I think the most important thing is to have a partner who has the same standards and goals as you have. You have a lot of patience, understanding, and empathy.
I was a solo foster Mum and I agree it's not easy but so rewarding. I always thought I'd be married before I started fostering however as a teacher I was asked to foster a 7 year old boy who I knew because he and his siblings went to the school I taught at. He had severe anger behaviours so was hard to place. He contacted me he was an adult and told me that he never knew what love was until he came to live with me.
It's good to be happy for whatever situation you're in, I have been forced into being single in my later days, not by my choice but by the Lords. And as I'm aging more, I miss my husband more and more everyday as life gets harder and I struggle. I never had any children. Please don't get me wrong I know I have the Lord's I'll never truly alone, but in reality the older I get the more I wish I had my partner beside me. Tasks become harder responsibilities become harder. I have resided myself to make this the happiest part of my life that I can be. So I commend you for being content and being alone and I hope your lighter years, don't regret that decision. Glad you're happy
I believe people are just curious as to why he has never been seen with a partner. I think that's even more suffocating... He's kind of hinting at a vague answer here, but unless he's very specific, I believe people will just keep asking-despite it being none of their business. It never ceases to amaze me how some (in)humans can be so insensitive with their actions and comments, putting harsh social pressure on others. Don’t they realize how harmful that can be?
Peter, God's timing is perfect. That special person will come at the right time. What you are doing with your children is really commendable. Blessings 🙏💙
The only time I felt weird being single (divorced) was at church. It seemed events were targeted to couples and that the singles were seen as "pre-marrieds," and not included. It was odd, as a single person, I had more time and less obligations to serve but also wanted community, to be included. I am older now and realize some of my feelings were self-created but I still think there is a stigma or fear or maybe just lack of thought when it comes to singles in church settings. My feelings certainly did not hinder my walk, I just fordged on and sought connection. No blaming God for my or others failings. 🌻🍄 As for my daughter, I was determined to be the best parent I could be, for her not to be a statistic (I think you can relate). She is a beautiful, smart, young woman. A very good therapist who helps others grow. She's a sweet wife and productive member of society. I'm proud that, as a single parent, I raised a wonderful human.
Thank you so much Peter for sharing from your heart. To turn these young children into wonderful adults who will remember the love that they knew and hopefully the childhood trauma will be less because of that experience. Kudos to you my friend!
My mom adopted me as a single mother. She never got married. I have not been married. I was in the process of becoming a foster parent until I received custody of relatives. custody of relatives for a few years. After they went back to their parents, I decided that getting married and having kids was not something I wanted to do in my 30s. Maybe later in life. I have supported my friend and made her relative niece that she has custody of as my God child. I borrow her often. I am almost 50 and ready to start dating. Friendship is #1 right now. If marriage happens, then fine. I love kids (my mom was a pediatrician), but he would be someone with grown kids. That way, I can have grandkids to love on as often as I want and send them home. I didn't meet my biomom until I was over 40 and still haven't met my dad, although I know where he is. Unfortunately, too many people are living in a single parent home. Keep up the good work.
You may never meet "the one" but you didn't let that deter you from being a loving dad. With your background, it's a miracle you have the wherewithal and capacity to love as you do. Peter, continue to be who you are. Share your home, love and laughter to all who come into your life. You are truly a wonderful blessing.😊
You made the right choice! A few years ago I didn’t think that I could do it on my own. I had the house, the career and thought I needed to be married to foster and adopt. When I did have my boys, I had so much support from family and friends that it was possible to do it all. I’ve had to let go and allow God’s timing. The way we think things will go doesn’t always work out. Fostering and adopting is a calling! It isn’t easy to find a man that understands it. For me it’s a non-negotiable.
I got drawn to this channel because you were a single foster dad. I didnt even know you could be single and foster. Its been an inspiration and im planning to foster as a single dad one day
Peter, it’s truly admirable that you prioritize your children and aren’t rushing to find a partner. 🌟 It seems like you’re taking your responsibilities seriously, so when the right person does come along, it will happen naturally and not be forced. 🤝 This way, both of you can be happy in your marriage and dedicated to fostering the kids, as it’s essential for both partners to be on the same page and approach it with love, patience, and compassion. ❤️ It’s great to see such consideration for everyone involved. 👏
❤ Peter you truly are a amazing person parent an human being there needs to be more people like you Peter in this crazy world 🌎 lots of love from Connecticut thank you for sharing your life with us ❤ 💯🌹❤
This is excellent.I think of you every time Im being asked to be a "foster mum" to street kids and young teen mums in Rwanda. Thanks so much for being such a great mentor. This weekend my foster daughter Isimbi came to be with me. Her mum abandoned her because her new husband forced her to choose between her daughter and new husband
Wow....well done. You hv described what mums go through.... Wish many dad's understood this and became supportive spouses. Best luck on finding a soulmate but she must be a very unique personality🙏
10:41 for multi tasking dads i can multi task (i am a man) but my husband is hopless at it and we struggle sometimes with only 2 kids so it's clear that you are a great parent.
