This ONE Addiction is Ruining Your Relationship | Fr. Josiah Trenham 

Amen

And women

Incredible story, my brother in Christ. I would like to add my own story to give hope to any that are suffering from this as well. Was addicted to pornography since middle school, even spending hours awake at night just watching the most lustful content I could find. Years went on and the demon wanted me to feed it more and more content. It destroyed me, destroyed how I saw women, and destroyed the young women I had gone out with during these times. And then I stopped. And then I continued. Then a week went on without any lustful content. Then I went back to pornography, then stopped, then continued, etc. It was a war. Then Christ returned me, His lost sheep, and I have never gone back. It has been over a year now that I have not seen pornography. I hate it with my entire being. Like you mentioned, the scars stay with you. However, they no longer hurt when you confess your sins to Christ and begin to repent. I have to humble myself, and remember that there is no sin too big for Christ to forgive. God bless you, you will be in my prayers.

@@RobertOnRU-vid. I can relate a decent bit. I thank God I was never in a legit relationship and too weird in high school to attract anyone, because during the height of my addiction my intentions with women were the absolute worst. I had no heart back in those atheistic days.

Thank you for this encouragement!

It’s a sexual discipline to not watch. Start to learn your body connection to create organic arousal back in your body to become more aware. Somatic therapist and Sexilogical bodywork will help you greatly🙏 and also Jesus Christ, the happier you are you won’t need porn

@@Jimjam482 my goal personally is to just remove the craving as much as possible. Even the most righteous saints struggle with it, and as a heterosexual male, sexual lust is gonna be something I'll battle my whole life, but I want to undo the damage pornography did as much as possible before I find a wife and get married.

Probably because you got Obese and didn't satisfy him at all. Women really be like oh I haven't had sex with my husband in 10 years I can't believe he's watching pron "Surprised Pikachu face"

Devoted wife? 😂 if you were he wouldnt have resorted to porn

Can I ask what "taking it head on" ment for you with this problem? What does that look like? I am not married and it has been about 8 years since I had relations with a woman. I do good for a while sometime a long while, but seem to fall time and time again. I do get back up but It's very trying to remain pure.

​@JVTRUTH taking a sin head on can mean different things for different people. However, some things that are in common with taking any sin head on is to confess it to your spiritual priest. If you don't have a spiritual priest then seek to have one so you can get help from someone who can get to know you and will know your progress through battling that sin. Besides that, tackling it head on can also mean coming clean to your close ones and telling them about your struggle. If you know someone wise that could give you advice, go and speak to them. Look up online what books or chapters from the Bible address overcoming sin and put together a reading plan for yourself. You said you have periods of time in which you overcome it but then it happens again. Why is that? Was it temptation? How do you remove that temptation? Is it through certain music, movies, youtubers, friends, family that have normalised this sin? Just some questions to reflect on if you haven't yet. And last but not least, pray, pray and pray again. Pray at all times of the day and if there's a certain time of the day when you usually fall into this sin then especially pray then. Call to God. He hears, He listens, He loves you. Seek and you will find. Ask and you will be answered. Best wishes to you! This is just my advice, but I hope it can inspire you to find the strength you're looking for.

@JVTRUTH for me, taking it head on ment first, I had to acknowledge that I had a problem and searching for something that could help. I did a study called "the conquer series" that teaches you how to handle things from a spiritual perspective. It was very hard, and it dealt with some very deep-rooted things I had to face. Plus, there are support groups out there that focus on changing behaviors. I struggle to stay pure as well, but I keep repenting and asking for forgiveness.

Thank you for your kind response, there's no doubt I have a problem. I will look into the study you mentioned, and will continue to endeavor to get on my knees.🙏🏽

@JVTRUTH you're welcome. There is a group called "fight the new drug" that talks about porn addiction and has a number a resources such as literature, videos and testimonials that have helped me.

Covenant eyes is better than Blocker X ? I am using Blocker X

My friend look around you during summer and see how the girls dress themselves, only if you never look at them or only look at the ground when walking it’s maybe possible, we are sinful by nature and only Jesus was perfect.

@@DannyDL1ght If your eye causes you to stumble and sin, pluck it out and throw it away from you [that is, remove yourself from the source of temptation]; it is better for you to enter life with only one eye, than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fiery hell. Matthew 18:9

Leaving the big cities is a good solution. God bless.

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Look down or look but don't stare. 🫣

Get to an SAA meeting, see a CSAT (addictions therapist), the recovery portion of your journey will help address your dilemma with God's help.

When you are done with your recovery, go to confession, and if you see a woman there that interests you, just ask her out after you are both done with confession (if it seems/feels appropriate), befriend her and see if you are both compatible for marriage. Always ask God to show you the way. But DO this ONLY when you are sure you are done with your recovery.

keep in mind, if you continue using porn, you will never find a good partner. Porn makes finding partner even harder because it teaches you to be selfish, live for your own gratification and trains your brain to treat women and men like objects existing only for your pleasure. No good woman or man wants to create a family with a porn user. Also, educate yourself on how much abuse, torture and pain is behind the industry. No good Christian should support that (and if you consume it, you are 100% supporter of abuse and violence).

@@diegomendez7119 yes!!! He shouldn't seek a woman in hopes she will replace his porn problem. He needs to work it out himself and conquer the sin of lust instead of seeking someone else to resolve his issue

Corn will kill you.

I'd recommend reading the Easy Peasy Method! It's a free book available online in PDF form or audio. It helps remove the illusion that PMO offers you any value. You're not giving up a pleasure or crutch but we've only convinced yourself it's pleasurable and a crutch. Once that illusion is lifted, it becomes laughable to deal with temptation and the battle just gets sooo much easier. God bless!

Get to an SAA meeting, see a CSAT (addictions therapist), work the steps, connect with other addicts in recovery. Connection is the opposite of addiction.

Sounds like you need to take up some serious exercise. You don’t mention any sports or training in the gym. All men need to do serious sport and exercise. Be sober a year, then date to marry a quality woman you meet in church. Also, I highly recommend you study Theology of the Body and Love and Responsibility. Spend more time on exercise and study. You’ll stop thinking about the other nonsense. Marriage will come naturally after you grow up as a man.

anything that designed to arouse, cause fantasies and lust is considered pornography - games, phone sex, chat rooms, books, you name it. Anything that you wouldn't want your spouse to find out is porn. You can't grade sin from "bad - worse - worst". Can you classify murder as "well, this one is not so bad, but the other one is worse"? Same with lust.

@NobodyRC-lk4tt how you win? 20 mins ago just cried about it,my brain gives me big pains,especially prefrontal cortex. I don't want to talk with anybody

By calling on the help of Jesus Christ. Never cease praying. ✝️🙏🏻

Just stop. Cold Turkey. Go to church, pray instead. Take one year to be totally celibate and work on yourself. Grow as a man, get good male friends, work outdoors, hike, learn how to build things. In time, you’ll meet a wonderful woman to marry. Be chaste until your wedding night. Take your vows and yourself seriously.

It's RU-vid, not an airport. No need to announce your departure.

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In due time you will see for yourself