Omg Leah 😳 What kind of therapist is she??? 🤷♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️....I'm in shock.....When I 1st list my daughter I didn't eat for 4 days n my family basically forced me to....I got down appx. 4 noodles of Mac n cheese on (day 5) n sips of water here n there....I was so depleted n Dehydrated n it was really affecting me physically in addition to the Horrifuc Greiving n lack of sleep.....I just kept forcing myself to get in nourishment each day......I bought Protein powder from Amazon n I would add 2 Scoops n milk with fruit n ice n it was so much easier to get in the nourishment n vitamins that my body was screaming for...So give that a try ❤......I would find a other therapist if that's what you're looking for...... (IMO) I Think if you're gonna go to therapy....Try (Grief Therapy).......Not eating is Part of Greiving hun....Just get your nourishment in!! Sending Luv, Prayers n Positive Vibes to U n Rue ❣ 🙏 🐶
This makes me so mad. Your gut feelings that it wasn’t right is correct- I wouldn’t trust that lady anymore and when you go on Monday tell them what happened. You were supposed to have a therapy session to address issues of grief and your therapist tells you you have an eating disorder and need to go to a specialist. No. So wrong
I’m going with my gut on this one for sure. I need to stay strong and stand up for what I believe in and I do not have an eating disorder. I’m going to explain everything to my doctor because this just doesn’t feel right in so many ways. I was so bummed out it didn’t go as planned 😞
I don't blame you - Id feel the same way. EVEN IF you had an ED and wanted to talk about it, the therapist should have still addressed the main issue which is your grief. Im sorry you had that experience but happy to hear you're standing up for what you believe in. This life is friggen hard dude and every day that you get through is a win IMO...lol @@lifewithleahrue1247
Yes I was gonna come say the exact same thing. This is a grief thing. Everybody handles it differently and the fact you aren’t eating would be a concern IF you weren’t heavily grieving. I’m so sorry to hear about this. I stumbled on your video today and I had NO IDEA. I use to watch Luke and I was always rooting him on also. My sons father is overcoming a serious meth addiction and he is now in jail and even though that probably saved his life, I’m watching my son go through a form of grief from not having him around and how he just dropped him. I have such a heart for ppl that struggle with addiction. It runs in my family and I use to be addicted to pain pills from having back issues. I’m rambling but I just want you to know my prayers and my heart goes out to you and lukes family. He was such an awesome and HONEST ray of light about life and his struggles. It was also very obvious and he made it clear how much he loved you. May God bless you all abundantly and touch your heart with peace 🤍🙏🏻
I agree! I don’t want to take something to numb how I’m feeling. It sucks what I’m going through but I still want to be myself. I feel like a lot of medications alter who you are as a person.
Totally agree! I’m finding that reaching out to a close friend who actually knows me is more beneficial than talking to someone who doesn’t know anything about you. It makes me upset because I’ve dedicated so much time to my therapist only for this to happen. Such a bummer..
@@lifewithleahrue1247 At least your head is in the right olace. I actually did have an eating disorder as a teenager and then I met a grouo of friends and BAM right as rain. No lie. I really hope youre surrounded by a good support system right now. Much love
Hearing this makes my heart break for you. I've actually, been in a similar situation to you with a therapist setting a boundary (I called it an ultimatum) where she would no longer see me if I didn't seek out a higher level of care at a treatment center. It turned into an incredibly positive experience for me believe it or not. At the very least though I would urge you to not give up on therapy. It doesn't seem this way, but your therapist is actually being super responsible telling you that she cannot be your therapist. I know it hurt me when it happened to me it feels very lonely, and her timing with it really sucks as you're going through something deeply traumatic with the loss of Luke. Like if anything I'm mad at her for you for her poor tact with timing and the way she went about approaching it with you because you're also dealing with grief. You're feelings here are real and it seems like she was dismissive of what is likely the root of the issue and that is the fact that the grief and the pain from that is still so raw, so challenging. At least what I can gauge as a stranger on the internet who has been avidly watching your videos. So, take it with a grain of salt, because your therapist knows you much better than I do and I am not licensed or qualified, I just have opinions! LOL. My video "How My Therapist