You’re doing an amazing job! As a single parent it is really hard and complex at times, especially if there are special needs or complex situations, which you will know ALL about!! We put our lives on hold for our kids because they come first! Our lives can wait… keep being amazing, more should follow your example ♥️
Multitasking is a fallacy. Studies show no one actually does that. What we do is that people call multitasking is that we take a break from activity A and do activity B, and so on; and what we're doing in reality is quickly switch from one activity to the next. Peter, take a breath and give yourself some slack. You're doing the best you can do with what you're working with; and you're doing a great job! You're a wonderful dad with equally wonderful chosen children.
Peter, All you’ve have gone through to truly get to where you have been led is a calling. No one can do it ALL!!! Having positive support peers, are helpful; ask ask & ask when you need help. I do hope a wonderful soul comes into your life and shares your heart, your spiritual journey as a foster & adoptive parent.
Please do take care of yourself! ❤ The hardest is sleepless nights or when everyone gets sick. You do learn not to care what anyone thinks as long as the kids are ok!
Peter you are absolutely the best dad in your kids lives they know what it is to be loved because you give your kids unconditional love and you are always there when they need you..As a single parent you always do your best for your kids..Who knows maybe you will find someone to share your life one day..God Bless you Peter and always give you power and strength and bless your beautiful family ❤❤❤❤
I hope you find a wife soon. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing." It is not essential. However, with the right person, it does make like sweeter. The key is the right person, as it is way better to be single than to marry the wrong person! You are doing great, Peter. You have a wonderful life, full of love and purpose. How fulfilling and replete with contentment is your journey. What a privilege.
What you’ve done is just so beautiful! I wish more people, esp men would step up because these precious souls in foster care need that. I’m a single mom to a special needs child. My son has autism and is mainly nonverbal. My ex husband was a bad guy and abusive. I was so scared I would fail as a solo parent, but here we are almost seven years later getting it done. It’s hard, and it can be lonely. So many guys see a special needs child and run the other way. I just wish I had more of a support system, people I can call when I have to be at the hospital and I need a sitter for a few hours. When you’re in your own there are no days off, even when you’re sick. I’ve had the stomach flu while taking care of a toddler who wouldn’t sleep. You are doing an amazing job!
Warm thoughts you're way. The games you play with your kids like Jenga are wonderful!, the hair, cooking, all of it. I would help if I was there! For now, i continue to share you're story.
Thank you for answering my husband's questions. I was showing him some of your videos and he'll enjoy this one because of your openness to share your incredible experience of being a foster parent. We can see your love and dedication to your kids . It is not for everyone but the world is a better place because you decided to not wait until marriage. 👋
It's a difficult road. I was a solo parent and raised my 3 daughters completely alone. It's something i never thought I could do but it was literally the best thing that ever happened in my life. I applaud you for all that you do. You're kids are very happy and healthy. One day I hope to find my partner in life but if not It's ok. My daughters are grown and now im helping my daughter raise my grandson.
I just watched recently two English RU-vidrs that travel the world and have been to a lot of countries. One of them was going from Uganda to Rwanda and didn't want to leave because of the people and how lovely they were. You are an inspiration 😇
Good evening Peter,it was so nice to come across this side to hear how life is with your children. Im a single mum since 6 years ,english living in Germany.I have 2 off my own children,1 adopted daughter and 2 foster children.I live with my foster son,16 and my foster daughter 13. They came to me as babys.Its hard work sometimes,but what you give comes back to you...Special needs children are hard work, but with a struktured life and lots of love they are wonderful children. You must take time for yourself like you spoke about....Im so glad for you and your family You are a wonderful father .Many greetings from Germany and God bless you all.❤
YES, I think it's far better to wait for THE RIGHT ONE instead of rushing. You're a great dad and one day they'll have a great mom! I personally chose to wait for the man of my dreams first before having kids, so it worked out that way for me (I had my son when I was 40 years old) but it's so worth it to wait! You marry the wrong person it'll be miserable for you and the kids...so waiting is important. Great job dad!!!!
