That's why I don't text or call sometimes, if I do call I keep it short and to the point. Texting is a women's game that you will never win so don't even play.
I’m doing something wrong.. I always make the plans and the first steps. I’m not expecting a guy to do all those things. When I like someone I do that. I mean good lord, it’s 2018! Why should a guy be tiptoeing around a girl watching his every step and doing all the work on his own. Sometimes I feel like men are so scared of rejection because they always get told about those absurd high standards women have, that they don’t even dare to ask you out or talk to you. So us ladies should help them out and take matter into our own hands!
As a man seeing all the demands women have these days and the extreme effort it takes on only one side, my side, it really discourages me and makes it feel as if it's not worth all the trouble and stress i will have to go through. In the current dating scene IMO it's men having to do everything and be perfect and abide the 100000 rules women have set up and women can just receive, get free dinners etc. and if the guy does one wrong move they already got another guy lined up. Although there are exceptions but not many it feels like.
KitetheTidecaller I’ve been seeing a lot of comments like yours down here and 100% do not agree. You don’t need to be perfect or go through any trouble or stress, in my experience if that’s you your doing something wrong. The harder you try the harder it’s going to be to actually get a girl. It’s like trying to swim up stream, good fucking luck. Idk why all guys think this is such a hard and complex thing cuhz it isn’t. Just be real, straight up, and stop thinking so goddamn hard.
guy - can’t make a decision, seen as weak.... guy - makes a decision, seen as controlling no wonder men are confused......all you women just got to get off your high horses, cause you aren’t too much better yourselves harsh but true...
From a guy point of view, the reason for the "Let's hang out sometime" text is because we don't want to see too forceful. We are leaving it in your decision if you want to see us again or not. Nothing really to do with not being able to make a decision. We don't know your boundaries or limits to any relationship, so we try to take the safest route possible so we don't seem forceful or creepy.
"would you like to get together for a drink Friday night?" Response is either going to be yes, or I can't Friday, but I'm free on such and such day... or, I'm busy that night (
never believe any female that tells you she’s a bad texter. there’s no such thing. if a female is interested she will always reply no matter how busy she may be!
pixel strength cause she has a life apart from your conversation? I sometimes go hours between messages with the guy I’m seeing. if you can’t take a 10-20 min gap you have some issues
Listen, everybody what RainbowAnimeCupcake is giving you. This information handed over to you on a silver platter. "cause she has a life apart from your conversation? I sometimes go hours between messages with the guy I’m seeing. if you can’t take a 10-20 min gap you have some issues" - Here she is talking about someone she is actually seeing. So as you can see even though the girl doesn´t reply right away, doesn´t mean you have to panic and assume she fucking someone else or that she isn´t your like someone commented.. Its simple it just means that she is not clingy and has a life.
Young women live by text. They will not talk to you on the phone, so forget it. Don't waste time on the text game. If they need a week of texting forget them and move on.
agreed. don't play that game. when you meet a girl and get her number, by the third text you send you should be suggesting a concrete plan, if she hems and haws about it, or worse, makes it and flakes on short notice with a flimsy excuse, just move on in 90% of the cases. sure, occasionally the reasons are valid and the connection is strong, but usually you are dealing with an immature girl, or one with a boyfriend that just likes guys to boost her ego.
Wifredo El Velloso yep, but women haven't changed bro. They will jerk you around the old fashioned way or with the new way of texting. You'll figure that out if you play the txt game.
John Boulding yeah, i wanna say that text game is a new useful element that can helps. I only use that for basic conversation, the clue are the dates. At that moment all "old fashioned" elements are patents hahahahaha
John Boulding: better yet, meet women, have great conversations, then, leave her with yr number. Those women who don't call within a certain time, say a month, forget them.
When two persons like each others, they are on the same wave length, they will make everything possible to see each others and spend time together. True advice that is still reliable in 2018, keep things simple. 😎
Marian Kotúč clueless men that destroy their chance->> story of my life 😉. Some men also rush in and some stay cripple or clueless as you said, We should know when we have to make the right move. By the way, do you know what is the best part of a relationship?
Everything she talks about (telling men not to do) is what women actually do. Drunk text at 4am, check. Bad grammar and lots of emojis, check. Naked pics, check. Indirect non committal (so they can't get rejected) responses, check. I am just a guy, not a material item to be scrutinized over and picked apart piece by piece for all my faults. I do have faults because I am human, get over it or get out.
