I cannot emphasize how much I enjoy watching "the new" you. So much more genuine and honest and I feel more connected to this version of a more vulnerable and real Michel. You were almost hiding before. It is like you shed the dead weight of a toxic and unloving relationship and you have truly bloomed. So happy for you! Cannot wait to continue "joining" you on your new life's path. Thank you for sharing with us and being open. I cannot imagine how difficult it has been for you at times, but I know that you have helped so many people who are/were going through heartbreak and change and in so inspired them to keep pushing on. You are so deserving of love and happiness and I hope your new lover brings you just that! I adore how he spoils you and think it is such a beautiful reminder to everyone that there are so many good people out there and not to be jaded by the bad ones or heartbreak. Im so happy to hear that you have grown and learned so many lessons from this "challenge". Divorce is nothing to be ashamed of. Choosing yourself is always admirable. Love you all the way from a tiny rock in the Caribbean sun - Sint Maarten!
How is it that a total stranger can bring so much joy to me (and lots of other people)?! You're such a sweet and genuine person, Michel. God bless you ❤️
I’m binging watching your videos to keep me moving forward after just filing for divorce after 24 years of marriage. I keep telling myself this season will pass ❤❤❤
I've just come out of a 21-year controlling and manipulative relationship. I'm 6 months in of being "free" but I feel like I still have to come to the realisation that there is no one there to tell me what to do and what not to do...Being free is simultaneously over joyous and scary..💖.
I was in a 20 year abusive and controlling relationship myself. I’m about 6 years out and get a little lonely sometimes but the peace I have totally makes that go away quickly! You will be great, I promise!
I am 71 and I have been in the same controlling relationship for 24 years unfortunately I am stuck due to finance. He is a manic bipolar, OCD on meds but he is a Debbie downer on every aspect of life 😢
Many of these ideas can apply if you're in a healthy relationship, too! Often we put our interests, hobbies and self-care on hold just because we get into a routine or don't want to seem "silly" as you say, or don't want to expend the energy, even though our partner is supportive. A good kick in the butt to live life to the fullest no matter what!
I wish past Michel 9 months ago was able to see this video. To know that you would be okay...in fact, much better than okay. That you would grow as an individual, be capable of so much on your own, and to experience love in a new way that it is meant to be experienced. I only started watching you during your divorce but I want you to know that you are an absoloutley beautiful woman (inside and out), you are intelligent, you are appreciated, you are loved, and you are worth ALL of it. Keep being beautiful, keep growing, and accept the love you give to the world. ❤
If I had just one solid piece of advice, it would be to just take your time in your new relationship to really enjoy the Love and respect you’re feeling. Do not disregard red flags if they show up, even if it’s something you consider small or insignificant. Face it head on.
I lost my oldest brother and dad in the last two years and have been on a ‘self discovery’ myself, while working on self worth and grief. Thank you on behalf on any other single ladies, anyone else unlucky in love, anyone else grieving a loved one, and anyone else learning to love themselves again after ‘losing’ themselves in hard times; your real videos are helping more people than those going through a divorce/ separation - thank you, Michel 💛
Idk if you like beauty videos but I would really suggest watching Kelly gooch. She lost her older brother and dad too. Her dad from covid. She’s single living in NYC. You might really enjoy her !
Love this. I have always said that when the universe throws all your dominoes up in the air, they often come back down in a much more pleasing pattern, from my experience. Michel, you are a perfect example of this. I love seeing how happy, healthy and beautiful you are and how far you've some from that sad, stressed young lady who started this VLOG. I cant wait to watch you keep on going from strength to strength. You are a true inspiration
I've noticed you are more authentic since your divorce and getting settled into your new life. In those videos before you revealed a divorce was coming, I always felt your "happiness" seemed fake and I noticed a lot more EMPHASIS of love towards your spouse than what he was showing, as if you were trying to convince viewers that everything was so wonderful. Now I see your true happiness, your authentic love...love for yourself, your future, and the possibility of a new relationship. You glow!! So happy for you, it's not an easy journey, but God is using your journey in an amazing way and it is obviously helping others!! ❤️
This resonated with me a lot, sadly the part of not feeling wanted or appreciated physically did make me feel like there was something wrong with me to the point I put a lot of effort into looking better but it barely got any recognition, so I just kept thinking I was not enough. After breaking up I even started to see old pictures of me and thinking wow I actually looked better than I thought at the time.
I’m with my person and there’s things I want to do but he wouldn’t enjoy or can’t physically do so I am making a list and doing these things with friends!! This video was helpful even for others in happy relationships who maybe need the reminder to not let go of what YOU love or would do alone!!❤️❤️
I was married at 18 and divorced at 19, and although I left my Church long ago, I didn't leave my faith behind with it. My two favorite mindsets didn't come from the Bible, but from country songs - "If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans," and "God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." The only right timeline is the one that God hands you, whether you understand it or not, and we'll end up where we need to be. These lines have brought me so much peace over the years, especially when I was going through that divorce.
