This is how porn takes away your power - Maria Ahlin 

it also gives fake ideas. Pornstars are picked among thousands of people and they edit out the parts when they got tired to give the illusion of perfection. Real people are not usually 6-pack 6'5'' studs on hourglass shaped bombshells. It hijacks your brain when you can see more good-looking naked people in one session of porn than your ancestors see in a lifetime. In porn, they also immediately go into sexual intercourse with each other after a couple of minutes they met. Having that as a basis badly distorts your expectations for real-life relationships.

@Wanterof Justice While most of what she says is not wrong on this video, what I wrote below, is based on the general impression I got from watching her ted talk and so on: Yepp what you wrote sums up alot... The females have something to say about everything including other peoples mind and even though its obvious they alot of times can't be on same wavelength or even comprehend that person, they would still think they understand how that person thinks and functions and processes information and generalize everyone so their beleifs are the only right one, as if they decoded every singel brain out there.. I beleived in this brainwashing ideology she was preaching. Always thought something was wrong with me and most other people around me, ever capable of enjoying porn. The thing is at one point in life, like most people you grow up, and when you do you also understand that professional porn is about cashing in= buisness, same way a movie is comparable to life itself. All it really takes is few real life expirience and alot of comunication with your partner. So in porn they do different positions and stuff, is not about the best pleassure or chemestry they nececery can have between the performers, but rather its about how they are perceived and what the producers beleive the public want to see, so they generate avenue. Once you understand this, you can decrypt most of it and you can figure out what works for you and what not. IMO: The problem starts when they take a idea, and use the idea as a excuse for why porn is bad. Instead of explaining this concept. Example if you watch youtube shorts on dance ect, you probably seen teasers or video of people dancing so well it just mesmerize you. Does not mean you going to expect every person you pair up with to dance like that for youjust because you like it. Ofc you can tell your partner you like dancing and it turns the temperature up for you when you see it, and thus the partner can try to acomodate or ignore it. When it comes to this porn stuff, what I realized is in general the lack of performance is the reason females start to nag. They think or maybe they are really bad in sex, and every person out there from previous relationship broke up with them or something in that regard and they now want to correct this, by improving the males out there. If you work on yourself its way better then trying to fix whats neccecerily not broken.. Some females meet people that expect certain standards, and these standards are to high for them to live up to. Sure expectation increase when you get expirience, but thats also part of it.. if you have to sleep with 200 people to be able to perform or watch 10 videos reflecting some what close understanding of the same, I would say videos come with a risk free package, from sdt's as well as emotional bagage and damage that ruins your perseption of a actual relationship if you instead pair up for same cravings. What I mean is if lust is your primary motif, then maybe sticking to video can be a source of outlet, when you aint looking for a relationship to begin with. Every person should be able to live their life to their fullest, and not as a slave to ideologies that some think is the answer to everything. These same people just few years later change their own mind and perception as they grow and mature.. Everyone is different, in a different learning curve and should try and fail to figure things out the way they want. Imo this preaching is actually demonizing boys of their nature and wishes and instinct and causes so much depression insteasd of helping them the way she claims. Because people like this girl on the video goes around and tells them this is wrong but honestly she never been a boy to begin with and cant truly understand how a boys brain and mind works. Something is wrong with them is the message she insinuate. What you should go over at is the impact visual and videos and audio has on how you perceive things which also is insanly different between how men and woman perceive. Maybe what you should tell is, practical example of what to avoid so you dont get expectations that ruins your relationship because your ideas are not practical. But to say theese things you need to love sex to begin with, I cant see her being one of them, but maybe Im wrong about this. I find it very offensive that videos like this surface with the notion of how damaging it is to everyone around them.. and making young adults and men beleive its something wrong with them. Creating a culture of depressed men because they have nothing that seems to work for them in the society while everything about them is wrong. You should be ashamed of yourself. A person going through to many other people will usually be a indicator on not able to stabilize and build healthy long term. A person who only stayed with 1 person their entire lifetime usually has adapted to each other, but not neccecery the best way possible either, it really comes down to who cares and what they do for each other. Think about the nature of this generation and the issue surrounding modern young woman. This is your typical female nowdays preaching how a man should be or what not, if you want to be some role modell, maybe you should be one for your gender if you found happiness, and try to tell them how to improve on themself... So lets talk about that, which is the cancer in relationship and also destruction, when they think they dont need to change adapt or be flexible to find comprimise.. No lets all go around and think we are perfect if we do this and that but not work on ourself.. Thats exactly why relationships are so bad now days for so many people. In my expirience, every singel female that are heavily invested in a anti-porn attitude or mentality is a red flag and I will tell you my reasoning. Majority of them tend to be really bad at sex in reality, thats what I heard from other men who left such relationship. They dont give alot, and ofc it can go both ways, in term of shit when it comes to pleassure and how they want to please their man or woman. Because that is my observation, its either a dead fish, or just thinking of sex as a baby producer or in general dont like to please or perform, Meanwhile if you so much as sugest things like oral sex or similar, instead of just saying they dont like it and are crap at it, they would tell you your brainwashed from porn and that is not what reality works like. I know alot of females who dont give orals, thats fine, I also know alot of males who hate receiving. Point is you cant really hate sex, or disslike to experiment and try stuff, and at same time be advocate for sex, that just spells disaster. Finally I will say: Yes the men that told me this, are right. Reality would not work well, like with this particular female tries to tell you, if you are a man and you find a girl who is not into sex, and you yourself crave alot more, then she is willing to give, you should really think if this is okey for you and what you are going to give up on. Espeacially at a younger age, where hormones and testosterone makes you crave intimicy you wont probably get in that relationship.

Well if she did that people would be able to see that she is misrepresenting her "research" and would not be getting the money from the pearl clutching church crowd who happily hand over their money to people who stroke their fears of a decaying morality. This woman is obsessed with a topic she doesn't understand. Her agenda to stop porn is about as well researched as the Family Research Counsels attack on gay rights and push for conversion therapy.

@@brettmastema7056 yeah... this is crazy watching her speak on this topic. I've just been scratching my head like, "...is she for real?"

@@brettmastema7056 it's almost like the time where Ben Shapiro said that a naturally-lubricated vagina at time of arousal may be "a medical issue" it's: so... fucking... weird.

@@lashtal I don't get people with that whole notion of power. If you feel that you (an actual sex partner) can't compete with porn (video or still images or stories), then there is far more to the problem than simply the porn. I have a hard time believing that but for the porn, they had a perfect relationship. The behavior regarding compulsive porn consumption is a symptom to the cause. I know people don't like to suggest that the woman could do anything differently to have change the outcome.

@@brettmastema7056 I hear ya, and agree. There's just something "off" about this lady, lol (no offense to the lady). It's like, some sort of cognitive incongruency, an inability to accurately assess information, how it affects her socio-identity... or she's on some weird Religious trip where "sex is bad". If she went to therapy to address this, it'd probably help her out a lot.