Things Not To Say To Black Women 

You forgot the “ you’re beautiful for a black girl!” compliment 😑😑🤮🤮

I am an American black woman, and the stereotypes get on my nerves. I can't twerk to save my life, I am a nerd who loves science and comic books, and I hate reality tv and rap music. We are all different.

Someone looked at my black friend and said she was pretty for a black girl then his best friend said “ no she’s pretty.just pretty”

“I’m not exotic, I’m not an animal this is not the jungle” I creased🤣🤣🤣🤣

“I’m born and raised in London, nothing exotic about me” AAHAHAHAHAH

As a American black woman I use to hate people saying " you're cute for a dark skin girl. " WTF DOES THAT MEAN. 🤔🤨 ugh.....😒

Girl with the dark green dress and large hoop earrings is really pretty.

Black girl: *shows any emotion beyond being completely boring Everyone ever: yoU’rE BeINg aGgrESsiVe

The “aggressive black women” needs to go. There are a lot of black women who are afraid to say how they feel because of that stupid stereotype. 🤦🏽‍♀️

I’m a black woman from the US. When I was a receptionist at a law office, the clients would come in to sign paper work, or whatever. You should’ve seen the looks I’d get, and their comments were ridiculous!! “You don’t look anything like you sound on the phone”!! Really??🙄🤷🏾‍♀️

I’m not black nor a girl but hearing those phrases just makes me mad. Like how can some people be so insensitive and rude?! We all human so like why don’t we treat each other like that? You get me? Why can’t be all just be nice?

The women on here are great representatives for us black women, so intelligent

“Twerking On my way to work” LMAKSOAOAO IM DEAD

Them: (Sounding surprised) "Oh! You're so intelligent!" Me: "Yes, B****, I went to school too." 😐

I'm not aggressive I'm passionate.....

I'm soft spoken, and have been my entire life. My family nicknames are peanut and used to be mousey voice. Some people think it just can't *really* be how I speak. It must be fake, or they say "she's boujie" or fake. * Sighs * 😥 Am I supposed to be loud? Is my voice supposed to be man-ish, or deep?

as a black woman i saw each question and let out the DEEPEST sighs

"I twerk to work, I even twerk on the bus home" 😂😂

Black woman: *expresses herself in any way.* Everyone: "WHY ARE YOU SO AGGRESSIVE AND BITTER?"

Mentioning race in a "compliment" immediately takes the value out of it. Instead of saying things like: "you are so pretty for a black girl!" Or for a white person: "you have a big butt for a white girl!" Say things like: "you are so pretty!" Or for a white person:... don't say things about peoples butts.. thats weird. These easy fixes will make it so people wont resent you.

I've noticed the "why you so aggressive?" one on twitter and other places online where debates are happening. Any black women just states their opinion and it's automatically "attacking people with your views." No it isn't, a black woman made their point, there's nothing aggressive about it. It's terrible to just scroll and watch the double standards unfold.

People also love to ask "why are black women so bitter?"

Who else hate being called an Oreo?

A girl @ school came up to me and SMELT my hair “OMG COCONUTS”

Not all American black women talk like that either! It's all stereotypes!

"How do you say this in *African* ?" "Are all black people *loud* ?" "She's late because she's running on *African time* ." "You're from/are * *insert African country* ? You know, I was in Africa..." 😒

Don't forget "the sassy black woman" 😒

Black girls are soo beautiful and dont deserve the things they go through

If they ask you “ is it your hair?”, just say “ hell yeah, I bought with my money so it’s mine” 🤷🏽‍♀️

Friends have told me that the strong black woman trope is especially damaging because it makes them feel as if they aren't allowed to show a complex rage of emotions that all humans experience. It's really sad.

When I try to twerk I look like a wet noodle

These are just common sense...... but common sense these days is just not very common. 🤦‍♂️

As a 17 year old going to a predominantly white school, I relate to this video on such a strong level.

*ALL THE GIRLS IN THIS VIDEO ARE SO BEAUTIFUL. **#BLACKGIRLMAGIC*

Some granny said I looked exotic and I thought "am I a mango??"

