Therapist Reacts: Encanto & Generational Trauma

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I have never been more excited to talk about a Disney movie you guys! There's so much good therapy and mental health meat to unpack in Encanto so get a snack and snuggle in. We're talking about family systems, family roles, and generational trauma because Encanto really covers it all and has a dope soundtrack to boot. I hope y'all love the video! What should I talk about next?
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0:00 Intro
0:28 Addressing the Backdrop
1:35 Necessary Caveat About My Identity & Experiences
3:21 Analysis of Encanto Starts
3:36 Abuela Analysis
8:08 Tia Pepa Analysis
11:27 Julietta Analysis
14:03 Tio Bruno Analysis
18:47 Isabela Analysis
22:47 Luisa Analysis
25:18 Who Did You Resonate With Most?
25:31 Mirabel Analysis
28:52 Dolores Analysis
30:36 Camilo Analysis
31:48 Antonio Analysis
35:11 Dos Oruguitas & General Analysis
39:56 Wrap Up
40:23 Outro

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@MoMo-vj8ch 2 года назад

I haven't seen it mentioned yet, but in the scene where they are all eating breakfast, Isabelle has flowers bloom on her head. One of the flowers is a different color and Abuela picks that one off. She literally prunes her.

@CraftyBugHandmade 2 года назад

OMG. That’s such a subtle but powerful moment.

@emmamoose-dragon1110 2 года назад

Did you also catch that during Isabella's big breakout song, she is a mess covered in rainbow pollen by the end of it? I don't know if this was a nod to her being LGBTQ or to just being wild and messy but either way it was beautiful to see

@caiargagnon 2 года назад

@@emmamoose-dragon1110 she was suppose to turn punk grunge in one of the takes, some say she is bisexual. At the same time, this was a family trauma movie so the producerd decided not to confirm any of the kids sexuality (hopefully, the will make a mini TV series where we can get more involved with all the characters)

@TerriMRoberts 2 года назад

Yes! SO many good, subtle story-telling moments like that in this movie.

@KyrieChii 2 года назад

And there's the added impact of the fact that the flowers 'sprouted' as a result of her feelings/reaction to Delores saying Mariano wanted '5 babies'. Along with all the symbolism of the Abuela 'pruning her' is trying to control what feelings she outwardly shows, & pushing back on them when they don't fit the family's convenience.

@Djinn_Entonic 2 года назад

This has been said multiple times but again, the most unbelievable part of the movie isn't the powers, is the fact that a latinoamerican elder acknowledge a mistake and tried to mend it, truly a miracle.

@AeriaGl0ris 2 года назад

That's something I've seen so many people say. It seems very common in Latino families. It's not something I have a ton of experience with, but I have seen how it breeds resentment in non-familial settings so I imagine it can be worse when family is involved.

@MickeyAtkins 2 года назад

I have such mixed feelings about this! Like my therapist and human brain are fighting for center stage lol. On a personal level I want to be like YEAH! but as a clinician I have actually seen the changes happen. It’s hard and it is rare, again I think privilege is important to acknowledge here too, but it can happen.

@paulettevincent-ruz7567 2 года назад

Agree a lot of people were like “wait was that all a hug?“ and I was like HAVE YOU EVER MET A LATINX ELDER? lol

@StonedHunter 2 года назад

I think something that also gets missed that's less of a cultural thing (but also could be cultural from what I've been learning from Colombian fans) is that some people are not good at verbal communication and so something like a hug for them expresses the same thing and it's entirely possible that Abuela Alma is a less verbal communicator and her family understands that.

@Tiny_Koi 2 года назад

Everyone keeps saying that and I emphasize with that sentiment, but it happened to me! My mom acknowledged, apologized and tries to be better after years of abuse. It feels impossible to me still. But it did happen and can 🤔

@dezthedangerous2452 2 года назад

Wanted to mention it also seems like Isabella became the golden child at least in Abuela’s eyes because she resembles her the most when she was young and in love before all the trauma happened. As well as why Abeula is pushing Isabella so hard to marry someone that even looks like her young husband that passed away.

@alwayslookingup70 2 года назад

I didn’t catch that at all!! The layers on this movie man!

@iiz00merii19 2 года назад

YEAH I feel really bad that makes me feel even more bad for Abuela.

@mixedviews3536 2 года назад

And Bruno tried to tell her he wasn’t for her but he got banished 🤷🏽‍♀️

@easternflower6476 2 года назад

This hit me so hard in the movie; my grandmother passed away from Alzheimer’s years ago, but she and I were very close growing up, and I always thought it was because I was the most like she was when she was a child. I have selective mutism, and she was a really strict lady, so you would think she would’ve pushed me to be normal, but everyone was always surprised when she was so gentle and kind with me. I learned years later from my great aunt that my grandma was traumatized when she was younger and to avoid gossip from the village she stopped speaking for a long time. Not even my parents knew that.

@sarahperkins6421 2 года назад

What really hit me after my second viewing was when literally the day after Antonio gets his gift, you can hear Abuela already talking about finding ways to make Antonio's gift a service to the community. He was still a child and she was already trying to figure out where to place him as a cog in the machine.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

In Colombian culture, kids work

@zemmym.9437 2 года назад

Even before abuela started looking for something, Antonio went straight to finding away to help with his gift by having the animals warm up her seat. And you can see the eagerness for her approval when he's waiting for her response.

@kelseynelson1145 Год назад

@@zemmym.9437 Oh my goodness, yes! His little tender heart just being all loving and thoughtful. 💕 It made me so sad when that sweet act was overlooked as something not useful. 😢

@KvDenko 2 года назад

I was the Golden child who turned into Bruno when I left my family's fundamentalist Evangelical faith. That part where Mirabel discovers Bruno's place setting in his hideout broke me because that's me, watching my family from afar, wishing I could have a place at the table for who I am, not for being just like them and believing what they believe.

@gabriellelee4558 Год назад

SAME. You are not alone.

@moonlit.michelle 2 года назад

I feel like Julietta would be the one described as "the good kid" or "the one I don't have to worry about" while she was growing up. Kind of overlooked or even neglected because her siblings are so much.

@shellyjohnsen3667 2 года назад

totally!

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

Yeah I feel like she was pressured to be subdued and to just be in the background

@mixedviews3536 2 года назад

I think you meant “because her siblings aren’t as good at suppressing their emotions.”

@marshy287 2 года назад

@@mixedviews3536 This.

@stephaniemasson1224 2 года назад

I'm fairly sure that she would be the one considered the "golden child" in her generation. Pepa is too emotional and can't control her gift, while Bruno gets shunned for his, but Julietta? Her gift is to heal! So selfless and so useful for the community. Could it be any more perfect?

@daniellemorgan-jackson4114 2 года назад

The part at the end when they are showing the flash back of Abuelo being killed and Abuela loses it, is SO heart wrenching. They did such a good job portraying that absolute agony through an animated character. I bawl like a baby every single time. Also, has anyone noticed that she puts her black grieving shawl on after Abeulo dies, continues wearing it throughout the entire movie, but the last few scenes after making up with Mirabel... she's no longer wearing it.

@jdubbis 2 года назад

Camilo as the jokester trying to make everyone smile makes so much sense when you consider that his mom is Pepa, and he’s seen trying to calm her down. Making her laugh when she is upset would be a useful skill for him growing up, feeling like he needs to help manage her feelings.

@My-name-is-Kit 2 года назад

As someone with ADHD, I saw a lot of myself in Tia Pepa. The "clear skies" thing read to me a lot like masking, especially when it comes to emotional regulation, but also other things. Growing up, I had a lot of moments where it felt like my family was saying to me, "Hey, this Thing you're doing is weird and attracting negative attention, so knock it off. Why can't you just act normal?" My father especially was like this. He didn't, and still doesn't, believe that ADHD is a real thing (which is ironic, considering that he probably has it too) and often reduced my struggles to my being "lazy". Just like how Pepa's family acts like she's choosing to manifest bad weather, and not like she would also prefer to not be doing that.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

I feel like Camilo is probably gonna get the same treatment as he gets older, too. “Camilo, you are not a child anymore! Sit still!”

@alanar8046 2 года назад

ADHD is hereditary. From what I've seen, adults with undiagnosed ADHD are the last to be sympathetic to ADHD struggles especially in their own family. We all usually grow up thinking that all brains work the same way and we think the methods we use to compensate for an unknown neuro diversity are actually just great nuggets of wisdom for life in general. So just learn yadda yadda like I did and get over it. THAT SUCKS. It's like when they see that your struggle is just like theirs it validates the misconception that these are actually universal struggles that are basically no big deal. When you would expect understanding you get slapped with judgement.

@mermaiddiyartist8119 2 года назад

@@alanar8046 it is!!

@morganhoffman6253 2 года назад

With Antonio too, I think him reaching for Mirabel when he was nervous speaks to his cycle breaker trait too. He doesn't understand, or really care, that something bad happened the last time with Mirabel. He doesn't understand that tension and conflict it caused. He needed her, and that was all he cared about.