Saved My Life" is exactly about this very issue. I don't share that to promote to you - I share it because it's very relevant to you and it's a take from someone who has been there. Plus, there's a deeper more personal conversation to that whole story, that if you wanted to I'd be willing to share 1 on 1 with you. Plus, over the last 18 months/almost two years since then had many, many, many conversations around why therapists drop clients, boundaries, & professional standards with different therapists etc. etc. etc. I encourage you to email me - my email is in my description box of every video I post and the about me. I also think we're creating content in the same niche, and I'd love to connect/I'd be willing to share my phone number with you. Xo. I hope this isn't overstepping any boundaries or beyond what you're comfortable with. I've been trying to locate your email to privately message you but I can't find any way to on your channel. I'm sending you so much love right now. ❤
Wow Leah, your feelings are totally valid. What a betrayal. Honestly I don’t think she’s a good therapist, especially if she is googling eating disorder symptoms!!!! What!! It may not be her specialty, but she certainly should know the signs. Unfortunately I know from experience that that the trust has been broken. Maybe she had a bad experience with a patient where she should have seen the signs and didn’t. Still though she should know the normal phases of grief. Something just isn’t right about her. Trust your instincts. Taking a break isn’t a bad idea. Just know that sometimes you have to see a few to get the right one. Totally normal. I really don’t think you have an eating disorder. You’re dealing with grief. You’ve got a great level head on your shoulders. Trust in yourself. Have a great weekend 🌷
It really threw me off when she told me she was going to google the symptoms… just shows a lack of professionalism and knowledge. I’m going with my instincts on this one and will be searching for a new therapist when the time is right. Something wasn’t right. I’ve always felt comfortable when we’ve done our video sessions but the in person session made me so uncomfortable. I agree that she should be a little more understanding considering it’s only been a month and a half since Lucas passed, of course things are still going to be hard for me. Trying to stay positive through all this. Hope you have a great weekend as well ❤️
Omg im so sorry. Shes trying to cover herself. Its crazy that she cant understand grief stages. Dont let the mental health system pressure you. There's something seriously wrong with drs med pushing. I am so sorry. I think you're doing great and everything you're going through is natural. I find little help with therapy. She had no reason to push you out of her care. You would know if you had an eating disorder.
I don’t agree with a lot of things she talked to me about but it was like I was frozen and couldn’t speak. I agree that it is wrong to push meds on people thinking it’s going to solve the issue or take the pain away. I’d rather find other coping strategies that doesn’t involve extra medication. I’m thinking a break from therapy might be best for me during this time.
Oh man Zyprexa turned me into a zombie. Seroquel worked much better, but everyone is different. I also believe the less medication, the better, but sometimes we do need it. Antipsychotics like Zyprexa and seroquel made me very hungry but also changed my personality a bit and made me so tired. That's just my personal experience. I hope you can find a better therapist because I'm all for less medication and more cognitive behavioral therapy and just talking in general. I'm not a doctor or therapist or anything, so take it with a grain of salt, but I think it's good that you're apprehensive abt taking more meds. I rlly hope you find a better therapist and keep pushing hard. I think your strength is good to see for people instead of running to illicit drugs. You're absolutely dealing with your issues head-on, and it's something I want to translate into my own life. Anyways, thanks for the update, and keep on keeping on. You're going to be unstoppable in life if you keep going. Godbless
I used to take Seroquel for years and hated how groggy it made me feel in the morning. It also caused some long term side effects which is why I got off the medication. My goal is to be on as little medication if possible. For now, what I’m talking has been helping and don’t feel that changing anything now would really help. I’m doing my best to stay strong and appreciate the support ☺️
I'm so sorry she treated you that way. You are doing amazing! Please don't let her make you feel bad, do what you feel is best for you ❤ sending you lots and lots of love ❤
I’m trying my best not to let it bother me. I think taking a break from therapy might be good for me. It can sometimes be more exhausting constantly talking to someone about your issues. Especially when she wanted to meet twice a week..
