the truth about being transgender: my detransition story 

I am a 39-year-old trans woman and I firmly believe that there should be more gatekeeping for transitioning, there needs to be better education about the risks involved, and there are some very serious risks for anyone medically transitioning. I am happy that you did find your true self and I am sorry that the journey had to take you down a potentially dangerous path. As far as your trans friends shunning you for detransitioning, they weren't real friends. A real friend doesn't care if you are trans or not, they should care that you are happy with who you are no matter where you are on your journey to find yourself.

this video honestly made me realize i only want to transition because of my past experiences of sexual abuse and the fact that i dont want to be sexualized by men. thank you, i will try to understand myself better

So happy for her she didn’t do anything irreversible. ❤ totally normal to have a “tomboy” phase, or to feel uncomfortable during puberty.

What an intelligent and articulate young woman. Why can't we be having this debate more openly in the current madness?

i’m a detransitioned teenage girl (ftmtf) and you’re right. my mental health was terrible and i hated my body, therefore i thought the way out was to transition. glad i haven’t, because i don’t want to permanently damage my body.

I'm a transgender person and I can honestly say I hate a lot of what the modern transgender community has become. They say they want to be loved and accepted for who they are while at the same time being hateful towards people and having no acceptance of people with differing opinions and no acceptance for detransitioners. And at the same time push these stuff onto other people thinking they're life will be so much better afterwards and not saying a word of what negative stuff could possibly happen afterwards. You're an amazing person and thank you for sharing your story. And I think after this youre going to be getting support from so many people. Wish you all the best in whatever the future brings.

I think you brought up a good point-puberty is hard-children need to know how hard it is.

What a smart young woman. As a trans man I agree with most everything you said. I am so glad you are giving voice to the issues of today. On behalf of the ENTIRE LGBTQ🏳️‍🌈 I APOLOGIZE for the behavior of some of the members of our alliance. Please remember I, myself, at least respect you very much. Please continue your work. It is indispensable

I'm convinced I would have thought I was trans if I was a child nowadays instead of in the 90s. When I was a kid, I was just a bullied, depressed tomboy and I eventually started to feel better about myself once I got older. I'm so glad I got to have the opportunity of learning to love myself.

I'm detransitioning back to a man after 50+ years. It's hard! You are a beautiful soul. Live your life!

As someone who’s FTM Thank you for being so calm throughout the video. Thank you for sharing your experience. I do think a lot of people mix up the experience of depression and puberty with gender dysphoria. I do believe that people should have to go the therapy to transition and should have to be 18 the problem is people who don’t let their kids social transition because I think that would help with them figuring themselves out. Transitioning is definitely not a fix all for body image issues and depression. I’m lucky enough to have a mom who isn’t your stereotypical girl imagine. She likes hunting and fixing cars and doing things people would label aimed towards men because I think growing up that sit a line for me to understand that girls don’t have to be feminine or girly. I love my mom even if she doesn’t agree with me.

This is why I’ve decided to just cancel my subscription to gender as a whole. Because when I was discovering all this stuff I was recognizing that I didn’t resonate with how I viewed society to define a woman as. I thought maybe then I was gender-fluid or androgynous or something, but the more I tried to find some mold to fit into, the more I realized that none of them fit me. I feel so much better just being whatever I am and not trying to define it any further than “I’ve cancelled my subscription to gender. My biological sex is female, call me whatever pronouns you want.” Because it does occasionally make me feel nice inside when someone online or that hasn’t met me refers to me as “they” or “he,” that I could be viewed as something other than stuck inside the social construct of what femininity should look like. I can just exist. And I like that.

I also used too see myself as non binary but never came out, now I’m glad about that lol. I’m starting to take pride in my femininity AND masculinity, as a woman. And I am in love with your glow of self love!🤍

This is so true about people today : "Aligned their identity so fully with their gender or sexuality."

I’m a man but was a very feminine child and worked over time to tone it down because at the time, it was socially unacceptable. Although I have thought at times my life would be easier if I was a woman because I might fit in better, to me the ultimate biological reality is that I’m a male, and I’m just grateful to be healthy and work with that. I feel gratitude that my body is physically unaltered and I can express my gender in loads of different ways without needing to take medication or operate on it.

