🥺 ya my when my mom would always be like *"u dont even wanna study in the college ur just going their to chat with some boys all these teenagers are like these"* its sad sometimes when they dont understand u wanna focus on your career and aren't lying 😔 or she says *"who ru doing makeup for and wearing all those short dresses"* like im doing this to make my heart happy not for others
I was called a psedo-feminist just because I commented 'true, it's amazing how we girls can hide our pain' on a girl's post which said "women are not given day off from work on those days.Periods pain is not something we can control yet we smile like nothing happened." The males think that we live in a pseudo-feminist society while the reality is that we still live in a patriarchal society.
Yeah I actually feel inlove with one of them because I thought they were cool bc O had a phase where if you were bad you were hot and stuff and out boy they do not like me ever.
a feminist by textbook definition is someone who believes in the equal rights of men and women, don't let their own misconceptions let you be shamed over it. they act like the states or the west in general is the only place where women exist
@Dinosaur_Ddd Yea. Also, it's so cringe, as a non-feminist who just don't care, whenever boys just come up, acting like men, protesting against feminists like: "tHeSe wOmEn-" No ✋🏻 Any gender can be a feminist. 90% of feminist protesters don't even know the definition of one 😭🤣.
When I was growing up my parents would teach me every day how to be kind and respectful to women and that no matter what I can NEVER hit a girl even if she is hitting me with knives and stuff and to this day I still believe that
It kills me how the word "feminist" has been blown WAY out of proportion. Bro we don't hate men. We hate the men who make women's lives miserable. How hard is it to understand?
As an average guy I must say that we men don't hate feminists, just fake ones who are toxic, and trust me we even despise toxic men too, and men too have to suffer from various things on daily basis, it might is not visible but in emotional way it's hard for us too. 😄
Feminists are kind and want equality Some people go under the guise of "feminism" to be above men, and to deliberatly hate and try to take away their rights Like the KAM thing Those are the feminists people mean most of the time
some ppl clearly misunderstoodbwhat i meant here so everyone is a virgin until they experience sex so if no man (+ woman in many cases) wants to have intercourse with a virgin how they gonna not be a virgin
Honestly, it just makes me NOT want to put in effort out of spite. Like- "ok, and?" Are you saying I'm not pretty NOW? The fact that I'm moderately attractive right now is a miracle in itself and now you're going to go on and say "yOu'Re JuSt NoT tRyInG hArD eNoUgH" that's like NASA landing on Pluto and saying "Yeah but if you made an EFFORT, you'd be in another galaxy" God, it's just so aggravating...I'm sorry, I ranted :/
Getting fat is probably dangerous for the health It's not only about the beauty So when you want to lose weight lose it for yourself and do your best And being very thin isn't healthier🫠 *Maybe* it's a sign for malnutrition or infections
Bruh boys have much bigger problems to deal with Ever seen a guy near ur house wearing girl's clothe ? Lmao we r the one facing real prob in case of clothes
I have the same experience. My parents think I’m “confused” and guys think I’m a pick me girl. I hangout with guys, I wear what I want to because it’s what I’m comfortable with. Girls can be bitchy and guys seem more laid back. But apparently my reasoning isn’t good enough and I’m just a whore looking for attention from guys. 🙄
Fr it’s worst when you have a disorder I have PTSD and I been call dramatic for that ( aka head spirals ) but when a male does it they comfort him ( I’m talking about my teacher and it is my experience)
Ong and the “stop being an attention whore/seeker” dude my mom would call me that when I had panic attacks I feel horrible for all the people who have to go through that
@@user-zu4gt1yx2m And they wonder why we never told them we were having a panic attack when they legitimately tell us things like we are just a wall and basically don’t care! I’m sorry you have to go through that. That’s pretty much emotional abuse at least I think.
When I was younger, I had a shirt that was pink and I didn't want to wear it because I didn't like the color pink. My mom got mad at me saying that I'm a girl and girls wear pink do I need to wear it.
(it must be time of the month) Me: "I am bleeding out of my vagina and my Asshole I poop twice as much I get pains I puked I have food cravings SO I APOLOGISE FOR BEING BORN WITH FEELINGS GOD IF YOU COULD ONLY FEEL MY PAIN!!!
My mother and father would tell me rude stuff which made me insecure, like “Jeez, you’re fat.” Or “You’re older than your siblings and you still act childish.” It hurt my feelings a lot but I wouldn’t talk back because I didn’t want to be yelled at.
