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This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Cam Adair tells a story of our society's collective nightmare: rejection. It's a story we've all lived through before but this one ends with a plot twist. He speaks to the universal experience and paralyzing fear of rejection while exposing his own inner turmoil he trudged through as a teenager. After years of intense bullying starting at age 13 where the fun game was "Who can stuff Cam into a trashcan?" he dropped out of high school. Twice. Next he found himself recoiling from the world, playing video games up to 16 hours a day.
But something surprising happened that changed the way he saw his rejection forever. This turning point allowed him to shift gears to become a successful entrepreneur. Now as a public speaker he travels around the country sharing his message about overcoming the heartbreaking pain of rejection and using it as fuel for growth, connection and purpose. Learn more about Cam at camerondare.com. Connect with him on twitter, @camerondare.
Cam's mission is helping others live life with intention. Feeling trapped in a career he wasn't passionate about at the age of 20, Cam founded Kingpin Social, a company with a mission to empower young men to live life on their own terms by understanding the social side of their lives. Cam believes in the power of creating your own path, contributing to your community and the magic of youth. Currently you can find Cam travelling full-time speaking around the US & Canada on topics of Building Stronger Relationships, Bullying and Gaming Addiction.
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@sirisha5693
@sirisha5693 6 лет назад
Who came here after they got rejected by someone they like ?
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 6 лет назад
Hang in there you've got this -Cam
@fellipedasilva99
@fellipedasilva99 5 лет назад
im here what do you see lol I did 😢
@Unknown_816_
@Unknown_816_ 5 лет назад
Me I got rejected twice
@Unknown_816_
@Unknown_816_ 5 лет назад
im here what do you see and cyber bullied
@coperpot100
@coperpot100 5 лет назад
If you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth But you got to be willing to take the hits.
@antonysilverstone3483
@antonysilverstone3483 8 лет назад
"Don't let someone's opinion of you become your reality", Les Brown
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 8 лет назад
Great quote! -Cam
@Jblah
@Jblah 5 лет назад
Not if that person thinks highly of you.
@seymourskinner5968
@seymourskinner5968 4 года назад
I like the flag fellow Iranian
@IrishHooligan86
@IrishHooligan86 4 года назад
If lots of people have the same negative opinion of you then that's basically your reality.
@abenaagyeiwaaacquah7671
@abenaagyeiwaaacquah7671 4 года назад
Antony Silverstone what if it is becoming
@banquo60615
@banquo60615 8 лет назад
Social rejection is especially hard for members of a generation that has been conditioned to put such an intense emphasis on social proof.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 8 лет назад
yes for sure. -Cam
@ZosiaSamosiaOo
@ZosiaSamosiaOo 7 лет назад
It's not "a generation", it's natural and human to need social validation. We are not made to be alone or relu on ourselves, we are made to seek and belong to a group.
@JMJsama
@JMJsama 7 лет назад
our generation focuses on social validation more that any other generation nonetheless, mainly because of social media being born around the same time we were.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
yep, which means we have to be that much more diligent to ensure we are growing up healthy and productive :)
@zver4105
@zver4105 7 лет назад
This really hit home for me.
@DeeperCurrents
@DeeperCurrents 4 года назад
Rejection is great ... It's the easiest and quickest way to find out who to stop spending your time on 🤣
@sleeelm
@sleeelm 4 года назад
That... makes me feel better actually, 🙄
@abhishek0o7
@abhishek0o7 4 года назад
The bright side!
@BXBeastBoy
@BXBeastBoy 4 года назад
Love this and will be using it as a quote. Thank you
@Iheartlofi000
@Iheartlofi000 4 года назад
Lol true
@bradleyspain6632
@bradleyspain6632 3 года назад
I prefer matter-of-fact rejection over mixed signals and polite bullsh%t anyday
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Hi guys! Thanks for checking out the talk, I really appreciate you taking the time to watch it and hope you take something away. If anyone has any questions, just leave a comment. I will be responding to each one!
@a_bangladeshi9273
@a_bangladeshi9273 6 лет назад
Many of us we feel the same, but this rejection hits really hard when someone is very young. Like 11 or 13 or even before 20, it's hard. I am 29 and sometimes I feel the same.. rejection...but what i have noticed that those were very wrong choices!
@revidove
@revidove 6 лет назад
I just got out of a four year relationship. This talk really helped me. Thank you!
@DefCatofficial
@DefCatofficial 6 лет назад
was it frustrating to hear the laughter? it was quite insensitive of them
@cpard2d2
@cpard2d2 6 лет назад
Hi Cam, l know it´s been 3 years but hope you still could answer a question, how did you manage to make longer lasting friendships?
@kaioeastwood7133
@kaioeastwood7133 6 лет назад
I've been rejected whole my life. I'm still trying to get rid of that
@mesopotamialover905
@mesopotamialover905 4 года назад
Only brave people take the initiative to approach their crush. Also, I think the pain of staying silent is worse than getting rejected.
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
Yup
@pricemutikisha4888
@pricemutikisha4888 2 года назад
Nope it isnt
@mesopotamialover905
@mesopotamialover905 2 года назад
@@pricemutikisha4888 For me, being silent is worse.
@itv5610
@itv5610 Год назад
@@mesopotamialover905 ok then speak for yourself.
@mesopotamialover905
@mesopotamialover905 Год назад
@Average Internet User I know ...
@gregwhite3810
@gregwhite3810 8 лет назад
There isn't any problem with rejection. The real problem comes with accepting that bs that other human's thoughts about us is more valuable then our self talk about ourselves. Those are only opinions but our self talk can change everything. Praise yourself for anything you can and do know you are unique it will help you to get over it.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
Absolutely agree :)
@rosiethebear300
@rosiethebear300 7 лет назад
A social worker recently told me that You have to like yourself better than other people's judgments!
@1984serpiente
@1984serpiente 7 лет назад
+Greg White _ Many Thanks for those words
@jordangould1541
@jordangould1541 6 лет назад
But our desires are important. If my desire is to attract a women I'm in love with and the love isn't returned to me because I'm not good enough for her, then it means there's something wrong with either me or my desires. I can't change my desires but I can change myself. But sometimes whatever we do to fix ourselves and make ourselves more attractive isn't enough. And thus depression sets in
@Jake-oo5gy
@Jake-oo5gy 6 лет назад
thanks man! :D
@bennycostello2472
@bennycostello2472 5 лет назад
You know whats even worse than friendzone or rejection? Actualy getting them but not being their first choice or being like the bridge to their next relationship.
