Im in love with this channel!!

@chrisfox5597 4 года назад

Excellent video, very helpful and informative!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Many thanks! Glad you liked it, Chris. Cheers.

@matthouston8411 Год назад

As he says "you know what I need is purple" I was holding a purple Hawaiian shirt up to my chest in the mirror. Ah classic. Too bad, have to have a few Hawaiian shirts here in CA.

@jianzlive 4 года назад

Oh boy, I had the "Try Too Hard" mentality and it took me a while to grow out of it. I only noticed it when I realized I don't have to don a three-piece suit for every moment. Now I dress more casually and more comfortably while keeping in mind the occasion and realized I am more respected by my peers. What do you think about how formal wear is becoming less common nowadays? I personally love wearing ties, but most of the outings I have don't really require a tie and I can don a casual tie, but even that feels like I'm trying too hard. It is frustrating that my best 3 piece suit which I love wearing is reserved for weddings now.

@ABC-rh7zc 4 года назад

Definitely a common and significant mistake, especially with clashing patterns, but I wouldn't say everyone falls for it.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Those are the lucky few.

@thavibu 4 года назад

I like Peacocking. Brown, blue, grey is often boring. I hate grey. Personal choice.

@BallislifeXD 3 года назад

Yet another elite video

@musicforall1859 4 года назад

Great video. I have transitioned from not having any style at all, to a sort of mountains/woods style with checked shirts , to a minimalistic style of plain sweeter/turtle neck and over coats (very stylish here in Dublin, Ireland where I live). Have to give away a lot of clothes. Funny and interesting journey.... Very nice channel.

@stephensnell1495 Год назад

Excellent

@blaise7169 3 года назад

Love your simplistic content. Keep it up

@hespokestyle 3 года назад

Wilco!

@mohammedalghamdi4942 Год назад

You are right !

@ricococot3407 4 года назад

True words from u , I've been in those journey

@dereklap1159 4 года назад

That oxford looks super comfortable!

@SoCalWatchReviews 4 года назад

Great advise brother!

@juliushauck3981 3 года назад

I guess a reason why we all go through that is that we need to find our own personal style. There is nothing wrong with colours, if that is you, but it is indeed useful to think about "is that my colour?". So I noticed that red is a colour and it suits me well, also I am more on the Dandy-side of style, but there are also a lot of colours that I should avoid. A great video, and I guess there is a nice point in it. "if you are unsure if this is right, propably it isn't."

@Aaronheirofisildur 4 года назад

Totally right, when I was starting my journey I atended my regular classes in college wearing a suit with an odd vest and of course, tie and Pocket square. Today im way more relaxed and I can totally see what Brian is talking about Great video, keep the good work man

@DemetriosLevi 4 года назад

Same...I use to totally over do it (my early instagram is a nightmare) but now, I keep it much more simple... love your icon btw...ΙΣ ΧΣ ΝΙΚΑ

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks so much, Aaron. It's a learning experience for sure!

@zebwheeler5683 4 года назад

I have to agree, just a few months ago I was walking around in a light grey suit, green shirt, pocket square, tie and fedora.

@caseywai 4 года назад

Great video! I tend to cringe when i look back at my own photos of my style many many years ago. Sounds universal!

@danielgullotta 4 года назад

Yep. This was me a few years ago. So true.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Appreciate the comment, Daniel.

@misteroz Год назад

Christmas Day, beach on Barbados. Me: Navy suit, red tie, black leather oxfords. I wouldn’t do it again, but it was worth it to see the visibly-stunned bar patrons.

@jeanclaude4 5 месяцев назад

😂

@batshapedheart 4 года назад

So true! I remember having a drawer full of Happy Socks

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

The horror! Thanks for the comment, Javier!

@morgan97475 4 года назад

I like my socks with popcorn on them, or spaceships kidnapping cows (cownapping?). But I couldn't get used to chinos that only fell to my ankles....must be a couple of inches longer.

