Thank you for being so honest Theo, it helps anyone who has this problem to seek help, it s an epidemic right now of porn addiction, or any addiction for that matter since pandemic. Thanks
@@CS10169 He's right though. Porn is a detriment to society and society ultimately decides what becomes law based on morality. I think western liberals, especially Americans, misunderstand that unrestrained freedom is not the optimal state for a society. The founding fathers understood that freedom was a top tier value, but it must come with the constraints of moral virtue. Without balance, you have anarchy and hedonism which lead to degeneracy and civilizational collapse. Think of how unrecognizable the US is now compared to just a few decades ago. We are most certainly in cultural decline.
"Its not a big deal" and "I have a problem." Two things I told myself hundreds if not thousands of times, after destroying relationships, hating myself, developing crippling ED, crying myself to sleep, wishing I was dead, having the same conversation with myself and about stopping over and over and over and over.
The thing is you need to find things to fill your spare time with. When you're sitting around you have more temptation to look at porn, but when you're occupying your time with something the temptation goes away.
@@dizzy3535 the last one is my only issue right now. ...well that and crippling depression, childhood trauma, anxiety, lack of good food and sleep, no love etc 😬
That is not all from jerking off. Those issues are from other experiences. Crying yourself to sleep each night because you jerked off? That in itself is another issue. Hopefully I am misunderstanding your comment.
Pornography addiction is absolutely brutal. I’ve been battling it since I was 14. I lost a lot of good things in my life because of it. But I will never give up!! No porn. No masturbation.
"it's like having arms made of gas and playing with matches" wow.....I would love to be in Theo's mind sometimes. Just the creative way he chooses to say things sometimes amazes me
I was 12 when I first started watching porn and 34 when I realized I had a real problem. When I opened my eyes, I found it so hard to believe it had gradually turned into an addiction. But when I was 12, I didn't have a computer, so I had to wait til everyone left, then go to my mom's room where the VCR was! And that's only when my older brother had a tape. But as an adult, I lived alone with a laptop and high speed internet. I always watched it as much as I could, but its availability grew 1000% by the time I realized it. I've never dealt with hard drugs, but quitting porn is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Plus it's unique in that the majority of people don't know just how destructive can be. And I'd say most people think it's healthy. Peace ✌🏿to anyone going through it right now!
Thank you for sharing this. I'm 22 and I'm struggling with this every day, and it's beyond frustrating. I'm seeking therapy and I was honest to the people around me, and I fight it 24/7. It's so exhausting but not impossible.
I was exposed when I was 13 to porn and been watching 23 years. I was addicted to drugs for 8 years and cleaning up was much easier than staying away from porn. It's now affecting my marriage. Longest I've ever been away from porn was 28 days in treatment without my phone. It's one of the hardest things I have done in my life. I am 10 days sober from porn but damn do I feel the pull to go back. I need a support group like I did with aa and na.
Just accidentally tripped across this. Never heard of Theo Von. Not sure yet who he is. When I started listening, he seemed a tad amateurish. Not sure how I got that impression. Some of his questions seemed really simple, which I THOUGHT meant "shallow". Kept listening, then realized no, he is just honest. Not putting himself on any pedestal. Admitting to masturbation and alcohol issues, with humility, like a real, regular guy. I enjoyed. Subscribed.
Porn addiction is real and the talk should be apparent within society. People struggle with this shit and once you pick this up at a early age it can suck. After rough relapses and I can finally say being 143 days off since the last time I did that shit to myself. Anyone who needs help I got you. Nevertheless, if I can do it- YOU CAN TOO.
No condemnation or shame AT ALL. In fact, kudos to you for the courage to have the conversation. I just wanted to share a quote I like that relates to an aspect of the subject: “Bad theology is like pornography-the imagination of a real relationship without the risk of one. It tends to be transactional and propositional rather than relational and mysterious. You don’t have to trust Person, or care for Person. It becomes an exercise in self-gratification that ultimately dehumanizes the self and the community of humanity in order to avoid the painful processes of humbling and trusting.” - Richard Rohr
LOL - relationships ARE transactional and propositional. If they weren't, you wouldn't need to buy drinks at the bar and a diamond engagement ring to be involved in relationships
Its so hard to quit when you don't realize you even have a problem. I started watching porn in 9th grade of high school and it really got bad in 10th grade. I would come home and take a shit and immediately hop on pornhub. I didn't realize it was a problem even when it was taboo to talk about with my peers. I thought I was too good to be addicted. Now I'm 21 and it has destroyed me because I don't have the confidence to talk to women and make meaningful relationships with them.