I love it when the cat appears at 2:30 ... It is like the cat is also giving support to her.

I was a child in the '90s. I come from a generation where being a tomboy was considered normal for many girls; nobody cared about it. I had some "tomboy-ish moments" myself just because I didn't like skirts and dresses; I wasn't at ease with puberty as well transitioning from a young girl to a young woman brought some challenges and questioning, and there was nothing wrong or abnormal with that. It terrifies me because I probably would have fallen for this ideology if I were that same teen in today's world using social media. Your video is fantastic, stay strong.

i started transitioning socially to male at 15. i'm 20 now and have largely cast out those feelings of transness and accepted myself for the woman i am. it's still very difficult and i'm struggling to find who i am after losing her for 4/5 years but at least i know that i'm on the right path now. i'm just glad i never took any medical steps either! thank you for opening up and sharing your experience, of everyone who's posted about detransition i've never found someone who is as similar to me as you are x

When i was 12 I started the transition and i started to identify as a trans men, and i started to isolate myself from my family and i started to take some testosterone pills ( against my parents) , and now i really regret. and if i made some kind of surgery or something like that for be a Man, i would regret this for the rest of my life, cause i was just a confused child.

i am a trans man and i agree with every point you’ve made - it’s becoming cult-like and dangerous

Back in the day 90's you used to go through at least two years of therapy to ensure there was not another reason people wanted to trans because sometimes it's trauma from abuse of body dysphoria. Mermaids lobbied and got rid of this safeguard. I hope it comes back as it is a great safety net to help those genuinely trans and those that aren't

im around 14 and going through very similar feelings and struggles that you talk about in this video. i love how gently this is worded and it is a wonderful perspective on the other side of things. thank you for talking about this.

This is really weird to watch with where I live. I needed 3 psychological evaluations to get bottom surgey. And even horomones I need a year of therapy. I transitioned when I was older(by that I mean 18) so that makes it even weirder for me to see this. Especially since I grew up around a trans sibling and friends. But I never really thought about my body issues until I was 17. Even than I only realized I was trans when tried really hard to be a man Edit: I agreed with most of the video. Just got to the end. I was with you through out all of this. But they do tell you the changes of testosterone is permanent? They have to, legally tell you that. So either your doctor was shit or you didn’t really get close to transitioning other than socially. Which is why it’s always recommended to socially transition before medically. Cause than you can realize it was not you. Like you did

Oh my days. What an amazing young woman. Every youngster needs to see this. So much truth . Get this in schools now! 👍

As an old granny I have become convinced it’s best to live as a medical minimalist getting only a short list of surgeries

around four years ago i too started feeling “trans” and thought that the only way out was being more male presenting to kill all this feelings of hatred towards myself that i was feeling. i never came out, i kept it all to myself, i warped my own memories to try and justify that i was “indeed trans”, because it all “made sense” why growing up other girls didnt want me around, why i hated dresses, why i refused to even start wearing make up and all your stereotypical “girl” things. i kept growing up, my body changed and it was turned against me, i really wanted to get rid of my breasts, at the ripe age of 13 years old. im glad i never came out. i too would’ve grown to be a detransitioner i dont wanna make this too long but i figured out that to be a woman is what i chose it to be and and mean to me, if i enjoy more stereotypical “dude” stuff that doesnt mean im a guy, i still sometimes want to get rid of my chest but not because its too “femme” purely bcs it ruins some outfits that with a small chest theyd look pretty neat. i found out that i am is defined my myself, not all these labels floating around in this digital era. i am me, very simply just me. i am a woman, i am not femme but that is more than ok, i am still a girl and yes i am me

Thank you for sharing your experience. My 11 yo daughter, who has mental health struggles from trauma, has just announced she is my son, and I want to love and support her, but I also want her to see the sides of this that they don't tell you. I'll watch this video with her, and hopefully we can have some good conversations about it and navigate a way forwards that she won't regret later on in life.

Im kinda in a transition stage in my life. I thought i was part o the LGBTQ community for almost 3 years now and im just relizing that i was heavily miss guided. I now face the fact that i need to come out to my friends as straight which i find to be very hard. I dont want to be desowned by my very "woke" friends and im scared that everyone else will think i was lying to get attetntion. The fact is that for many years I truly belived I was anything but staright. I have this inner hate for myself because i am straight and im so angry that i was so miss guided by the media. There were times when i even belived I was non binary or trans. I just wanna go back and undo all the damage that was done to me.

