as a daughter of a boy mom, i can tell you those daughters are definitely gonna resent their mothers in the future. my mom never cared or remembered anything about me, she took advantage of money i made as a teen, called me dramatic when sick or in pain BUT my 28yo brother still gets his dinner cooked and delivered to him at least 3x a week. if he needs extra money for rent because he blew his on expensive clothes and weed, she got him. if he gets sick, she cries and becomes a caretaker. the most recent thing was me getting a "thanks" while barely smiling when i handed her a birthday gift but greeting my empty handed brother at the door with a hug and kisses after screaming out in excitement.
@@brianawhittaker8152people dismiss things until it becomes so big that there’s an internet community for it….. then they bash that community as if no one told them sooner when it could have been stopped
This is PREVALENT in the Latino community as well and let me tell you its tiring tryna date men who expect you to be their mom/have mothers who hate you for being with their sons as if they're jealous
In the black community too. The daughters are expected to grow up so fast meanwhile their sons still living at home doing nothing with their lives. I live with my grandmother and she literally cripples my twin brother (we're 19)I'm pressured to do good in school, which of course I want to do but she just lets him sit around and play his video games. My brother is in community college, I'm proud of him obviously, but I just got accepted into my dream university and ik if I went to community college she would be so disappointed in me saying I can do better and probably use it against me and bring it up whenever she can. It's honestly so frustrating and I have so much pressure to exceed her expectations of me meanwhile my brother has nothing to worry about
Idc idc I side eye any mom who even uses the “boy mom” title. I almost never see regular normal moms of boys use that. There’s really no need for distinction of that, you’re simply a mom. What’s the obsession with making SURE ppl know it’s a boy, the context of the convo would let us know the gender if it was important.
i hear what you sayin, but i think you're misunderstanding the actual use of the title. what it means is that they're saying what gender they favor to raise. like how everyone gassed the Kobe Bryant thing when he said he's a "Girl Dad". he felt like taking care of and raising girls was what he favored or would favor more than raising a boy. a woman saying she's a "Boy Mom" is meant to be the same thing. they'd rather be a boy's mother than a girl's mother because they feel their nurturing capabilities are more fit towards the male gender. not really anything to side eye at, unless it's a specific person thats saying it and they're actively doing something strange regarding their children.
I know when I got married, I built a big emotional moat between myself and my mother. I escaped her. She was intensely jealous of my wife and couldn’t understand that she comes before her.
I heard a story that absolutely made me cringe once. I was online when I ran across this post. In it, the woman protected her "ex-friend" but also showed images of their convo, which went like this: The two were talking about being lonely. One woman stated how it was such a hard thing to deal with and that sometimes, she was willing to accept comfort from people she knew she shouldn't - just to feel something. Her friend agrees then confides in her that sometimes while she's sleeping with her son in the same bed, he will let his hands wander. She says that sometimes he touches her *cucuchi* and she just lets him. The other friend immediately stopped talking, didn't say anything and apparently screenshotted the whole conversation. And that's the story, now understand there are thousands of women out here doing the same kind of thing but flying under the radar. Especially the # of women teachers sleeping with 12 and 13 year old students. It's like every couple of months they are busted for it and it's usually SEVERAL members of the staff that are doing it.
And that’s why that one guy teacher went viral also.. people don’t really get how weird people are with their own children and with other people’s children. My cousin works in CPS and the stories she has everyday, CRYING has me keeping my daughter in my SIGHT AT ALL TIMES.
This is an interesting topic, there's a video on RU-vid where a girl got into a fight with her mans mom and the mom slipped and said "my man" instead of my son and the girlfriend called her on it. 😂😂😂 Yeah, I've seen this playout and it never ends well...
TikTok won't let me upload a picture of my daughter playing in the sprinkler in a swimsuit. So I know for damn sure they can flag that lady's videos of her daughter.
You shouldn’t want to (respectfully) there are ALOT of creeps.. I just saw a story on a TikTok stalking (little girl was being stalked by a grown man through TikTok and showed up at the parents house 5 years later) it’s sad it has to be this way but people keep your kids off social media until adults-more than just your friends and family is watching.
Funnily enough, a Thai actor held a press conference as to why him and his girlfriend broke up after a year 😑 His words were - he wasn't able to manage his relationship between his girlfriend and his mom that she was lonely. And it's not the first time either. I think he held the press conference because of how public he was about pursuing her, telling reporters he had a crush on her before they started dating etc.