@tcduong1138 2 года назад

But also Mirabel is key to him being a cycle breaker. They were roommates before he got his gift and you could see his connection to her and her as a parental figure.

@Zoe_LaRynn 2 года назад

My entire family was bopping to Surface Pressure while I was on the verge of tears. I did not expect to be called out like that lol, I relate so much to Luisa. “Give it to your sister and never wonder if the same pressure would’ve pulled you under.”

@tigressangel 2 года назад

That one line makes me choke up. I've carried so many burdens for my siblings. I love them, but a lot of the time they take for granted how heavy it is. But "who am I if I can't carry it all?"

@Tiny_Koi 2 года назад

Y'all have me about to call my big sister and thank her for taking care of me so much as a kid. I've thanked her before but she really deserves it for basically being my 2nd mom when no one was around to do so.

@jackriver8385 2 года назад

The entire movie my kids were dancing, smiling and laughing, meanwhile I was crying constantly 😅😭 my youngest looked at me real worried during "waiting on a miracle" 😅

@emchelle 2 года назад

Yeah, this song (and that line especially) took me OUT. One of the most honest moments of relating to a character that I've ever experienced.

@nyotaakito4979 2 года назад

Yes! My Name is Luisa and I‘m an older sister and when the character came up it was all fun and games but then the song started and I felt so called out. I sat there like „Wait this sh*t just got real“

@caswanden454 2 года назад

The thing that gets me every time I watch Encanto is the way the husbands, who married in and will never have powers, are considered more part of the family than Mirabel. They're in the Madrigal family photos, there's no question about their place, while Mirabel is pushed out of frame and made to feel inadequate. That really hit me as someone who spent my entire youth trying desperately to be "one of the guys" among my family while seeing my aunts, my cousins' partners, every other "import" as they called them, get treated with more warmth and kindness than I was ever given. I also feel like we should talk more about the "and that's why coffee's for grown-ups" kid, who we see at the end down a cup and then hammer in all the nails. There's an ADHD analogy in there.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

Haha, if only. i have ADHD and caffeine does nothing

@caswanden454 2 года назад

@@DeathnoteBB I meant in terms of his "hyperactivity" being seen as something to be corrected (i.e. taking his coffee away) versus then thriving in the right environment.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

@@caswanden454 Oh I guess. I felt like that was different since caffeine IS a drug and not always good for everyone. I heard in Colombia it is normal for kids to drink coffee though so maybe your interpretation was the intended one

@doc.m.d.8870 2 года назад

@@DeathnoteBB Colombia, with an O. And it's normal for them to have lattes that are heavy on the milk. No kids are drinking espressos there. But being a coffee exporting nation, coffee drinking is a big part of the daily routine for a lot of Colombians.

@ZeldaWolf2000 2 года назад

@@DeathnoteBB according to my friend who is fluent in Spanish, instead of, "and that's why coffee is for grown-ups, "in the Spanish version they say something around the lines of, "and that's why kids get decaf, "in the Spanish version.

@jas-hr6gq 2 года назад

My friend and I are both disabled in different ways, and we talked about how Mirabel echoes our experiences as disabled people. For example, the kids don’t realize that Mirabel doesn’t have a gift, which seems a lot like invisible disability- some people (like that ahole who gave her the “not special special”) know especially if they know us, while others who don’t are completely in the dark about it. Mirabel is also infantilized (something that occurs to a lot of disabled people) by having to stay in the nursery. Also, Mirabel is more or less treated like a burden by her family members.

@sarid91 2 года назад

I'm visually impaired and completely agree Mirabel is treated like the way a disabled is both in thier community and family .

@Tiny_Koi 2 года назад

I like to believe that in the new house they built her her own room, but they didn't clarify so !!!

@jackriver8385 2 года назад

You just helped make me realise that they kinda put the whole trope of disabilities being "superpowers" and turned it on its head. As an autistic person I definitely empathise a lot with Mirabel.

@ashton_bites_back 2 года назад

That was one of the first things I felt when I watched Encanto, but I quickly brushed it off because I tend to project on characters a lot and I thought maybe I was just trying to make the story relatable to my situation. But honestly, characters like Mirabel and Izuku from My Hero Academia both really hit home about what it's like to have a disability (mine is ADHD / GAD). You're told your dreams and goals are unrealistic, that your help is not wanted / unnecessary, and you're forced to step back from taking part of things to the point where if anyone asks you to do something, you feel incredibly incapable and unprepared, which only repeats the cycle of shame. I totally feel you on this take, tysm for sharing :)

@Thatgeekycanadian 2 года назад

Yes yes yesss

@catbowserfantasytherapist3132 2 года назад

One of my favorite aspects of this movie is how they address the trauma Abuela went through while also making note that the way she treated her family was not healthy. They acknowledge that she created these unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with trauma age hadn’t processed and it spread to her family. She acknowledges the pain and sets out to fix it. Subtle things but-Abuela is wearing a black shawl to mourn her husband’s death and it’s only after she processes her emotions with Mirabel that she removes it. A subtle visual indication of healing and I love it. And I do love Bruno. Gotta admit, one of my favorite scenes with him is when he comes rushing to the river to defend Mirabel. We see earlier that confronting or seeing his mother is something he is petrified of but when he thinks blame is going to be placed on his niece like it was on him, he isn’t having that.

@chicgirl85 2 года назад

Luisa is also every person who was told they were gifted as a child. Trying to live up to what teachers and society says you have to be is EXHAUSTING. I related so hard to Luisa and it was so nice to see someone who wasn't skinny, wasn't fat, just was. Nobody comments on her body, just her gift and what she needs to do next.

@mellophonesheikah6223 Год назад

THIS! I resonated with so many characters in the movie including Luisa and I just couldn’t explain why but you nailed it

@Giuggiulu. 2 года назад

As to which character i relate to the most, I'm just gonna say that my friend didn't understand why I loved Luisa's song so much and then she read the lyrics "I'm pretty sure I'm worthless if I can't be of service" and she just went. Oh yep. Of fucking course she's your favorite.

@FrazJJ Год назад

Yessss! I relate to Luisa so much

@jaspersgrimoire 2 года назад

When it comes to Isabela agreeing to marry Mariano, she was also told by Bruno that the life of her dreams was promised and would someday be hers. There had to be a weight on her (as well as with many people who agree to arranged marriages) that “yes, it might suck right now, but in the future you’re going to be blissfully happy.” And isn’t it every young lady’s dream to marry a handsome young man? I strongly suspect that had a heavy weight. She marries Mariano, he gives her the life of her dreams, it never really occurred to her that the life of her dreams was something she could achieve by not being perfect.

@nomemeshere4807 2 года назад

Very interesting but leads me to a new question. The second part of his vision for her "he told me that my powers would grow" and they did. BECAUSE Mirabel went to go try and hug her thinking that would save the miracle. So does that mean it was always known mirabel would save the miracle or at least try? Or could just a different hardship/ confrontation have caused the evolution in her powers?

@magnoliaskogen 2 года назад

"it never really occurred to her that the life of her dreams was something she could achieve by not being perfect." punched me in the GUT. Whew. Thank you for this

@raeg1100 2 года назад

@@nomemeshere4807 I think Bruno saw that moment happening, but as he says in the movie he doesn't see things in order, nor fully clearly. My guess with the ambiguity is that even though Mirabel was always going to try to save Casita (and help her sister), she had the choice to walk away when everything broke, or say "we can fix it together".

@nomemeshere4807 2 года назад

@@raeg1100 ahhh you're totally right!!!

@crypticmrchimes 2 года назад

@@nomemeshere4807 There's another detail that caught my attention on the rewatch in regards to that line. Specifically, the fact that, if Isabella is saying the prophecy verbatim, Bruno saw that "her power would grow *like the grapes that thrive on the vine."* What caught me off guard was that unlike all the imagery previously shown associated with her, Tio Bruno did not describe her powers using floral imagery. Instead, he used a hardy plant with flowers that, while pretty in their own right, would not be considered "perfect" like the ones she surrounds herself with in the first act. Instead, their true beauty comes when the flowers fade and the fruits emerge. Thus, Bruno was foreseeing her powers coming into full fruition once she realizes she can grow more than pretty plants and embraces her own vision of beauty. GODS I LOVE THIS SONG!!!

@KyDucky 2 года назад

I identified with Abuela. I lost my husband and then years later lost my adult disabled son. The pressure to be okay and to keep going and pretend that everything is fine.... Abuela had to be the rock that kept standing for her family, It's hard to stop being that rock. I've never been able to.