@lifewithleahrue1247 I agree with you, it definitely can be exhausting. I think you are doing a really good job dealing with everything that has happened. I know Lucas is so proud of you! All of us are too! Sending you so much love and support! 💗
13:00 Yes total misdiagnosis, you are extremely healthy, bright eyed, healthy thick hair, clear skin, nice hands, young healthy woman. I think the extra energy from not eating helps you cope with trauma & that you can slowly at your own pace train & gain muscle & start post raising calorie intake. Morning afternoon fast & then train & then eat, repeat. We are supposed to only eat one meal a day any ways, I do I fast every day most of the day train & then eat one high protein meal & like three yogurts or a bar of chocolate or waffles, etc (after burning 2000-5400 cal, probably eating 1500-2000).. I'll be praying for you!!!You are awesome ! Take us on a hike maybe some time :)
If therapy work for you, to each their own. I got tired of being 'looked at under a microscope,' & stopped. Proceeded to start working with a neurologist that was closer to my age, only made diagnosis of things neurologically he could back up with data, & operated as a fantastic sounding board to let me figure stuff out on my own rather than attempting to 'fix me.' Best change I ever made, 2 years later I still go. I take no medications & have gotten tangible improvements in my daily life. Point being there are other options besides traditional therapy, sometimes it does more harm than good & I don't understand to this day why people preach about it so highly. Best of luck to ya.
I’m currently looking for other options. Maybe grief counseling. That’s awesome to hear that you don’t have to take any medications and have seen improvements! That’s exactly what I want and need. My goal is to get off my current medication. Not now but when the time is right. And I agree with you. At this point, my therapy sessions have made my mental health worse along with an increased amount of anxiety and stress. Not worth it for me while I’m already going through so much. I appreciate your insight ☺️
Hey I would say find someone else or even Friends n Family can help way better we use each other as sounding n we’re healing n crying together I jus lost my 22yr old Baby Boy my Son to Cancer smh
You seem to be a very intelligent woman & I'm glad that you didn't just agree with everything your therapist was saying to you such as the ED & different medications to take when you feel like you dont have or need them. Is she a grief counselor/therapist? If not, maybe you need one who specializes in grief if you haven't found one already?
I thought she was a mental health therapist but I looked her up on the website and turns out she is only a social worker but specializes in mental health, substance abuse, etc. She does not specialize in grief. I wish I was able to explain to her how I was feeling but it was so overwhelming I didn’t get a chance to express my thoughts. I think a grief counselor would be best. Thanks for the suggestions!
You express your thoughts very well to us here, and I hope you find some comfort in doing so. I would never want to encourage someone to quit therapy when they're vulnerable, but she technically quit on you. The least she could've done is referred you to some sort of grief counseling. I can't imagine what you are going through, but I do feel your pain & your feelings are normal. If you decide to take a break for a bit, please reach out to your support system if you need help. Sending lots of love & positive vibes your way. ❤❤❤❤
Im so sorry about your therapy session, that sounds horrible. Almost like bombarded in an intervention, but with one person. And what kind of therapist pushes meds on someone in recovery, that's telling them they don't need it?! You don't seem to have depression, clinical depression. ANYONE would be reacting like you do , to losing their s.o.... Some people eat more when they're sad, some people CANT eat because of sadness. It doesn't mean you have clinical depression OR anorexia. It just means you're GRIEVING ❤️😭❤️
I know that losing Lucas has been the only reason why my eating has been affected. It’s sad my therapist doesn’t see this. I did an evaluation at an eating disorder program and answered no to every question and they still tried to tell me I need intensive day treatment… it blows my mind. It almost feels like they are doing it just to fill spots or just for the money. It’s so upsetting. The fact that they can’t see that it’s because I’m grieving is unbelievable.
To me it sounds like they want you bill you for another intervention /therapist for an eating disorder and start you on a new medication which they love to push. Find new therapist, I know it’s hard once you have good relationship but you need to call them out.
I’m not sure if I have the confidence to call her out. My plan as of now is to not schedule any appointments with her. It annoys me the most when they try to convince you that you need to start a new medication which isn’t always the solution. It’s more as a crutch but so many medications give me negative side effects so I stay away from trying new meds.