A lot of people tend to push aside detrans and see it as a thing that doesn’t happen. I believe gender identity is complicated and you aren’t going to know it easily. It takes a lot of time. I’m glad that this video got on the popular side. Younger people are always figuring themselves out, even when they’re older. This is why getting therapy is good, talking with parents. Recently I told my father I was questioning being transgender and we had a lengthy private conversation (that I won’t share here). I am open to change. I am open to being cis or trans, whatever happens I know my family will still love me. It’s sad that people think it’s “cool” to hate your parents. I love my family they are awesome. Gender identity and sexuality are so confusing. Detrans people are real, detrans people are valid, and acknowledging detrans people isn’t transphobic.

Thank you for touching on the community slowly alienating one’s family away. It’s something that I’ve noticed that people online jump to the conclusion of the need to “cut off” those who disagree with them. My heart truly aches for those in the trend portion of the community that are very likely to regret permanent decisions. Please keep sharing your story.

This makes me much more confident in transitioning believe it or not. I did a lot of questioning and trying to find out where my feelings were coming from, and im about 99% sure i would not transition because i hated myself. Actually exact opposite. I dont hate my body, despite the fact that it doesnt alingn with my identity inside. It makes me feel dysphoria, but i objectively find it quite beutiful tbh. But i know for a fact i cant imagine a future where i am a woman. Things can still change tho, its an important decision and it cannot be rushed. Im glad you figured things out for yourself!

The part where you admit that you now "dream to have children" had me in tears. I'm a male so its not the se but i grew up my whole life thinking i didnt want kids, and now i really want kids. I could not imagine losing that biological ability to have children. Im very happy for you to weather through the storm and come out stronger on the other side

You were very well spoken, articulate and compassionate in your approach. Telling your story is very powerful and will resonate with other adolescents going through the same or similar. I am so happy for you that you came out on the other end without regret of making major medical and life altering decisions. I wish you all the best on your endeavour to becoming a Mum. It has been the most amazing experience for me and my husband. I’m 30 years old with an almost one year old and pregnant with my second baby due in June. PS. At one point in my younger years I had decided that children weren’t for me and that if I was to my only choice would be to adopt. Things change for us over time as women and mental health is a huge contributor. I too worked on my mental health for years and finally came out on the other end stronger and capable.

Thank you for sharing this! So many people are struggling with this and need to hear your message.

Thank you for your honesty and candidness. You are helping MANY people, especially children who will hear this

This is a great film, so well explained. I am over 60 and as a young girl I longed to be a boy. I liked boys cloths and toys. In games I wanted to be the king, the knight, the horse or dog, anything but the princess or queen. I was jealous of boys. I did fancy men from a very young age and I was attracted to some women too but not sexually, just longed to be near them. If becoming transgender had been a thing that was possible then, by that I mean talked about and accepted. I would have probably wondered if that was what I wanted. I studied agriculture. I was the first girl from a large London comprehensive to do this. I drove tractors as one of my first jobs. I now mostly wear trousers and was so happy when my children were boys as I had the excuse to get all the boys toys to play with (so I could play with them too). I made sure they had lots of girls toys to play with too and a whole mix of dressing up stuff. I am very glad to be married and to be a mum. Being a woman is wonderful once you understand that you don’t have to be “typical”? I wish you happiness and love in your life.

I believed I was trans for 7 years, it caused me a lot of pain... luckily I only socially transitioned but even that was too far It was traumatic. All power to you girl Your so strong for sharing 💪 💗

Just in case any far-right conservatives are watching this, when most people transition they don't usually detransition, but those who have deserve respect and love.

4:00 many times this "isolation" is what keep someone alive, good that you had supporting parents, but many don't have the same luck.