@kalindisharma1632
@kalindisharma1632 2 года назад
What zone is this?
@tracydrobbins
@tracydrobbins 9 лет назад
Cam, you know what really impresses me?? You respond to people's comments. You care. Thank you for your example. You. Are. Inspiring.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Tracy Robbins Thanks Tracy! Made my day. :)
@indiarichardson4214
@indiarichardson4214 7 лет назад
Cam Adair very comforting and informative.
@FilthyFish
@FilthyFish 5 лет назад
Im 3 years late, but I also took notice of this. Great speech cam!
@XHitsugaX
@XHitsugaX 5 лет назад
Im currently 26. I never got my feelings recipocrated by the women I fell for. However on the other hand I never went through a break up or divorce yet so I got that going for me.
@davidbolha
@davidbolha 5 лет назад
Glad you're looking at this on a positive note. 😊
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 5 лет назад
It helps to look at the bright side of things. "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" as they say.
@thereisnosanctuary6184
@thereisnosanctuary6184 5 лет назад
You will.
@Jblah
@Jblah 5 лет назад
Women that dont respond back are not for you. You probably better off anyway.
@johnx140
@johnx140 4 года назад
MGTOW get better and be the best version of yourself!
@silverlining5796
@silverlining5796 4 года назад
He was too nice to people. That's the reason. People don't give respect to givers. I know by experience
@thomasvan3786
@thomasvan3786 4 года назад
Yep, I'm a pleaser too and I hate it.
@shalukashyap272
@shalukashyap272 4 года назад
My whole life is being a giver and result is i am a loner now, i am living with my parents feels like i am safe and protected.
@JasonBrodyForever
@JasonBrodyForever 4 года назад
Being nice is fine, not having self respect is not. At least that's my perspective.
@ghandhi43
@ghandhi43 4 года назад
@@shalukashyap272 I can totally relate to that. But being alone is an opportunity to reboot yourself. Do things for yourself and your parents. Hobbies have always helped.
@blackfire1471
@blackfire1471 4 года назад
What's the solution then?
@GetGwapThisYear
@GetGwapThisYear 4 года назад
I'm 29 and only just acknowledging the impact that a lifetime of rejection has had on me. Thanks for this
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
Wish I was your age and fight for change. Quality of friends is better than being superficially liked by many. That’s my route.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
100,000!!! We did it!! Thank you everyone for your support, it truly means the world to me.
@EddieFivespeed
@EddieFivespeed 8 лет назад
+Cam Adair wow our paths are so unbelievably similar, except for me instead of hockey it was the guitar. I was studying to be an engineer and now I'm 30 and feel like I have to start over. I feel like I'm just now waking up :/
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+Ex EddieB Hey! Thanks for sharing. It's all good, you can bounce back. Shoot me an email: cam@kingpinlifestyle.com, I'd love to help out.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+Alessandra Cappiello Thanks for your message! Means a lot to me. :)
@deejayvolo4878
@deejayvolo4878 8 лет назад
+Cam Adair wow everything you said is exactly me. even to the point of similar likes. I have a passion for DJ, traveling, and want to be an entrepreneur. Right now i'm going through a tough time but want to follow my passions just like you did. Your such an amazing inspiration and the speech gave me a lot of motivation. hope to hear/see more of you! hope to find my happiness like you did yours someday :/
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+mitchel voloshin You will! Keep going, you've got this. :)
@cooldog8856
@cooldog8856 5 лет назад
I have experienced rejection so much that I can just rub it off and move on.
@mrwoodwind4283
@mrwoodwind4283 5 лет назад
Rejection pro
@JustCallMeLiberty
@JustCallMeLiberty 4 года назад
I know the feeling ...
@cashdri
@cashdri 4 года назад
ong bruh
@e.s4394
@e.s4394 4 года назад
Ong bruh.
@armageddon6507
@armageddon6507 4 года назад
girls come and go
@ElmoKnowsWhereYouLive5150
@ElmoKnowsWhereYouLive5150 7 лет назад
Scars are souvenirs we never lose... The scars on my psyche remind me of my long history of rejection. Never the less, I maintain my ambition & self worth. What more people should realize, is that often times the people who reject us, didn't deserve us in the first place... #themoreyouknow
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
yep! and everything we've been through has helped us get to where we are today. -Cam
@scaboi
@scaboi 7 лет назад
So you're saying that we a better than the people who rejected us? In experience, that's not true.
@scaboi
@scaboi 7 лет назад
Penile 1 In my personal experiences, it's the truth.
@randistults2818
@randistults2818 7 лет назад
Amazing words - moonwalked 9705 I can totally relate. Much love ❤️
@JuanDelaCruzNoypi
@JuanDelaCruzNoypi 6 лет назад
moonwalker 9705 that's very beautiful
@fadidabban
@fadidabban 8 лет назад
Well from my experience, it's a battle of perception when it comes to approval or rejection, if a person perceives you as "right" they will accept you, if they perceive you as "wrong" they won't. It is really just a projection of their inner values outlook and not yours. Because universally speaking there is no right and wrong just different. Edit: Thanks for the like count guys.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
yes I agree :)
@brandontadday6288
@brandontadday6288 8 лет назад
+Cam Adair Thanks you so much for your speech. It was super inspiring and I connected with it to on such a fundamental level. I am struggling with who I am right now and what I want to do with my life at 18 and your video reminded me of where my priorities should be set. I subscribed to your channel!
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
Thanks for the message!
@Theforeveraloneguy
@Theforeveraloneguy 8 лет назад
I've been rejected my whole life. I'm 26 years old and I've never had a girlfriend, sex or even kissed for that matter. This is the main reason for my depression. No matter what I do, women just don't like me.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
Thanks for sharing. Read Models by Mark Manson, it will help a lot.
