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perfect with that pfp 😂

that edgeworth pfp lmao

My dad's a doctor, so he definitely knew how to not make it show. First was the right place, upper thigh, spanks, and bop on the head. Second was the punishment: the worst is to sit on your knees(seiza) for a certain amount of time. 2 hours was my record

But I was 5 so the worst part of sitting on my knees is the boredom

i know he meant that his dad did it more to scare him rather than actually hurt him, but it's so funny how badly he phrased it lol

*Josh the manga lad

The "Anime" is not accurate anymore dude. For obvious reason.

I shaved today as well, got trolled by friends 💀😭

Joseph the aussie lad.

He should drop the anime and just be “The Man”

I think Connor was saying more so in the line of instilling fear of being punished into your kid, which doesn't necessarily require beating. Meanwhile Joey just kept destroying his dad's reputation

There was no hole being dug. Joey is absolutely right

If anything, Asian parenting is THE WAY to ensure your kid is disciplined. Being too lenient to your kids is detrimental towards their development, just look at how many entitled adults recording themselves ranting about the most minuscule of problem on tiktok and twitter.

@@varnix1006 it’s not really lenient parenting to blame for this, it’s absent parenting. They threw their kids on iPads and had Logan Paul, idubbz, Ricegum and leafy do the parenting for them. It’s not that they weren’t wailing their kids with paddles frequently enough, they just weren’t interacting with them in any meaningful way whatsoever.

The amount of parents who are probably going to borderline abuse their kids for the sake of discipline because they were taught by their own parents that it’s the only way to discipline your children is really scary to me. It’s just the easiest way to ensure your kid listens to you without having to actually build a healthy, respectful relationship, because you’re actually just building one on a foundation of fear that only really goes away when the kid grows apart from their parents

Age is getting him

​@@alondjecktoman's aging like wine

Monk calming Monki

The way he spoke about his parents, I can tell he had the best parenting done to him out of the three, and I'm honestly jealous he had such mature, calm parents.

I feel bad for Joey and Connor's kids. Typically you learn from your parents, not copy them. They seem to want to copy them.

which also means 'modern parenting' is also fallacy. Some kids need physical discipline to discipline them, some are not.

@muhammadsaduddin308 2 Maybe that's true but statistically it simply doesn't work for most children. How would you know if it works for yours? It usually teaches how to hide the bad behaviour so you might think it worked but in the reality you're just raising a good liar Statistically the children who get hit also tend to learn that violence is a good way of solving conflicts

​@@muhammadsaduddin308this 👏👏👏

@@muhammadsaduddin308"Modern parenting" is more versatile though and has next to no issues for the average child while physical discipline fails to properly work on most children and almost always comes with some kind of traumatic stress. The problem lies in finding out what your child needs and modern parenting is a great start to find out what your child needs. What many people don't know is that physical discipline (light forms of it) is part of modern parenting as well

Ye but I am concerned given his adhd (bc I experienced the exact same thing) that the "disappointment/did you try your hardest" thing could be a trauma bc with undiagnosed adhd during childhood there's functionally no scenario where you get to feel like you "tried your hardest". The condition works in such a way that you just about have to procrastinate bc the effort to get up and work (even if you have great parents and are motivated by them) is just more than for most other kids, to the point where you yourself feel that it's your fault even though it's physiologically not. And yeah grindset and all that but what he describes as the fear of disappointing them and being dissatisfied with himself to me looks like it could be the internalized understanding that his brain makes him "less than" or that he's not good enough. But I ain't one of those parasocial people or anything 😂

@@Caleb-zl4wk also many people with adhd have rejection sensitivity dysphoria

Yes, the part implying/supporting bringing back spanking was a bit much. Glad Mudan (with his fact check) and Garnt with his monk energy rectified the situation a bit and switched the topic to more balanced discipline strategies instead. You can clown about anime and bread, but about violence, this is a bit preoccupying.

​@@ShadowSolariscomments like these kill honesty tho, they shared their sincere thoughts based on their own experience, you can discuss the efficiency of these methods bht Idk it's right to say they are too much. That's the reality for many children

​@@hanuka3292 they straight up said "please beat your children" thats not experience

For real at this point sit before the building ask the city if you can rent a small area in the street for few hours and it should not costal you more than 10K! Like bro in some countries you could buy land and build a big house for less than 100k $. (Not possible in France where I live, but in Senegal the country of my parents you totally could).