Girl! I heard about this too, "Nine and Baifern", and if I remember correctly, they were together for much longer than a year. It actually blew my mind that a grown man had to "manage" the relationship between his mum and girlfriend... Crazy. PS: Dee's comment section is the very last place I'd have expected to see anything about Thai actors. What a small internet world 😂
A few years ago my mom wanted me to go to this Valentine’s Day dinner with her cause my dad was away at the time. I literally had a girlfriend at the time 😂
My grandma is a boy mom. She protected her son when he SAd me when I was 6. I don’t like her at all. Now that she’s old af her son treats her like shit and my mom takes care of her lol
Do you know how crazy it sounds to say the only reason you're teaching your son to cook, clean, or do laundry is to make sure he doesn't depend on his girlfriend or wife to do it for him as opposed to making him a productive self sufficient adult who can physically take care of himself like everyone else! So what these women are really saying is when they coddle their sons they do it to ensure their sons remain dependent on them to wash his clothes, clean up behind him, to cook his food so that he never leaves them! However, if he does happen to get into a relationship all of the coddling his mama did inadvertently turns him into a man who weaponizes incompetence when he's older because he expects his wife or girlfriend to basically do everything for him like his mommy used to do. So their basically raising their sons to be the type of men they complain about when they get older all because their trying to make their son their sonsband! Wow, these women literally raise their sons to become the men we complain about the most, like she literally turn him into that man for the next generation of women 🤦🏾♀️ that shits sad!!!
Gets worse when the son grows up and gets married and then they treat the wife awful.. gets even worse when the son doesnt stand their ground and place boundaries 14:42 i remember learnin abt that in psychology
I dont think ive ever heard any woman describing a hug with their son saying "time stood still" like the words from a romantic novels or movie....that actually made me very concerned 😟 27:57 Do you love me at all. I was dying laughing at this part
I get that moms prefer sons but a lot of fathers prefer their daughters. There’s a reason why it’s so common to say “Mommy’s boy” and “Daddy’s girl”. The opposite dynamic tends to work better than two of the same thread.
I’m glad to hear that some fathers actually want daughters, as long as it’s not in a weird way. It’s usually the opposite, especially when you see the gender reveal video of dads having girls.
Alot of these women be weird i swear, i went on pinterest because i wanna be a mom one day and i wanna make sure my kids are dressed well, so i was like ok I'll make a pinterest board about it, TELL ME WHY these little girls were dressed in bodycon dresses with mini bags or just wear clothes that made them look like the were grown women and most of them were like 5 or younger, so i gave up and went to look for boy outfits, SAME THING young boys 5 or younger dressed like grown men, unfortunately most of them were black and Spanish kids, i had to type in white or asian kids to get modest child appropriate clothes....some of yall dont deserve kids
Very weird behavior. I remember a bunch of moms who were so wrapped up in their kids lives, it was like their whole personality. I found that weird, bc my parents had their own lives. But this stuff is even weirder, and to me, it’s bc every generation that goes by, ppl grow up less and less. Twenty somethings still act like teenagers, etc. We don’t mature anymore, but still want to have kids, which is a problem. Not too long ago, ppl in their early twenties acted like mature adults. So, yes, they got married and had kids young, but at least they weren’t grown up babies, who still prioritized themselves.
@@MxsfxtOfficialright tryna make it less than what it is. But you see the comment she responded with. A lot of ppl make excuses for ppl they know. What a simpleton the OP is.
Parentification/Enmeshment/Emotional Incest/Covert Incest. I lived with a woman once that had two sons (one around 12/13, the other was in his early-mid 20's; I was also in my early 20's). She had a habit of calling us into the bathroom while she was bathing/undressing (I felt a little more indifferent about it since I am also female, but I still kept note of when I thought something was weird or inappropriate) to ask us a question or ask for a favor/task to be done. I never actually asked a direct question about it but one day she volunteered the explanation that she was getting her boys comfortable seeing her naked so that they wouldn’t "lose their mind when a girl that they like takes their clothes off in front of them". Umm.... She also took issue with me wanting to have the door closed when I went to take a shower (we were sharing the master bathroom, her sons shared the other one). She would say "you don't need to have this door closed the boys aren't gonna walk in on you" every single time. Now mind you she also had a philosophy to not ever have the door to her bedroom closed (you can see into the bathroom from the doorway at the right angle), and the shower door was completely transparent (you can see everything in the shower, not just the silhouette). There were so many other things but watching this unlocked a core memory lol.