@alanar8046 2 года назад

*hug*

@ytghost8982 2 года назад

@@alanar8046 *additional hug*

@emmydodgers11 2 года назад

I always related heavily to the term "lost child", which is something mirabel seems to portray a lot to me. She's for sure a scapegoat, but she is also just often ignored and left to the side. A huge part of that was the fact that she has to stay in the tiny nursery room and you can tell throughout the movie that she's trying to find and do things that help her be seen, she embroiders her dress all over with everyones different powers, she makes the decorations, handmade and hand sewn! For Antonio's gift ceremony, she's trying to use what she has to feel seen but she still isn't, just like the lost or invisible child. When she tells Abuela that she handmade those decorations just for her, and her Abuela just tells her to stand aside... totally relatable, totally heartbreaking

@maryeckel9682 2 года назад

Same here. Being forgotten makes you wonder if you even exist.

@donnamcneely4717 2 года назад

One of the first things I noticed was how Mirabel's glasses were the same color green as Brunos eyes. Linking them together as shameful or disappointments to the family. Each of these characters resonated with me on one level or another. I think each of us have an evolving or devolving role within the family unit and we become different aspects of each of these characters.

@natalyarciniegaspalacio7621 2 года назад

Bruno's eyes and visions could very well be a reference to how ancient societies local to Colombia would use emeralds to see the future. You can even see emeralds in the walls of his room.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

Yeah it’s interesting that they’re both the scapegoats of their generation, and Mirabel for not having a Gift, but Bruno _does have a gift_ and he was still shunned. It showcases what Mirabel realized in the climax, nothing can ever be good enough for Alma. Her supposed problem with Mirabel was no Gift but Bruno had one and was still shunned

@everjustcuriousdesigns5190 2 года назад

The colors of the nursery where Mirabel sleeps is predominantly green too.

@alanar8046 2 года назад

That particular shade of green for Mirabelle's glasses and Bruno's poncho is used in the Disney theme parks called "Go Away Green." Quote: Go Away Green was formulated by Disney to “erase” backstage buildings and camouflage construction walls from your sight.

@everjustcuriousdesigns5190 2 года назад

@@alanar8046 WOW!

@Droopysmine 2 года назад

I got a different impression of the ending - that Mirabel's gift was bringing her family together and helping them grow and learn. It could only be given to her when she released Abuela from the chains of not sharing her burden. This reverses the cascade that led up to the home falling apart when the family accepts help from the town to rebuild and learn to move forward with help from others.

@Darknienna08 2 года назад

So i need to preface my comment with : I've only managed to watch Encanto once despite loving it. I'm from an immigrant family, Cuban and Argentinian, so mamy many things struck at my soul from this movie. Made especially worse because my grandfather passed away last summer and, my lord, he was the embodiment of "be worthy of the miracle". The movie just connected very deeply with me. I also highly identify with Tia Pepa. The first time she started doing a breathing exercise and saying "Calm Skies" to clear her negative thoughts I was just like "Oh thats me all over". Ok ranting aside. I think Juanita's quiet personality is also due to the fact that her brother and sister were such "Hassles" for her mother. If your sister is one foul mood away from flooding the town and your brother is seen as a harbinger of doom, then logically you would want to be the one to cause your mother and everyone else the least amount of annoyance. I also think the husbands reflected the types of personalities the women would be attracted to. Pepa needed a positive man with a big voice to help her quiet her negative thoughts and Juanita has a goofy but loving man who is also fine just hiding in the back. I'm working up the courage (and gathering many tissues) to watch Encanto again its really a wonderfully done movie.

@lizl1407 2 года назад

I appreciate your analysis of the movie and I also was deeply touched by this story. But - as a survivor of incest, I felt like this story wasn't for me, and that was really hard and felt very isolating. It might be because there are so few depictions of family systems and family trauma, of course no one film can be everything for everyone, but still I was hoping to see myself reflected... It's not the fault of the film, which is amazing, more just a reflection of our society's continued failure to address or acknowledge incest except as something used for shock value, like in the movie Chinatown, or as "jokes" about hillbillies or Southerners. At the end of the movie Mirabel says something like "there's nothing broken we can't fix" but that is NOT my experience. Some families just cannot be fixed, and in a movie that encapsulated my experience in many ways, it hurt to have that part of my experience generalized away with that word, "nothing". Also, I know you didn't mean it this way at all, but I felt similarly alienated by your caveat, where you wrote that your advice about humanizing and understanding our abusers only applies to people who "don't want to cut off their family altogether after a trauma because they love them." I didn't want to cut off my family and I do still love them, except for the one member who raped me, but I HAD to cut them all off to protect myself, because they wouldn't expel him and they wouldn't believe me. It was the "because" in your caveat that hurt - I cut my family off for my own safety AND I still love them. The way it is written implies that the decision to cut off family happens "because" someone doesn't love their family. You seem open to feedback so I felt like I could share. Thanks for your vulnerability and your realness 💕 Edit: Mirabel does have a gift, she has it from the beginning, she is the one who can SEE. That's why she's the only one with glasses and her name means "beautiful sight". That's also why she's similar to Bruno, he can see the future and she can see the present and the past. She sees the cracks in the Casita and she sees the true emotions of everyone in the family. She sees the REAL gifts of everyone in the family. She sees Abuela's trauma. I loved that she was literally "putting the pieces together"

@VegemiteQueen1 2 года назад

Love to you from someone with the similar traumas - my abuser, while being significantly older and more powerful, was still very much a child themselves, which is very different than an adult making the same choice (very much an assumption but it sounds like that may have been your situation). I'm fortunate that the two immediate family members I have told DO believe me, but I think my mum went into a bit of shock the first time she heard it as I did NOT feel believed at that time. Many years later we are able to have much more open and honest conversations about the abuse and abuser, and I can feel her support, but I will always recall the initial reaction and not feeling believed in that moment of revelation. It hurts very much when the family does not expel the abuser, trust I know! As an adult I'm able to see it's very likely my abuser had much of their own trauma that they were and are unwilling and unable to face to this day. Again, they were a child at the time and this changes the situation a lot from an adult/late teenager (to me) performing the same abuse (which also happened, and I feel very differently toward those people). This does not mean I forgive at all, but gives a small degree of understanding that helps me understand more why things may have happened the way that they did. I've cut off more than 50% of my family though and am very happy with that decision, it was the best thing for ME. What is right for one person is not right for everyone, and that's important to acknowledge, so I can understand feeling alienated by the caveat and I want to reinforce that those feelings are very valid and thank you for your bravery in sharing your feelings 💜 Also - we make our OWN family, blood or not! As an adult, my best friend of 10+ years I have never met and probably never will due to distance - in my heart she is my sister and much closer than any of my actual siblings. Love your interpretation of Mirabel's gift! The most important of all!

@maleahlock 2 года назад

This is so true. I hope you are well 💚💚

@KyrieChii 2 года назад

I know this doesn't mean anything from an internet stranger who hasn't had anything near the sort of trauma you have, but I am truly sorry for what you've been through. (I've had serious childhood trauma, but of a completely different variety, & PTSD). I think the issue of something as painful & serious as incest might be difficult to represent (even in a symbolic way) in a children's (particularly a Disney) movie. Not because it's at all shameful (for the victim), just because it's mature & difficult subject matter. But I could be wrong, I never thought Disney would get to a place of representing mental illness (let alone consistently trying to include it as they seem to have recently) or generational trauma & senseless violence. So maybe there is hope.

@onbearfeet 2 года назад

Oh, man. * hugs * I'm a survivor of familial abuse too (albeit not incest), and I've had to distance myself from most of my living family members for the sake of my wellbeing as well. I identify a bit with Bruno and a bit with Mirabel; I'm the weird, scrappy little black sheep. My family's Abuela died before anyone could reckon with the damage, and it became easier for them to blame me after I began refusing to accept abuse anymore. So I left, and the wild stories proliferated. Do I still love my family? Of course. Am I safe with them? Not even a little bit, with the exception of our Antonio. Both these things can be true. If it helps at all, I put my head together with a fellow survivor and we made our own post-credits headcanon for Encanto. In our version, after the magic is restored, Bruno and Mirabel get their own mini-Casita, far enough away that nobody will visit without calling first, and they both start working on their trauma in their shared safe space. Antonio visits sometimes, when he needs to get away from the craziness of OG Casita, and slowly the place collects its own little found family of waifs and strays, mostly people from the village who don't quite fit in either. As Mirabel grows up, she reckons with the way Abuela and the others treated her, and she and Bruno start setting better patterns in their own relationships. It's not perfect, and they never get that full apology that they deserve (that you deserve), but in time, it's happy and good. Better than Casita ever was. I hope this helps a little. As far as I'm concerned, it's the real ending.

