They say, "Why Do Filipinas Lie?" 

I've always been known as a "Brutally Honest person". Most of my enemies in life even say so. It's Not an easy path but one I would Never trade in. It's not that I never lie as I can get an academy award when I do. But i reserve those joyous times for when I do romantic gestures, pranks and surprises. It's so rewarding :)

If a girlfriend, spouse, or close friend lies to me, we're done. It's easy - tell the truth. If you have to lie we're not as close as I thought we were. That's not a perspective - that's straight from the Bible. If you don't believe it, that's on you.

Speaking as someone who used to be a habitual liar, I can say that the damage a lie does is far more damage when the lie is discovered versus the truth. Telling the truth can be painful however it is liberating. All lying erodes trust. It would be painful to know that your spouse or partner doesn't trust you enough to tell the truth. If there is fear of telling the truth, there is some emotional damage from the past that needs to be dealt with.

It is possible to be truthful without being hurtful. I love these videos. Makes me laugh to think of western women when they refer to Filipinas as being less educated. Obviously they are not watching your videos Shay! Everyone of these ladies are wonderfully intelligent and philosophical. Capable of meaningful dialogue. Thank you.

Lying to hide your mistakes will just destroy your own personality. You’ll never try to improve yourself if you’re always get away by lying. If you ever wonder why filipinos don’t trust each other, this is the answer. Society too gets destroyed by this behavior.

This looks intriguing. I wouldn't be able to watch the premier sadly, but I'll look forward to watching just as soon as I can.

Very in depth, you took that topic serious... Well done my lady.

Such profound thoughts on this subject, which really has not been covered in a blog before. I really liked the other ladies thoughts on this topic. This was just one of the best videos I've seen. Thank you so much for covering this subject.

Shay: It is fantastic that you cover this topic with such grace and respect. This doesn't give people a reason to lie, but gives them the understanding that reasons people actually do tell un truths, and why. Your videos are fantastically edited, planned out, and articulated for the audience to understand and enjoy. Keep up the fantastic work! You are doing a wonderful job on your channel.

This is a beautiful video again in your own style! You two really have a unique way of telling a story, and we are so lucky to be able to see your creations while the channel is growing. Keep experimenting and using your gifts! We appreciate everything you are doing! Soon you will be too big to answer our comments, so we are lucky to be here in the beginning! Thank you LWS!

Outstanding video. As humans, we are flawed. This video discusses one of our flaws in a very thoughtful manner. Consider this ... as a 77 year old foreigner, I learned a great deal from these Filipina ladies.

I would rather raw honesty over any kind of lies. If your willing to lie about any small issue that proves to me you will definitely lie about bigger issue.

Perfect love casts out all fear. And the two shall BECOME one flesh. Both of these run counter to lying.

Thank you for putting together this video. A couple of suggestions that i have found helpful: - Do not use the truth to hurt someone. The sweet truth is enough. - To speak the truth does not mean we need to say everything we know on a subject.

I don't like to lie bcuz it almost always brings more lies to cover up your original lie. It can turn into a snowball effect. Lie after lie.

It’s not wise to lie, especially about children. I consider that a character flaw. It also screams desperation. I would leave once I found out she was hiding her children.

Sent this to my Filipina to let her know that I want to give her the freedom to talk openly without judgement.

shout out to ismi as she clearly understands the problem but seems to be above the fray in terms of deeming this behavior as acceptable.

Ladies, I am a western man, I have been lied to all my life and I detest it. I personally try very had not to lie, if forced into a corner I prefer to stay nothing. If someone does something I don’t like and when I ask them and they tell the truth I maybe angry for a little while but I will try to understand and move on. But if I’m lied to and find out (which I will) I will be very upset and may or may not get over it and it will take something away from the relationship. If you lie to me about the little things how could I possibly trust you about the really important things? Little lies build up more and more until they are unsurmountable and destroy everything. I can only speak for western men, but we have learned by cruel example to look for and be very wary of little lies and this force us to look for the big one’s even if they not there. We are men, if we are doing something wrong or embarrassing tell us, we will try to fix it, we want to please and protect you, to make you feel happy and safe. If you don’t we will just blunder on. If I were in a relationship, a Filipino lady, and she constantly lied to me about little things, it would put the immense strain our relationship.

