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Imagine how broken that girl must have been to be stuck in a toilet for 2 years in even while being in pain she still stayed there instead of taking care of herself.. my heart broke..
@@jackoh991 its not like the bf forced her to stay in there. Sad how every situation the blame is always shifted to a man. What would have happened if it were a male this happened to? No one would care and im positive the gf wouldnt face any consequence. Double standards at its finest
@@lilcleanex8644 the problem wasn't that he was male. The problem was that he was adult. If you're a grown adult who would sit by and watch while someone you're living with refuses to come out of the toilet for days on end, there's something deeply wrong with you, regardless of your gender.
Then there's the dude who vandalized a Roman building thousands of years ago so history would always remember his name. They changed his name in the reports and now no one knows who really did it.
This hits home so hard...my wife wouldn't leave our bathroom after a mental break for almost 6 months. Tried to get outside help but covid was on full swing and no one would help me..i think this is more common than people think.
My grandma had agoraphobia for most of her life, but it became really severe towards the end of her life. It started when she had a heart attack and became afraid of going far away from home, in case it happened again and there was no one to help her. Over the years it progressed from being afraid to go too far away, to being afraid to leave her own yard, to being afraid to go outside at all. She started spending more and more time in the guest bedroom of her home, and like the two cases described here, one day she went in and just... never came out. She spent the last few years of her life in that room, on absurd doses of tranquilizers that her irresponsible doctor would prescribe, watching TV and drifting in and out of consciousness. Ironically, when she finally did pass away, her heart--the thing she was so worried about for years--was the last thing to go. RIP, Grammy. I hope wherever you are, you're not afraid anymore.
What you said about the heart is similar to my mom. They diagnosed a weak heart at her, and over about 5 years, her basket of medicine to take every day filled more and more... One medicine against the side effects of the other. After 10 years suffering, she died from what i believe the many medicines she had to take, and the last thing pumping straight and strong when she was in her final coma was her "weak" heart. 😭
I got stuck in a bathroom once when I was a kid, it was one of those public ones with big gaps between the door and the ground, I just crawled under it.
She might find it comforting like the bathroom. *shrug* I usually wear a jacket where ever I go. I just feel more comfortable even when it's hot. It's probably because I used to walk around with my blankie covering me all the time. I imagine the wheelchair might have the same effect.
"She only had 18 showers in 902 days." I suffer from severe executive dysfunction as well as agoraphobia, ptsd, depression, anxiety, autoimmune issues... I found this both relatable and comforting because i take at least 100 showers per year. Woo!
"Woman stuck on a toilet seat for 2 years" Man, diarrhoea is sick ye? edit: jesus christ i didnt know that many people liked it, thanks guys! iVe nEvEr hAd tHiS mAnY lIkEs bEfOr- **cough**
„Once again I am disappointed, yet unsurprised at the failings of man“ - this is probably the best description of what I feel most of the time when reading the news these days.
I would just like to contribute that there's a reason why it's the bathroom that seems safe. In many homes, bathrooms are the only room that has a lock on the door handle. If you've tried to escape someone else in your home, the bathroom seems like a decent option because of the lock. The abuser can't get in. So it becomes a safe haven of sorts to wait out the storm until they aren't going to hurt you anymore.
I just can’t believe that you can get used to your loved one sitting on a toilet for 2 years then suddenly on day 902 you’re like “alright enough is enough”
I had agoraphobia as a teen. I was bullied at school and beaten at home and funnily enough, the only place I could actually avoid that was the downstairs toilet, the only room with a strong lock and I actually did wind up sleeping in their multiple times so I can really empathise with the security it brings. Though it's still not completely safe. It's a tough mental barrier to break.
If my girlfriend was sitting on the toilet for over a month straight and I didn't stop her, I would deserve 6 months probation. I don't have a girlfriend tho, so chances are non-existent so far.
"She'd been sitting for over a month with her pants around the legs, resulting in her skin somehow growing around the toilet seat" *I think this sounds like something Junji Ito would write*
Reii-kun I was literally just thinking that too, I’ve been binging a lot of his short stories and as soon as he started talking about the skin I was thinking “definitely sounds like Ito-style body horror”
"Honey, please come out." 'no'. "Please?" 'no' "Please?" 'no' Rinse repeat for 902 days at which point he finally decides "that's it we're getting the authorities"
Being struck by lightning has a chance of happening to anyone. Banging your favorite pornstar has a chance of happening to anyone. If something is physically possible to happen to a human, it has a chance of happening to anyone. That doesn't mean it's remotely likely. If you feel like you are going to behave in a way to have this extremely unlikely thing happen to you, then get help.