I totally agree that after a divorce...there comes a time where you feel more stable. I realized my worth comes from God not my spouse. You are so STRONG Michel. I continue praying for you. Love you...girl❣❣❣
Watching this, even though I’m not currently in need of this. The first video I watched was you announcing your divorce publicly to the world.. I’ve been here ever since then. You are a like a big sister to a lot of girls here, I bet. You are such a gem. I’m glad I stumbled across your channel.
I guess the aunt voice in me is wanting to ask all the questions ….. isn’t too soon? Does he have a steady job? Are you really taking care of yourself (nutrition)? Why the rush? Sorry…. Its just questions I’m sure others are asking. Or maybe just me 🤷🏻♀️
Much needed video 🤍 I’m slowly learning the positivity of leaving a toxic relationship and how beneficial it truly is. I legit wouldn’t know what to do without your content! I’m so happy to witness happy Michel!
My daughter moved to NYC a few months ago, she's an adult. She has a good job, walks to work. Has been all over Central Park. Been to Broadway shows, demonstrations, Coney Island, played golf. She's keeping very busy. I haven't been more than 2 miles from home for maybe 3 years. I have my own bonds, she's free. I am old, she never will be. I am comfortable, she's free and so alive and interesting. I love her so much , can't say I envy her.... Sometimes.
I just saw your divorce video from May 23, 2022. I think you married the wrong person without really knowing who he was. It is imperative to share family and life goals with your partner. I don't know how long you knew him before you married, but it certainly was not long enough. No judgment here as this happens a lot. I would advise you to go slow and find someone new who truly shares your life view and goals, family, children, and religion. Please take your time even if it takes a year, 5 years, or even 10. This is heartfelt advice after 30 years of marriage. I wish you only the best moving forward. You are young and intelligent so I am sure you will learn much as your life continues. Finding a loving non-violent partner who wants to share his life with you and not his friends is key.
You have a beautiful sparkle in your healing since the separation and divorce. God is with you and that is what I see and celebrate! Thanks for sharing with us. It makes me feel so hopeful !
I'm so proud of you and all of your growth Michel. The first video of yours that I came across was literally you announcing that you're moving forward with a divorce, you have grown and changed so much since then. You look happier and healthier and I hope the Lord keeps you on this upward trajectory!
The pure joy of my atheism, throughout all the pain of the separation, became even stronger. I enjoy being an atheist even more now and find it more enriching than I ever could have imagined. My connection to the woods, to nature, to the outdoors, has never been more joyful and full of awe. 👍
There are so many similarities of what I’m going through in my own separation and girl it helps so much to hear all of this! I relate to everything you’re saying! Go you and thank you for being an internet big sister!
Aham, you are being too nice...these are not the good things that come out from a break-up, these are the good things that come out from breaking up with the person that was not right for you. These are all red flags. A relationship should have more building up then breaking down and giving up yourself 🥲
So many nuggets of wisdom in this video, not only for people going through divorce/break ups but also happily married/in a relationship or single/dating!
I look forward to eating much healthier and adding more veggies to my diet, which he hated. I will never make boxed mac & cheese again. I rarely drink alcohol, so it would be nice not having beer mugs taking up space in my cabinets and alcoholic beverages in my fridge. I look forward to turning music on during the day, opposed to television as background noise. Oh yes, a change is gonna do me good.
Michel, this video will be encouraging to many people feeling stuck in bad relationships or going through a breakup. It can be so difficult to see light at the end of the tunnel in the midst of a really hurtful situation. Thank you for sharing and know that we are so glad to see you happy & smiling again. You are a blessing.
I agree with all of this!!!! I thought breaking up would be so hard but I actually went from crying everyday to not crying at all!!! I don’t need to cry anymore because he’s not there being a jerk lol.
Seeing you happy and thriving as a twenty-something, and watching you navigate being single but genuinely happy for your friends & family in healthy relationships has been so encouraging. I always love and feel inspired your content and spirit! 💕
You are like the personification of a Taylor Swift song. Love, heartbreak, healing and a strong smart independent badass women. I wish I had your videos when I was going through my break-up from a 7 year turbulent relationship. Your openness and vulnerability has made an impact on so many people. Thank you so much for sharing with us!
You seem so much more at peace and confident in who you are and what you deserve. Kudos to you! Jordy sounds phenomenal 😍. It will work out and will be better. My second marriage is so good and now I have three sons. Never would have happened otherwise. You got this girl!!! 👍.