@Urbanscape667
@Urbanscape667 6 лет назад
I've never gotten a single yes. I gave up and am happier now.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 6 лет назад
wishing you a wonderful day -Cam
@furvulousgaming3788
@furvulousgaming3788 4 года назад
Feel you bro
@romkew472
@romkew472 4 года назад
Me too🤟🤟
@hektorbabic5954
@hektorbabic5954 4 года назад
Urbanscape667 same :(
@MallLaSoul
@MallLaSoul 4 года назад
💯
@shellyswt
@shellyswt 8 лет назад
Thanks for telling your story. Rejection sucks & is painful. I still experience it quite a bit even after a lifetime of dealing with it. People generally don't want to be a friend unless they get something from you. When you don't have anything to give, the people who still call you are true friends.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 8 лет назад
Hi Shelly, Cam here. Thanks for watching. have you read the book Give & Take by Adam Grant? I think you'll find it interesting.
@shellyswt
@shellyswt 8 лет назад
+Game Quitters No, thanks for the referral. I'll check it out. ☺️
@dr.abirbenhalima1077
@dr.abirbenhalima1077 4 года назад
true
@Vention1MGTOW
@Vention1MGTOW 4 года назад
*>Rejection sucks & is painful. I still experience it quite a bit even after a lifetime of dealing with it* You're a friggen genetic aristocrat. You've never been rejected in your life.
@superasper
@superasper 4 года назад
Everyone has to deal with rejection. Everyone. Even Princess Diana, arguably a beautiful and charming woman, was rejected by her own husband. And what does genetic aristocrat even mean?!
@ryguyiskindofaflyguy
@ryguyiskindofaflyguy 8 лет назад
I really identified with this video. I'm 32 years old and have never opened up to anyone about the rejection that I've felt since middle school. Tonight was a hard night but I'm glad I saw this vid
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+ryguyiskindofaflyguy Thanks for sharing, glad it helped :)
@blazinbuc99
@blazinbuc99 5 лет назад
I hope you're doing okay my friend.
@Canadian_Eh_I
@Canadian_Eh_I 4 года назад
I hear you man...Im 36 and all the trauma from rejection in our teens and 20's just adds up and leads to more pain and in my case depression.. But its never too late to realize that your value is not measured by what other people think. Only you can place a value on yourself. all the best.
@rail7646
@rail7646 4 года назад
29 on the same boat, I was kinda hiding in my house since about 10 years now to try ignore the reality I experienced, from weekly violance with my father to bullying in school and getting nothing done in life since then. This video was great for me and it *will* be my turning point NOW. thank you guys
@3dmints286
@3dmints286 4 года назад
iv opened up before about it to the very group of people who rejected me in the first place. you will never guess what they did and still do to this day. ignore me
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
It's Cam! We just crossed 250,000 views!!! That's amazing. Thank you to everyone for your support. It means so much to me that my story has resonated with you and I still appreciate every comment I get. Onward to 500,000!
@andreajones8781
@andreajones8781 7 лет назад
great speech Cam. . I've added it to my 'inspiration' list 😀 hope all good for you x
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
Thanks Andrea!
@rachelldara
@rachelldara 7 лет назад
so happy for you and how much you have overcome. even your ability to stand on a stage and share your story is truly incredible. "sometimes the hardest challenges in life put us directly on the path toward the best things that can ever happen to us." :)
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
Thank you Rachel! Really means a lot. -Cam
@melanieorwig5014
@melanieorwig5014 7 лет назад
Game Quitters this was awesome thank you 🙄 you seem so sweet i dont see why you went through so much rejection i wish i could find more friends or a guy like you
@1mannyman1
@1mannyman1 9 лет назад
It's so true, these types of things can leave lasting scars, I was rejected by all of my school friends in my final year, pretty much spent the last five months talking to nobody it turned me from one of the most sociable friendly people into a closed off, guarded and closed off for fear of rejection, I am 24 now and finally realise that that simple event has been shaping my life and interactions for so long, I'm leaving that behind from now on, I will no longer fear rejection
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
yussy yascaleinen Hi! Thanks for watching and commenting. It's powerful when we realize the we've been giving past events more power than they deserve. Proud of you. :)
@IRosamelia
@IRosamelia 7 лет назад
This is surprisingly good. I just hate it when nice kids get bullied; I wish I could've given him a hug. Suffering as a kid does give the adult some type of deepness and sensitivity though.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
Thanks for watching. -Cam
@amygalvin1799
@amygalvin1799 3 года назад
The world needs more sensitive , empathetic people.
@IRosamelia
@IRosamelia 2 года назад
@@Replenishyourheart KL, seems like waters run deep within you, you deserve a hug too
@terkapak
@terkapak 6 лет назад
In Sweden nowdays schools can be sued if they let persons bullie others. Because of that, schools now stops this cruelty. Reson you were bullied was that grown ups did not do their job. It can happen to anybody, it is random, but it is the obligation of grown ups to stop and prevent. Being bullied in school makes life long damage to a person. It should not happen to anybody.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 6 лет назад
Thanks for sharing -Cam
@paulwary
@paulwary 6 лет назад
Its my belief (and experience) that bullying in school often *starts* with a teacher, either bullying the student in class, or subtly giving permission for other students to bully their classmate.
@ImGoingSSJ97
@ImGoingSSJ97 5 лет назад
@@paulwary Usually no, teacher doesn't start it, but often teachers LET IT HAPPEN. Sometimes NOT doing something has as much impact as getting up and doing the thing
@AmbiCahira
@AmbiCahira 5 лет назад
It makes me happy to hear because my school life in Sweden was horrendous.
@radeknaprstek3886
@radeknaprstek3886 5 лет назад
Sweden is lost. You can't even slap your kid a little without going to prison.
@recodromen3318
@recodromen3318 4 года назад
The cure to rejection is to be sure of yourself, while recognizing that everyone is a puzzle piece, just like you. Constantly analyze everything that you believe, say, and do. Discard everything that doesn't hold to your values, and above all, the truth. The more you do this, the less your confidence in yourself will falter.
@josephgottschalk9263
@josephgottschalk9263 3 года назад
Thanks
@vampirekabir
@vampirekabir 9 лет назад
nothing is more painful than rejection :(
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
+vampirekabir Hi! Thanks for watching! It's painful but it can get better and it seems counterintuitive but it can also be an advantage! Keep going.
@vampirekabir
@vampirekabir 9 лет назад
+sargon lagash thanks mate :)
@vampirekabir
@vampirekabir 9 лет назад
+Cam Adair your talk was really amazing,specially the last 3 minutes.........its about 2 years,i cant even smile like i used to,it destroyed me in every way possible internally :/
@vampirekabir
@vampirekabir 9 лет назад
+vampirekabir "the truth is there wasnt a reason why me,it was just me " that was really inspiring
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
+vampirekabir Happy it helped! :)
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
50,000 views! Thank you to everyone for watching and leaving your story in the comments. They really mean a lot.