@JazzyCrumbles 2 года назад

I'm really sorry that experiences like yours do not get representation in media. However, i am thankful they did not put it in this movie. With the amount of negative stereotypes, generalizations and assumptions that get made towards Latinos, if the first Disney movie to represent an experience such as yours was one of the like, two movies regarding Latinos Disney has made, i feel like it would just perpetuate and reinforce many prejudices against latinos and their cultures. I hope Disney does address it soon since it's such a taboo that most survivors go through life in silence out of fear of ostracization despite being the victim. :/

@GPerla26 2 года назад

My brother, uncle, mother, and I had such a difficult time with this movie honestly. We're Salvadoran and at the time when we watched it we were going through a VERY difficult time realizing the abuse we had all suffered because of my grandmother. We're all really fucked up because of her influence in basically every aspect of our lives and it's a super long story, but it made this movie too real and too painful. I always look forward to seeing your videos every Saturday and I almost skipped this one because I'm getting so tired of seeing how everyone is obsessed with this movie when I felt like things weren't really resolved. It's clear now, however, that most of my animosity towards it comes from my own frustrations about how my family will not have the moment of apology from my grandmother that Mirabel had. All this to say that I appreciate this video regardless of my feelings towards the film. The characters I did end up loving with all my heart were Mirabel and Bruno, and I relate to them both ❤️ equally

@TiredKnitter 2 года назад

I hope that even if you can't have that moment from your grandmother you can create peace and healing with your brother, uncle, and mother. That sounds really hard to go through and I wish you all the best in finding a path through.

@footh1013 2 года назад

I also felt that there was something missing near the end, but I've never been able to quite place it. Do you know what was missing for you in the movie's resolution?

@inolvidable. 2 года назад

And what fault does the movie have with your issues? Were they supposed to make the movie to match your situation? How silly and immature is that. Based on your conclusion, you may seem to be in fault. It is not the movie's fault that your abuela is such a b*tch; quite the opposite, the movie does give resolution and you feel miserable because of that. In other words, you want the rest of the world to be miserable, because misery wants company.

@peapotfairy 2 года назад

@꧁Inolvidable ꧂ OP shared something very personal about their family system (after watching a video about family systems!) and how this movie tugged at really painful emotions for their entire family. Your reply is downright mean. Maybe take a step back; realize that even though you are anonymous, you are still communicating with an actual human being. Maybe think about why you felt the need to be so unkind to someone about a sensitve topic.

@inolvidable. 2 года назад

@@peapotfairy Foolishness! I also have generational issues with all my father's family. Really bad stuff, and also with my immediate family because certain behaviors come from that family, and I am not blaming or disliking a movie because of that. It is childish and ridiculous, especially when the movie ends with everybody getting along. Or is it that the movie had to end miserably to make her happy so that she feels accompanied?

@theeccentric7263 2 года назад

I loved this movie it really hit me in the heart. Seeing Bruno made me indescribably happy, because it's so rare to see representation of mentally ill people where they aren't the villain or irredeemable in some way. It made me feel seen. Edit: Bruno represents my place in the family, the villainized black sheep.

@tyznik 2 года назад

I definitely related to Isabela. I grew up always getting good grades, never getting in trouble, and just had a general expectation that I would succeed at everything. Currently working with my therapist about my crippling fear of failure which prevents me from attempting anything I don't know I'll succeed at. Turns out that's a great way to miss out on a lot of experiences in life. I also related to Louisa in that I tend to look for validation by being indispensable to people, but I end up putting a shitload of pressure on myself that way.

@jenniferfootman3257 Год назад

I am so glad I'm not the only one that feels that way ☺

@emcrolls 2 года назад

On of the things I say lots is “I’m glad to be of service, but being made to feel servile is Vile” I see lots of ableism in this film too 💜♿️💜

@MickeyAtkins 2 года назад

Y’all! This is why I love my comment section so much. I completely missed this!! Thank you for talking about this because that’s such a good point! And now I have an excuse to watch it again with a new focus lol.

@emcrolls 2 года назад

@@MickeyAtkins as visibly Disabled “highly verbal “ intersectional person emotional labor is a huge thing. Masking kills hearts Have sources if needed

@od3910 2 года назад

@@emcrolls I burned out to masking. This burn out literally changed my life. Burn out isn't something you can get over always

@emcrolls 2 года назад

@@od3910 I feel ya. The “Overcoming “ Passing BS is so frakking awful. Being functional is better than “fixed” & sometimes that’s the best we can aim for

@emiliad 2 года назад

Wow! I kinda saw this but had not fully externalized it! In another comment you mentioned emotional labor. Have you every heard of Arlie Hochschild? I studied Hochschild a lot in college and she talks about the difference between emotion work (being paid to use your emotions to regulate others) and emotional labor. She highlights that those who are disabled (especially for visible disabilities) and how they often have to regulate the emotions of those who engage with them.

@annarogers645 2 года назад

Tia Pepa is literally the barometer for the family. I love this movie so much.

@ChristopherSadlowski 2 года назад

Ouch, that description of being the "Golden Child" hit a little too close to home. I was told as a kid, to my literal child face, by a parent, "Failure is not an option." More than once. Needless to say that I'm a HUGE bundle of neuroses and have rarely pursued the things I've ACTUALLY wanted to do because of that. And a lot of other things too. It just really fucked me up, in plain English.

@SarahBent 2 года назад

We've watched this movie about 1000x at my house now. In my family of origin I'm Bruno - excluded and not discussed unless I'm causing problems. In my current family (as an adult and parent) I'm Pepa. Sadly, I'm disabled and that effects everyone.

@sekispeaks9327 2 года назад

I related to Mirabel (especially when she was running around before the celebration, making everyone special gifts and being scolded for 'trying too hard,' which hit home because one of my sisters once just straight-up told me that my problem in the family was that I tried too hard ) when I thought of my teens and early twenties. These days, I've self-sorted into Bruno. I withdrew to live in the walls (several thousand miles away) and found out I was happier with the rats. It's not how I wanted my familial relationships to turn out, but I have a good life and I don't regret my decision.

@carag3921 2 года назад

I completely relate to this.

@jonigarciajg 2 года назад

I am the Youngest and was told I was too sensitive and over analyzed and was thinking too hard. I became a therapist and still wasn't listening too. A few years ago I decided to stop being Maribelle and became Bruno instead. I am happier with the rats as well.

@crisisalert3029 2 года назад

I love the symbolism of the butterfly throughout the film while it is heavy handed. There's a butterfly on the candle, on Mirabel's dress, Bruno follows the butterfly in Mirabel prophecy (take 2). Just as Bruno follows the butterfly to discern Mirabel's future, the butterfly path Abuela needed to take to secure the candle's magic was on Mirabel's shoulder the whole time. After Casita collapses (which represents a part of the butterfly lifecycle, see edit below) & Mirabel runs aways, Abuela finds the loose thread (from the butterfly) and eventually finds Mirabel. Mirabel sees the butterfly on the stalk of grass from Bruno's vision and knows she needs to make amends. Then scene at Caño Cristales river follows with Dos Orugiutas. I would like to think Mirabel is meant to Abuela's apprentice, but on another level, Mirabel was there to show Abuela the needed path to help the family thrive not just survive. Edit: A butterfly's metamorphosis is preceeded by the pupa stage during which enzymes breakdown the larva essentially to a liquid while in chrysalis. Casita's deconstruction was brought on by destructive internal forces in the Madrigal family, but it's reconstruction and transformation was a result of the power of empathy, forgiveness, and love as experienced between Abuela and Mirabel, the family, and positive ties to the community.

@LoreCatan 2 года назад

For me, the most powerful scene in the movie is when Mirabel finally confronts [is forced to confront] her abuela after getting accused of hurting her family. Especially the line "I will never...be _good_ enough, for you", because to me this is a very familiar feeling, but it's often one I never get to say out loud. For me this has always been a feeling I have reserved for when I'm alone and broken down, when I am crying in my room and "realize" my family doesn't love me or care about me the same way I do for them [this was something I did a lot in my childhood], which obviously wasn't the case, but that didn't mean their words and actions didn't hurt, no matter their own reasons and feelings at the time [like here, where Abuela is totally out of line for saying that to Mirabel, despite the situation]. Hearing the words spoken, to the family member in question too, was very emotional for me. I think I actually gasped the first time I watched it. It tugged at those repressed memories and brought them to the surface, and it made Abuela's accusations so much more painful to hear, because in that moment I felt like I was Mirabel, and those words were directed at me. Especially now, I am in the process of deciding whether I want to cut my own family off or if I should attempt to reconcile with them, despite our different ideologies. Surprise surprise, I'm trans. Surprise surprise, my family is exactly like this one, just less high profile and no immigration trauma, but still very traditional. To hear someone say that you don't love your family, and that you are hurting your family by being who you are, in your face? You could tell me I would die if a single tear escaped my eyes and I would be dead instantly, there was no holding it back after that. So...yeah. "I will never be good enough for you", Powerful, relatable, words. I wish in the end my family could learn to accept and love "All of me" too.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

They’re not immigrants, the Abuela is a refugee

@maeikaa4427 2 года назад

@@DeathnoteBB well, they arrived to where they are from somewhere else? Aren't all refugees immigrants? Unless you are talking about the rest of the family, but usually even if you aren't the first generation to have arrived somewhere you can still identify with being an immigrant.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

@@maeikaa4427 No I don’t mean generationally, though that is something I didn’t think about. I meant that as far as I know they didn’t leave the country, Alma barely made it out of their town.