​@@ousou78Hi fellow french, glad to see some of us watching this dispite the trash taste boys hating us for some reasons

@@mrswag2866 We are everywhere ! Après rien de neuf, le French bashing a toujours existé chez les anglo-saxons 😁

@@mrswag2866 What do you mean "for some reason"? Two thirds of the main faces of this show are British, that's one of their national pass-times, I don't know if they could operate without ribbing the French at every opportunity. Try not to hold it against them too much, that particular bit of those islands is very skilled at spite, and you're their neighbors.

@@YourWaywardDestiny Still, makes me sad. Especially as someone from Brittany, we're pretty much the same thing. Lots of rain, crippling alcoolism, pubs and bars everywhere, and angry at things for no real reasons except boredom (our food's better tho)

Tbf it sounds like his white dad was the disciplinarian in that household.

it's kind of worrying. I mean yeah, he is doing fine financially, and overall well in life. But what he told how his dad treated him, kind of reminds me of my dad and I am an indian. The boys did talk about when they realized their parents were human but Indians and most south asians don't even realize sometimes all of their lives. They just think forever their parents are gods and obey them to their deathbed. Of course, there are cultural, societal, psychological and so many other reasons that they think this way but it doesn't work in making their mental health any better and they just pass on these toxic traits to their children without any awareness. Their children suffer like crazy when they realize that they did not have a normal childhood and it takes a lot of work and pushback from your peers and friends to be a little more individualistic and choose a life for yourself.

@@jatinchanchlani8982 That's you probably projecting. Though I'm sorry you had to experience that. I grew up with similar parenting. Joey seems cool with his dad though, they seem close from what we've seen in his videos with him. Overall, I think Joey just grew up very sheltered in Australia, with strict but supportive parents. They seem cool with him being a youtuber. I can't imagine my parents doing the same.

​@@jatinchanchlani8982sounds like you just have super traditional parents or somth cos I know very few Indians with super strict parents outside of India especially now that there are 3rd generation kids being born

@@jatinchanchlani8982 well, his dad wasn't like a super threatening trauma-inducing force or anything from what i can tell with what joey said in this video and from what we've both seen and heard from their interactions. it just seems more like his dad was just strict enough to make sure his kids don't turn out a fool when they grow up. like the thing where his dad would push him with his fist reminded me of this thing my dad did sometimes where he would push our (me and my sister's) forehead with his finger tips for basically the same effect where you would feel the force but no pain.

Penguin0 already talked about it

yeah because i don't know anything about these streamers/youtubers

i love and watch trash taste. but you're overestimating their reach. there's still a large part of the world who don't even know the boys exist.

Honestly I'm embarrassed to go to Japan because of stupid and rude foreigners.

Asmongold also covers it, but its more meaningful for trash taste since as you said they are based in Japan. And chris vid on the topic was great as well

He looks great

also i love how the first thing he say is "i was a suck"

and did your dad beat you

i know i was gonna say the same

Oh that's why he looks so different. I knew something was off lol.

Exactly spot on with the comment.

It’s honestly a genuinely poetic insult and completely apt.

straight up LTG level of insult lmao

@@badnarrator62instantly thought of LTG when I heard him going off

@@badnarrator62LowTierDawg

I read this comment at the moment he said that.. so weird

Wait, how is that connected exactly?

@@redjux04I think cos isekai allows the mc who usually didnt reach their potential to have another chance to reach it

His parents literally raised a protagonist.

@@Salman-xw8cp oh yeah that makes a lot of sense thanks dude

to his wife's son

​@@22I22uh yeah obviously he's going to be a great dad to their kid

@@22I22 not the NTR 😭😭

Time

Yeah I was just afraid of everything as a child because anything could get you a beating. Only staying in my room and quietly reading was free from punishment. It affected my entire life negatively. I refuse to do that to my kid.

I once without really thinking, told my kids how my mom wouldn't allow my toys anywhere in the house except my room and they said "that's really sad mom". I never realized how bad it felt to not be able to do anything in my own home except play in my room- until my kids said that. I find legos inside my shoes sometimes, sure it can be annoying if im in a rush but man does it feel nice to know my kids are living happy!

Truly on Garnt. It's interesting to me also how so many come away from being parented like that and are good with it. I can only imagine it was because as kids they felt they deserved it because they truly were just being little assholes, and their parents at least were decent role models otherwise. But for me, while my dad would often lay down the law and sometimes make physical threats, none of his disciplinary methods actually did anything for me because I was already a well-behaved kid. I realized early on that he himself lacked discipline, doing things like getting drunk and making us stay out late when I needed to go home since I had school the next day. His use of fear was often just so that he could get things *his* way as the man of the house. So while he used fear to control, as an adult now I have very little respect for him beyond appreciating his past monetary contributions. I have no desires to communicate with him further, which my mother sometimes says depresses him (I'm not the only child who feels similarly). Sadly, you make your bed, you lie in it.

