The truth about being an Empath. 

I felt the same more thn others. I M improving

I am an empath I was raised with guradians almost 50 yrs older than me when they got me molestation and beatings were normal life. Even after turning 15 and revealing this trauma I was still pushed aside by family and their status of the perpetrators shouldn't be revealed. This happened in the early 1960's...I am now almost 66 and it seems being alone is my best option. No one truly understands us. And yes I do believe I have a gift like no other.

So incredibly helpful 🙏🏼❤️

Wish you were offering group public gatherings....just so I could experience being around someone like me

I don't know what the point of being an empath would be, if you weren't willing to go out and help people? That would in itself be kinda "sociopathic". Empaths are stronger than just being a witness to suffering, or a bystander. At least, PoC empaths should help their people when it comes to imperial wars and White Supremacy. Can't really talk for White people here... I believe they do tend to be passive enablers who watch the drone war of their society from afar and not feel responsible at all.

OH MY GOD. Your comment just blew my mind. Because same... 👀 so much is makin sense

Lolll fvck me 2 decades shite you hit the nail in the head! Cheers to us moving on!

Thank you! Spent forever absorbing other people's emotions.

You may have opened my eyes... Thank you...

This hit me SO HARD I'm shook 😮

Totally true.

Evie Raines frisky ponies lmao.

Oh damn...I feel like this is like what's happened to me. I used to have a ton of empathy, now I just shut down around emotion because I don't know what I feel or want because I feel like everyone is in my face and down my throat. I've just completely shut down. My whole life has shut down. :( I don't know how to come out of shutdown. :( I had a nervous breakdown and gave up.

@@WhimsicalPorpoise Me too!!! Started having major panic attacks. I have shut down. It doesn't feel normal to me. Really stressing about it.

yup

I'm getting to that point of not caring for my nex. But having no emotion for him is it normal because I go through my ups and downs. Trauma bonds. Any advice?

I am

I feel pure evil from them (ex of 13 years)- I can’t be in a room with him, or be in his energy at all. I shake - I feel the ooze of evil seeping through his skin. How can he look at me in the eye and other people? It just creeps me out. We are delicacies for these monsters

past 18 months have painfully proven that for an empath there are more narcissists running around that you could have ever imagined

@@timohaikarainen3957 aka the left 🤣

You’re NOT alone! There are plenty of us empaths around! 🙏 💝

Yes, that part of his talk also struck a nerve. I am at a time of my life where I have accepted this trait that I have, but I feel very lonely in this place. The lack of empathy in this world is still something that I cannot accept.

Struck a nerve to me too, I absolutely stopped watching movies and watching the daily news. It bothers me too much. I thought I was just weird.

I couldn’t watch Americas Funniest Home Videos when I was a kid because so many of them were about being injured and all I could think was “ why are they laughing at the person who got hurt? This isn’t funny at all.” I was called a crybaby for that and that I wasn’t any fun or wasn’t tough enough because I never wanted to watch it or play pranks or rough house. I can’t say I was grateful for being an empath though, it’s draining and I sometimes and find myself jealous of other people who got to be normal kids.

"I feel like if I could just be an asshole and only think about myself like everyone else, I'd be a lot happier" is definitely a thing I have said to friends before. I have regularly felt like I wasn't built for this current world. Narcissists constantly seem to find me and I *definitely* struggle with thinking about their needs before my own way too much before I realize it's too late to set healthy boundaries.

Me too! Today I had a build up of errands and am happy to be back home. My friend thinks I'm depressed but I'm not, in the least. It's just hard to explain that I thrive in my own little space 😊 and don't want or need outside interference...

It does not have to be.

I feel you. I don’t go out.

Someone Somewhere OMG I feel the same way!

same here and lately its been stronger then ever...

that realllly hit home for me as well. It connected dots for me that I didn't understand before and made me feel less like a crazy person knowing there are other people who have this too. ❤️

@@meredithellen620 its more deeper than that. When you become older it makes life harder to want to live. You feel like an outsider to the world and sit in your home. I use music and cannabis to make things enjoyable.

