Some bullshit if you are a minority you are considered a microcosm of your folk. so you have to work as a community to control that narrative... Bitches should be able to be ratchet hundreds of miles away without that having nothing to do with how people see you... ☕ Exhausting
@draftee the white tr@$h f@ggot yes but no one is uplifted and promoted like this how we do it in our community. The amount of fame BM get from these rappers is high.
I got what Courtney was saying; she wants to live the Suburban/ soccer mom lifestyle and there is nothing wrong with that. I told my partner the same thing and I’m not going to have a child until we are financially comfortable.
The crazy thing is ppl were really on her case cause she then announced she was pregnant and the daddy is some type of rapper and they aren’t married. Most of the comments I seen ppl were getting on her cause of the hypocrisy
but that is so empty as well. so what, she wants to also depend entirely on someone, except in the suburbs, and in lulu lemons? how is that better. the fact that people base their lives on aesthetics is beyond me
Frankly I'm tired of the consumerism on both the "hood rich" and "lux rich" aesthetics. Nothing wrong with not being rich. Normalcy has attracted such disdain that young women can't fathom any other definition of success apart from money.
Yes 👀☝️ I alsonthink that most jobs nowadays are pretty bad. Like 6 years ago in 2016 we all desired lucrative careers that we enjoyed. But so many things have happened in just the past 2 years 😭☝️, that even with a good degree and work ethic you can still find yourself stuck. Its sad, but I think a lot of girls feel like marrying rich is more attainable/doable/possible than working your way up or finding an emotionally available man to marry , 🙃😭🥲 My ideas aren't perfect but I think this plays a role in a lot of girls thinking 🤔 ☝️👀🤔
Some guy on a dating site messaged me once and said he thought I was strange in a good way because I seem totally happy with mediocrity. I was like uhhh OK? Lmao
The part about jayda saying she knows a man will cheat and she accepts it is wild. A girl I know in real life said the same thing a few weeks ago and I was floored. I’ve been with my bf for years and I wouldn’t be okay with that, but that’s me.
@@bbygirlariI don’t even necessarily think it’s the bar. Men aren’t shit and a lot of woman (not me) accepts it. A lot of women has this “the majority of men aren’t shit so just pick which one you want to put up with” mentally. Society accepts men not being shit and it’s so normalized for the woman to take them back/stay and it has always been that way.
A content creator on here named Chrissie made a very interesting video on the “hood rich” aesthetic and she made excellent points throughout the entire thing! I think people hype these types so much bc they honestly see them as aspirational and more relatable than the “classy” black girl in luxury types.
Yesss, I’ve heard of her! I’m definitely checking out her video on this loaded topic. We need to hear all point of views and theories. I totally agree with you in reference to them seeming more relatable. Thank you for sharing!
It’s totally okay for women to be beautiful & successful, whether their relationships work out or not. SHAMING WOMEN FOR NOT BEING MARRIED IS MISOGYNY! Black women are “witch hunting” successful single mothers because society said that “hood Black women” who are NOT centering a man are supposed to be suffering. This “baby mama culture” conversation is a dead end for the Black community & plays into respectability politics. Single Mother’s will continue to prosper & be successful & their is nothing wrong with that.
@@taginefc3189 umm no. You missed the point. This issue isnt being a baby momma. The issue is 1. Lack of family planning 2. Purposefully getting pregnant by a rapper or athlete to “get a bag” 3. Then they end up resenting their kid or their kid resents them because the dad is a DEADBEAT. I know women who are single mothers but at least got pregnant when engaged and chose men who are ACTIVELY INVOLVED in their kids life. Black folks like you always want people to celebrate dysfunction! Being a baby momma to a dead beat is dysfunctional, letting a man expose you to STIs so you can “get a bag” is DYSFUNCTIONAL. Get a therapist, talk to a sociologist and you would know this!
I feel like they’re obsessed with them because they can relate to them. It’s more attainable to them than the “Whole Foods, LuluLemon, Black Girl Luxury” types. I also think a part of them feels like those types think they are better than them or “stuck up”.
@@bedazzlinbeauty Yes! I think we are in agreement because that’s what I meant. The “rapper baby mama” types tend to think the “LuluLemon” girls are “stuck up” due to insecurities.
@@Princess-jc8rg no, there is more history to it than being "insecure" to say a Black woman is insecure of the Lululemon girlies is disrespectful. If you pay attention you'll know most not all Black woman's households are their moms doing everything now a woman like that we'll never think of Lululemon when it comes to herself because the home is where the mindset comes from and Ghetto aesthetic caterers to them while the Lulugirls definitely make themself unattainable so there's more here than being "insecure." Let's stop misusing that word it's the equivalent to the word pick me. If you're not willing to explain why you think a certain girl is insecure of someone don't claim she is.
The way she dragged the “nobody cares” bit, truly shows projection. She was in a DV relationship w/ Herbo herself. She probably felt like no one cared about her predicament so why should she? It’s sad really.
Definitely. She’s been through a lot of pain in her life and I don’t think she’s dealt with any of it in a healthy way or that anybody was really there for her when she was going through all of it. I truly hope she heals.