@pannierfxquanttrader5017
@pannierfxquanttrader5017 5 лет назад
Mine is the 1 millionth view. Hoorayy😉👍🎯
@user-qt8my3mj5w
@user-qt8my3mj5w 5 лет назад
I’m watching this because I got rejected so hard I cried
@hollie9487
@hollie9487 4 года назад
Poor thing. I hope you are feeling better now. Rejection hurts.
@gamalsankara1388
@gamalsankara1388 4 года назад
Sorry mate i hope you are doing great and keep improving yourself in all areas.
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
Please don’t let this unravel you and affect you, especially if you’re sensitive. Ain’t nothing but a thing.
@Osterochse
@Osterochse 8 лет назад
But how is this possible? All media told me that all canadians would be nice at any time. My whole life is a lie...
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
haha we are pretty friendly though! just maybe not this time :(
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 5 лет назад
If you preface a beating with "I'm sorry but we got no choice but to be doin' this EH?" it makes everything A-OK.
@dr.abirbenhalima1077
@dr.abirbenhalima1077 4 года назад
@@CamAdair you're cute boy bravo
@weirdone8784
@weirdone8784 4 года назад
Seriously! Can you imagine mean people in a country with universal healthcare?! I'm crushed!
@ChristianHoyle
@ChristianHoyle 3 года назад
hahahhahah
@stundown
@stundown 9 лет назад
I am 18, yesterday I got rejected by a girl I like! It was painful for sometime but actually I'm happy .. I do not know why some people confuse rejection with depression end up being sad! I'm actually feeling great that I had balls to go to her straight and approach her which does not ever happen in my country, India. I want to get rejected more actually and be an entrepreneur ! A top entrepreneur. See you at the top Mr. Cam.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
stundown Hey! Thanks for watching and sharing your story. So cool that you are 18 and you had the courage to approach a girl you like. Have a great day :D
@nickilovesdogs8137
@nickilovesdogs8137 8 лет назад
+stundown That is very brave and going for things is the way to do it. All entrepreneurs in the world have had rejections and failed at certain things. You just keep working on things. Tony Robbins helped me a lot in my life.
@nickilovesdogs8137
@nickilovesdogs8137 8 лет назад
+Cam Adair Hello Cam. How are you doing today? Do you have your own bar now? I have been wishing for a bar where they play ambient music like CBL and project my art work on to the walls and ceiling. I wished someone could make my art work move and stretch in a video.
@stundown
@stundown 8 лет назад
Nicki LovesDogs Thank you my friend.Good luck to you too.!
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+Nicki LovesDogs Hey! :)
@markkodzoaziakou8532
@markkodzoaziakou8532 Год назад
My turning point is now, on the 28th of December 2022, I am a lonely, often rejected and shy 24 year old. My life is a mess, after listening to this message I’m gonna be better, y’all help me accountable. I check back after 3 months, then 6, then 1 yr with my progress report. Thank you Cam and anyone who wants to join me you are welcome to come along. May God bless us all🙏🏿
@CarSteve
@CarSteve Год назад
You’ll crush it mark!
@aaronheryford3507
@aaronheryford3507 Год назад
I’m 47, and I still feel kinda like a shy loner. Never really dated anyone, don’t have children, no significant other, I’ve grown to really enjoy solitude. It’s a contrary dynamic in my perspective, and I take several antidepressants. But I’m still alive, and maybe all of this has a deeper meaning. Maybe all of these things were MEANT to be just as they are.
@markkodzoaziakou8532
@markkodzoaziakou8532 Год назад
@@aaronheryford3507 Don’t worry Aaron come along with me on this journey and we gon be alright
@gomikago
@gomikago Год назад
Update?
@markkodzoaziakou8532
@markkodzoaziakou8532 Год назад
Hello guys update here so it’s a little over four months, lost my phone and all that, it hasn’t been easy to be honest I tried, and I failed couple of times, but that’s the beauty of life, as of now I am currently planning on going on my first ever date with a girl, y’all wish me luck and I’ll see you guys in a couple of months. Cheers and God bless y’all 🙏🏿
@qalbi_ibn_lari
@qalbi_ibn_lari 4 года назад
I've been rejected romantically so many times, I've never been in a relationship. At 18, my heart just shut down and I haven't felt romantic attraction or love since. I'm 26. I don't believe there's someone out there for everyone. Some of us are doomed to die alone. That realization first filled me with hate, then sorrow. Now I'm numb.
@spacewargamer4181
@spacewargamer4181 3 года назад
I feel you
@francineharris9473
@francineharris9473 2 года назад
Caleb Jesus Christ loves you and if you seek him he'll bring you the right person, those people that rejected you were not for you , even though it hurts
@LW1Tok
@LW1Tok 2 года назад
Bro just be the best version of yourself. Don't think too much about it. Focus on becoming a better person. Work out, get a hobby, meet people with similar interests etc. eventually you'll meet that right person.
@tennispennis7579
@tennispennis7579 2 года назад
@@LW1Tok No just Lie, Cheat and Steal, ruin them before they ruin you .......I treat all people with disgust and contempt apart from my parents ......now do one!
@keyshawnscott12
@keyshawnscott12 Год назад
NGL same I been rejected like 5 times but imma keep trying
@tree2200
@tree2200 5 лет назад
"'Rejection gave me a chance to start again." Awesome. I will tell myself this positivity next time when I feel rejected. Thank you. ^^
@arielgrushka
@arielgrushka 9 лет назад
This was really nice to watch! It's just so ridiculously stupid how kids love to choose someone to pick on, or even older people who sometimes seem to try and bring others down just so they can feel good about themselves. All that related to low self-esteem or fear I would say, but the one who suffers rejection can never see it that way and the damage can sometimes be permanent. I myself have felt rejected many times by people I never expected it from and unfortunately it has shaped the person I am today. Can't seem to get attached to anyone anymore but on the other hand I can never treat anyone badly. Being rejected made me become more sensitive to other people's feelings and that might be a positive point about it all - trying to make up for all the selfishness people deal with daily. This whole experience made me fall into Psychology where I'm extremely happy now to finally help and understand others. I guess everything truly happens for a reason. Thank you for sharing your story with us, Cam! Thank you for your courage and good will! You're awesome and don't let anyone make you believe otherwise. Keep shining your light to many others who need this kind of support you're giving! A big hug all the way from Brazil. God bless you!