Same I thought I was crazy bc I thought I’ve felt like I’ve been through so much

Yikes

the power of scares and battles between good and evil (yes, evil) is real too. For me God is Love. Does Love win in the end? YES! Amen. If you want to be a super super empath have faith in Jesus who paid the penalty for all our sins and frees us from the guilt and shame we carry. And the through His resurrection, He defeated death and the grave. Even death loses its power but LOVE last forever.

So relatable! Best wishes to you, ma'am!

Well said !💝💝💝

63 & survived a narcissistic mother. I, was the scapegoat and she, worked hard as she could to break me…my spirit. But I survived and as I learn about the dynamics in my family I’ve grown. Taking control now and using my super power to be my authentic self, without shame. Being me, with extreme joy!!!! My mother too, was unpredictable & my father was her enabler. It was hell growing up in that household. As I’m learning about narcissistic mothers, I’m shedding both parents, learning boundaries are absolutely necessary (to ensure my mental health), growing & beginning to thrive. Take care of you…..you, are the only you, you have 🥰😉❤️. Love all you empaths.

Same

SAME

I’m 65 and looking for a way to be around people. I have to sleep and rest way too much for it to be worth it. I wish I knew how empathic counselors do it!

Same

Same

I hope by now, a year after you wrote this post, that you’ve quit hitting your head against the wall of their refusal to receive your help. Cut your losses and take care of yourself, and accept that that’s where that person is/was. Let it go!

ive tried to tell my friends about how im an empath without directly using the word so they dont call me crazy and they keep telling me that "youre imagining things you need to take better care of yourself" EVEN AFTER IVE DIRECTLY SAID ITS BEEN GOING ON EVEN WHEN I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF

That's my life

So so so true .. but at the end of the day as we grow , we do realize how that is toxic for us emphaths .. and we learn more how we can and need to focus on nurturing ourselves , and we find ourselves distancing ourselves slowly from who are toxic to us and share our power to those who truly need it .. you find yourself still supporting that person and being there for them especially a loved person , but from a distance .. and it’s okay , we need to remind ourselves that it’s okay , it’s okay to take care of ourselves , it’s okay to nurture ourselves, it’s okay to distance ourselves for a while , it’s just okay to breathe for a sec ..

Some people just dont want to get out of that rut. So, you stay in the rut alongside them, just to make sure they survive the rut. And as the video says about the family dichotomy affecting the boundaries of an empathethic person, it is quite obvious that we have come from a rut ourselves. And it wouldn’t be too wrong to say that as time passes we start to empathize with the concept of a rut signifying with the concept of home or a family.

@Npc some traits

Patrizia Meja me too...

Hey go on Amazon and get this book, "The EMPATHS SURVIVAL GUIDE," by Judith Orloff. Its easy and inderstandable read. It will help a lot. I promise.

Being an empath combined with the Ni-Ti loop is what makes my life hell. I have to work out (extravert myself) like a maniac to get myself out of that hell hole.

Lmao being a narcissistic asshole is hard now? Fake ass “empaths” 😂

Me too. I've never felt at home. I feel like home is somewhere, but not it's definately not here.

Me too, very much so. We need our own planet.

This is how I feel as a baseline. It’s exhausting. Having a good female friend I could hang out with/laugh with would really help me I think but I just stay in my room all day soooo that’s not gonna happen lol

@@Alex-rh8mr I'm the same way, I prefer to stay in my house all day. It sounds sad, but the world is just so mentally exhausting. Since I've gotten older, I'd just love to have one friend to spend time with on a consistent basis who doesn't drain my energy. Being an INFJ often feels very isolating and lonely, I really hope you find your person.

manda nicole same to you boo💕

I did too, my mother was bi-polar or a different cluster b personality disorder, I had to get intune so I could avoid the mood shifts

i hope both of you are healthy and well in these crazy times xx

Me too girl

Same. I'm quite sure that my childhood is what made me an ENFJ. I grew up between my INFP mother and my ENTJ father. Without going into too many details (it could be a book, lol), my life as a child was about mediating other people's emotions and stabilizing conflicts. I'm sure that molded my Fe.

same

💯💯💯

Vanessa Kershaw well said.