@jeffpayton6610 4 года назад

Whoa, I've definitely been there! Pocket square flare, lapel pin, flashy tie, no socks...bleh. Just TOO much. My style has evolved to being more simplistic, with versatile pieces and monochromatic tones. I love being able to grab a button down from my closet knowing it'll go with multiple pairs of pants and shoes. Plus I commute on crowded public transit everyday, so the less I have to fuss with my clothes the better! Great vid as always! If you're ever in Chicago, stop by my friend Zach's custom shop. It's called BLVDier. You'd love his aesthetic!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks for chiming in, Jeffery!

@48chappy 3 года назад

I definitely did this haha. I don't regret it at all though, it was a lot of fun.. although I wouldn't repeat almost any of my starting suits and looks today. It was never a confidence thing, I've always been very confident in myself ( I think it has to do with how supportive my parents are to me). I did enjoy turning heads for how bold many of my looks were. However, with time, my taste has very naturally shifted to more conservative pale pastel colors (although I still love color), less bracelets, and so on. Also I've never been one for trends, I've always just picked what looks good to me personally.

@T-8UG83AR Год назад

Same! Glad to see someone admitted it... I was wondering if it really was just me lol. *clicks on video* "Oh God, he knows who I am! Couldn't he just have sent a text??" 😂 But honestly, I don't regret it either. I think it's something that come with maturity/age. As young men, we tend to try too hard in lots of things in life.

@Ziel23987 4 года назад

Oh dear. Deep blue summer jacket, bold white windowpane. Burgundy chinos. Burgundy cords, too. Pastel blue summer sweater. Those looked like a good idea at the time. Well, at least the corduroys get some use - they look fine with navy peacoat or charcoal overcoat. And maybe with a future brown leather jacket. But I guess I had to learn the hard way.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

We've all been there. Thanks so much for sharing.

@timjoseph5095 4 года назад

Solid video 👌.

@simonmoses4023 4 года назад

Being an English bloke!!! I like to think we have it close to perfect when it comes to the understated look! I've been into clothes since my early teens ( my mum was in the business) and it's funny how high waisted trousers, braces, pocket squares etc are now making a strong resurgence! and the waistcoat!!! But, I agree, you have to make a few mistakes to get there in the end! Great point!

@bboy6surme 4 года назад

Thank You

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

AGNUS DEI you’re very welcome.

@loganmarino9688 4 года назад

I remember in my early days that I would wear square toe tip shoes 🤮. Your channel helps alot. So thank you.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

The horror!!! Thanks for the support, Logan.

@nicholaslynch522 4 года назад

You have just earnt a new subscriber. You indeed speak style sir.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Sweet and welcome! Thank you so much.

@danbee415 Год назад

I've made loads of mistakes even when researching lots before hand. I bought loads of CT's shirts when I should've shopped for 2nd hand clothes from top makers at a cheap price. I bought fused and half fused suits when I should've focused on full canvassed. I had trousers shortened too much due to not knowing about front rises and how that can affect length overall. I've bought suits where trousers were simply too tight for my muscular legs, when I should've skipped it entirely. I would say knowing your own measurements is really useful. I know for instance which inseam length create a type of trouser break for me. 28 creates a no break look, 28.5 creates a quarter break look, 29 creates a half break look, 29.5 creates a full break look. I'm 5'9.5 feet but this is based on my own proportions. There's loads of things I discover as I continue on this journey.

@mr.v1014 4 года назад

Thanks for toning me down a little. Question. ..I love ace marks avio blue shoe color ...is that color in the trying to hard category ?

@DemetriosLevi 4 года назад

It obviously shouldn't come to as a surprise that I've made this mistake...but to the extreme. Any look at my old insta photos will tell you lol I like color and all, but I realize that my favorite outfits tend to be off white/beige, brown, blues/navy, and olive green. Having fun is great, but the classics are there for a reason. They say Italians do it best and if you look, most of them keep it simple. Great video as always, Brian! Great to see some originality and insightful perceptions on this topic

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Hey, we've all been there, Demetrios! Consider those old photos reminders of what NOT to do! Appreciate the comment, as always.

