Your happiness starts now! I loved recording today’s episode, and I hope you enjoyed watching it too. If you did, it would be amazing if you dropped a like and subscribed for more episodes like this in the future.
Whatever advice you gave to reach true happiness is something that is temporary..... true happiness is something that can be achieved to embrace the truth in the first place.... when you accept The one ( Alloh) who created the whole word including all living things and universe..... then you will start to have true happiness..... Ashhadu Anna ilaha Illaloh va Ashhadu anna Muhammadin Abdu Huva Rasulluoh. This is what makes you feel happy in this temporary world.
For me, my peace started when I left where I was living. I now have zero friends where I live but here's what happened--it allowed me to focus on me, my life (that I wanted) and focus on the important things like making sure I was calm, healthy, strong. This is the first time in my entire life that I can say, "I love my life" and it's not because things are easy but it's because I'm calm. I have peace. And, that brings me joy. I just started making friends in my local area but I am guarded to only allow those in my circle who are good for me and my children.
I’d just like to say that at the age of 59, I believe you have helped me more than any form of therapy I have EVER received, Mel. I am here to say Thank you. 😅❤
I found you through a young woman who struck up a conversation with me in a parking lot. Didnt know her, never saw her again, but she gave me the gift of Mel Robbins.
Thanks Mel. I’m so tired of reaching out to people that I’ve checked up on for years and none of them reach out to me. I understand people have their own lives and mates and kids and stuff but I’m tired. I’m lonely but it makes me feel desperate and pathetic reaching out to people who wouldn’t even think about calling me. I can’t stand it.
Thanks Mel. I’ve been struggling with happiness for the longest time in my life, and it was always a mystery to me why. I always thought it was the situation: not having my crush like me back, not getting into a better school, not being able to enjoy my hobby as much anymore. Well I think I’ve learned that I’m lonely, and I have so much anxiety that inner peace aludes me at least a little bit. And that I’m not having that much fun. I remember on the day that I felt really happy that I had a lot of fun..and I think I’m not as cheerful as my dad with our differing genetics but that’s okay. I will keep trying to be happy, and it’s because of you. Thank you, Mel.
Wish you would do a video addressing seniors and loneliness and finding friends. And letting go of kids and forging out into a new life after becoming single again.
One Christmas Day in my early 20's I experienced true happiness. I felt a moment of contentment and security. Appreciative of everything I had and having family gathered around me. It changed the next evening when I was at work and got robbed at gunpoint. I have had foreboding joy ever since. I get to the point of almost being happy and stop just short of it for fear of losing it again. I see it and I want it, but I don't allow myself to get there. I have a block when it comes to that feeling.
I was listening to this waiting for my six-year-old to wake up and she was awake with her eyes closed and she all of a sudden out of nowhere goes happiness is a grin. I said what about a smile. she says, a smile people can fake. A grin just happens when people aren't paying attention...outta the mouths of babes
It is so logical that good, warm, no-conflict relationships work wonders. Guess what - they are also the hardest to find. It's not like you just pick and choose from a bunch of people...Especially when you are older, retired etc. You have a few of those and hope they are around...
I’d be the perfect guest in your show. Menopause, quit my dream job because of emotions, struggling in a non emotive relationship, no creative outlet. I volunteer a lot which I think is the only thing keeping me from not constantly lying in the couch!
I have been looking for a work from home job and have no luck. I am a social person but lately I just became recluse because of the recent death of my Mother. Friday I have interview for a social service director job in a nursing home .. I have been scared thinking I can’t do this job… but thinking about being around co workers and elderly makes me happy 🤞🤞🤞you made me realize I need people … I need a tribe ❤
Such a great talk and explanation on how to live vs. just existing. I read a study once done on 1500 people that posed the question...if you could see your life before you are born would you still want to be born? 77% said no....depressing on so many levels.
Yes. This all makes sense. Unfortunately, I can't "reach out" and go out and have fun. I'll soon be 73 and must work 6-7 overnights a week to pay all of my bills and just survive. ANY time I am not working I'm doing all of the necessary tasks just to keep going. I live alone so I have no help. I don't have time to feel lonely. Too bad my last years of life had to be this way. I wish you all success in your quest for happiness ❤
I completely agree about talking to strangers. I was hone retired depressed watching Netflix. Now im a rideshare driver having short interactions all day and im back in the stream of life. Although im missing deeper connections
Thanks Mel! I think of course retired people are living in the moment. They don't feel forced to spend most of their day in a box (or wherever) day in and day out. Unless you enjoy your work, we constantly need to remind ourselves how grateful we are to have a job...to make $$...to pay our bills. Yet most of the time it takes away the spontaneous adventure of life for almost the whole day (or night shift). Looking forward to the weekend, the time clock at 5pm, the planning of a vacation and retirement sometimes feel so far away.