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Ariel Grushka Hey Ariel! Thanks for watching and leaving your comment, it really means a lot to me! Hope to come visit Brazil some time! Have a fantastic day! :D
@aurelio-nerdo
@aurelio-nerdo 9 лет назад
Ariel Grushka Yes, Ariel, for some reason people that has experienced bad things from other people develop a non-offensive attitude and an empathic sense that don't let them hurt anyone because they understand and respect people and their feelings... Good video, Cam...
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
+J Aurelio Puente Thanks for watching! Definitely agree. Hope you're having a great day. :)
@arielgrushka
@arielgrushka 8 лет назад
Eamon Cao Haha oh yeah! Gotta love TED talk! They're always good and it's amazing how some of your points of view can change in like 10 minutes with these videos lol
@mef1975
@mef1975 8 лет назад
+Ariel Grushka Im rejected by a fascist system that forces me with its armed bullies to support it while it hurts me for not fitting the mold it expects of me, but I suppose Ill just think me responsible for doing what it is that must be done to change my situation, because of course, if I could, I would. Yup, Ted is the epitome of reverse psychobabble, brainwashing at its finest.
@jennifersickman8804
@jennifersickman8804 9 лет назад
"Don't follow your bliss. Be your bliss." Wow, Cam. Thank you for being vulnerable. This is raw and authentic. I can't thank you enough for sharing.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Thanks for sharing your feedback Jennifer! Really appreciate your comment. :)
@jordanwiththeuselesscokeca69
@jordanwiththeuselesscokeca69 5 лет назад
One of your favorite quotes of all time is "You are not judged by your failures; you're judged by the way you react and respond to your failures". The same can be applied for rejection. You can be whoever you want to be, and your rejection should not change the way you are, but your rejection should teach you to think critically about your self worth and your beliefs and ideals. Thank you for coming to my TedxTalk.
@Truebizcuit
@Truebizcuit 5 лет назад
I just got indirectly rejected, but I feel much better now. I feel stronger! There are plenty of girls in the world, if they don't want you they don't deserve you.
@CoDLover7771
@CoDLover7771 8 лет назад
Thank you for this Video Cam, it has really helped me in my own time of darkness. And some parts of it, I plan to write in my journal, and review them for inspiration. Thank you!
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+CoDLover7771 Hey! Happy to hear that. Wish you the best in the new year :)
@TheCruzanqueen
@TheCruzanqueen 8 лет назад
this moved me to tears because it felt like you were talking directly to me and it's motivational!
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+TheCruzanqueen So happy to hear that! :)
@xo7499
@xo7499 8 лет назад
+Cam Adair you gots girlfrand?
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 8 лет назад
+xoxXOXO l single ;)
@mastershake2073
@mastershake2073 5 лет назад
Everyone is different. Someone you may be attracted to may not be attracted to u. It happens, that’s life. But someone along the way is gonna say yes, that’s just inevitable
@MarinoTarot
@MarinoTarot 8 лет назад
thank you so much! I was bullied a lot at school just like that!!! and also at work just last year. I know what this feels like.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 8 лет назад
Thanks for sharing! -Cam
@Victoria-bo9xk
@Victoria-bo9xk 7 лет назад
Minimalism & Nonduality who would bully you?
@flyaroundyourfire
@flyaroundyourfire 7 лет назад
Minimalism & Nonduality bullied for what? Being pretty?
@Trezker
@Trezker 8 лет назад
Thank you for a very real talk. I have also spent a lot of time trying to find purpose, but the more I think the more it seems nothing has any purpose. All we can do is pick something to aim for and let that be the purpose for any action that will take us in that direction. Then it all comes down to persistence. As long as your aim is on target, keep marching. "It's easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than think your way into a new way of acting." Jerry Sternin
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 8 лет назад
Hey! Cam here. Thanks for commenting. I have a video on my channel about finding purpose that I think you'll resonate a lot with. It's less about us having a "purpose" and more about us defining purpose for ourselves. Viktor Frankl's book A Man's Search For Meaning is great if you haven't read it.
@franklloydriot5933
@franklloydriot5933 5 лет назад
“Rejection is not you” I love that.
@Jay-ef2ii
@Jay-ef2ii Год назад
Rejection gives you direction. Well said. Simply don't focus on those who don't like you. Never look at them ever again and move forward and if they come back to your life then don't accept them. Just move forward and never ask/nor manifest them to life about seeing them again. If the person has looks or no looks and if he or she rejected you then leave them behind. You just time travel forward without them. Don't accept their apologies nor agree to drink coffee with them. Never look back. Move forward. Find people that do like you, and stay with those people. USA. 2022.
@Itz_Hybrid
@Itz_Hybrid 4 года назад
I got rejected by my crush that I’be been in love with for the past 3 years and I’m depressed rn.
@mcpartridgeboy
@mcpartridgeboy 4 года назад
get used to it ! your a man its going to happen A LOT !
@ujjwaldeep4904
@ujjwaldeep4904 4 года назад
same here. she took 1 day and aftermath she said "NO". but i really love her so much!! should i approach again??
@gamalsankara1388
@gamalsankara1388 4 года назад
How can you be in Love with someone who you never dated? You gents were just infatuated like i was, you just need to stay strong as you already are and strive on improving your lives.
@mcpartridgeboy
@mcpartridgeboy 4 года назад
@@gamalsankara1388 I need to improve to get love ? dont people say you shouldn't have to do anything for love and if you do its not love ? how much do I need to improve tomeet youtr aproval of love ?
@gamalsankara1388
@gamalsankara1388 4 года назад
mcpartridgeboy when i say improve your life i mean take the focus away from women and focus on yourself. Your journey in life is the most important thing women should just be a bonus.