Perfectly said

Beautifully written.

Can this mean that empaths can become their ‘opposite’ when they sense the emotions, or lack of, of sociopaths?

Isobel Necessary Interesting question:)

Maybe being an empath is the reason I’m also an idealist-and I refuse to let go of those ideals.

@@ginalibrizzi5204 It is. It's a higher capacity to love. If you are into astrology it correlates to the Neptune/Piscean archetype.

i have a therapist and im planning on talking to her about all of my feelings and stuff about other peoples feelings that i feel

I did that too! when I found out more about slavery at 12, I cried for a week, hiding in my room. it was so painful.

Perfectly said!!!

Great description. I've learned that after several fails...

I did that once more and I stayed in the darkness for weeks and now it’s harder for me to use it 😕

From my personal experiences! ! If you really need to rescue someone from the place they're in , my free advice will be Try to Do it from a far first as straightforward contact with others can double weakness you as most probably you are not use to their energies . 🛇

This is not said often enough tbh

Wow, my brother and I just spoke on this!

I accidentally watched a youtube video of a real prison stabbing. It was horrific. I felt it for days and days... fake acting doesnt always disturb me, but real videos scare the crap out of me

i don’t feel this much with movies, i feel this especially when listening to sad music because it’s typically authentic and based on real emotions

LOL

I have always thought I was weak for not being able to watch intense movies. the physical and emotional distress of people on screen made be really sick to my stomach and very upset. I’ve always thought I was kind of a freak 😅😓 it’s comforting to know that other people experience this

E bee I’ve also always thought I was alone, it’s so hard going trough that when people don’t understand! I am happy that I’ve found other people feeling the same way! I hope it gets better for both of us

Rhonda Jervis thank you for that!!!

Oh wow.. thank you. Yes! You are absolutely right

it's just not possible..

Yes, ambition is never something you will never be consumed by as an empath

Right?.. With myself, I "mom" everyone.. should have become a shrink..lol

♥️♥️♥️

Thank you for that I loved reading that 💜💜💜

Thank you

Thank you

💙💝

I'm with you there. I like scary movies, I do not like people screaming and fighting. That one pawn show out of Chicago or somewhere up there,( Not pawn stars) that one guy screaming at his people all the time. OMGosh . I'd have to leave the house, while everyone watched it...

Only because we are both not validated for having it and not taught how to develop, control and utilize this gift as our profession. 💝

Bahahaha

That's crazy you mentioned not watching the news anymore. Im only 17 but i haven't watched the news in 11 years and its really helped with control my emotions but its still hard

Same here! I thought I was crazy 😭

Stopped in 2001! 😘👍👏👏👏

I stopped watching the news 'cause the news piss me off and give me anxiety...

Wow I always felt overwhelmed with the news.

Exactly. Especially negative ppl. They drain me

Me too. I am EXACTLY the same and i hate being in large crowds. That's overwhelming and i feel everything. Nature is very healing for me, animals are amazing, and other empaths (friends) are a great support. We don't have an easy time of it, but we learn such wisdom through the meter you've mentioned.

@@queenofthebutterflies5212 I'm an extroverted empath, I learn spaces and remember where physical barriers are in that space, that way you can find safer spaces in public where a whole room doesn't have direct access to you.

I feel that.

I feel that way too. I try to avoid those people or limit my time with them. They are like leeches. After being around them I have to charge my battery. With peaceful alone time, a nice walk in nature, or some beautiful music.

imeserena totally agree!