As a custodial step parent you have taught me so much. I did a lot of yelling because i had anxiety. My husband is bipolar so majority of everything running our home i do. I've become such a better parent not yelling so much at teenagers. If dishes are in the sink and dog hair everywhere because they don't do their chores...i learned it is okay If it bothers me i can do that too. Thank you for your example..
Right! Time is ticking and I’ve wanted to be a mom since 13ish. I wasn’t going to wait a lifetime to find “the one”. Originally adoption was what I wanted to do but how about that I decided to have a bio kid. Still trying to get my new home and myself together to be able to open my home. Anyway, it’s kool the kids get to bond so much with you BUT yeah sometimes you do need a break to take care of you. As people we still have to care for ourselves so we can take care of anyone else. You are doing a great job with your kiddos and I love your vids. Standing behind you and you have my support ❤️
Peter, dearest, an update on Bella, please. Have they removed her? Will she be back? Are you in contact with her? Is she okay? How are the others coping without her?You cannot make us fall in love with your children and then keep us in the dark.
Peter is the one living it. He can do wtv he wants and needs to in this situation. If he had info & was ready to share it HE WOULD HAVE. Perhaps be a little more sensitive about such a topic and give him space. They are going through it. He needs to be there for all of them and himself. We are not entitled to their detriment.
@@cooperedith958 Driven by the need to pontificate? Cannot imagine why any offence (yes, with /c/! would have been taken. 'T'was a plea, not a demand. I do not expect him to share sensitive info. We are not going to come to blows over this over this. Om, peace.
Peter, bless your heart. You are a rare man. A man of dignity and integrity. Ive been enjoying your videos since I first found your channel. I always wanted to be a mother, above all else. I’m so, so blessed that God gave me 3 amazing kids. All now. I wanted as much as I could have. But I’m so grateful for 3. My last baby left the nest May of last year. It’s been so hard to get used to. I raised them almost 100% by myself. I absolutely understand the struggles of a single, full time parent! But what a blessing. Regardless I have wanted to adopt kids of any age for the longest time. Unfortunately, I always felt I’d be denied due to being single. And, I live in a very old, (huge, but old) farmhouse. I thought many times about fostering. God put me on this earth to love children. I also don’t have lots of $$ so that, too, is another point against me I’m sure. I was always happy when I had kids in my home. I felt no need to date after my divorce. But now that my kids are all living on their own, that has crossed my mind. I think about dating, but I know being a mother again would fulfill me so much more. So many children of all ages need a good parent, love, and attention and devotion. Wow, I love watching your videos! That just would fulfill me to the max, I’m sure it’s difficult and your heart breaks, such as when children are taken back, such as your sweet little one recently. But wow… I just so admire you! God bless you and your amazing path you have chosen. Your kids as so blessed to have you, and, you are so blessed ti have them ❤ outstanding family ❤
Inspiring !!!! And I think you speak for parents of high needs children with above and beyond extra Parents of a spouse who’s always traveling and or deployed etc But key things ! You have taken the time to learn and educate yourself through it all and you wake up and CHOOSE the good and the bad the aged and the joyful!!! You are inspiring and keep going! Praying for you!!! And your beautiful children
I'm single and I think it's a good thing. How I worry that trying to add a partner into everything I have built for my children would throw off the balance. People aren't always who they seem at first. If i met someone and it happened without me realising... That's the only way it would happen 😅 Single is safe. For my children and for me. If it happens naturally through a friendship then god will take care of that. ❤
Okay, imglad I'm not the only one who asked lol. I feel much better😅 I love everything else about this now I ❤it all! I grew up in the system, you've got good aura and vibes, thank you for sharing !
You are an amazing person, Peter. There are many who would love to be your partner, just recognize the type of person you want for a relationship and then open your eyes & heart to the possibilities
You have really learned Peter how to navigate life, yet somehow between the lines I still feel like you would love to have a partner. So if I'm correct I'm going to pray that the Lord bring to you and his perfect timing, a person that is send to you just to compliment what's going on here.