@seant126
@seant126 9 лет назад
Your story is similar to mine only at 51 I am only starting to find myself now. Great talk, helped me realise I am not alone. Cheers. Sean
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
seant126 Hey Sean! Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. Really happy to hear you enjoyed it. You aren't alone. :)
@ritamassey7604
@ritamassey7604 3 года назад
I am 62 yrs old and still feeling the rejection that started in my home and elementary school. I find myself isolating myself a lot. Thanks for the video
@estherjoes1274
@estherjoes1274 3 года назад
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@estherjoes1274
@estherjoes1274 3 года назад
I recommend you to (Dr Steve). He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me, I have b e e n enjoying a perfect Relationship with my ex. I will advice you seek his help thanks.🙏
@estherjoes1274
@estherjoes1274 3 года назад
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@estherjoes1274
@estherjoes1274 3 года назад
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@tristramgardner8975
@tristramgardner8975 7 лет назад
Rejection in this day and age is a funny one. In tribal times, rejection from the group meant almost certain death, at least after several months. That's why we react so strongly to 'rejection'. These days, we can be rejected superficially, but as long as we can do impersonal office jobs and get money, we can be almost completely separate from the tribe, whilst still contributing to and benefiting from it. It's dangerous, how it leads to undetected depression.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
absolutely. well said. -Cam
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 5 лет назад
@Keep Moving Forward As human beings, we are still social animals. We crave meaningful friendships, relationships etc. - even introverts/loners want some human contact once in a while. Think about how much we innately learn about reading social cues etc.
@leanhanleleanah6929
@leanhanleleanah6929 3 года назад
Source?
@lelelew2735
@lelelew2735 Год назад
Yea it hurts getting rejected by coworkers especially since you really dont know the reason why. But life goes on and theres billions of people in this world to connect to, dont let one insignificant circle determine your worth. Atleast that's what i try to tell myself.
@vingram100
@vingram100 2 года назад
This still happens and now the bullied are throwing their lives away to fight back. I really wish these videos talked about the worst parts of existing.
@emelyne2232
@emelyne2232 9 лет назад
love the video and shared it. Its all true and you reach people in a way where it help and will keep helping them, thank you Cam!!!
@marcus8786
@marcus8786 9 лет назад
Well, the only reason why those kids in his hockey team bullied him was because they feared him and they feared what he represented and they feared and knew that at the end of the day, he was the better hockey player.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Marcus Freithofnig Hey Marcus! Thanks for commenting. It was a really weird experience but life is weird sometimes. Hope you're having a great day :)
@vikasingle3972
@vikasingle3972 5 лет назад
So final Conclusion: Just face the problems and move on.
@yousuck12268
@yousuck12268 5 лет назад
This talk is so great. Thank you so much for speaking, sharing and the courage of speaking your life
@TheGoatussmoothius
@TheGoatussmoothius 7 лет назад
Your message really resonated with me. Wise stuff.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
I'm glad! -Cam
@lauradelregno99
@lauradelregno99 4 года назад
Rejection is God's protection, I can testify that's true.
@Khalil-pw1ec
@Khalil-pw1ec 4 года назад
Amen
@earthlingavian1132
@earthlingavian1132 4 года назад
My mother said, when i was rejected by a girl i really liked, "This happened because God loves you son." I was confused, now i understand. Thank you lord for your protection against jesabel spirit! In your plan i trust! 🙏
@Khalil-pw1ec
@Khalil-pw1ec 4 года назад
@@earthlingavian1132 Amen. There were women I loved in high school, and I had been told rumors that girls love me but I couldn't because their spirits were ungodly. So I prayed and waited, and God found me a partner. And I pray He'll do the same for you
@kevinbl7821
@kevinbl7821 4 года назад
Whatever helps you sleep at night
@rrated_jay143
@rrated_jay143 4 года назад
Mariela D. So their was this guy that came up to me last year while me and my friends were eating lunch he said some girl thought I was cute, I thought it was a joke, but in reality they said she liked me. Seeing as the school year was going to end cause summer break was two days away I didn’t get a chance to talk to her. The next school year I have seen this same girl time to time in the hallway going from class to class. But today while going to track practice after driving school I saw her we made a good 2-3 second eye contact. I suddenly had the urge to approach and talk to her. But then something told me what if I get rejected, and that might be weird to talk to her about something last summer. Should I approach this girl and what would I say?
@TreetopGamer
@TreetopGamer 6 лет назад
Best TEDX talk I've ever watched, just because of the fact you've shown that there are other people like this who have a limited social life/intimate relationships and with no idea of where their life is going, you're an inspiration, thank you
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 6 лет назад
Thanks for watching. You've got this! -Cam
@tonyadair0754
@tonyadair0754 2 года назад
Excellent talk! I came here after watching Jia Jiang's talk about his 100 days of rejection. I absolutely love the message of "Be brave and take the leap. If you fall, that's okay. Get up and try again, building upon your mistakes." Never give up, never allow doubt to take control of your life. "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today." - Chinese Proverb
@agelessvictory
@agelessvictory 8 лет назад
Thanks so much for this encouraging, inspiring and personal message! It has made a BIG impact on me, opened my eyes and lifted me up at very difficult time in my life.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
Hey! Thanks for commenting, really appreciate your message. Hang in there!
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
You’re so brave. Chuck it. Step to heaven.
@richardlitwin4046
@richardlitwin4046 8 лет назад
Great talk, Cam, important subject done very well. Well done! --- I was /programmed/ to feel rejected at an early age and that lasted right up until recently when I had massive major surgery which has triggered something wonderful in me, and I am beginning to enjoy life for the first time.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+Richard Hillier Hi Richard! Thanks for watching. Happy to hear you're enjoying life now :)
@Jennifer_150
@Jennifer_150 3 года назад
At 42 years old, I’m still traumatized by rejection in my youth. I marvel at those who have overcome it. Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️🙏
@anewloveofficial9137
@anewloveofficial9137 6 лет назад
I've tried being rejected many times whether it's about love or career. I had a fair share of being so down but I didn't let the negativity stuck in my head because I know everything in this world is just permanent, and so as my heartaches.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 6 лет назад
wishing you the best! -Cam
@Oakcreekwellness
@Oakcreekwellness 8 лет назад
Cam you are an inspirational leader! Thank you for being willing to share your painful memories and sharing what you've learned from them. This talk is really powerful.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
Thanks Melissa!