OMG yes! When I'm in an argument, I find it so hard because I can totally understand why the other person feels that way and it almost invalidates why I'm upset with them. It's really hard to win an argument because you're standing in the middle of it

You are not a misfit. You are so strong to feel so much and still get on. And I want to compliment you on being so sensitive: that means you have a big heart and that you are a very good and caring person ❤️ you can be a vessel to channel positive energy and light 💙

I think being an empath enables me to help my students. However just like you, I can only teach 2/3rds time. I'd get burnt out otherwise!

Same here w the teaching. It has to be limited.

Me?? I have a PhD in Clinical Psychology. Who are you?

♥

I can teach you energy hygiene and psychic protection to prevent getting drained. Life savers for us empaths!

So true. You have no other point of reference at that time. I still find things that surprise me--like when there was a lengthy feed on the internet where people did not know that some people have internal dialogue. I thought, doesn't everyone? It turns out some don't. Hmmm. 🤔

I literally believed for most of my life that everyone could feel what I feel. I can’t even conceptualize being in a room with people and not feel their emotions! What is that even LIKE?!! So frustrating… I can feel YOUR emotions but you can’t feel MINE? It can be very isolating and lonely.

Yes and yes I with you 100% as a Christian with both gifts I need to be alone alot. Being in the Mountains is the best for me.

I'm with you lol that's what I ment;)

@@GrandmaBones666 you do know that Christian's were treated the same way and still is around the world right?

@@order7536 Sure. Insanity and stupidity aren't exclusive to Christians.

It's so great to know other Christians that understand this gift of discernment and is also known as empathic. When I was younger I was always tempted to go towards darker things till my walk with the Lord became stronger. I use it to glorify Him! God bless.

Agreed. I suffered as an empath for most of my life until I made a conscious choice to empower myself through understanding the human mind + emotions. With practice, I don't view my empathic nature as something to survive' but as an amazing superpower.

An analytical empath? Amazing, isn't it? All of these years I felt like something was wrong with me. Much, much love! 💙

Wow your doing a lot of good in the world I feel like Empaths are all true of heart❤️🙏🏽stay strong we have a purpose here eventually the universe will reveal it to us..

I do the same thing ! And I love dark movies and such . ☮️

Amazing

I am not sure if being in a social vacuum or being a long term bully target is worse. Both are toxic - no question. I do understand now, many years later, why it is important that you do not deny your feelings and bury your thoughts into quicksand. The truth will always out. Expel the toxicity with appropriate means that are of a healthy source. Otherwise they manifest in later life that spells an unhappy outcome.

I know exactly what you're describing. My parents called it "overly sensitive and you're being ridiculous". 😒

Good for you for figuring this out as a young adult! 👍 Please, take care of and respect your empath abilities, with your boundaries and other tools! I’m 62, and I know this struggle too well. I can’t/don’t watch much news (just individual stories on a local TV station’s website), and I CAN’T watch violent movies. I vomited in reaction to one several years ago (much to my husband’s disappointment; he wanted to stay to see the rest of the movie in the theater), and said, “No more!” It’s not worth the stress. Please look into creating a personal energy tune-up/maintenance routine for yourself, that involves strengthening your personal energy/vibration/frequency. It will help you, too.

Ahura z, a telepath that does tell people and teaches others how to use their powers to the a level you probably think isn’t even possible

Weird question, but I’m curious. I’m not super empathetic but I have my moments. I’m an INFx-T, my judgement and prospecting seems to switch every few times I take a test. Have you ever empathized with someone who literally felt nothing - they were just empty. How did it feel? Did it horrify you?

