THE UNFORGIVING WOMAN | The Slumflower Hour podcast 

I immediately blocked and unmatched with a man who decided to wait until I was driving to the location we agreed to meet to tell me that he wants to change up the location. We agreed on a time, and he had all day to tell me that the agreed upon location was too far and to change it up. Then, he had the audacity to ask why I waited to call until I was already on the road....uhhhh I didn't realize that I had to call you when we've already solidified plans the night before. He made no effort to contact me before. I couldn't believe what he was doing. I didn't play his game so I canceled the plans. He just said "okay" and hung up. No apology, no explanation, not even a goodbye. I don't know what he's used to, but I'm not desperate enough to be okay with how that whole thing was handled. Bye boo!

I’m unforgiving too. I believe people are aware of their intentions. I revenge and treat people exactly how they treat me. I do it to friends, family, coworkers everybody

Men don't care about the forgive part they just want to jump sr8 to the forget part.

I swear, men really say the quiet part out loud...but you have to really listen to what they say

8:56 😂 I used to explain and explain and explain…men don’t give a fuck about none of that!

TIMMING!! They had ALL the space and time to treat you right when they needed to and still refused to, there's no point in forgiving people

Not just men but women alike. Family members, friends and even coworkers.

I don't forgive NOTHING. I'm still mad at my brother for turning over the channel while I was watching it when I was 12 😐 so a random nobody has zero chance of trying to play with me twice. BLOCKED!

I am so grateful to have found this podcast. Truly.

Ma’am. Link the patreon in the show notes for the episodes moving forward! 🫶🏾

I forgive a lot of people. The only person you are obligated and will actually set you free is forgiving yourself! Take ownership for only your part in the situation and walk away!

Sounds like you were describing Shera. She's smart as hell

I forgive , I jut revoke access to myself afterwards . Lesson learned ❤

I feel absolutely supported in my beliefs here in this space. Thank you SlumFlower 🌸🌺🌼

I cannot get over the fact that this man heard you talk about a woman who is with a man 26 years her senior and got good provision and a house in her name out of it.....and he thinks the man was fleeced? How greedy&misogynistic can you actually be? He is 26 years (!!!) older, that is a sacrifice, too. She deserves everything she gets for being with such an old man. It's like a business deal, nobody got fleeced.

Great convo!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 you can’t teach self love tho, some will get this but most won’t. The “unforgiving” women will always be deemed the problem because of how desperate society is.

I dont forgive i just look back and hate

I feel so called out 😂😂

15:00 yoooooo that flashes me right back to when I was pregnant at 19 n my brother who was 14 year older than me still living at home gonna tell me “ he ain’t gonna be taking care of no baby with no baby “ about my child’s fatherrrrrrr😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 The father took care of his son 😂😂😂 The brother is still living at home and his 3 kids can barely visit because of the size of his room

The research equipment bit 😂🎯

chidi, could you make an episode sometime about how to maintain what you call “sexy friends”? lol i loooove this concept and everything i’ve heard you talk about before of flirty friendships, but hearing more about the details of those dynamics and the boundary-holding required would be lovely 🧚‍♀️❤️‍🔥

👏🏼 I Felt Every Word.

I can see through mens BS because of this podcast

It’s called absolution. It’s actually a catholic concept. It works too.

An eye 4 an eye girlie.😊

1000% unforgiving. Of course. But maybe unforgiving is the incorrect word. Maybe it's just seeing someone is not aligned with who I am and therefore they must go. The quicker, the better.

A research equipment 😂🎉

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4:12 It has nothing to do with religion. I'm a Christian and forgive and forget does not mean going back. Even the Bible says do not return to foolishness as a dog returns to eat it's own vomit. Proverbs 26:11. Yes, there are Christian "pick-me's" and that's a whole other story.

I love you

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i get what you’re saying its just very masculine to even have that conversation w a man in such a brute way