The fact that people can have the best sex at around 55 makes me feel SO GOOD. I thought I just wasn't built to love it. Love that it can get so much better!
"Everyone can heal" chiiilllleeee I was about to have a WHOLE Baptist fit when Dr. Emily said that!!!!!! I learned so many things about myself that aren't even sex related while watching this episode
So I'm listening to this at work taking notes on Facebook messenger and sending it to my husband so we can discuss later.... without any context about what I'm sending him...this is his response y'all 🤣😭😭 ME: My body keeps score of emotional availability, responsiveness, and engagement. My body carries memories of trust . HIM: Like a moth to a flame burned by the fire, My love is blind can't you see my desire?? This is what I deal with!!! Lol 🤣🤣😅
I was just going to give this a thumbs up when Liss made me cry in my car - "It is so exhausting to think that you are broken and therefore work against who you are." - That's a well articulated WORD!! And it hit me right in my spirit
Y’all are amazing!!!!! Thank you so much Mrs. KevOnStage!!!! I have been watching The Love Hour since the beginning and I was who you were. I grew up in church. Sex for women and girls was bad. I remember being told as a child not to have sex, while the boys were told not to get anyone pregnant. Then we’d turn 18 and all of a sudden the “adults” in the church were asking when we were getting married. I was ashamed of my body. I married at 19 am now 32 and STRUGGLED to express my sexuality with my husband now that I was “allowed, blessed, and sanctified by God in the marriage bed.” I am so thankful for you and all you have done, been, and brought. Watching you be comfortable, bold, and now unapologetic about your mind, talents (almost), and growth I am hopeful and inspired!!!! I thank you so much!!! You have blessed and impacted me more than I am able to express. I am loving myself fully and moving confidently and happily into being whole mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. I have also incorporated therapy which I was told was wrong. Any emotion that was seen as negative meant I was not praying hard enough or actively sinning. Watching you someone I can see me in who grew up similar to me has been wonderful!!! I truly admire you! I’m so thankful for you and your Podcast!!!!
First best guest EVER....second Kev I love how you laugh at yourself....third Liss I'm so freaking proud how much you've grown and how you interact and speak on sexual issues now....third I know I'm grown but would y'all adopt me? I'm so in love with this family!!! Blessing on blessings in 2020 love hour....#bookclubboo
The Love Hour has been such a blessing to my life. Seriously these topics and videos have been like pre-marital counseling for my girlfriend and I. We love to listen/watch together and have these discussions after.
I just suggested that we talk about this book (and this episode) in our church's marriage ministry. It's THAT good! I think everyone should read it and watch this podcast as a premarital requirement. ha, ha THANK YOU MELISSA!!!
I really love Melissa's enthusiasm on this pod. Such relevant content and it's even more enjoyable to watch because she's enjoying it. So glad she found her calling!
1:14:15.... I had to replay it 3 times. So emotional, so deep. Girl, I was taking notes this episode! As a 26 year old who is recently engaged, never had any type of sex education (besides my own research) I get so much life from your podcast. Please keep blessing us with your gift.
Even with sex education, I think Liss still goes beyond what I received in middle and high school. I just keep talking about her podcast to my friends telling them about ALL OF THE THINGS! 😂🙌🏾
I was thinking the SAME THING. A lot of good stuff I hear about life, sex, etc, I’m like, “Well, that’s exactly what the Bible says, so if we just follow that book we’d be good!” LOL
At 17:20, Kev explained that even though Melissa’s body would respond to him that doesn’t mean she is in agreement with what’s happening. That immediately made me think of how this is proof that we are 3 part beings. We are a spirit, we have a soul, and we live in a body. Just because her body had a reaction doesn’t mean her soul or spirit felt the same way her body felt about it. Very interesting to me!
OH MY GOSH U GOT EMILY NAGOSKI!!!!!! THIS IS INSANE!!!!!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Also she looks incredibly young for 42! Ok lemme watch the rest of this video lol.
OMG!! I needed it this so much! It's so nice to know that I'm normal. Please pray I can get my husband to watch, lol! Definitely buying the book and joining the book club. Thanks Melissa and Kev, y'all are doing the Lord's work with marriages!!
MrsKevOnStage GUUUURL!!! She is the TRUTH!!! And then when you do Esther Perel (my relationship guru crush) . . . I may just have to schedule my fan out time! 🤣 Thank you for all you do to keep bringing such top quality content! 💯🎤👏🏾
I'm fourth of the way into the episode, already realizing I'm going to have to watch again with pen and paper, AND I just ordered Dr. Nagoski's book. So good, Melissa...soooooo good!
Melissa getting excited everytime she has an epiphany is low key my favorite thing lol cant stop watching this episode!! Sooo educational and easy follow on all levels. Keep going Melissa you're killing the game!!
I love this love-hour with Emily. Thanks for making this available to watch on RU-vid. For those instrested in the book the book Emily mentioned on trauma its titled The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk.
I need to turn toward who I am and embrace it with love and compassion. Because I have spent all these years fighting against it . This part of me needs the most love right now and the most kindness . It needs to be listened too and held like a child that was told they did something wrong . To be reassured that they are welcome as they are right now . #thishadmeshaking #thisspoketomyverysoul #ughtears
I was looking for this episode!!!! I heard Kev mention Emily on R&R as being one of the best episodes and I was like where!?!? I don't see it!!! Don't tease us like that Kev! 😅😅
Man.... when you turn it around on men when they lose their PHYSICAL capacity for sex then they get it! It’s so easy to biologically be available, but the mind is hard to quiet. I feel that
Shan Boody would be GREAT on this. Love the show and, Melissa, thank you for all your hard work WE SEE IT 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 (Not to say Kev isn’t working hard but he be getting enough credit lol)
I'm a half hour in completely regret not having a notebook with me. I'mma have to listen to this at least 3x to even be able to verbalize my thoughts. I keep having to remind myself don't react, just listen or you're going to miss something. This episode is everything!!!!