Dano smith hahaha ur do right😂if u want to use a girl for sex do that. If ur looking for a girl to marry and have kids with, then good luck and just wait till a non goldigger with a good heart comes ur way☺️terrible these days find a girl with a stereotypical japanese inner beauty (doesnt have to be a japanese woman) but those characteristics
That's cause all they have to do is reject all the "weak & unconfident" men who don't follow these set of rules, and they get to choose from all the confident men that follow these methods.
Anyone else think this is just entirely too much trouble with little to no return for the investment. I really hate what dating has turned into it's not even fun anymore.
Especially first dates. Men have to pay for everything just to get a chance to get to know a woman and the woman can literally eat for free and move on to the next moron willingly to pay for her food. Fuck that.
I have two words: TARGET DEMOGRAPHICS If you do not know who the most efficient women are for you to target based on WHO YOU ARE, then you are going to waste your time for YEARS! Not who you want, but who are most likely to be appealing to you and you to them. Without that work put in first you are doomed.
mukta rain facts ...THE MAIN THING EVERYBODY IS MISSING IS NATURAL CHEMISTRY... EVERY MAN IS A TYPE ..SHE MIGHT JUST LIKE UR TYPE .. STOP TRYING TO FISRT FIGUER OUT HER TYPE AND THEN FAKING LIKE UR HER TYPE ... THESE CRAZY PEOPLE ARE TEACHING U NOT TO BE UR SELF ..
to right man. and the whole emoji thing. men don't do that thing in a text. that is a woman thing. like omg look at this emoji it's so cute. and the man is like, send me another fucking emoji and i will burn down your house.
AMEN!!! What I've been saying. One American women told me it's the fault of American women's fathers. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT! Blaming the men again for them not wanting to be women.
Don't call her or text her make her call you if she expects you to call or text & she don't call you or text you back she not the right girl for you. Communicate in person not by phones don't wait 4 one girl to call you who might be leading you on. If she cares about you she will call you if not she not worth your time & effort Communication in person works to talk to a girl to have a friendship grow & ask girl out on a date.
Set up the date, get off the phone. That's all you need to do. If she gives you anything but a yes, then your wasting your time. Tell her to call you when she figures out her schedule.
If a woman wants you, she will stop at nothing, certainly not a bad text. Initiate and keep your text short (state day and time of date, don't ask) and only send one (two if she gave you a reason to send a second) - if response not adequate/ no response, forget about her and move on. If by some chance she does want you, you will certainly hear from her. This is just the way it is with women. PS As a Gen X man, I appreciate your calling out the power of a direct phone call - this used to / still does, take balls - texting is just too easy.
not true. you have to make a compliment but at the same time restrict it like "you have the best looking eyes of our class". You give her a compliment but at the same time you say "in our class" which leaves her wondering if she hasnt the best eyes of the school f.e.!
The assumption of the video is that a woman has already given you her number, something she's not going to do unless she's at least somewhat attracted (unless you're so psycho she's afraid you'll kill her if you don't get the number, in which case she'll give you somebody else's number.)
Texting a girl these days is like winning the lottery. Hey whats up wanna hang out? - Not special enough, she wont answer. You tell her how beautiful she is. - Not special enough, you are the 100th guy who texted this to her today, no answer. You tell her a joke. - Yeah cool dude, but not enough.... You text her an icebreaker text. - She read knows them all already, guess what? NO ANSWER
The worst thing I did was text her. Now today I have a date....... In court setting in front of a judge and my life is at the mercy of the firing squad.
Sounds like you have a social phobia or anti social, however you say it in english. I am not attacking you, just stating the facts, based on this sentence "not in the mood for a real time conversation"
Men don't care when you sneeze. For some reason she cares. This is immature. Sneezing might not be cute but it's not a personality trait. No guy will judge a person for sneezing.
You don’t get the point, I will explain it to you and why this work 80 percent of the time. Les say you see this girl, If you want to text or call her and keep the conversation going is easy to pick a topic something about every day you see her something that could be funny or interesting dont do it everyday do it like every few days, but the first day should be a most, that way you have a topic to always talk to her and be more relax when you text or call. She will feel more into talking to you and maybe see you. It works 80 percent of the time. Also don’t text all day or call or day, You stand out because most man will say a lame whatsup?, how are you?, picture, or want to score quick.
If I try to make plans too early most girls get weird, like I’m coming on too hard. So I have to spend two weeks texting for them to be comfortable to go on a date. Yes I’m using tinder and bumble. It’s all ridiculous logic at the end of the day
You both kinda right. I'm an attractive Male. While a woman will settle with a less attractive man with more money. That does not stop her from attempting to sleep with attractive male counterparts. Dude paying her rent, buying her groceries, call her 24/7, take her out to eat. But she want my company. Suggesting we get hotel together after eating at McDonalds together.