I like Kiki Chanel page since she goes over topics that people don't really notice or ignore. I don't mind a boy being a mama's boy but the mother being obsessed with the son or it being the other way around is disturbing on so many levels. These boys when they get older they better see how weird how their moms were into them like a romantic partner than being an actual mom like their friends mom.
i think the people who live close to these people's areas should start calling CPS on them. Watch how the uploads decrease once there are consequences for their weird behavior, including extorting their own children.
Kyeluh has a great video on another case of a mother exploiting her daughter for men online, it's called "This mom influencer needs to be stopped NOW (Wren Eleanor)
6:42 This made search up a "Dee Shanell Singing Compilation." 😂 But somewhat surprisingly there wasn't one. Can someone get on that? I'd do it myself but I'm very low on free time atm. I shouldn't even be writing this comment, can't multi-task while watching a video if I stop to write a comment. 😅
Glad I have seen this, this is something that needs to be said so much... Here are some females saying the same thing I was saying when I posted about single moms and moms, in general, getting undressed in front of their boys. And so many got upset with me, like it should be okay to do. But they foolishly don't understand what it does to their son, from him being awkward around women, or him being overtly sexual towards them without wanting actual relationships with them. The strange thing is they know they won't get undressed in front of him if a man is in the room because they know the man would say something. This is creepy asf in itself because that means you know it's weird but do it when no one is around, which is the same thing those incest parents and abusers do. And to be fair, there are also toxic dads and toxic girl moms as well. We should be teaching these kids to learn to love and look for love instead of wanting to keep them to themselves. And as for you parents who openly say you love any of your children more than the others, you need help. It's okay to think it, but to let it be known openly, where your kid can see or hear it, is crazy. Where these new parents, from 1950-plus, are some of the strangest parents. You can see how so many don't actually know how to love their kids without being toxic or actually know how to help them when they need it. It's not just boy moms, though; because these girl moms are teaching their daughters to be "thots" and "ratchet" asf nowadays, too. This has to change, y'all. We are creating a world of spoiled adults who can't find actual love or even know what it looks like because they were taught poorly. Not saying that you can't have a bond with your kids/sons. I am saying that there's a line that should never be crossed and a line that should always be considered creepy, even if it doesn't cross into the extreme.
I actually remember the foot ball one from like a year ago or so I remember the reel and the women trying to justify it cause she loves her sons and likes scaring potential girlfriends away...
I definitely took a back seat when my son was born. I was spoiled like crazy but both my grandmas and my wife give my son the type of attention that’s over the top, as if he can do no wrong. Thank god I’m there to enforce some authority or lil bro would be out of control.
I’ve always had this stance that the one man a woman will love more than her father or husband is her son, like some mothers feel this connection like “he’s literally half of me so any love I give to him can’t be weird. It’s literally half of my genetics.” It’s like they see their son, not as his own person, but almost like a clone of the mother that happens to be a boy and may look like their husband which they are attracted to🤧 excuse my sloppy rant
The one where you think it was just a trend and probably wasn’t that serious I think it was mainly a problem because you can see the vitriol in the way these boy moms made the video’s against the girls. It’s more known that a woman does way more domestic labor in these relationships than men so there wasn’t any reason for the moms to be “teaching my son this so he won’t be impressed by your daughters frozen pizza” how likely is that scenario? It was more wholesome seeing the moms make the “teaching my sons how to do his laundry or clean up after himself so the burden won’t fall on your daughter” because that’s scenario is way more likely than the other the boy moms just wanted to have a moment to further push their dislike for their sons future partner under the guise of a ”trend”
There are many fathers that talk about their daughters in the way that mothers talk about their sons. Boy mom is not that different from Daddy's girl. It goes back to Sigmund Freud identifying the Oedipus Complex (growing men resent their fathers because of their loyalty/love to mother) and Electra Complex (growing women resent their mothers because of their loyalty/love to father). Very common in the teenage and young adult years. About as ancient as the study of development psychology and Oedipus Rex is an Ancient Greek tragedy so people have been noticing this for thousands of years now.