@twoohhunoh 4 года назад

Although I agree that many men go too far and exaggerate on the details, I find that being to stringent and not allowing experimentation leads to boring outfits. If you can find the balance between not doing too much and having fun with your clothes/outfits then I think you've struck the perfect balance.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

While I agree somewhat, I also think style is in the details, particularly fit. A simple navy suit can look stunning or sloppy. Just depends on how much care you put into it.

@qarhsi 4 года назад

I think the pinstripe suit look will be better with a solid dark tie, a simple white/light blue shirt with point/spread collar and perhaps brown leather shoes. I think if those adjustments are made, the glasses and unbuttoned cuffs will be fine. I need to see the pocket square fold in that outfit to know whether it will work or whether to go for a simple, square fold

@deltasquared7777 Год назад

"Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy, But not expressed in fancy; rich, not gaudy, For the apparel oft proclaims the man" is still the best advice. It takes a very long time and long experience to learn the difference between quality and fashion, and what is both timeless and appropriate to your own body, personality, taste, and age. Brian, your advice is of great help and much appreciated. It would also be a great help if you would describe the specific nuts-and-bolts details and information on what to look for in order to understand how to differentiate quality from "name brand" popularity

@mrtodd3620 3 года назад

My biggest mistake was buying my first suit too tight, and when I gained a few pounds, I could no longer wear it. And it wasn't alterable. I won't tell you where I bought it, but it rhymes with "uit upply."

@dainforsythe7129 4 года назад

Suspenders. It was my first year of paying attention and learning to sartorial elements and wardrobe development. I wore them, . . . three times. I figured it out fairly quickly, I suppose. I did wear them with confidence, though. I will say that. Cheers!

@CapttTob Год назад

Aha! Joke’s on you! Only one beaded bracelet and the skull one is without beads! Kidding of course :) Nice video(s) and very insightful tips!

@Bharatverma0555 4 года назад

Really helpful 👍

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

You're very welcome!

@jaycolinzhai 2 года назад

Your try too hard pinstripe suits set actually looks fine to me. I would rather see a blogger demonstrates more try hard combination so that I would be more inspired.

@lousimms4766 2 года назад

That's how I feel about the picture in the beginning of the video, most trying too hard, not sure if that was purposeful

@gbrl89 4 года назад

The only accessory that I almost never give up is the pocket square. When it's well executed, it can make a huge difference to your outfit. It's something that set you apart from the crowd, even though I've seen more and more men rocking PS's lately. I don't like tie bars, or lapel pins. A pocket square and maybe an watch is everything I need.

@gavinperumal5226 2 года назад

What i believe is that you should question everything a stylish man does but in a goodway personally that worked for me!!! Questioning every details and rules and also good taste!! Fashion pivots on two things proportion and color!! You mess that up you are done!!

@JustinsWirelessWorld 4 года назад

I rock lapel flowers all the time and have forever I've made it a part of my personal style, but I keep everything else simple, classic and preppy. I have a very Raymond Reddington style in modern terms.

@freedomairconditioner6152 4 года назад

Brian, it was sad, but true, to hear you say that the mistake of trying too hard (in the beginning only hopefully), is completely unavoidable. Thanks so much for the words of style wisdom. I noticed that I feel more comfortable, style-wise, with tailored fit (middle sized) oxford shirts. When I wear the slim fit (smallest sized), it is too body hugging. Nothing wrong with that, but the tailored fit is just a little looser, and looks like I didn't go overboard trying so hard. As a result I felt more comfortable-not as self conscious. If the shirt hugs too much, even if it looks good, it reminds you too much of its presence and reminds you of how hard it was to come by that perfect fit. The slightly looser fit disappears in your mind, and you forget about the clothing. I think that's what your co-workers would prefer anyway, so I look 10% less fitted, but 100% confident.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Great points. Thanks for chiming in.