I don’t want to be a baby mama I want to be a wife and a mother with 2 kids but I got to have the right one to be with but I don’t date somebody that has kids with somebody else I don’t want to be somebody step mom. I really wish I choose the right one because it’s really hard to be honest
Yes girl finding the right one these days almost seems far and few between. So many women accept the bare minimum or don’t even do that having men confused when women with standards come around. It’s hard out here, but you will find your person!
Same here, I do think I want to be a mom, but it sounds super undesirable to me right now probably because I haven't found "the one". However, I am so ready to be a wife before becoming a mother.
No no kids now... Waiting is so much better... My fiance got me pregnant four times before we got married it was not worth it... So yes wife first and give it time afterwards...
A creator stated a hypothetical scenario on Tik Tok. She said something along the lines of choosing between a football player or a doctor who makes the same amount of money. To me, the doctor was a no-brainer. I was shocked to see the number of people choosing the football player. They are obsessed with clout and anything they feel will get them validation from strangers on the internet. I'm not excited to see where this world is headed.
I just can’t have a baby until I’m married and married to a trusting, loving, provider. The instability from a pregnancy that was created out of a situationship is not going to be my life. The cycle ends with me
I hope the last woman takes being a step mom seriously. Marrying someone that already has children, you need to realize that you're not just marrying your spouse. The children and other parents come along with it. I think she's putting herself in a tougher situation than just being a baby mama for sure. I am posting this 8 months late but I hope she realized that LOL
As always you content is on point and fire! It's great you raise this to everyone's attention because I don't even think 50% of the people caught up even realize they have a dysfunctional obsession with toxicity. I hope more and more women (of all ages) stop, think and actually start loving themselves. #SKITinspires
Thank you so much and yes I totally agree! The quicker we realize what is considered “cute” or “goals” the faster we will break away from the shackles of toxicity in our lives and relationships. Thank you for watching!
ikr I try to tell my Lil sis all the time that she shouldn't look up to this women bc I want her to be a strong independent woman and think fir herself
No amount of money is worth sacrificing your integrity. Self worth, self love, happiness etc is YOUR own responsibility. What u allow a significant other to get away with says a lot about you. Money comes and goes like u can't be that desperate to be seen by people who won't even show up to ur funeral. If u can't get it on ur own, maybe u should think about why that is lol our community is embarrassing smh
What made Courtney’s video offensive was that she IS A RAPPERS BABY MAMA. Her baby daddy is one of the rappers from Travis porter. And to say that ari and jayda since they’re ‘ghetto’ don’t shop at Whole Foods in the middle of the day wearing lululemon is outta pocket. When they probably be shopping at erowon or wegmans.
Exactly as if she doesn’t carry the same monochromatic corny wannabe aesthetic as a lot of these new money women. The fact that op compared her look to that of a lawyers is humorous. Upper echelon women aren’t going to lulu lemons, she just wanted to shit on other black ppl
i think what's sad about these girls obsessing over these women and wanting so desperately to be in a similar position says a lot about the people wanting to live these lifestyles. Most of the time (almost always) they don't want to have AND raise another human and they usually just want a fast way to be rich and have these men stuck to them. That's not to say women are gold diggers and i do think these types of relationships mutually benefit both sides in some way or another BUT it's at the cost of their morals, integrity, and it has them constantly embarrassed in public (especially if they still attempt to have a romantic relationship with the famous person). I think these girls that are so obsessed just dont have anything going for them other than wanting to be rich, they rarely have enough ambition to get money of their own. it just says a LOT about the girls who look up to these women, usually they are so incredibly insecure and boring (?) that they're completely fine with being constantly embarrassed publicly by men who really do not give a single shit if they live or die. I just wish women knew their worth and had more aspirations than being rich at the cost of being constantly ridiculed and disrespected.
Nah them being clowns on their own is one thing. But bringing a child into a situation that you KNOW isn’t stable in any way is fucked up and evil low key.
a man proposing to u just bc you're pregnant with his child is kind of embarrassing. do it out of love and when the timing is right, not bc you feel the pressure of us having a child. its different if he proposes before you get pregnant, but proposing when finding out you're pregnant.... no.
It’s really how you look at it, if their purpose was to get with them for the money/clout=mission complete, if they actually love them and want to be in a “real” relationship=mission failed
No we need to shame them because you don’t bring an entire human being into this world as some long term business deductible to make sure you get your business off the ground because you’re in league with some ain’t shit dude who doesn’t mean well by you. And if they’re going to go into business then they need to do something different. I’m sick of hearing about another broad selling waist trainers, tummy teas, bundles, and “writing books”.
Fr that’s the part people gloss over. A child isn’t a golden ticket or a pawn or a ‘momento of your love.’ That is a whole human being that you are responsible for.
I love this video!! Thank you for standing for a great message. Our ideals today are so messed up. We NEED to see more successful women now more than ever.
It’s all about the clout & the child support A lot of them probably don’t care that their baby daddy is cheating bc they still getting extra money staying with them How many times is she gonna say no one cares ? I counted she said it about 18 times …
If your not ready to marry someone and some one isn’t ready to marry you their shouldn’t be a rush for marriage just because you have a child on the way.