The peer pressure From buddies and people and just talking and it's like I get it were horny teenagers but there is God and there is discipline and it is just beta to be trapped by this sin of lust and with the discipline in the gym and learning about the effects and studying and researching which they won't do. I mean the depression and thoughts of suicide and justified it through the dopamine you get to help with the stress of life instead of using stoicism.
I think pornography addiction (a type of sex addiction imo) is difficult to overcome because sex is one of the most (if not THE most) ingrained instincts in humans--procreating to keep the species alive. I also think it's one of the reasons why it seems not many are yet taking it seriously. It's almost like porn is a punchline to most people and they underestimate the damage it causes. I think part of it is because everyone has sexual urges, so everyone immediately equates it to being "normal", perhaps to justify their own actions or thoughts on the subject. There are no urges hard-coded in our DNA to drink alcohol or do drugs, thus it's easier for people to disparage others with alcohol/drug addictions and keep those stigmatized. Those codes in our DNA do exist, however, with respect to sexual urges. Perhaps that's why porn addiction is not yet treated as seriously as alcoholism or drug addictions.
Under the influence of speed/meth/amphetamines I can relate. Hours can pass and I’ll still be looking for the perfect porn clip I want. And I can really relate with what he said about feeling guilty. And with pornography so accessible now on the Internet, anybody can watch just about anything they want. I can’t imagine being 13 years old in 2021. I don’t think I’d want to do not in this culture.
Cocaine was my drug of choice which led me to meth and speed of any kind..i can relate to this comment. Meth especially will make you sexually deviant. I'm a woman and I would sit and watch porn for hours. Hope you r staying sober! It's a daily struggle.
It’s kinda crazy how easy no fap has been after a few months. I’m almost two years of no fap. Don’t even think about it now , I also afto say in these two years I met my first girlfriend. One thing that is pretty nice if life goes bad you can say at least I haven’t fapped
@@lokijam your analogy is flawed because you made the assumption that people will obey the law (being 21 to drink). under that same logic, we would assume people would not view pornography under 18 years old. now we know it isn''t true in either case, both underage drinking occurs and so does the latter. at the end of the day it comes down to self control, clearly. no one is forcing you to do anything.
@@goomaboi ure are extremely lost and make little sense. Are u comparing driving to a liquor store, showing your ID, and purchasing alcohol; to being bombarded by pornography and sexual imagery on nearly 90% of the internet ?is that the claim your making? Because if it is u have a lot to learn.
okay... choices... for a 64 year old man who last had a girlfriend in 2003, she left after 17 years of being together and playing together in a band. It broke my heart and a year later I broke my neck in 5 places and was misdiagnosed for a full year one time thinking I had m/s.... Even after I told them I had fallen... I was a machinist who ran a sheridan 705 stitch and trim machine for the everett daily herald. I fell after stumbling over a pallet that had been misplaced.. I felt a hard pull on my shoulder and arm as I fell but caught myself before I hit the concrete.. but I came out of it not walking the way I should and falling for no reason, lots of nerve damage... and a stroke on my spinal cord... I can walk and for people that didnt know me, I look like a a normal stumbling old man... I do work as a janitor part time but its alone.. so I have no way of meeting a woman... I guess porn is bad for everyone... abstinence works so well with priests...
God bless you. Hope you find peace and comfort and move on from loneliness. I suggest finding a different job or seek out people online if it is difficult to get time during the day for meeting people. Sometimes being part of some community can help.
@@pt8292 I find peace and comfort as I always have. Its where I find solace and truth... its in music.. creating and enjoying music.. It is also God... I really dont want to find someone else and then have another 5 years wasted on pretense.. Being alone and being lonely are different things.. I cant take another heartbreak.. And I dont want to cause another heartbreak....