This whole ARE portion is literally like I'm looking in a mirror, and I'm about to cry😭. It makes SO much sense!! Like, if full trust,safety, and security isn't there or true for you then the blockage/barrier/wall can't fully go away. A bag of gems!
I read her book, Come AsYou Are and I have have a new respect for women! The book goes so in depth about women’s bodies and sexuality, I have to read again to get the fullness. Thanks for having Dr. Nagoski on my favorite podcast
I’m part of the RP but this is my first time watching an episode of the Love Hour. I mistakenly thought this show wasn’t for me because I’m single and don’t aspire to ever be married. But I see how wrong I was. I’m a living person who values relationships and like to give up the butt butt on occasion!!😝 Now I have a ton of episodes to binge and learn from 🤓😁
Welcome!!! RP here as well and in the beginning she said she wanted this to be for singles too because we have prework to do before going into relationships as a healthy person.
Really good episode. I love how Dr. Emily touched on the effects of sexual trauma in the bedroom. Really charged me to get more knowledge on that, considering it applies to me lol
Kevin was right, I will definitely be listening to this episode again to grab some more nuggets!! Also, Melissa was preaching during that Skill Share ad....it didn't even feel like an ad! 😊
@@MrsKevOnStage I took so many breaks in this episode to pause, write, meditate && accept the truths you were all providing... THIS WAS SOME GOOD WORD!!! You just got a new subscriber out of me! I look forward to more episodes!
I have to read this book! I've been meaning to, but listening to her on here makes me want to buy it even more!!! I love when there's guest on here and you can see how genuinely excited Melissa is. Kev is just acting up as usual 😂
She is really blessed and gifted. The analogies and words she chooses when she talks about sexual inhibitors and the plethora dynamics that impact the degree to which people engage in their own sexuality are nothing short of poetic. This is probably my favorite Love Hour episode! Thank you Melissa, Dr. Emily, and everyone who works hard to provide this revolutionary information.
This is by far my favorite episode of the Love Hour. So much information but presented in an approachable way. Just some really chill people sharing knowledge. Liss, you give me so much hope about the growth I'm capable of, despite some of the things I carry from growing up in a traditional Christian Black family with a pastor for a father. Your courage in presenting yourself makes it easier for me examine myself. Thank you.
This episode was nothing short of amazing. My boyfriend and I both enjoyed it and walked away like "Definitely have to watch that again to get ALLLL that knowledge!" Amazing job Melissa! Love it
Finally finished this .. i had to watch this in small chunks as i didnt want it to end.. and the depth of insight was too much to digest in one sitting. Every guest guest you have on the Love Hour has been amazing and im am actively and consciously making improvements in my being. Mrs KOS keep doing what you are doing and i pray Gods riches blessing in all your endeavours. Much love from the UK XXX😍😍😍
Dammit .. I gotta go and do the school run... will have to watch later.. I have her book in my Amazon Cart because of 7Mrs KOS.. Cant wait to see this later.xx
This episode was sooooo amazing and such an 👀 opener!!! But the knowledge here was such a word I almost shed a 😢 at how much this spoke to me! Melissa I always find myself saying girl me too when you speak about your upbringing and sexual prudence, it’s so refreshing to realize I’m not alone in my thoughts and approach to that area of my life!
This is my most valuable conversation on the #LoveHour podcast! Melissa, I am so grateful for your ministry! Thank you to the entire staff but most definitely, Melissa! 💕
I don't know where to begin with this episode. Doors in mind blown off the hinges! So many things I will definitely have to re-watch. As this information floods and waters spaces in my head and being, I am so much more aware of how allowing space for grace to heal and grow, accept and learn is so vital to extend to myself as well as others. Man this so rich! Thanks, Liss for having Dr. Emily on. Between her Morgan and Dr. D...I feel like I needs a therapist pronto! 😁
All of y'all's episodes are purposeful, important, and filling, but THIS episode has been my favorite, particularly this guest! She shared sooooooo much that was soooooo phenomenal! You all's responses and reflective commentary was gold on top of the treasure. The richness here is simply ridiculous. I am currently suffering from EIOS (Emotional and Intellectual Overenlightenment Syndrome)! lol. Thank you for what you do and may you continue to deliver moments like this to the world.
Thank you so much Melissa for this!!! @27 min I had an epiphany and had to get my notepad and write. I can't even finish because I'm at work 😣 can't wait to hear more!!
I have to be a little more intentionally in tune when I press play on these ones; but I’m always so glad when I do❤️ thank you both for covering my spirit from the laughs to the mental/personal self work 🙌🏾 definitely saving && sending to my spouse 😌
Let me just say... I'm much older than Kev and Mrs. Liss and I'm WAY over spontaneity, too. So good to hear younger people say the same thing. 1:20 I'm single and when men come at me with, "I'm spontaneous, are you?" Um no. Everything goes in my calendar or it will get missed.... Over it. LOL! This was SSSSOOOOOO GOOOOOOOOD--the WHOLE thing. Thanks, LoveHour!
Omg thank you Melissa and Kev. This episode was so helpful to me as a low desire woman and my husband is high desire. We're going to watch this together because this really brings a lot of context to how I feel all the time. I'm not always able to put words to it but this made me feel so understood in what my emotions and feelings are. ♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏
Ok so... It's too many gems to post. But this podcast was AH-MAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im definitely going to get Dr.Emily's books. Also, I'm a new mom (9-month-old) and that segment had me in tears... thanks for sharing your truth. Much love. :) xoxo