@maeikaa4427 2 года назад

@@DeathnoteBB oh! Yeah, i see what you mean - although, the miracle straight up created a new valley I'd imagine to them it's like a brand new country lol Ah, and good taste in pfp too :)

@MoMo-vj8ch 2 года назад

I immediately thought of how you break down/identify good apologies watching Encanto. Abuela says sorry, doesn't minimize the hurt she caused, and gives Mirabel room to respond. The fact that is was an older member of the family apologizing to a younger (not to mention outcast) person is SO nice and healthy to see.

@WildYvi 2 года назад

I read the three oldest in the family as representing Anxiety, Paranoia, and Depression. I think that's why Mirabel's mom is subdued and in the background, because noone really notices depression.

@iiz00merii19 2 года назад

OMG I never thought about that. It makes so much sense, because Pepa is anxious all the time and usually you can tell when a person is anxious. Bruno is paranoid that the family will get mad at him for his visions and is very superstitious. And then what you said about Julieta.

@m1sh474 2 года назад

No, those are people projecting. They represent the powers to survive: command the weather for better crops / heal with the meals for healthy family and town / see the future to prepare if there's again a threat for the family/town.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

@@m1sh474 They represent many things

@zorro...... 2 года назад

i feel like other than that, theres nothing that really identifies julieta as being depressed? i like the theory but it feels way too flimsy... and i dont think she is subdued or in the background, she simply isnt a major character as far as the issues with mirabel goes and is a supportive figure to be there for her. same as her dad. and so, neither show up as much in the narrative as other characters like abuela or bruno

@Ellejacklyn1 2 года назад

I’m a middle child, Luisa was so meaningful to me. Her whole “I need to carry everything for everyone” made me VERY emotional.

@Izzrules 2 года назад

The way you spoke about abuela’s trauma really resonated with me and re-contextualized how I see my grandmother’s trauma and how she formed my family’s dynamic. Her trauma and her need to maintain safety and control changed my mother and her siblings and defined how they still interact with each other eight years from her passing. She was a really young Hispanic woman with babies trying to figure everything out on her own and she had to keep everything in order. She caused a lot of hurt and pain and inflicted a lot of abuse, but she experienced trauma from a really young age. It doesn’t excuse what she did, but it shows how generational pain can be.

@angryalice5629 2 года назад

I think it’s also worth mentioning that a single child in the family often takes the role of Luisa and Isabella together, while at the same time has to suppress emotions like Pepa. The adaptability of this concept is one of the beauties of this film! Thank you so much for making this video! 💚💚💚

@jackriver8385 2 года назад

I resonate with both mirabel and bruno, I was always made to feel like my input didn't matter, and often felt invisible. Every time I tried to help I was told I was doing it wrong or accused of being manipulative. When I was 18, I was put in a similar position as bruno, where my mom basically told me that if I didn't like it at home, I should just leave. She went off to work and meanwhile I packed my stuff and left. It was my own decision but also kinda not really my own decision. It's awful to feel like you're not wanted and not helpful. Btw I've had therapy to help process my trauma and I'm 28 now and finally finding some stability in my life so don't worry about me, I'm doing mostly fine and working really hard on breaking the cycle while raising my own kids ❤

@carag3921 2 года назад

Yay you, you did so well. I'm proud of you and also a little jealous. But you rock!

@ashesfalldown492 2 года назад

I felt like Luisa for sure growing up. I had to take care of my mom and my siblings because my dad was abusive. Then when we got out my mom of course had trauma she didn’t handle well. So I tried to protect my siblings from that. And help them with homework and school and tried to keep straight As. Then as a teenager I took a job to help my mom with bills while being in a very rigorous academic high school with mostly AP classes and all. I had to be the one who carried everything because my mom had to care for my siblings whose issues were way louder (and thus made me feel like they were worse). It took a lot for me to get past that. My partner really helped me. But so did me converting out of Christianity, so I didn’t feel worthless constantly, and that my only worth was what I did for others. Leaving that helped me find a healthier balance in self care and helping others and not hurting myself so much because I did and do have value outside what I can do for others. I cried for Luisa and snapped at the Screen when Abuela yelled at Mirabel for talking with her about Luisa’s worried and feelings. It was beautiful to see her show that moment of weakness and connect with someone and let someone shoulder her burden even if for a moment with Mirabel. Poor Luisa. Glad things were working out for her in the end.

@carolinpurayidom4570 2 года назад

So sad that you had to convert out of Christianity know you have worth even if you are not constantly serving others because you are his child and he loves you no matter what and he does want you to live yourself

@maleahlock 2 года назад

@@carolinpurayidom4570 Seriously? This is not helpful after what she just stated. No. Just no.

@morgrugg 2 года назад

@@carolinpurayidom4570 religious people replying to others opening about their religion related traumas with "sorry you feel that way because God is good" is one of the main reasons so many people resent religious people so much. You're really not helping your case here

@ashesfalldown492 2 года назад

@@carolinpurayidom4570 hard to believe when Christians believe in original sin and this everyone deserves hell for just existing. No offense. The idea that people bad was so toxic to me and I am glad to have gotten out of it. You do you, but maybe listen instead of preaching at me or anyone else who talks about religious trauma. Happy Easter but man do you need to be better about listening to others and their experiences. One reason why I have trouble in interfaith situations since so many Christians like you like to talk over or preach at us non-Christians instead of actually listening and taking that information in. You just wait to speak. Did you even read my whole post before you wrote that out? Did you think of it right when I said I wasn’t Christian anymore? No offense but I am happier as a Jew and at least my mental health struggles aren’t minimized and I am not expected to forgive someone who hasn’t asked for it from me instead of just asking God for it (like so many said about my abusive father and my mother who abused me in other ways, they asked god for forgiveness but they didn’t harm god, they harmed me and didn’t change their behavior). I have community who is actually willing to help instead of judge and rituals that help soothe my soul and I am not yelled at for asking questions. My kids won’t be raised with the idea they deserve hell for existing. That they have to forgive everyone who supposedly asked god for it, and they won’t have to sacrifice their mental health to be able to deal with their religion. There will be other issues but I will make sure they don’t end up with the trauma that Christianity caused me. My kids will bake challah on Friday afternoons with me and find the afikoman at Passover and do Torah study and ask questions and be celebrated for it, not punished and shunned in church.

@svitrai 2 года назад

I've seen the movie twice and at least 3 times during the first watch I said aloud "Hey this is a suspiciously Jweish dinamic. Is this family Jewish?" (I myself am Jewish, come from a Jewish family) So I agree that the intergenerational trauma portraial was spot on. Also cried multiple times... I think I identified with multiple characters, but what stuck with me on the 2nd watch was this dynamic of "we don't have time for your bad feelings because we are having a nice family moment right now" - like during Antonios ceremony or Isobel's proposal. I have many times felt the pressure to shove my feelings down because I was told so in such situations. Also one of my sisters is so Pepe, just bursting with anxiety and anger often... It's sad to watch...

@carolinpurayidom4570 2 года назад

As an Indian I related to this movie

@eliteshellfish4170 2 года назад

There's no more crying on this channel lol Alan on Cinema therapy just crying in almost every video it's ok we are here for you cuz I cried when I watched this because I felt seen

@MickeyAtkins 2 года назад

LOL fair point 😂 Alan really does let it loose huh? It’s not that crying is bad or wrong either! I just have a hard time talking when I get teary which makes filming rough. 🙃

@Nero_Coniglio 2 года назад

My friends were streaming this movie in a discord server and I came in right before the engagement dinner scene. I remember that, by the end of the movie, I was so, *so* angry that everything wrapped up so neatly. I realized after watching the parts that I missed and watching this video that my extreme reaction isn't with a flaw in the movie but my own personal shit. It was really, really nice to be able to sit back and think 'okay, just because the movie ends on a happy note doesn't mean the work has stopped.' The movie has to have an ending and instead of reading it as a 'happily ever after' it's more of a 'we know the problem and we can work on it now' and I just have to thank you for kicking my perspective in the right direction! Edit: I would LOVE to see you react to more of these newer Disney/Pixar movies. I'll have to check and see if you've done others before (as of writing this I'm relatively sure I've not seen any others) but movies like Inside out and Soul would be so cool to get a therapist's take on.

@NancyRodriguez-ff5hi 2 года назад

Abuela is the character that made me cry more on this movie, I find it funny that people say that she never apologized but as a person with a grandma that can not see u without saying all of the negative aspects of ur life and that thinks that that is "showing love" and never apologices for it, I cried a lot in the part when miracle hug abuela and felt like it was 10000% an apology, kind of jealous I wish I could have that hahaha and I feel like a lot of latino families relate it is honestly a miracle hahaha and I loved seeing that.

@dezthedangerous2452 2 года назад

I’ve only watched reactions to this movie and listened to the soundtrack 100 times and I cry to half these songs lol I think this is one of the best Disney movies. I love it so much. My one of my therapists’ is Puerto Rican like I am, I thought she would love this movie and encourage her to watch this movie since she just had her first Granddaughter and has a big family that also works with her at the facility I go to. Figured it might be helpful to other patients to watch too since a lot of them have families with young children.