@MehdiScent 4 года назад

Great mate !

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks so much! Appreciate the comment.

@leftdesigner 4 года назад

100% guilty. Great video Brian, nailed it! For me it's those lapel flowers. I really like them but sometimes they're just too much! Gotta take one thing off, good quote here!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Exactly. There's a time and a place. But not every time and every place.

@leftdesigner 4 года назад

@@hespokestyle Well said.

@CrispyFrenFry 3 года назад

This is such a wonderful starter! Alas, I am far too poor to afford a suit that fits me properly so my mistakes continue to be less pronounced.

@somewonderfulguy 4 года назад

Very good advice, I do believe that less is more and yes, I think sometimes I'm trying too much ) Brian, what do you thing of pin badges on lapels? Are they okay? (I've never seen you wear badges). If yes, then, is it too much to wear pin badge and pocket square in the same time?

@gjunior2471 4 года назад

I did not think the look was bad.I liked it.I personally have gotten the best compliments when I'm simply dressed.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Cheers.

@chowychow 4 года назад

Brian, I agree with the fact that when you are early on your journey we tend to overdress very quickly. I'm actually considering to get a denim hidden button-down and pin collar shirt by Edward Sexton. What's ur opinion on Sexton's shirt quality and their hidden button down

@hemigod2 Год назад

When I first got started, I made the mistake of not understanding the formality scale properly. But as time progressed I gained this knowledge. To be more specific about my mistakes, I would sometimes mix high formal pieces with business pieces. I think for anybody on this journey starting out and there isn’t enough videos out there about it In fact, now that I think about it, I haven’t found one. There should be videos out there about the many different types of suits not styles but types that are made for certain occasions because we come out of an era, where men wore suits for every occasion that one can think of including going fishing. I as it stands I am more into business suits. And now that I have the full clasp of that range, I don’t make too many mistakes from there. I do have a few fashion suits, but I do not mix them with business…..

@JonDeauxTM 4 года назад

So true but in your opinion what would a stylish outfit to wear to a football 🏈 game? Your input is greatly appreciated

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

As I mentioned in the video, there are times and places to think about dressing well. I wouldn't consider a football game to be one of those occasions.

@markwilliams7091 4 года назад

I would agree that you did go a bit overboard w/ that get up but, having said that, you still looked pretty damn good.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Very kind, Mark. Thanks for the support.

@briteppr62 4 года назад

Sure, we've all been there with regards to going over the top. As noted by Brian and other comments, it's a part of the journey. To paraphrase Mr. Shelton's comment regarding simplicity as a hallmark of true sophistication. However, complication with attention to detail and within parameters can be done well. The Sprezzaturra style for example is an art form. Though it's certainly not for everyone and it's definitely not easy to achieve this to a level of competence or as functional sartorial art. By contrast, over complication of outfit without informed design skills and factors is not only a sign of folly but can be a sign of insecurity as well.

@qarhsi 4 года назад

I don't wear a suit much at all. But I think I'll have a watch and 1-2 simple bracelet(s). Pocket square, (tie and tie bar - optional), glasses, belt (maybe sometimes, but guess better to not wear with a suit) and lastly some fun socks but not going overboard. I understand that there are a number of things here, but I guess if I keep them subtle and not screaming, they will look perfectly fine.

@nukie404 4 года назад

I think it's nearly impossible to avoid this as when you are experimenting, you are bound to try too hard. Or try trending things. My parents still cringe when they think about my bangs during my high school years! (I don't think it's something I'll show my wife anytime soon as well). Anyway, great talking points as usual!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks, as always. Cheers.

@countalma9800 4 года назад

Really like your unassuming, relaxed attitude. Nice to see the portraits of the Duke of Windsor and Fred Astaire (Fred Astaire in particular is a special inspiration to me). Beautiful shirt (oxford cloth, I assume?), but isn't unbuttoning two buttons a bit too much for the office? I think it is...