@@drmorqWarrenProject Never look for a woman or anyone; let The Lord tcb. Be still and know brother, Jesus said the kingdom of heaven is within; not without. God bless you, no more sex outside of wedlock bro, if it's meant for you it will happen. The woman is your God, and the loss you feel is because you lost your God. Check out some church with Jesse Lee Peterson; check out his savage moments to witness how a real Christian deals with life and people in 2021.
@@JohnnySmith-no2zc ypou didnt get any of what I wrote and just went with your jesus schtick straight away... you are not giving me any answers or solace, just making yourself feel good by thinking youve done your good deed for the day. there is no God... there isnt a jesus or yeshua or whatever name you want.;.. he aint coming from the sky to take you home.. get over yourself. happy holidaze....
Dude I’m shooting like 6 times a day, by the end of the day the sixth time will put you to sleep son, forget jiu jitsu practice. I’m tapping out after the sixth round.
Hope you’re doing alright now I would appreciate an update from you! I’m off 143 days still get mental struggles but at least this journey was worth it
Update: i have reached a new level of dark art. Vr porn has pumped my numbers up massively. Vr is a new level of dark. Meditating in cold dark room with a vr headset just pumping away.
Oh no if you do martial arts and sports you gotta quit that thing! I watched porn for 20 years while doing calisthenics for 16 years! But I could work out still!!!! Now working out is my priority porn does not control me!!!!!
You gotta respect how Theo shares his struggles. Theo, please have coffee with Russell Brand. He has battled a similar enemy. Please stay on this planet because we need you. Peace.
Putting total strangers and or internet beauties on a pedestal is like the worst thing that i do i think.. well aside from the alcohol abuse.. and aside from the highly concentrated THC... but mentally. Women and the need to feel fulfillment from complete strangers that dont care to know you exist is excruciatingly painful .
We’re all trying to feel good but you gotta choose that higher realistic goal and that climb is more fulfilling than any drug. Use that approval from people as a tool for motivation
It’s hard to fight a battle that is so prevalent these days. You can’t beat a battle when the weapon is so easy to get a hold of. Set boundaries on your and laptop that keep you from watching explicit videos.
Guys like this, even when they're helpful, refuse to acknowledge such things as conscience and morality. These are more real than half the stuff they talk about. That's how Theo knows that it's wrong. His conscience.
Does anyone else think its weird how he used eyedrops and just let the excess stream down his face and doesn't wipe it the rest of the face-to-face discussion?
When I’m older I’m just not gonna have any internet in my house. No smartphone, laptop, gaming console. If I have a TV it will be really old. I think that people are forgetting living without technology is inconvenient, but still possible.
addiction is a coping mechanism for an underlying issue. The addiction can become a problem in itself but just stopping the addiction does not address the reason for it. If you have childhood trauma from emotional or physical abuse or neglect / insecurity pornography become an “escape”, like drugs or alcohol or even work. Giving up the addiction without working in the cause will just set you up for failure. From Theo’s stories it seems to me has unresolved issues with his childhood and he needs to work through those. If you also feel that you are addicted to porn then I would ask you to take time to think about what might be causing it - feelings of shame about your sexuality indicate you may be sexually repressed
I think so as well. and honestly even the way people talk about the issue makes it seem that way. Extremely emotional and opinionated beliefs that just seem like theyre making porn a scapegoat for all their issues. Many of these times I feel it makes so much more sense if you reversed the implied arrow of causation. That and realise theres some underlying issue and youre instinctually using porn just like any other drug or bad habit to cover up and hide the issue rather than address it. Then you get everyone saying "porn is evil its obvious and I shouldnt have to explain"
Should men not masturbate at all? I’m quite certain they always have, but that the problem lies with porn. If a man can masturbate without porn, what is the problem?
Depends who you ask. But Porn definitely is a problem. I like many started very young and have struggled with it. I’m objective to be honest I was tempted to comment something else when I saw your profile pic. Yeah it’s not good (the effects)
That’s his boy nick, if he didn’t want him to interrupt he would let him know. Nick was on topic and that’s why he let him continue. Your social skills are bad or you just can’t infer that the two are friends and have worked together for awhile.
I wonder how many people stopped watching this, and went to PH after merely SEEING that logo on the video image.. 🤔 The toxicity and triggers are really everywhere. I hope many who came here saw it and didn't fall for the compulsion.. Many are here from being a victim of someone's addiction, too.