@@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime Dads can be very weird with their daughters. Chastity belts, purity rings, blessings for marriage, etc. Oedipus complex is more widely study and is older than the Electra complex, so that's probably why. It has been a research blindspot from the start. Social media distorts the prevalence of lots of things.
@@belladonnarose5671 There's nothing wrong with being the boy of a boy mom or the girl of a daddy's girl. Children aren't in the position to control their parents' infatuation/overprotectiveness over them. Everyone grows out of being treated like a child by their parents at some point. As long as you become an independent, competent, and stable adult at the other end, your parents did a good job!
@@pd-ou1tg facts i mean just look at TI's daughter and him going to get her hymen checked annually???!!! like it can't break on its own, fathers start micro managing their daughters vaginas because THEY were terrible men.
This last woman speaking kind of looks like Marjorie Taylor Greene and to be honest this does sound like something that Marjorie Taylor Greene would be sitting up talking about because she's just as weird as this woman on this video right now
31:06 Brian landry’s momma also said the same thing in the letter to him found by his unalived body. That women helped her son escape after he deleted his gf. She prob is the reason he was such a sick individual
I’m gonna have first son this year I have 2girls so yeah I’m glad I saw this but yeah I notice this to n I definitely said boy mom but only cause I’m excited to have a boy cause I have 2girls
The one where you think it was just a trend and probably wasn’t that serious. I think it was mainly a problem because you can see the vitriol in the way these boy moms made the video’s against the girls. It’s more known that a woman does way more domestic labor in these relationships than men so there wasn’t any reason for the moms to be “teaching my son this so he won’t be impressed by your daughters frozen pizza” how likely is that scenario? It was more wholesome seeing the moms make the “teaching my sons how to do his laundry or clean up after himself so the burden won’t fall on your daughter” because that’s scenario is way more likely than the other the boy moms who just wanted to have a moment to further push their dislike for their sons future partner under the guise of a ”trend”
24:01 this lady Kendal Rich that made that video has many problems of her own. She’s been making multiple videos about a mom whose daughter ended her own life and she’s making up stuff saying she is lying about the whole case and that she isn’t having enough sympathy. Kendal’s daughter Evie is doing the same. She’s just making people mad to gain views
I had a boyfriend who had many siblings but he opened up to me about how his mom used to go to his room late at night and touch him... like... down there... and stuff. No, she wasnt checking for ticks or whatever. She was molesting her own child who was only 6yrs old. He grew up with all sorts of mental issues and hated being around women or having women touch him. He was the sweetest boy but he had a lot of anger issues. He never hurt me in any way. He was wonderful with me. Sadly, he left me cause we just werent a good match but i still care about him. I cried for him when he told me. It was the most upsetting thing i ever heard. It broke my heart 💔
So with the butt slap thing that’s a bit iffy….. so when the father and mom have a open loving relationship where he slaps her butt in front of others like that the kids see it. My dad did this with my mom when I saw growing up and my brother and I both would do it when we wanted her attention. If she was cooking we’d slap her butt and say mom really loud. As we got older we personally didn’t like being touched or touching others so we stopped. But I know several people who kissing on the lips and such is normal and not in a weird way. Just like people who kiss dogs on the lips and I think it’s gross. That’s why this is so strange. Because there’s those actions walking the line that can be and are rationalized so people go over board talking themselves into thinking it’s not weird to let your 18yr old child (boy or girl) smack your butt.
the moms weird yes, but the ish got yall upset for different reasons you wont say, acting like you care about the sons... 18:40 what yall really care about
Truly Prevent is impossible cause it depends on the case by case person.Only thing that I can see make this less occurrent is if you somehow fix the toxic relationship culture so you’ll see less of them trying to manifest their dream guy in their sons since the daddy is there😭
If you notice the people judging the mother and son bond are never mothers or sons. I'm not justifying the weird behavior (like Bluface's mom 😂) but im just saying it maybe something you cant understand if you're not a mother or a son 🤷🏽♂️
We're daughters of boy moms and the partners of men who were raised by them. We know these situations raise entitled, abusive, toxic, enabling men. One of these moms admitted to letting her son PUNCH his sisters and excused it. You think that's going to change when he grows up an abuser and hurts his wife? This is an actual issue.