@PrincessDalathiel 2 года назад

I went through a rough, rough upbringing as the second oldest of 10 kids. The people who raised me both had real, significant trauma in their pasts, but they used that to excuse what they did. I relate so much with Luisa that I actually can't watch the movie, so thank you for covering it. I can't stand abeuila(?) or seeing her humanized because of who she represents to me based on the song surface pressure, which still makes me sob my heart out. I had to make the choice to walk away, leaving all my siblings behind in the collateral damage, and that song reminds me why and that it was the right thing to do.

@junebug2628 2 года назад

I love that Pepa's partner is always supporting her. Also, when Camillo tries to help calm Pepa down and bumps into the teapot, he turns into all of the grownups one by one.

@queencelestyna 2 года назад

Your take on Antonio resonated with me more than I thought it would. I'm the oldest child (and oldest grandchild), so I understood a lot of what Isabella felt. But once you started talking about Antonio being a "cycle breaker" and how that's often taken on by the youngest in the family, I realized that a lot of people see me as my grandparents' youngest child because they were so instrumental in helping raise me, and I've gone off and done things that no one else in the family had so far. Interesting!

@rachel_sj 2 года назад

Ok…my sister has watched Encanto, it seems like everyone is watching Encanto and now when Mickey is talking about Encanto that *definitely* means I need to see it!! 😂🤣

@dezthedangerous2452 2 года назад

Even if you don’t watch it, recommend just listening to the soundtrack and watching the music videos that go along with them. I haven’t even watched the movie in it’s entirety lol just a bunch of RU-vid commentary and in depth reactions and oh damn does that shit punch you in the gut, like Mickey says.

@stephanieremsen8564 2 года назад

When I first heard Luisa’s song, I was providing speech therapy in a preschool classroom and I had to excuse myself to have an ugly cry in the ladies room. As an oldest child/single mom, Luisa resonated with me REAL hard and I lost it big time.

@TerriMRoberts 2 года назад

Yay!! SO glad you did this video, Mickey!! Thank you for this. I love the whole movie and all of the characters, but if I really had to pick one story arc as a favourite, it is Isabella's (even though I identify with Mirabel & Luisa more). When she casts off the whole perfection role she becomes so joyful. She plays. She makes art. She gets dirty, just like a little kid. SO many girls don't get to do that because of old standards of feminine appearance & comportment. I was a Girl Guide leader for a loooooong time, so I have seen this for real. It is pure joy to take girls & women camping and see them hike, climb, play etc with no cares about looking imperfect for the 1st time. So yeah, Isabella made me good-cry.

@Lynsey17 2 года назад

The Dos Oruguitas song and sequence is so beautiful and heartbreaking. It is definitely in my top moments of the film. I also love that Maribel looks the most like Bruno, that Maribel is shown connecting with the Casita in ways no one else does as if her lack of a gift makes her more attuned to her surroundings bc she isn't focused on one single talent, and that everyone in the Encanto helps rebuild the Casita bc they see the Madrigals as equally a part of the community, despite Abuela's fear that they are only useful if they are of service. I don't really have a character I connect with due to their family roll but I LOVE Dolores. There have been hints about Encanto becoming Disney's next franchise and I think it's especially suited to for that since I wish we got to see more of pretty much every family member.

@DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

*Mirabel

@Enbyclownposse 2 года назад

I texted my mom the line “recovering from trauma is a privilege” because it’s something Iv literally watched her deny herself to make a life and break the chain for me, my parents did everything right they protected me and gave me everything I wanted they didn’t get, and now I’m 24 and I still have so many issues I personally attribute to our generational trauma and me and my mom are partners in healing now, I just wanted to say I really appreciate your understanding of the ability to take on trauma that you didn’t necessarily receive

@AndaraBledin 2 года назад

The soundtrack has lived rent-free in my head ever since I saw this in the theater. Spoilers stuffs and minor corrections! !) Abuela Alma has a power, but it's as the source of the miracle. 2) In WDTAB, when Felix interrupts Pepa, you can see him reacting and immediately returning to placate her. He's a good husband. 3) Bruno wasn't pushed out; he pulled himself out of the family to prevent his predictions being used to hurt Mirabel. 4) Abuela was totally living vicariously through Isabella and her impending marriage to Mariano; note how much they resemble a young Alma and Pedro. 5) The character designers had to fight to give Luisa her body type; the Disney higher ups wanted to make her another princess body type. She's also the poster-child for what happens when you praise a person for innate characteristics as opposed to praising them for their actions and works. (she is absolutely my fave character and the one I most identify with for a whole raft of reasons) 6) Mirabel has a gift and always did. But it isn't immediately apparent because she's Abuela's successor, and Abuela was holding on so tight, she couldn't come into said gift. 7) The creators talk about the fact that Camilo's still very much trying to figure out who he is, which isn't helped by the fact that he spends so much time as someone other than himself.

@Blackhorselove1 2 года назад

Not to take away the spotlight from PoC families, but as a part of a family of immigrants from Eastern Europe (specifically Bosnia), I related to so many characters in this film. Particularly Isabella, Bruno, Antonio, and Pepa (in no particular order). I can’t even describe the emotions I felt when I first watched this film, because I’m currently in therapy working through my trauma regarding my family’s dynamic. I didn’t even realize why I related to these characters so well until your analysis on their roles in the family, and I find that very interesting! Thank you again for another fantastic video.

@eggybaconbits 2 года назад

Delores 100% reminded me of me. Being a middle child and sat in a room while siblings were elsewhere, hearing EVERYTHING the adults were talking about, only for them to realize I heard it and then being told "but you didn't hear that, don't tell anyone I told you, don't talk about this." Yeah that creates a pretty anxious little kid. Also, Camillo and Julieta somehow also resonate with me because I somehow have to fit into the family in some way, and the majority of the time its to be comic relief or healing/helping in some way (and knowing everyone's secrets only intensifies that) and if I couldn't do that, I literally stayed away from everyone in my room.

@kayhaven4710 2 года назад

So excited!! This movie has made me sob both times that I watched it! My personal theory is the ones who think it’s an ok movie, were the ones who had a good upbringing. The ones who love this movie and sing its amazing praises are the ones who came from broken homes.

@Miss_Liz_ 2 года назад

Agreed 🥰

@Djinn_Entonic 2 года назад

Or are latinoamerican or latinoamerican descent. Something I really loved is the multiple skin tones, finally we have latinoamericans that are other than trigueño.

@amandachiacchia9040 2 года назад

Definitely resonated with Isabel and Luisa - being the eldest and the "golden child" means a lot of shouldered responsibilities and high expectations that I always feel like I need to meet, not just with my family, but extending into other areas of my life.

@dariasaw7716 2 года назад

Man I appreciate this movie so much, but watching it with my parents and literally having to hold it together during Isabella's song was crushing. Being the golden child in an immigrant family that doesn't support the LGBT+ community while being so far in the closet you've almost found Narnia is wild. My parents were just vibing with the song and I'm sat there like "don't cry dont cry don't cry they'll ask why don't cry." 10/10 video I'm so glad Jen from Fundie Fridays did a collab because this channel is lovely.

@marissashuler7199 2 года назад

I love this movie and it feels very relevant to a lot of thoughts I've been having about my family lately. Unpacking my childhood trauma and the generational trauma in my family is pretty exhausting, so it was weirdly nice to see a well-made childrens movie discuss a lot of things that I feel like I have noticed, and it even pointed out to me some aspects about what toxic roles I tend to fill in my family. At the end of the movie, I felt that I was confronted with the uncomfortable reality that I really don't see the forgiveness/rebuilding ending even being possible for my family. There is just so much wrong and not once in my life did I feel that anyone truly was held accountable for toxic behavior in multiple generations of my family. I love the ending, don't get me wrong, but it left me feeling really hopeless. I'm glad though that at the end of the day the ending could be a good way to show young children, in a way they can understand, how these problems get resolved. I liked too that they showed them literally rebuilding the house from the foundation up, as they're repairing their relationships. I feel like that on an emotional level is the standard that children should have for their caretakers. Like we don't just brush past the toxicity. I feel like there's no way for change to happen if things aren't directly addressed, and so openly too.

@aloevera533 Год назад

I liked how they showed that abuela didn’t just put up walls of protection but she put up mountains. And the mountains around the village cracking and opening when she has her perspective change was so big.