@@mcd08idk that rule seems nice to me, in this case you won’t lose your toys and your parents don’t have to clean up your toys after you

​@@vindifferencesame here, except he contributed with a few DYI things instead of money. I now treat him like a stranger and mom told me he blames her for turning me against him.

The unsung hero of this episode

I also saw a vid of someone screaming about beating their wife when they misbehave or disrespect him and the twist at the end was when he said “that’s what yall sound like justifying beating children”

I'm glad he put that card up

@@DG-gx8pn There is a huge difference between those 2 scenarios. One involves 2 adults who should know better. The other involves kids who behave badly because they don't know better. If one goes unpunished, the consequences are bigger. All adults should know how to act when..., well, they become adults! Also, when people say beating a kid, they do not mean beating them to a pulp. That is just making a bad faith argument. It is about spanking. I cannot believe I have to explain that LOL.

@@elvisvasquez7553 Any sort of physical punishment towards a child is abuse, it doesn't matter if you're beating them black and blue or giving them a spanking. Abuse is abuse, period. (not saying one isn't clearly worse than the other, but the point I'm making is if you have to lay your hand on your child and cause them physical pain intentionally, then you are being abusive whether you mean it or not)

@@elvisvasquez7553 To clarify I am pretty neutral on this topic but this “they do/don’t know better” argument is kinda a bad one. So you would hit someone who doesn’t know better instead of verbally communicating with them? I don’t think potentially marring innocence with physical contact when you could easily use your brain and communicate is the better option tbh. And there’s good a bad people who have been beat as kids so it’s not a 100% foolproof thing to do. Bad argument imo

I'm pretty sure they're going to be charged as adults. We thankfully do have that in the U.S. when the crime is heinous enough and this most certainly applies.

Yes under Nevada law, criminals 13 or older can be charged as adults for murder/attempted murder - however the max penalty is 20 years in jail instead of the death penalty, which Nevada still has.

This definitely has to do with the message social media is driving into the youth and rather than a lack of beating more so a lack of parenting as a whole I am almost certain those kids rarely get to see both parents in the same room

Nobody deserves to be wrongfully imprisoned. No matter what Jail should not be used out of malice.

@@arthurramirez5665 this is not talking about the guys in Japan this is in reference to a different story about the kids who filmed themselves doing hit n runs resulting in a death. But also they aren’t being wrongfully imprisoned they committed the crimes and EXPECTED to get off easy

the ads mid podcast are killing me

Same

​@@jacknguyen2780I know right

@@jacknguyen2780True

@@jacknguyen2780 why they put so many sane repetitive ads through the whole episode every time on Spotify?

he is a drama queen.

@@MrNajibrazakoff course Being upset about having foreign youtubers trashing your riputation as a whole in a country where they start saying the most racist shit when a foreign does stupid stuff is unjustifiable. I bet you're a fиcking American who never left his hometown

Though I get the idea of Connor and others to administer laws which makes perfect sense which is not discriminatory and filled with prejudices but they should not forget that foreigners must follow and respect the local laws. The Japanese local law is ideally made while keeping Japanese culture and Japanese people in mind. So foreigners should not bring in their unnecessary foreign values which may jeopardize the local culture. If a foreigner doesn't like it they should not visit and live in Japan.

Yeah if I spent years cleaning my house then out of nowhere some big idiot shit all over it I'll be fucking pissed too Foreigner gonna have real bad reputation after this fiasco I imagine.

@@pimplejuice Respecting culture and history is not the same as curating a passive view of a first and second class based on arbitrary things that can not be changed.

the thing is by today standard what consequences can be consider not a punishment ?

Uh I mean punishment is literally just a human thing. It's where shame comes from, we have to enforce laws of social cohesion and punish antisocial behaviour (meaning abrasive behaviour, not when one is being shy or whatever) or things get very tricky. But physical punishment and anything non physical that rises to the level of abuse is not okay.

yep totally agree. Also Joey made a great point that punishment/discipline doesnt need to ever happen as long as the fear of discipline is instilled

Punishing children is exactly how human learns, they learn not to touch fire because it is punished by being burn. Pain is the greatest educator of humanity in our entire history.