Same

@@alexd.8554 As an highly empathic person I'd like to answer your question. Yes, I have. In different circumstances. I've met people who like, felt no empathy, no connection. That just feels... cold. It can depend on the person, but usually it reminds me of feeling cold, like a chill. I can't say per se they feel empty, but more as if their emotions are further down, and not clicking with anyone else. What I found the most horrifying thing myself, are people I've met who were on drugs, in an emotion of rage, nothing else. It's like there is nothing there, just rage, no person, no click, nothing. It has shook me for days, and will be in my mind for a long time, if not never really disappearing. I'll always remember those instances. The worst is people I've thankfully never met, but seen interviews off, who people usually call psychopaths or sociopaths (it's not a real diagnosis anymore, and I don't know the medical term for it). That's just horrifying. It's like looking into a dark pit, nothing where you can find a human connection. It's like there is a lack of a certain humanness about them. I also think almost all people can sense this, even if they don't understand it, because it's so... scary. On the brighter sight, it's also that being an empath means that I believe that like 95% of people, if not more, are actually good by nature, and I can usually understand where their behavior comes from. As I said, I've been really scared of people who were on drugs. That doesn't mean I don't understand that their circumstances can be cruel, and hard, and it's the only way they cope, and it's extremely difficult to get out of their situation, so I can sympathetic to their circumstances, however, that doesn't mean I can't be really scared of people who are on certain drugs because they lose a certain connection to the world. Hope that this answer can help you a bit further :)

Me too! I've known I'm a highly empathic person since I knew what empathy meant, but this is the first time I hear the connection between being empathic and walking on eggshells around my parents, and I always felt responsible for their anger outbursts, or their fights. I felt proud as a kid that I was the only one who could handle my mom when she got angry. Now as an adult I'm horrified I thought that was a good thing.

I’m an INFJ too !

me too honey 😌 it’s ok

Me too girl

ugh yess - me too!

So am i

Same. I'm thinking of going into therapy. Meanwhile I saw this therapy called ACT that you can do yourself- working on it.

He is staggeringly pulchritudinous.

PT I’m trying to do the same and yet somehow one ends up being “selfish” or “the bad guy”. Enough is enough though, cause one gets tired of being the peace maker. We have to take care of ourselves too.

Same here, all of it.

@@anpanvero7236 If we don't take care of ourselves, what's left to give? Nothing! And if we don't learn Discernment, Perception and Protection, an Empath can quite quickly be put into the position of becoming the codependent fixer.

this is so me..now i learn to listen to myself more & knowing my own boundary..cause i tend to drain myself busy mediating, listening and give my all to people around me. self awareness/self care should be priority in an empath's life.

Yup. I'm an INFJ at the same stage as you. I've come up with recommendations: Get into the practice of "Morning Pages" as articulated by Julia Cameron. Monitor the Morning Pages periodically to connect awareness of recurring themes and follow up with boundary identification; firming up on the self protection aspect. Re-introduce my consciousness with the inner child that I've become disconnected from; extend compassion to my inner child as much as I do for others.

Belle Fiori yuuup! And I’m going to therapy soon and I think I got a feel for what I’m talking about for my session today xD

Same :) FJ is showing the way, using his empathetic power to help others.

@@marilyne9383 omg this is so spot on

Sometimes I don't know if it's a gift or curse. I don't even know if what I'm feeling is me, or someone else... Where do they end and I begin?

LOL

We really need more empaths in the world. It seems to be a very rare thing. Boundaries are extremely important to learn and enforce. And No Parent should EVER force their child to go kiss or hug some old person. They smell funny. Please don't do that to small children. When a child feels naturally safe and happy around someone, they may go hug on their own.

I wish there were more too, or at least that more of them were open and comfortable with it. I know too many that have hardened with pride or numbed with addiction but I understand because it's the hard knock life for us.😔🙏❤️

@@recoveringsoul755 Amen!!

@@recoveringsoul755 My mother did this with the one uncle that frightened me so it was torture and it wasn't for me, but so they wouldn't have to tell my incle I was uncomfortable with it. Mom did a lot of good things, but she didn't really know me at all. She was the martyring narcissist. Lot of protection onto me for having my only own thoughts, choices, and my.own feelings. I'm so o er it now. I'm trying to resist the draining power of others thT seeks out my energy at every possibility.