This might not sound like it makes sense but this whole things reminds me of the anorexia & ednos epidemic that took hold of us in the 90s/00s. As someone who was hospitalised for anorexia, so many aspects of this are giving me deja vu. When Dr's tell you about the long term consequences of doing this to yourself, it doesn't sink in because you've made this illness your whole identity, you felt lost, confused and overwhelmed before and now you drown out real life with this issue. There were people who didn't fit the diagnostic criteria for anorexia because they were a healthy weight and they made a new diagnosis, eating-disorder not otherwise specified. There were even people who advocated for a weight category to be removed from the diagnostic criteria for AN because they wanted the diagnosis but they weren't skinny. And it was offensive to think otherwise, you had to respect their self-diagnosis. The only major difference was that no sane person or health professional would've allowed any adolescent to pursue their goal of starving themselves to death while saying "ok if you think you're fat, we will call you fat and help you lose weight!" Body Dysmorphia is a real thing, especially prevailant in young people whose bodies are quickly changing, and the effects of it are manifesting differently today.

I'm a male and used to think I was trans. I like men, nail polish, dresses, dolls feminine things etc. I can relate to you about the LGBT community they're pretty toxic. I remember saying something online and people replied "WELL DO YOU HAVE GENDER DYSPHORIA? DO YOU HAVE DEPRESSION? DO YOU DO YOU DO YOU" blah blah blah. I got so mad at the comments I said... you know what? Maybe I'M NOT TRANS. I don't wanna be trans if yall gonna act like this. I don't wanna identify with yall if yall acting like clowns. But in a way they DID convince me I wasn't trans so I thank them. I'm just a gay, cisgender femboy and I'm happy with that

Your gentleness, reason, and compassion speak volumes. Thank you for sharing your experience.

I'm gay, and not transphobic. There are trans people, but the numbers are way smaller than what is happening today. But I basically left the LGBabc123 community as soon as I learned that kids were only being "gender affirmed" without question, and not letting them be kids and explore who they are. I think this has a huge social contagion to it, especially with the rise of social media, and all these young kids are being pulled into the hype. It terrifies me to think if I grew up in today's society, I remember crying myself to sleep, wishing God had made me a girl instead of being a gay man so bad. If I had tiktok as a kid in the 90's... I could have had a very difficult life for no reason. The history of social contagions is quite startling, particularly in generations of young girls, and a lot has to do with not being comfortable in your changing body. Anorexia, cutting, and gender dysphoria, are all serious emotional issues that spread like wildfire in young people and can be tracked in huge spikes in numbers every 20 years or so. I'm so happy you were able to get out before any permanent and irreversible surgeries. These experimental gender-affirming ideologies on children need to stop! Children and teens have no understanding of what they are getting into for the rest of their lives, no matter how much you explain it to them.

Brace yourself jamie, your on the verge of being a RU-vid phenomena. Brett of course decided to share your amazing story.

Thank you for sharing your story. I have an 11 year old daughter and have tried to make her comfortable with the changes she is going through and explaining that it's all normal and that I went through it too. I worry that she will get sucked in. So far, so good 🤞

You are an incredible speaker/storyteller! I admire and frankly envy your vibe ❤ The part about how kids are pushed to doubt their parents is so eloquent, insightful, and mature. You are a great philosopher and I'll be listening to your videos throughout this week 🩷

Very well said. Im autistic woman and if i was a teenager today I would have thought this was the solution to feeling alien to this planet and my body

As a female child of the late 70s early 80s. You are all normal. Pop culture has set toxic standards for you, & the prolificness of p0rn has ruined your idea of romance & intimacy. Please think for yourselves & be a rebel!!! No one is born in the wrong body. You were born in YOUR body & it is perfect & beautiful just the way you are. If I had one wish, is that we could all learn to love ourselves & each other. ♾✌❤🌎✝️

I just saw a reaction to your video on Brett Cooper's channel. She just did it a few minutes ago and I'm so proud of you and for you being brave enough to speak about this. I pray that a lot of young people who are struggling see this video.