What a great video and an eye-opening topic, thank you so much for sharing. 🙂👍👍👍🙏

Great job Shay and others. I liked the part about how simple to tell the truth and how difficult to architect a lie initially. There is also the stress of living with ourselves knowing we have not told the truth and what if someone finds out. I also believe that one little lie can lead to more to cover the initial one. Harboring lies opens us up to unhealthy opinions of ourselves, low self-esteem, or even worse to self-harming actions like addictions. It is so freeing not to have to worry someone will find out our secret. 🙂

I have to admit to telling white lies so I don’t hurt others with my opinions, or to hiding saying things that might trigger others. I actually am a very pointed and blunt person, telling my honest opinion. My wish is to tell the honest feelings I have and my interactions with others telling me their honest feelings in return. Honesty is the best policy which builds the foundations of trust and a deeper level of connection on a private level. Hope my comments help others understand better how to help others to understand how to know them on a deeper level. Best always, Steven

There is a difference between a lIe and a LIE. "Does this dress make me look fat?" Versus "are you cheating on me". One the answer may necessitate a lie to prevent hurt feelings. The other is unforgivable. If guilty of something then own up to it.

Each of you has an insight into the complications of lies. It it challengeing to ALWAYS be truthfull. Situational ethics can come into play. Example: If you knew that someone was going to harm your child, would you tell them where the child is if they asked you? 100% NO Peace & Love to all of the beautiful ladies!😊

I have been visiting the Philippines since 2003. In that time I have learned that sometimes it is beneficial to think about what you say instead of just blurting it out like we do in the US. There is a sensitivity in a Filipina that you will not find in most women in the West. It can be hard. But, never, never raise your voice and show blatant anger to a Filipina because she will never ever forget what just took place. Honesty is a good policy. However, if you want honesty then you need trust that being honest with your friend or partner will not end the relationship. Otherwise, they will say nothing or cover up their feelings.

I do think there is a difference between lying/being dishonest, and being discreet.

Lying and cheating goes hand in hand.lying has destroy families and friends.there’s no justifying that bad habit

Honesty is the best policy. People can have a difference of opinion. That is OK and normal. There is no excuse to lie.

This video contributed to a sad start to the day for me, my wife told me once..." telling the truth does not make what you did ok"

Aloha Shay, Great video. A little lie ( Not to hurt someone) I think is ok. Like Mary I've said I'm fine when I wasn't. That was not to worry anyone. I'm used to dealing with it myself....God bless 🫰

Hi Shay. I very much enjoyed this long awaited video on a subject that is very complicated. For me, so many lies are rooted in fear, which in turn, are often rooted in insecurity. Personally, it was a major factor in the break up of my relationship with a filipina here in Canada. I just could not wrap my head around the thought of her not being able to trust me enough to be honest with me. In short, I took it as an insult to my character. I look forward to your next video, as always. They are always so well done and thoughtful. Take care.

Shay great video on a TRUTH that we all have had to face about ourselves

Nice concept, Shay -- colabbing with all these Filipina vloggers. How do you ladies feel when you are lied to?

If you lie? Trust is gone.

As men and women are getting t0 know each other a man must let the women know and feel Comfortable talking to him and being Honest as the man must feel the same way that's what we as men and women must Achieve ❤😊

A quick observation: How can pinays expect to find someone who will respect them and be trustworthy when they themselves can not raise to that level? Liars never respect the people they lie to. Lie to me and I'll ghost you. Liars are not even worth a reply. Liars are responsible for putting that anchor around their neck. Their excuses are just more lies. Honest people have no use for liars. "Thou shall not bear false witness."