@@nurzaim6365 Jesus christ, I hope you never have children.

I'm so sorry you went through that.

Ya, I didn not like their take on this at all. You can discipline a kid without using violence and fear ffs

Agreed. I'm sorry this ever happened to you. The thing with most people is that they want kids to automatically start acting like adults, and so they punish children for being children. You can teach a child what's right from wrong without ever having to lay a hand on them.

I remember when my stepdad hit me the same way Joey’s dad apparently did. Not enough to leave a bruise but you could still feel the force. And idk, maybe Joey was used to it, and all the good moments he had outweighs any negatives, but for me that still hurt emotionally because I never expected it and it was just upsetting that my stepdad would get angry enough to hit me at all, even if it was lightly. I’m sorry what you went through though.

I don't know how I feel- I want to hope you're joking so this didn't happen to you but it would mean you're making up such a serious story. At the same time, I don't want to think that this happened to you, but I think it did and I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Not hard when you're the only one going "uhh, don't hit your kids" and the other 2 are going "beat them more!"

The perfect comment doesn’t exi-

Kudos to diy’ers lol there’s his sign to do it!

Lol Lil bro virtue signalling as if Amazon is some moral paragon of a company. Either you’re 12 or just dumb imagine running defence for a multi billion dollar company

Let's not pretend Kick is the only vile streaming site. There's always an evil in the way any of them handle anything either for funding, human rights violations of parent companies, sheltering criminals, or making things a nightmare for content creators.

eh, it has happened on all social media sites - drama is the best way to drive clicks and pretty much all governments around the world at the moment are trying to grapple with the impact it has had on society. IMO legislation needs to be made which punishes social media sites for driving this type of content

​@@luvhair255But to be on national news and trending negatively on twitter on months consecutive? Only Kick streamers are doing it

​@@luvhair255I don't get this type of response. It's like someone saying, "cancer is a horrible disease" and then replying to that person with "let's not pretend cancer is the only disease that can kill people". Like yes, thank you for the perspective shift, but that doesn't change the fact that cancer is still a horrible disease. So yes, it's technically true that Kick isn't the only problematic social media site, but it's the only one that actively promotes and condones problematic content. The whole point Kick was trying to promote is that it's less strict than other streaming sites like twitch, when it comes to the content they host, which includes gambling. Not to mention they openly sign content creators that already got banned from other sites due to already problematic behavior on their previous site. Heck, the face of their platform is Adin Ross and xQc, I feel like that alone is a red flag.

Yeah. I mean, I think if you raise your kids right they shouldn't *want* to run people over. Even if they don't have to worry about consequences.

Come back to us after your kids step over your head and become absolute cunts in society just because you don't wanna discipline them.

good job dude, very respectable

Same lol

Mee too man

Which jobs do you all have? 😄

​@@natalian.1320office desk jobs can be a lot of sitting around. Most of the time you could get the work done in a few hours but they insist on you filling the whole day

@@natalian.1320 draftsman (architectural stuff) 😁

Were you in the kind of environment where you had to take care of your parents/be the responsible one?

@@screamtheteam12345 I was the youngest, and only son. I was raise somewhat strict and had to be the responsible one. That being said I didnt have to take care of others. To sum up childhood one thing my mother said on my 10th birthday still sticks with me. "You're 10 years old. You're not a kid anymore. Act like it".

Emotional neglect....

I could go on a whole rant about this but I agree, never special to me and lately I pray for whatever kids out there have the same kind of family cause fucking dammit I know other people do not have the mental fortitude for this shit.

Real

That story combination just feels terrifying. Just imagining Suppenkasper but the soup itself has some horror element in it like it being a yokai or something, *shivers*.

@@ssjrana7342some junji ito shit 😂

I guess joey is staying on the bridge tonight.

It's just a Freudian Slip

I think he meant “country in Asia” so he said it wrong but that is what he meant. Because after that he went on to name some Asian countries as examples

That sounds like it was a bit more than just spanking to me.