"i'm finna get diabetes from all this chocolate" 😂😂😂

"Your a strong black woman" *OK OPRAH!* I'm done. That's too funny 😂😂😂😂

Real shit tho when I was 13 a lady touched my hair at McDonald's without even asking. Shampoo and conditioned at least 5 times that day

Society is ignorant in so many levels. Say no to stereotypes!

"You're the whitest black person I know." "That's racist!" "No, it's a compliment!" Actual conversation that my sister had with her white co-worker. It's wrong on so many levels smh

"Can your mum twerk? How bout that?" Had me ROLIING! 😂😂😂😂😂

I love thier accents.... but most of this is relatable af. I am African American btw.

"Oh , you talk white" When has speaking and acting sophisticated been a white thing?

Not all American black women speak "urban' either.

"you got so much attitude" *snaps fingers*

I have an online friend who is from New Jersey and she is black. She has told me how people judged and teased her about liking Harry Potter and stuff like that saying she acts "white". I was also dating a woman once who was black and she said "its so nice to find someone who finds black women attractive". I thought that was quite depressing cos every race has their own beautiful qualities. People need to stop stereotyping and defining people based on their ethnic origin. Media has a lot to blame for it. Like whatever you want and live your life how you want to. Be yourself which is a unique person.

Dark skinned girls with vividly coloured hair are seriously the most beautiful

You’re Cute for a Darkskin girl 🤔... I hate that one

These women are all so beautiful, but gosh, that’s so disgusting the way people have treated them. I wish people would just stop.. it’s not okay to talk to anyone this way.

“To always have to double think.. before doing anything is EXHAUSTING” 👏🏾👏🏾

The thing I personally hate the MOST when people touch my HAIR

I love the fact that it’s all dark skin women on this platform

the aggression one hit home. you could be as cool as a cucumber but they’ll just throw in something about you being angry and you’re standing there like... should i really show them what anger is? more times you just have to walk away from the situation and the stereotype

"You don't sound black" I fudging hate that! Like even the black people say that and I just get so furious.

they are all so freaking pretty wth

I will never understand why people would touch people’s hair without permission. Black or otherwise.

Thank you so much for educating us. I feel like as a black man, I should already know all of these stereotypes because I have a black mother, aunts, sisters and cousins but some of these stereotypes surprised me.

Watching this as a white person and I'm so glad that I haven't said these things... The embarrassment...

All so pretty

All American black people do not say, "Yaass or Slay." That is stereotypical culture, which has become popular culture. However, it is not a true picture of blackness in America.

American black woman who doesn’t do this stuff and can relate to everything you say 🙋🏿‍♀️🙋🏿‍♀️

I remember someone told me I was smart for a black girl. Like umm can you not Oh and whenever I listened to Lana Del Rey they give me the you don’t listen to rap music. Or when people say they are scared of me because I look aggressive. But hey if you fear me that doesn’t really bother me.

I’ve watched this about 3000 times, too relatable

I hate it when I put on my "serious face" at work and then get told I looked angry...in my culture serious face means "concentration"....and no I'm not made out of stones...I have feelings too

Someone should take the compilation of all these "things not to say" videos and make it mandatory sensitivity training for employers.

Dude, they’re so pretty!! Love these videos, helps me see things from so many points of view and it’s eye opening!!!💕💕

No one is always strong. Black woman are people. Everybody is human and no one deserves to be dehumanised or have jokes made about them. Yes you are strong everyone is strong as a human but not all the time. If you don’t feel strong that is perfectly ok. We don’t need to g9 back to the stereotype of you’re not strong if you need help or if you show your tears or if you’re struggling. People struggle and black woman arent any different to any other human being. So why are they being treated differently? Stereotypes and people who believe it’s ok to base someone on what they look like or sound like make me so annoyed because a person isn’t just the exterior that everyone sees, they are also a person inside as well and humans have a personality each to their own. It’s 2019 come on people get over your self prejudiced and arrogant self and move on to the more important matters like equality or people being allowed their own opinions or global warming.

"Can your mom twerk?🙄" 😂😂😂

It's 2019 and the sad reality is we have this video in existence and people do actually say these things and think nothing of it. Shocking!

As a white guy I'm sorry that black women have to endure this in our society but I will say that black women are very sexy and some white guys take it too far because we don't even know when we are being racist when we're trying to complement you. If you're a black woman you probably already understand this. I'm glad there's videos like this on RU-vid that will better help me understand my errors and help me in dating.