I want a partner to be honest and upfront in a relationship it's better to to be honest if you lie it has to be covered up by another lie before you know it you can't get out of lying. So please be honest your partner if truly a real partner shouldn't get upset at all and you both be able to work it out. So please don't lie okay Truth will set you free remember that

Truly exceptional vid Shay. Love the way the ladies being genuinely honest that they do or have lied. It diffinately take a better person to admit, then not too. Maybe as we all know, sometimes its is the easy way out. Though through commitment, trust, repect, loyalty and love, we can build foundations to feel we dont have to lie, especially to keep our partners, parent and or friend at ease. Your circle of friends, the ladies are beautiful, intelligent and i see that throughout your vids. Great work Shay Cheers 😊❤😉

Lying to spare the feelings of others is not a bad thing. Sometimes we all have to do that. But trying to be more honest is a worthwhile goal. Terrific video Shay...have a great weekend 🌷

I’m going to the Philippines next year hoping to find a partner but now I’m beginning to think that I’m better off not going.Through a traumatic childhood experience I’ve always had a problem telling a lie,I’ve been told that I’m too honest but that’s how I am,it’s always less stressful for me to tell the truth.Now if someone tells me the simplest of lies, I will never fully believe or trust them again because I know that if they can tell me one lie then the next lies become easier. All the lies that they tell is probably why so many people have trust issues because they think that their partner is doing it to them too.From experience,the hardest people to accept the truth is the person who is always lying and doesn’t know how to tell the truth. Thanks for the advice and information

This is inexcusable. These are individuals not to be trusted.

Sometimes you lie to keep from hurting someone's feelings. I've done that a few times. Sometimes I don't have the heart to be honest and hurt someone

Well done Shay!❤

Lying is not good. It's better to hurt people with the truth, than to make them feel good with lies. We should also confess that we have lied, and forgive those who lied about us an to us. We should let God work through us everyday of our lives. We should strive to be gracious, mercyful, forgiving, meek, and compassionate.

Not mater how damaging the truth is. It still has to be sail. And a person can only lose his or her credibility once. Furthermore you can never get it back.

There is a saying about marriage if you do it right the first time you won't have to do it again ,lying to each other is the most detrimental thing that destroys a relationship,small white lies grow into large black ones in time

An older man I knew would always answer the same when people would see him and ask how he's doing. "No Complaints" he would say.

Great video and very well produced as always. But can we believe it? 😂 For the most part I never lie (occasional exception: “no, you don’t look fat in that dress baby”) because then I never have to remember what I’ve said … it’s always the truth.

Wow this was a great heart felt video, and to lie is a out to offend and to hide your feelings, is different to understand but now I do understand thank you everyone for you views on Shay's channel inspiring and my heart go out to you all, I feel that you don't want too but it's a way to keep the peace as well amazing women thank you and Mary there's people here in Australia that love everything about you, keep smiling girls be happy and safe cheers from us central Queensland Australia 🇦🇺 will hope to meet you next year when we visit to look at retiring there,

How do you know if a politician is lying? Their lips are moving. 🤣🤣

Trying to be honest about being a liar is a good first step to stop, sadly many people lie like rugs as a way of life and can't live any other way they think.

Very interesting vlog this one. Some good insight here.

I don't lie...much. I joke constantly and mess with people. If someone asks me if they look fat in an outfit... I am probably going to find something that is flattering about the outfit. However... a FWB person told me last April that I was too fat. So I lost 50 pounds. Something I needed to hear. Wasn't hurtful...I appreciated the comment. But I can say I have never cheated or lied (significant) in a romantic relationship. I have done things like lie about what we are doing so it's a fun surprise. I might lie about how much something cost that I gave her as a gift. Obviously other examples as well.

I’ve been watching your channel for a while now. I have a Lotta respect for you and the other girls. But just because a woman is polite, it doesn’t give her the right to assume that she hast to keep certain things away from her partner, thinking that he might not understand when that might be far from the truth, you should always give your partner the benefit of the doubt and be truthful. That’s where true love is measured.