I can’t wait to hear this again! Binging on your advice all weekend. You made a great point at the end about how older people & people in their 70’s are often happy & I’m telling everyone to please please take care of your health when you are young so you can enjoy like as you age. You want to enjoy retired life & not be in wheelchair or need a caregiver, etc ❤ Thank you for all you do. You are the best.
You always know what I need to hear and post it at the right time! ❤ It’s 8:07AM and you’ll be so proud of me- I 5-4-3-2-1 and got out of bed on the first alarm!! 🚀 I put the phone away from me and my mom called me to wake me up. It was super tempting to crawl back into bed but I resisted and now giving myself a high five in the mirror 😄✋🏼🪞 Thank you Mel for sharing your gifts with us and helping enrich our lives with your podcast. Going to go watch/listen to the episode now 😁🎧🫶🏻
Living in the present. Look around and see beauty, your health, what you have. I love gardening, volunteering, sewing quilts for foster children Giving joy without expecting anything All this and more bring me gratitude peace and happiness
I remember telling my mum at age 20 that I don’t know what happiness feels like. I now know I had undiagnosed ADHD & a boatload of anxiety. I can’t relax or switch my brain off & I surround myself with the chaos that feels familiar which I need to stop doing. I faked it so well that everyone around me always called me a “happy person” but even I don’t recognise me in “happy-looking” photos.
I luv u Mel. You make so much sense. Luv your ocean analogy. I've been struggling too long to not drown in the hurricane. I need to learn when to get out of the turbulent ocean (negative people) & visit the beach on more calm days to play & just enjoy the sunset. I AM happy. And I AM lonely. Now accepting new friend applications. 😊
I appreciate 🙏 💛 you so much! I've been rescuing kitty cats my entire life, walked away from a record producer to save my cat sanctuary years ago, now years later still rescuing homeless cats in need but my pocket book isn't as big as my heart and need to get happy creating life that can support all these rescues, challenging, gotta have faith
I don't know a single warm person. Everyone in my surrounding is crazy or selfish or manipulative or agressive or narcissistic (or unfortunately, sick) and I try to take care of all of them. Hopefully this will change eventually cause I'm reaching my limit more and more, I have almost nothing left to give
Thank you for this video! You have helped me realize that I actually am profoundly lonely! I have been in denial for the last 4 years. I’m in my car sitting out in my driveway watching this podcast, I’m going to go through my front door and announce very loudly to my astounded family that I AM PROFOUNDLY LONELY! 😅😅😅
Did you do this? If so, what was the result? I live alone and my friends are all across the country far away. I know loneliness. BUT I have developed a plan to remedy this over the next 3 years. Now I have something to look forward to and it makes me happy and thus way less lonely. Good luck. I love you and I'm grateful to you for sharing.
This is what I need today! It is 107 degrees outside, my plants or surviving, grasshoppers are eating them away. I feel depressed about everything. Motivation is a problem for me. ADHD. But, you always make me feel better! Thank you❣️
Just listened to this long after you posted it. Today I went to a random nail salon in a town l had never been in. The nail tech struck up a conversation with me and l was open to having a friendly chat. She actually recommended a good doctor for me!! She had no idea l was looking for a doctor! I was grateful for the conversation and the recommendation 😊
Mel, your podcast became a part of my daily routine. I am looking forward to every episode. Thank you for being so relatable and humble in your strength💕
I love talking to strangers..lol. I just flew home alone from Florida which is fine but not for me. Talking to that stranger next to me gave me enough joy to get on that plane and do it on my own. Was so strange! So you are absolutely right
Understand what you are saying and reading those comments in english is my happiness. I can speak 4 languages now , keeping studying and being curious make me happy.
I absolutely love all your podcasts. Iv been going through a healing journey lately and it’s like your talking to me. I feel as though iv lost me and who I am but all my friends as I am a totally different person in terms of growth and spiritual development ❤ now I need to find my new friends xxx
Mel, you will never know how amazing you are! All your messages are exceptional, but this one has brought me to tears. How do you know just what we need to hear? Thank you, be blessed, be safe.
When I listen to you, Ms. Mel, it makes me reflect. I realize that I should prioritize listening more rather than always being the one listened to, especially when it comes to my concerns and stresses in life. It feels like a friend explaining things to me in the persona of Ms. Mel, saying, "Listen, this is how it is.".Thank you!. from now on listening to you is my new theraphy.