I'm FTM and I'm glad you brought up the subject of detransition! Personally, I've had therapy before transitionning medically AND been put on blockers to think more about it. Gender dysphoria is hard to deal with but in the long run, I'm glad double checked. Some people ive known detransitioned, and thats okay. They were discovering themselves. Im just glad they didnt start the treatments and regret it. Ive now been on T for 3 years and im glad to say ive made the right choice. Its a big decision to take, therapy is needed to make sure its the right one

This is exactly what happened to me during my stint under the umbrella. Hated my body, had bad relations with my parents, unstable living situation. Instead of working on these issues, I went deeper down the rabbit hole. After insanity continuing to ensue for months, I woke up one day and was just like "what the fuck have I done". Then I announced my intention to detrans and my closest friend, who was of course also trans, stopped talking to me. I basically posted on social media after "im detransitioned." and have ever since abandoned all social media ad just do everything alone, go to work and come home and spend time alone every day. Everyone I was friends with wound up being superficial and i talk to none of them now. and now I am in my early 20s but still have scars of my past as a guy who has to wear a chest-binder forever despite being born male.

this was very insightful to listen/watch, especially since I’ve always questioned who I was as I lacked the feminine traits compared to my peers. I would definitely consider myself a tomboy but to be trans was something I struggled to identify myself with. To hear it from another person’s perspective like yours, I really appreciate you sharing as I learned something new about being trans and in the LGBT community. Thank you for speaking about this :)

This was so beautifully and eloquently shared. Thank you for your vulnerability, this video is going to help others so immensely.

as a trans man, whos been trans or experiencing heavy masculinity since the single digits, I think im very sure of my stance. ive had these thoughts, feelings, and all of that for a very long time. i was put into womens acting and modelling as a young girl, and it never felt right to me. as i got older, i realized i didnt like being a girl. i didnt know anything about transgenderism, didnt know it was real to change your gender, but i still felt like that. this is why, as i read on trans and detrans, i think it wasnt something pushed onto me. i feel glad that i didnt ever have to look it up - when i was a young girl, i just knew it was like that. however. i will always watch both trans and detrans videos. i dont think i'll ever fall under the detrans as im very happy with who i am now, but i feel i absolutely must explore the possibility im misguided, even misguided not by the internet - which i didnt have acess to back in the start. was it possible i was a 'butch'? (though i like all genders) i watch detrans videos to better understand how detrans folk felt during their transition. luckily, i dont relate to any of it, but i think its always good for all trans folk to explore the possibility they are misguided.

This public story means so much to me. I identified as trans for a while because I was very uncomfortable and hateful about my body and later realized that I had probably thought that if I was in a boy's body, maybe I would like myself more. There needs to be de transitioners shouting their stories from the rooftops for girls like me and other confused young girls. This is such a powerful story and thank you so much for sharing this with the world

Brett Cooper sent me. This is such a powerful, eloquent testimonial. Thank you for speaking up and sharing your experience.

The book “Nutrition and Mental Illness” really helped me along my journey, especially after getting the blood work done and getting my zinc, copper and histamine levels balanced. B vitamins, methionine, magnesium, choline, inositol and high doses of niacin were particularly helpful for me.

Hey Zosia, As a trans women, I'm sorry about your experience. But I am thankful and glad you came to an understanding before making any pernemant decision or making a decision to disown your family. Whilst I grew up when transitioning wasnt acceptable in the 90's and 00's. It wasnt a good environment, it helped me in coming to my decision and knowing there wasnt an alternative. The LGBT arent all the same, I would like to think you may be able to reestablish yourself with the bi community in giving or accepting support and advice. I wish all the best for you

Thank you for coming on here and speaking out. More and more young women are telling their detransition stories and it is so important that kids going through this now, hear those stories. Anyone who is not an adult should not be given the choice to make a permanent physical change to their bodies. The teenage years are tricky to navigate and it is a time when you try to find your identity and discover yourself. As a teenager, I was sort of a tomboy. I did not like dresses and preferred baggy trousers and comfy t-shirts, but my parents and everyone else understood that this was a normal phase that I was going through. I was never made to believe that I was a boy. The truth is, it is totally normal for teenage girls and even adult women to not "Feel feminine" at some point in their lives. We need to teach girls that if they do not fit into today's definition of femininity that it is still okay and it does not mean you are not female. Different women like different things. You can be a female trucker, female firefighter, or female bodybuilder. Being a woman does not mean fitting into a set of feminine traits outlined by today's society.

There is much more to life than one's sex, gender and pronouns but at 12 or 13 who can see through that mind set. Life is a learning experience and mistakes are part of the learning process I believe you made a very wise decision. I wish you the best.