@noam3561 2 года назад

beautiful vid for a beautiful movie :') a few other things that stuck out to me: I think Bruno's power connects to his role in the family in the sense of saying true things the family doesnt want to/isnt ready to hear. we know hes very intuitive - leaving because he has information that would turn the family against mirabel and telling peppa it would rain because he noticed she was nervous and didnt want her to feel bad for causing the storm (maybe my favorite detail in the movie). Along with being the black sheep he's sort of a first attempt at a cycle breaker who backed off when he realized the honesty was unwelcome and the conflict was affecting the new generation. Antonio, along with being a cycle breaker in his own way, is also just innocent and raises the stakes for healing because he hasnt internalized so much of the pressure yet. Last thing was pointed out by my gf, but throughout the movie you can see Delores wincing at loud noises, so her power and role also have a lot to do with her heightened sensitivity. Which makes a lot of sense with her mom's big and not openly processed emotions

@SLYKM 2 года назад

I finally watched the movie so I could watch this. It really was nice how in the begining the back story was nice and brief and not too messed up. But the ending of the movie, it showed just enough for people to get exactly what happened and it was meaningful and yes I agree it was good that they showed the road Abuela walked in such short visual scene. The part where Antonio supported Mirabel to the door had me 😭 Favorite song is still "We Don't Talk About Bruno," bc its a really catchy and big number song.

@psychluv 2 года назад

I resonate with Julietta most. The easy child, peacekeeper, shoulder to cry on sometimes. I can advocate for others but don't express my needs a lot. At the age of 31 feel like I'm just now learning that it's okay to advocate for myself, too. Luisa is also quite relatable, probably universally relatable as a representative of what I've seen others call "toxic productivity" that we integrate into our identity itself.

@sarahsizemore7509 2 года назад

I think one of the really skillful things the film does is represent how sometimes our parents attempts to comfort us or protect us can actually be behaviors that rug sweep our emotions or worries. Both the scene where her mother is healing the cut on her hand from the cracked tile and the scene where her father literally tries to put the thing worrying her (Bruno’s vision) in his pockets to hide it.

@samanthawycoff855 2 года назад

One thing that I noticed about Abuela telling the story of how Abuelo Pedro died and the family got their miracle (which I think ties into your discussion of Abuela beginning to process her trauma) was that the way it was portrayed changed from the start of the movie to the end. In the beginning when Abuela is telling Mirabel how the family got their miracle, the framing is very...sanitized is the best way I can describe it. We don't get to see the full context or how earth-shattering it was for Abuela until the end of the movie, and I read it as Abuela really acknowledging her trauma for the first time. On the note of who I most relate to, I relate most to Isabela and Pepa. My immediate family has always been very accepting of who I am and what I do in my life, but I've always felt the pressure to appear perfect and happy whenever I'm around my paternal extended family. It's like putting on a mask in front of them to try and avoid conflict or disappointment. I have to take time before seeing them to "install my filter" so that my sailor-like swearing doesn't accidentally slip out, I find myself always trying to show nothing but "clear skies" around them, I deflect every time they ask me if I've found a church to attend (they don't know that I'm agnostic or that my brother is atheist), and they were the people whose reactions I was most anxious about when I publicly came out as bisexual since I know they are conservative for the most part. I love them and they are good people, but it's hard to take down that mask when I'm not sure how they would take it.

@sydneymullins9205 2 года назад

I'm really glad you mentioned coming out, Samantha! I didn't think I related to Isabela until I started thinking about coming out as Bi, which my parents didn't take well, and recently as androgynous, which I haven't even told my folks about since I don't think they would ever understand. When I realized I was androgynous I started wearing more masculine fashion, but noticed that around my family, I feminized my appearance and clothes so they wouldn't think I'm gender non-conforming. Getting my hair cut short was something my mother would NEVER have allowed if I lived under her roof, because young women are supposed to have long hair. It's difficult to be your true queer self when all your family ever wants to see is their ideal, perfectly hetero version of you.

@samanthawycoff855 2 года назад

@@sydneymullins9205 It took me a couple of viewings to realize how much I relate to Isabela, too. It's exhausting to have to hide who you really are to please the people around you, and I hope you find (or have found) people who you can be your true queer self around. ❤🏳‍🌈

@honigbaerchen17 2 года назад

Defintily Louisa, i remember that the thing people said to me the most after my mom died was: wow you are so strong / i am so glad you are so strong. Guess what, its hard not to be if that is your role. There is no other option then keeping that fasade. (at least thats what it felt like)

@sarahsfairytale 2 года назад

The way you speak about this film warms my heart. I don’t come from a Hispanic family, or a family that has faced immigration or faced fleeing from their home because of opposing threats, but the film warmed my heart and is definitely relatable when you have that family dynamic in place and have experienced those roles. ❤️ thanks for your shared analysis, it’s lovely and enlightening in its own way :)

@myawilkes7560 2 года назад

Oh also! I so resonated with Tia Pepa as a person with Borderline. That feeling of overflowing with emotion so easily... or walking around repeating the mantras and affirmations you learn in DBT just to get through the day... I am so glad that she has Felix as such a loving, supportive partner

@starlesscitiess Год назад

OH I FELT THIS !!!

@jocijenkins7844 2 года назад

This movie kicked my emotional teeth in. Even the little clips get me all teary eyed. My family of origin is white and a bit small, and I'm sure this happens in larger families too but I definitely got saddled with multiple roles, so it really depended on who all was present which (dys)function I'd have to fulfill that day. I mostly would fill the role of luisa, but also camilo and bruno and that crap is exhausting! I speak to almost no one from my family of origin anymore. I'm hoping one day if I continue to improve myself and my understanding and conviction of who I really am I'll be able to reintegrate at least some of if not most of my family into my life without capitulating to my assigned role 🤷‍♀️

@Alex-uy3ph 2 года назад

I resonated with too many of the characters! As the eldest sibling, the ‘golden child’ and the peacemaker in my family. Bonus points for becoming an Immigrant later in life (granted it was by choice), and feeling the burden of having to make myself ‘worth it.’

@yawninglion1677 2 года назад

I've always interpreted Camillo as having some serious Middle Child Syndrome along with being the Chameleon. I mean, he was born right before Mirabel, so his whole thing likely got overshadowed by her being the screw-up, PLUS his power literally demands that he become whatever people want. Nobody values Camillo for Camillo, it's who Camillo can become, and I think his jokester personality can also be a way to try and get some attention, good or bad.

@Uneclipsed 2 года назад

One thing I’d like to add about Mirabel-she not only couldn’t live up to the expectations of the family by having a gift, but she was also treated like she had nothing to of value to contribute and was shunted aside. As long as she wasn’t drawing any attention-negative or positive-she was tolerated. But any time she tried to get involved, she was treated as a disruption, especially by Abuela. Examples of this: trying to make decorations for her cousin’s door or escorting him up to the stairs when he was scared-all positive things looked at with confusion, annoyance, and anxiety.

@Sarah-ty5ev 2 года назад

Luisa helped me to have compassion for my younger self. I saw my childhood self in her. It made me sad to see how she had so much pressure on her, and it made me think about how I felt similarly. Being the oldest daughter can be difficult.

@LadySilveryarn 2 года назад

I love the analysis of all of the characters! Personally, I resonated with Luisa the most. I liked that they showed her wanting to be of service, and being afraid of failing the family, but also the pride she had in being the strong one, and being that support for her family. That sense of pride and feeling valued (or hoping to be valued one day), plus the fear of failing or being a burden, makes it really hard for me to stop and take care of myself.

@jkishhabi 2 года назад

Mirabel and Tia Pepa with just a dash of being Miss Perfect as I wasn't appreciated yet I was the "good child" of 2 siblings with ADHD. My brother wasn't able to mask and fit in at all with adult authority figures while I could fit in great with teachers but always was an outcast among my peers.

@ethevillagecryptid2293 2 года назад

I don't cry at movies, at all. But I full-on sobbed from the Abuela-at-the-river flashback scene all the way until the end of this movie, and then for a little while after. The accuracy of the family roles, the humanization of each of them... [unintelligible noises] Also, do you want to know something that will ruin you? All the rooms are custom designed for their occupants, and when we get a glimpse of Abuela's room in the casita we can see it's exactly the same as the room in her old house before the conquistadores

@allie9855 2 года назад

Luisa for sure. I actually told my mother once that I felt like I had to be useful to justify taking up the space I do just by existing and she was shocked I felt that way. Hearing Luisa's song, I thought, "this is exactly what I've not had words to express before."

@mccoyrachel86 2 года назад

I related to Maribel the most and Dolores comes in 2nd. Being the “gay one” in my family. I wasn’t made to be a black sheep but it still feels very much like I am not seen as the same as my siblings; I feel like I am constantly trying to prove to myself that I am. I also get pitted with secrets between my siblings and mom and it makes me avoid talking much when in family gatherings.

@skytrail5991 2 года назад

As soon as I heard Luisa sing, she resonated with me completely. I'm the oldest sibling and sometimes feel like I even need to be strong for and help my parents with their issues. I am proud of my strength, but I realize it is important to learn to set up own healthy boundaries. Watch me bend, but never break! Lol

@robinknight2251 2 года назад

I like the term, cycle breaker. I am the baby of the family and the black sheep/ scapegoat, I feel that role deep in my soul.