@@kamikazekricket7746 I feel like it’s similar to when people say “it must be that time of the month” when a girl is mad. Both are devaluing what the girl is feeling at the moment like saying it doesn’t matter what she’s feeling rn and she should smile even if she feels really bad. But then again, this particular one I feel depends more on the intent behind it. Like if it was a friend trying to cheer you up saying “hey cheer up, you should smile, where’s that pretty girl I know?”
I literally can't smile. If I try to smile, my face turns into this 😬literally (my mouth won't curve up, and IDK how to make it curve up) and I look annoyed. And I end up accidentally staring into someone's soul as they are trying to take a picture.
actuals though my dad was skinny shaming me infront of the retail workers because i couldnt fit properly into the smallest size.. he kept saying "maybe if you ate more you would fit hahah" and tried to brush it off as a joke. i was mortified.
I mean if you walk around wear something that shows half your tits what do you expect. Not saying you’ve done that specifically but most of the time when I hear a girl say something like that she’s half naked. There’s no humidity or honor in dressing that way and those girls on to complain about how guys look at her. Both should shut up keep their eyes to themselves and Laddies need to stop being a stumbling block. The saying “your asking for it dressing like that” I couldn’t agree more. This is coming from a BIOLOGICAL women who dresses moderately and doesn’t intentionally seek attention from men. Never once have I been harassed or sexualized. Granted even doing all that women can still be sexualized but at least it’s not your problem and you tried. At that point shame on the guy who still looked at you.
@@rosalierosierose I understand and totally agree with this. I was mainly talking about like have shoulders exposed but with all the other stuff I absolutely agree. I do believe people should be free to wear what they want but in certain scenarios this not the case since people should be following their dress code when they are at school or at work. I get what you mean by the “shows half your tits” part because it can distract people by making them uncomfortable.
@@BlueSpiderLilyReal ya I can agree with the shoulders thing seems a bit ridiculous. Ya like if it’s your school or work dress code it’s only proper and fair to follow.
@@gailasprey7787 never said they should. Being sexualized is a problem but people tend to blame it on one person but when they are the one to blame as well.
What my parents usually tell me: "Smile more" "Loosen that face (tired face)" "Stop acting so cold" "Ur making me look stupid" (by just correcting their little mistake)
What makes me so fucking angry is ADULT MEN AND WOMEN telling A LITTLE GIRL that it’s okay for a boy to pick on her because “it’s his way of flirting”. All that teaches your little girl is that abuse in a relationship is okay. I’m sick and tired of parents and schools normalizing bullying.
Yes I found that true cause when I yelled at my cousin cause he poured water on me my auntie come yelling at me like "DON'T YELL AT YOUR COUSIN HE'S JUST PLAYING WITH YOU AND YELLING ISN'T LADY LIKE AT ALL" Like I'm not allowed to yell anymore cause I'm a female?
"Who are you dressing up for?" "You're turning into a real woman wearing that makeup" Edit: Thank you all for the likes, I didn't think I would get that many.
Yup, because, apparently, we're not that much of women without proper makeup. And, of course, our style must be determined by a man's taste for sexualisable objects 🤷🏼♀️ Who else started crying watching this?
I fucking hate the first one. why do I have to always be dressing up to lookg good, or to attract? why can't I just dress up because I love making outfits and wearing them makes me happy I'm wearing something I made that I'm proud of?
It's even worse when I man says that or your stepdad cause mine did and it creeped me out. Like I'm pretty but that doesn't give you the right to stare at me.
"Stop crying, you're fine." - My own mother When she told me that. I knew, I had to hide my emotions from *Everyone.* Now, whenever I'm sad. I reject all help people give me. I feel, like I'm attention seeking and gaslighting people into doing what I want. So, I just reject all help.
Sounds like you have good parents that love you. Stop cursing your parents on the internet you ungrateful dweeb. You could be homless with no parents at all, with no phone or enough food to even be able to 'eat too much'. Smh embarrassing yourself.
@@mango7uice skinny people also have insecurities. I was told to eat more and people kept calling me skinny bones. When i was in 4th grade i always wore jackets and never took them off to show my skinny arms
They most likely are people who didn't enjoy or were rushed into having sex like I heard from a guy analyzing how bad 50 shades of grey was. I mean they need to make fun of others being virgins because they didn't enjoy there first time
😅 I was shocked hearing this In my country guys always seek for a virgin and basically reject those who are not,yk😅 Specially for marriage It gave me a cultural shock basically😅😂
@@andalamoore south asian country my friend 😅 here guys are obsessed with marring virgins where as they loose their virginity way before their marriage😐 The hypocrisy right?