@@bandohjfusion4885 This might be a little TMI, but I think I needed to clarify, because OoPs. That can be interpreted as pretty baaad! *TL;DR:* No, it was just spanking. My parents tried it, it failed, and I had weird thoughts about it. *The Long AF version:* The weird thing is, it _was_ just spanks. The reason I didn't trust afterwards was not because of _that kind_ of child abuse. Both my parents have experiences with SA, and my father taught me to kick adults in the crotch if they tried to harm me. I don't think either of them would have done anything like that, and I have no memories that would imply they did. I'm trying to think of why I was particularly perturbed. I think it just pissed me off, because I've always gotten angry after I get a little hurt. So them using that as a discipline made me think less of them?? I guess??? Which is hypocritical, because _I_ used pinches to get my classmates to behave, even if it was an arrangement we agreed upon beforehand. And I don't know where I came up with that, because my parents almost never used physical punishment on me. I literally only remember getting spanked once. Maybe that was enough for my brain to use controlled violence as discipline. And I overall just didn't like family touching my torso and lips. I was aware of that stuff from a pretty young age (asked how babies were made at 4, had a swimming class, and barbies), so it was kinda like if your parents spanked you as a teenager. It's not the pain that bothers you, but the humiliation and weirdness, because _that stuff_ is uncontrollably haunting your brain. I hated if a kiss on the cheek nearly got too close to lips, because incest is a very gross concept. I think that must've been it. My brain really didn't want to accidentally get anywhere near incest. ...Maybe it was because my parents told me our dog might've been sired by her half-brother, and I was really skeeved out by that. That must've been when I learned about incest. Sorry this is so, so long, I just want to make it clear, I'm not a victim of _that,_ and I was literally trying to figure out why I was so weird about it as I was typing. No need to worry about me.

Jeezuz fucking christ, I wrote a goddamn essay.

​@@bluelfsumasimply (and not that simply) a child's mind is very malleable. One slip up leads to events, behaviours, phrases, reactions being imprinted on them. I have VERY vivid memories of impactful stuff my parents did, the firsts of ALL the shit that changed my view of them and I bet you do too. They do not think much of it and yet it almost irredeemably shifts the dynamics in the family. They accept it as the new norm and do not realise that it is very easy to slip into a spiral of negativity by following this path. The only thing I'm grateful for is that they showed me how it works and I'm grateful that I had the presence of mind and the maturity of understanding it. But that's besides the point cause it'll lead to more wall texts 😂

Neither does Garnt lol

Worst episode yet

Soo true

You get beat in your childhood and when you become a parent you think "I don't want my kids to go through that" so you don't beat your kids for anything. Then those kids grow up into assholes who either get beat up till they die or end up in jail, or beat their own children because they never got beat.

It doesnt help that certain people are lowering punishments for certain crimes and certain demographics in certain places

@@jsi1091 I am convinced and will change my beliefs and opinions. Thank you.

​@@jsi1091then you are part of the problem

@@silbury2325 i think you skipped a big part about kids growing up into assholes? how does that happen, and does that really have any sort of correlation between not getting physically punished as a kid and growing up into good for nothing assholes?

"partner in highschool" 💀

Sorry to hear that. Hope you got the help you needed. :>

​@@whitygooseoh my god what is it with you people. You know what they meant.

​@@whitygooseDo you... think high schoolers don't date? Or do you think high schoolers are incapable of being abusive assholes? Because I kind of thought both of those things were well known phenomenons

Grow up@@whitygoose

It would be crazy to see Joey's Dad as a guest

Yea it's really important that they do prosecute him this time although most crimes committed by foreigners in Japan were hardly charged as a crime. Bad news is only their arrests make news but most of them get released right away and media don't even cover nor the police don't even disclose the reason why they weren't prosecuted. Even some Kurds stabbing each other (between two big families) and 100 Kurds flocked together at hospital at night and riot police were dispatched, seven guys were arrested, yet none of them were prosecuted and let out free. But this time it got so much attention by general public and important for the future consequences, so they will try to prosecute or probably make another arrest

Except that punishment has basically no effect on deterrence.

Not that I disagree with you, but you never gonna get any of that in a capitalist society

Agreed. What kids need is clear communication. They need to be taught that actions have consequences, yes, but hitting them is never the answer. If anything, that will only either make them more reluctant to be honest with their parents, or make them even more rebellious.

As someone that works in public transport, i firmly believe there is an epidemic of bad behavior going on. People (usually aged between 14 - early 20s) have 0 respect for the rules and my colleagues, the moment they get caught breaking the rules they get verbally and sometimes physically abusive. And these aren't rare occurrences, this happens to me and my colleagues multiple times a day. It was never this bad until a few years ago.