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Not my office!

@golfben86 4 года назад

Brian nails it... it’s just a human fallacy. When we determine something is “good” we take it to an extreme, we overdo it...we forget that too much of a good thing is usually terrible, if it doesn’t outright kill us. Whether it’s food, alcohol, or style, there’s something wired in us to overdo it until we realize it has limits.

@c.w.9615 4 года назад

A year and a half in, I have never done the overboard look, mainly because I watched your channel and Gentleman's Gazette. These two channels warn against the common green horn pitfalls. That, and my city would kick me out if I did!

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Nice! Well done! And thanks for the support.

@Bigwave2003 2 года назад

Whew! I thought he was going to say wearing socks with sandals was a style mistake.

@agram4700 4 года назад

I discovered your channel recently and I love your content. I would love to hear your thoughts on overdressing. As you said a lot of men don't care about their clothes so if you dress more elegant, now you're the wierd one. At least that's how it is in south-east Europe. I've realised sometimes I don't want to put care into matching my clothes because I don't want to seem pretentious or stand out. It's hard to explain.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

It's possible to be "dressed well" without overdoing it. Navy blazer, powder blue button up, off-white chinos, suede loafers. Easy!

@captainzal9261 2 года назад

I'll never give up my tie bar, never.

@Jessie_Helms 3 года назад

Yeah I almost always wore a suit, tie, tie clip, lapel pin, watch, and pocket square every day. They *worked* stylistically, but it was just too much. I think that look can certainly look fantastic, but I was tryharding way too hard.

@Andrewg820 4 года назад

3:20 Can't help myself, but that navy pinstripe is gorgeous; one with a peak lapel will look better. Club collar, yeah not sure, a spread collar work better. Tie and socks wise, a plain one will always work. Here's an idea to pull a great casual effortless look: -Sky-blue shirt -Check navy/ blue blazer -White pocket square -jeans -sneaker (white/ brown leather)/ brown derby or with brogues. Espadrilles maybe in summer?

@kabgraphics9435 3 года назад

Nice👌👌👌👌👌

@hespokestyle 3 года назад

Thanks!!

@PATRONSKiii 4 года назад

brand of your ocbd? it looks amazing

@willek1335 4 года назад

I've had my days, sure, but it's honestly not that hard when I got people like you to help me out. I've largely fixed this "trying too hard" -issue by tackling this issue at the root. Throw away clothes. That's it. For a guy, throwing away functional items can be hard. In any case, it's a really good thing to take one closet section once every other month. "Is this item useful for my goal?" No? Then simply throw it away. Replace it with a superior item if need be. Keep it simple.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

I also like the method of, have I worn this in a year? No? Okay, time to get rid of it.

@cosmingosav 4 года назад

2:06 the edit got me haha

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Awesome!

@CH-yp5by 4 года назад

Totally agree what is trending is a dangerous thing to follow, just because something is in fashion or considered fashion does not mean it looks good, there is a difference between fashion and style.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks so much for all the recent comments and knowledge you drop. Glad to have you here.

@trosertrozer 4 года назад

What do you think of happy socks (or similar brands)? Do all of them fall on the “never use” category? I like to wear them (not suited up) and, since I’m not a “short trousers” kind of guy, it’s only noticeable when I’m seated or similar. Thank you for the videos 👍

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

I'm definitely a hard "no" on any kind of "funky" socks. Thanks for chiming in.

@willek1335 4 года назад

I sometimes get mindful about catching up with old friends/coworkers who never cared about style. I feel like I have to dress down before I meet them. The only accessories I have is a seiko I modded myself. My clothes are boring, single colour. The only thing I do use is a tailor to get the fit perfect. Also making sure I get rid of worn-out clothes. That's it, but even tailoring and basic upkeep is enough make me conscious about my lack of concern for kairos, context.

@hespokestyle 4 года назад

Thanks for chiming in. That's an interesting point about dressing for the company. I think it's very valid.