Love how comfortable and happy you are! You did seem to be more reserved in the way you dressed and acted and now it’s like you’ve blossomed into the woman you were meant to be! So happy for you! All great lessons too and it’s wisdom I try to impart on friends who’ve been through shitty breakups. Maybe pt 2 at some point? Love you so much 🖤🖤
I wish I found you sooner! I find your videos so refreshing. I’m also newly divorced. I never thought it would be my story, but getting through that hard, crazy, blessing journey I can happily and honestly say I’m so much better for it. Thank you for your truth and for being so open and honest about your life.
Thank you so much! My divorce happened 14 years ago and this video helped me process a lot of the positive in my life since then and the things I still get to work on. I appreciate your vulnerability and honesty 🥰
I enjoyed the video Michel it’s been fun watching you grow throughout this and I just wanted to say that it’s always cool to hear you say “Hey Friends” in the beginning of your videos
I found your channel right before I broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years at the end of May 2022. I cannot "Thank you" enough for sharing your journey. We are the same age (25) and it's been so weird transitioning to being single in my 20s and learning to live on my own again. Your channel has 100% given me hope that love and happiness is out there and to NOT settle. I know what I deserve and I won't settle for anything lower. I think if I lived in Austin, we would be close friends---sometimes when I watch your videos, I see my future self. Hope you are having a safe Holiday!
This truly made me feel so hopeful. I just ended a very significant and long term relationship and I’m devastated, but my needs weren’t being met. I’m hopeful for my future after seeing this ❤ thank you for being so open because you are always helping someone. It’s nice to know I’m not alone
Hey everyone be careful not to compare the end of one relationship to the beginning of a new one. Compare beginnings to beginnings imo to see if the new person is more compatible than the last.
This was amazing and so wholesome thank you for speaking from your heart. Your old videos do not seem like your new ones. I know this is a recurring comment but I just wanted to support that
I would love to hear from your friends and family on how the break up was for them and what advice they can give someone to help them get through. I recently had a friend going through a breakup - nothing I could say would give her relief from the pain to the point we didn’t feel safe leaving her alone but we didn’t want to be around her anymore. It made it traumatic for all of those around her and we love her so much.
I am at this moment in the potential/it’s happening phase of a breakup after 3 years (almost 2 living with him 1,000+ miles from home) and the logistics are going to be gut wrenching in and of themselves, on top of the heartbreak, so I needed this video more than anything right now. thank you Michel! ❤️
Thank you so much Michel for this Video. I‘ve been going through a breakup & been feeling like I am stuck even after 9 months after the breakup I am still feeling so broken and vulnerable, not beeing able to face him without feeling sick and so lonely.
I resonate with all of these!!! I am with the love of my life for over 5 years now. We were friends during my past breakup and he took the first chance he got to be with me lol it was so much faster than I antecipated but he treated me so well and loved me for me and I fell in love! To think I was so scared I would be alone. I was hurting so bad with the whole breakup situation but the peace I felt almost right away was undeniable - no need to impress that person anymore. Good for you Michel!!!
You allowing us see this journey and be on it with you has been absolutely incredible. Watching you find yourself and change and grow has been awe-inspiring ❤️
I've never been through a break up, but can still relate to a lot of these. I didn't meet my boyfriend, who is my first relationship until I was 28, I'm turning 30 this year. By that time I had moved countries on my own 4 times, studied abroad, lived in shared houses and by myself, and was very independent. I did date but for a long time it would never go anywhere, and it wouldn't go further than one or two dates. Then I realised there were certain experiences I wanted to have before committing to one person. I had actually matched with my current boyfriend on different dating apps multiple times in the 2-3 years before our first date, but at the time I didn't want something serious and he didn't give me casual vibes, so I kind of hold it off. I did my thing casually dating different people, trying different things before I was ready to jump into something with my boyfriend. I actually learned so much from those 12-18 months where I was pretty actively casually seeing different people, not just about the person I would like to be with, but also what my boundaries are, what I want/like in the bedroom, communication, being more comfortable around men in general, and I'm so happy I did it that way. It's crazy to think that if I met my boyfriend after the first time we matched, he might have been the one and only guy I would ever been with. Although I don't know if our relationship would be as good as it is now, as I would have been a completely different person going into it. Wow that turned into a bit of a ramble haha, anyway, love your videos, can't wait for the next one :)
You are wise beyond your years and your self-reflection regarding this experience and your level of self-awareness now is admirable and I can see how proud you are of yourself, as you should be 😊
A lot of this can be applied to other big life changes as well and I found it helpful. I quit my job and took a plunge to start my own business without knowing if it would work out. I’m working through many of these themes of growth and personal discovery and development too. Thanks for discussing some of these more personal topics ❤️
It has been so good watching you progress from a vulnerable person to a confident young woman. You have a lovely family who I'm sure have helped you alot, but you have had to push yourself and understand that you do deserve love and you do not deserve to be treated badly and ignored. Wishing you well for the future.