Give your life to Jesus Christ, He will do the rest 😉

@@evapatrikova4134 I'm actually Christian but I think he was talking about more of a psychological thing, rather than a spiritual one.

@@FAQIvan91 Jesus created your mind and is known as the Great Counselor for a reason, he can help you more than simply spiritually. He knows how your brain works, why not ask the designer of it for assistance? As an empath, I do and he helps me.

@@lighthouse_23_ believe me. I do.

@@FAQIvan91 yeah I do believe you. I think sometimes people think solely through prayer Jesus helps, but God has helped me through giving me knowledge like this video by Frank James to define what I have, get a psychologist, books about being an empath and other tools to help. It's an ongoing learning process and I'm just starting it. It is really hard though. You are not alone. For me writing helps a lot.

Thank you for taking the time to say that. Nobody asks to be born so sensitive that they can sense pain from other people. It's more than just feeling empathy. And the world is very dark right now. And I'm doing so many different things to keep my eyes on the light. Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, Carly

I... dont think is a super power, we feel and see the world different from others and sometimes you are not able to connected with people as normal as you could want to, its not a bad thing but is no superpower either

Well said

NOT ONLY look for the light: for some of us empaths, to BE the light for humanity, as Frank explains at the end of this video! It’s why I’m here. That is MY purpose. My empathy is part of my superpower. I’m also like a fiber optic cable for Source, God, All-That-Is’s light and love to radiate to as many people as can see it, to raise the vibration of the people on earth right now. It may be the purpose for some of you reading this, too. 🙏 Namaste, fellow empaths! 💝

you are not alone. I still remember being at a funeral one time for a person whom I had never met and being around all of the sad family and friends had me sitting there crying like a baby through the whole thing... I was even amazed at myself ;)

@@juliewittig5553 I literally avoid funerals as much as possible. People see it as selfish. I have learned it is self preservation.

And no your not alone. I dont have friends anymore because they all move on with their non emotional lives lol. But my ex husband is opposite. He HAS to be around people. And to me, I literally have the worst anxiety now about going out in social settings. I stay home 98% of the time

I cry when someone scores the game winning touchdown lol I'm a heyoka so it's a constant struggle lol

Never apologize for having deep human emotion! That's why we are humans not robots! We are the gifted ones, not the only other way around.

Learn to get rid of sympathy and then you will have no issues like that. Remember that Empathy is good and Sympathy is bad.

So what if they need your help?? You have to take care of yourself, too. Cut out the martyr crap! You don’t owe them the opportunity to hurt you!!!

You will learn to leave when someone is hurting you. It’s critical.

@@ravenel2 Amen! 👍

You need to put yourself first at all times!

Patricia you didn’t mean supercurse?

Meka. You belong in this world. Many people lack self-awareness and rely too much on others for self-worth. I am of the X generation bought up by a generation that was super focused on putting up the pretense of the perfect step-ford family. Politeness, courteousness, respect and obedience was an expectation, no excuses. Disobeying meant disappointing your parents at best. Exceptional sport/academic abilities of children were bragged about. These were the days where only the optimal performing in their field were recognised. There was not the award giving to everyone as there is today. Generation X parents in response, tend to be extreme in either direction - either too disciplinary or too laissez-faire. I wish that people were more balanced and insightful. They are not. You belong just as much as anyone else, if not more.

@Emm Bee Welcome to the club! Your father does this because he can’t handle his own emotions, because he wasn’t taught that they’re okay. He’s wrong; it’s a GOOD THING to be an empath, but he’s not the one to help you deal with your abilities. There are good youtube channels that can teach you to use them well and to maintain your emotional/psychic health, which is awesome! These didn’t exist 20 years ago when I figured out that what I am is empathic. I’m 62 years old. Maybe someday when you’re older you’ll be able to explain to him what you’re really about. Maybe.