They don't jail the lier or execute him either, he did not do it. It is the honest people that words get taken out of context. When asked did you say that? The honest person is then the guilty. It will all come clean in the laundry!

This is very good video and informative, well done.

OK prof Ron , Mike , ect now you have it on tape haha ..Lying is not cultural .... But I believe that one should be honest with partner regardless of what your reasons .. Eventually it becomes a trust issue ...its called respect for the other not protecting your own feelings out of fear ...

Take care and God bless you 🙏 😊

little white lies are acceptable aslong as the intent isn't to cause harm or injury

Lies, half truths and omited details... Yes- cause for concern. But when you find one in the Goldilocks zone. Bang. On.

Telling the truth is Hard Especially when you are wrong, get caught, it embarrasses you. Lying to protect someone you love? In the context of a relationship? Is usually, do you really love me? Are you with me for a better life? Did you cheat? Misled me about this person? Justifying Nor telling the truth? No excuse

Boom, this video blew up, Shay. 🙌🏼🤗

"Lying" verses "withholding information". Is it the same? To "tell the truth and nothing but the truth" may not be appropriate, safe, respectful or whatever in a given moment. (Unless you're on trail in a court of law.) Example: Not everyone needs to know your financial status; To alleviate worry from love ones, perhaps we don't disclose all of our problems; etc. Right or wrong, I'm not here to judge. Either way, the answer will reveal itself sooner or later. Great topic. It was well presented and "truthfully" discussed. By-the-way, I knew you were rich, Shay! (Just kidding!) 😁

The only real flaw is the culture of TELLING PORKIES as easy as breathing. There is no kind relationship without mutual trust as the base.

Of course lies are not exclusive to philipinos , but I have met many people who are ruthlessly honest , even when to most people it makes no sense to be that honest . So let's not pretend everyone lies .

Hello Ladies, Your correct Everyone Lies! I was Married only Once and I lied when I said "I'm happy", that was a partly miss truth😔I didn't feel bad about that because I Love my Children and then my life, which my world came Crashing Down when I had to end my marriage😢, I lost my Musical Dreams when I married but I was more concerned with my marriage and my Children, when I had to get a divorce because my Ex continuously was cheating and as a Father & a Man I couldn't put up with it anymore😠

Wednesday, October 25, 2023 ☁⛅☁ I searched for quotations about lying, and I like this one the best! 👨‍🌾 "Lies don't fix things. They don't even make things easier, at least not in the long run. Best to tell the truth and then clean up an honest mess." ~ ~ P.C. Kast and Kristin Cast This is the first I have seen the names P.C. Cast and Kristin Cast. I have no clue who they are, but I admire their wisdom. 😀 Shay, here is a little help with your English. This is a quotation. Most people say, "I read a quote," which is wrong. Quote is a verb. Quotation is a noun. You quote a quotation. Even journalists and news presenters say, "Here is a quote." When they should say, "Here is a quotation." My dad taught me this when I was 6 years old. It's weird that adults don't know this part of English. And Shay, your English is excellent and you have such a sweet, beautiful voice. 😀 Happy Autumn to everyone! 🍁🍂🌻🌻🌻🌾🐿🌾🌳

That’s makes sense

Great video and editing, Not Lying :D

To lie is not common around the world. I do not lie, hate lies , if u can lie then u can cheat and steal.... Sorry but will not tolerate lies in my relationship