@cassidyj4343 2 года назад

I really related to Antonio & Dolores. I was the "youngest" before my cousins were born - and my sister and I are 7 years apart. My family would literally ignore/forget I was there when having big "adult" conversations when I was a child so I was in on a lot of secrets like Dolores, it just wasn't intentional. But I was the first person to be insightful about the true issues in our family and the first person to leave. My cousins can look at me to see the cycle CAN be broken if you choose it for yourself. I also just related to Antonio because I'm a big animal person, and animal people for some reason are always the cyclebreakers in the family lol

@dramapunk 2 года назад

I think Mirabel always a had a door; it was just Casa; when I watched the second time, I noticed she's the only one that talks to Casa, the only one that Casa really interacts with and responds to. Her door vanished because it was always the front door. Bruno was patching up the wall from the inside to hide the fact it was cracking and breaking and had been for years. You finally see it when she puts her knob on the right door. I felt Luisa most with a side of Isabella; I'm the middle child, my older brother is 7 years older than me, and I am 12 years older than my little brother, both had their own issues, and so I felt and ended up being the quiet one that pushed all my problems down and didn't tell my parents any of the bad stuff that was happening to be at school. Kept my grades up when to college and helped my family when I could, and now I still feel like a failure for not being in a place to help them anymore and not really using my masters like I should. And having serious mental health problems... like welp I let them all down. I know it's a lie, I'm not a failure, and I'm working on that with my therapist. But generational trauma is real, my dude, and this film hit deep.

@deborahhoven8360 2 года назад

I really appreciated your analysis of Dolores. Most see her as the family gossip, but I've always seen her as the secret keeper too. Imagine knowing almost everything about everyone from the age of five. Trying to figure out what is safe to share and what to hold close. Knowing everyone's perspective has made her one of the most compassionate family members. Her take on Bruno in 'We Don't Talk About Bruno' is definitely sympathetic. She says nothing about Bruno's actual location for years to protect him. But what a weight! No wonder she blurted it out when someone else was finally getting close to the truth about poor Bruno. Also, I think that when she revealed Mirabel's lack of gift to the Encanto kids, it was act of compassion, having heard Mirabel's growing anxiety. She "just happened" to appear at the door, stated the truth like it was no big deal, and likely saved Mirabel from another hurtful comment from Abuela.

@carlairving 2 года назад

I think that a lot of the themes in the movie not only resonates with immigrant and Latin-American families, but also to a way lesser extent of course with newly middle-class family. My parents were raised in poverty and because of their parents' sacrifice + social programs created in our country, they were the first generation from both side to get an education, to not live in poverty and constant insecurity, to even buy a modest house, etc. So I've always resonates with this pressure to overachieve while keeping the family tradition alive on a really personal level, especially being the oldest sibling. I identify a lot with Isabela and Luisa

@duckie8651 2 года назад

Great video! I was watching it with my wife, and unexpectedly felt like I got called out. I resonate with Camilo. You are right though. I never really acknowledge the issues and trauma, and try to just make people laugh and distract tensions with jokes and sarcasm.

@theGhostSteward 2 года назад

As someone who had to listen family members ( even when they talk about adult stuff, even as a child) I really love Dolores.

@rachelsarmientotack 2 года назад

Honestly, I think I identify most with Isabella. I was put in the role of earning my father's approval by being the perfect child that he could brag about to the rest of our family. I was more specifically used as a weapon with which he used to compete with his older brother and figuartivly bludgeon my cousins. My cousin, Adam, never heard the end of "Why can't you be more like your cousin." Because we're so close in age, he got the worst of it. Thankfully, we never let it poison our friendship when it was just the two of us. We understood that the fued belonged to our parents, not us. We were always kind to eachother. We always allowed eachother to be ourselves, flaws and all. We could have so easily let our family divide us and hold grudges like Isabella and Mirabel. I'm so proud that we didn't. That we knew better. That we behaved better than our parents.

@KateBerger 2 года назад

It's been months since I first watched it and I still can't get through Surface Pressure without crying. "I'm pretty sure I'm worthless if I can't be of service" just cuts me to my core. I'm really glad you said what you did about Pepa. I've seen her get overlooked (not as badly as Julieta) but you really honed in on an aspect of her character that is interesting and useful. I can't lie convincingly or keep my emotions under wraps, so I feel like I can see myself in her and be comforted.

@ohgeez3794 2 года назад

I identify halfway with Pepa and halfway with Bruno. I was always told I'm too sensitive or too weird until I finally just left. I still love them, though. I see the next generation already getting some of the help I needed as a kid for my ADHD and autism and it makes me so happy. Sometimes I get to help those kids, too, and it's really wonderful.

@adiksaff 2 года назад

I really felt that description of Camillo... I feel like I change who I am depending on who I'm talking to. I privately have crises of not knowing what I want... Only I'm a lot more quiet and self-minimizing like Dolores when I'm infront of my family (I'm definitely Camillo-esque in front of my cliques though...)

@dinau8901 7 месяцев назад

Ok, I know I'm really late to the party on this video but I appreciate it so much. This movie had me so damn emotional and I didn't entirely process why until you pointed out so many things. The impact of having people from our cultures tell our stories is so key to hitting these important points and we cant really be surprised that Lin Manuel Miranda would do anything less than a phenomenal job. Coco was also a deeply affirming movie for me too.

@Jay_and_Meeka 2 года назад

Listening to you talk about Antonio has really put my family role into perspective. I didn't realize it, but I think I relate to the cycle breaker. I am the first in my immediate family to go to therapy (although my aunt has had therapy and is a therapist herself). But I do call shit out all the time, and I am the youngest. But my parents, mostly my mom, has been very receptive to the things I've been learning, and wanting to recognize the toxic patterns in our family dynamic. But it can be uneasy sometimes. My mom is Louisa. She is the oldest of four, and her mom was an alcoholic so parentification was absolutely her entire childhood. Thank you for this. Such an interesting perspective and breakdown of each character.

@Strawberrymatcha555 4 месяца назад

I've related the most to Isabela and Luisa since the first time I saw this film. I sobbed in the theater when Luisa's song came on and felt so seen when Isabela turned out to be the unwilling golden child, but this breakdown on Dolores makes me realize I can also relate to her as the secret keeper. This movie is incredible at portraying generational trauma, and even though I've seen it a million times, I always cry when Abuela's and Pedro's backstory comes on. The healing between Abuela and Mirabel is so emotional and beautiful, something that resonates with me and that I wish I could experience

@GreatScottKnitting 2 года назад

Antonio and Mirabel have a very special relationship. Tonito being younger, he never expected Mirabel to be anything more than what she is and saw her as special. Antonio is also a communicator. He openly communicates at all times about his needs and what he can offer. Camilo's shape shifting seems also like he is person searching for his identity - like many people his age. Imagine trying to figure out who you are when you can be anyone at anytime. Even Abuela asks him to shift from who he is into someone else to be helpful.

@CrowAcolyte 2 года назад

Luisa 😭 I sobbed the first time I heard her song on TikTok, she's the whole reason I watched the movie

@CraftyBugHandmade 2 года назад

Thank you for breaking this down!! I love your perspectives so much. My daughter and I have watched Encanto countless times and it is easily one of my all time favorites. As the oldest child and “golden” child in my family both Luisa and Isabella resonated with me. I felt like the Bruno and Mirabel characters speak to my imposter syndrome issues that convince me I’m an outsider. I often feel like Tia Pepa too when my anxiety and ADHD bubble over. This movie was like an Inside Out situation for my brain haha! Now I’m going to go loudly sing all of the parts to “We don’t talk about Bruno” 😂

@anc301 2 года назад

Imagine the people who's confort movie is Encanto?? The movie in which EVERYONE has generational Trauma??

@jackriver8385 2 года назад

I mean it can be comforting to know you're not alone

@alwayslookingup70 2 года назад

Lol it is my comfort movie! Bc the end when they were like this family is broken and not perfect but there’s still love is very powerful I can still feel guilty about how my family has been But we are broken but mending and there’s hope in that

@Discrete1998 2 года назад

I first learned about Encanto by reading the lyrics to Luisa’s song and started balling my eyes out. As someone who was home alone with their younger siblings, left alone because I was “independent”, and now a single mother supporting multiple family’s because no one else is . . . I felt it deep through my core. I’m exhausted and done, but I can’t be! Because I have so much other’s weight on my shoulders. I just want to give Luisa a hug! But I identify with every character in small ways ❤️

@marlenigomez4963 2 года назад

I'm an animator who's a half Colombian and half Puerto Rican first gen kid. I was SO excited to see a movie made about my culture in the medium I work in. there are 22 Spanish-speaking countries and I was begging for this representation! That being said, I was NOT ready to be so triggered by this movie. I'm the oldest of three sisters in a family run by my grandmother... It makes me happy that everyone has resonated with this but also makes me sad that everyone resonates with this? LOL. Its in every culture and family dynamic but anyway this movie helped me to have some honest conversations about mental health with my family who up until this point has been very hush hush about this topic. Damnit, Disney, ya done it again. Love your take on this, Mickey! I v much enjoy your content.