Some days ago I got trapped in a bathroom downstairs in my parents room, i immediately screamed and brother just tapped on the door from outside leaving the door open ... They thought I was pranking them as just a tap on the door ( from outside) was enough ... Then my mom was trapped in bathroom for over an hour while my dad was watching a film with headphones on ..my grandma's home is a few yards away and she yelled through the ventilator... Grandma came and told dad someone was calling her ... Dad thought it was me , came to my room upstairs and asked why i called her ... She was still trapped in that bathroom ..turns out the bathroom door had a problem and gets locked from inside , just a tap from outside was enough to open the door ...
My cat once trapped himself in the bathroom. He closed the door, then opened a drawer that was in front of the door so that the door couldn’t be opened from the outside. We spent hours trying to get him out. I think we just finally took the door off it’s hinges because there was no other way to get in. Man, I miss that cat.
If the door opened inwards (thus, getting stuck by the drawer), the hinges would have been on the inside, also. Maybe you hired a contractor to help out, and that's why you don't remember exactly what was done?
@@iloveprivacy8167 depends on how far open they could get the door and how the hinges are set. If there's enough space when the door is partially opened to get a nail or other strong piece of thin metal in there, you could potentially get it under the bolt and tap it out with a hammer.
When I was in college, I got stuck in the bathroom of my dorm for around three hours. Facilities ended up sledgehammering off the handle and I was able to get out.
I was in bed constantly for four years with physical (heart) and mental (OCD / anxiety) problems, ignored by five people living in the same house - my wife and children 😢 I couldn’t read, listen to radio, play music or watch TV because severe OCD since childhood prevented me touching things for fear of damaging them.
_There's a statistic inevitability that says, were you to become immortal, your chances of being trapped somewhere forever would eventually reach 100%_ I got so scared when you said that
That's why you (royal) should only ask the genie for some kind of "dependent immortality." Something that is otherwise readily accessible, like sunlight or water or whatever, so in these freak events you can still receive the sweet relief of death. Unless you're captured and tortured, I guess. I don't know, I try not to dwell on how awful we (humans) all are... Good luck with those wishes, I guess. *shrug*
I don't like this fallacy. Just because it's a 1 in a million chance doesn't mean it will happen if you try a million times. Every single time you try you try at 1 in a million odds.
Also I don't know why but when I read the tittle,I automatically thought about that old lady getting stuck on toilet because someone put super glue on it as a prank.
@@btd5ninja64 Your skin naturally sheds itself and goes through a layer about once every eight hours or so, so not really. Even if it was the really, really good glue that could seep several layers deep into your skin you might have to wait at most, like, a day.
Isn if this was true, but I heard a story about a little girl who went to a public bathroom where these two teenage girls put superglue. She summoned the willpower and strength to get off, be her skin fell off. Idk even know if this was true, though.
I can actually relate to secluding myself in the bathroom for longer than needed when I feel stressed or am going through a lot. The sense of complete privacy is reassuring. This is kind of a nice warning to self for signs of that becoming dysfunctional
Hey, I know it's been a while, but I hope you are doing ok. I understand wanting to isolate sometimes, and it's ok! Of course, not wanting it to become a problem is also normal, but quitting cold turkey would be hard, right? Maybe gradually finding another way to cope? I hope you are doing ok, but if you don't, it's also ok if you need some times or help. Be kind and patient with yourself, you deserve to feel safe in a way that's good for you :)
@@nilionth Oooh, I do too, but they express the fear of it becoming a problem. I just encouraged them in case it goes farther than they are comfortable with :)
Yeah. The bathroom's a space that can start to feel like it's the only place you aren't under constant scrutiny, or somehow expected to pay attention to everyone else's needs while putting up with never having your own needs considered. They're cool and quiet, too, long as you're alone. Feeling as though you can't leave is a horrifying thought, but I can certainly see how people developing agoraphobia could see their bathroom with it's good, solid lock as a mental safe room.
2:15 I love my best and I'd do anything for her. But jumping into an outhouse toilet for her phone is where I cross this line. As a matter of fact, I'd be too scared to use an outhouse so this will 100% not happen.
I feel like after a full day I’d be extremely concerned. I can’t imagine any circumstance in which I’d wait more than 2 or 3 days at the absolute maximum to call for help. Of course depending on the situation it could be as little as a few hours.
I'm guessing the situation comes up pretty rarely because it requires some form of effective mental disorder in at least two people (one person trapped, and an enabler to keep them fed and hydrated).
yeah i get as an acute response to trauma, if bathrooms are where they feel safe. But after that I don't see how someone can justify continuing to give them food and not calling for help.
it was said both of them were mentally ill. maybe he was denying that she needed serious help or was panicking because he didnt want to bother the police if it wasn't that bad of a situation. (which his brain was stopping him from seeing that it was.)