I read a lot of different opinions in the comments. In the end it’s whose standards are we to measure to? Gods or man’s? Lying is never ok. Lying loses face. As for in relationships, nowhere does it say to lie to your partner in any scripture of any faith or religion. All relationships have conflict. That’s why it is necessary NOT to lie. Conflict, no matter how difficult it is at times, promotes a strong healthy relationship because part of conflict is forgiveness and acceptance. Which those two promote growth in the relationship. Lying is a very selfish thing. That destroys the growth needed in relationships. Lying also takes more energy and numbs the spirit to evil which will in turn destroy a relationship. Whether it be “white lies” or serious ones it’s wrong. Lying destroys the soul in a way which cannot be healed. The wound it creates festers and gets infected. It will never heal properly which in turn broods a cesspool of hatred. Hatred then becomes violent after it is built up so much. Telling the truth takes significantly less energy and is healthier because the stress levels go down. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts, that’s life. But the truth doesn’t leave poison in the wound like lying does. With no poison or infection in the wound, the wound, then can heal properly and forgiveness and acceptance can truly be given. For the women how would you feel if you ask your spouse did he cheat on you, only for him to lie and say no, then when you catch him and say “you lied to me, you are cheating” only for him to say “it’s ok if I lied to you because I’m allowed to!” You tell me women, how is that scenario gunna play out for you? Oh this lie is ok and this one isn’t? Lying to your partner is cheating on them. Because you placed your selfish needs above them and God…

It is true. It's so hard for me to lie when I was a kid but then I realized that you have to lie sometimes to be MATURE, ugh. I still, slip a lot of times and get really hurtful stares from people when I was just tellibg the truth. I dunno, I feel more comfortable with cultures like the Spanish and other western cultures when they tell you to your face even the bad things about you. I don't feel ashamed now telling the truth. To hell with you whether you like me or not

Shay, this was a very interesting and inciteful video. But I do have a question: you note in the beginning that it was "written" by Prof. Ron and directed by you. So, I guess that raises a question -- are the words you are speaking yours, or Prof. Ron's? Are these your insights or his? Or perhaps a combination of the two? It is OK either way, but I was curious. So, let us know - and don't lie!😂

shay one lie tends to lead to another lie in the past i have been lied to by partners and my birth family when the truth came out it hurt me very badly i have learnt from many years on this planet lying causes more damage than telling the truth ever did. even if somebody hurts me by telling the truth i have a lot more respect for them lying is cowardly...🤔🤔🤔

If I tell you I always tell the truth

Thats how i lie too.white lies... Cuz i dont want my partner worried about my personal stuffs esp with my family.esp when it comes to financial. Everything u said is 100√ ❤😊

The Bible says a lie is very false witness against your neighbor if I remember right I took two witnesses to get someone put to death. Being kind to people in sparing their feelings is not a lie

Mostly your kinda justifying lies. In a relationship this is a certain way to destroy everything. Maybe this is the biggest divide between westerners and Filipinas. Kinda sad to hear its very acceptable

Why is it Filipino being stereotyped here?😢😢😢 Honesty can set you free. What a title.

I am sorry, but I am just not buying the reasoning here. Since this is a catholic country, let's start with Leviticus, 'You shall not steal; you shall not deal falsely; you shall not lie to one another.' And while we are here, even though I am neither catholic or religious: 'Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour' when addressing the gossiping that is so rampant. Ok, that aside, the absolute core foundation of any relationship, work, business, personal, etc is trust. Once a lie is put out there, that trust is broken, subconsciously or overtly once it is discovered. Once a lie or lying behavior is discovered twice, the relationship is forever damaged and true / 100% trust will almost never be restored. For me, if someone is so weak inside that they are concerned about whether telling someone the truth will upset or hurt them, then they either need to find a better way to express themselves or remove themselves from my life until they become stronger. Don't use truth as a weapon, but use it for the greater and higher good vs taking the 'easy' way out. Of course, we then need to ask ourselves if saying something is even necessary in the first place. So save your face or lose your heart, soul, and trust of a person you care about. Very few lies are white. Most are brown, because they stink.

Said.

Tak!

Let me catch you telling me a lie and the relationship is over. You don't have a relationship if it's built on lies.

