According to academic feminist Eva Illouz, "...men control the definition of the criteria that constitute women's attractiveness as illustrated by the premium put by men on women's youth, while youth is not a distinctive and necessary trait of male attractiveness. This is because women do not control the ideological-visual-economic apparatus that shape standards of attractiveness and beauty... The fact that men with higher incomes and education command a higher position in the sexual field gives them three outstanding advantages: their sexual power is not as obsolescent as women's and even increases with time... There is an overlap and even tight fit between men's sexual and social economic goals. Men's sexual power is not distinct or opposite to their social power and each reinforces the other. Conversely, women's sexual and social positions are far more likely to conflict with each other." From "The End of Love" (2018) p.120
Girl I love you 😂❤ been dating different age groups and zodiac signs, it does pay off - been on high class vacation in Italy, had good sex with the ratchet Gemini guy who cannot provide but is fun, one of them who is older and more established pays my rent now, 2 wanted to marry - it's a numbers game. Be more demanding and see it as a game it really works. Been a domme too and yes it's really worth it ❤ We cannot take men too seriously too soon.
Everytime I watch another podcast of yours, I become more liberated and self assured about taking my power back from men period. Sexually, verbally, physically, mentally & emotionally. The Goddess has been fully activated within me. Thank you for your work.
Hey Chidi, is there any discernment in this logic for WHERE this potential man is bringing his materialistic prowess from? Meaning of he is just using his daddy's card to show you he is a good man. One won't get too far with that.
I’m in relationship. This man got me messed up and you know how they piss you off and then you start looking on how ugly they really are lol. I know! The slumflower is about to get me right! 😂
4:12 It has nothing to do with religion. I'm a Christian and forgive and forget does not mean going back. Even the Bible says do not return to foolishness as a dog returns to eat it's own vomit. Proverbs 26:11. Yes, there are Christian "pick-me's" and that's a whole other story.
After this episode I really don't want to date. ...I am someone who isn't light-skinned if I started cutting myself into what men want it is just impossible.
You know this internalizes the belief that if you weren't naturally beautifully you won't be able to get a good mate. Like some of us weren't born light-skinned if I used this reasoning I would have to turn myself into a light-skinned woman in order to get good treatment
YES BITTER TRUTH. Men respond to beauty. They themselves will admit that women who look the best and put the most effort into themselves will yield the best results with men and get the best treatment .This is the reality whether you see it as fortunately or unfortunately .
My mother raised me like this but I let the pan African movement lull me into thinking otherwise …but it’s true, looking good yields great results in every arena
Thanks for this direct and unapologetic episode. I’m here for it. Looking nice and put together absolutely matters! Does it get you better results with men? YES! But beyond that it also gets you better treatment in shops, at appointments, in interviews. More smiles. Better service. Every interaction is better. People go out of their way to interact with you. They’re kinder too. Can we stop fighting with the reality of the world we live in, accept this fact, and in the wise words of Slumflower “stop sleeping on our potential”?!
every episode i watch, I become more awakened to taking my power back from centering men as a priority & stop giving my respect, time, energy, pussy & kindness to a man before I give it to myself!
And also would like to know how you go about physical boundaries with men you date so you dont end up in a dangerous situation potentially (since some men can expect sex once they have invested their money )????❤ ty
Hi chidera, i am interested in knowing wether the whole point of this lifestyle🎉😛 working out would be them not really knowing that they probably will never have sexy time with you? Reconsidering loads of stuff and wondering how to navigate this leverage thing😂
thank you once again for not allowing us as women to lower our own standards anymore. We get too attached to committing to one man before committing to ourselves. Ive done it since I was 18. Now Im 25 finally deciding to not put all my eggs in one basket!!
wow! its the alignment that i was brought to your platform at this very time while im committing back to myself and gaining my power back! Im 5 years apart from my brothers too! First born everything! THIS IS DEEP
Eww. Recently, there was this guy at work that has seemed interested in me, but he always had some way of trying to make me feel small.... and its gross because he's 12 years older than me. He basically was never good at anything and im young and I just graduated with a computer science degree and i quickly received a promotion at work... because I'm talented and have a lot of experience. He's so jealous. Its like he's having a mid life crisis and decided to just get weird that he can't have me and he can't have what i have. Low effort guys that never do anything with their lives.
whewwwww with your wisdom and learning through this episode I will never give another man the satisfaction of being able to switch up on me and take parts of my peace, power and pussy with them! ❤️
If yall not taking notes from every episode she has at this point you are ruining your own life! My whole mind has been cleared & Im no longer letting men have power over me !