@SakuraShinozaki
@SakuraShinozaki 5 лет назад
I know exactly what you are talking about Started in 3rd grade and I'm suffering from it until now I'm having at least one panic attack a day I lost weight and now everyone calls me beautiful and they tell me what a wonderful person I am....but I just can't believe them I spend every day crying and anxious, making myself an outcast
@amandagarcia6320
@amandagarcia6320 5 лет назад
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POSTING THIS VIDEO AT A TIME WHEN I THOUGHT I HAD TRULY HIT "rock bottom" and I did not believe I would ever find a message like this that HELPED ME SO MUCH!......this message that you wrote is soooooooooo inspirational and helpful to so many people, so THANK YOU so much for making and posting this:-) This channel is wonderful and everyone's comments are fantastic!
@alwaysfactsnever1311
@alwaysfactsnever1311 5 лет назад
Your story is an amazing inspiration. To go out basically five years and study to break out of what I imagine was a self perceived stigma that you couldn't make friends, is amazing. Peace and love, brother.
@jelenadelibasic8390
@jelenadelibasic8390 8 лет назад
By the way, I love your speech. So honest and inspiring. Thank you
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
Thanks for the message Jelena!
@javierbocanegra9984
@javierbocanegra9984 7 лет назад
what a great talk, it spoke to me even made me tear a bit "you are not alone" thanks man!
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
Thanks Javier! -Cam
@kunheo3184
@kunheo3184 5 лет назад
This truly is one of the greatest videos on youtube. This kinds of opportunities for soul searching is the only reason why i am still on youtube. Thank you Cam
@cherylduckworth11
@cherylduckworth11 2 года назад
That was really a beautiful sweet talk. I am up in the middle of the night not able to sleep thinking about this subject. My heart broke for you in your early days, however what you learned from it really help me tonight in the middle of the night. Thank you for your brave testimony.
@joycedjajasaputra7410
@joycedjajasaputra7410 4 года назад
I can relate to rejection by own mother, friends at school, prospective employers etc.
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
The greatest love of all to you. I understand💕
@GingerKern
@GingerKern 9 лет назад
Love your courage, Cam. Thank you for sharing your story, your humanity, your light.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Thanks Ginger! So happy to be on this journey with you. :)
@darkesttimeline7026
@darkesttimeline7026 5 лет назад
Wow your Ted Talk is one of the best I've ever seen! Great job as this applies so much to me right now. Thanks for changing my life for the better!
@LolPhailz
@LolPhailz 5 лет назад
This made me cry.. I was rejected by my parents who neglected me, middle schoolers and high schoolers where I sat by myself throughout 9 grades, was always picked last... every time I made an attempt to sit by someone. I "stole" someone's seat or continued to sit there with my heart and head low while the kids around me would make comments towards each other or me until they moved and I pretended to ignore them. I dropped out of everything even sports, band, etc because everytime someone in class would see me or heard me doing something I wanted to do, countless of kids... ( 2 grades worth ) would just bully me constantly until I just got hardened and thought it was easier to drop out because of my lack of emotions and interest... it still affects me today. I tried to go for Nursing and thought college would be different. Gave several kids my phone number for their study group but I never got a phone call and the next day I would hear how fun and helpful it was.. I dropped out. It's an neverending cycle.. honestly.
@ChristopherToro
@ChristopherToro 5 лет назад
Rejection makes you feel worthless, took the time away from smoking to watch this. Glad I did.
@hollyrichmond5213
@hollyrichmond5213 4 года назад
I’ve been rejected all of my life started in school was bullied and then rejected and used by different men and friends. Every time I thought I had a friend would be one sided friendship. I’ve learnt rejection isn’t bad it’s God’s protection. It hurts but now I accept what it is and try and move on
@pagusmusic6254
@pagusmusic6254 3 года назад
What an inspiration he is, brilliant talk, love it! It’s so hard to accept rejection but it’s an important part of life which touches everyone at some point, we just need to look at it the way he does!
@gutobernardo7457
@gutobernardo7457 2 года назад
I just want to thank you Cam! The moment you said "You are not alone" in the end truly hit me and I started crying immediately with relief listening that. My history is not of many rejections, but full of the fear of being rejected, so I related so much with yours. I take your words very kindly and I want to seek my own change. Thank you again!
@elizabethbennet4791
@elizabethbennet4791 6 лет назад
99% of people in this world hate genuinely happy people- Do you know why? BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT FAKING IT. Most people are. Sad sad sad!
@thereisnosanctuary6184
@thereisnosanctuary6184 5 лет назад
I like making happy people unhappy. Makes me happy.
@tortture3519
@tortture3519 5 лет назад
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Nice bait
@fredocorleone3280
@fredocorleone3280 7 лет назад
I was a small kid in elementary (usually the smallest boy), but I learned taekwondo when I was 5 years old. I went to pretty tough schools and had to fight a lot at every new school I went to. I had to "prove myself" at these schools. I could beat up kids twice my size. I would beat up bullies when they would bother me. I would protect smaller, weak kids from bullies...many times I'd ask younger bullies to fight me instead of the "weak kid" they were bothering...those young "weak kids" saw me as their hero. I was the smartest boy in every class I had and I could outwit most anyone my age. If somebody insulted me I would just laugh at them or correct their English or something like that and embarrass them in front of everyone. If they got physically violent with me, I would try to hit them twice as hard as they could hit me. I lost a handful of fights, but I would always fight so hard that most kids would never want to fight me again - this seemed to always end any bullies from bothering me for long. If you're a kid getting bullied at bad schools, learn a martial arts. Perhaps you could also get a small hidden camera and document the bullying behavior first... If you're an adult and you feel like you're getting bullied still, go work out at the gym and lift weights - the weight lifting and new muscles will increase your testosterone levels and subsequently, change the way you think. Now that I'm an adult, I still don't tolerate bullies when they bother someone, I still do my thing with them too. A dish served cold... Bullies need their boundaries tested, otherwise they never stop.
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
I definitely agree that a martial arts skill would help a lot. not even to use it but the confidence you carry knowing you can. thanks for sharing. -Cam
@pharmitary_raz
@pharmitary_raz 4 года назад
You had a powerful message! Love it! “You define you!!!”
@Bruno-tm3xo
@Bruno-tm3xo 4 года назад
You have balls of steel mate to come out like this because this is also what much older people than you go through. You are a warrior
@nimim.markomikkila1673
@nimim.markomikkila1673 8 лет назад
Rejection feels tough, because the same brainarea activates as when feeling real physical pain. For evolutionary reasons. Back in the day, we couldn´t survive on our own, we had to be part of the group. (Of course, we still need others, but we are able to live single and survive.)