Hello, 16 year old trans man here. I'm about 2 and 1/2 months on testosterone. I've only ever came out and identified as Eric(he/him/his/himself). I believe we need to educate more people but also not come at the trans community. I don't really involve myself with the trans community but I'd like to say some things My mother would not let me transition for a long time because of her religion. Which did cause me and her to separate. She let me start testosterone and now me and hers relationship is so much better. I love my family... I personally don't think the community promotes hating your family but we all have different stories...I understand. I actually became dysphoric AFTER puberty, I was 13 and couldn't look in the mirror without Wondering who it was and breaking down. It's so unfortunate to have never been able to be connected to the feminine feeling. Gender roles definitely do play into this, and gender roles are important with our community. I'm a man. Just a trans one. Thank you

I'm an elderly woman, and just grieve for all these young people, so disturbed by what they perceive to be a solution to just feeling different when they are young. I went through this, but the terrible ideas now in place were not there, and I just grew through it. I'm 77 now, and am so happy to be a woman. I wish all these unhappy youngsters the same. God bless.

I really hope that you are happy now. Don't let anyone stop you from being yourself. You are unique and the fact that you are a detrans doesn't make you worse than the other people who have "never doubted themselves". Doubting your feelings and looking for yourself is normal. I think you should be proud of yourself! Greetings from happy trans person.

Came here from Brett Cooper’s reaction video. Need to help boost this in the algorithm. If I had grown up in todays era, I would’ve most definitely been considered trans. I was and kind of still am very much a tomboy. As an adult I have embraced my femininity. It’s crazy how much has changed culturally in the last 10-20 years. So proud of you to speak out with your experience. I genuinely feel very sad for all of you that had been sold a lie at such a vulnerable age. Adults that have an agenda have used all of these children and it’s sickening. Prayers for your future and wishes for you to one day have children. They are a struggle but also so much of a blessing. They fill your heart with so much joy.

Good morning/evening young crowd 🤘💜 I hope everyone is doing well 🙏. I just came across your channel. I am transitioning myself and I appreciate you speaking out, sharing your own experiences it's so very important. Ive also said that you need to heal, work on improving your mental health, other aspects before even considering to transition. Thank you love and blessings to you, your family and everyone 🙏❤️

You are amazing Jamie, I hope you know that this video will really help a lot of people in the same boat as you. I personally thought about it too but I'm glad I did not push through with it. Puberty is really tricky and I hope in the wake of this that there will be more conversation on how it feels to enter adulthood that goes beyond hormones and the birds and the bees talk. Emotions are really high at this point and I can understand at this vulnerable state we can be easily swayed. People have observed for many many decades the repercussion of that rebellious stage in our lives.

3:00 I think it's great that your family is actually supportive but a lot of LGBTQ+ people cannot say the same. I never experienced people encouraging me to distance myself from my family. While some of my queer friends also had unsupportive families', others had very supportive people. The only thing we'd say is "only come out if you feel safe to do so" because there is a real genuine risk to be queer. A significant portion of homeless teenagers (in the USA) are LGBTQ+. My family is so overtly bigoted that I didn't and still don't feel safe around a lot of them. I felt isolated because existing in that environment was isolating. It wasn't that I felt misunderstood, I felt that the only safe course of action was to hide my identity because they literally see certain groups of people (that I am apart of) as subhuman. Found families are prevalent because so many have lost their biological family because of their queer identity or because their family members are abusive. These people don't have to move about the world with zero support system, that is what found family is for. And while it's common in the queer community it's not exclusive to the queer community.

this was a very insightful video to watch as a trans man who is around the same age as you. honestly, i think it's very normal to discover new ideas and explore them when we are younger, including gender identity. we are all figuring ourselves out at that time in our lives. some people take different paths than others once we get older and are more aware of how we feel and why we do. just as i don't understand why it matters if someone is trans, i also don't get why someone would be upset at you for realizing you are not because we've all had to take the time to figure ourselves out in some way. thank you for sharing your experience !!

So sorry you had to experience this but I’m glad you are getting better!

ive had similar friend groups in the past and i thought i was non binary but over time ive embraced my femininity and worked on my insecurities and i know i wouldve felt so trapped and depressed if id transitioned to what id believed i was for months.

Wow, you are incredibly insightful, intelligent and articulate. Re: your comments about LGBT dogma…I’m gay and you’ve just said what I’ve always thought, spot on! Good on you!!!!!