“I even twerk on the bus home” 🤣😂 Omg but yes, that is annoying!

I personally think black women are beautiful, and appreciate their friendliness and openness. Conversation s I have had with black ladies are special, in fact when I go to an event I will look deliberately to sit down next to a black lady to have a conversation, I find black people in general more approachable and more open to talk to, years ago went to a church in Edinburgh , and there were a lot of black people there and I thoroughly enjoyed their fellowship, and conversation , the prayer time was fantastic less formalistic and open to Christ, just always had far more positive communication with black people. So for all the black people out there, I appreciate you.

I’m a white ginger girl but people used to wanna touch my hair when I was younger too case it was long and I was so confused why ppl were fascinated by it

"I twerk to work, I even twerk on the bus home." Omg. Lmfao 🤣🤣🤣 I can't!

My favorite(sarcasm).... "You're the whitest black girl I've ever met."

The sad thing is I’ve even seen *black* *BOYS* do a lot of this?

I really like this video!

I don't know if it's just because finnish people tend to be kind of timid (except when drunk) but I would never ever try to touch someone's hair??? Like ????? Why would you touch strangers ???

I'm not black but I can relate to the hair touching. If you have curly hair people just won't leave your head alone.

“Do you know how to do edges??” Excuse me so because I’m black I have to know how to do edges?

I'm mixed (black and white) and my heart breaks for these women. All women, regardless of their race, should all be treated equally. But sadly because of today's society, that's not the case

“Oh my god is your hair real or is a wig, wait no I know...... Its a wig isn’t it” “Are you or your parents from Africa.”

It's really just sad how we have to explain ourselves

The aggressive statement gets me every time. Like someone will say something hurtful and then when I cry my voice gets pitchy like I don't even want to say louder, but my voice cracks. And they'll be like "Why are you so aggressive?" It's like you can't even reply after that without seeming like you are being aggressive.

Why does this innocent video have so many dislikes 😒😒

“Black is an accent?” I love that! I get that all the time. Like wtf am I supposed to sound like?

I hate when people say “the black in me almost came out” or “theres a mad black women in me” 😐

ughhhhhh this must be so annoying to deal with regularly and then even when being honest in certain situations being called "aggressive", can't bloody win!

I think sometimes people are trying to break down barriers and are probably really nervous and so come out looking unaware and insensitive .

“Apparently me walking over to the bar I get YASSSS, SLAYYYY” 💀😂

The sad thing is that people are prejudiced without realising it.

"You're sooo pretty for a black girl...i mean I'm not usually attracted to black girls...but you're not like, BLACK black..." 😒😔

"Can your mom twerk How 'bout that" Oh God... 😭😂😂😂🔥

To be a Black woman is for everyone to assume that you are being aggressive when you are going out of your way to speak as calmly and softly as possible, like you're trying to sooth a defensive animal.

You don’t sound black.... “Because black is an accent....?!” Had me rolling😅😭😭 3:44

I went to a job interview and people genuinely didn't think I was who I am. "Wow you look nothing like what you sounded like on the phone, you're very well spoken "... thanks ?

This one was professionally funny. We like how they downplayed those stereotypes with sarcasm.

Like literally, the next time someone says any of these things, I'm just sending them this video

It’s not that I didn’t believe it but until the hair touch thing happened to me I used to wonder who are these random people just reaching for people’s heads and then it happened to me. I felt violated. I really did 😐

Im a light brown skinned woman and I remember back in college one of my tutors said to me after meeting mother (who is the same complexion as me) I wasn’t expecting you mum to look like that I asked why she said I thought she’d be white I was okaaay 🤨but then she said to me so it’s your dad who’s white then I said no my dad is black she didn’t stop there with the disrespect she then went on to say to me “oh so your black black then” 😟 similar situations like this were unfortunately a norm to me growing up even at work my ‘blackness’ was questioned people would assume I’m mixed/race biracial but after i correct them and give an explanation my family tree (my parents and grandparents are black just my mum and grandma light skinned) there’s a shock and Ive even had people treat me differently after that realisation-not all black people are one shade we come in a wide variety of shades a skin tones ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