Thank you so much for being here to create these talks with us Mel. You make me feel so warm and fuzzy inside that all negatives and anxieties melt away.
53 years... going cold turkey these holidays... no more family time anytime with any of them... it was a long process, i had some hangers on, at times i hung on, but now i chose to go no contact completely. I'm SO HAPPY, HEALTHY AND FINALLY EXPANDING MY LIFE AND FRIENDSHIPS ❤❤ break away, be free, live life, and be open to loving healthy relationships, settle for nothing less. We all need a trusted social circle. This year Christmas is at MY HOUSE, my guests are new and old friends... for decades, my family never once set foot in my home... they all felt my expensive high end rentals weren't nice enough for them... i built my own new house, still not good enough. Get the picture!?
Mel, you know what…you are the one who made me feel peaceful and to regain my power!! Coz especially every time when I felt anxious or lost of control or blaming myself with low esteem, the one thing I’ll do first is to watch your video coz they just inspired me so much and gave me the strength and encouragement to move forward ❤ I cannot say anything but thank you thank you Mel ❤ love you 😊 bless you
🥰💝 Being Happy, is beautiful, and even when I'm sad, I am happy... Years ago something happened where I was sad, and crying, and my husband hugged me, "he said you smell so nice, what are you wearing?"... I said through tears, "Clinique's Happy" My husband hugged me and we laughed. One of my students thank you card, written by her mom, said when she saw me in the new school year, "There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy!!" 💖🌅💖 Even when one is sad there are beautiful and happy moments, to always reflect on 💖☀️🥳
I didn't realize how unhappy I was in my life until I met someone at business conference recently who emotionally woke me up after our first conversation. It was enlightening. Now that the conference is over and I am missing her, I am using the feeling she gave and applying it to everything I do now. It's been working. I just needed that spark I guess. I love your videos Mel. This one came at the right time for me! Thanks!
Thank you again Mel. Another great podcast. I have recently reached out to my "kids" 23 and 25 which has been great to give me and hopefully them a sense of connection. I will make some plans to connect with my friends for a night of fun playing Beatsaber. Where it always good for a laugh and gets us moving as well which I feel is also important at our age 54. Something I always try to remember is "We don't stop playing when we grow old. We grow old when we stop playing." I love your show keep up the great work.
Today I started diving into your podcasts, and it's like a book you can't put down. It's now 1:30 in the morning and I have to shut down. Thanks so much for covering such resonating topics!! I love your voice, your delivery, your warmness, your sincerity ....... just thank you, thank you, thank you !!! I'll be back with you tomorrow✌🏽🌴😊🌊
So the value of the happiness is that it shows you the fluidity of consciousness. That's one of the key values, just the fact that you get to change states and change into very radically different states. That's a huge eye-opening experience. Do not underestimate the value of that. That alone right there will change your whole life. To be able to pop out of your life and look back upon it as though it was all an imagined hallucination. That's what it happens to be imagining right now. The next second who knows what it could imagine. It can imagine anything it wants but it just so happens that it keeps imagining something consistent so that we can get a sense of reality.
P.s thank you for the tips on talking to strangers. I lost my job in London so been alone all day but been too anxious to put the bins out let alone start a new job. But I need to asap due to debt. God I am depressing you. Thank you again for doing what you do Mel. I have lots to listen to 🙏❤️
Excellent Mel, I sure can relate to the loneliness living alone and working and having little time for friends and family. I couldn't agree more with you that I need to reach out and make the time to have fun...life is too short and its passing me by I sure need to take your advise to reach out and take control of what brings me happiness....Thank you Mel for all the wonderful support you give to others ... keep up with the great work!
I've been through enough crap in my past. I'm happy now. I'm poor and don't have a partner, but I'm happy. I want to live a long life cause I like life. I still have crappy moments but overall, I'm happy. It's possible because I'm like your mom. I talk to everyone in public. I got that from my father. Social butterfly.
Uff Mel, I have discovered you recently just when I am going through a really really deep transformation in few areas in my life, being the most important and the leading one, PERSONAL GROWTH. Your podcast is being a true gift because you explain everything in the most possible clear way. Thank you ❤❤
Happiness is not just extreme pleasure. Happiness is the realization of immortality and the realization that everything is heaven. When you realize that, it's so good, it's infinitely good. It's not just good. It's good to the infinite degree. It's so much goodness that you can't contain it. your body can't hold it. Your entire body shakes and shudders in a cosmic orgasm of bliss. It's perfection. It's total peace. It's absolute love, that's truly happiness.
