That "ot atota".. stepped-thatched house.. is simply a particular special show piece.. I know it.. how it is done.. I had 1 personal own.. that I physically did most of the building works by myself..
You are evolving.. Don't let someone drag you back to the hole.... Go out fly around,... Explore the world.. People usually don't get another chance...
I'm just asking isn't feeling well anyway many blessings to you and your possible husband i,want say anything more to this matter and many blessings to you and your family. Shalom