I was a single parent for 12 years. I was divorced with no income so I went on welfare at first. I couldn’t work due to health issues so I got SSI 2 years later and was below poverty level still, and didn’t find out til when I was getting remarried that they gypped me out 1/3 of my SSI when I moved a year after I started getting the SSI. I also wasn’t eligible to buy a house through HUD because my income was super low, even though being in SSI automatically qualified me to buy one. Instead of paying my rent HUD would pay the mortgage. No one could explain why I didn’t quality. I let it go. It wasn’t til the HUD worker said my income was lower than others on SSI that I learned that when I first applied for SSI I was living in my soon to be ex husband’s house. They took 1/3 of the SSI in lieu of me paying rent. I thought they took 1/3 because I got food stamps. I had no idea. So when I realized they owed me $25k they said “sorry. We only go back 2 years when you realize we made a mistake”. I got 5k. I could not find a lawyer who would take an SSI case. I only had 30 days and I could not find one. I lost 20k and a house that I could be renting out right now and making a few hundred dollars a month on. The reason they gave me was:”we thought you just changed your mailing address”. No. They had a copy of my lease and drivers license. They lied. Somebody screwed up. I had to let it all go. I took care of my kids alone. When I was sick, too bad. If it wasn’t the weekend (and my parents could take the kids) I had to do it alone. I had foot surgery once and couldn’t walk and couldn’t take the pain meds that actually worked. I had to hop to the kitchen to cook. And on top of that we had to pet sit for the weekend. I had to use a crutch and take the dog out. (You can’t use 2 crutches and have a dog on a leash lol) one is hard enough lol) I survived. My youngest is 23 now. There are so many single parents out there. It’s not a rare thing. We do what we have to do!
SSI tries to scr@w people out of qualifying here in Maryland. Our son was Dx schizophrenia and they denied him immediately right after he was verified thru the hospital, psychiatrist, facilities he was in. We had to hire an attorney and the attorney was supposed to brief him the day before the phone hearing but was MIA so our son told them he was able to go to the store by himself and family events but he wasn’t able. And they denied him. We live in Maryland ❤
Shout out to Single parents and to Peter!! Thanks for this topic...I am struggling with getting out there. The good thing about fostering kiddos is you can sometimes get a history with new additions....even just a lil background....Potential dates don't come with papers aaannnnd if they do have papers, 🏃🏃🏃!!! However, when I'm not working with kiddos and my daily adulting is done... I watch crime tv!? EVERYONE is nice at first and can tell you anything😳...I know one thing, I wont look good in cement sneakers and a garbage bag!😱 I used to be afraid of being alone but once I found a groove, I learned I don't NEED anyone and I like my garbage bags for my trashcans😉!! Then, I think I may have been single too long as I'm not jumping up and down at the thought of trying. So, for now, I am at "if it's meant to be, what needs to happen will" if I DO date...thanks to crime network...I will for sure do the "Duggar date" and have someone following 🤷😬😂😂😂 to assure the dates safety😂😂
Asked these questions so many times ❤still waiting for some answers ❤How do you get make a living ? Pay your rent and living expenses? How is the compensation 😮😅hows it possible to make it financially? 6:19
Peter, I think you're getting in your own head. Why would you ever have to compete with or think you need to measure up to your spouse? You choose a partner who wants the same things you want. There's someone out there for you.
Now a days there’s mostly single parents in the world, what’s the big deal, if it’s doable then that’s all that matters🤷🏻♀️ TYFS, be happy, spread joy and enjoy your life🙏♥️💫✨👼🏻✨💫♥️🙏
Im glad fostering works out well for you but when there is a family with biological kids & you take in kids from a trauma abuse situation people dont see the other side of foster care from your videos on the biological kids. There are permanent traumas to biological kids with being exposed to unhealthy things they were never exposed to before in their healthy mother father household. I think you being single with no biological kids first is a huge bonus & completely different dynamic than what we kids & my parents went through. We all tried our best but the kids brought many negative aspects into our home & that stays with kids who had a healthy family its traumatic. There are other experiences to foster care that wont be experienced through single parent no bio children fostering.
Please consider thinking of and summarizing your experiences of being an under educated person trying to make your way through the world. Eons ago and still today our grade school selves wonder about the value of our school work; usually when things are getting tough in say math, reading, or the writing assignmemts are getting longer. In my adult life, i couldnt imagine living without being able to use decimal numbers or quickly figure how many dollars 25% off is by multiplying the cost by .25 (by a $1 calculator of course). There are ways around this by utilizing math therory but the road is long amd often unassured. Likewise, by the time most of us question we have some basic reading down but being unable to read or only read poorly is like trying to decipher food labels in a foriegn language; how do you read warnings on tne street or on the job. Then consider working those reflections and summations into a 2nd or 3rd grade presentation, an adult literacy program pep talk, or English as a Second Language discussion for learners or supporters. You speak well but i think have some insights which could bridge gaps.