Still, doesn't explain the second case. We can assume that the husand who fed her was also mentally ill, but what about the son? What about the sister?
@@noideaxd3214 I mean.. yes.. but.. even if he did after a week, what would they do?? He cared for her at least and gave her food, water and support from behind the door. He can't force her and neither could the police. He couldn't possibly know what and how bad it actually got.
"Turns out sitting in the same spot for a month can have drastic effects." Me sitting in my chair watching this video for the entire quarantine: Hmm interesting
Me: seems kinda reasonable, the bathroom is a safe heaven. Brew: the reason for them staying there might've been agoraphobia Me: oh, yeah, the thing I have too, okay.
It's so weird this showed up as a recommendation. My next door neighbour got trapped in his bathroom a couple of weeks ago and only got out when I heard him yelling through the ventilation fan and called the building manager to let him out. 😅 I was so glad it wasn't me! I was diagnosed with agoraphobia about 7 years ago and I still go through bad patches at times. Lockdown has not been great for it as staying at home too much is one of the biggest triggers for me to spiral back into it. It's not a fun thing to live with, having a panic attack at the mere thought of having to do groceries is no way to live.
apparently later the boyfriend was charged and arrested for exposing himself repeatedly to the neighbors daughter. So uh... maybe there was something more nefarious going on where he was ok with his girlfriend just sitting on the toilet ?
It's really good that you took a supportive and encouraging angle about mental health. I feel bad for the husband who got put in jail. He wasn't a doctor. He did what he could. It's hard to help people when they don't want it.
Me: Writing books where one of the main characters was imprisoned using exceptionally cruel and inhuman methods "The Woman Who Was Stuck to a Toilet Seat for 2 Years" comes on. Me: Furiously scribbles notes.
@@ayme5868 thank you. It was a very bad time. I went everyday for about a month feeling like the only safe place for me was my home. The thought of going out and having someone so much as look at me was way too stressful. The only thing motivating me to leave home was not wanting to lose my job or starve. I don’t wish this upon anyone.
This is interesting. I always thought of agoraphobia as fear of large open spaces while I have always have thought of claustrophobia (which my mother has - it can be annoying...she won't use an elevator alone or at all if it is less than 5 stories and she is terrified to fly, not because of the height or planes, but because she can't escape - she was locked in a bathroom as a kid by her brother and the door got stuck and a locksmith had to come break her out and it scarred her for life) as fear of places you cannot get out of or escape. So to hear the same definition apply to both is interesting and something I need to look closer at out of curiosity.
I was imagining being the person to find the aftermath... Nobody in that office will make fun of that woman in fear of her destroying a load bearing wall
... Imagine being their relative, having to deal with this like getting her food, plugging in a tv or sumthin in the bathroom for her, but even worse having to find a different bathroom to go to
@oracle MPH I was coming here to type that! That's so sad. It sounds like the guy was doing his best to take care of his sick loved one. Yeah, you would like to think he would think to call someone, but that doesn't mean he was neglecting her. He spent time with her and made sure she ate and drank. "Let's make sure this guy can't leave his house for 6-months so he can get a taste of what she went through." Get outta here with that BS.
Its human instinct that when pooping. You had to be Safe and Know that there are no predators. We are more vulnerable when pooping. Thats why its safe and comfy.
@@Johndoe200I we are even more vulnerable when eating yet I don't think we consider the kitchen the safest place in the house. I believe the reason is that the bathroom is the most frequented place where we can isolate from the rest of the world, and that sometimes in stressful days gives you a good feeling of safety and peace. And I don't take that as a bad thing as long as you don't start to go or stay there for that sole reason.
@@trainzmarcel2074 Same and i don't really understand why people consider full of bacteria toilet safe and the most importantly getting stuck on a bed is way harder than a toilet😁😁
Been like this since I was very young like 5 yrs old 4 sure. I used to lock myself in the bathroom with my cassette player and sing along to my Cher tape over and over . I'd be getting yelled at to open the door and I would, eventually.... If I could turn back time , if I could find a way .. I'd take back those words that hurt you and you'd stay... I don't know why I did the things I did, I dont know why I said the things I said... Or how about this one... Tonight your gonna go down in flames, jus like Jesse James..
Reminds me of the Saturday night Live comedy skit. Lowered Expectations dating service declares we have a special someone in mind for you but she is stuck in place upon her throne a porcelain toilet 🚽 LoL