Came here from Brett Cooper's reaction video as well. Very important video with a very important warning for today's and future generations. Thank you for speaking out and helping to keep the ball (to extra awareness regarding this topic) in motion.

I've just sat with a good cup of coffee and watched a few of your videos, starting with this one. I don't know how old you are, but obviously still young. But it's nice to see some coherent and well thought out ideas from someone still young, rather than the endless narcissism so common, particularly in many young women these days. I want to thank you for sharing your story here. It's so incredibly important that people like yourself who have been caught up in the trans ideology relay their story for others to hear, who may be about to turn down a road that there would be no fully coming back from. Where your head is at any given moment in your life, is no indicator of where it can potentially be further down the line in life. The beautiful thing about getting older is that you build up a library of experience based on years spent on this planet, that cannot be obtained any other way. It'a heartwarming to see where you are, compared to where you've been from your videos. It gave me a good chuckle in your other video saying that your attendance at a Marxist convention made you realise you were no longer on the left. Welcome to the club! That's also my story. If I could travel back to my 20yo self and tell myself where I am at with my perspectives on the world, I would probably be in a heated slanging match with myself. The best thing I have ever done is to be flexible with my positions as new information and ideas present themselves. Dogma never serves anyone well. Good luck with everything, keeping posting. Subbed! ❤💪

You are a beautiful articulate young lady, thank you for your story.

Amen!!! “Heal your mental health FIRST AND FOREMOST” and give yourself plenty of time to grow and mature. Adolescence is and has always been a turbulent time in one’s life, don’t make major life decisions until you are in a good place mentally with your feet firmly on the ground as an adult. Please take the time to get to know yourself. Peace 🕊️💕

Hey Jamie, I came from Brett Cooper’s video (her channel is The Comment Section) and she played this video about detransitioning. She really wanted to share your story and I absolutely agree with her that voices like yours are so important. I think you’re incredibly courageous to be able to talk publicly about your experience growing up and I think there are a ton of people who can relate to how you felt that need to hear a voice that maybe challenges or even sheds a different light on their situation. It’s so easy to get lost in the echo chamber and feel like you’ve gone past the point of no return, but your story will free so many young girls who have isolated themselves and can’t find their way out of the loneliness, anxiety, depression, confusion, and unhappiness that comes from not knowing how to heal mental health issues. I wish I had found someone like you when I was going through similar situations as a young girl and I’m certain you are already making a positive impact on many lives. I hope you are able to achieve your dream of having children, as a mother of two I maybe bias but I feel like it was my purpose in life to raise and cherish my boys and it’s been the most joyful and fulfilling experience of my life so far. Best wishes for you in the future!

Hey I'm detrans too . Be the amazing awesome woman you are x

I feel for you and everyone going thru this pain. I will support you and anyone going thru this pain, even when those who push this on you abandons you once you speak your mind. I'm so sorry for those who go through this. I will never abandon those who go through this no matter what. Your pain is my pain. Ty for sharing your journey.🎉

As a mum, I am so proud of you and many others who are sharing your stories online. People can be who they want to be, but only with proper evaluation, counselling and professional advice before changing any part of their body. All the best in your future plans, watching from Nairobi, Kenya.

Just found this video through a post made by Brett Cooper of the daily wire. This video is eloquent and well presented. And the way it addresses the issues around trangender in young people without attacking or pointing fingers is amazing. You are brave to stand up and share your story and I thank you.

Sent here from Bret. I am glad you shared your story. I wish the best for you and many children with your loving family behind you. Take care.

I’m so proud of you ! It’s very brave of you to share your experience. Hopefully, many confused teenagers will come to realization before it’s too late.

This video is one of the bravest I’ve literally ever watched. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are an inspiration and your self-awareness is sooooo impressive. ❤

This is really cool of you to share, thank you! It takes courage to talk about the messy, confusing process of figuring oneself out throughout adolescence and beyond, but I'm sure lots of people can relate to your story.

non-binary here who's not that young anymore; I'm incredibly sorry you had to go through all of this. Stories like yours highlight how necessary it generally is to go to therapy and to seriously reflect and question what you feel and what causes these feelings before transitioning. We can all learn from this. A lot of the time, you can't reach objective insights without a competent and, most of all, neutral (not lgtbq+ friendly and definitely also not anti-lgtbq+) therapist. So if you are seriously questioning; find a competent, neutral therapist who will figure these things out together with you and find the best way to approach things. This is the way to go. And if at the end of at least a year of therapy the conclusion is that a transition is the best for you, then go for it. If the result is a different one: hey, also great, bc you just safed yourself a lot of irreversable changes that probably aren't the right ones for you. Just make sure it's a good therapist.

