I never gave much thought to this before but I agree! Childless wedding would be amazing. It would feel a bit more celebratory and less likely to have choas, late comers, and early leavers because children dont really have patience levels for all that wedding stuff.
Bride to be here....Absolutely no kids at mine either. My wedding will always be child free. Thankfully everyone has been very supportive about that. And yes...of legal drinking age as well. So im with you on this ALL THE WAY.
I had an extravagant wedding at Midnight.. no kids, no phones allowed during the ceremony and if your azz wasn't in the space BEFORE 1130, you weren't getting in.. we had a Cocktail party BEFORE the ceremony and the reception.. Open Bar
My wife and I had a child free wedding. She has a 2 year old nephew and the moms parents watched him for the night. It was an amazing time! All the parents who attended were so happy to have a child free night to turn up. I highly endorse child free weddings. We have a lot of the same viewpoints. I literally would never have a cash bar, that’s so tacky IMO! These people are coming to celebrate you. You gunna make them pay for the food at the wedding as well? People be projecting A LOT!
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People always got something to say. Girl your rules and requests or preferences are perfectly fine to me in my opinion. 100% valid reasons. Great video Ayana 👍🏾👍🏾
4:53 My ex sis in law did not invite any children to her weeding except for the kids that was in the wedding (her kid her husband kid and my son). It is what it is.
I totally agree with you on almost all of your rules Ayana!! But the one I absolutely agree with you on is not having a cash bar bc some ppl have to fly in and they do take off work. So the least we can do is serve them food and drinks. You have every right to state that bc it’s your day.When I went to my cousin’s wedding I had to go home to New York and I definitely had to take off for the entire weekend.
At my wedding, I want no phones during the ceremony. Such as, no taking pictures or videos. I want people to live in the damn moment. Not reach for your phone. Pretend we’re in the 90s. And yes I like the hair color
@@ayanafite thank you! Another rule is ( I was a maid of honor ) no professional pictures or videography during the wedding. I was a maid of honor and I only attended cocktail hour for less than 15 mins. I was called to take pictures and soon as we finish, we had to go to the next ceremony. I ate dinner but still felt hungry. And the bride was hardly there because she was taking pictures and videos the whole time.
I never understood why people bring children to weddings anyway. Especially when they are under the age of 12. It's distracting, and when the wedding's going on. You have crying babies, now you have to get up and excuse yourself to calm your child down. That was always annoying to me. When I got married, the only kids that were at my wedding were mine, and they were very much under control..
My invite said no children at the wedding because I didn’t want other peoples kids or little cousins at my wedding but my nieces and nephews were there. My bar was open and I had a plated dinner but I wish I did the buffet. If you can’t find childcare then we will miss you boo!
You have to be mentally insane to argue with ANYONE about THEIR choices for THEIR wedding/event. Especially one that none of you are attending. That's insanity!!! Also, I can tell by them comments that none of those people could possibly have had a wedding before! The internet is full of weird, insecure people.
Hey, love it's Your wedding and every bride definitely set their own rules. So that what you want, period. I wish I could have a wedding without children but I can't...so as long the bride is happy nothing matters.. ❤❤
Why were all those comments from people who act like they never been to a wedding before?! All of your ideas are normal and reasonable. Do want you wanna do girl. It’s your special day ♥️
Unfortunately we as black people will always have something to say and not respect that other people have wishes and desires outside of their thinking!! We are always so dramatic as a people and opinionated!! Instead of holding each other up even though someone may have a deferring opinion... especially when it doesn't affect you in the least!!
@@alysiawilliams2139 You must not follow a lot of white influencers. Their white viewers will be the first to turn on them and cancel them. My roommate actually just hit 100k and some of his viewers want to cancel him because they thought he was a tan Latino and not a pale Latino😂 Stupid shit like that the white viewers are canceling him for not being their definition of Latin🤦🏾♀️
Omg im going thru that now im getting married n people are upset that i didnt want kids at my wedding. Im founding myself stress becuz no one cares bout what i want
Do not get stressed out love. It is your day. Do what you want and if anyone has a problem with you being happy, they don't love you. They wanna control you . Point blank period
I loved every single one your ideas and reasoning and I can see you truly want a intimate and authentic wedding. Should I be blessed with marriage in the future I would apply your ideas to my own wedding. No kids, personally for me less than 30 people, open bar, no dance routine(so corny), no buffet, etc Edit: I find it funny people assume everyone is the same way financially. The projection is wild!