I feel like I’m being told to stop doing something because I should feel ashamed of it. But I don’t. I think the key is to ration out how often you beat your meat. I try to keep it at once every 4th day. Keeps a lid on an addiction forming while also practicing self control. Also don’t look at any extreme stuff ever
You’re fooling yourself man. Quit all together before it’s too late. When you’re addicted to porn there will never be enough and you’ll find yourself eventually watching the “extreme stuff” trust me man porn addiction almost killed me.
I thought I was suppose to B-off everyday in the month of November. Well this year is a new year. No wonder I had such low T around Thanksgiving. ..vegan turkey, mashed cauliflower(instead of potatoes), extra canned beats...Damn, it all makes sense now. 31 thanksgivings down the drain or wadded up into the waste basket at least
I’ve stopped porn on and off and never had an issue. Is it truly tough for people to stop porn? Also masturbation is harder to stop but it’s not unhealthy.
I’ve wondered why men (in a good marriage) are into it. But single men, it’s easy especially if it’s a live screen. They get some of the socializing they’re missing in life.
No because real sex is always better but you gotta pay the piper…pregnancy, disease, injury to your genitalia like snapping your dick or bursting a blood vessel in it etc. People getting attached emotionally due to the physical aspects that brought them together or hurting someone emotionally or physically due to actual sexual relationships shenanigans…fuck wisely my friend. Cheers 🍻
You're not going to die from porn addiction if you can't stop or relapse, so it can't be the worst kind. And you're not going to be ill or die from withdrawal either, like drugs or alcohol. But I agree it should definitely be treated with seriousness, like all addictions. But it's not the worst, low key or otherwise.
@@marquettegloves9907 It’s free, constantly available, not taken seriously, and is easiest to abuse BECAUSE of the fact you cannot fall ill or have too bad of withdrawals from it. Therefore, it’s harder to motivate yourself to quit. I think it’s the worst addiction in MODERN society for especially younger men, but hey that’s just me. I can see where you’re coming from though
@@Michael-ei5hg I hear what you're saying and you have some relevant points. I certainly can't agree with you that it's harder to quit. To say lack of physical withdrawal in porn addiction makes it harder to motivate yourself to quit is baffling. Withdrawal isn't a helpful deterrant to stop using... it's a hellish physical and mental suffering that addicts try to avoid going through at all costs. If you quit, you are physically ill. Plus you still have the mental side too. That's a much bigger barrier to quitting than the purely mental side of porn addiction. So porn couldn't possibly be harder to motivate yourself to quit, than drugs. However, you may also be talking about another area as well. Perhaps you're saying after someone has quit using porn, it's harder to stay away from than drugs, for the reasons you've stated. Where as I'm talking about being actively addicted, and withdrawal being a horrendous additional problem, on top of the mental side. I completely agree it's not taken seriously enough. Porn at the moment is still on the sex addiction level of seriousness, ie people think it's not real, no big deal or just funny. But both can clearly cause damage to people's lives, and should therefore be treated seriously. So that's my view. Appreciate your opinion.
@@MiddleoftheWest I agree it can include emotional, psychological suffering. That why I talked about the mental side of porn addiction. But withdrawal from drugs for example, includes pain, bone aching, sweating, vomiting, insomnia for days, shaking, diarrhea, restless legs etc. On top of the mental side of hallucinating, irritability, craving, desperation, depression etc. I agree porn addiction has the mental suffering. But it doesn't have anything I just named physically, that drug withdrawal does have. Or maybe you can enlighten me? My point has never been that porn addiction isn't serious. It's just that drug addiction is worse. In my opinion.
@@marquettegloves9907meh I guess I shouldn’t have compared who’s worse, that goes nowhere. I shoulda just said addictions steal happiness and left it at that.
Theo always makes me laugh like I am stoned. haha that comment "he couldnt have been outdoors, he could have been looking at children at a park"?? hahahaha
People gotta realize most of us have been watching this since 12 years old so we grow up with this shit I'm now 25 it's been 13 years it's gonna take a lot fore to stop 😂😂 P.S. I do feel a lot of shame 🤣☠️