Read the comments above in order and notice how they follow every troupe you see in movies ;) It's all luck and skill. Ugly handsome rich poor tall short it's all the same of you're skilled and find the right girls. G'luck
The attractive Male named "triplenaruto1" that takes all the sexy ladies to McDonald's. Not believable at all but I'll give you a solid C for effort kid 😂
This only works if you are an attractive man. Look at her text examples, The headline says "Attractive man" she is already into him without him even going on the date. Moral of the story, if you are good looking you can get good looking girls. If you take a guy who is extremely confident and knows how to speak well but he doesn't look good. He will still get rejected because of his looks. This has been proven already.
thats why you try to set up a date by the 2nd or 3rd text...minimize that shit..i could list about a dozen reasons why long, drawn out text conversations are just a bad idea. if a girl doesn't want to spend time with me (a public place is fine too) then she doesn't and all the bullshit texting in the world is not likely to change that. find out early i have to give the girl in this video a lot of credit for suggesting that..she is not typical..she is trying to empower men to some degree here.
Personally, I don't chase. I let women chase me...just dress and groom really nice like the women do and throw on some expensive cologne and hit the streets...at this point, you won't have to make any moves, the women will do all the work. Now you can pick and choose only the women that you are attracted to and you don't have to waste your time sifting through all the madness.
The Guy bro even if your ugly confidence will have to be your way out. Like if your insecure if your looks a lot women will be turned off by that I'm not trying to put you down I'm honestly just trying to give a valid opinion that may or may not help you
actually asking them to "hang out sometime" is good as long as it is a little more specific like mentioning a specific activity. Afterwards you can find out the specific schedule
I told a coworker who I like that she has a beautiful heart and I am happy to know her in the text . That really helped me as she really appreciated it. Calling her is the next step and she is right.
Ok guys, remember be serious whilst not being serious, be responsible without being boring, compliment her without complimenting her and do all of this within 2 texts because after that she stops sending messages to you
what make me laugh is that girls put up a large list of rules to follow so that you may get her , you don't do this you don't do that , don't over text to her don't be sticky and on and on .... , but once you smatch it , they change completly , and they want to see you everytime , they would want to over text all the night they don't want you to have fun outside them (yeah when u have plan for the week end with ur friends , or play video game , or hanging out with ur mother every monday , yeah they wont admit it but they want all the focus on them) , when you smatch a girl she start to want you to do the overdose ... (with the only exeption for jealousy ) lol
Girls are way easier after closing. yes this is what i am talkin about , before the smatch , she's inavailable , after that she become your best follower , ok she try to convince that she's your best follower
If I can offer some advice; next time when they respond to a call with a text, respond in kind with a text requesting that they call you or you call them, as you would rather not speak through text.
It makes you wonder about this girl. If the last guy was so great, how come she’s still single? There’s something she’s not telling us. Did he fuck up, or is she high-maintenance-crazy?
Yeah you'll come to notice over time all this self proclaimed experts and even the ones with degrees in this shit are the last people you should take relationship advice from
So why would men ever want relationships if they just the one upper of the other. I see why guys just pay for pussy. You tryna pretend you love a shallow person is insanity.
yeah but their needs include physical affection too...and women can be a lot funner than "the guys". and also, any real woman is very giving and supportive. the way i see it is that the big problem is that modern culture in many places allows women into their 20s and even 30s to remain children.. historically people were pretty much grown up in the their mid-late teens, but with public education, extended university life for many, over-protective parents, the rise of a very isolating suburban lifestyle, and other reasons, a lot of people just stay children for a good part of their lives. children in adult bodies are a big hazard of modern life, but stil, keep your head up and dont be so negative...there are some good and real women around.
B. Alvn that's brilliantly said. Nothing worse than seeing a woman 30+ talk like she's always 16 years old. Yet they're quick to state how they want a "Real Man" lol. Great observation, and well spoken.
I never comment on videos, however, your tip to call her worked. She had said she wanted to hang out Friday a couple days ago, no texting today I called, asked if she was good to go, sure why not. While out she had said she was glad I called because if I texted she would've came up with an excuse not to. So thank you very much!
I feel like this was just the basic idea of texting. Really just for the guys who are doing things wrong. But very often you can do nothing fundamentally wrong and end up still getting flaked on or left on "read".
"Yea make plans. Be confident, do everything right" what does that really means. Yea calling them is a good technique but what's the background. Teach us the real techniques to get you real interested. Texting you in the phone means nothing. Aaaagh I guess I'm talking to the wrong pickup guru. Like the old saying. Never listen to the fish always listen to the fishermen.