Those people are used to a backyard wedding with dad cooking on the grill. Nothing wrong with that but it’s not everybody’s vibe. Why be mad about a stranger’s wedding you won’t be invited to anyway? People are weird.
People upset at what someone else wants at their own wedding is wild 😒 I have 3 kids and I love my babies but if I attending a wedding child free. That's my time away from my kids 😂😂
As someone who plans weddings and provides bartending services, and I’m married with kids…NO CHILDREN!!!! I worked a wedding and a kid pulled the fire alarm at the reception. And kids hate weddings for real lol they come for cake and Shirley temples and that adds up 😂
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And also anyone who would have a problem with being invited to a child. Free wedding can simply decline the invite. I'm not understanding the uproar from everyone about your preference. It's either you're gonna come and find someone to watch your kids during that time or decline. And just wish me well from home. That's like someone saying I want a child free adult birthday party, and someone gets mad because they can't bring their kid to your adult birthday party. Just stay your azz at home then.😂
Hey Girly, LMBO people and their opinions Lawddd i'm not on TikTok but i can imagine the comments. When it's your day you can have whatever you want and whomever you want there. I have been to weddings were everyone was 21 and up. I also went to 2 weddings where the only kids that were there was the bride and grooms and after the ceremony and pictures the kids left and it was only adults at the reception; AND no surprise that some guests had things to say after everything was said and done about how they thought it was unfair that their children couldn't be there LIKE REALLY SMH. Weddings cost events period cost and no disrespect but kids waste food and they get restless and some people just don't want to deal with that also people are drinking and celebrating
Listen my cousin had a wedding and the attendees that weren’t allowed to drink definitely watched the younger kids cause baby sit down and watch yo sister and the cousins lol
Now I will say I did not do An open bar because my pockets are not that healthy 😂. But we did get creative and we had tickets we made that was like book marks and everyone who drinks get two. And it was two free drinks of your choice that was paid for and of course, we had a specialty drink list that you can choose from also. And once you had your two free drinks the rest you had to pay for. But if you can afford an open bar, why not? If that's what you wanna do I don't understand why everyone tried to project what they would or wouldn't do on someone else.
I was in my aunt wedding a few years ago and I didn’t know that kids weren’t invited until last minute so I didn’t have a sitter. But I winded up getting a sitter but I was sooo salty. This year I went to a wedding that allowed kids and let me tell you…every wedding that I Attend in the future better be kidless because ain’t no way ain’t no fucking way 😂😂😂 I’m sorry I love my kid but there is definitely a time and a place for kids.
Weddings are not family reunions! People love bringing up scenarios that most likely do not apply omg lol I don’t want kids their either including family
If you can’t afford an open bar, you can’t afford a wedding. Guests are supposed to be just that, GUESTS.. If you invite me to a cash bar event, I’m taking the money out of the card I was going to give you and getting lit.
Hey Beautiful❤ I agree with you its your wedding ..its your Special Day..🎉🎉 Forget what others think.knowing you and your personality you Dgaf!!!! Period . keep doing you.. Love the real ones🎉💪😊🤞.. Happy Hoidays
Just watching this video and people just want so bad to say something its ok she has a prefrence they acting like they gone be there lol girl do you 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
The whole childcare thing is out the window. Lol people act like you plan the wedding A WEEK IN ADVANCE?! lol. People usually know about a wedding MONTHS in advance. Plan properly!
I just don't understand why people want to control what you do at YOUR wedding. People are weird. All the ones that has an opinion, are they helping to pay for YOUR wedding?
Child free weddings are peaceful ! I don’t give a damn about nobody having childcare that’s their issue not mine. Also my old college friend had an alcohol free wedding which was better than making guests pay cash at open bar
OMG I don't know why anyone has a problem with what you want to do for your special day. Regardless it's what you want. People these days just love to be argumentive. Hell if you wanna have a no clothes allowed wedding.... That's what you want. May not be for me but I'm not gonna argue with you about it.
Weddings are for adults you shouldn’t have to tone down your antics , music or behaviors to appease children . The children be bored running around doing what kids do .
Our community gets mad about a child free wedding bc too many ppl in our community have kids they can’t afford. So they can’t even afford a babysitter for one night. #condoms #settingkidsupforfailure #crabsinabarrel #irresponsible
How did people think vows in this context mean saying "i do"??? Also people didn't know what "first look" meant?? Folks yall dont even know what common wedding terms are, don't comment lol
It seems like the biggest problem from your comments is that people just don’t know what happens at a wedding lol or they don’t know proper wedding terminology