“he picks on you because he likes you” NO BECAUSE THIS GUYS STRAIGHT UP BULLIED ME AND TOLD ME I WAS WORTHLESS AND I WENT HOME CRYING EVERYDAY. and every time i tell someone they’re just like “oh, he must like you” NAHHHH 😭
When I was 15, we had this dress up business style in first year of hs and my friends and I decided to wear a bit more makeup than usual. Which included red lipstick. On my way to school, two men, fucking ancient compared to 16yr old me(aka older than 30 for sure) asked me if I know what red lips are meant to do and that theyd look nice busy. And I'm baby faced in no way looking 18 even with makeup and everything. Of course, I was pissed after this and when I got to school first thing my friend said was 'someone got their period'. Not to mention guys from class being sleezy too. I felt so pretty when I first left the house that morning. Long rant over, sorry for this lol
God, old men are the worst. I’m short and baby faced, so before I fully developed there’s no way to tell how old I was. The amount of sixty year old men that liked to stare at me was disgusting, at least once a week a comment or eyebrow raise was made. The world sucks a lot sometimes
Literally happened to me today. Back story : Despite being adult, I've never really learnt how to do makeup before because it's expensive and not allowed during school (and my mother always commented makeup is useless and such before and she never wears it). Also, I have RBF. So, today I actually used makeup to go out (mostly eye makeups) as we're eating out for lunch. I thought it looked good enough since I'm pretty much still considered a beginner and I felt pretty going out for once. While we were eating, a group of women sat nearby (not neighbor table but close enough, no other customers at the time) and started commenting about me among themselves as my sitting position is directly in front of them so they can fully see my face. Not sure if they speak loud or I just have good hearings (because I experienced this often, people around me never seem to hear despite I heard it very clear) but listening to them made me immediately lose my appetite and just want to finish eating quickly and hide my face under the mask because I became too self-conscious. They still keep on talking, until the rest of my family finished eating and leaving the restaurant. About my makeup being too much, my face looking too serious while eating, the fact that I wear my mask immediately after, that I played on my phone and so on. I don't even know them or even look in their direction. Idk why they feel the need to to comment so much about me :(
In my school it’s not allowed to wear leggings. FUCKING LEGGINGS?! Like, what is wrong with them??? They only let us wear sweatpants and I don’t really like them.
Reminds me of my school handbook saying that boys can't wear earrings meanwhile I'm one and I've not been told to take them off and I only think is because I'm trans and don't really see me as a boy plus they don't have any policy involving transgender students
“It’s probably that time of the month” I hear this way too much..just because I’m emotional, doesn’t mean I’m on my period. Women carry emotions and will eventually lash out due to stress from these emotions; it doesn’t always mean they’re hormones are messing with them, it’s society and the stress they put on them.
Yeah, I saw some hot garbage reply section argument about what feminism is and someone raised a good point that since the patriarchy effects both sides raising awareness and healing the pain on both sides is still feminism. Like “men aren’t allowed to cry/be sensitive” etc. that’s because of the patriarchy, if we want equality and the patriarchy to be put in the grave it makes sense that we have to heal the whole thing
I never realized how how normal people consider the phrase “he picks on you because he likes you”. I was bullied when I was little and it was rationalized with just a phrase. The fact that males can pick on females and that it’s completely okay since “they’re like her” is such a toxic thing.
I feel it’s weird that you could just punch them, and if they punch you back that is illegal. You are stating that it is toxic, but you could just punch me or any other male without consequence and play victim. Like the other reply said, just punch.
@@sladedude9108 Have you thought why that is though? Because women are seen as weak. Nobody should have to be violent to anyone else. Let's address the issues causing all of this and stop telling specific women that "you could have done this"
@@sladedude9108 it's the fact that you have to punch them in the first place that's the problem. why do I have to resort to violence to stop someone from doing something they weren't supposed to do?
The other day I was at school in the girls bathroom trying to get something off my skirt and I looked super stupid and flustered and just annoyed that it wouldn’t come off. Then this little girl walked in and she said “ur rlly pretty” and I said “thank you sm” so are you!”And it was so wholesome and the rest of the day i had a smile on my face. It was so sweet.
i was at some family gathering and my cousin is addicted to video games so his dad asked me if i play video games and my cousin and another 4 people immediately said " girls dont play video games" im like 🙁
I’m lucky, people in my town aren’t like that. I haven’t been told things like that, but when I go somewhere else I hear people saying it to others. They shouldn’t be saying that. Everyone is special and deserves to be treated with respect.
you forgot the "don't wear that lipstick shade. It doesn't look good on you because of your complexion." and also, this was really true. what's more sad is that its women who are bringing down women.