Tbh I wish people could convince me I'm not trans. I've heard everything you talked about from my family and other people, but the more everyone tries to "help me accept myself" the more I'm feeling confused. Before I came out as trans I used to think that people don't have an innate feeling of identity. That's how I felt. I thought everything I am is just what people perceive me as. My family always talked about how I should find the strength to love myself, but I just didn't have that "myself" to love. I got addicted to unhealthy relationships because I was only able to value myself as a person somebody loved. Since then I learned to accept myself for who I am, and I don't need a magical, fairy, delusional, idolized, romantic scenario to view myself as worthy of love.

Thank you for speaking out. I was a Tomboy growing up (still am largely), and have often thought I am so grateful that there was not this level of encouragement to reject my own sexuality. I did get into drugs (70's and 80's) so I think you are very perceptive in that. Yes, growing up is difficult, and damaging our bodies does not make it easier. Much love to you!

You are explaining this exceptionally well. I am looking to educate myself on this as I was totally out of the loop where this social ideology was concerned. Thank you for the upload. I am happy you are finding your path:)

You’re very well spoken, thank you for speaking out.

Gay and trans are completely different. I have no idea why gay people and trans people are “grouped” together.

As a member of the LGBT+ community, I'm sorry to hear that your LGBT+ friendships felt superficial. I'm sure the fact that your friends were fairly young during those friendships didn't help that either. I can personally say that in my experience the LGBT+ crowd that I know would never shun or disown someone because of later finding out what they thought they wanted wasn't a good fit for them. That experience of self realization is just part of being human, LGBT+ or not.

You are lovely caring and expressive young lady. This world is topsy turvy. Although I'm a transwoman, I think there is a massive pressure not to be a tomboy or gender stereotyping. You are speaking for many young females. The psychological treatment was always to do a real life test before you took hormones. Private profit motivated corporate medicine is the main problem and siege mentalities.

You are so incredibly beautiful and well spoken. I’m so so glad you didn’t go further with this

the 12 year old trans boy to terf pipeline is so annoying.

I'm currently thinking I'm a trans man, and well i don't think I'll ever transition until I'm older and know exactly who and what i am so I'm currently doing stuff that makes me feel better about myself, doing stuff that makes me seem more like a boy or wanting to be masculine and it's helped me a bit, my mom told me it's just puberty and stuff so I'll see where the wind takes me! Thanks for putting this video up, don't apologize for doing it i feel it could help tons of people, i know it'll definitely help me figure out who i am. Thanks again, have an amazing day and stay amazing!!

She is very brave and should understand her self-analyzing is even better. She is amazing to this. I lost a loved on who lost to depression with gender dysphoria. Don't change who you are because of peer pressure.

I wish I could like this a hundred times, my experience is so similar to yours. This is becoming such a problem in this world and it scares me because I don’t want anyone else to go through what I went through. It is never lost on me how lucky I am to have not gone through with a physical transition. Even so, emotionally that experience still has a big effect on my life now, even after 6 years. It impacted my social development due to the isolation, so many impacts on me. I attended groups etc at that time and I feel so angry now at the adults who had a duty of care towards vulnerable teenagers, of whom many of us ended up in this same boat :(

Brilliantly said. It’s the timeless adage that if you’re not happy inside before a big life change of any kind, you won’t be happy after. Learning to be happy and accepting of one’s self must come first (and in many cases by that time, one has realized that they are okay the way they are). Also, this shows how any group of young people experience the same thing that young people have been experiencing since the beginning of time. Namely, clinging to whatever identity they relate most to, thinking everyone else is against them and ignorant or uneducated because they don’t have the same level of commitment to a belief that they do. It’s just part of growing up process we all go through.

This person is going to be an incredible mother

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s very important to hear from the people who have gone through it and then feel it was a mistake It’s scary that medical professionals are silent on this so thank you