I listen to you every day on my way to work and on my way home from work you have changed my life in many ways i cant afford therapy but this is better than anything i could pay for ❤
Oh, my goodness! This really spoke to me, especially the part about being intentional about fun while doing the deep work. Last year, I decided to roll up my sleeves and work on my mental health. It dawned on me last year while doing the 12-week year that my "fun" category was nonexistent. I have been SO serious during this healing journey. I am going to focus on fun!
Exactly!! Great reading your comment. Thank you ❤ I have just realised I need to include more fun whilst doing the deep work Hope your fun continues friend❤❤❤ ❤
I love you Mel you have pulled me out of one of the deepest darkest holes in my life and you have got to know you’re freaking awesome but for someone like me you are a life changer I never knew I could care about someone so much and never have met them. Thank you ❤️😊
I really related to the part about loneliness being responsible for unhappiness. I haven't been feeling truly happy since the end of my relationship 6y ago (after 25y together) 😔 I found myself completely isolated and built a whole new social network. I've never met so many people and new friends than in the past years. I stopped being a freelance translator (working alone) and joined a company to have colleagues (but I do work from home). And yet nobody can fill the void he left 😢 I truly believed we would grow old together and although we had our issues I never expected he would leave and file for divorce. I've been on a journey of self-improvement but as Mel says it's pretty heavy. I miss the simplicity of my former life. Having a partner at home, someone who knows you best and is there for you. I thought I had it. I was wrong. I know you're supposed to be happy on your own but I can't seem to reach that peaceful state. I live with sorrow in my heart...
Take care @Marlene Things will get better, even if slowly. Maybe he left to give space to someone who would like to be with you. You never know. Be strong, and enjoy little things as much as you can to warm up your heart. Take care.
Hello there, ❤ I went through this 14years ago. After 24 years of marriage, an unexpected divorce. It can be a tough road to recovery/discovery, but I will tell you if you take the time to do these 3 things you will recover. 1) Grieve - Grieving is necessary as you have lost your best friend along with the life you once knew. 2) Acceptance- Accept that you are loved, and worthy of a beautiful life that you now get to create for YOU! 3) Lastly- Time - Give yourself time to be gracious and compassionate to yourself as you navigate through this uncharted territory of self discovery. Open yourself up to new experiences. Remember the good times without ruminating wishing that things were the same. Create new memories for this new journey you are now embarking upon. Some days you will feel like it, and some days you won’t feel like it. That’s perfectly normal. But in time, your broken heart, will begin to feel like a new heart that you get to keep happy. Trust me. …. You can rise out of this just like the butterfly🦋. It may seem dark right now, but just allow the process and before you know it, you will break forth, spread your wings and fly!🦋🦋🦋❤ I hope this helps - sending love and huge hugs!
I talk to stangers all the time and they talk to me. My mom was also a stranger talker. I have deep conversations with strangers too not just small talk too. Like really deep valuble convos. They ompart wisdom or i do. Or i comosorate or give empathy or understanding. It is amazing. Covid definitely took that from me and i missed it so much. I missed thise small inter actions and convos. I actually still had acouple at a distance it was fewer. But i did have a deep conversation in a parking lot with a stranger for a good long time. At the end she thanked meand said it was so nice to be able to talk to somone about it. Definitely never discount y Those moments. I also spent a day with a friend who had a pet pass away. Me and my son tahged along on what would have been a very difficult day and brought a little sunshine while she tried to make it a not so sad day for her kids. I often am not good with making plans so someone inviting us to do life with them in some way is one of my favorite things. Connection does not have to be fancy.
Ive been doing things for myself, rewards for my accomplishments, and going to do fun things. Giving myself goals, one time someone wanted me to hang out, i get the ick feeling from him. I stood up and said i was on my way, i wanted to do this, it was a promise to myself. I had the best time.
Connecting with the joy of looking at happy things. This will make you fall in love with life. The happiness of when I walk out of my house, I look at trees, cars, the sun, the clouds, the desert, where I live. Even my own body. When I look at my own body I just get joy out of looking at the happiness of my own body. My body is a work of art. I can connect with that um. Just that alone is enough to create an amazingly fulfilling life.
Exactly! the reason why we do not feel happy is because we live in not safe and warm environment! 100% the reason why people get depressed. NO LOVE or close relationships in their life especially when there is no family anymore. At the end of our lives the only thing we take with us (what stays in our heart) are those warm, loving relationship. Nothing else!