Michel, you are adorable! Just wanted to mention how much I like your intro--the music and your “Hello or Hi Friends”-so kind and uplifting. Also, please stay with RU-vid for those of us who don’t use instagram. Keep enjoying all of God’s awesome blessings.
God had a better plan for you Michel and I’m so glad to see you consistently working on yourself and inspiring so many people including myself. I have been following you since just a little before your divorce and seeing you evolve into this new phase of life has touched so many people. Looking forward to see more of this new you, continuously keeping you in my prayers 💕
Thanks for all your words of wisdom and your insight into a very personal phase of your life. It helps a whole lot for I guess many of us but it helped me in a difficult time of my own to nit feel so alone and lost. Keep on shining girl. ✨
You’re a very wise girl. Everything you said is so true. I’ve been there, done it. Now married to my current, wonderful husband for almost 38 years. Don’t settle for anything or anyone that you don’t deserve. Going through times like you did/are, makes you very strong and forms your future. And yes … faith. ❤️
I truly enjoy watching your videos. You have so much wisdom and grace for someone your age . I have a daughter your age and one older. I am 58 years old have been through divorce and then the breakup of a long term relationship about two years ago. I was so afraid of being on my own but now I am so grateful for the time I’ve had for me! My life is so full with my daughters and my friends. I would like to be in a relationship again but haven’t met anyone. Even if that doesn’t happen for me it’s okay. I am happy for the first time in a while. I know now that I would never give up who I am or my interests just to be in a relationship again. ( Took me long enough, lol ). God Bless you, Michel . You are helping so many people with your videos.
You are wise beyond your years!! I have so much love and admiration for you as a woman! You are so very beautiful inside and out! I see the brightest happiest life and future for you ! I wish all of life’s most wonderful things for you always Michel!
This is the longest amount of time I have been single. I have issues with codependency from past trauma and relationships. I never thought I would be happy being single. I also never thought that I would ever feel like I really don't want to jump back into another relationship. It's been great being alone for me.
My wife left me and it has taken me months/years to Reround myself and who I am and who I desire to be with others. That being said you are a love example of a strong virtuous woman. I wish I would have the opportunity to meet you in person. Appreciate your vulnerability in these Vlogs
You are such an inspiration Michel. I wish that years and years ago when I had gotten a divorce at 20 that I could have grown in this same way you are. That was not my story and I was wounded for a very long time. I'm now 46, married 20 years on Wednesday and have 4 beautiful children. I'm thankful for where I am now and thankful I finally did heal and grow. It was because of my Savior of course. I cannot take any credit but I do wish I could have had some better direction and help way back then.💛
I agree with all these beautiful things. Im out from an abusive relationship since almost two years now, sometimes i have some low moments, but overall, i rediscovered myself, relearned to be happy and content with just me. This made my life so peaceful. TKS for all this Sharing again, beautiful Michel ❣️
I just have so much love and appreciation for your personal growth and genuine heart. You’re a special, wee soul Miss Michel!🥰 if you ever come to New Zealand, yell out and I will show you around the top of the south:) luv stef xxx
My second husband asked me out for a year and a half before I finally went out with him. I dated other guys casually, but I just knew he was going to be a serious relationship so I resisted sooo long. Man I am so lucky he kept asking. From the first date we were together and have been for 23 yrs now. We have a 20 year old son, and will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in March 2023.
I'm a single 53 yo divorced man and had infidelity from my ex wife! And that was 23 years ago. My kids are grown and some have kids of there own!. I know how it hurts! Of course we had kids together and it made me a stronger man! My ex and I get along well... she's now two husband's past me and we still talk... very occasionally! But my point is in the long run you can move on and be the strong women you've become! I'm proud proud of how you have persevered! Stay strong and keep your head high! Love from Hempstead, Texas!... Texas Strong!
I am only now starting the seperation process, we have to be seperated one year to get divorced, and it's crazy to me how similar my situation is to yours! Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your story❤
Everything “bad” that’s happened in my life has taught me: zero expectations = zero disappointments The “best friends” I had while going through something traumatic, I expected them to be there for me and they weren’t. That alone was hard to deal with but over the years I’ve told myself this - expected nothing and was blown away by people’s kindness. Something bad, when you have expectations of your friends not reaching out, ask yourself: 1. Were they really a good/best friend? 2. What would I do if a good/best friend was going through this? Common sense is no longer common. And unfortunately bad things that happen, you end up finding out who your true friends are. ❤️
100% on the solo travel. I'm married and have traveled solo many times. It's appalling when people make comments to my husband like "you LET her go alone?" or "it's not as fun to travel alone". While I love having a travel partner, I'm not gonna miss out something just because I can't find someone to go with.
I’ve always tell my friends, you can’t see how deserving you are to a better partner until you let go. Of course it’s hard to see and imagine anything better because we can’t see the future but how can you if you don’t end a failed relationship