I was with you until the last paragraph, I feel like every time I leave the house I nearly get run over by someone

Have you ever heard of 'Mean World Syndrome'? It's an effect where people think the world is more dangerous than it it due to frequent exposure to disturbing stories in the media. The level of media we consume these days is astounding. They say that the average person in 1987 consumed about 42 newspapers worth of information, by 2007, the number had risen to 127 newspapers worth; more than ten years on I can only surmise that that number has risen. Among all this information, negative information rises to the top. Negative stories get more exposure, because people are evolved to always stay on guard for any threats to themselves or their communities. One effect of Mean World Syndrome is the rise of overprotective parenting, ( particularly in the 90s as sensationalist media and tabloids rose, thanks to Ronald Reagan deregulating the media in various ways) as parents were inundated with stories of kidnappers and pedophiles, seemingly ever increasing, even though, statistically, such crimes were on the decrease. Overprotective parenting, far from keeping kids safe, can make their lives worse and make it harder for them to deal with adult life, and even lead to or exacerbate certain mental health issues. There is a book I read (Stolen Focus b Johann Harri), that went into this quite well. He was focused on the effect that overprotective parenting and a lack of unsupervised play may have on children's attention spans, but I believe you can extrapolate it to other areas in life. "What skills are kids learning there, as they play freely with each other? For starters, if you're a kid and you're on your own with other kids, 'You figure out how to make something happen,' Lenore says. You must use your creativity to create a game. You must then convince other children that your game is the best to play. Then 'you figure out how to read people enough so that the game keeps going.'. You have to learn to negotiate when it's your turn and when it's their turn-- so you have to learn about other people's needs and desires, and how to meet them. You learn how to cope with being disappointed, or frustrated. You learn all this 'through being excluded, through coming up with a new game, through getting lost, through climbing the tree, and then somebody says, "Climb higher!" and you can't decide if you will or you won't. Then you do, an it's exhillirating, and then you climb a little higher the next time-- or you climb a little higher and it's so scary that you cry... And yet: now you're on top. These are all crucial forms of attention." "One of Lenore's intellectual mentors, Dr Isabel Behncke, told me that the scientific evidence so far says that 'there are three main areas of child development where free-play has a major impact.'" "'One is creativity and imagination--it is how you learn to think about problems and solve them. The second is 'social bonds'--its how you learn to interact with other people and socialize. And the third is 'aliveness' it's how you learn to experience joy and pleasure. What is learned during play is not a trivial add-on to becoming a functioning human being, it is the core of it. To be a person who can pay attention fully, you need a base of free-play." "But suddenly we have been taking this out of kid's lives. Today when kids do get to play, it is mainly under adult supervision, who set rules and tell them what to do. On Lenore's street when she was a kid, everyone played softball and policed the rules themselves. Today, they go to organized activities where adults intervene all the time and to tell them what the rules are. Free play has turned into supervised play, and so-- like processed food--has been drained of most of its value." "This means that now, as a kid, Lenore said, 'you're not getting that chance to develop these skills--because you're in a car being driven to a game where somebody tells you what position you're playing, and when to catch the ball, and when it's your time to hit, and who's bringing the snack, and you can't bring grapes because they have to be cut into quarters and it's your mom's job to do that... That's a very different childhood, because you haven't experienced the give-and-take of life that's going to prepare you for adulthood.' As a result, kids are not having the problems and exhilaration of getting there on their own. One day, Barbara Sarnecka, an associate professor of cognitive sciences at the University of California, told Lenore that today 'adults are saying: 'Here's the environment. I've already mapped it. Stop exploring" But that's the opposite of what childhood is.'"

This is so true. I have a friend whose dad was an absentee father, used to do a lot of drugs, then come home and yell. One time even threw my friend's guitar to the ground. My friend hated his dad and said he would be different when he has kids. Now he's grown up, and just like Joey he thinks his father was right for hitting him, thinks it made him turn out a proper man. He also smokes copious amounts of weed and cigarettes. And the last time we talked about parenting, my friend said his would-be wife would do all the parenting and he wouldn't' waste his life on his kids. Massively disappointing development, he's becoming like his father and his kids will see a repeat of the cycle. People like him or Joey don't even realize the trauma, they've internally normalized it and think none of this is fucked up. They say they turned out okay and it's not trauma, but then they beat their kids too.

The fact that Joey and dozens of people raised like him turned out great proves that its a good parenting method. It gets the child to think, be responsible and be matured.

​@@greyfox4838Your friend's dad was abusive and irresponsible, Joey's dad disciplined him responsibly. They are not the same.

😭PLS seriously though my mum would hit me because she didn’t know I was autistic and was just overwhelmed but it just made me more on edge and I became more aggressive and defensive to protect myself from adults so it didn’t help at all