Texting is crazy w younger women. When I was younger getting a number meant you'd talk to her on phone. Now if you call before text it's negative. I've told a girl I texted couple times " I'd rather call you" she said " why??" Lol. Wtf! I just laughed at her like at a little girl , not mean or condescending. I haven't talked to her since! Too young for me mature wise. Other young women have told me that talking on phone is a sort of committment for them.
Yeah, try calling a woman right after getting her LINE here in Tokyo and see how fast she will feel violated in her privacy or just think you are annoying
So .... who took this woman serious?? Fish don’t teach bears how to catch them . How to text a girl . 1.) don’t ask questions 2.) don’t double text 3.) set up a date to link up 4.) delete her if she doesn’t respond back Done .
Oh by the way. I don't care about what she says. It's all about liking and not liking, if she finds you attractive (physical level) you can get any girl. Don't let this girl fool you with all of her steps to secure a date. Once a girl likes your physical appearance, she will be begging for that date, trust me. Females are just like guys, we go for physical appearance. Your video is flawed in so many levels. Dating is very simple, this lady is making things very complex for no apparent reason.
When a fish teaches you how to fish. Meaningless texts work so well. Never be so clear in your tests to them. Keep their minds craving for what you really wanted to say. Be unpredictable. start a phrase and dont complete it and you see her coming for the details.... They like tricks which the bad guys have best. That's why they get them. Be tricky and smart .... Girls like bad guys and do not encourage guys that treat them soo soo good. Give them their love and make sure she sees the risk of loosing your love. Only then will you get the best from her. Don't be just too nice without principles. Let her know you can do without her. Sad but the truth.
Honestly, I personally have learned to keep the compliments out, too. Actually complimenting a lot really just puts her on a pedestrial, which she doesn't need - She is already offered one all the time by her environment. What is more useful is showing appreciation when she actually does something nice or is punctual and straightforward for instance. "Compliment" that, if you feel the need. She will like that you noticed the little things.
Mayhzon - great comment. i think a few compliments are a good idea when you are breaking the ice though, just to get their attention...indirect ones such as about her choices in clothing or taste in art, food, and the like - not about appearance if you can help it - pretty women do hear that too much for sure, from age 1, and if you call a 6 "pretty" she will know you are lying. i'm still trying to figure out if comments like "great tits" or "nice ass" are constructive or not though...close call..what do you think?
I was watching a lot of videos on how to get a girlfriend I was actually talking to one in school I asked if she wants to hang out she said maybe I’m just aware that a girl may feel uncomfortable if I call them cute or if I asked them out but thank you
Or you could just go MGTOW and enjoy your life by doing what you find fun and enjoyable on your terms instead of trying to jump through all these hoops to get a woman to notice you over the 10 other guys she's talking to.
Texting blows, I wish calling and having real conversations were still acceptable ways of communicating... now y'all expect us to know all this crazy shit WHEN THATS NOT HOW GUYS TALK. Even if we pretend to when talking to you, you're getting a fake version of us which will cause more issues later on. I think another piece to add onto this is don't expect the guy to do and know everything, put in some effort as well and give us something to work with and watch how much better the interactions get, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ALREADY HAD A GOOD TIME IN PERSON, for fuck sake don't re-judge a guy by how he texts when you already know you enjoy him in person (unless he does something obviously retarded like asking for or sending pics)
dlayne21 those days of phone calls seems so long ago. Imagine being 55, learning how to text in the modern age. The one thing you have to remember is that women want the top 20% of men, but my friends who became top tier salesmen were best pick artist I've ever seen and they were average. There are women who just want get laid, women looking for money, psychos and women who want a relationship. You just have to read through the bs , but will never fully understand them. The one recommendation I can young guys is to avoid dinner on the first date. If she recommends doing dinner and only that just walk away because she wants a free meal.
None of these “ guides” seems to know that 75% of women just cannot say a clear Yes without these endless itineraries and insanely crammed schedules and shit they have to move etc
I met this girl before in tinder. We actually met in person and went on a date. We exchange numbers, had dinner and had some few good laughs. When it was time for us to depart, and because it was already night time, I made sure she could get a taxi ride back to her home. I called the girl whom I just met and whom I had exchanged numbers with. When she picked up here phone. She felt annoyed or got weird with me. She was asking me why I called her. I told her that I just wanted to talk to her and ask if she’s ok and maybe we could meet up again when ever she’s free. All she ever said was she was always busy and has no time for a date. She also told me to not to call her again. What did I do wrong?