Really good video! I really respect the thoughts and opinions of everyone in this video. But these thoughts and opinions were formed growing up in a society that accepts lying as a means to save face or keep from hurting someone's feelings. I think there is a stronger inclination to do so in the Filipino culture. As you stated, lying occurs in all cultures, just in varying degrees. Most of us lie with the intention of saving face or not hurting another's feelings. Those from Western countries commenting here that they do not lie or have never lied - 99% of them are full of shit. Parents lie to their children. Oh no - that shot isn't going to hurt. That medicine won't taste bad. Yes there is an Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, and tooth fairy. Yes that breakfast in bed you made for me when you were 7 and burnt everything tasted great. All little white lies we tell them to make them feel happy. We tell them to our family members and close friends for the same reasons. You tell your wife/girlfriend the new recipe she just cooked for you was delicious even if it sucked. You tell her her new outfit look good even though she may look like a clown to you. Possibly the difference between the East and the West is that generally the Western culture starts teaching the kids earlier on that lying is not OK - especially when it comes to safety, legal matters, and daily interactions. I am curious do Filipino parents allow or discourage lying to their children, even though they may do so themselves? Of course, not telling any lies is the best policy, but many people feel compelled to tell the little white lies. Being 100% truthful would be verging on a perfect society - but we will never achieve that as humans. I would never be mad at my significant other if she told me I looked good even though I might be fat. Why? Because if I am fat, then realistically I am lying to myself and should never have put a person in that uncomfortable situation to have to answer a question that already has an honest answer. It doesn't help when we are fed lies everyday by our governments. media, and people in positions that should be trusted. If anyone wants to tell me this is not true then you are either a lair or a fool. I would only encourage Filipinas who are looking for a mate or already have one to be as honest as possible. Your relationship will be better for it. If the guy does not want kids then he will not pursue you - but guess what - the guy who does not mind accepting your kids will come along and you will be a better match. Take care Shay!! Sorry I rambled on - LOL

all these women are justifying their lies to "save face". that is selfish, and disrespectful to your partner...period. all these women should come clean to their partners for what they did before you damage someone else's soul

Very interesting and informative Shay...well done. 👍🏾

I just Divorced my wife because of the lies an cheating she can not be trusted an now she try. To tell the truth but it goes in one ear an out the other i don't like her an don't trust her im a big boy tell the truth i don't hang around family if they lie or friends because I no its some bull s..h. so tell the truth you will get alot futher with me because im telling you the truth

Ok, hmm... i can understand the culture of lying better when it comes to some Filipina's, however, i think that lying in any form isn't acceptable with others.. Period.. Friends, Family and certainly not with the person i am in a close Relationship with.. Honesty is the best Policy. I was taught one takes whatever may come, but don't lie. People respect a person more too i think, if they don't Lie about things and are honest no matter the Consequences. Good Choices in life Good things happen Mostly.. Bad Choices then Bad things can Happen.. Show me a Marriage or any Relationship with out Expectations and i will show you a enduring and lasting Relationship over time.. Expectations .. Remember that... it's the Behavior, one doesn't like not the person per se.. Thoughts are first.... then comes the feelings about those thoughts and Lastly then.. Actions or Behaviors.. That is how we are Wired, except women get the feelings involved first.. and mixed up.. Peace..

Great video

Read the last book of the Bible 21,8. Liars can't go to heaven!

I usually lie to keep from hurting another's feelings.

You are right we all lying on occasion I’m really sorry about that 🙏 but that’s just one of many reasons we need JESUS 🙏🙏🙏 just another one of your videos that cause us to look inwardly thank you so much miss shay 🙏🙏🙏 GOD BLESS 🙏🙏🙏

Who is Professor Ron?

I do not lie.

How did you get so smart😊

Why isn't this manipulation? You are trying to control the feelings and actions of others.

tell the truth..or at least don't lie !!! don't even say anything if you are unable to be real with others...a very poor and lazy trait that lie business

Lies come from satan!!

Spill it on me ladies 🤣.

Trying to understand but it just sounds like a red flag.