@s But who is stopping you from wearing whatever you want? People might give you weird looks and might say something negative, but if you're wearing what you want to make yourself feel good, why care what others think? It's entirely valid to dress the way everyone else does, dress to impress certain people (a loved one perhaps) or just to dress how you want to. There's no fashion police unless you let others influence your decisions, then they're very real and you need better friends.
That's an opinion tho, and it's correct IMO. My man A$AP Rocky said really dark-skinned girls should not wear red lipstick. He's absolutely right. They look like clowns. You need to match your outfit/lipstick to your skin tone. It's not a racist thing, it's just plain common sense.
@@rebeltvr6046 I think it depends on the person as well. I think red lipstick looks really good on dark skinned women (and not, light dark skin, dark dark). But I also know that some hues look better on my (white) skin.
@@me.0436 "white" isn't a skin color: what's yur hue? Yellowish, pinkish, porcelain, light tan? It depends. But yeah, generally speaking, dark skin and bright red don't match.
What annoyed me the most as a kid, was: Whenever this one kid would bully me, I got so tired and off it, so I brought the situation to the principle and she said "Oh, he's only mean to you because he likes you, don't worry to much." instead of doing anything. The only reason that got resolved, was because he left the school.
:> : “Yes i do eat a$$h0l3” “ because I’m human stereo typical bAd BoI” “I am pretty. And I know that because I look in the mirror every morning unlike some people”
"Are you sure you can eat all that?" "You're just doing it for attention" "The shirt would look better on someone skinnier, no offense though" "You look so tired today, are you sick?" "Move on" "Stop being so emotional, toughen up" ... "Why haven't you been hanging out with us?"
He isn’t picking on you because he likes you. He really doesn’t and in the end he’s toxic. Telling kids that ‘he likes you because he’s mean’ is normalizing, idolizing, glorifying, and standardizing toxic, abusive, and unhealthy relationships. Edit: feel free to share your experiences with this in the replies, we’re having a group therapy session now
Exactly!!! why are we telling our kids that our bullies are only bullying us bc they like us, its basicly saying that ur abuser likes u. whoever says that is gross
@@antagonist_in_a_bagoh hi! Well now me and him don’t really talk but I like another guy and he likes me back ! He is so nice to me. And I have had a glow up, but for myself. So I won’t get bullied anytime soon 😅
"it must be that time of the month" yes, it actually is. to your surprise, today i woke up in a pool of blood. *and ill make sure that you will do the same tomorrow*
I HATE how when u say ur not interested in someone they feel like they get to throw insults at you. Like cant u ask me out, accept my answer, and then walk away again so we can both just have a good night?
Finally i am so freaking happy that someone spoke about this. Like why do people get all defensive when they hear the word feminist?? And why do woman only demotivate other woman? Like even some mothers do that in fact sisters too!
@El Cactuar Can you elaborate on your point that feminism is cancer? Why do you think so? And by saying all humans are trash, do you mean you are trash too? Unless you're a bot or an alien or something other than a human. Anyway, if you do mean to say that to yourself, that's really mean to yourself.
@El Cactuar i also say that humans are trash when I'm angry but then I remember how wrong I am because it's not true this generalization is unfair. You have such a negative view on humanity i assume
Feminist is not bad when is for the right thing. The problem is that a lot of stupid, mostly teenagers girls who wants to feel important have taked over, and those girls generally don't go for equal, they straight up want men dead and they'll cry if something isn't worshipped cuz woman
@El Cactuar Perspective or ignorance? I must truly have both. When I first saw your response I thought, “huh, I must show this person how we are not truly horrible and how we wouldn’t trample over a human being to reach our greediest potential” but, that wouldn’t be honest of me, would it? That in a desert, with your friends, and only one bottle of water; the greediest would survive. I usually avoid topics like this because the idea of spending my days thinking about the purpose of life, having an existential crisis, or realizing how truly horrific humanity is would probably tear me apart. But, now, at this very moment, I realized that I’m truly horrible myself. I’ve laughed over the death of people, I’ve felt satisfied when a friend of mine falls in the mistake that I’d did so I don’t feel as horrible as I did, I’ve treated people like shit, and yet, even after the unpleasant realization -I still find myself making up excuses for myself. And even that idea went through my mind after I wrote that. Understanding that my generation will affect the next generations is unfortunate but even the idea that I won’t have to deal with it selfishly comforts me. Therefore, the most thoughtful thing I could think of doing at this is to perhaps not have kids or even better, adopt. So my advice is either to change your perspective or accept it. Although those two choices seem different, they still have the same finale. Stop surrounding yourself with negativity, it’s cliche but it’s the truth. Stop watching the news, step away from crappy friends, and gore websites that show you “how cruel can humanity be”. In other words, surround yourself with positivity (Good friends, positive experiences, etc…) and ignorance (not being conscious of the worldwide problems). That might have not satisfied your response. Perhaps you were looking for a person to change your mind, but this, on the little years I've existed or lived (fuck here comes the philosophical questioning), is my response. So if you need someone to change your mind, then keep on searching, I'm sure there is someone more intelligent, knowledgeable, and with more experience than those little 15 years of years, I've lived. Or perhaps, my friend, can you make a change? Can I make a change even? the motivation about changing the world flows on our minds from early childhood, yet we do nothing but whine. Am I right?