Yes I agree with you, but if I’m doing things that will causes me to conceive a child it will be a man that I see as my potential husband regardless. That’s my point.
It is becoming a REAL PROBLEM. I see TikTok’s all the time bashing women that would rather have their own then ones that sit back and get pampered. LIKE AREN’T WE MOVING PAST THOSE TIMES? There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with a man that can afford to get you things and treat you like a princess. It’s different to seek out a man to do those things, so you can what, soak in his wealth and lifestyle? Where is the individuality, the independence. It’s 2022 our goals in a relationship should be way more in depth than dating a man that for what he can do for you, history has proven love is way more than that. Why can’t we, as women, have it all, a career, A MAN THAT LOVES AND RESPECTS US, pampers us, and sees us as their equal? WE DESERVE BETTER!!!! 😔
Please don't shame anyone for not wanting a career. Building a career is not easy. There's nothing wrong in wanting to be pampered and loved. I don't agree at all with the whole baby mama situation but I think it's okay for women or men to marry into wealth if they don't want a career for themselves. Don't shame anyone's choices.
I'm new here. I love your content. I've Sat and watched almost all your videos. You're good at what you do and you are so pretty! Looking forward to more content from you 🥰 xo
It shocks me that girls these days are looking up to people who will invalidate Thier abuse to the point where they might internally deny Thier abuse because their favorite celeb makes them think no one cares i hope they get help 💓
Unfortunately, some back women has low self-esteem. A courageous woman knows when to work away from toxic relationships, it's not about money; no what's you worth.
There is so many examples of why this lifestyle is toxic, I can’t imagine buying into it. Most of these women are attracted to that street type. All these men were hustlers. The ones with the biggest bag will always attract the most women. And in that culture, no one cares about two parent households or are shamed for being a single parent. I want my man success and values to look way different.
Hey I’ve been really enjoying ur vids and I’ve been binging them A LOT. A thing I’ve noticed about Jayda is she loves him, and has a child it may be difficult to close a chapter with him
Why is Jayda always apart of these conversations when she was successful before Lil Baby? I mean yea she's still a baby mom but thts not really why she's famous.
as someone who personally been involved with dv and my mom as well, that shit hurts, how can u say that? women die everyday bc of dv and courts not doing thier job to protect us. but u dont care? and its mostly ur ppl black women? smh
I have a open mind and I try to think unbiased and an idea/theory that I had is maybe they want to feel a connection to the rapper/artist they listen to and relate to be seeing why they picked this person to be with. maybe something like that I don’t know. But that’s how I think some girls think not all of them some of them are obsessed with the material part
people who make fun of abuse and domestics violence victims have absolutely no morals or self respect. she’ll learn one day when someone backhands her so hard her wig will fly off😂
They need to make it a rule in everywhere where baby mamas of rappers cannot profit off if their baby daddy. They have to still get a job…a lot of these women need humbling.
i find it so crazy that men dont respect the mother of their children , like the whole thing with da baby too?? the same respect you have for your mother you should have for the mother of your child whether you with them or not . like how you gonna publically troll the mother of your child like some of these rappers do everyday??? being petty is not cute when a child is involved fr
SHADEROOM *cough* cough*, the most toxic page i have ever seen. Since i followed this page i have noticed the toxic nature of black culture especially the music/enterainment/ celebrity culture. Sadly, i now know people's/celebrities names that i would not have bothered to know before or who they are, and shaderoom are obsessed with rappers and their baby mamas. There are some good things in there too, the fun side of it but it's mostly toxic and honestly i have a love hate relationship with the page.
The girl that kept yelling "we do not care", I mean, the lady doth protest too much.. like saying don't care don't care a dozen times seems like some of that got to her....
I feel like baby mamas compete with each other and thinks they have a chance wtih the baby' father - like they compete to see with who the guy stays or marries with. They feel proud out the #numbrrs of baby mothers that they are the "chosen" One.
I feel like a lot of people forget that JAYDA was Jayda before Lil Baby, and she had her OWN money, her OWN brand, & she was somebody before she met him .
Idk how any of these women could fix their injected lips to call other women broke when they get money off of men that they’ve slept with. 😂 miss me with jayda having a hair business because she was def caught up in SCAMS in the past. 🙄 No couples should be couples to look up to cuz no relationship is perfect and what works for one couple Can’t work for another and I’ve been married & with the same man for 12 years and I’m only 31!
I am so proud of your point of view about this some old and young ladies they don't listen I see so much follow me .following low vibration energy of materials and objects it could trun you into something that you don't want .I never follow any celebrities or any trend I walk alone with the most high I am a woman that is my dad picture.to me I could get any man I want the rich ones also when I walk in a room men greet me with respect I get treated like queen anyway I go. I don't get approach by low vibration men the men that approach they're high vibration men.ladies know your worth and purpose.
I think a good example for a great role model for black women in the showbiz industry is Zendaya. And Zendaya really understands the responsibility of being a role model and takes it really seriously(From what I gathered from her past interview with Ellen Degeneres). She's one of the most unproblematic celebrities in Hollywood