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+nimim. Marko Mikkilä YEs you are correct. Thanks for watching! :)
@Salvation7
@Salvation7 7 лет назад
Cam Adair When I say 'hey' to women on social media, they NEVER respond. I guess these women are part of 'Victim Culture' huh?
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 5 лет назад
@@Salvation7 - or they don't like responding to random people over social media. I know it's the accepted default male ego, but not every woman is going to be interested in you (I know wherein I speak), but there are a LOT of women out there and you're statistically likely to find someone you are compatible with if you keep at it.
@Salvation7
@Salvation7 5 лет назад
@@yellowblanka6058 I don't look for no woman, I manifest it.
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 5 лет назад
@@Salvation7 Ooook. Best of luck.
@solomon.riversflow
@solomon.riversflow 5 лет назад
12:45 Out of our biggest rejection comes our biggest sense of direction 🤯
@vincentmack37
@vincentmack37 5 лет назад
I love these videos that tell you the thing you dread the most is even worse than you ever imagined.
@jacobberen9723
@jacobberen9723 8 лет назад
loved your speech cam! so heartfelt, so real, bravo man, you're a massive inspiration
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 8 лет назад
+Jacob Beren Thanks Jacob!
@Egonboomer2
@Egonboomer2 9 лет назад
Really touching story. Great job coming up from that - you were an underdog. But now you're starting to win. :) It's inspiring.
@CamAdair
@CamAdair 9 лет назад
Hi Ludvig, thanks for leaving your comment. Glad you enjoyed the talk brother :)
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
You got my support.
@pricemutikisha4888
@pricemutikisha4888 2 года назад
What really hurts when you want to be friends with other people who were rejected thinking because they were hurt they wouldnt hurt you back but they end up destroying you emotionally more than that the other people who hurt them
@rodneynoble6046
@rodneynoble6046 4 года назад
Over seen alot of talks like this, but this one was one of the best. He made his point very clearly, brought his examples to life
@anhpam9205
@anhpam9205 4 года назад
Very well spoken.Good for you Cam! I'm 62 and could use a lift after a lifetime of this sort of thing. Glad you've figured things out an d turned life around much earlier.
@richardlau2447
@richardlau2447 2 года назад
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@HiKasandra
@HiKasandra 9 лет назад
I learnt from your talk. Thought u were a good speaker n encouraging! Thanks!
@leojanuszewski1019
@leojanuszewski1019 4 года назад
What stands out to me is this gentleman's resilience. And intelligence.
@kickbuttme
@kickbuttme 4 года назад
You rock. so strange and unfair why you got treated like that in school. " Be your own bliss" is the key to happiness. Very wise, my friend.
@marieschell6888
@marieschell6888 4 года назад
Really a fantastic motivational speech! It actually helps when trying to cope with different kinds of rejection 🥺. It doesn’t always have to be the guy who’s not into you or the job you wanted but didn’t get. Sometimes it just feels as if life rejects you as everything you’re trying to improve your situation actually seems to make it worse. But then again, call me naive or not, I still believe Cam is right after all. Maybe rejection just shows you that what you’re doing is not the right thing after all, so you gotta keep on moving on, not giving up, and just keep on trying.
@ligmaballs2013
@ligmaballs2013 7 лет назад
That was hella good
@GameQuitters
@GameQuitters 7 лет назад
thanks :) -Cam
@bigballs3095
@bigballs3095 4 года назад
Thank you for the new perspective I honestly needed this today life is getting real tough and lonely and isolating and depressing for me again this definitely helped in some real good ways.
@BulletproofGoals
@BulletproofGoals 3 года назад
It sucks even more, when the girl u get rejected by is actually a decent person who is kind and has a wholesome personality, just that she was never into you, its actually extremely hard to remain sane after that, it affects ur job, relationship with family, ur whole vibe becomes worse. One thing you can do is: First of all have some alone time, cry alot if u can, and throw that misery away from ur system 2nd thing : Go to the nearest restaurant and order some nice food, and eat to ur hearts delight, and give left over to a dog on the street, Third thing : Make sure u dont text family and friends, as much as u can, try to deal with it on ur own, cus they will give the wrong ideas even if they want to help Four : Do some exercise, and make a healthy approach to life, word hard at ur job, and watch some comedy at break times Five : Talk to friends about stuff u can do with them, like sports, bond more, get more connections through them Other steps: Go to a star bucks, order a water, do something creative besides work, so u can work towards a goal(ALWAYS HAVE GOALS, rejection shud never destroy that part of u)
@communist1831
@communist1831 5 лет назад
My crush was my only motivation I really tried my best but sometimes your best isn’t good enough
@carmacharmella2769
@carmacharmella2769 4 года назад
Your best was too much for your crush. Basically they couldn’t handle you
@queenmisanthrope
@queenmisanthrope 4 года назад
This popped up in my recommended videos. I always feel lonely even when I’m with a group of people. I believe that’s when it’s at its worst. I started going out more to social outings that interest me like poetry/music events and have been struggling to open up to people because they don’t really open up to me either and it feels like a waste. I also have a fear of rejection because I always expect the worst. I’m still trying and to be more positive I keep a journal which I share weekly about the good things that have happened to me on a daily basis. I plan to do this for the rest of my life.
@next-next-finish
@next-next-finish 2 года назад
I hope you’re ok now
@RAJ1
@RAJ1 5 лет назад
I used to be broken by rejection. I didn't fit in. I was the misfit. I was the one who was made sport of. I asked the questions of why my kindness wasn't appreciated. Why I couldn't gain the relationships I desired? Why the inter-relationships I wanted to reach were good as stars in outer space. I still endure loneliness. I started to take rejection as a gift. It allowed me to look inside of myself and appreciate where I came from and where I'm going. It deepened my relationship with Christ to make me know that I belonged to him. Even when people close to me fell apart, he was still there for me.
@royadair1402
@royadair1402 5 лет назад
@Cam ....Greetings from the U.S.A. 🇺🇸 Your presentation was bold, informative , straight forward and I enjoyed your Ted Talk .. You done well Cam . Takes courage to stand up in front of an audience and to express what you went through , where you are going and how to achieve it. Never own rejection ... very encouraging.
@christoferbuckley8258
@christoferbuckley8258 5 лет назад
I been rejected all thrw high school and now I still don't know how deal with it
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