Yes

Yeah. It's also really hard when you're friends with someone (and they're friends with you back), but they're depressed so it's really hard to hang out with them just cause you feel that lingering pain and sadness, and you can't get rid of it, and you realize THIS IS WHAT THEY'RE FEELING, and you just want to help and make them happy but it's SO hard because you hate the feeling, of this lingering depression. And it's just so hard to be with them, but of course you don't want to hurt their feelings...does anybody get what I'm saying?

Yes.

Saffron Martel Totally. But two months later in learning and integrating that you always have control, regardless of your surroundings or who you're around. If you tap into your true spirit's essence and add more power to that, nothing outside of you can phase you. Crystals help a lot specifically black obsidian!!

Yes. People who do not cross my boundaries and can still be (close) friends with me are rare but beautiful souls. :D I can smell those other people from a far distance, but I haven't really learned how to stop them off the bat. And it is very difficult for me to cut (or slam? ^^) if there is no larger reason to. Sometimes it can be helpful to actively seek out people who really don't need your compassion or energy, but who lift YOU up with their wit (not necessarily empaths, but definetely energetically healthy people).

Your comment was truly so familiar to me that I felt everything you wrote at my core. It was the truth I lived too. INFJs with 4 enneagrams.... Is this phenomenon the product of trauma and addicted parents? Sometimes I think a lot of INFJs have C-PTSD, but of course, this is just a theory and probably only applies to a few of us. I think for people like us, our Fi is just so hurt that to open the floodgates can be addicting but also debilitating, so in order to live in the world, we depend on the FeTi, instead to manage. I've been saying a big part of the healing, I think, is to extend the same level of empathy and compassion to that 6 year old inside you who still needs you. And when you do that, I feel you're able to integrate proper boundaries and melt some of the hyper-vigilance.

@@authorerynblaire-craftingc9379 compassion for your child self is so important. there's a video by JP Sears (the one about shame maybe?) in which he describes how to imagine seeing yourself as a child when that child is upset, and then you as your adult self goes over to them and tells them that it's ok to feel what they're feeling and reassuring them that they're ok, etc. this was the most powerful concept i've ever come across and i think it's the one thing that really helped changed my perspective about all the unprocessed pain of my childhood.

@@authorerynblaire-craftingc9379 Exactly... I think that's where that action of posing the question to oneself - the "how important is it [to protect yourself, to fight, to flee, to bring out a coping/defense mechanism in this given situation]" - becomes an expression of the love and respect we didn't experience as children. It both acknowledges the legitimacy of feelings & emotion, whilst simultaneously affirming the right to not live out of a place of fear/powerlessness. I literally sometimes check in with my inner kid, hold her, and say - "This situation, this person - it isn't the same as what you grew up with, even though it might feel the same because it's a little scary right now. You're safe, you're respected, and you have options. Oh, and - I love you. What's more, I even really like you."

​@@retrogradepink YES! It's not what comes natural to us. The pain is in the past, that's why we don't know how to accept ourselves in the present. But acknowledging that past self truly starts to heal our present.

@@AlannaBoudreau The way you worded this is so, so profound and true! Do you also identify as INFJ?

lunar butterfly I say that a lot of time. :(

*cough Shane Dawson *cough

The guy who won't get out of my life for the last year

the love bombing is a replica of the emotions of the empath they are targeting . all narcissist use this acting skill

@@erikag0nzalez PLEASE HE WAS THE FIRST ONE WHO POPPED INTO MY HEAD

I must standup and clap.

mary pelton girl, that is me to a T. I hate it but I work the best alone. I’m still working on it but it’s hard. I feel the emotions of other stylists around me as well and the clients. It’s intense. I have to focus extra hard so I don’t get affected by it so much. I have talked to people about it but it’s hard for them to understand.

I’m glad you’re ok🌷

Good to hear that you left an asshole. I cannot go to salon anymore, I didn't know empath is a thing, the hairdressers keep telling me their sad life story since I was young, sometimes they even cry, I didn't know why. I can't stand it anymore, because they were so closed to me and touching my hair, their feelings were so so so heavy.

Same.