I've said it before and I will say it again. Follow your gut. It's very hard to "read people" through a computer screen. The only senses you have are sight and sound. When you are face to face all your senses are working and if you have a "bad feeling" in your gut its not a coinsidence. Unfortunately the mental health field can literally just be a paycheck to some people. They go to school to read books and get certifications, but they are only telling you what they learned in a book. Her doing google searches on signs of an eating disorder after trying to cknvince you that you have one is very telling! I would suggest finding a support group of people that have been through a similar situation (loosing a significant other to od). Look at the amount of overdoses every year. You aren't alone in what you're going through Leah, just keep doing what feels right to you. Stand up for what you are feeling, this therapist is being paid to listen to you, please don't feel the need to satisfy her by going along with what she says because shes a therapist. Trust your instincts and your gut. And if you make a mistake thats okay, you get to learn from mistakes and try again! You will be ok.
Leah there are so many therapists out there. Please don't go to a freaking e.d. evaluation based on this womans Google search. If she gave you the ultimatum that if you didn't go to this evaluation she wouldn't work with you any more I think its time to move on. Especially it being the first time seeing her face to face. Take the things that she helped you with in the past year and use those tools. Its her job to keep you under her care, if you are no longer a patient thats one less check she gets. Just my opinion from my pov. Ultimately it's your descision to make, and as long as you're comfortable with your descision thats all that matters.❤ (I need to stop commenting before the end of the video😂. You got this! Keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward!) Gingerbread House to be continued...😁
I completely agree with you Brian. Especially about the therapist googling symptoms. Very very unprofessional. I think a support group for people going through grief would be a better idea too!💞
That was wild to me! Trying to convince Leah that she has an eating disorder then googles symptoms to back up her theory and refuse to have her as a patient unless she does this thing... All that made ME feel uncomfortable and I wasn't even there!
@@bri_guy508 I feel the same way. Perhaps it’s a way to capitalize more on her insurance. I sure wouldn’t trust it either. I can’t even imagine going to a therapist and then watching them Google something!! Wow! Just unbelievable!! I hope Leah can find a group that’s helpful. Thank you for your insight! Totally on point!
@@CMoore8539I don't know if you've ever seen a bill between a "healthcare professional" and the insurance company but it is INSANE how much money some of them charge. For example I had to take an ambulance 1.2 miles to a hospital once. Literally all they did was give me a ride, no medication administered, the emt took my pulse and blood pressure and by that time I was arriving at the hospital. My insurance was billed over $800 for services rendered. Its all one big scam.
And I will not get on any other meds. I don’t agree with doctors pushing their clients to take medications when they have stated they don’t want to. It’s really sad 😞
So I can relate to Your extreme pain You should go slowly about Your feelings n eat as much as You like were not hungry either its an emotion thats no one can evr diagnose its losing someone 😓
She is probably liable after the other deaths. I would go to the consultation, you seem really nervous about it. Get cleared and go back to therapy you appear to be avoiding it. This woman could potentially save your life. When she saw you the first time she was alarmed, Sorry for your loss, sometimes we are unaware of the things other see in us. You said you need to gain some weight, Your body needs all the support it can it’s unfortunate that we feel emotions in our stomach there’s actually a term for it. Try protein/smoothies too! Be safe and well 🙏🏼
to me it seems like the therapist is acting as a psychiatrist & that's not okay. maybe you could contact the office you go to & talk to them about this? i'm sorry your session didn't go as planned. it's not easy to advocate for yourself, let alone when you're going thru a hard time. i admire your strength leah 🩷
I was thinking the same thing when she started talking about medications. I have a doctor’s appointment today and will be explaining my situation. It can be so hard to stand up for myself at times especially when I’m out on the spot.
I think most therapist dont know what the hell their doing and just depend on medication to take care of things for them. If she dealt with ppl with eating disorders then why did she need to google signs of eating disorders?? That's just a huge red flag...iv had alot of friends who dated or married therapist and they all say they were extremely manipulative, crazy and toxic ppl...i dont trust therapist, i have NEVER had a good experience..most of them are nuts jobs that are just looking for their next paycheck ...i hope you find sumone that listens to you, your needs, your goals and helps you to build the road to get their and not just be a drug pusher, sorry you had to deal with this
When she started Goggling the symptoms, it threw me off and I agree. Red flag for sure. It’s such a bummer because we had a great connection. I think taking a break from therapy and seeking a support group may be better for me mentally and emotionally. Thanks for the support and insight ❤️
It is! I wish I was able to smoke. It’s gives me more anxiety than anything and makes me feel uncomfortable in my own body. It’s hard to explain. Thanks for the encouragement 💪💕