When you spoke about searching and engulfing yourself in SERIOUS all the time… DING!… exactly my issue. In the search for greater meaning and happiness… looking for fun and soulful laughs is a better bet. I’m on it! Love you Mel, just in case no one to you that today. X
I don’t have friends around, my only childhood friend that I love, suffers from social anxiety so she is not join me anywhere and the few real friendships I have, all of the live abroad. Nevertheless, I ll follow the 3 steps and stay more in contact with my joy, my friends (on the distance) and my present moment ❤ Thank you Mel!
You are happy and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are happiness. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Happiness.
Love you Mel Robbins you are so real so relatable.Would love to meet you one day.Thankyou for all the obvious common sense advice that we all just take for granted
Rachel, I so relate to you! ❤ Feeling stuck in my head... Number 1 goal this year for me, is to double down on fun!!! So real! Thank you, Mel!!! So many beautiful analogies... ❤
Just doing things, reading gym career etc does not lead to real happiness Get out of your comfort zone and do something impulsive And volunteering not only brings joy to others but it’s warm fuzzies to you, makes you feel good When people feel lost, unhappy they have not found their purpose
This was my first Mel Robbins pod cast and I loved it. I was feeling rather down on myself this morning but I feel so much better now after listening. I just needed a bit of inspiration. Thank you for giving me a pep in my step, Mel!
I am watching your happiness video and at this moment, had to stop and tell you about this amazing ah hah experience I had when you mentioned the ocean, its motions and the stillness of the beach. This brought me back to when my children were toddlers and I would take them to the bay near our home. Those were the happiest times of my life. I am now 80 years old, a grandma who also is in a loving relationship, active physically and mentally, have everything to be happy about and still have dark days with bouts of being stuck in sadness. This broadcast and the one on how to phase out unmeaningful friendships, sparked an awareness that has been dormant. I love you and thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping us understand the simple things that we can do to help us heal.❤
Dear Mel, I just joining your Chanel few months ago, I love your authentic expression towards to our daily life.. I have never felt so enlightening just go though my deep inner . Thank you so much for this inspiration topic❤🎉
Wonderful podcast! I’ve long told my children-“everything is temporary, the bad stuff and the good stuff, so really take in and enjoy the good stuff and let it carry you through the bad stuff knowing that’s temporary too” so I suppose finding the happiness in the good stuff the everyday stuff walking barefoot in the pasture, sitting and observing the birds, squirrels, even our chickens-being in a perfect spring day or day on the beach and the perfume of the flowers or salty air. Thanks for the reminder to cultivate the WARM relationships-that is the primary take away for me and the family! Thanks Mel
They looked forward to that happiness with joy, but without haste, not pining for it, but seeming to have a foretaste of it in their hearts, of which they talked to one another. But when they looked at me with their sweet eyes full of love, when I felt that in their presence my heart, too, became as innocent and just as theirs, the feeling of the fullness of life took my breath away, and I worshipped them in silence. Their children were the children of all, for they all made up one family.
Thank you for this video Mel! You're so in my head right now lol You touched on so many things, issues I have in my life right now and your insight is so helpful and comforting. I wish I could find a life coach like you. ❤
WE THINK A lot alike. Being about to share common interests I like listening to music writing poems also social media. It's also easy to just compliments their efforts on social media. I appreciate you. You always have a level head on your shoulders. THANK YOU.
Thank you for everything that you do Mel, I love your podcast and always get excited once a new episode goes live. This podcast makes me feel warm and fuzzy, I'm so grateful for you and everything you teach me and everybody. Can't wait for the next one :)
Love this, Mel! I am fortunate enough to be a naturally happy person (well, you know...most of the time). And listening to this episode gives me more insight into why I am this way. All the things you suggest...I already do them all. I have always made connection and "warm relationships" a priority in my life. I also talk to strangers all the time, everywhere I go. In fact, being a career waitress is all about talking to strangers and making connections. I love it! And when you talked about eating nuts, one at a time...ha ha...I do that too! That is a more recent development. I used to eat nuts, popcorn, whatever, by the handful. But a number of years ago, I started eating much more mindfully, and challenged myself to eat these things one at a time. And it makes a huge difference in how I experience the taste and textures. My life is not perfect, and neither am I. But I do feel so much gratitude for my - most of the time -naturally happy disposition. I want everyone to have this! Listening to this episode gives me hope that more people can begin to cultivate it by practicing the things you suggest. And I love all the beach and ocean analogies. Who doesn't love the beach????