yeah, i tend to not stick up for myself at all so when i do they say 'oh are you on your flow?' or 'oh are you on your bloody time?' or just the regular are you on the time of the month. it upsets me and its the reason i dont speak out most of the time.
Except you shouldn't take your anger or madness out on anyone. But also yeah.. Like I can't control my menstrual hormones, and neither could you. It's really annoying
"Picks on you and tells you to die because he loves you" like- Bartha, stfu. If he liked me, he wouldn't tell me that i am worthless every minute we are together.
For me it was "he's autistic and doesn't know how to express it any other way" from my school guidance counselor... and they never tried teaching him how to express it any other way. Bullied because we can't try and teach 12 year olds how to express emotions
Why do they say that "when he hits you he likes you" to primary schoolers but when they are older that's wrong to say and he "doesn't like you" well he never liked you from the start then. Boys use to hit me when I was in primary school and they HATED me, they didn't want shit to do w/me, I was always the unattractive girl that dudes were scared of. I never believed that dumb lie for a minute
I've been sexually harassed, pushed onto the floor, called ugly, been told I dress like a boy, laughed at by my grandmother for wearing a crop top for the first time, been told to shut up because I'm a woman, and so much more. I'm sure a variety of women get told way worse comments than I have heard. But they all hurt so much. One day, my mom told me I was pushing my stomach out when I wasn't, and that started my insecurity of thinking I'm fat. Sometimes, being a woman sucks. I just try to stay positive and cherish the people who love me for me and don't care how I look. Which at the moment goes to only my girlfriend.
I love fishnets because I think they'd look so cool,so I went to the store with my mom,I went to go grab fishnets and show her,she said "you don't need to try and look sexy" "you can't wear that to school cause then people might get the wrong idea"... Great ma, IM ONLY 10.
Friendly teasing is okay as long as you are both okay with it and still respect boundaries. Me and my friends tease each other all the time, but we know what the limits are and we do not cross them.
Ikr!! So boys can can sit just the way they want but girls cant?! That’s so dumb! and yet there’s still people that say that girls overreact when they get mad at stuff like this
For me, the “exotic” one hits hard. Just because my skin color is different than yours doesn’t mean I’m exotic. I was born here, treat me like you’d treat another yt person
For real💀💀 how do you sleep with someone if they didn’t already sleep with someone else💀💀 like do they just think that all girl when they turn 16 are automatically not virgins?
I am saving my V card for marriage, and when guys wanna have sex with me and I told them that, they say "poor you a virgin" lol. Yet they call the nonvirgin girls bitches and leave them as soon as they find out.Funny😊
Your channel has actually change my life. I've been called a lot of things including a pick me girl and recently I was bullied for a physical disability. He called me many vulgar and diragitory terms for no reason. Then I looked in RU-vid and your videos were the first thing there and I suddenly felt so much better! Thank you so much.
Honestly, I love the detail that with each sentence the voices get older, showing that it doesn’t matter how old you are, you will hear something like that.
"it must be that time of the month" Common .... That's the worst thing a person can hear.. I'd be really pissed (personally i have never heard that but im so sorry for the people who did)
Once when I was at my locker two girls in the hall said I was pretty. I looked around, and no one else was in the hallway except for me and those girls. Then they laughed and walked away.
My dad was my biggest bully. Told me I was ugly and ate too much, so I hated myself and at 12 I stopped eating, bleached my hair and became anorexic. He started saying how good I looked, meanwhile I was literally dying and had to be hospitalized. He taught me that abusive relationships were normal, and after taking so much abuse throughout all my teenage years, at 21 I finally learned to love myself and that I was worthy of more. After escaping a 5 yr abusive relationship, I married a wonderful man who is so kind, and I barely speak to my miserable, horrible father. He tried to do the same to my younger sister, and I interviened wherever I could. She raises her kids to know that they are strong, beautiful, and loved above all else. I'd die for those babies.
